Rabbi Shammai Blobstein speaking by Mishmar Parshas Balak at Scheiner's Shul

Hi guys, thank you very much. I appreciate you coming. You know, I just like some anything which is new, I'd like to start off with something like that and I like to have your input into the what you think about this. I got a phone call today for one of my children. I got I got a phone call for one of my children today. He's he's an URA. He's an URA. So, he works with the DU. So um one of the guys asked him a shila's follows one of the guys asked him a shila's follows you know he wants he's becoming a bala you know and and he's on his way but you know nowadays the way it works is whether you know whether you don't know the way things work is is that um I'll start a step I'll start I'll start a step beforehand I have a talid I have three dead talidum from overdosing of drugs. You know, they were former. They didn't die by me and Yeshiva Barashem, but they they had been by me in the past and uh they were good guys. But um in any case, one of them died and he was in this thing called um before they before they be do the actual Balva, they have the last fling. So this Talmet of mine was by his uncle's house or Shashiva Gr and um he was in the bathroom for a very long time until they bang on the door and they say yo yo what's going on she doesn't say yo but I say yo yo what's happening you know and he didn't answer and he didn't answer till they broke the door down they found he was dead inside the bathroom because he was on his last fling he had that this was his last smoke out unfortunately the guy who sold him his last batch of drugs. It was laced with um something and not proper. I don't know what these things are exactly. I really don't know. Alisa, he had his last he had it was a deadly chemical that was inside of it. Alisa, thanks for coming. And it was a deadly chemical and he died. So this guy >> this guy um today called up and he's on his way to becoming a bala and he and he's been there and he did that and he tried everything already that that you know that the stages that you know guys have to go through they have to go through or they want to go through whatever it is but um um he called up a shot like this he did everything already just was one more thing that he wants to do that he didn't do yet that he wants to bleach his hair. He never he never did that yet, you know. So my son called up today and said, "Um, what should I tell him? What do you think, Ty?" So I told him like this and you can tell me your opinions if you disagree. All right. I said, you know, let me ask you something. why are you becoming BVA? You know, why are you becoming BVA? So I said, um, well, I think it's the right thing in life. I've gone through different stages so far and, um, I became more mature and now this is what this is what I this is what I want to do now and I want to become from. So I said, um, okay. So then let me ask just one simple question. If your taka became mature, why do you have to do another immaturity? In other words, if you became mature that this is what you want to do cuz you feel that this is the right thing to do and everything, right? So why doesn't the maturity tell you not to do an immature thing? Cuz isn't that what maturity is? >> And he was quiet for a minute. Now he's quiet for a minute and he says, >> "You know, you're so right. What do I need it for? What do I need it for? I I I I talk. I noticed the right thing again. What do I have to do? Another kind of >> um you guys agree with me, you know, like he need what what do you need for?" Yeah. Yeah. You had everything you have to do. You need one more one more one more you have to do. You have to do that. and he said, "Thank you very much." And that was the end of it. Okay, I'm happy you agree with me because some people say, you know, I'm dealing with a Baka today. I was with a Baka this afternoon. I'm not going to tell you which yeshivas he he's been at, but I'm talking about he's been by the yeshivas where you went to all your kids to be accepted in. All right. Mal, you know, like uh real real places. And he ended up by me and uh he told me he came pes time and we came very close to Ingrada and he says that he's that he's leaving. I said why are you leaving? He said because there's too much pressure. I said this guy said by blasting there's too much pressure you know. So he said no there is. He says you're you're very pressured yeshiva. I said could you explain yourself? So he said, "Yeah," he says, "Very obvious, you know, you know, in the morning at when when doing is 10:15, 10:20, 10:25 around there and and and and and you push me to get out of bed and I don't want to get out of bed." And so you're forcing me to do things that I don't want to do. So I said you know I could understand when you and these other yeshivas let's just call it just for it's not it's not a month but let's say old to over here is known as the yeshiv place is like a real place I said I said they dive in there 7:30 in the morning you know what I mean and tonight says overnight at 10:00 so I understand you know there's the pressure you don't have enough time after tomorrow which is over 10:15 that you have to give 7:30 so only have like an hour and a half to chill out if you want to get 7 hours of sleep so I understand but over here the way Yeshiva which Delta vec is is that you could go you could go to sleep at 2:00 in the morning and still get 8 hours of sleep. We wake up at 10:00 and be in the base bed at 10:15. So what's the problem? I don't want anybody telling me what to do. >> I don't want anybody telling me what to do. You You're telling me to get up. If I want to get up, I'll get up. If I don't want to get up, I won't I won't get up. And you cause a lot of pressure. >> So what if you would have told him don't get up? >> What? What if you will fall and don't get up? >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Very good. >> Reverse psychology. >> Very good. Yeah. Same thing. That's really not it. >> What that's you're so funny because the nice that the truth is they just want to do the the the you can't tell a kid these generations what what what what they don't want to hear. If they don't want to hear it. So then you know like you you're pressuring me you're pushing me to do what things that I don't want to do but they could pressure parents to go ahead and paying for things that the parents don't want the kids to do right and and and pressure us to go ahead and paying for such things which is like a it's like a double standard you know I said so if you need money for something so so what to go get a job what do you come to me for well all kids have it so I said well most kids listen to their parents you know so what do you mean you're going to could you grab the rope by both hands? In any case, that was something just happened to because I tell this kid, he wants to leave your Shiva for that reason. I'm like, hey, I get big big hug and a big kiss goodbye. And I told him, I hope you and I'm always happy if you're ready. But I said, why do you have to can't you learn by your own mistakes? He was impress pressure cooker yeshivas, which I do understand it. You know, you guys yes now, so you understand a lot of times a lot of pressure that the yeshivas put on the bram and it's really really very very difficult lisa. You know what I mean? Especially when you go to these places where they in a lot of lifes there there's a big on who was the biggest bishan >> who's the biggest palishian who was the smartest boy >> no kishan no who >> and and if you're not up there you're not even like >> right so the guy right a lot of guys lisa you know >> and and could be very hurtful could be very very very hurtful dad went to this kid grow this guy has five brothers they were in a yeshiva and they were they were gave a lot of co this guy this guy's bisher too but like he's he's the youngest boy so he's never had that pressure everything so now he's he doesn't he doesn't he doesn't like his pressure you know what I mean the only way he's making it is if he gets the pressure and he's not getting his covered because he's not being pressured so he's not producing so and I'm I have to get my cover a different way everybody needs his cover you know what I mean so in any case I want to speak to you about an interesting ashkaf today Um, it has to do with the end of the para this week and you know I don't know if you you know he has such an interesting way to go ahead and learn up and um it really impressed me a lot. It put a I I like lumbus and it put lumbus into into the Tyra and we downplay a lot of characters in the Tyra because because because we don't know where to start thinking about them and a lot of times there are some people who discuss characters in the Torah like of Ramino or and they make such a they make such a farce out of them and it's it's disgusting. But when you hear from Dash Tyra how to look at certain things, it's really beautiful. You know, I'm I'm talking about like there's a there was a shas that came out and spoke about Shami and Hill and the way the shas whenever broke whenever brought down a tan or an ammyra, it always had um a biography about the person and the way they spoke about Shamai was Shamai was a very angry person. Shame was Sham Sham had flaws in his character. You know Shab was a very angry person. You sab says when somebody asked him to teach him to call regular sh picked up his stick. It's like get the heck out of here. Right. Hill was much more calm. You know what I mean? But sh get out of here you know. So he typed up from there. >> What more mean? >> Whatever you call whatever you know he didn't say that. You know maybe I don't know if I don't know if he could say that. I don't know if it's right or wrong but lamesa by by aka right where a was dabing for rain and aka was answered and then and then razer wasn't answered so they said they typed up things differently about different memory because about their personality and says I don't I don't I don't think he says but what he does says is this how do you touch up to personality because of what they said it was they a lot of things that they did was aita it wasn't because they were It wasn't because of a personality. Sham was an angry person. He looked at him, they say, "Oh, Shai, he's crazy guy. Nobody's going to marry him. Look how angry he always gets." He was a balita. He had a shittas in life. Rabika Rabika when it came to getting rain when he got then rain came down and the says cuz he was a maver because he held that that's the right thing to do. wasn't like that mean like threw threw somebody out of base matters. Right. Right. He he held a marvelous marvel and with he threw he threw out of base him. So it wasn't because of the personalities we can't say such a thing. But what we could do is we could try to tight up and what their [ __ ] were and that's one of the things that you know he spoke about and and and about certain things about and hug throwing you out of the house you know like uh Sah said to throw him out so of you had more mercy than than hunger that's not it was and I'm going to tell you tonight that I heard um from from Zanfeld about a very interesting para that we have in the Torah this week. It ends off this week and it starts next week about the story with Pinas and with uh and with Zimry. What happened? What happened was that um what the story said that the the M in the Torah was is that um is that um Bum gave an idea to um to to to to Balok it would be a good idea to bring in bring in prostitution right and you'll see that the the Jews will be in it which I'm going to speak about afterwards if we have time in that. All right. But um how did he know it would work? In other words, okay, we'll come back to that. But first, I want to get into this. So, what happened was so Zimri felt that he went ahead and he took and he took a Zina and he took it into he took her into his tent and he was and he and he was being mis with her and Pilkas came in. The mighty Pilkas came in. He took a spear and while they were having relations, he stuck a spear right through them. while they were doing it. And he took out and he carried them out on the spirit house and set them in bed. He carried them out to show everybody that that um that what what he did. Now most people go ahead and they look at Zimry like he was a a bum and he was a man and he was a low life. How could he do such a thing? Right? That's what goes through most people's heads. But think something like Zim was the head of Shva Chim. Sim was an Odi wasn't the low life. You know what I mean? He was bigger than than than everybody that we know about. Pinas. Everybody looks at like he was Hercules. He's walking out with chains, right? Got a strong guy coming in. He's taking a spear and he carried two people out on the spear together. Wow. And that's a picture of Pilkas was a was a was a was a Hercules and he was a and he was an angry person. And to look at Zimry like um he was like a player, you know what I mean? So he had an excuse to go ahead and do what he's got to do to get things done the way his way. You know what I mean? So and if you look at things that way, you understand that that's you understand that's not not the way to look at it. How should you look at it? You have to look at like Mishna It's about sorus what whatever whatever you have you have to take it apart understand it what was shot what was zimry >> I don't know if you ever thought about it zim had murder when he did what he did what was what was zim felt like this told me this so I'm repeating it for and I saw it afterwards from um from like I told you for yeah but he says like this shouts like this Zimry saw what was going on with Claus this is crazy people are going ahead and they're being manana right and it's to bring on a terrible plague in Claustra that that yeen are going ahead and they're becoming maniahim everybody's going ahead you know the med says that they had a they had like old lady standing outside selling her wears you You know what I mean? Jews are always in for bargains. There's the med says this is not me, right? The the Jews are always in for a bargain. So what happened was they had these old ladies, haggarded ladies standing outside, all sistic and everything. Guys wanted to buy for the wife's clothes and material. They didn't buy wasn't you know Lord and Taylor you coming to buy ready made stuff. They bought material and the old ladies outside selling it and they saw some cheap prices and they said, "Oh, you want cheap prices? I got much better much better quality stuff in the back for very very cheap. In the back of the store, they had some young, you know, Zuks uh going ahead and uh encouraging them to buy this type of property, this type of material. And slowly they seduced them into starting to do a ver, right? And it was catching on from one guy to another guy to another guy to another guy to another guy to another guy, you know. So Zimi had a very good idea. Z said, "We're going to bring by us Kasher Zionist instead of going ahead and having the the the these Zionist coming along and and afterwards selling them stuff and getting what did what did the Zionist do? The Zionist went and they did what? They enticed them to do a ver and they said before they had relations they said you have to do a despar. All right. So they went ahead and they they said okay and slowly that's what they started doing. They started going ahead and coming in and started doing it and it was all just to get them to do it by his own. >> Well yeah yeah just get to Yeah. That's what it was right. So he thought a very good idea. We'll have call it kosher prostitution. You know what I mean? I'm going to go ahead. We're going to have the girls coming in. We're going to take the girls who they're going to take over there. Right. And this way we'll make sure that they don't do any they don't do any they don't they won't do any vis in other words they'll do this but they won't do it. Okay. Pinta said, "No, no, no, no, no, no. Keep the schmutz out of the MA. Keep the schmutz out of the MA." That's not the is that if a guy doesn't have enough and brings it down, he passes down. If a guy goes ahead and he has to do an right, so what do he do? He should put on black clothes and he should go into the midbar somewhere and then whatever whatever he has to do go ahead and do it there right do not go ahead and bring inside the makda zi said listen you have to be liberal you have to understand that's not going to happen if we do it that way you know what I mean and they can still keep on going to the zim if they have better over there by the by the by by the by of him, whoever they're bringing in to be the prostitutes. So, you know, if we're going to make it difficult for them, they're not going to do it. Says, "I don't care. You don't bring inside the MA." That's not the all right. And and that's how he hashem said, you know, like he he right he you know, he he he justified and he did a very good thing because of what he did. He brought sham in the world and he got all the pin ultim became right the msiah whatever you know what I mean in any case you see you see a mashkuff over here and it's something that we have to take out of it unfortunately the guys who are here before know that I I deal with the with care of kraim you know a lot and and I I see so prevalently and it's really very disgusting if you ask me all right the and We spoke about times before, but that's for the new guys that aren't here about the uh there are programs now and I want you to know I I I had the phone hung up on me by I'll be very honest with you. Maybe maybe I should be embarrassed to say something like this, but um you know they have these programs now that the guy say you know like parents don't know what they're doing and you have to twist the parenting around. You have to understand what the kids are like and the kids nowadays are are different than they were in olden times. So you know to be macar a girl or something and then and if she's going to the only way she'll become makur is it is if you buy him miniskirts and the boys will be makur you want to become you buy them drugs and these type of things and and and and and the people who involved with the kir are are are are lowering down the the the level of cla by by by us understanding our kids so much so that it they became a dea. It became a dea. I want to show you something for a second. It was just funny if I can find it. Love hand. Um but uh it became such a thing now that we we have such an understanding to our children that which is good. Nothing wrong with understanding with children, but you have to know how to act with with understanding. In other words, everything that a that uh that a kid wants doesn't necessarily mean that it's that it's the right thing to give in to them. Um, one second. Let's see if I can find it. So, give me one minute. If I don't find in a minute, I'll stop. >> Picture of a girl who was not really a girl. Is that what >> that one? Right. Right. Yeah. >> I remember you showing that to me. >> Well, it was like a crazy thing. A guy in a I saw a picture. >> That's what I'm saying. >> And And it's like a woman, but it's actually a guy. >> Yeah. It's really a guy. and you put them into a dormatory with other boys, you know, I mean, plus they were private rooms cuz virus, you know, it's like it's like it's like it's like nuts. In other words, we became so acclimated to trying to understand our children that we took the Torah and we and we we distorted in certain ways in order to be mar them in order to be mar them when really in essence what we're really doing boy it's just not a joke you know I mean it's really not just guy I'm telling you you could tell it's a boy you disgusting you know you put him inside a kid like that into a dormatory with other boys and well I don't I And and I I was I was with one of my friends um we swimming. He was in URA for a weekend. I'm talking about two years ago, you know, and we speaking about one of these programs for cure cure of craven, you know what I mean? And he said his, you know, his daughter, he sent his daughter to this program because everybody sent him to go there. And um so I said, uh so you being he says, I um I don't know. I I think I'm crazy, you know, but uh you know, I'm listening to and I'm out here in I don't come to the toenails. There's a lot of things I don't understand and the only answer I got. I'm I'm afra I have to understand things. I have to understand things. Especially I'm involved in K. I I have to know what I'm doing. I I can't feel hypocrites against my hash. And so he's saying he left this guy has a daughter like 17 18 years old and she's off to Dar and keep her. you have to keep her at home, which I understand that. I really do. But Lisa, I mean, I promised some my own children, you know, I had a kid who I went through hardships with him. I told him, you know, Ruv, whatever his name is. I said, you know, you have your issues. I understand, you know, I'm not I'm not throwing you out of the house. Didn't even enter my mind. But he said, "Do me a favor. I respect you. Respect me too. And if you have to do certain things, just keep it inside your bedroom. That's all. Keep it inside your room." You know what I mean? I don't have a TV in my house. I said, "But this kid, you need he wanted to have a TV." So, I'm talking about the when TV was uh not before internet and all these stuff. You understand? I said, "You want you need a TV?" "Okay, fine. But I want you have a closet and put a lock on it. When you leave the house, when whenever you leave your room, just put a lock on the closet." So, that your siblings should become mush. That's what you need. Okay. You know what I mean? Do I agree? Necessary? Sort of. I mean, remember exactly like this. I wasn't angry at all. He loves me. I love you. There was understanding that I had with him. for you yourself. So this guy was to this guy. Um say so is the guy happy with you the way you're you're progressing along with his der. He says he's not happy with me but I'm doing it. I said what what tell me what you're talking about. So he says you know I have an 18-year-old daughter 17-year-old daughter and she's off to DK and she walks around the house shab by the shabas table and she comes up with a bra panties. She walks around the house. She's about built like a like like a 18-year-old girl. You know what I mean? And and he has boys at home >> and and >> no respect for the family. >> That's no respect. That's exactly that's the word. You're exactly that's the word. That's the word I said. But no, because you have to be macar. So he says, "I'm doing it." But I said, "I don't think he'll be happy because I'm not happy what I'm doing. I'm doing it because that's what he said I have to do. So I'm doing it. So I'm doing it, but uh but but I'm not happy with it. But uh he I but so that's why I'm not doing good because he's going to say I should do more. They should be I should embrace it and and and say and say you're great for what you're doing which which doesn't which doesn't talk to me. I don't I I I I don't get that. You know what I mean? I I I don't know where it's coming from. But I personally spoke to two people on theas and one of them told me um I asked him how he could back these things. I'd like to understand it. Can I speak with Darn? I don't say can I speak to Rash whatever it is. Yeah, man. Says, yeah, you know, I said, um, I said, um, I heard you back this. I just like to understand what what the what what the what the D behind it is. He says, well, he's being I said, um, okay, does you know that for a fact? Okay, I can't argue with that. If you have statistics, you know that's the way it is. But just one question since when do the ends justify the means. In other words, where where's that going ahead and and doing a like where since when did that come into our into our Tyra that you allowed to do? I honestly if you'd asked me about Zimry right when he did this thing Zim would bring in the Zist how would you look at it honestly Zim bought in he was worried that they're going to do Zara he stopped every right so what did he do wrong he did what he did himself >> you know who said no he did mitzvah he don't mitzvah he's doing he's showing everybody even The head of shim is going ahead and doing something like this. I'm doing >> what he he thought. Oh was head of shim. He was big. I promise you. You know what I mean? Again he that's what he meant. I he really meant that this is what to say. You heard the ver you heard what I said. Why did go ahead and do what he did? I don't know what they teach. I don't know but he he he had a behind it because since they were bringing Zus inside the thing and they so he said you know we'll get Zus and they won't do so notice he was holding back and said no I mean I mean you had to lus that was that was that was that was his that was [Music] >> two people came to the same mism to be what >> two people came for they were they were >> right >> one of them you gave a cha you know do the other one >> made sure that it's not like and everything else so gave him much higher cheese the guy was he had he did that now he feels bad about it >> you have time to prepare and prepped everything to make sure that it's the >> of course that that that's one of the things now you're going to live I don't want to say with school. I don't want to get into I don't want to get into politics. I'm not a political guy. >> No, no, he say he's saying he's saying he said the most >> you got the worst >> one. That's why I mean that's some places you know you go to Mikvah over here at the lady's mikman. A single girl they don't they don't let her into Mikvah. They see what >> a single girl that wants to go to Mikvah. >> She wants to play around with her boyfriend. >> I thought that's the way like that. If you're not married, they don't let you go to >> Why? >> Because of what you just said. >> That's right. >> But but you I I don't see if you agree with that. >> Because you shouldn't be doing that. >> Right. So in other words, you're being >> let them come to then you're allowing them to do whatever. The truth is the truth is going to the mikvah even if you go to mikvah it's it's it's because you mean hera there's no such thing is a joke I spoke to David about it I I deal with these shilas all right I'm not going to say daily but I deal with these shilas so I I asked rebi you know what I mean when guys call me up say rebs you know I mean um what should I do you know should should I should I take her to the mikvah or So I said of course no but I said my rebi anyway you know what I mean because again it's it's condoning under the table honestly this is what somebody are telling me personally and I heard it myself somebody telling me personally that um you have to realize when there's no other kids inside the house in order to guy uh uh a boy a guy a guy guy guy guy guy guy guy guy guy guy guy guy guy guy guy guy guy guy guy guy has a girlfriend so unless he brings her into the house there's no other kids in the house right so over there I'm not saying I could hear but I'm tell I heard from the god clar he told me clar one of matzas he says um he says in such a case there's there's what to there's what to be to be make about because nobody else is getting hashba, you know, because when there's other people inside the house, of course, but with nobody else inside the house and you're reaching out and they're doing it anyway, they don't get embarrassed anyway. So, >> you must do less than a bear. >> This this is what one told me. I said, I'll be very honest with you. Again, again, again, this is my opinion. And then see I I I never have a problem with these things because and it's a good thing you should learn from me is that I always my rebi every time I have a shila going out of my head I always think what would my rebi say and if I would ever ask if I could be macar if I could be macar a girl by lending being mopped her to wear a mini skirt he'd say shamai get out of get out If you could have such a sh already, you you you passed your time already. This is not the entire thing. >> Okay. But again, I don't I don't I don't have any other mess that I mention. I'm not lying to you. You know what I mean? I'm the only one that can ask you to do all these type of shilos. Anyway, that's so that's what he told me. So he so so he told me the ends he told me that um he's being the person is being m so I said I don't know since when the ends justify the means to follow me you know what I mean another gu told me he said um another another president mist told me uh what else are you supposed to do with them what what do you do with these kids what do you do to them all Right. I told them I said um I said uh I don't know but I said I don't know my hashkafa always was is that you do whatever you can and whatever you can do if whatever you do to help out a Jew you help in other words let's say let's say you need money to pinion you come with me sh help me have a pinion so let's say I have $10,000 to give you all right so then I'm going to go rob from him $50 $10,000 to give it to you also or I could do whatever I So where where's where's the head to to go ahead >> where do you draw the line the light is very simple do whatever you could do has other way if a guy can't go ahead since and one of the things I learned and honestly I'm very successful at what I do and that's because there's there's parameters in in in my life about how I go about doing it. If if anything get passes certain lines, I don't I don't know. I don't think that's what Hashem wants. I mean, so if Hashem does all I'm going to do things, Hashem says, go help out my and going ahead and by being with them to them, you know, you know, so that that's that's not the way what right that's not the Hashem. So what's going to happen with them? I don't understand. I don't I >> Yeah, you have to you have to know what to say, right? >> Some say she wasn't doing some say it was really that she sent her or something. But the fact is what we know is that she was with but she didn't say by ladies are different. The ladies are different. What? My sister had relations with him. >> No, you she had relations with me. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Well, yeah. I forgot. I just I just learned it now. Yeah. So, it's very interesting. It's a very interesting uh >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Not here, you know. But it's it's very it really gets me. But in any case, the hashkov of das is his dad. I I think but uh I say dash said people in myas are against me. But uh but uh I think I told you the story it really bothered me. I was by one of my tamid's houses for uh for uh for an roof. I told you a story. I was by one of house for an roof. So uh house you know very nice house very nice people and um so I asked I asked my I said where's the zeda zipher he's the cipher he's a very good friend of mine you know who he is I'm not going to say names and um he says don't say anything invite me to hell for life you know don't say anything I said I won't say anything tell me where's your grandfather where's your where's your grandfather So my brother and my sister each have my brother has his girlfriend over for the weekend and my sister has his boyfriend over but and and they they have two rooms that they're taking up in the house. You know what I mean? And Za said if if they're bringing the the the boyfriends girlfriend sleeping in the same same room together, you know what I mean? I'm not coming. I'm not coming. I'm not coming. I'm not coming. You know >> what? I'm not coming to the house over there. Well, my my grandchildren being misan inside the house with me in the house and I'm condoning I'm not coming, you know. And uh they said, "Okay." So they called up the rabbi. The rabbi says, "Too bad. So you won't come." You know, it's marvel. All right. By me it's like make sense. Doesn't make sense, right? You don't even believe me probably. It's okay. I don't care. I'm 71 years old. I have enough stories under my belt, but it's it's like crazy stuff. >> No, I I just want to say something. It's one thing if you have a child who, you know, either the child went off a duck or whatever it is, you know, they're doing whatever they're doing. >> Wow. >> But if you know it's going to upset your parents, why would you do that in front of have >> some respect? >> Respect. when with that I think when we're seeing that word I think with that word is gone in society I think that again the relationships that we have with our children which became from vharm kite I'm much closer to my kids than than I was my father but my kids there's a certain distance I'm very very friendly but not my but not their friends you know what I mean I think that's that's I think that's mistake I think friendly became friends we became good friends they have a date an equal day inside the house let's go inside the house >> the cat yeah affects the counseling camp. >> Be friendly. >> Treat be friendly. >> Don't be friends. >> Don't be friendly. Okay. You have to you have to keep your distance. So nicer, but it doesn't go, you know. >> Okay. That's one. I want to tell you I want to tell you to convert. Um I think you'll enjoy it. I hope you'll enjoy it. Um okay. Bum. Bum is very very very very successful. Bolock went ahead and he hired him out to go ahead into and to into into custard juice, right? Bam's trying and he's trying and he's trying have a little more and he's trying and he's trying and he's trying and he's trying and he's not being any not being he's not being in his endeavors, right? Bam starts thinking what is going on over here? How come I'm not being till he finally figures out that Hashem is not getting angry during these days. Shem's not getting angry these days. So the whole time that he's going ahead and trying to be my negating it. Why not? Because not getting angry. Well, he says to Bullock, I have a good idea. Let's go ahead and and and entice them with nushim. Let's let's go entice them with with with N and everything. Bum. What is one of one of the things that Bum said about the Jews was right? What was the why was the godless the Jews when they built the houses? It wasn't like it wasn't like in uh in in Lakewood when he buddies kind of man when the guy sneezes you know he's the guy puts his hand through the window hands with tissue from his next door you know the mamish weren't living right on top of each other right that was the godless of yeden is that whenever they when they built their houses they built it you couldn't go ahead and see what's going on inside other's house there was snea now all of a sudden the Jews are going to go ahead and they're going to The Jews are very careful with these type of things. Right? Shout is like this. Listen to this. It's a kafa. Did it ever bother you? Why is it that Hashem gets angry every day? Is he a sick person? Gets angry every day. Every day guy's got to go ahead and got got to get crazy. Got what? What's the shim every day? Good caution. It's bomb caution. You know you have a terror anybody. >> Is it always about the same thing? He's angry or >> you know gets angry every day for a fraction of a second he gets angry every day. You know you know >> is it always about the same thing? >> But why is he getting angry? Like what >> I I I don't know. I I don't I can't answer. But I I got to tell you one thing. The reason why Hashem gets angry it says every day for fraction of a second. What >> about right? >> What? Right. Right. Right. So, right. >> On that day, he says what he wants to do on that day. And that's it. And that's it. >> I'm I'm going to tell you why. >> I'm going to I'm going to tell you why gets angry every day. Get gets angry every day for one reason. You ever notice kids? I I I have I have I have a tal you know his mother his mother's remarried to for like three four times five time I don't remember right and you know he was born with one of those five marriages and um and the last marriage his mother has a has a kid with his with his stepfather and he's so jealous he's upset why because this kid is so spoiled guy's a multi-millionaire, you know, he was born in a poor he's a born in a poor family, a garnished and he's and his and his and his new brother, right? Spoiled rotten. And he's right. He's right. The kid is spoiled rotten, right? I even spoke to the father was the gay or something. So wasn't my business and the gay my tal who I'm friendly with. So I had something came up and he said, "You know what, Rebs, he is right. the kid is spoiled for and you know why I didn't have a kid till I was whatever age it was and my wife was a certain age so I said you know the new baby the first baby we had together you know I mean like uh so the kid every new Lego set and every when we was already four years old he's driving a jaguar you know his mom and she had everything that he needed whatever age he was he had so Alice all right is that a good we all know that's not that it's not a makes each other doesn't work that way, buddy. You know, in any case, it's if Hashem wouldn't be, if Hashem wouldn't get angry every day and his unbridled love that he has for Clus would run loose, right? Aa destroys glad kite. When a person gets angry, when a person just love love love like they're preaching and just love love love love it's because love brings to every type of bad thing. You know they say the nur shalom says by um says why wasn't a the progenitor for for why didn't why wasn't he the one that was the 12vat why wasn't the one that was the why was it only >> so he says so he says like this wasn't pure he said au had of a tremendous amount of a yak ya yakinu had the right combination of the two of them together and ya so he's the one that's going to go ahead and he's going to be proen he's going to be the one that's my and notice having the me of a it's beautiful we love people who are lovely right and everything but if it's unbr if it's un if it's not controlled it's not tempered running a to go ahead and go go get lose could go ahead and it could be complete destruction. Right? So that was shot over here. When Bum went ahead and he saw that Hashem's not getting angry, what do you do? Ty is going rampant because since there's no there's no there's no cost, what does K do? Why does Shim get angry? Because that balances out the aa that balances out the the the the you know magic kids running around running around you have accountability all right has that cost every day cuz otherwise it's going to be unbridled love it's not good it's not good it's not it's not a good thing you need that you need that you know such a funny thing I was the first great baby for 15 years so I used to do a lot of um honey clans, you know, read the halipes. They bring the kids in the halipes, you know, with the honey with the charts and everything. So nice. I wanted to know what the right mess is for these things, you know. So I spoke to different people. They told me you go to saf which was kadmine, right? He brings down the whole procedure how how you do it and he says you bring in the kid and this is what everybody does. Bring him in with the talis over their head that they shouldn't see anything tum from them leaving the houses. They bring him to they kiss and all the give the honey and then he says and then give him a smack. He said give it smack, right? Give a p right cuz part of part of part of the is I'm not I didn't smack anybody. Don't don't get back. >> Yeah. No, right. Right. You know in any case that's part of I have to know because alone is not a good because it goes ahead and and ru it ruins things alone runs loose is not a good in any case. So that was the that was thema of villim bum saw over here what was going on and he saw doesn't get angry so that mean is going to be rampant right he said go get the zist we're going to get him now right all right said that's what happened it's you know I think it's a great book >> so explain that he said that he said hashem's not getting angry what do you mean >> hashem wasn't getting angry during those days Hashem wasn't getting angry. So now's a good time to get them into because uh because there's no anger. So So is running low. So now >> what? >> No, >> this says >> I don't I don't see I I learn >> I love to see you. I'm big. I learn with my buck every every week, you know. I learned with my booksh you know let me tell you just one more part and then I think we'll finish um it's America the hair um you know that um that says um forgot which what's going on that saw across the river. >> Oh, he thought it was a woman. Yeah. >> Right. And he saw a very beautiful beautiful image and he jumped across it and what happened was um and he jumped across it and what happened was he saw Raban and um he he saw Kanan. So um >> sister, >> yeah, one second for a story got started. >> If he comes back there, >> what >> he comes back >> he said he says he says he says he said right he said wow he said your strength if you use your strength for your image could be a god. So he said um and he told him I said he told him told him you look very good you're very handsome guy. He says, "You think I'm good-looking? I have a sister. She's not much better looking than me. And if you're going to go ahead and you become Baliva, so I'll let you my I'll let you go ahead and marry my daughter." >> My sister, right? So says afterwards he jumped back, but he fell short. It didn't work out. He wasn't able to get back across. Right. >> Power. >> Right. So he lost his power. So Kash is what happened within 10 minutes he lost his strength. Right. >> What happened? So, so, so, so what all the Bali must say is is because so P child like you're saying wasab the old so became weak. Why does being the Torah making him weak? What does that mean? So now you become weak. His muscles didn't go with 10 muscles didn't go down. You know those muscles in his legs didn't go down. is beloved says that is is that when you find what what things that are true in life. So you lose your whole aspiration for for other things because now they got focused in the right things in life your whole you know so the whole cuz a lot of times when you get things the adrenaline starts running and you go and you have and all of a sudden you have to do some things that you never had before right so if you know if you want to jump over that river cuz I want to show off so the adrenal is going to go rolling and I'm going to be able to do it but now after you lose your so that adrenaline whatever that means All right. There is something to adrenaline, by the way. It's it's not it's not it's not in the mind. There is something to adrenaline. I I checked it up on Google. You know, there is something there is something you ever hear a story about this person. I'm not going to tell a story now. They're walking with the kid and the kid got stuck under a car, right? And the person like an older person 60 years old pick the back of a car. They to pull the kid out. You know what I mean? And something none of us could do. This was an older person, 60-y old pulling up and bringing them back because the adrenaline gets moving. go ahead and could do something. In any case, you find very much so that by some things that you have a to do, some things that you have an enjoyment to do, all of a sudden you don't get tired. You don't get tired. If I sit you in front of them and I say you count for three days in a row, all the money that you count, you could keep. I guarantee you you're not sleeping for three days in a row. I'm not sleeping for three days in a row. All right. Why? Even though I have more than I need because you know you want to stock up your kids up all Sunday you have to do. Right. Right. Anybody will sleep for three days count $100 for three days in a row. You going to get tired? You you get tired? No way. I don't right. Right. So, so uh is by what what Bum saw by I for um it says in this parish bum says he didn't see a he didn't seem he didn't see them he didn't see a lack of in other words and this is the way it is and you see it by see it by by the big people and that's what hopefully we're all striving to become like is that the the mish I I was in Bishra for for for 27 for 17 years other This