Rabbi Uri Lati-Happiness

welcome everyone to happiness it's never too late before i start i'd like to thank robbie and hazak organization for setting this up and for tour anytime of course for streaming it live now this event is geared toward the seniors but really everybody can benefit because what we're going to speak about tonight the shim is a very valuable important lesson for life there's a children's book maybe some somewhat controversial but it's called the giving tree the giving tree is a story a lifelong friendship between a man and a street whereas the tree is a metaphor for perfect altruism the man is a metaphor for perfect selfishness now i compare this to the older generation and to the newer younger generation whereas the older generation was all because they wanted to give that's all they wanted to give from love from ahava from simcha from all they want to do is give the younger generation unfortunately lost some of those values and all they want is to take and take and take now i didn't come to knock the younger generation or to praise the older generation we have to see the difference and somewhat give hezuk some will give some strengthen the older generation because i know throughout this year with the pandemic it was very difficult they weren't able to see their grandchildren they weren't able to leave their house they weren't able to do many things but tonight jim we're here to be hazak to be as they say to strengthen to fortify the older generation ambassador to shame with that the younger generation can learn a very valuable lesson really the difference between the older generation and the newer generation is the difference between the word gola and geulah in hebrew the word gola means exile geulah means redemption now what's the difference the only difference is the aleph whereas goliath what's the difference so the rabbis tell us that alif is if you want to leave from the exile and be merited or to merit to have the redemption all you have to do is one simple task whereas it sounds simple it's easier said than done but that's all it takes and who better than the older generation of yesteryear as they say to teach us which we'll delve into later on we'll expand on later on what's the difference of botai between gola and geology we mentioned hashem wants to dwell amongst people which who are the people what types of people that hashem wants to do i will sit here because they are the people i desire so he says in a sec is the acronym or sin stands for simcha and the last letter is a bit the bit stands for bittacon so we have emunah we have simha we have bittacon tonight i'd like to talk about two of those three because you know as the saying goes two out of three ain't bad so we'll talk about emunah and samha and that's the difference again between gola and geulah if you want to have that merit if you want to have that zahu to leave the exile and to go into the exodus or to go into the redemption the difference between gola and geulah all you need is but along coupled with that because they go hand in hand along with emunah you must have some and the rabbis tell us masses tell us where the intellect ends and starts because believing something you don't see or you don't understand whereas the intellect tells you you have to understand this where the intellect ends and starts but if that's talking about emunah is all in the mind you know being happy is all a matter it's all in the mind it's all a mental thing how do we know because best simcha is the same letters same letters it's only you you can you are the only one who can control to be happy or be depressed god forbid is all is all about you the key is in your hands you can you can open the the gates of happiness oh god forbid lock yourselves into the gates of depression now i'd like to talk about a little bit about if we can think who in history who in our jewish history suffered so much he suffered from his father-in-law he suffered from the jewish people he suffered even from one of his wives he suffered from his children but with all that all he kept on doing every time he had suffering he turned that suffering into song in fact i'll read you a verse and then you'll know who it is so there's a verse that says i came upon trouble and sorrow and i invoked the name of hashem we have similar language in another pasuk i lift up the cup of salvation and i invoke the name of hashem who is that that's david suffered so much in his lifetime as we said before even the jewish people were waiting his death so that so the better meghdash can be can be built by sunshine but with all the suffering that he had he turned that suffering into another predict of telling whether he was running away from his son absalom whether he was running away from shaolin what he was running away from the egg oh or any time he had any troubles in his life the only thing he did or the best thing that he did was turn his suffering into how was his form of salvation how was his form of leaving his personal goal his personal exile what did he do to go into his personal salvation he gave us something called safety elim where we know god forbid we should never know but anytime we hear anybody suffer the first thing that we do is teilim i know before this they had the thailand reading for the tragedy that happened in search of let us hear about very soon but the first thing we do is we open up a sephiroth because that's the only way we leave our gola our personal exile our personal exile to go into our personal exodus but how how how was david melek able to do this how was he able to say up i invoke the name of hashem in my suffering and i invoke the name of hashem in my happiness when everything is going well what kind of level do you have to be on but before we answer this question we have to see with the gemara dream that's king of babylonia he was the one who destroyed the first but mikdash he wanted to sing praises to hashem and in fact over there says if he would have sang praises to hashem his praises would have overshadowed the praises of david melech was about to sing the praises after seeing that the friends of daniel were thrown into the into the furnace and nothing happened to them he was about to sing praises gabriel came and he slapped him on his mouth if he would have merited to sing as we mentioned mentioned earlier excuse me as mentioned earlier if he would have merited to sing the praises of hashem he would have overshadowed the praises that david according to him and we would have had it sounds very strange but we would have had psalms i don't understand i thought this free will this person may be he's a gentile okay he's a wicked person he's a rasha he wanted to sing the praises of hashem why does gabriel come now and slap him on in space it's not fair i i have free will why is god intervening so you know what the kaska rabbi says he was on top of his game he destroyed the better midash he was about to destroy the bitter mikdash he ruled the whole world he was king over the whole world it's easy to sing the praises of god when everything's going your way when you're having a good day when it's a blissful day when the sun is shining in your life it's very easy to thank god but you know when it's hard to thank hashem you know when it's hard to sing telling hashem was very hard for him to see the light in the end of his tunnel with all the adversaries and all the all the opposing people running after him it was hard for him but yet he's still saying tayleem he's still authored he still composed those those chapters wasn't that god almighty was intervening in the life of nebuchadnezzar he was testing him now i'm slapping you on your mouth i'm slapping you on your face i'm giving you a hardship let me see will you sing the praises of god in your hard times or not and we know what happened happening now didn't sing the praises of god because i could only sing the praises of god when everything is happening good in my life so we have to emulate we have to try to copy we have to walk in the footsteps footsteps of david melech teaches us in the bad days or we interpret them as bad days in the dark days in the light days and the happy days and the sunny days we should always thank them i thank you for these days i thank you for the days that were gloomy i thank you for the days that were dark i thank you for the days that i didn't see any light because those are the days i know that you're with me what do you mean you're with me the darkness yes hashem is giving us those dark days because he knows the day on those days when we praise him we merit to have the good days and who better than the older generation to teach us that with everything that happened this year that transpired with everything that is still happening many feel that they're isolated they don't want to leave their house because god forbid what's awaiting them outside but yeah when we see them in the show they're giving us ah they're giving us so much so much they're giving us i came to give you but you're giving me so much izukan i see the we call them the old all the generation but no no no they might be old in age maybe in appearance but they're young at heart they're giving us so much they're strengthening and strengthening us they're showing us that they still come to the shoes they still put on the tiffine they still go up to sever torah they still make what what what uh what uh that's that's a great but how did they get that because they went through those dark days this year was very dark for them they went through their gola but when they come to shu and they show us that they still believe in hashem they still have their emunah how do they still have that because they have simcha on their faces when they're doing it when they have some khan faces that they're doing it that's their personal getula you know rabbi ali medleth of the zhansk says in a sephir no i'm a melee he says in the end of days which is right now in the end of days hashem will bring us down a rope this rope is called now where where in the era of literally means the the the troubles of mashiach the child birth or child pains of birth pangs of mashiach but what does say what does it say he says means hashem in the end of days in our days will bring us down a rope and start shaking this rope and will say come up to me come up to me i want to see who is hanging on to this rope hashem stop shaking the rope and i'll come up i believe in you no no no it's easy to believe in me in the dark days it's much harder to believe in me in the dark days it's much harder but when you believe in me when i shake that rope and it's got haveled my shirt when i shake that rope and and it's unfortunate to say what what happened this year what happened to you whether it was the pandemic whether it was mid on whether it was karlin stalin whether it was the tragedy in surf side whether it was it was in in my own personal community we had so many so many deaths so many tragedies young children excuse me young children i mean things things it's really caught heaven things nobody would have imagined nobody wanted to imagine but hashem says if you're still hanging on in the end of days if you're still hanging on the end of days when i'm shaking this rope you will merit to come out of your own personal gola of your own personal exile and go into your own personal exodus and the question is now we addressed emunah we addressed we addressed emunah we see the emunah on the faces of the old generation they instill into us and not to believe in hashem no matter what happens but how how how how can we really drive this point of emo home so i think if we could explain it with the story that that happens with rabona was once walking by the by the ocean and he saw a person drowning and everybody's trying to save him sending him buoys and telling him give us your hand and he's drowning there wasn't anything to do so rabbunama pushes lopez is by the water and he says send my regards to the liviatan send my regards to the leviathan and this person heard this he couldn't help but chuckle he started laughing and laughing he mustered up the strength and courage and he was able to come to the shore and he was saved so they asked rabona amazing what did you do please i didn't know anything i told him send regards to the leviathan and he started laughing he said but how do you know that would work how did you know that that's what he needed to to stop drowning to be saved from the water he said it's simple you will leave this exile you will merit the salvation if you're happy you merit the salvation so he says i made him happy i saw that he had nothing he wasn't able to do anything he was drowning in the water but i told him send my regards to leviathan to deliver he started lifting so much he got the courage to leave if we have a munna you know again it goes hand in hand because if a person has a muna and hashem it's automatic that he has he cannot have a muna without having some because i believe everything happens for a reason if i ever believe that hashem almighty doesn't make any mistakes hazrat shalom if i believe everything is from my best interest of course i'm happy why would i be melancholy why would i be upset why would i be sad if i know that everything happens for a reason so if i have a munna i have some if i have some i leave this gola and i get to my ulla because of the shin and then like we said like i said you know again everything i'm saying we could connect it with the younger generation but again i say it again who better than the older generation to instill into us believing in hashem no matter what happens and with this maybe we could understand the gemara there is a hebrew with none other than navi imagine that being have root out so he was learning with vienne asked them a simple question when will you come what does that mean but we know lyanna v comes three days before mashiach so he asks him when will you come when will you come he says you're asking me where is mashiach so he tells him the location he goes he goes to mashiach and he asks mashiach the same question when are you coming and mashiach answers him hayyom he runs back to lyanna he says ah mashiach is coming today the day passes night for mashiach doesn't come the next day the same story he goes back to mashiach he knows where he is he asks him when are you coming when are you giving the salvation to ge celebrate he says hayyom i'm coming today he runs bacteria there are versus not getting the message you're not understanding what he's trying to tell you what he told me today he told me hi yom he says no no there's a verse in the limb in psalms authors today if you listen to hashem's word if you heed his word so what was the mashiach trying to tell her to be hoshable it's very apropos what we're saying up until now because all you have is today today if i have emunah today if i have some khat today if i believe in hashem today who cares what happens tomorrow who cares what happened yesterday i have today if you have haiyom if you have a yom you will leave ayom you know we all think mashiach it takes years for mashiach to come and we have to build it could come in a blink of an eye in fact when you're not even thinking about will come but yes yeshua hashem's salvation is like a blink of a lot a blink of an eye excuse me how is it like a blink of an eye because if i believe that hashem could take me out of my suffering in a blink of an eye take me from my gola to get ullah with that alif that olive that's missing the emunah then hashem will take me out and all it takes is a blink of an eye that's what he means all you have is today where do i base this on so i base this on i saw it in the kutemo haran rav nachman abrasive he says in his bit i think it's kedai it's worth to read it for you and then i'll explain it he says when you want to come and serve hashem worship hashem follow hashem this is the main rule you should always remember i came to this world for today for this hour for this minute for the second that's all all i have is this minute because when a person wants to serve hashem person thinks i won't be able to do it six hundred and thirteen minutes what who are you kidding i can't do it we have shalom who can handle this who can who can put this burden on their shoulders when you say all i have to live is for today no no we don't live for tomorrow we don't live for yesterday we live for today he won't feel as a burden at all and if a person really believes in this concept all i have to live is for today he will never use the excuse mahar at hill i'll start tomorrow why don't you do daffy yomi i'll do it tomorrow do it now what do you mean i didn't wake up in the morning so you still have yomi that's yummy doesn't mean that in the morning that fiona means the day you have to do in the morning i'll do it tomorrow what happens tomorrow i'll do it the next day it plagues us so much everybody men women children it takes everybody i'll do it tomorrow get to it today i'll do it tomorrow but tomorrow comes and he's still going to do it and he says i'll pray tomorrow with concentration everything that comes in torah you'll push it for tomorrow only today only this hour only this minute because tomorrow is a totally different day totally different entity who knows if tomorrow will even come you have today you know as we said earlier it's the same letters as martial your mind is so powerful your mind is so powerful because the place tricks on you to make you believe yesterday i lost out yesterday i didn't wake up to show i prayed alone so you know what what's the point if you wake up tomorrow what's the point or it does something like this it says tomorrow okay it's about tomorrow you know tomorrow i don't even know if tomorrow will come tomorrow i don't know if i wake up out of bed you know why even why even start your mind place tricks on you very evil tricks on you very bad tricks on you so what does he say he says past the past happened already and the future didn't come yet him they only exist in my thought process they only exist in my mind the past only exists in my mind the future only exists in my mind but they plague me and that's why the minor says forget about the past forget about the future who cares what you did in the past who cares what will you do tomorrow you have haiyom and you know what the rabbis call this they call this old age don't get me wrong old age is not by years a person can be and be young and can be 15 and be old what does that mean because your mind plays tricks on you because your mind tells you there's no point in worshiping hashem i failed yesterday who knows maybe i'll fail tomorrow that's a mentality of a person that's stuck in his ways that a person will not be willing to accept change that's an oath person an old person is not a person in years an old person is an old person they say age is only a number it's true age is only a number it doesn't define who you are you're only old in your if you're still 20 and you're saying i'll do it tomorrow or look what i did yesterday you're zakin but our older generation they teach us even though they might be an older generation but that you know the saying says young at heart now the young and mashava none of the young in their in their they say yes with my old age i will still come to show maybe this year i didn't go to show maybe i was afraid i was isolated i wasn't quarantined i didn't want to leave my house but yet they still come to the show they do hey they're our light we look to them we look we look to emulate them they're our glory they are to edit that's why if you see you see little children little children are always happy always happy let's say for example a five-year-old you know i know what happens with my daughter a lot she might be she might get into a fight with her friend three seconds later she's happy what do you mean you just got into fight with her and that was three seconds ago but now it's different we're eating ice cream together try this with an older person try this let's not go so old try this with a 25 year old three seconds ago he was in a fight with someone three seconds passed he's still in a fight with someone 30 years later he's still in a fight with someone why because he's not willing to accept change why what happened already it was in the it's in the past don't even look in the future today can i resolve the issue today that's why children are always happy children don't care about what's going to happen you think children care about the future children you know because children on their show are in the in the comfort of their parents they know whatever happens i'm in the i'm in the arms of daddy and mommy that's what we should have we should be like little children we're in the arms we're in the in the in the heck of a kadosh of god almighty of hashem we know that whatever happens to us we have the hashem whatever happens to us it's for our best so why not be bisim khalik little children but if you're not bismuth little children again you can be 80 years old and be a zakken or be 15 years old and be a zakin if you're set in your ways and you're not willing to change i'd like to tell you what the pillar it says the player it says their high ten elibo a living person should remember this how ecstatic how overexcited would you be if you found treasure treasure is great to find very valuable but it's nothing when we compare it to life do we know how valuable life is hashem gives us life you know how valuable life is and if a person is happy if he has joy when he finds treasure allah hashem is giving you another day yom what happened yesterday yesterday's gone what will happen tomorrow i don't know hashem is giving us all you have to live is for today imagine you found treasure how excited would you be but god is giving you the greatest treasure in the world the greatest matana the greatest present he's giving you hayim so he's giving you yes maybe is not the greatest maybe you shall buy it's not the greatest maybe you upbringing your children not the greatest but you know what you're living you have hayem you're still living and again the older generation shows us that the older generation their past transpired so much this year happened to them so much so many obstacles and so many trials and tribulations but that they have to send on their face because they know i'm only living for it today i'd like to tell you because a story of rabbi yosef jose horowitz better known as saba of navarro the sabbah of navarro used to be used to be a darshan he used to give people mussar give them emunah teach them torah go from place to place but he himself believe it or not needed himself you know just a side note we all go through things but sometimes the way to relieve our issues is to speak about them in the public forum to tell other people to be with hezek whereas we ourselves the speakers the rabbis the people giving the speech they themselves have that jesus like i said earlier i came to bibim but you're giving me so much so we'll go back to our story so the sabbah of navarro he had some i don't want to say the ka own depression but he had some uh some something's troubling him he had some problems he tried to give other people emunah but he himself had that that issue he he was a little bit he was a little missing in in his so what did he end up doing he went to the sabha of kellum he went to the sub of kalim on shabbat he stayed over shabbat by his house because he knew his muslim was three hours and in that shirt he's able to be sick everyone in those three hours imagine after show and most about three hours okay so the sabha of navarro went to the sabah of kalim stayed shabbat in the end of shabbat musa is about everybody's waiting everybody packs into the show there's a quiet everybody's waiting for the sabbah of come to start talking and in the crowd in the kahal was the sub of navarro hoping to hear something the sabbah of kalim goes up he's about to start a speech he looks in the corner of his eye he sees the sabbah of navarro sitting so the sabbah of kellum waits and he waits and everybody's waiting the rabbi is not starting 5 10 15 minutes all of a sudden you hear the sabbah of kalama say he says it's enough that you're alive and he kept on repeating it it's enough that you're alive it's enough that you're alive and he got off the stage what they thought would last for three hours was only 20 minutes the sabbah of the vardok said after the story happened he says i came depressed i needed i got it from the sabha of kellum that taught me no matter what happens to me in life the greatest treasure that i have and the thing that i have to remember is it's enough that you're alive no matter what happens to you in life it's enough that is giving you hashem is giving you life so we always have to be happy we always have to be happy younger generation older generation no matter what happens we always have to be happy because what's the alternative i mean what's the time being depressed where is that going to take us at least we could put a smile on our face smart people around us that will give us inner jezuk also ourselves and i'd like to conclude with this there's a maasai there's a story that happened with a you d that found a gold watch and he put advertisements in the shoes i found the gold watch if you have seen my name if you have signs that it belongs to you call this number he waited he put advertisements in the shows flyers posters a month two months three months passed by they ripped the posters down they ripped the flyers down the advertisements nobody came to claim the watch but he didn't give up he put the advertisements again he put the flyers again posters again in every shoe believe it or not he gets a phone call he gets a phone call in the middle of the night he says you know i saw the advertising that you found the gold watch i lost the gold watch could it be maybe that it's mine i don't know why don't you come over to my house he told him where he lived come over to my house give me the signs give me the symbols give me the sim my name if it's yours if it's yours you can take it so the the person comes in the middle of the night he knocks on the door he comes in he says you know my gold watch had a scratch on this place in the on the face and it looked like this and it had a scratch over here and a ding over here he says you know what this is your watch but before i give it to you give me a few minutes a few minutes what are you doing it's 12 30 in the middle of the night what are you doing he says look i found your watch you want to take your watch back give me a few minutes he leaves he goes and he tries to get 10 people for a minion he goes and he buys food he buys bread he buys mezonate he brings them up to his house with the 10 people they come up to his house to have a minion so they all ask him what's the special occasion he says i'm about to do a tremendous mizvah a great mitzvah what pidyon bin uh a brit milan we don't do pretty milan tonight what are you doing zohar for your son what are you doing what mitzvah are you doing he says you know what i'm doing he says i'm about to give back this watch to the person that lost it and to be mikayam to fulfill the commandment of hashabad what really he says yes that should be our attitude for all the mizvot any mitzvah that you do you have to do best in fact one of the 98 killa lot we should never know in parashat kitavo all the way in the end says you know why hashem has the shalom plagues are away we should never know because you're fulfilling them as vote but you don't have simcha when you're fulfilling but i want to do it that's why i got you and after i do it we'll eat something we'll make it and then we'll say kadish and the person can take his watch maybe they finish at two or three o'clock in the morning but he instilled that he he drove that concept home no matter what mitzvah that you do you have to do it again the older generation it's so beautiful when we see them they come to show and they do them whether it's the man before taking other tiffany from the koracha they kiss the tephiline they admire the the feline they wear they fit in every single day but but it's like the first day i'm doing it they have so much simcha and the ladies they big the shabbat and the grandmothers and the and and the older generation they do so many minutes vote and they're running to miz vote we should look to them our eyes should up we should lift our eyes to always look at them they give us so much so much they give us so much they give us so much so much love for them is what yes it was a very rough year that passed the older generation wasn't wasn't able to see their grandkids i can't imagine how how devastating that was how how depressing that was they weren't able to see their grandchildren the most valuable possession that they have in life they weren't able to see their grandchildren they weren't able to go different places they wanted to but you know what that's all behind us right now hashem we should always look only to the light days because if we if we serve the hashem in this pandemic or in this year that went by with all the tragedies in the dark days hashem will give us change the gola with that we have so again you the older generation you're young at heart and you are the example of never saying it's too late it's never too late happiness it's never too late you give us that example of teaching us that no matter what happens we could always start again and old is only in your mind no it's only a number being old is you control being old whether you want to be old or you want to be young whether you want to change or not and you guide us and you will lead the way and pave the way because shame to the coming of mashiach the rebuilding of the betterment dashboard hashem thank you the torah any time thank you and thank you for watching