Rabbi Tzvi Broker Uncovering the Ruchnius In Our Jobs at 9th Annual Project Inspire Convention

it's starting that was nice okay I'll do it again okay and we'll fake all the engagements who wishes that they were at work today all right so we just had a tremendously uplifting Shabbos tremendously uplifting Chavez I had a tremendous day of lifting Shabbos very powerful and I come from Israel and on Sunday is what's known as the Sunday blues because in Israel we don't have Bachmann Sunday all right so and then have a wonderful shop it's very inspirational and then we just have to go back to work now also I'll tell you another phenomena that happens in Israel those of you that live over here probably can't appreciate this is that I know in America three-day yontiff you guys love food a young TIFF yeah okay usually I know when I grew up when I'm from New York Lee through the ends of was like I know like you know they look at the calendar already a year ahead to see when three the young tip is gonna fall out you know in plans for it especially if it ruins calamari but in Israel we have like we have like Yom Tufts together it's a really really wonderful thing it's because we're not used to having this type of vacation now what we're going to talk about today is we're going to talk about that moment okay what's that moment that moment is when you're on your way to work not going to be Sunday Monday maybe you drive maybe you take a train how do you feel at that moment where you're going to work you're excited thrilled are you happy are you nervous and the truth is no so I mentioned before stress the stress is something which is rampant we forgot the exact dollar account but there's billions of dollars that are being you know being expended and they're costing the economy because of stress-related things that are happening at work and when I run these workshops with different groups I'm not going to do it over here but I do something the word association and the word association is just to kind of get an idea of what people are internally relating right to work right and for a lot of people when they hear work they think of stress but what we're here about to talk about today right as to how we're going to be able to transform our work experience because whether or not you know we wish we were going to work or not which we're going to work the reality is is that most of us do work now and we spend many many hours at work and we have a choice and either our work is going to be something which is disconnected from where we want to be who we are the goals that we have in life all right and potentially stressful Oh to what happens to many of us what work is something that's going to become empowering work something which is going to be fulfilling and there's the topic of today's talk of uncovering the riskiest in our jobs is that work is something which has the ability and which was always meant to be something to inspire us to have a project inspire at work convention that's really what work is about so I just want to introduce myself for a couple of minutes I mentioned know I come from stand out in New York I now live in Israel and after I got married I learnt in Colo and at a certain point that I went out to work and I found myself in a situation that maybe you guys you know could relate to or not relate to I was in a particular job and I was spending many hours at this job and I was just feeling very very frustrated just like I felt like you know Here I am I know what I want to be doing right I know what I'm passionate about no particularly in my case I was somebody who was learning in kollel ice mica right now this is something which many many people struggle with and a lot of my clients that I'm working with are people that know were learning in kollel you know we're working in certain positions and now they find them out in the work world right oh it's really anyone that goes to a inspirational Shabbos my Shabbos is great we were able to learn you able to spend time with family and I found myself sitting there at work just feeling very very deflated very very empty and I thought to myself there must be more and is this really what Hashem wants like me all right is this really what Hashem had in mind you know work we know is there in the program you know it seems that many of us are doing it how could it be that this is really what was intended that Hashem really wanted for us so I started an exploration I've worked in numerous positions at that time I was working in Israel for America and I was working for a college I was working for a college at that point right when I had this experience but I I was involved in recruiting I was doing a few different things I was involved in recruiting I was doing some marketing and I was also doing some advising and but I seen from working with clients really hundreds you know and it's an international problem it's not just that it's not a Jewish thing and it's not like a Jewish thing for Jews that live in America and I work with people from France people from Russia people from England from all over Europe it's something that we all suffer with and I started a journey right and thankful to one of them a couple of my mentors mainly rubbish workersí from the Pilsner Institute who really guided me on this path of really discovering what is work meant to look like and I moved you mentioned before I was working in different roles in marketing and recruiting I eventually transitioned over into working as a career consultant now I did a training and currently now I work as a career consultant working with people of all different ages from teens to young professionals to adults right we're looking to get that direction and how they can be successful and how they can live a fulfilled professional life at the same time back in the background there's a mcaren and so on this background ofyou know I've also been working running workshops in the outreach space helping people that are not yet for him to be able to realize that it's not a contradiction to build what's called the American dream right which is to build a successful career right to be happy in your career and to be Jewish right because that's another thing I've seen from a lot of my workshops whenever I do an association about Jewish values and people say you know what would you think Jewish values Jewish values are Jewish values are what comes natural you have to allow use beautiful okay Jewish values Jewish values all right and that's generally what I hear sometimes near some other things like latkes chicken soup javis honesty right but I never heard I see Jewish values they say career success hasn't happen because most people don't think that has anything to do with each other right there's Judaism and then this career success and either they have nothing to do with each other or they're competing with each other right and subconsciously what that creates for an unaffiliated person is to think that I'm going to become more Jewish we're going to become more observant that's gonna come at the cost of me being professionally successful and for a full person what it means is is that I can go to the base mattress and I can learn and I can develop myself as a person and then there's my job a job something that I have to do right it's something that I'm forced to do is something I need to make money right maybe I enjoy my job maybe I make good money maybe I don't make good money different levels of stress but they're not connected so I have this moment myself right and from that point I've become very involved in empowering so far hundreds and with different partnerships that I've been working with to be thousands of people to transform the way that they look at their job so I mentioned before about that moment you guys remember that moment the moment is when you leave alright the base men Trish so if you look at the meddra SH and parshas missile cosine right mm Ella talks about this experience what does that MLS think so mm F says I share every day when I would leave and I would leave where I'm going to all right so I thought where was I gonna go to I thought I'm gonna go to you know this building I'm gonna have meeting I'm gonna you know I go to this apartment I'm gonna go to this place that's what mm Bell says where he thought he was gonna go to what are the end of the measure say I don't remember this will cause I so the end of the measure says is that I thought I was gonna go to this place I wasn't going to that place but my feet brought me to where the base measures and the basic Nessus and that is the way the deduced should live right last week I was getting a ride with my handyman and he was taking me back home from we were out in the shop and while we were driving I saw you took a wrong turn right he started you know turned left he wasn't going to my house so I asked him like where you going that's not worth it so he said to me I'm sorry I'm really tired right when I'm really tired just going to autopilot you know I just go to my house alright so when he said that to me I was like that was mm elif's moment right like mm else was saying was like I think I'm gonna go there but like my feet right where I'm sure on to they just keep bringing me back to the base measures they keep bringing me back to the basic NASA and that metric is a very very powerful metric it teaches us that we're meant to live in the base measures now misunderstood that could also mean is is that when we leave out in the morning to go to work and our feet don't take as the device measures so we're not really living up to what mm L had in mind or that's not really the way that we're supposed to be acting this juice so we're going to talk about this measure ish we're gonna get back to it but what I want to discover with you today is the first stage it is that how are we meant to feel I threw out this question before so there's an ax bar bonel right and Barban L is that parallel boughs it's very very concise to see the Barban ellen's night and with the barber know says right in Paris Alice mich knew you'd Shania says re Vesta mala that a person should love work I always talk about in my workshops people at street and you know attribute this to Steve Jobs it wasn't Steve Jobs or Shania has said it long before a person should love what they do so what the bar Bernal says is this the bar Bernal says so why does the Mishnah say love work it should have said doer all right what would you think love work I do work Jewish value doer so the Bible says why does it say level work so the Barbie doll says it's coming to teach us that a person shouldn't go to work feeling and he needs to be there he shouldn't go to work feeling like he's in this own a situation that he just needs to be at his job the rabbit Abravanel says a person should love work and the washing that he uses is mind-blowing for those that are sensitive right so the assurance of their insurance of cos Allah he says that the way a person should feel that work should be the simcha Hoover to leave up wears with some clothes to leave out from that's in the tofu cut that was a Shems tighten on the Jewish people right for what we were doing wrong is that we weren't serving Hashem the simcha with Tulalip that is the way that the Barbara Dahl says that we should feel when we're at work so the question is what should it be so happy about at work all right ok so Maya tells us love your job a bar Bernal says the simple to leave up what's there to be so happy about so when asked this question usually in a from crowd so the usual answer is this is okay fine fine so there's a value of being happy when you're going to work because the work has some type of value what's the value that work has is that its dish to support my family it's a mean struggle and in some discussions that I had with last night when I was my booth it's what I've heard from people I asked everyone that came over do you love your job yes no I don't think about it I just do what I need to do right all right you know I know that I'm supporting my family and that is true and that's beautiful the truth of the ORAC I MacArthur says on smocks my house is full and it's a sofa or a client says is that a person should be happy when he leaves the base measures that's what he says should be happy when you go to the base measures whether or Heinsohn should be happy when you leave the base measures why because your being involved in a process of supporting your tour alerting right your being in a process of supporting Brooke Nia skulls and that's the reason to be happy but the truth is is is that it's a lot deeper than that one before shown on the major issue of one of them a for shame one of the proportions speak about why does it say that a person should love work and that loves the money that they get from work midnight that way so he says is because a person shouldn't love work because of the money that they get he says that a person should love work so much the actual job itself that he doesn't see it as a Tara at all it's something that he intrinsically experiences simcha with so what we've just have taken a couple of steps into what is realizing is that in the eyes of Cazale right in the eyes of Torah or is that the way we're meant to feel will be spoke about this moment about our jobs and meant to feel positive something that we in love we love doing we feel engaged with the question is why is that the Jewish value yeah it is why is it so important that a surprise to anyone over here yeah like why okay anyone else so I'm really really to speak out of it about what you just said we have to go back okay we're gonna take go back a bit further right into where work started where did work start other aeration right first worker right back back in either so you said that work is occurs - the truth is is that works not a curse because work work so we'll talk about the purse but work started before the curse there's a powerful magician Elam and parshas the brave and precious gracious very very powerful one of those things that when you hear me say they're gonna be like I need to see that inside that's what happened to me I saw it quoted in the saver I'm like I need to find this measure chanela so the magician Elam tells a story it tells a story of a king and he says there was once a king like most Jewish stories is a king and the king I had a palace right he had yeah that yeah he had a yeah all jokes stories that Kings right yeah so the King had you know he had a yeah the peasants right he was in charge of cities and this king was taking care of everything okay he was the king and he was also involved in the maintenance the development of the infrastructure of the city and one day right the King called one of his servants already gathered everyone together all right called everyone over to the notes of the mouth host right and he hauled up one of his servants and he said to him listen until now I've been maintaining everything I've been develop every deal of developing everything and everyone in this mouth Coast has been subservience to me from here on in you are going to be a partner with me you are going to partner with me to be involved in the maintenance and development of my kingdom and just like everyone in this mouth horse is subservient to me now they're also gonna be subservient to you this conversation is what the magician Elam says happens on day six before the curse this is what the magician Elam says it's when Hashem says other Maurice no and that only is that what Hashem said to other Maurice no the magician Ellen Ellen says is that when it says that man was created in God's image this is what it means what does it mean that were created in man's in God's image it means that just like God like creates the world created the world he sustains the world he's involved in the development and the maintenance of the world Hashem gave this role to mankind to be partners with him and when we're involved in that process that's called acting in God's image the others who have no son says that just like Shabbos is a bris between God and the Jewish people work is a bris between God and the Jewish people and one of them a person explained right that really this is not just a Jewish thing in fact the the covenant between God and mankind to be involved in work is incumbent upon all mankind and explains that this is the reason why a guy that keeps Shabbos describe Misa because he's not allowed to stop working he has a responsibility to do right only the Jewish people are Shemin he gave us the breasts of work and he gave us the bris of Shabbos and he told us on Shabbos that we should not be involved in work but a non Jew he has a responsibility to be involved in work all the time but it goes deeper than that because what we spoken about so far you know in really you know in and the full version we're not going to get to today but in the full version what's called this workshop which I call the yakov's ladder to professional success goes through seven stages a seven runs that our person can move up right to be able to work the way that Hashem wanted a Jew to work which is really what Yahoo did because we all know the yak of went through that transition from being in the base mesh right to going out to work that is what happened when Yaakov left and he went out to foreign and the terrine veikko had right of the salami which is Musa Vaart samogitia Mahima that is the top list of what we're meant to do right we're burning strong but we're gonna focus on today the first three rungs we don't have time to be able to get to the last four so what we spoke in and out just so far to recap the first rung is with call intrinsic motivation what's intrinsic motivation intrinsic motivation is the shift from realizing that work is not just a means to a goal right work is not something just to do in order to be able to make money right which is what most of the world think work is something which has an intrinsic value into itself and something that we should be happy and engage and love intrinsically that's wrong number one wrong number two is what's called epic meaning right epic meaning is to realize that the reason why it has such an intrinsic value is because when we're involved with work it's a lot more than just our paycheck all right we just spoke about right now right that work is the Covenant is a bris between Hashem and mankind and when we're involved in work that is what's called selim elohim nothing less nothing less than selling Elohim when it's done in the right way the third run was what's called personalization because what I found to be incredibly fascinating and inspiring as a career counsellor is is that all of the career counseling Theory that's founded you know in their early nineteen hundred's it's really just based on our own profits so hovers above us is what most people are familiar with okay and sharp be tough on right the host of other speaks about if you guys haven't seen it very very good night to see it he says the clothes of Elvis says that just like Hashem created all of creation with the characteristics that it needs in order to survive and the natural instinct to know the substance that it needs to survive right so he talks about the beat of the bird that has a long beep right the bird knows what he needs to eat and he has the beak in order to do it right the cat knows what it needs to eat and he has a clause that he needs in order to be successful so the cover some of us says that so to each person those things that were passionate about those interests that we have are not just happenstance and those skills right what what what in the in the in the corporate world today where as talked all talked about as dependable skills right those things that just most naturally just flow with you those things that just come to you that's what the club is above us talks about as being hardwired into you by Hashem as part of the way that you're meant to sustain yourself so you look at what you're passionate about and then realize that those things that were naturally attracted to right this is something that when I work on with people individually this is part of the process one of those things that just you probably find yourself getting into flow state right flow state is you just kind of start working and you're just involved with that you lose track of time this is something that you really just naturally comes to you the combination of passion and talent is what the focus of other says then gives us guidance into what we're meant to work with but it really it goes before the Clovis above us right the Gemara brocco says based off of position Co helis says that Hashem he makes each person attracted to what they work in and the gap in pori out one of the Moroccan acquaintances says he's duration the King coelus that says the following he says that when Hashem sees that there's something that's needed in the world what does he do Hashem looks can be AA home and sees who is the right person that's going to be able to accomplish this task and then he zaps that person to be passionate about doing it so we're seeing over here right from from the camara Broncos right is that it's not just that work as epic meaning it's that where we personally come into our interaction with work are those things that we're passionate about doing those skills that promotes naturally to us these things are integral to our mission and our task in in the world it's nothing less than that and once we understand this then we could understand what when I was learning this Sevilla which for me was the most mind-boggling Marin welcome right maybe I don't know if you guys were surprising nitrogen Ella maybe you're probably surprised by the Barbara Nell who says that your work should be you should love work so much there should be the cynical of assumes leave of that was like wow the meditation Ellen was like wow but the officer of Nelson says something which totally shifted my approach and really what I've been talking to people about right because one of the studies that was recently put out by Adobe talks about the amount of the percentage of Americans that identify their whole ma whose their whole identity with their career which you can tap out around I think 53% okay fifty three percent of Americans said that who they are is their profession now would you say that to Jewish value Jewish value that that's the Jewish value that a person should identify who they are with their profession it could be so I always guys No if you're ready okay okay if you're in clay code this yes what do you guys think this side of the room Jewish value what do you think that's a good idea you read that study in Adobe you're like you're like oh so ma be honest I was always like wow that is so not too ish and that's so not towards ik right that I should define our identity and I without a whole entire Torah about it right because the non-jews right because they don't have religion anymore so it's like you know what for them for for a great part so it's like where are they getting their deep satisfaction from so they find their career and they build a whole entire career that identity around their career and their career becomes their life and then we have tour Judaism which is about Tory's our life and then we're afraid because people are going to start working and then when they start working during the start identifying with their career and then their careers can become their life so that therefore there's this competition between a person's career and being the Torah Jew because a person we're losing people will think the Torah their life and then they're going into career being their life and that's the way that I thought and then I saw this in Iraq from a novice rev Nelson and from the web nothing says the following he says gazelle amalaki great his work why because he says because each professional is an aspire with his profession the each professional takes pride and glory with his profession so much so that they walk around in uniform and the other so nothing goes on to speak about a few of them of his days he speaks about the fact that the scribe walks around with his feather in his ear right and the tailor walks around with his pen and his pen in his suit and he says and so too was all professions that people take pride and I right with with their with their profession and therefore great is Malacca now that's shocking right because we know that you know okay maybe I'll say a word you'll say we're we're not so careful with the other serve nothing said that Goods either Malacca great is work and there's no more Irish that flips this on its head it's not like oh yeah it didn't really mean it you meant something else this is what I was sort of nothing says and it was mind-boggling for me but the truth is the more that I learnt about what work is meant to me right and I think for each one of you guys from what you've heard so far today and understanding what work is really about it makes sense the you were Xiaomi and pea says hold your horses British Army and pay SS and there were motor operator who spoke to Clara before they went Sarah sees throughout the end of his life and he says I put before you today life and death you should choose life the hides of a high wasn't a hard to behind what does that mean don't kill yourself what's the polite of a kind choose a life of tour review small says to the heart of a lion choose a job the heart of a sighing what's I am bonus a job that's very strange that's a bigger price it's rubbish mile but we can understand because that was true understood because of the curse perhaps that there is a very strong high risk that we are going to miss understand what work is about when a chévre that curse upon other Mauritian Anna Shen linked up work with money party that curse is the confusion that happens is that people think that work is about money Hashem interlink them but what most people think is the pork is about money and as I wanted to make it very clear to us that work is not about money work is about something which is a lot deeper but when a Jew works the way that were meant to work so then we have something like the medicine to helis that says it speaks about a few of the 10 million that's called a liquidation why are we the call to a degradation so the measure says because they would split their time in three ways a third for Torah a third which Fela and a third in work when the fortune in the measure says a Theodosia like the malcolm state pays Karzai's cuddlers cutters tara cutters trela Cutler's work the medicine the medicine gracious says that when Yaakov left Lovett and he was going to running away from him the measure says godiva mulatto missus always greater is work then smugglers these are memories now that wild really wild but I hope that what we've come to understand today right is that the really not while when we understand what work is meant to be so to sum up what we've spoken about so far where we started with this question right mm Ella going out there is going to his apartment he has this meeting he's meeting this person piccoli Oh I'mI'm Alex ready he pushed it over the mouth thinks he's going there is going there is going there but his feet bring him to where to the base measures in the based constants so this Vasquez this vast Emison parses impartial special christ site explains what's the deeper meaning of this metric this must Emma says that done enough said okay I'm going to my meeting I have to meet this person right he was a king he there's lots of stuff mm oh it wasn't just in the base measures right so I thought that I was going to go to this place in that place in this location in that location I work on Wall Street right you know I work I work from home you're wherever I were that's where I thought I was going to go well mm up says that my feet brought me to the base Knesset and to the basement which means is that that imprimis amia s'what I was doing was the base measures and the basic nastiness it could be that on the external level in Suetonius I may have been at work I may have been meeting with this person I may even you know handling with that guy greatly you know whatever deal I'm doing but anemias all that I was doing was the base measures in the base in essence which means right that this this mind says the paradigm of Jewish work is a person who's involved in work he's involved and he's fully involved this Mark Russell says that term the four things that require physical all the time right we always hear this about to be there right the consultant requires physics all the time what requires physical all the time Derek requires physical Simon Rashi says that a person is a professional he needs to always be developing himself professionally dr. Rashi says professional development played Kumar and Rowleys Brittany's ezekias work seriously but he's not taking it seriously because it's about his money and he's not taking seriously because it's about his ego he's taking it seriously because he recognizes is that that that passion that he has ever since he was a kid they kind of stuck with him of the types of things that is interested in doing those skills that he was naturally talented with that place that he finds himself in is nothing less than Ashley cos Duchenne and therefore yes are even a miracle of work simcha with Haleiwa jump like your than when you're doing a mixin up because it is a mitzvah it's a holy mission this is the way that Hashem had in mind for us to work so the second part of the title right was how we could in the key right that we uncover their brokenness of work this is the key to inspiring others in the workplace in other places why so I want to talk about three different ways how this is going to become relevant right now for each of you right who are involved in whatever profession you're in right you may come into contact with given that are not yet from and what I'd like to leave you with today right are a few tools on how will we just discuss and empower yourself is an incredible tool to be able to empower other Jews so the first one is called the unspoken language what's the unspoken language so there's a certain unspoken language humanistic global right Universal that speaks to people what is it it's called living for a higher cost it's just something that speaks to the human spirit not just Jewish some things people find inspirational on some level some level some level think that the P Mia stuff like like what people come so inspired a bit about sports teams because here you have people join together as a team it's not about them is about the team it's about the city it's about bringing pride all right something greater than self but a lot deeper than sports teams right everyone has a deep founding respect for a soldier I for a hero what's a hero why is this like hero somebody that what the he does something greater than himself right it's something which inspires by just the and there are tremendous issues today in the workplace you guys looked it up it's a terminology called engagement or dis engagement okay only three out of ten Americans are actually happy at work one of 110 Americans right let me just tell you what that means so seven out of ten Americans go to work every day waiting for their coffee break wasting their time on their email looking forward for vacation you know there's a huge plague of what's called absenteeism the people are just taking off playing hooky you know like from school costing the economy tremendous amounts of money one editin American is actively disengaged at work which means that they're actively trying to sabotage their punch their company okay those seven out of ten American ploys are not recommending the services of their company there's a tremendous amount of growing dissatisfaction in the workplace and something we've spoken about before stress if you guys mean I can pull out some of the stats afterwards you know to show you the amounts of people crazy and other things that are happening at work from work stress and then we have you so we're all familiar growing up with this thing called Kadesh we're told to do it right be a conditioned chef what does that mean what does it mean to be a kid is a sham at work so let's talk about about Phil - then what does Hillel rush enemy isolation means you know being dishonest that's most people think about you know like Colossians being dishonest gittisean means being honest but the word celo right the word for Hashem really comes related to the Hebrew word kalau right which means a vacuum avoid and what cohosh them really means right it's Kailash that means that when a person is is acting in a way that there's a void of his expression of godliness inside of him that's what's called cool Hashem so anytime a Jew is acting in a way well it's not a parent right that he's has this this this this mission right if it's godliness inside of him that's what the solution so a kid is a sham at work doesn't just mean being ethical it really doesn't ethics this part of it but a kid is a sham at work means being this loving your job thriving loving what you do be someone who's positive being someone who it's clear that this person is not just working to get through the day to make their paycheck they're working because they are charged they see their job as something which is greater than themselves they see their job as an expression of their role towards mankind that is something which people will pick up on it Simon's the next you guys have heard about him right he's a very popular no TED talk in presentation and he's very much right exactly Jewish but in the non-jewish world he's a very much getting across this message he called it's called start with Y right and he talks about what's called to the Golden Circle right where you have a circle with three three run all right you can imagine and you have on the outer circle it's called what the inner like the middle circle you have you have how and the inner circle is why and he talks about the difference between successful companies successful people successful influencers and he says that the way that most people work when they're trying to sell the product or they trying to get someone to do something what are they talking about they talk about what they do like this is what I'm selling this is what I want you to do then you have people and talk about the how this is how it works this is how I'm going to do it but what's on the inner core is the why the why is what is it all about what is the deep motivation about why your company exists what are you trying to bring out into the world it talks about Apple success instead of talking about the product that they sell they spoke about their Y which is about innovating change and he goes on to explain anything from a physiological and you know biological perspective on how when a person speaks from their Y that connects with other people that will get people to change because it's coming from within it's coming inside outward it's not something on outside in and therefore when you go to work and you work with this paradigm and you're someone who's working from there Y with clarity on what works about what my passions are how my work is expressing those passions out in the world people are going to see that what's that going to mean for a non from Jill so what it's gonna mean for a nod from jewel right like we spoke about before it's the able to tell you wow like you've got something he's got something nice all my co-workers like they hate what they're doing they're miserable there's stress and here's this guy's mama's like a hero obviously to be honest that's part of it too but way beyond honesty that's something which is going to inspire and may even trying to talk to you what are you so excited about in this company right everything Thanks but what are you so excited about so one is just being it and that the reason why is the unspoken language is because by just being it that has an ability to be able to inspire not just to tell someone what to do right but to be able to be a living example the second thing is what's called to empower our person now we heard a lot of on the shabbos about the pintle idiot i watch depends alia so I'm not sure you know different Marvel Comics or the pin Thalia the one that I'm familiar with the one that I'm familiar with is this a fiduciary and the kedusha areum what he calls the pencil here is what's called the mug anavra right we say the bra for every single day mug and avraham this was an a half toughie this was a promise that Hashem made to album Aveeno that one place he explains it was after that kada because of what Avram did it that kada Hashem said to Abram that no matter how far your children are going to stray away from me there's always going to remain right that that puff you know Papa Shemin all right lots of Cana Couture is about this right which remains untouched then you can always rekindle the spark from that's what this would do she recalls that pensively get in another place this traditional green says is that are on Hanukkah how do you ignite that principally it how do you have United no put a fire shake him up since a convention we hear a lot about bringing people to Shabbos table definitely because the cost of Shabbos ignites him that's why Chavez is the clock Chavez in reality is igniting that pensively get inside of him someone he's able to come and see that it ignites him but the judiciary him says something really powerful he says that when a Jew is takes pride and is Basim ha which his hailer could being Jewish he's the math with the fact that what if here's a bit like he's juror that causes that pin slip to expand and to expand now for most people including you guys sitting in their room probably until this top thought what does it work have to do it being Jewish I'm gonna connect with Judaism at work and when I run outreach seminars and they'll be speaking some campuses this week this is where I work on this point to help people realize that they key connects with being Jewish and what it means to be a Jew through their job and that's tremendous because the reality is is is that each one of us spent so many hours at work but in this not yet from yen I spent so many hours at work if you're able to empower him to find the connection that he stops looking at his job is just into the rat race and he realizes that his job is part of his unique expression of being a Jew and bringing out God's light in the world in making it a better place you were giving him the tools to connect with his Judaism all day long and that's something that we just heard before will spiritually help him to be able to expand and to be able to have that consciousness of judy's so the second thing is to empower and how does that happen it can happen with this simple conversation if you see someone at your work who looks like they're not happy they're going through a hard time you're stressed you open a conversation with them when the guys that might be in my job I'm happy with the boss right and to be able to discuss with them and have them have them realized right I'm saying haven't realized you know something I struggle with a lot too now I also struggle up you know it gives me the ability to overcome is that I try to think about every day this is a Jewish concept is that my job is a lot more than just a paycheck so even if I'm not making as much money as I want right now I realize I'm doing something really great it's part of my unique mission to make the world a better place Wow you can empower them just like that and the third thing is to be able to try to transform a person's life and what we're going to do over here do a little exercise for yourself just to be able to experience what that means to be transformed this is something I do that with my clients but if you develop a relationship with them and able to open up a dialog we're able to kind of understand them a bit more are you having a hard time at work they're stressed they don't like their position they're not happy with what they're doing right they're trying to get out to be able to have a couple of tools to be able to help them to transform their day in a very powerful way so let's take a look over here okay can I ask you a favor say my battery's low just in time first of all it's not that Thanks just get out accord so if you remember what we spoke about right we spoke about the focus of of us we spoke about the Gemara and Broncos we spoke about values and we spoke about talents so when you have over here that's right okay we know well okay these are these are these are what I call the core values exercise okay I'm not sure if you guys can see it but okay these are all great values okay all of them are acting on argue really positive thing and what I do with clients introduce for yourself you know I'm saying I no longer in a different workshop I'll have people do it but no we have shorter time right now if you have other thing for yourself he was identified within these positive values what are the top five let's speak to you okay all these things are positive actualization creativity leadership education entrepreneurship balance friendship fulfillments and I'll give you guys a couple of minutes okay just to take a look you know in around I'll scroll it down a little bit just to be able to see the other ones and try to go through yourself mentally okay and and if you haven't had done this it's very very very important just to be able to hone in on what is it that really gets you your juices flowing and what are those top five values for you that are most important okay so I'll give you guys a minute or two can you guys see the screen no you can't okay that's alright that's right we were fine so what we'll do is like this so this is exercise okay I'm happy if you guys I'm happy to email it to you and afterwards as well we can be in touch and exercise to have these values and to go through and identify one of the facts and what I think remaining we running this with with many many many many people is is that although they're all great and wonderful people are different and therefore for some people their top five values might be creativity empowerment transformation originality and then you have other people that for them their top five values are things like achievement entrepreneurship then you have other people who their top values are things like balance structure persistence other people's values are well competition and really when you do this exercise and if you have a discussion with someone and the way the conversation will look like is like this it's like look I understand they're having a hard time at work let me share with you something that I've done alright what is it that you really want to do I want to do we really want it okay I want to be this I want to be that because those are all symptoms try to be able to understand what is it really the person's passionate about doing I mean once you're able to clarify what those five values are for you then when we're able to do is to move over into move into out okay I see I don't have it over here but I'll share with you also as well it's the model there are many different models of career personality but one of the one of the most popular models that's used right is John Holland's model that talks about six different types of corpus career personality types and the way that he breaks it down like this and think for yourself when I say this over which are the ones that are you would say the highest ones for you okay what the first personality type is what's called investigative personality type investigative personality type is someone who loves problem-solving for them working with data and information you know trying to crunch whether it's numbers or an equation or a problem to be able to understand what's under it and figure it out they love that okay that's investigative right the second was it's called artistic the artistic personality is someone who for them creativity originality flow out of the box like that's what they love doing the third one's called social the social personality is someone who just loves either helping people or benefiting society right for them they just need to be involved in that that's what really really gets them going the four that was called enterprising the enterprising personality is someone who for them they love to be in charge generally they don't like listening to rules they need to be the boss they're highly highly competitive for them winning achievement risk-taking these are things that get them going and they need it in order to be happy the the next one is conventional the conventional personality is all about structure and making systems for them organizing information making things you know logistics going over and over and over again they don't need to have creativity that it needs to be enterprising for them they get a keyless they get a fuse out of the process of making things efficient and then there's a realistic personality the realistic personality feels most comfortable in the physical world for them working with informations hard working with people not so much their thing give them something to touch to be a camera it could be a car right it could be a equipment right it could be their bodies in the gym they feel very very comfortable in the physical world you guys got it do you know for yourself is anyone from here realize one or two that are stronger than the others for yourselves yeah okay normally I'll share but because of the time you won't now what we want to do to make sure that a person is engaged in their work finds fulfillment in their work is when you're able to align those passions those five and see where that expresses itself in your career personality and then you look at your work day you say how much of my work day am i involved in those tests if somebody is highly artistic creative and enterprising and they need to be like like like competitive and they're spending most of their day just organizing information and dealing with investigative stuff they are going to be miserable alright if somebody is highly investigative that needs to use their head and they get put into this situation where they just need to just kind of be more just like organizing time they're going to be miserable if somebody is highly social and they want to be able to create benefits in society and they get put into a sales position where the bottom line is about making money and about winning they're not going to be happy so my understanding this model and seeing where our passions fall down into our career personality and making sure that our work is aligned at least with one of them or two of them that is the key to being just arriving in your work and what we can do when we sitting down with somebody is to try to be able to explore with them how they can try to implement that into their work I'll close with one story and how one of my mentors did this with someone in a very creative way so it can empower you to do so someone that he was mentoring the caseta shahid who was working as a parking attendant in Shea Stadium he was very very none happy all day sitting around no park their parks their parks there and he was miserable so he's speaking to this mentor of mine and to discuss thing what he's passionate about they realize that he is a highly creative artistic out-of-the-box funny type of guy and he was miserable too sitting in this conventional boring job so sometimes the solution is switched jobs but not always couldn't switch jobs you know so maybe you're talking to someone you could help him consider maybe he wants to switch jobs but listen to this he sets in listen you're a funny guy maybe you can try to just do some funny stuff in your job like you like what's stopping you maybe go to work every day wear a funny hat you know they're having a good time I don't know my boss he said why do you ask him once asked his boss you don't elicit this will go gets me going do you Boston as long as he gets it apart I don't care no what happened started going to work every day funny hats you know being goofy where after a while he was making more money from his tips than he was in his salary and he was happy again just one idea of how we can be creative and sometimes it means talking to our boss and being honest them if they lifted I can do this but this is where my strength is when we're able to empower ourselves and we're able to understand this we're able to empower others start a dialogue with Jews who are not yet firm and to help them realize that yes being Jewish being from not a contradiction to finding fulfillment and success in your job but rather that is we get excited about thank you very much there's a pleasure to to me with all of you if you guys are interested in getting some that Marimekko most there's an ebook that we're gonna be putting out this month of Hufford author of experiencing more joy at work somebody's Mauro McComas inside you can sign up for it downstairs we either over here or downstairs at my desk and yeah okay you guys any questions