Rabbi Simcha Bunim Berger - Zera Shimshon Shiur at Beis Medrash Ohr Chaim

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sponsored El nishas maras eser bbam that's rebid mother whose yard side is on Tuesday today she and all the that we have to teach should be also for for r and R additionally there's a operation going on right now is that what you said there's an operation right when is that what's the name the doctor should be he should have [Music] I want to thank Rabbi k for organizing and welcome Torah anytime to our Zar this is okay tonight's Su what we're going to learn about is the mid of humility and all the benefits of being humble in so many aspects of a person's life literally in this the background it's page letter V please and MOA was tremendously humble un of now what's the background what's the background in par towards the end of the par the says Miriam and aarin were upset they had a claim a tinina on M raenu the story goes mha in the earlier part of the parish asked for some help it was too difficult for him to carry Claus all on his shoulders CLA had began to complain they needed food they needed this and M said I gave birth to them why am I running this all by myself and the agreed and said we're going to give you sh and they're going to get a little bit of your R of your was he took some of the put it onto the there were two people who didn't make it into the group of 70 but prophesized in dependently El Anda and Miriam were standing together and Miriam overheard Tora give a little C you know what that is a little a sigh more than that it's probably has no definition in any other language that's right NE to their wives he they're probably going to be all alone just like me that's what tus said Miriam found out thatu had separated himself from his wife he he did it not because he wanted to he was commanded Dam said you now are on call for CLA you stopped being a private person you now became a is completely no one was given that heter Aaron was an Aaron was was was he was the K Miriam was the reiton of clam she had a husband M was given this commandment they weren't aware where it came from and Miriam didn't realize that had said this and Miriam mistakenly thought that her brother was at fault for separating himself from so as the par this portion begins and they said we all at that time was everybody saw also said had the on his on his chest he was wired in like I'm wired over here he was wired in W right Mish but directly up above M so this is and then the T interrupts so to speak the story and gives a piece of information a narrative was the most humble person Al call that interesting he was what does the add by this K Al on the face of the land he was the most and In Heaven There were more UNS he was the most humble person let's pick up and so what happens I want all three of you out and tells off mam when I speak to you Miriam when I speak to you you get it but it's in a dream in a dream he is he has a connection with me I speak to him like two people like a person speaks to his friend as we're sitting here together RAB and we're all T we're all here together that's the way I speak to M with Clarity without any riddles he can see more than anybody else can see like the picture of why don't you have respect why don't you have any respect it would seem that Miriam andaron because he's included didn't understand the M ofu didn't understand where set the record straight if you pay attention to the end of the when the T gives a little bit of a eulogy onu and it tells us about his accomplishments like this concept of face to face that's what they say abouta and what does it come from his because as the says how does bring that madga and obviously what we need to know is if the is telling us this story what does it mean for me and you what are we supposed to do about it with this introduction why the fact that the fact that Miriam and Aaron are saying L about mha speaking negatively about him why does he have to be an onov you can't speak negative about anybody whether they're an onov or not says sain if maybe the point is thatu didn't say anything because he's an un if that's the point well you don't have to be the biggest UN in the world not to say anything smaller univ other people you know they're average ons there are many people sitting over here they're not the but they still don't answer back they know not to answer back you don't have to be the biggest on of to get to such a madga many people do that right many people could do that besides for that I have another question what were they thinking was as we read the p RAB asks the Zer do they really think they're on the Madre OFA I mean who is the one who went up to shamay to get the Tyra who went up Miriam went up Aaron went up so what are you thinking look what he did look what he accomplished he went up to sh you didn't what are you thinking says the Z I want to tell you your site I'll tell you where their mistake came from they knew that M raenu went up but they thought he was awarded that and anybody could have it needs to give the T you need to Big be a bigadic Misha was a bigadic for sure 100% but there are many sikim if he would have chosen some Aaron could have done it too the fact that he went up sometimes a person is given a big not for himself you know there's a very famous story with the SAG Reb sag Reba the old one a balus he had a few balab they were very wealthy and when people would come to the rebba and they would need s for the but the Reb would sent to his balab one particular a of shabas Al mon came she had two of her children became she had twin boys both became and she had no money she was an ala she had no husband and she said I need what it was it I don't know 10,000 rubles or whatever it was I need so the rebba called in one of his gab right away bring y y this mitz is going to be for y so he calls in y he tells him listen this and this needs this and this amount of money please take care of it okay he says take care of it after chabas no problems shabas after chabas he gives her half the amount instead of giving her 10 10,000 gave her five two and a half per kid which is very nice later that week he had a big in his business and he immediately connected the dots immediately say he ran to the Reb says rebba the rebba didn't tell me how I was I was having a little bit of a hard time with my business I was a little tight on cash but if the rebba would have told me how important it was of course I would I would have stretched myself and the SAG rebba said to him do you're making a mistake you have more money than you need what do you need all that money for what do you need all that money for the ter is I have to give because everybody comes to me you're my you're my that's our deal if you don't want to be my found me other it's okay you don't have to be what you have you think you have it because it belong to there because it belongs to you you don't need so much I told you to give it to her you didn't want besid her she got it already from somebody else so Miriam and Aaron said needs someone to come up to sh and bring down the to your dager you're so big your dag is because you needed to be the we're also we're also but whatever so therefore look at the of it wasn't his own like like so therefore you have that money to be able to give out what the rebba needs so therefore you're doing that who want in over here anybody you just have to be a big and you be able to go up to that's I know we're getting there we're talking about their mistake and the gar says that whenu was told that CL made the agle what does it mean my you're only because I want to learn and I want him to have them to have a rebi if I don't need I don't need you either ra so go down meaning sayashi brings down when cl's always been a Ze for 38 years in the midbar didn't speak to could you imagine yeah take a look in Rashi coming up in a few pares for 38 years we're not going to have a cup of coffee Misha no you mean when I need you to talk to I need to talk to you're not talk to why because his whole job is to Serv as so Miriam and Aaron's mistake let's be clar Miriam and Aaron's mistake was was they knew M had a greater level of they knew thatu had access to the way they didn't but they attributed that to the fact that needs a he decided to choose when when not I don't need a that was their mistake what's the teret as you've been hanging around Zar for a while you're on track that's their mistake thinking that anybody could have not anybody but other other you should know that is what got him up to sh that's why he was somebody else you need the to be says says when he sees a person who's low either the says I pick him up to me or or I go down to him I lower myself now tonight um we have tonight um one of one of my 43y old Booker Surly Gelb got engaged to a think a 35 or 36 year old girl first time for both so instead of the maral she we're going to be going after after this I'm going to be going to to give and go and and go but so if I want to share one or two maral incorporate in the Zar listen to this fascinating do you want to know the who do we passing like RAB B correct what was the Mila of Hill and B Hill they were always humble anus take a look what the says this is my M right now it's happening this is the m why and how was Bas hillo why did they get the nod why were Bas hillo the ones that were were chosen says the M the following things number one because they were easy right somebody came to the door the teach me said what you what are you wasting my time you SC said [Music] no B were no easy one they would get Al how do we translate Alo Al how do we say Al in English I got all these what no it's a they were like they had embarrassment they always let you know what the other opinion was they didn't just say their opinion they said the other person's opinion and they said the other opinion first they always gave credibility to the other opinion so they had these Milas they were Noah they were easy they were BHA they always made sure to say the other person's opinion did it first okay ask Mar a very basic as a very do you know how you how do we what do we do we do what Ms right we don't Bing like people cuz they're nice guys is not oh I want to pass like him MS me to be a mish aon's a nice guy let passing like him bunch of nice people to open up the door for you what's going on because they themselves whoever is knows what understand is right because you're macked in yourself the ter is Tyra is Tas Ms if a person doesn't have a sense of self and he or she is always looking for the truth they'll have theay to get the EMS the mid of B hillo brought them to the EMS because they they had the MS therefore the was like them it was a catalyst let's read the of the Mahar let's see what he says because the fact that they said words first they mentioned them that means there was honesty and integrity you know what that means they were honest and they and they told that's the siba that the should be because they have me and therefore it's not about when a person when a person gets angry when a person gets be what happens I'm right so he moves away from the truth he moves away from the you know what that means he wants to win it's good for playing basketball it's good for baseball it's fine right but not when it comes to to not when it comes to Tyra when it comes to Tyra it's called tyus em so the more humble the person is the more tic they are the more tic they are the more they're m to the that's the key says the mar because they were Al which means to say because they were willing to hear what other people said and give credibility Maybe I'm wrong let me what you have to say every single married person those of us who are married those of us who are not yet married Al that when you have communication her and one person hears what the other person hears so then you have a chance for shom bias but if a person is because a person can't hear so then forget about it because they're not hearing the other person they're not you want to help me con you mean you have to recognize you have to recognize that she's allowed to have another opinion opinion yeah that doesn't work that way she's right you always win Al is get the humility that a person has brings you closer to soon the quotes a g gar says that when a person has a person has listen to the words of the mar listen to this says the this is I want you to know when a person what do you mean the S rebit told me to give money but I understand better right I'm not going to listen to the rabbi soon we'll see I want to tell you another story you're out of the a person who is humble and understands runs the world he's taking care of me so you're in his R why when a person is humble so who's who's who who owns you who takes you're but you're not you're on your own buddy you're on your own discussed him a FR Waxman Rabbi Waxman SCH and this week at I had the to go I drove two hours to Philadelphia to the Wells Fargo Areno Arena 25 30,000 people what Pride to be surrounded by people that all they want to do is m EMS they're looking for EMS they're looking for the truth they spend their whole lives them their wives their family for what to learn tyus emus he told over the following small story it's so small but it's so big he said like this he said I was a a few years ago had to go visit family member in my modities and I was coming out of the building in the parking lot and I see with my own eyes a very well-dressed individual he had every designer label on everyone and his car which was also a nice car was brought back by the attendant and I hear him Point see him and hear him screaming at the attendant and pointing to a little scratch and the lotion that he uses he had what you call a meltdown you know meltdown a meltdown the cless ne that attendant that was over there got it the cup it was mamish he lost it over the scratch two weeks later he said two weeks later my cousin tells me is in mg he by mistake hit a parked car and broke the fender he found out whose car it is went into the Bas medish Tracked Down the owner and told the owner I have to tell you I hit your car I broke your Fender the fellow looks up from the gimar and he says I have my car for driving if it drives with a broken fence the way it does with a fixed Fender it's fine you don't owe me anything no problem it drives just as good with a broken Fender that's what can do for a person and that's what an does for a person and that's the reason that the reason that nobody was like M raenu was because M raenu you think he didn't know let's explain I want to psychologically for a minute when a person thinks I don't know how to do this I don't know how to do that I don't a person God forbid thinks he's a loser that's not an when a person knows I can go talk to was taller than everybody the mission says right a person knew he had these qualities but he took absolutely no credit for them I'm taller than others I have mess other because gave it to me they gave it to me and therefore he was humble because of what he had the more he had going for him the more mes he had the more humble he was because nothing he took credit for this everything comes from you what am I I'm just a CLE I'm just a CLE I'm just and therefore the more I'm a have the person gets all of the because and when you have that attitude so then you don't get upset if somebody says something wrong to you if somebody cuts you off if somebody bangs your bumper Asma Asma what's the big deal had someone said something negative to you Asma what's the big deal anyway it's you give me all these