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Amazing Questions About God From Hollywood (14)

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[Music] very good to be here we uh are live already and uh series continues we're actually at uh amazing questions about God from Hollywood number 14 uh the series continues a lot of interesting things some good questions uh one question you just asked about uh squeezing a Lemon versus squeezing anything else it's also very good to know it's uh I mean obviously I'm sure you guys are going to have many many other questions but just a simple question to start with um always know that just because you can do one thing doesn't mean you can do another let say the so for example to squeeze on Shabbat is not allowed if it's an orange or if it's a uh let's say uh some other fruit you're not allowed to squeeze an orange you're not allowed to make yourself orange juice because that's not the way of eating an orange that's not the traditional way of eating an orange but to squeeze a lemon you are allowed to do because that is the way to eat a a lemon so you are allowed to squeeze a lemon uh some are exactly like you said um uh are a little bit more stringent about it where they put it from but it's not necessarily uh the uh you know is that you're allowed to do it normally as you would any other time uh as far as as far as squeezing a lemon because that's the way you eat it that's the way you eat a lemon you eat the lemon juice people usually don't eat lemon by themselves unless they're a little strange um I actually know that some people uh like to torture their kids and they like to give little babies lemon cu the babies make very funny faces when they uh eat lemon uhem we're not sadistic so we never did that in our house but I know other people like to do it because it's kind of funny to see you know the kid do it make the faces but with all joking aside you are allowed to you are allowed to to squeeze a lemon on Shabbat meaning uh initially without any hesitations uh okay so let's uh this the Torah is endless let's ask some questions what we have to huh got questions you guys know the entire okay so the mitvah of being fruitful and multiplying is a for men meaning that the men are obligated to be fruitful and multiply uh they're uh the man is not good by himself and the actually teach us something extraordinary that most men are not going to like to hear uh and bright women bright women are going to love it women that are looking for excuses to go against the T going hate it you ready theim ask what is the most critical foundational obligation of a wife most important part you have a wife now if you go into certain kot especially the ones that came from the Middle East like me they're going to tell you to cool clean serve me uh be like you no different than how we were in just be my wife though but in reality what is thear the Torah our oral Tor say is the ultimate obligation meaning if she does this she's perfect nothing more nothing less says something extraordinary if she takes care of your kids and stop you from sinning she's fulfilled her obligation as a wife no cooking no cleaning no uh nothing obviously all the other things she should do to be a good wife but if she say they have a debate if she takes care of your kids meaning she brought kids to the world and she stops you from sinning wasting seed finished she's good she perfect so of these guys that think that their wives are supposed to be servants cleaning ladies or they're supposed to be uh doing all types of things that if she's already doing those two things the says she's obviously if she does more it's even more but for that especially the men you need to understand that every single time your wife gives you a cup of coffee your wife gives you a cup of tea your wife gives you extra cavod your wife makes you feel like a king all of those things are above and beyond all of those things of course that's important for for for marriage but the important part to understand is that today if we actually understood what each person's role is in a marriage what each person's role is in the world life would be much easier so first and foremost why does thear say such a thing because the obligation of bringing children to the world is only an obligation of the man bringing children to the world world is an obligation of the husband it's not an obligation for the wife meaning if she does it she's she's she is helping him fulfill his obligation she's helping him not he's helping her by bringing her making her baby oven a lot of guys think that they're doing their wives a favor by bringing uh you know causing her to to bring kids to the world no no who are you going to hang out with all day like think they're doing our favor in reality every time she brings another child to the world she is doing you the biggest favor in the world why you're fulfilling a Mitzvah plus you're replicating yourself and her obviously and you're actually having an opportunity to continue your lineage your Torah your mitv everything that you're doing now if you're not planning on being religious better you don't have kids why because if you are making sins by yourself you're making sins by yourself it ends with you it ends with you like par it ended with par but if you're going to be uh religious it's better that you have as many kids as possible why you have a CU of machine in your house each one that does mitv goes to you to you and your wife in so the wife that sends their husbands to go uh play baseball and to go watch soccer games with the guys and to go do all the things that they're not really supposed to be doing obviously she's not going to want to replicate this because he's not really such a good husband but she's also a partner in the crime why instead of sending him to she sent him to have a beer with the guys instead of sending him to learn how to be a good husband that understands what we just said what the toora actually said about what the wife's role is and what the husband's role is she said him to go work and make more money so he doesn't know how to be a husband be skin so what do you expect a lot of these wives don't understand that sending their husbands to go t is much much more important than them learning tah like sometimes a wife says no no I want to go learn I want to go learn you babysit the kids you babysit the kids I'm going to go learn because I like to learn this is a mistake why the obligation of learning toah is on him and then when he comes home and he's a decent human being he's going to teach you toah he's going to teach you Torah so there's never a situation where you your Torah as a wife takes role over the husbands of course it's important for the wife to to go learn T she has to learn the basics but not if it's going to replace the husbands it's never this or that it always has to be the husband and if obviously all works out and he already learned for the day or something like that they have some Ty of arrangement what he's already learned it's not replacing his learning he's already done his it's a different story obviously each marriage has to know how to uh each person has to know how to play their role but again a lot of wives think that their learning is more important than their husbands so they area and he's a before so it's very very important to know that it's critical to send our husbands to and the reason why I specifically mention T and not just to go learn Tor is because if the husband is learning by himself unless he's already a unless he's already been learning for many many years and he has shim he's been next to rabbis that have directed him have directed him more or less for at least you know a decade or so where he knows here we don't touch here okay here I have to ask the r before I do it unless has shim unless he has a serious connection with raim or at least one r that directs him it's better off that he goes to instead of learning by himself and the reason why is because he doesn't know how to learn by himself a guy that just starts learning by himself is bound to make mistakes and thear says in believe page 119 that a uh I'm sorry 109 yeah your something else yot 109 says that a person that doesn't have a rabbi God hates him why why does God hate somebody who doesn't have a rabbi what's the problem because a person that do learns Tobi himself without a rabbi he could be making mistakes his entire life and never does chuva why he's too arrogant to go get himself a rabbi he thinks he knows better than the rabbi so most important thing that a woman needs to understand is that she's supposed to be she's supposed to be the hand that helps a husband get to his full potential get to she has to send it says that a woman gets her by sending her husband to in in return the husband needs to understand that every single time she sent he has to kiss her feet he has to say thank you why I'm I'm not going to be an for the rest of my life not going to be in ignorance for the rest of my life now if she obviously is helping him even more so by bringing kids to the world wow wow it's already a big bonus if she's stopping him from sinning it's let that's what we sing every Friday night that's we sing about her not if she cooks and cleans every two seconds and you can see a reflection on the floor if she does it great but that's not what makes that's not what makes so it's important to understand the roles that we have why because if each person knows their role it's much easier to have a successful marriage but if the wife wants the husband's role and the husband wants the wife's role then we're confused and that's why we have 80% divorce rates in the secular world and even in the religious world the percentages are going higher maybe four or 5% already which is the despicable in religious standards uh for Judaism at least so when it comes to when it comes to uh uh the wife bringing children to the world is an extremely big she's doing for the for the husband and the husband is obligated to bring uh one boy and one girl one boy and one girl until they have one boy and one girl he is not allowed to not to say no no no let's not have any more kids she is cuz she's not obligated but obviously it would be if if it's a healthy marriage then both of them want to have more kids now having kids is not so such a such an easy thing simply because the husband needs to understand that he has to be conscious of her both her physical and her mental health you can't just have kids if it's going to kill the H it's going to kill the wife and having kids is not based on money you're never allowed to not have a child because of money there's no for that why because money comes from sh that's just it's just lack of every baby comes with a bank account bank account from Hashem everybody that wants to be millionaire and says no no I'm going to have another kid once I'm a millionaire they're making a very big mistake why because the next kid could be that million dollars comes from SH now on the other hand on the other hand when it comes to having children you can't just force the woman to have more and more kids because if she's sick or she's not physically well or she just had a kid literally a few months ago you have to give her body time to heal the same goes if she's not psychologically there she's not psychologically prepared to to have a child this is why it's very important to have a very serious and close relationship with your local Rabbi and that knows all the hidden details of the marriage not just some Rabbi that you watches lectures once in a while not just some Rabbi that go to his and you say hello on Friday a rabbi that knows the details of your marriage that you tell him what's going on you tell him what's happening in your life he knows why because if you have a real Rabbi that's a real Rabbi you tell him everything that's going on The Good the Bad the Ugly the everything if you have a real Rabbi then he can give you real advice but if you have a superficial Rabbi Rabbi that you go visit once a week a rabbi that you know you watch his lectures once in a while he's not gonna give you a decision you know based on you it's going to give you a general thing and any real is usually not going to refrain from giving you any real decision he's going to tell you listen you have to check with your Rabbi no but you're my Rabbi how am I a rabbi well you watch my lection once a month I'm a rabbi that doesn't make somebody a rabbi what makes somebody a rabbi is if you tell them details of your life specific details of your marriage specific details of everything without hiding anything if you hide something from your Rabbi he's not your Rabbi he's a friend he's somebody that's religious that you know you cannot hide anything from your Rabbi it's same thing that you can't hide anything from a psychiatrist or a doctor or a lawyer it's it's the same concept anyone that you want that you need help from you have to disclose everything even the things that are uncomfortable even the things that are uncomfortable so when it comes to Bringing children to the world all of these things have to take it go into account do you have first of all do you have a boy and a girl because once you have a boy and a girl then already automatically there's more if let's say for example you already have multiple kids and the wife is just not prepared there's already more leniency in regards to if let's say she's not ready yet or you're not ready yet there's more leniency already but if there's no boy and girl there's much less leniency doesn't mean that you have to have a kid right this second if she's physically not well but there's less leniency second thing is how do you not have kids like obviously according to our T the says wasting seed is the number one sin in Juda M worst possible sin how do they determine what's the worst what's the uh what's the least because the says that you can't judge and don't judge too big too small you don't know we don't know the weight of how do we know then knows and we know based on the punishment what's the reward and Punishment according to our Torah the punishment for wasting seed is the worst possible punishment that you can get similar to the punishment of Shabbat similar to the punishment of these are the three biggest sins in Judaism there are obviously many other really terrible sins but these are the three horrible horrible sins and for anyone that's going to ask about what about is someone that goes with a married woman obviously that's double punishment because it's both wasting seed and it's being with a married woman so it's even more so but in essence the uh wasting seed is the worst so now since we cannot use what the go call Protection how do we not have kids the the man is not allowed to use anything that's going to stop get in the way of his seed not allowed it's forbidden to use anything that's going to get in the way of the seed so you can't use condoms or anything of such the uh it's 100% forbidden because that guarantees that guarantees there's no chance of there being a baby on the other hand there similar things for the woman she's also forbidden from using it so there are two options that are left there are two options that are left oh obviously we're not allowed to but this obviously is necessary to make to make sure that the uh the seed is outside of the body that's 100% ass and also it's forbidden for the seed to go in a different place in the body it could only go in one location where it's supposed to so this leaves us with only two options what are the two options options the two if if for example if somebody wants to have kids then obviously that's the obvious options I don't need to tell you what's the options if if let's say for example you have an ail you have a leniency from your Rabbi it says you know what you just had a kid I don't know a few months ago you could wait let's say the next let's check it out again in six months or in nine months or even in a year you know depending on your Rabbi depending on your situation he reviews it on a regular basis what do you do during that time obviously the man the man is the man and the woman is the woman what what do you do so there are two options one is that there is pills birth control pills now birth control pills are not ideal number one because they mess up with the woman's hormones that could cause a lot more damage than uh than necessary and a lot of women hate it a lot of women hate it uh especially more mature women women that are older uh it messes up the hormone system it creates a lot of damage in the body so this is terrible there is another thing that's similar to like a candle which uh it's a it's suppository that the woman puts and uh in that area of the body and this obviously is for mature people to understand uh anyone that needs to know the details I could send you a picture of what you buy uh and this is something that you can use but again none of this is allowed none of this is allowed unless there is a permission from your real Rabbi not some Rabbi that you heard a lecture like if you heard me right now in this lecture this does not give you an automatic leniency and this does not make me a rabbi the rabbi needs to know your situation so if you're not using you're just going to rely on yourself you're going to say no listen everything you said I fit in a b c I fit in all those things it makes sense to me I'm one of those options it makes sense and you decide I'm not going to talk to the rabbi you are the person is talking about you're the person who's the person I hate him why you decide to be your own you decide to make Al for yourself this da exactly the person that hates you cannot be your own you cannot be your own Rabbi that's why the says make yourself a rabbi and run away from saf from doubt eliminate any doubt someone that has you got sh needs to understand that sa has the same numerical value same gria is that's what amal's job is in the world amal's job is not just to kill us Flesh and Blood amal's job is sometimes just to create doubts in your mind like this guy that sent me a text the other day and uh he says uh says to me um can I ask you a question now he asked the question he doesn't actually wait for the permission to ask the question already I know he's not listening to me so he says uh why did God create the world like this is the kind of question that you could answer on text I mean I could make a lecture just on that question for maybe maybe a thousand hours just on that one question a thousand hours straight and still not answer it completely why did God create the world it's not an easy question so I said what's the answer watch the series start with number one you have 95 to go you'll get the answer in the series no it's too long every lecture is 3 hours essentially you're not serious about the question then you know it's a very big question why did God create the world one two three why did I like Oreos over uh chips aoy why do I like uh soft ice cream versus hard ice cream it's not it's a big question it gives gives some respect to the question you're ask if you're really serious about the answer so I knew already that he's not looking for answer so what happened so he's giving me the answer what's the answer he says no if God was motivated to do something that means that he's not the first cause that means something motivated him so that's the first God so I said ah so you're not asking a question you're just looking to justify your heretical mind because you've been told so many types of heresy that it's been tattooed in your brain this is tattooed in your brain you're not looking for answers you're looking for excuses to justify your heretical behavior so a person needs to understand when you have a rabbi that Rabbi is supposed to remove you from the sa that Rabbi is supposed to remove you from all of those thoughts that are 100% heresy inem you cannot be your own P you cannot just decide oh this means this how how do you know this means this oh it makes sense to me you haven't anything to rely on nothing they come up end now of course when you study you can't always study with the rabbi so Hashem had mercy on us and he gave us books with commentary even more so he gave us a a Torah institution like art scroll that and even others like it similar to it that are actually giving us even commentary on the commentary so a person that studies needs to do a combination of both one study with with his Rabbi if he can do oneon-one it's even better and study on his own it has to be a combination it can't be just on his own it can't be just it always has to be a combination why because it's going to be certain things that you need to learn directly from the RAV it's be certain things you need to learn on your own if you just rely on the you're never going to be you're never going to be big in t you're going to be nice going be a decent human being but but becoming meaning I'm not even talking about I'm talking about somebody that you know what when the mashiah before he comes all of you have to understand it's not going to be a pretty picture like everybody paints okay I'm goingon to give you a just very very soft understanding it's not going to be a pretty picture you know everybody celebrates mashia mashia mashia they have the cars going in the road screaming mashia he's already here he's coming all this stuff listen according to it's not going to be a pretty picture the r says before mashia comes going to be 15 days of darkness 80% to 99% of died in three days of darkness means it could be five times worse more survive but the point is not going to be a pretty picture whatever we saw in m is going to be much more that's why the book of Jeremiah says you're not going to beem is not going to be remembered as theem that took is out of but rather theem that took is out of the land of the North and the other four corners of the world what's the land of the north North America North America North America is where America is and Canada which is the majority of the Jews in the world outside of Israel so it's not going to be such an easy thing during that time during the times of when mashia is coming which is right now it's going to be a lot of big questions a lot of doubts a lot of problems a lot of you know misunderstandings battles questions Amal is going to come in all shapes and sizes he's going to come from your friends from the family from the the rabbis from the institutions from sometimes from books that you misunderstood had somebody sent me a question the other day about RAB AKA I said what's your source that you asked this question the question came from somewhere I know the student where did this question come from she oh this book I look up the book I said oh it's written by conservative heretic your source is corrupt therefore the question is corrupt you buy you buy books that you think are but they're not they're books of heresy but unless you know you don't know most dangerous person is a person who doesn't know he doesn't know so the days before mashia are gonna be very very difficult days gon to be a lot of questions a lot of amalik in all different shapes and sizes your k your friends the family this that every shape where which means that unless you're glued to hasem unless you're glued to him where you not necessarily meaning the Torah is a big part of you your whole life is based on Torah what do I do here what does the Torah say what what do I do tomorrow what does the to say what I do yesterday what to say what am I supposed to do my wife what to say what I do with the husband what to say with the kids what to say everything you ask yourself what does the Tor say What's d That's what's what's my opinion what does the Torah say Tor says this okay I do this but I don't like it doesn't make a difference you don't like it what's that t when you have that you're going to survive you're going to prosper even though Amal is everywhere Amal is every everywhere for anyone who doesn't realize it don't worry you'll see it soon we have the to see it every day and I'm telling you guys all the time you guys do me a favor come to why if it wasn't for doing I don't know if I would make it I'm telling you honestly someone that's not Glu to Tor I don't know just I don't believe in my opinion from learning from rabbis big seeing a lot of stories a lot of ups and downs someone's not good every single day there's no chance for them to make it why at some point you're going to fall the 15 days of darkness are not just literally speaking it's also figuratively speaking there's Darkness everywhere you go to be they have instead of they haveb tournaments now everybody going to that shes tournament thinks it's a kosher thinks it's a kosher why so and so shb tournament what what's the problem the rabbi went to University is no is the is better than him the shoe a rabbi that has a shb tournament or or or any type of gambling tournament inet a shoe is better than him at least the shoe didn't sin didn't become but the people the poor people they go they think they're doing aah what I even donated some money some people would tell you I donate some money for what what confused people but it's also their fault they'll be judged for it too for the people that attend why why don't you learn to run realize it's ass why don't you learn to run realize it's ass it's not allowed to go to such events it's not allowed to be part of such events why don't you why don't you go why don't you why don't you learn why oh I was busy what are you busy working oh who give you money God okay so why don't you go and learn about the same God that gave you the money so the important thing is even the dogs are cheering right I'm telling you guys why he's right he's right you should listen so the important thing that you have to understand is that each person when each person focuses on their role you succeed as a woman you want to be a good wife obviously above and beyond what uh what the minimum is it makes you a better wife but nonetheless a woman needs to understand that she has to be the spiritual engine of the family she has to push a husband to go learn T if she pushes him to go learn T instead of to go make money you'll have a good marriage if she goes push him to go make money she could be a fancier bag you're not g to have a good marriage guaranteed if all you care about is material you're not going to have a good marriage you may have stuff you may have stuff but the stuff by the way doesn't go to doesn't go stays here so you work 70 years for all the stuff you show up to sh say oh what about my stuff it stays over there yeah but I don't have anybody to inherit it we didn't even have any kids exactly so stays there for the dogs and the cats and everybody else going to eat it you work for stuff your whole life you can't even use it no one says you're not let to have stuff but it's not priority so a woman needs to make sure she understands her role is to do with ra ra the wife Raba what was the I condition of marriage she was half of his age she was gorgeous her father was the the richest man in the world what she say to go learn tah go learn tah that's why she got she didn't geta because her father was rich she didn't geta and the whole oral Tora is because of her because uh she was pretty she didn't get Al because uh somebody her name name was RA the same way as our uh you know matriarchs name doesn't mean anything by the way why' she get she sent husband to go learn T and our husband went to learn T and we have the T now so wife you want to be a super you have the obviously the minimum requirement and you have above and beyond husband you have to convince her to do that you you have to give her a reason you have to give her a reason of why she should want you to go t I spoke to a guy in Friday night we're talking a little bit and uh said you know wife I would talking a similar subject yeah the wife's you know it's important for them to go goes yeah but what about if the uh wife is a little me she's a little spoiled she doesn't want me to go to sh T always says how come you not with me how come you not this take me shopping take me this take me that babysit the kids let me go out with my girlfriend all types of things whatever wives they don't all to be babysitters all day saying I already had the babies you watch them Fair Deal No I had the babies you watched them it's your kids anyway says what about when a situation like that I said it's the husband's fault he goes no no no no you don't understand him she's the one that's tell doesn't want me to go to sh T I said yeah it's the husband's fault goes no no no explain again I want to go t i want to go learn Tor but she tells me don't go because she wants me to hang out with her and she wants me to eat with her and she wants me to babysit the kids and I said yes it's the husband's fault how's the husband's fault I said because the husband she sent him to F already right cuz yeah and what happened she doesn't want him to go to sh now why she's not seeing any results she sent him to he went there as he came back isav he went there asav with no midot terrible husband cheap stingy uh Angry arrogant annoying and so on and he came back what even worse midot now he's all of those things and he thinks he knows something it's even worse before he was just now he's now he's now now he's double he thinks he know it's like somebody came to his Rob he said I can't find aab says what do you mean you can't find a I sent you 20 girls every girl no no no no no no no no I don't know they're not good enough so Rabbi says oh you know what he doesn't realize he has a problem what's the problem he's arrogant so he says if I tell him he's arrogant if I tell him he's arrogant maybe take it to the RAB was B he says you know what I have the right thing for you go to my friend he's a big study with him six months this is you learn with him six months you come back to me you're gonna find great idea thank you very much he goes what's this he sent you to teach him humility he says once this guy learns a little bit of humility then I'm going to give him Aid and he's going to realize oh it's good okay let's get married so he goes there s months later he comes back his head's looking on the floor he's uh looks a little humbler he brings him a rejection okay maybe this is something okay gives him another rejection so I said okay repeating the same we had I got to give him another 20 what happened so he go he meets with the guy he says what happened I give you two you're rejecting everybody again what happened because listen before before I went I learned a lot of T I worked on the entie this theti that and already the 20 girls that you showed me weren't good enough now that I'm humble nobody's going to be good enough you understand sometimes a person doesn't know what he doesn't know he doesn't know what he doesn't know so he thinks he's humble but he's not so the husband he goes he learns he learns he learns all types of things but he comes up comes back home same thing or even worse comes he goes as comes back asav nothing changed so why would the wife want to send him to why she says all I'm doing is just uh headaches with the kids by myself headaches with all the wife for what he went there stingy came back even stingier he went there angry is even angry like what's for what so she doesn't want to go to said if you show you show result you go you go you come backov okay what's she gonna do what's the normal wife GNA do tell you do me a favor stay in a t even longer why if every time you come back you're coming back a better Diamond you're coming back a little better it's a better reflection it's more valuable stay the for a week stay 24 years like ABA why I the best husband in the world so for all of those husbands that have difficult wives it's not because they're difficult only it's because you're not showing them any results to go learn just and to learn the without changing your character traits is not enough it's not enough to convince your wife to support your Torah learning not enough if the Torah is not making you a better human being you're not learning Torah you're just learning history you're learning a rule book it's no no different than learning a cookbook shom if it's not making you a better human being you're not learning T you have to become a better human being you have to work in your character traits it's very difficult no questions asked it's very difficult but I see a lot of times people learning T they think each one's Moshe Rashi R to everybody thinks that not one of them knows how to give a decent respect to or even to half a or even to just a fellow Jew no respect no cavod whatsoever no patience many of them fight it's m it's it's to why but they all feel like they're learning T what T are you learning why you learn CH what' you learn even you learn you learn so when a person knows and understands their role the wife knows okay I'm going to go send my husband why to go become a better husband if he's a better husband and he's going to teach me how to be a better wife if I become a better wife he's going to become even a better husband and and everything becomes great but if both of you are if he's as and she's it's not going to work out it's not going to work out so the Torah is supposed to be an instruction book of how to become a better human being if you're not becoming a better human being you're learning the wrong Torah simply put sadly many people are learning the wrong Torah so the uh important thing is to know is that again the wife is a critical player in the mission of the husband without her he cannot succeed he cannot succeed without her this is why it's very important for a husband to be grateful to be grateful for his wife for everything she does and if we actually only understood what it means to be grateful our whole lives would change before I go into what it means to be grateful if you guys want to learn about that a little bit um you can ask some more questions can I have a cup please you don't mind somebody next question yeah louder louder kind of or something what is the process of oh okay thank you um if you're buying a uh for example piece of glass you have to take it to the mikve there's a Jewish communities typically have a uh mikve and in the mikve usually there is there's a mikve for people to dip in themselves for the men there's one mik for women there's another mik and then there's a third mik which is just for Kim just for different utensils for um um pots pans and so on uh so if it's uh glass or or or steel or something like that you have to take it to the mik now if it's plastic you don't have to take it to the mik so if it's a plastic a uh plastic utensil of some type plastic plate the cup you don't have to take it to the mik but if it's glass or if it's metal then you have to take it to the mik before you use it um without taking to the mikve you're not allowed to use it not allow to use it now actually taking it to the mikve is a very very interesting experience and uh it's a very Holy Experience you go there and once you you have to take everything out of the wrappers es if it's brand new you have to take everything out of the wrappers first you have to wash it to clean it so you have to make sure that there's no uh no stickers on it there's no nothing stopping the flow of water touching every single part of the uh of the uh cup or the plate or the knife or some whatever it is after you've removed all of the stickers and everything is in and you've cleaned it with soap then you do the blessing which usually the blessing is on the wall and you dip you dip each one of them now until you finish dipping everything you're not allowed to talk so even if it takes you an hour to dip you have let's say a whole kitchen you're dipping the whole thing it's going to take you a little while to do all of it now I talk the all time so it's good you could listen to sh if you want uh you could uh you know listen to sh if you want and uh but you're not allowed to talk to yourself and it's a very very interesting how the um just the experience itself every time it's just a uh I've done it a few times every time it's carries a different weight but this is also what separates us from the green the critical part of being a Jew is to understand that we're not animals I'm not calling the animals there's many of them that are that are very good people but there are many that are not like this terrorist that uh killed a bunch of innocent people in the school just a few days ago uh you're telling me is possibly a Jew shom but knows that he's a Jew but he hates Jews he's he's a Nazi hater of a Jews he reminds me of the Holocaust there's a few of them there's a few Nazi Jews um we said it in our couple of sh that we talked about uh the Holocaust talked about a few things that people don't like to talk about or hear about but it's true there are a few or more than a few uh Nazis that were actually Jews that hated their Judaism so much that they joined the Nazis without telling the Nazis that they're actually Jewish because if the Nazis knew they were Jewish they' kill them too uh but anyway um people that get to that point of psychosis just being crazy uh lunatics murderers um are uh it doesn't just happen one day this is something that is a lifelong of events and one of the most critical parts that makes a person such a psychopath without literally being just a uh you know mentally ill if someone is mish someone is literally mentally ill it's a different story it's chemical imbalance of some kind but I'm talking about somebody just is an evil person evil person they don't just wait they don't they're not born evil they're a baby just like you were a baby just like I was a baby everyone every baby's cute even Hitler was cute as a baby every baby's cute they're baby and hasem specifically made them cute because if they weren't cute the parents would kill them seriously not joking perit why try to be a parent try to be a parent in the first uh in the first few uh months you don't sleep you lose your mind but then you look at the baby so cute so he's like okay I'm not going to sleep for the next two years because of this cute baby but if the baby look like a little uh troll you throw him in a garbage I know nobody this is truth any every parent would tell you this every parent would tell you this why if the baby wasn't cute they'd sell him on eBay but he's cute or she's cute I'm telling you seriously I say politically correct not correct doesn't make a difference it's a reality because he's cute because she's cute you you keep him and even though you're not going to sleep for the next 20 years because of them they're cute but anyway the uh the truth is is that every baby was cute but eventually Hitler became Hitler this Nick his name Wasim this Nick kid became Nick the other Terrors before him and after him become what they are what happens in between I can tell you from one thing one ingredient that every single rash in the world has both the murderers and the day-to-day rash that's stealing from you they do not know how to control their desires common ingredient all of them have some of us have this poison also but obviously much less we're not psychopath it all starts with not being able to control your desires and thinking that it's it's the world's fault not yours they're at fault they're at fault for you having this desire and not being able to fix it not being able to accommodate it saate you're hungry and you don't have food oh it's the white man's world that's why I'm gonna you know let's kill some white people why they have all the money that's why I don't have any food well if you actually went to the store and you gave the store clerk money he'd give you food even if you're black green yellow it make a difference what color is he wants money that's green you have it I'll sell it to you no it's the white man's fault or on the opposite they're going to tell you uh oh listen I didn't get the career that I want ah it's the Jewish people's fault yeah they're controlling all the banks they're controlling Hollywood they're controlling the this they're controlling that no no no it's not that if you go to school you learn a few things you go apply for a job someone's goingon to hire you has nothing to do with the Jews some people that are the most successful people in the world are not Jews in fact majority of them are not Jews there's only 20 million of us there's 8 billion people in the world but no you wants to blame the Jews he wants to blame the white people he wants to blame the black people he wants to blame the yellow people he wants to blame this everybody wants to blame somebody for their loserm for them being losers for them having a desire they cannot control the guy wants to get a certain girl but he realizes she's married he wants to kill her boyfriend now or her husband now why it's my girl it's not your girl you got her and that's it what's the problem he doesn't ought to control himself whether it's food or it's money or it's career or it's a woman or it's anything else when a person does not know how to control himself he becomes a mini Hitler and depending on how far he lets it travel and grow he can become a big Hitler why because Hitler's amalik is going to tell you it's everyone else's fault it's everyone but me simply not being able to control your desires you want something and you can't control the fact that you want you want it right now I tell you listen you can get what you want it's going to take five years it's going to take 10 years a lot of people I had this one kid come to my office many years ago for an interview one of my least favorite things in the world to do is to interview people but when you're a uh business owner it's something that you have to do because these people are going to be in your office and when you work as hard as uh I did or many business owners do it's pretty much your house so you want to make sure that the guy's going to be in your house every day you want to know that he's a decent human being so I had this one guy come to me and he's uh looks all swaave and he's looks like he's a million bucks even though he's got $30 to his name and uh I ask him a very simple question why do you want to do this what's the what's what's why you here and he tells me I want your job I want what you have I want everything to do okay great but what did you do like okay fine the money aspect fine I get every it's not that's not an answer having a lot of money is not a reason of why you want this career if I just gave you the money would you still want the career what you want $5 you want 5 million you want 500 million whatever it is if I just give you the money would you still want to work oh I didn't think about it oh so you just want money that's not an answer that's not an answer so it's important to think about your answers before you answer them the thing is that a lot of people want the results but they not they don't want what it takes to get the results at least at least once or twice a week somebody tells me they're G to want they want to be a speaker they want to teach the they want to be a speaker I said okay go ahead go be a speaker you have to learn Tora you have to know what you're doing yeah yeah yeah I'm going to do it I'm gon to start doing it I'm okay great enjoy you know no but I can do it okay you don't have to convince me I don't have a monopoly on speaker what why do you want to be a speaker so sometimes I ask him sometimes ask why do you want to be Speak oh it's look you have all people follow people watch it online they make comments that's why you want to be speakers so people make comments you want to be a speaker and so people make comments people send you emails you know what the sad part is I thought about this long and hard before before I said it I'm going to say it now that's the root of the problem of the kiru of world today the root of the problem of the kiru world today and I don't just mean the new guys I'm talking about overall that everybody just is doing it because they want to be famous people want to be famous people want to be celebrities people want to be Tony Robbins Michael Jackson uh Eddie Lampert uh Warren Buffett people want to be on TV people want uh all these people want to be famous they care less they care less about actually helping people do chuva they care more about being famous so they'll have a lecture based on what you want to hear not necessarily what you need to hear and this is why in almost every single flyer you're going to see about oh Rabbi so and so is coming to speak it's coming to event it's always the same three topics schlom bite money and something in between them it's always this generic topic and uh you know that's uh why it's a neutral topic that everyone needs to learn about that doesn't obligate anyone and makes you famous it makes you famous why no one's going to go against you hey hey your SCH bite you know it's too much it's too harsh on people oh you know that uh that Sho you had about money no man that's that's too much being too strict he told us that if we keep Shabbat we're going to make more money that's too strict it's too strict what are you going to tell him what are you going to say everybody's gonna love you talk about money talk about uh relationships that everybody needs to deal with talk about kids let's say or marriages wow famous people send their their their Clips every oh look what this Rabbi said and it's another clip about schai oh look at what this Rabbi s another clip about how to make more money oh look what this rabbi it's another clip of how to be motivated everybody's trying to be Tony Robbins or one of these green that succeeded making money from what motivating people into doing things they should be doing anyway but as far as CH no one cares no one cares simply simply put no one cares why if they cared the results would speak for themselves you wouldn't have only a handful of rabbis in the world talking about you wouldn't have a handful of rabbis just saying that if you don't keep Shabbat you're considered 100% an idol worshipper you wouldn't have only a handful of rabbis saying that if you waste seed it's the worst sin in the Tor you have no chance in the world to go to ganeden no chance zero unless you do trva you wouldn't have only a handful of rabbis that tell you outright that most businesses today are 100% thieves thieves honestly I'm telling you the more I do the more I buy things or do things the more I see it's literally everywhere it's an infestation everywhere people just simply do not know how to do honest business I went to I'll tell you something I mean has nothing to do with just Jews or non-jews just everybody it's like common Behavior now it's become acceptable behavior to steal I went to a pharmacy I need to get some type of medicine and the insurance wasn't covering it I said okay so how much is this medicine said it's $14 okay I'll buy it she goes no no we don't have it I said okay so order it she goes no we're not going to order it just one okay no problem not going to order just one fine no problem thank you very much going there's more than one Pharmacy I go to another Pharmacy I go another Pharmacy I tell them I need this medicine you have insurance no I don't have insurance but I'll I'll pay for it whatever it is I'll pay for it okay no problem it's $240 wait over there was $14 $240 a little bit a little bit of a difference a little bit a little bit of a difference tiny tiny bit difference $240 I said okay $240 really like it's a cream it's not made of gold there's no gold in there diamonds may be but no gold for sure let me check another Pharmacy I go to the third Pharmacy and tell me yeah we uh we don't have it but we could order it you'll have it tomorrow and it's $25 deal deal after you've been to doctor for as many times I have you know a little bit about medicine so the next day they sent it to me I get it I look H liars cheaters thieves why what they give me for $25 they gave me something that's over the counter I don't need a prescription for but they thought I was and I don't know anything and they just put a sticker that made it seem like it was a sticker on the sticker that made it seem like a it's a prescription but it's not prescription you can buy it from Amazon if you want you can buy it from CVS you can buy it from anywhere without prescription this is a regular business this was normal for them why they want to make a sale for $25 they want to cheat they want to lie want for anything this is not just just a simple story happened yesterday it's it's it's something that happens all the time I'm telling you everywhere I'm telling you it's gotten to the point that there's no business that I know of at least that does not cheat or lie they're cheating or lying to someone sometimes it's customers sometimes it's employees sometimes it's the banks sometimes it's the vendors sometimes it's the government they're lying or cheating against someone and it's acceptable behavior without Torah you are 100% a thief and unfortunately sometimes even with Torah it's not so difficult not to be a thief it's not so difficult but you have to have if you think that hasem provides the you're going to think 500 times before you do anything illegal not just illegal in the in the eyes of man illegal in the eyes of hem but if you think that you're the one that's making the money I gave him he wanted a cream I gave him a cream he wanted a pill I gave him a pill he doesn't like it or return it now to go return it it's an hour of my life who wants to spend an hour of my life on this thing so you just take it you suck it up and you just move on with your life if you value your time you have nothing to do with your life then I go spend an hour in your life telling these people that they're lies and cheaters but it's not going to change anything it's become acceptable behavior to cheat and lie so the tah is not just to make you a better husband it's not just to make you a better person in front of the people that are in front of you it's to make you better in front of him and in front of him how do you know you're better in front of him when you ask what are you going to do when no one's watching only he's the one that's watching no one else is watching everybody looks like a sadik in a especially on Shabbat they have theot on their heads everyone's M everyone looks like aad in a what what about in the four walls when you have a opportunity to press one button and steal a million dollars one button and no one's ever going to know will you press it it's easy to say no now because you're sitting over here there's no button there's no button but when the button's in front of you when the buttons in front of you the only way you're going to pass that test is if you worked on it before you had the button you've perfected your character before you had the button you've made yourself allergic you've made yourself allergic to stealing you're disgusted by it if you're not disgusted by cheating or lying you have a lot of work to do and this you're not going to learn in the basic level that every single D in the world is giving right now why because it obligates you it's telling the same guy that's donating a million dollars to their cause that he's a thief he got the million dollars from stealing he's telling the same guy that just funded the Yesa and by the way your money is not cleaned you're not going to ganen by the way even with this with this you just stole it from Peter to give Paul all he did you're a thief okay so you gave some money to Yesa good job but uh what about the other $9 million so these basic level shim you're only going to get there if if you don't if you're not worried about being famous if you're not worried about being famous you can tell people things that obligate them you can tell people things that that make them uncomfortable why because there's definitely someone watching the sh right this second that's saying you know what I'm a thief you really think I'm I stole yeah I stole this morning I stole this afternoon I stole last week I stole it somebody somebody's thinking you know I didn't think it was really that big of a deal but I'm going tell you what T says T says that no one that has blood on their hands can enter G you must stop stealing that's number one number two you have to do ch ch is not just for the big things that are obvious inter marriage not just for the big things cha is also for the basic things the basic things that no one sees you're doing except and that's one of the things that you're not going to learn from these basic Bic motivational speakers that are worrying about being famous some famous speakers in the world M that they're famous and the reason why is because each time a person gives a speech in sh they judge every single word that he says every single word that he says and what impact it has on how many people and the in shabat and also says it in and I believe also in it says the following if the person in his words had the ability to impact one person then the Judgment of that one person goes on them meaning if he had the ability to impact one person and he didn't instead of telling the guy by the way you should stop driving on Shabbat but instead he told him by the way if you wake up an extra hour early and say you'll make more money even though he knows that he's making the more money on shabat instead of rebuking him to keep Shabbat he's motivating him to make more money on Shabbat he given a instead of a of teaching him how to become a decent human being he's teaching him how to be more motivated like the go if he had the impact of one person he gets the Judgment of the one person he gets the punishment of the one person the says if he had the ability to impact his family he gets the punishment of the family if he had the impact on a neighborhood he gets the punishment of the whole neighborhood if he had the impact to possibility to impact 500 people in every lecture he gets the punishment of 500 people and if he had if was he had the impact to on the entire nation he gets the punishment of the entire nation not that they don't get punished they also get punished for not doing chuva but he gets the punishment of all of them combined this is not my idea trust me it's a very very big responsibility to be a speaker and I'm telling youal for all those speakers that don't speak the truth why the more famous you are the more of a Gom You're Building yourself you don't say the truth you're telling people oh yeah you should uh be nice to people okay be nice to people start by not stealing be nice to God so it's not easy it's not an easy thing but I see that a lot of people are want to be speakers for the wrong reasons they want to be famous had a guy sh that I went to and uh one time we walked next to me I think it was yeah it was a Friday night and uh yeah he started asking me some questions and so on and so forth and uh he says to me uh yeah yeah I'm gonna be a I think I'm gonna do that I'm gonna be a speaker I'm gonna be a speaker I said we need we need more people that speak the truth you succeed I don't know the guy yet at this point it's just first time we ever met yeah yeah I'm be a speaker yeah I think it's I could do it I could do it you can why not you learn to you teach why not what's the problem you know what the problem was he want to be famous that's why he wants to be a speaker he wants to be famous you know how I know he doesn't show up the rest of the week he comes to maybe once a week he comes to sure maybe once a week maybe once a week on Shabbat when his father forces him and the rest of the week he doesn't come why but he wants to be a speaker people want to be famous forget about being famous it's a very very big responsibility to be a Jew it's a big responsibility to be a leader of the Jews in any capacity to be a father to be a mother to be a child it's all a big responsibility you have to understand that your actions have consequences and if you live in a world like you're in a bubble where you think that you're your own world you're by yourself you won't survive but if you realize that every single thing that you do affects the people around you affects the relationship you have with affects their relationship withm then you start realizing that hey the only way I'm going to survive and get the ganeden is if I glue myself to this Torah I need to know what it says why because my opinion by default is wrong by default default option is wrong it's wrong answer why my opinion is motiv ated by desires I make decisions based on what I want not necessarily what based on what's right I make decisions on what to eat not because I'm hungry but because I want a certain taste even if that taste in reality I know it's poisonous the guy has diabetes he knows that the certain foods are going to kill him he still wants it why because he makes a decision to eat it because it's decision based on taste not based on what's good for him he makes a decision to be with a certain person with a certain woman not because oh she's going to make a good wife no because he wants to please himself both physically and in the eyes of people oh she looks a certain way she has a certain this or she's going to date a certain guy because oh he has a certain this he has a certain that it's all based on things not reality not what's good our decisions by default are wrong if we don't use it Tora as a guide before every single decision we're guaranteed to make one wrong decision after another with never an ending never you're never going to get it right ever and anytime you get it right it's only by chance and eventually you're going to ruin that too why because the next decision is going to be based on desire this is why when I tell you you have to learn you have to learn you have to learn all of these things it's not necessarily so everybody becomes or everybody becomes it's just to survive Survivor not get to a point of craziness like this shooter that murdered 17 people for absolutely no reason whatsoever psychopath this is the eighth shooting this year people think oh wow what a terrible it's the eighth one already we're not even two months into the year it's happening more than once a week I remember the the first shooting was was 20 years ago I think it was a Coline shooting when it happened the whole nation was shocked oh my God what happened how did they get the guns who diss it they made a movie about it it was a whole thing wow can't believe it it's every week it's what's the surprise it's every week and right now it's more than every week this one specifically focused on Jews the community is a Jewish Community more than 40% of the students of the school are Jewish the kid was a marked Nazi he specifically went after Jews more than 35% of the people that died are Jewish you need any more hints this is 100% hasem talking to us you're running out of time you're running out of time gun control no gun control is not going to help you could eliminate every single gun in the world is still going to it's not going to solve the crazy people problem y comes in many forms sometimes it's guns sometimes it's hurricanes sometimes it's earthquakes sometimes it's bombs sometimes it's diseases sometimes it's cancer AIDS viruses from chicken from cows from the kosher institutions from the uh non kosher institutions people think they're going to solve The World's problems because of guns or because of uh the FDA or the FBI or the CIA only way to solve the problems is being righteous with theem the only solution all of these other things are complete waste of time complete waste of time and I'll prove it to you right now I thought about publishing this but then as soon as I actually already did the work the the math on it already did the work I erased everything why cuz I realize it's a complete waste of time it's going to get people to false beliefs like they could solve the problem logically logically you can solve the problem in all school school shootings in 24 hours 24 hours now I'm not telling you because this is going to be implemented I'm not telling you because I want to talk about politics but I'm going tell you how the from hasem is coming true and page 49 it says the leaders will make decisions that are against their own people leaders are going to make decisions against their own people if you wanted to solve the problem of school shootings very simple you have right now 450,000 approximately 453,000 retired veteran but not retired because they're uh they don't want to work retired because they have no jobs they're unemployed 450,000 you have approximately 98,000 schools 98,000 schools Across America this is including private and public private and public used to be a quarter million now it's less it's 98,000 you have right now approximately if the numbers are correct it's all for memory you have somewhere in the neighborhood of 40,000 40 a little over 40,000 veterans that are homeless homeless meaning they need more more work than anybody else they're homeless Mis people that went fought for this country people not only not uh giving them uh food and and all the benefits that she get for fighting for the country that they they don't even give them a house the average income average income in this country is a little over 50,000 if you give them $1,000 a week it's less than the average income $52,000 a year no you don't even need to take all 450,000 and put them into the Work World take the 40,000 that are homeless take another 60,000 of the unemployed you got yourself 100,000 right got yourself 100,000 veterans so people know how to use a gun you put one in every school you put one in every school what have you done here number one you've just removed 40,000 homeless people from the street by the way just so you know each homeless person costs cost taxpayers somewhere in a neighbor of 31,000 a year to support the homeless person on the street cost you 31,000 a year so really this is a difference of $20,000 so you removed 40,000 people off the street who are these people special people that fought for the country already so now you removed 40,000 people off the streets then you gave another 60,000 that are unemployed jobs on top of that so now you have 100,000 people that actually have jobs a good part of that money 35% of that money goes back to the government anyway in taxes so it's not fully uh fully uh being paid for anyway now you have someone that could watch the school now you have someone that watches the school now it's not going to eliminate Shooters crazy people always going to come but he's not going to kill 20 people he's probably going to get shot after he kills two or three already you've lowered the death by 90% if not more most people are not going to go if they know there somebody there with a gun that's better than him in a gun so you've already lowered it by at least 90% now you would think oh this is very expensive the government is not doing this because it's really really expensive it's a uh you know to hire 100,000 people you know how expensive it to hire 100,000 it's a lot of money it's exactly $5.2 billion $5.2 billion sounds like a big number right the budget that the US government has the budget that the US government has just for weapons just for weapons not talking about the entire GDP the entire gross domestic no I'm not talking about entire just what they use for weapons anyway for soldiers for tanks for helicopters is $598 billion which means which means the five $5 billion you'd spend is not even 1% increase not even you're not increasing the budget by even 1% but in reality you're not even increasing it by half of a percent because half the money you're already spending anyway because they're homeless the other half you're spending it because they're sick and you have to support them anyway in reality it's costing zero in reality this is actually a revenue maker but it's not going to happen why because God will not let it happen it all makes sense and I oh yeah president no no no has nothing to do with anything Yem is in control the hand of hem is in control if he wants somebody to die that somebody will can die in a in a in a bathtub in a public school in a Yesa in a plane in a car in anything the only way the only way the only way you can protect yourself is if you are righteous with hasem the only chance for you to survive and if you're righteous with hasem who cares if you died you're going to All by anyway who wants to be in this world all you worried about is mortgages rent payments people cheating you people lying to you what do you it's no stress in if you're righteous with Hashem if you're not righteous with hem you have everything to worry about next question I'm not running for president guys stop okay so yeah are very okay K that's Salomon say d yeah so what you're asking how bad it's going to get before I get before before the end um well here's the thing the D didn't have Torah and Hashem didn't uh give them a uh endless opportunities to do chuva he saw that they're Wicked he saw that there's no way for them to do chuva and therefore he decided that it's better to Simply destroy them and start all over when the amount of homosexuality that was infesting the world in those days got to such a point that it even affected the animals and even affected the ground the ground Hashem had to destroy six feet of the ground itself to remove the Tuma from the world we see that the acts of man affect the world around them not just other men but also animals air fruits you see many times in a tah it talks about different uh things that we used to have they used to be different animals that no longer exist uh like the uh animals that they actually used for the Tabernacle the Tash uh this was a very very beautiful animal that was deer likee but it had like a rainbow type color skin and uh was an extraordinarily beautiful animal but it no longer exists there are many other animals that existed in the past that no longer exist some that we know of obviously from having records of them pictures and so on and some that we just know of them from the from the books there's also the fruits and vegetables that we used to have in the Tor it says inar that there was a certain type of fruit that if someone had it the people that were able to control their desires they wouldn't be able to control their desires anymore it was so good people will be willing to eat it until they died it was located inia certain fruits that they were literally willing to die for it just to eat it non-stop eating it they would eat it in just basic fruit what's fruit go they want to die for it that's how good delicious it was today before you eat eat any fruit before you eat any vegetable you have to check it 500 times why because most of them are infested with bugs worms maggots all types of disgusting things in those days there's no such thing why we made a lot of sins when we make a lot of sins it infests the fruits and the vegetables in the ground so the issue is that for example right now it's virtually impossible to find a clean strawberry or Berry in general that doesn't have any any type of worm or maggot or or or or some type of bug that you're not allowed to eat the bugs actually look like the seeds so unless you have unless you're looking for it you're not going to know it's a bug but if you're eating it you're you're making five five different sins so many of the many of the people that are conscious of this do not eat strawberries anymore do not eat figs anymore do not eat uh berries anymore why it it's almost impossible to find one without some type of bug on it why is it was this always the case no in previous generations it wasn't the case has nothing to do with technology we have better technology today than we ever had before but the worms are in our food today the the bugs are in our food today why the sins caused the things to happen so as much as everybody would like to believe that this is a better world than the world we lived in in the past in reality it's very very very wrong the world that we had in the past was a much cleaner world but needless to say the outcome is the outcome you know we have what we have we have to make the best of what we have so the only thing that's going to make things better is by us doing Chua it's not necessarily going to bring back the world to how it was at the times of the or times of AD but at least if someone is connecting to hem and is making sure to do everything they Poss possibly can uh to to do the will of hem hm protects him from such things or get things away you know he's not going to if someone is conscious and they're careful and everything that they do hm is not going to allow them to make sins that they're not conscious of people that eat those things usually don't care anyway they don't care anyway so the world as a whole is terrible but it's not a l cause if it was a l cause would simply destroy it so why does hasem keep the world running he keeps the world running simply because he wants us to do chuva he wants us to get better he wants us to influence our brothers and sisters to become better he didn't give up on the world he wants us the murder to stop he wants the stealing to stop he wants the addictions to stop he wants a better version of us but at the same token there is a clock and the clock is ticking and the clock is going to end when the Messiah comes for the world in LGE at large or when each one of our own clocks ends some people the clock ends when they're 20 some people's clock ends when they're 100 but at some point everybody's going to have to face the uh the charges so if each person worries about their own chuva first and then the world around them we have a chance to succeed as a as a people and as individuals but if everybody just worries about everybody else except themselves then we're not doing anything you know so is the world difficult yes but nothing new Under the Sun the world has always been difficult if it wasn't the desire that we have today was was a different desire if you read some of the uh some of the commentaries of of what happened at the time of the bet mikdash it's like reading the news today there was a uh in the book of Isaiah it says that the uh woman women walked around with extra high heels to get attention and if it wasn't enough they put bells on them they put bells on the heels and they took off the hats that covered their wigs because anyone that would wear a wig had a hat covering it that's the AL if you are going to wear a wig you have to wear you have to wear a hat on top of it so anyone that wore a wig had a hat on top of it and some of them wore wigs without the Hat they took off the hat this is 3,000 years ago by the way he not talking about right now and they started getting the attention of who the Romans so they got rebuked what are you doing you're getting the attention of the Romans so the women said what's the Worst That Could Happen the Romans are going to marry us so let the Romans marry us now who were these women that didn't care about into marriage that didn't care about the go looking at them it didn't care about modesty it didn't care about the Torah at all who were these women were were they ignorant people they were Amal they who are they the wives of the rabbis at the time the wives of the rabbis at the time so the reality is is nothing new Under the Su like says in Ecclesiastes about seven times he says there's nothing new Under the Sun nothing new Under the Sun meaning that all of the people that think oh no it's more difficult now but since we're weaker generation therefore Hashem is going to be more lenient no no nothing changed the desires we had yesterday we have today the the the flaws we had yesterday we have today the issues we had yesterday we have today the spiritual laziness we had yesterday we have today the pun punishment we had yesterday we have today also nothing new Under The Sun It's not any different today just because the year according to the Christians is 2018 or the Jewish calendar is 5778 none of that stuff matters nothing changed nothing changed all that changed that everyone has a phone in their hands that's it all not nothing changed the more you read the books the more you real it's exactly the same nothing changed what people were chasing money they chased money back then people were chasing sex they chase sex back then people were uh were chasing cavod they changed kab back then also nothing changed corruption corruption was back then too nothing changed nothing changed but the same solution we had back then we have now we have to do cha now in we learn about the Tabernacle and something a beautiful I heard once from again he says that when AEM tells M to make this cover to make this Tabernacle this is the place you GNA have The KES K this where you going to talk to me it says in a uh chapter 25 verse 22 soem says to mhe this this cover this is where I will set my meetings with you the kesim had this cover had this at this capit where I'm going to talk to you here wherever it is and this it had two Kim Kim were like these angels that look like a uh children that faced each other I'm sure all of you have seen the pictures of it in the past and they had wings you know they look like little kids and they faced each other and it says that this cover this whole gold piece had to be from One Piece had to be hammered out this whole cover had to be one single gold piece not little uh pieces put together and his Kim were made out of gold and it was was hammered out there was one piece and there was a separation between the two of a is a small tiny little and Hashem says there that spot that little separation the tiny little area on top of the of the of the that's where I will talk to you that's where our meetings are going to be my voice is going to come out of there I'm going to speak to you from a top to cover in between the two Kim that are on top of the Ark of the testimony this you have this Arc you have this Kim you have these two angels this little separation this tiny little area that's where we're going to talk that's our meeting meaning the space is tiny tiny little space also says in the that according to measurements you have measurements for everything technically thees didn't take up any space what does it mean didn't take up any space according to the measurements there was no room for it the measurements of how big the room was you know where the table was you know where the bread was you know where the was you know where everything was then it says you had the arc over there there's no room for it meaning it actually even though it was there it took up no space miraculously similar to how when we were in a bet mikdash one of the Miracles was was that no matter how many people were inside the bet mikdash we would all have the ability to pray and bow all the way down and everyone would still have enough room separation between each other that no one would be able to hear each other's prayers no matter how many people 100 thousand 100 million a billion doesn't make a difference it occupied no space because time and space are things that Hashem controls obviously so now thear says that this specific area this tiny little space on top of the K is where hasem Shem wrote it over here that's where he spoke to mhe tiny little spot but then if you fast forward if you fast forward to the time of SCH built a fancy mikash something extraordinary the the the the the beauty of the bet mikdash they said that if you if you didn't see you never saw Beauty in your life something out of this world unbelievable the doors the beauty there was never any bad smell despite all theot there was never any flies something out of this world but yet it was huge wasn't tiny like this but yetem tells what are you building me this mikdash for not big enough not big enough the heavens are my chair and the uh land is like where I rest my feet wait minute over here for 40 years with mhu hasem says specifically from between the two of the Ark of the testimony that's what I'm going to talk to you tiny little SP tiny little small I want talk to you never once did he complain to m m know give me a pick a room no you have the whole desert you have the whole desert no stop being so cheap give me a little room no he said D said all I want is this little spot and this I'm going to talk to you 40 years no complaints not one time did he say it's too small not one time did he say perfectly happy with it makes makes a huge giant land lots of Holiness lots of beauty one times did the math of how much money was spent just on to open it the celebration the grand opening the grand opening of the BET mikash 120 million $120 million inot $120 million grand opening we uh celebrate because we donated $5,000 to the B $120 million just to open the mikdash just to open it imagine every day but hasem says it's not big enough for me the heavens is my chair the land is where I rest my feet what happened so says there was a guy very frustrated ran in the middle of the streets trying to teach people musar from his life he says when my wife and I were happy we used to be able to sleep on the tip of a knife now that we're not happy even a bed that's 50 yards long is not enough so the he was screaming all over the place trying to teach people lives for you know happiness happiness happiness say you're not teaching any what you're saying is already written on Tor what do you mean what how he says look whenu built a tabernacle hasem says I'm going to talk to you in a space that's a sign of size of a hand and he never complained for 40 hem never complained for 40 years build him a huge mikash say it's not big enough for me the whole Heaven is not big enough I'm that's my chair just the heavens and the land is just for my feet what's what's the what's the obviously does form or likeness of this is figuratively speaking so what's he what what we're learning here when Hashem is happy with us when hasem is happy with us he only needs a small little space in our life he knows that we have a small little space we make a permanent spot for hem we have true love for hem we have true connection to hem he doesn't ask for too much why we glute them we want them there he wants to be there we want them there finished there's true love between us we're not pretending to be religious we're really religious we're not pretending to do what he wants we want to do what he wants therefore it looks like it's small what he really wants from us it's small it's not too much what does he really want from us but when there's no love when it's not pure when there's issues all the space in the world is not going to be enough when you and your wife are happy it doesn't matter if you have money or not it doesn't matter if you have kids or not is a matter of anything why you're happy to be next to each other you could sit next to her she could sit next to you for five hours say nothing you still be happy as can be when you're not happy it doesn't matter how much money in the world you have it doesn't matter how many kids you have it doesn't matter what job you have it doesn't matter anything it's always going to be noticeable that you're next to each other you're like I can't wait till he leaves I can't wait till she goes to sleep why you're taking up my space you're taking up my air I I breathe less when you're he you can't wait till she leaves she can't wait till he goes to sleep goes to work oh you go to work go to work honey what Shabbat I can't work oh no maybe no no l if you work on Shabbat go to go I just came back from okay okay go to sleep go to sleep why she want you out of the house why cuz you're as sub she wants you out of the house cuz you're asab you're not acting like a human being she doesn't want to be next to you what's what was the biggest M we learned from this when Hashem takes priority in our life then in reality we understand how much he's doing for us and we realize that it's not only is he not obligating us to do anything everything that he's giving us is good for us it's not hard to be religious it's not hard to come to it's not hard to learn toah it's not hard to do what he wants why we know it's all a cure for us we have a deficiency he's giving us constant cures we have something wrong he providing the solution so you don't feel like doing what he wants is difficult why it's a cure all need it's like it's like it's a small it's a it's a small amount that doesn't occupy any space but when you're doing it for the wrong reasons or you don't even know what the reason is it looks like everything is like too big going to is too much keeping Shabbat is too much having kids is too much making kosher money is too much everything is too much everything is too much it's all a big burden oh now I have to wear a dress that's this big oh now I have to cover my hair with a scarf oh now I have to only work six days a week oh now I have to have kids oh now I have to give oh everything is all everything is too big everything is too hard everything is so difficult I can't believe why why is so difficult because you don't realize it's a cure you think you have a better cure now this all stems from lack of appreciation lack of appreciation for what he's already given you now no one needs to be embarrassed cuz I'll raise my hand too who here thinks generally that one of their good character traits or in general they believe that they are a grateful person like if somebody did good to for you you know how to say thank you you are grateful for them whatever they did for you whether they gave you a pen or they gave you a car or they gave you $5 bucks or anything who here thinks that generally one of their they're overall a grateful person if somebody did you a favor you don't you're not one of those people that forgot that they do a favor like they owe you something you know how to say thank you who here thinks that they're grateful were you're ungrateful no no all of you all of you all of you are ungrateful that's all my so let me ask you something I learned this this is a this is a high level this is you don't have to worry about if you don't pass cuz uh in reality if we all get to this I'm about to tell you we don't need sh anymore we need something else but this just to understand of how far we are from reality now if somebody gave you a penny somebody gave you a penny because you wanted to write a k you wanted to write a new insight you wanted to write a business plan you wanted to write a of the T something you wanted to write something important obviously not writing the grocery list whatever even if you want to write the grocery list whatever you needed a pen he had you your guy next to you or the woman next to you had a thousand of them sitting next to her a nice bucket she had a th000 pens so it's not like you took away from her writing ability she didn't lose anything by giving it to you she or he gave you a pen you needed a pen you can I borrow a pen for a few minutes and they gave you a pen pen not saying million dollars now when you view after you wrote what you wrote do you what do you see that she G what did she give you what' she give you you guys have to sleep what she give you what she give you a pen now when you say thank you to her when you feel gratitude in your heart what are you grateful for okay so you wrote down okay why what she give you ability a pen right so what are you grateful for the pen that she gave you what else are you grateful for generosity generosity she gave you the pen but she had a thousand of them okay so she gave you a pen and she's generous to give you a pen okay guys stop being full of it in reality if she didn't give you the pen you'd ask the next guy for the pen let's don't be over righteous here if you if she didn't give you the pen you'd ask the next guy for a pen you ask the guy from the store to give you a pen what did she give you a pen or she didn't give you a pen she give you a pen what do you when you say thank you what are you saying thank you for okay you're saying thank you for kindness of the pen T bottom line saying thank you for what for the pen what else are you saying thank you for in reality not in your imagination of what you're pretending to be right now I'm telling you in reality somebody gave you a pen what are you saying thank you for just a pen just a pen you think thank you for anything else later on when you think about you have the K that you wrote you have the Insight when you wrote the Insight now you're publicize it to the world whatever Insight you have the business plan theph Tor whatever you wrote you publicize to the world are you going to think about her or him that give you the pen is she a partner in what you wrote she is did you say thank you because she's a partner in what she wrote that means you don't believe she's a partner then so what are you saying thank you for the pen her effort the what effort she had a thousand pens she can tell you take whatever you want what effort she has th000 P next to you wrote but if somebody no no no no if we're not talk we're not figuratively speaking we're talking about reality what are we we us us us not the somebody that somebody else I'm talking about us right now somebody gave you a pen she had a thousand a bucket of a thousand pens in front of her meaning that when you took a pen out of her bucket it did not cause her any losses you took up she said can I have a pen she said yes please have a pen do me a fa have the pen you took the pen you wrote Whatever you wrote it could be a Torah Insight it could be a uh your shopping list it could be a business plan whatever it is later on you gave me the pen back thank you very much I wrote what I wrote you used I don't know a uh a tenth of an ounce of ink she's not suffering because of lack of ink the pen went back into the bucket now she has a complete bucket she had a th000 then it was $9.99 now it's back to a th000 minus a tenth of an ounce of ink she didn't lose much you went on your way you showed the world hey guys I wrote this K and this is the K that I have I wrote this business plan and this is the business plan that I have I wrote the shopping list this is the shopping list that I have when you tell the world about this list that you have or this plan that you have or this K that you have are you also going to tell oh and by the way this plan was all thanks to the pen that the lady with 1,000 pens gave me okay there's one honest person in this entire place he said the truth he said the real truth of what we are he does you don't even remember meaning myself too I don't even remember that she even existed forget that she gave me the pen we don't even remember that she existed that she even gave us the pen why she had a thousand pens what is she what's the big deal remembers are you AEM I'm not either we're talking about we're talking about us guys we're not talking about trying to beu trying to talk about reality of us how do we fix us fixing hasem we don't have to fix okay hold on hold on guys let me I'll finish the point don't kill my my thunder here let me understand here understand the reality the reality is that we're all we're all ungrateful why the fact that she gave us the pen we think she gave us a pen she didn't lack anything she had a thousand of them so it's not like she needed the pen and she stopped her life for the pen and we wrote whatever we wrote we're thinking at best case scenario at best if you're sadik you're sadik you're going to tell people by the way whatever I wrote I got a pen from her that's someone that's righteous someone that's abrah ainu you're going to say by the way guys this whole thing this whole lecture two and a half hours I'm talking I wrote everything I wrote somebody gave me the pen best case scenario best case scenario I told you somebody give me the pen in reality I'm not telling you anything in reality I I wrote no I for I forgot myself that somebody give you the pen in reality but what's the real reality what's the the math of hasem is that this person that gave you the pen is 100% per a partner in every single outcome that comes out of that ink of the pen that she didn't care to give you meaning not just what you wrote but what happened from what you wrote you wrote a you now wrote on a little Postage and now you're G to tell people hey by the way you have to do because I have the spoke to in a thing what was a small little space and all of you guys say wow I have to do chuva now why CU everything adds up in your head you do chuva you do chuva what happens your life changes now you go home you talk to your husband hey husband hey wife you have to do chuva he does chuva also hey husband wife tell the kids they do chuva each one of them does a mitvah when every day now why chuv every day every day do he wakes up husband all of a sudden puts feeling on the morning then another then another few then he goes to eat something another Mitzvah before he eat apple another Mitzvah then he goes to the bathroom another mitvah and what do the kids do the kids look little ducks they follow the father oh oh he does we're going to do why so he does feeling we're going to do feeling he does we're he does am we're going to do am now the wife is going do why because the husband's lay how she not going to cover head if he's do so now how could I wear how could I wear logically with a mini skirt can't wear a Min skirt if you if you think with your brain if you think with something else then it's if your K is only a style you're going to wear a Min skirt like some people wear K only because they like the fashion they like the way it looks if you wearing because you like the way it looks then it's not a Mitzvah just a fashion statement if you wear K because God told you to then it's a mitvah so now she's wearing a k with a scarf and now she changes her clothes and every time she puts on M clothes a Mitzvah and now they're gonna eat kosher food it's a Mitzvah and now they're going to say and now the kids are going to grow up and make more and more MIT and then they're G to have kids and they're going to get married and they're G have married and then kids and then they and who's the partner in all this the lady with the pen the woman with the pen are you sleeping the woman with the pen the woman with the pen what theem what the woman with the pen what about the made the the company that made the pen and probably them too the woman with the pen the woman with the pen is 100% a partner in every single thing you did you forgot she even exists give me the pen what's the big deal what I use a little ounce half a tenth of an ounce of ink this is critical when you tell people do K give people CDs get sponsor a th000 CDS get people even if 990 of them get thrown in the garbage 10 people actually listen to them one out of those 10 does cha you want you want 310 people think it's a joke they don't realize they don't understand what it means somebody with a pen with a pen by accident gave you a pen you ended up writing a they got themselves for what for giving you a pen what's the source this all sounds nice sounds nice right what's the source now let's understand why this is good and also dangerous at the same time first we'll start with the good when you understand the value of things when you understand the value of everything you understand that there's even a pen can carry an eternal value you start being more careful of who you ask for what little by little you start realizing you could only ask One Source Who Hashem you don't ask people for anything anymore Hashem I need to get money send money hasem I need uh car send car AEM I need a parking spot send parking spot why first of all you realize he's the only one that can really provide all this stuff he may send you a person he may send you the money through a person he may send you the card through a person he may send you the house through a person but you didn't ask the person you asked the Shem you ask AEM for everything why number one you realize he's the only source that can provide everything that's number one but that's logical you don't need to assum for that what's the second reason you realize that if you ask the person if you ask a person you're not going to appreciate enough if you ask a person for anything you by default are not going to appreciate it enough why because you don't look at things that way you look at it that's just a pen you don't look at the outcome of the ink of what happened with the pen and what happened with the speech and what happened with the meeting and what happened with the kids and the kids kids and the grandkids and all the you don't look at all that why you're just trying to do chva right now trying to survive trying to get GED you're not thinking about what happened to all the things yet after sure you will but you're simply thinking he gave me a pen which means you're not going to appreciate what anybody gives you enough you're not going to appreciate anything by default you're not going to appreciate enough you're GNA think oh you just give me a phone I can I make a phone call from your phone yeah sure how many people ask you every time every time you're in the street some oh can I make a phone call from your phone okay oh thanks you make a phone give it back finished what's the big deal give me a phone can you text my mom for yeah sure what's the big deal I text it didn't cost them anything it's unlimited oh can you send an email to this one for me can you give me a ride can you spot me five bucks and I'll give it back to you later on we just think it's just $5 or it's just an email it's just a text because that's the way we look at things when it's purely based on desire I had a desire you satisfy my desire as soon as I you satisfy my desire I forgot about my desire I was hungry you fed me as soon as you fed me I'm no longer hungry so I'm not thinking about how I felt before I was hungry I'm thinking I'm just not hungry that's it it's finished I'm no longer thinking about oh I'm not hungry because you I was hungry but you're the one that gave me the food because naturally without deep deep M I'm only going to think things based on desire as soon as the desire is satisfied it's as if it never happened which means if we ask things from people the first fear we need to have why didn't we ask for from Hashem because he's really the only source second fear now that we know we're not going to appreciate it enough what's the third fear the third fear is the worst one the third fear is you do know you do know the magnitude of the ice cream that he gave you or the pen that he gave you or the folder or the what whatever he gave you you do know the value of it but now you realize I can never pay him back why let's say he gave me a pen gave me a pen I wrote a k later on in a week I noticed he needed a pen I gave him 10 pens and he also wrote A K in fact he wrote 10 I wrote One insight I wrote One business plan or one t or whatever I wrote and he wrote 10 that doesn't mean I paid him back why my one had much more impact in the world than his did he gave me a pen the ink from his pen had a magnitude that affected a million people my 10 pens only affected 10 people I'm still in debt why look at how much is pay did meaning when you know the value of it you're always going to feel I can never I can never pay him back if you understand it you start becoming grateful why every single time somebody does anything for you you're like you know what you're such an amazing thank you so much why just give your right big deal was going there anyway no no you don't understand if you didn't give me a right I would have never got that what do you mean you had five bucks you probably pay Uber to give you maybe the would have picked up the point is I got here now because of you the point here I wrote this because of you the point I ate this because of you had it not been you it maybe would have never happened to such an extent that thear says actually the um sorry the says says when someone goes and buys groceries groceries in the store he should say thank you with a full heart to the person that he the cash register why he's doing him the cash register is doing you Ultra kindness why Ultra kindness if you didn't take your money and give you a receipt you would never have food what do you mean I would just use somebody else who says who says you would have gotone to someone else who says you would have got to another store meaning the cash register is responsible for you eating that's that's that's that's this is how far we are from the the truth it's deep if you understand what I'm saying to you it's deep so now on one end we realize that all we really want is to ask Hashem for but then we have to be grateful for hm second thing is we know that if we ask from anything from anyone else we're not going to be grateful anyway which also means we need to be grateful to him third thing is even if we were grateful we know that we can never pay them back why cuz the magnitude of what they did for us we can never pay back even if he gave me a sandwich and I gave him a sandwich in return the effect the sandwich had on me is very different than it had on him it could very well be that it had a much better impact on me now what's the danger in all of this someone that doesn't learn the first 100 musar lessons and just starts over here all of a sudden they're G say hey you know what kind of pen I'm giving you right now I'm changing your life right now with the pen I'm changing your life with this pen don't just say thank you you owe me your life for this pen all of us sudden they going to think everything they do is the most valuable thing in the world everybody owes them and they don't owe anybody else anything so the says what's a good guest and what's a bad guest what's a good guest and what's a bad guest a good guest a good guest you host him for food and he says look at all the amazing food they made in my honor what a good host they made in my honor look at all this food it's all tasty it's all delicious all good wow they made all this food in my honor that's a good guest what's a bad guest what's a bad guest say a bad guest says Ah he was eating anyway it's a big deal so I sat next to him he was eating anyway there food was going to go bad if he didn't give it to me I was doing him a favor that I came over eat because he made too much food he made too much food anyway so I did him a favor by eating it that's a bad guest what's a bad guest and what's a good guest a good guest you give him a watermelon he says wow look he bought a watermelon just for me he bought a watermelon just in my honor what a nice guy this is he bought a who would I didn't think about buying him a watermelon but he bought a watermelon just for me what's a bad guess say look how cheap this guy is he knows he has to give me food drink and some snacks so he tried saving money he brought the watermelon the watermelon I can eat the watermelon can be juice and the watermelon seeds we can eat after as a snack look how cheap this guy is that's a bad guest that's a bad guest that's thear says a wicked person a wicked person you know when you have goggles you have the small ones are here and the big ones are far from you so the small small ones make you see things that are far near if you turn it around and you look through the big ones then whatever is near looks far because that's that's a wicked person and a righteous person a righteous person righteous person sees his things it's far away whatever he did it doesn't have so much significance I did him a favor but how much who knows how much I really owe him what do you mean just met the guy who knows maybe he does something for me before I even met him before I even recognized him a righteous person sees everything that everybody else does for them wow that's a big deal thank you very much for giving me a ride thank you very much for $5 thank you very much for uh calling me thank you very much for visiting me thank you everything is a big deal that's a righteous person a wicked person everything they do is the biggest deal in the world but everything that everybody else does he was doing it anyway I was doing him a favor I kept him company I kept him company why he was going to eat anyway I kept him company what's the big deal everything they do is a big deal everything everybody else does so what you know a few people like this few what's the source we have to have a source now we said what I just said right now 58a we said all these things from what's the original Source even before this in page 56b says there was a city named L lse and the city had a special Merit Mal was not allowed to enter meaning whoever lived in that City can never die no no death whenever someone got sick of Life they didn't want to live anymore they lived already 500 years thousand years they got sick of Life said oh they left the city they would go to the Border it's like committing suicide soon as they left the Border they would die other than that no one ever died the story of schl found out that two of his servants two of his dear servants were going to die he heard the was going to kill two of his servants what can I do what can I do to save them from say what do you think smartest man of all time what do you think ah let's send him to lose no one ever dies and lose if I if I can get to lose before tomorrow can't touch them so immediately got everybody together get these two guys go go go go go go get him over there get him to lose get him to lose get him to lose get him to lose and he thought he just did the best thing in the world he just fooled the Mal and then he sees the Mal show up and he's laughing and so happy he's not scared us we just say where he's scared says why you so happy cuz oh you know what an amazing day I'm having what do you mean you're having an amazing day cuz ah you wouldn't believe it I was so upset earlier today but right now I'm having an amazing day CU why were you upset because you know I had a decree from shamim to kill two of your buddies two of your buddies two of your servants I had to kill them I was so upset so why are you happy now why are you happy because I just killed him goes what do you mean hold on a second what do you mean because no I was upset because the decree in sham was that I could only kill them if they got to the border of lose and I said to myself how could I convince you to send them to lose but you did it for me you send them to lose so I was able to take the no getting away from the no getting away now the city of L how did it get this Merit how did it get this Merit that no one ever dies it's a real City how do we get this Merit how when Yeshua benun afteru took control he sent some some spies to go spy out the land before they went into he went to send some people go check out the land to who's there we're going to have to war we have to fight we have go check out some things and they got to a certain place they got to lose and they asked the guy over there which way to which way to and says the guy says with his head and some say he just pointed he just pointed others say he just did nodded with his head like that direction that direction that's it and that direction was right and they got is the says for that the city of lse got benefit what benefit no one ever died why why so much all he did was like this maybe had a twitch all he did was Point well big deal he pointed he even say go over there he just pointed noted his head what's the big deal this is the source of not for sh hasem did not calculate like we calculate ah he just gave him a pen ah he just pointed he didn't calculate it that way he doesn't calculate it that way what isem how does he calculate he said look at what this guy did he nodded his head they got is when they got there what they do they did breit every breit goes to after everybody goes to goes to over there goes to everything go everything goes to his how could I pay him no one can ever die that's how much hasem wants to reward us for the smallest things that you think are in significant hasem wants to give you not just the reward for what you did but also the outcome of what you did but just like it is that way it's also the opposite and that's the scary part that is the scary part it says says that the person that gets used to not being grateful from his friends his friend lend him a few dollars he like ah he's Rich big deal he's Rich he's got $10 million he lend me 500 bucks big deal his friend gave him a car ah he was going that direction anyway we work in the same place it say his friend uh called him just say hello how you doing just to check on him so what so he had nothing to do he called me his wife cooked them breakfast ah she had to eat also what's the big deal she had to eat she made me an extra egg she's no no I bought the egg anyway big deal to such an extent his wife was intimate with him and he enjoyed it what enjoyed it an animal enjoys it he enjoyed it even for that he forgot to say thank you what do you mean an i a horse is with his uh mate he enjoys it what it's a physical thing it's a physical thing big deal what you enjoyed it you didn't say thank you you're no different than the horse you enjoyed it you didn't say thank you well you think it's it's given she owes it to you you no different than a horse anyone that's un becomes used to is acclimated it's part of him to just everybody owes me something the whole world owes you the whole world is uh everything is mine everything is mine he says he forgets to say thank you small thank you thank you for breakfast thank you for $5 thank you for the sandwich thank you for uh Tak my money so I could take the groceries simple thank yous we're not talking about big thank you he just gave you a house simple thank you thank you for sitting next to me so we could learn to together thank you for the thank you for allowing me to donate thank you for donating thank you for selling me the shirt thank you for folding the shirt thank you for laundering the shirt simple thank yous anyone that forgets these tiny little thank yous in the end he's going to forget to say thank you to for what for everything the small thank yous big thank yous why you need a help for the big thank yous the guy just gave you a house for free you're not going to say thank you the donkey is going to start talking and say thank you the donkey say thank you you gave me a house Donald Trump you gave me a house the guy with the story everybody knows the story Donald Trump gave some guy a house or something like that why you think he didn't say thank you of course I said Thank you donkey would say thank you we're not talking about the big thank yous we're not talking about saying thank you to your boss that gave you a raise of 70% that's the easy part the donkey would say it we're talking about saying thank you for breakfast thank you for saying hello thank you for checking on me thank you for being with me someone that forgets these tiny little thank yous is a is ungrateful to his friend in the end he's ungrateful to the Mak what's Mak the is ungrateful for everything forgot to say thank you to who Yik and came to leadership and forgot who YF is what do you mean forgot he built a country he forgot to say thank you he forgot to say thank you to your when mosu came to him and he said ahem told us to uh God told us to go serve him he goes who's God who's God what do you mean who's God you don't know who's God would you think he came Me by yourself it started with he didn't say thank you to your he didn't say thank you to yourself after you put him on the map after you gave him all the money you forgot who God was this is also the reason why the Tora says when someone is a and there's a a wayward son that doesn't listen to his parents they kill him why they kill him if he's already ungrateful to his parents as a child it's only a matter of time before he's ungrateful to hasem better to kill him now before he makes bigger SS he as a he us a I'm sorry Shabbat page 31a somebody came to him and said teach me the entire T guy wanted to convert teach me the entire t on one leg on one foot and he let us tells him don't do to others what you hate being done to yourself seems pretty simple if you hate it don't do it to other people simple enough it's not even he's not even telling them the big law that R AKA said love your brother as you love yourself don't even love him just don't do what he hates just don't do what he hates he says that's the entire T just don't do what other people hate why is that the entire Torah how is that the entire tor you have you have Shabbat you have koser you have you have everything how is that the entire T how how is just not doing what other people hate the entire T how is it first rule realize you're not alone first rule empathy start thinking about the world around you you're not alone of course realize that you would be here if your wife wasn't as good to you as she is realize you wouldn't be here if your husband wasn't good to you as he is realize you wouldn't be here if your parents weren't as good to you as they are realize you wouldn't be if your kids weren't as good realize that there's people around you you have workers employees bosses vendors Partners you're not alone even the teller at the cash register you're not alone empathy start realizing there's a world around you there's a world around you if you you realize you just realize for a second there's a world around me then I start thinking about the world around me oh when I'm extra noisy that probably annoys other people so I should probably not be noisy why do people noisy because they think they're alone they don't think about anybody around them there was one student that woke up in the morning thinking he's going to do a Mitzvah he woke up extra early at 3:00 in the morning to go learn T was known to not sleep very much was already up and he saw the student doing the whole thing and he's stepping over his friends and he's washing his hands and he's thinking he's gonna go he's G to do a lot of good things after he walks out of the room says them why you a thief why you starting your day with stealing what steal what I steal going you're Thief why are you stealing what I steal why you stealing everybody else's sleep why you making so much noise just because you want to go learn to doesn't mean they have to suffer you're making all this noise it's better you don't learn this extra Torah and than wake them up and steal sleep from them people think that they're alone in the world they're alone in the world they think that I'm going to do whatever I want and everybody else has to like it also they forget there's a world around them not everybody likes the smell of your food some people bring their food from their culture to the office and yes it may taste delicious to you and it may smell delicious to you but the entire office is suffering why maybe they don't like Curry maybe they don't like chulent maybe they don't like whatever you came from your country they don't like it why do they have to suffer because you want to eat you want to eat sardines on your office desk the whole 500 people have to suffer because you want to eat sardines you think you're a dolphin why does everybody have to suffer because you're a dolphin why why why don't you care because you're selfish because we're selfish we think no why wouldn't they like it you should be asking why would they like it just because you want to eat something doesn't mean everybody else has to suffer or people know they they like to put you know some people they want to put five five pounds of perfume on they don't want to just smell good they want everybody else to know it including the people that pass by on traffic including the people on the highway they want to make sure that everybody knows that they have a DOL gaban on the guy the highway he's driving 90 M hour just what's that smell oh it's the car next over we just passed it he has 5 lbs of of of of of of perfume on maybe they don't like it maybe they don't like your perfume maybe it's disgusting to them why does everybody have to smell you no why it smells good to you it smells good yeah my wife like it to her too so what doesn't mean the rest of the world too doesn't mean the rest of the world's also going to like the smell you have to understand there's a world around you before you do anything realize not what do I want how is it going to affect the people around me you may want to speak really loud on the phone you may like to speak speak really loud on the phone because you're a loud person like I am loud person but doesn't mean that everybody else wants to listen to your conversation people love to talk about their stuff on the phone extra loud yeah yeah yeah I just bought it yeah the 50,000 yeah yeah by the way there the operator on AT&T's on the other line says sir you didn't pay your bill but in reality said yeah yeah I bought a 50,000 yeah yeah 5,000 yeah yeah they talk big they want everybody to know they have money in reality they have five bucks in their pocket yeah yeah I just brought 50,000 shares yeah for sure what you want 100,000 okay sure sir what are you talking about you just have to pay your AT&T bill but in reality what the guy even if he has the 50,000 who wants to who cares about it maybe the guy that's listening to it can't pay his mortgage maybe the guy is listening to you he's listening you just bought 50,000 shares of some stupid company for a million dollars and the guy me scar he doesn't have food to feed his kids and he doesn't have the the audacity to go ask you for a loan he doesn't know you and he's eating his heart he's thinking about committing suicide and you're talking about I just bought $500,000 worth of stuff oh yeah yeah that car yeah I'm gonna get it tomorrow why does he have to learn it why do you have to tell him why why is it his business why is it the world's business what you do why does everybody else have to listen to your phone conversation people talk so loud on the phone on the bus on the train in the offices they tell everybody their business Yeah Yeah I broke up with her yeah yeah she's terrible she's this why you say maybe the other guy was considering marrying her now and now he's not he's not she's been the for the love of his life he couldn't wait for you to break up with her now you broke up with it but you're telling everybody else she's this and she's that and she's this and she's that and this guy say oh if she's all that I don't want to marry this girl you just destroyed thousands of thousands not one thousands of n you destroyed why he was going to marry her they were going to have kids the kids were going to have kids the kids were going to have kids the kids were going to have kids thousands of remember just like the pen just like the pen it's not just what you wrote with the pen it's what's the outcome of the pen so you your loud mouth that you broke up with the you thought you do oh yeah yeah she not good enough no no she wants somebody that's uh lower level no no it's not good enough for me it's not good enough for me you think you're sadik you're good she's not good enough for you the other guy was like I couldn't wait for I couldn't wait for this guy to break up the shid but now he's hearing all this from you he's like no no I got to find somebody else she's a troll she's a this she's a that he doesn't want to be with her anymore why because if she's half as bad as what he's saying if she's half as bad as what she's saying is am what is this is she been Jewish be this lady why why why why why you so loud why he so loud sometimes people think that they're in the world alone they think oh listen I'm going to do what I want and everybody else has to just simply uh mind their own business mind their own business even doing something as simple as being on the phone in the middle of a conversation in the middle of a conversation there a conversation people have a conversation you have a meeting you have an office meeting you have an office meeting and you're on the phone to do you're looking on the phone what's the big deal I'm on the phone the boss is not saying anything the boss is not saying anything if the boss is not saying anything what is what do they care it's not their business I'm on the phone what's the big deal automatically every single person that sees you says oh if he's on the phone that means that whatever the boss is saying is not important even if what you're doing on the phone is actually helping the boss no one knows it no one knows the what you're doing is helping the boss no one knows you're the secretary of the boss no one knows anything oh just looks like you care less about what he's talking about and if you care less about what he's talking about why should I care maybe I should play with the phone too maybe I should play with the phone too it's no different with people think no no hold on a second I'll be right back they go walk away make a phone call I'm me make a phone call let make a phone one second make a phone call why phone call is more important than if the phone more important next time I'll just watch on YouTube people do not understand there's a world around them your actions affect the world around you you're thinking why let them mind their own business if they want to be on the phone let them be on the phone too what do I care what you care that's what you're getting paid for to care you get paid to care that's the point if you don't care you're no different than a horse a horse also doesn't care you're going to come back and say you as a horse cuz he doesn't care also so he told the potential converts you want the entire tah start caring about the world around you stop caring about the world around you Now Ra's father he had a uh well-known Miracle two Miracles over 30 years ago in had a car accident where the car rolled over like eight or nine times in the air and he walked out of the car untouched and people came to the car and they kept looking into the car thinking he's also looking thinking he's also looking like where's the guy he died he got crushed he's dead he goes it's me goes what do you mean it's you the guy's dead there's no way goes no no no it's me US unbelievable he tells the story of this miracle happened over 30 years ago and ever since then every every year he has a party where he finishes a an anniversary of this miracle every year for over 30 years he has this celebration now one of the biggest motivations for me start to start speaking in the beginning excuse me and even till this day has been him he's always motivates oh you should speak you should speak before I even thought of even studying he told me I should speak so but next to every great man there must be a great woman you cannot be great by yourself so someone asked one time he like oh you have this big party every year I mean it's not a it's a big party every it's not like they have a lot of money he's an also party every year maybe and she says Shalom that we don't have this party and instead have an annual yard site Shalom that we don't have the party to celebrate the miracle that hasem saved his life and instead have a yard site instead people have yard sites all the time people die and you remember them every year they do Al they sell things in a big for them they have dinners they have lunches they have sud all these things oh in memory of the so and so that died last year so and so that died two years ago so and so that 50 years ago and people have this for their parents for their brothers for their sisters and so on and so forth it happens it's part of life the started as a yard site just like we're supposed to do the yard sit to in memory and to elevate the souls that left us what about the Miracles of why the fact that we're here the Miracles of what's happening to you now how many times did hasem save your life how many times did hasem give you another gift how many times did hasem give you this and give you that when are you celebrating that or you just said thank you one time and you finished he said thanks hasem appreciate it and sometimes that we forgot ah he was doing it anyway he was doing it anyway he was running the world anyway so he so what he was running the world anyway remember we forgot how do we get to such a horrible ungrateful level that we forgot to say thank you to hem for giving us a kid we forgot to say thank you to hm for giving us a wife or a husband forgot to say thank you to to give us life to save our life time and time again how many times did you almost hit somebody or somebody almost hit you how many times did you almost eat something you weren't supposed to how many times did you almost fall how many times you almost die die how many times almost a lot of times most people a lot of times how many times you say thank you how many times you say thank you y site we remember somebody died remember why don't we remember life because we forgot to say thank you to one of our friends forgot to say thank you to our husband to our wife to our kids to our we forgot to say thank you to people we forgot to say thank you to people we forgot to say thank you to hm you want the entire Tor start saying thank you so it's says it says something extraordinary unbelievable this is as blunt as can be says a man a man is an animal has animal instincts when he is with a woman doesn't matter she's big small this that in essence he's going to enjoy it regardless there's a pleasure that happens if a man Shalom goes to a prostitute prostitute at the end what is he going to do he's going to pay her and say thank you for what for giving him pleasure for 5 seconds or whatever it was the Pres that's why he say thank you to someone that made him sin but nonetheless he enjoyed it he say thank you for that but his wife his wife his wife that brought kids to the world his wife that tolerates him every day his wife that that cooks and cleans and and deals with his craziness every single day he's not even want to make her an omelet his wife asked him give me a ride to to to the store please I'm busy I'm tired his wife he forgets not forget thank you the prostitute say thank you but his wife oh no no I'm too busy I'm too this I'm too stressed I'm too tired I'm too this I'm too that same applies to the women too by the way we think the world owes us something to strangers will say thank you in a second yeah yeah thank you for what thank you you gave me a sandwich the guy sold you a sandwich he sold you a sandwich in the corner you say thank you to him but the wife that made you the sandwich no you say thank you to the to the person that uh sold you shoes but the husband that gave you money for the shoes no you didn't say thank you why yeah he made money anyway he owes me didn't he write on the that he's going to give me money we forget to say thank you simple thank you simple thank you and to finalize it all is this said you want the entire to start empathizing start realizing that everyone is around you there's a world around you when you play with your phone in the middle of a people around you are noticing when you are cheap people are noticing when you are uh looking in a different direction instead of your wife people are noticing when you don't take things seriously at work people are noticing your Behavior affects the world a reality there's an outcome you didn't take it seriously therefore he didn't take it seriously when he didn't take it seriously he decided you know what I got to make quick money instead so if this job is not serious I got to do something else he decides that he's going to go rob a bank so he starts murdering and killing people why because he needed to make money and he even though he could have made money at the company he thought that because you weren't paying attention it's not a serious place to make money so you decideed to become murderer instead who's who's do you think that goes on to just his no also goes on yours why you didn't take it seriously just like the good also the bad just like the good also the bad just like hasm wants to give you the credit of for Lending somebody a pen you're also going to give you judgment for for for not the is the the depth of the judgment is significant he wants to give you good like you wouldn't believe how much good he wants to give you but he wants you to fulfill the entire Tor which means empathize look there's a world around you so now the is this the ram as we said in the beginning said that before mashia comes it's going to be 15 days of darkness 15 days of darkness and only those that are glued to hem are going to survive now after after the mashia is here after goog after all the craziness hem promises he's going to slaughter the he's going to slaughter the Satan he's going to slaughter the what does this mean what does it mean to have a world without what does it mean to have a world without what does it mean to have a world without the Satan what we just live forever that's what it means that's it that's it what else does it mean what else does it mean to have a world without it what's what's what happens what happens is a world without is a world where everyone is grateful once you're grateful Hashem wants to give you eternal life like lose once you're grateful there's no reason for the to kill you once you're grateful you're acknowledging there's a world around you you're acknowledging that you have to do good for them and therefore you're going to acknowledge once you're grateful has no control over you Satan has nothing to do with you yet goes on vacation a permanent one why you're grateful for everything that's happening both from above and the one that's next to you once you're grateful to everything you're already in ganed you're already in Gan it's time that we all understand that being grateful is not just saying thank you not just saying thank a monkey can say thank you also you train him he'll say thank you a parrot could say thank you also start understanding that there's a world around you your behavior affects others and there's an outcome there's a action there's a reaction there's a cause there's an effect there's things that happen if we're more grateful for the things that Hashem is giving us life becomes much much more pleasurable much much more pleasurable the difficulty cease to exist why because you realize that everything that's happening is from him if it's from him it must be good and if it's good what are you complaining about any questions the those people are usually not going to watch the shield because people that think that you owe them their life are usually not going to want to learn from anybody else the most dangerous people are people that don't even know that they don't know but on a on a um exaggerated level we say that somebody that uh is wicked will do little things and think that they owe you that you owe them your life the reality is is that whatever people do for you you have to be grateful for and there is really no limit um and you get rewarded for that gratefulness you get rewarded for what you're doing but it gets to a point where everyone has a threshold where if let's say for example somebody lent you a pen in the beginning he wants to break your uh break your chops a little bit you know what I do with this pen this pen changed your life look what you wrote with the pen look at it so if you now start react you say you know what you're right you changed my life with this pen thank you with the pen and every 5 Seconds you say you know what thank you for the pen and the next day thanks for the pen and the next day thanks for the pen you know that pen changed my life after a while after a week okay okay it wasn't that much I did for you he's going to get sick of it why because he at the end of all the wickedness all the kip that he has he also has a conscience and he knows it's not right at the end you okay I didn't do that much I was just kidding okay enough enough you said thank you enough no problem enough so that's the reality but the point is that it's a getting ourselves used to asking Hashem for everything is the first lesson second lesson is to understand that when somebody does give something to you anything you should be extremely grateful third thing is to realize that even if you're grateful it's probably not enough because the magnitude of what he did for you is unlimited unlimited so always always have this nature where you're grateful and never be ungrateful never be ungrateful I mean to such an extent that some of the I mean there's many stories like this where You' have some of the they would actually get people would actually do bad things to them and they would say thank you to them oh thank you for being y thank you for being the hand of hem that got me to do chuva that uh this is when somebody really truly understands uh who's running the world when somebody who in a false religion is trying to be grateful by giving 10% of income to these AC well the only mitvah that's associated with idolatry is to destroy it so thear says that someone that comes to become purified Hashem gives him a hand someone that uh comes to become imp purified hasem opens the door for meaning he even helps him with that so when someone is looking for falsehood and he's looking for a spiritually lazy religion when he's looking for a shortcut to ganeden that doesn't exist hasem says oh you want a shortcut when we both know it doesn't exist why you think that you're just going to give some money and I'm just going to go you know and and make everything appear no problem everyone knows it's all Hocus Pocus it's all nonsense but you're going to fool yourself by this guy's Charming speech and you're going to believe that if you give 10% of your money to this idolatry everything is going to be fine you're going to fool yourself into it because no one really believes it no problem I'm G to help you I'm even going to give you more money to do it why bigger sin I'm G to help you make bigger sins and this actually abai is what the rambam says the rambam says that the there is a um a certain level of sin where a person gets to such a point that hasem decides he doesn't want their chuva doesn't want their chuva now in chapter 4 it says that there are four such people that have made such sins or making such sins that hm does not want to accept their Chua someone asked me I think you asked me this question a week or two ago about who Hashem does not want their cha and it wasn't relevant back then now it's relevant it's important to know who these four people are because the reality is we could be one of them people think that they could work their whole life keep shabat keep T keep keep kosher and they have they don't realize they could potentially be one of these four people one of these four people that Hashem will not allow them to do chuv may they could keep Shabbat they could keep kosher but full cha is's not going to have which means a problem who are these four people first one one who someone who causes the masses to sin causes other people to sin which also includes somebody who holds back other people from performing MIT so let's say for example there one guy that says you know people want to have a sh T and he gets in the way of the sh T and he gets the to cancel the that's a person that caused other people to not make a mitvah the opposite is someone a woman that walks around immodest she causes men to sin or a uh a guy that does bad things and causes other people to sin he has a strip club or a bar or something like that such people cause the masses to sin cause other people to sin but it could also be a rabbi that tells people nothing he gives the motivational lectures to do nothing instead of telling them to do chuva he gives them a motivational lecture to stay exactly the same everybody's a sadik everybody's great you're all fine you're all perfect you're all amazing just give more make check payable to all the instructions of who to make the check payable too he knows it he's good at it he's but to tell him to actually do CH to keep shabat and to stop looking at their phones and all those other things he doesn't do he doesn't do that all he does is tell people that they're that's such a person that's the first one second one second one to be is not so difficult by the way it's very simple to be all you got to do is just make a comment on the internet don't listen to this Rabbi anymore he's an idiot that's it simple comment five words five words this happens to me at least once or twice a day somebody tells me I'm an idiot now if somebody actually listens to these people and stops listening remember like the pen like lose action reaction reaction reaction never ending somebody was going to listen but he heard that his friend said oh this guy's an idiot now he doesn't realize that the idiot was the only one who was going to help him do chuva now he doesn't do chuva he marries a Goya she marries a go they have little goyish kids they're they don't know what's the truth they die what happens to them all of it original why made a comment on Facebook he's an idiot no but I kept Shabbat good for you and Shabbat G will turn off the fire and Shabbat for you no that's what happens that's what it says somebody keep Shabbat on Shabbat they turn off the fire and G because he kept Shabbat he still has G forever though but just in Shabbat there's no for them they sent him to the mountains of of a of of ice over there and he comes back with he steals the ice so that's the first one is very very simple very simple very simple to cause other people to sin second one who leads his fellow man astray from the path of good to that of bad for example one who's a missionary what missionary Christianity or any other religion or even atheism meaning all of these missionaries that are thinking that they're doing good these are people that hm is not going to allow them to do chuva now sometimes these missionaries are from different religions sometimes these missionaries are actually Jews like these two idiots Israelis that have one for Israel organization they Mission specifically against Israelis they look for Israelis to bring them back to JC Penney or this other guy uh uh something the pig the pig guy he uh he looks like a pig a little bit but anyway he his whole focus is to bring Jews to JC Penney these people there's no Chua for them third one who sees his son becoming associated with evil influences and refrains from rebuking him since his son is under his authority were he to rebuke him he would have separated himself from these influences hence by refraining from admonishing his own son it's considered as if he caused him to sin anyone that has children should listen listen to this and read this a thousand times not rebuking your own children tell them no no you can have everything no do what you got to do no I not going to tell him what to do he's GNA learn on his own he's going to learn on his own included in his sin are all of those who have potential to rebuke others whether an individual or a group and refrain from doing so leaving them to their shortcomings all of these rabbis the speakers that want to be famous the rambam writes you a specific Al it's just for you customade you don't want to rebuke people no problem you yourself will not do chuva you don't want to rebuke people you don't want to tell them to keep Shabbat you don't want to tell them to not be into married you don't want to tell them to actually do the right thing by hasem and not the right thing by their boss or their wife or their husband or the society you don't want to tell people the truth no problem there's a specific from the r just for you no Chu for you it's not my opinion it's not it's not anybody it's t it's t it's t last but not least this one is the most difficult one why all of us fell for it at some point but we won't anymore because we got out of way what is it one who says someone who says I will sin and then I'll do chuva I'll sin and then I'll do chuva someone who already decides I'm gonna go sin I'll do cha later why the rabbi said that is always gonna accept that cha no we have y coming up in a couple of months what's the problem why I won't do for next couple of months I'll do after what dating the my non-jewish girlfriend no problem I'll date her for a few months I'll throw her out no problem I'll just a little bit little bit let me have some fun let me have some fun with my boyfriend for a few more months let me have some fun with my um the boys at work for a little longer let me have some fun I'm all young after I get married I'll do ch the r says someone who says I will sin and then I will repent I will sin and then I will repent they will not allow him to do CH and does not help him even Yip that helps the entire nation him doesn't help him he can pray from here to next year only white he's wearing on yum all him it doesn't work why you want but you're planting a barbecue next Shabbat already someone someone already plans I'm G to sin and do not that he just makes sin because he falls if you fall you fall but if you are actively planning on sinning no I'm just going to sin and later on I'll do Chua for this meaning you are consciously going to sin not that you fall for it we all fall for sins and no such thing as somewhere it's so righteous doesn't sin everybody sins mosu sinned if it wasn't written we wouldn't be allowed to say it but even mosu sinned in his level everybody sins but someone that consciously decides I'm going to sin and then later on I'll do that is playing not with fire it's playing with the lava of which is 60 times the lava power of the world here this is the lava of all lavas why Hashem says you are treating me worse than a dog cuz even the dog that's tied he's a rottweiler pitbull and he's tied to a chin you're not going to play with him too close why he's going to bite you he's going to bite you if he's trained so he's going to bite you he doesn't know he's going to bite you Hashem says well you going to play You're going to you're going to consciously sin you're going to consciously sin and no no I'm G to do Chua like you're assuming I'm going to wait for your chuva you're assuming I'm just going to forgive it I don't care you're assuming it already you're assuming I'm just gonna it's no big deal it's no big deal to destroy for you it's no big deal it's no big deal to embarrass aem's name in public it's no big deal to be a shabat bebat the says everyone's a Shabbat violate Shabbat I don't care if it's working or it's watching TV or it's smoking cigarettes thear says someone that violates Shabbat is like as if he's going in the middle of the street and says Hashem I don't believe in you that's it's screaming in the middle of the world you have 500 million people watching and you're saying hem I don't believe in you and you're thinking no no wait for me next month I'll do cha next week next month next year when I get married when I have kids when uh I get older and I can't walk anymore and I can't see and I have nothing to do and I'm on my death bed I'll do ch these are critical things these are hard words but this is this is what we got M there's no sugar coating just like hasem wants to give us the ultimate good for the smallest things we didn't even intend on doing the same extent as the other way Everyone likes the first part of the sh the good I lend somebody a pen I geta I get anothera cuz he this and everybody likes the first part of the sh the second part is where it gets tricky the second part is where it gets difficult but that's the reality if it was just the first part all of us would already be we' be lending people pens all day but the reality is there's two two two sides two sides to the coin that's why the whole Torah says it all starts with acknowledge that you're not alone you're not alone there's people around you that are watching you're not alone Hashem is watching you're not alone once you realize you're not alone you already start do cha any questions tomorrow night we have another sh in Miami new crowd new people new subject it's going to be about whatever the people love to talk about which is money the key to there going to be a few surprises and a about uh and then we have a uh Tuesday a regular about the and also Wednesday and thank you again for learning with me mayem continue to bless all of you amen amen [Music] [Applause] [Music] la oh [Music]