Rabbi Spots One CRUCIAL Relationship Lesson from the Purim Story

the best place to get relationship advice Timeless relationship advice is from the Bible is from the Torah this is what works this is divine and if if you can get God's advice and how to have a good relationship um you'll probably be okay if you're following it correctly and interpreting it correctly and I want to give you an example of this in the Book of Esther in the porm story in the porm story bigson and SES were two people in the king's Palace that wanted to assassinate the king aash morai had found out about it morai spoke multiple languages they were conversing in the language nobody else knew morai knew this language and wanted to let the king know hey these people want to kill you and morai ended up saving A's life and ultimately was rewarded and this was part of the major turn of events that took place in the PM story but if you examine the text you see something interesting morai is a dignitary in the king's Palace he's some sort of Minister he works there he's employed by the king he has connections and by the way employing those connections can be a very good thing because anti-Semitism is on the rise and he doesn't employ those connections he doesn't directly tell the king hey these guys want to kill you what he does is tells Esther go tell the king these people want to kill you he tries putting the responsibility in Esther's hands and what does Esther do she goes to the king and again she could have also had gained tremendously from uh being the Savior yet she bounces the responsibility back into mori's court she goes to the king and gives morai the credit and she says to the king morai had told me that these people want to kill you so at first morai tries putting tries giving Esther the credit or putting Esther in a position while where she received the credit Esther bounces back the credit to morai and uh tries putting him in a situation where he'll get the credit why why wouldn't he just take the credit himself or why wouldn't Esther just take the credit herself the Alik explains that this is a a very important rule in relationships stop hogging the credit give the credit to other people that's what good leaders do this is what good spouses do this is how you succeed in life you don't try to hog the credit and try to look good you try to get the job done and you try to make other people feel good and let other people benefit from this that's my story and I'm sticking to it