Rabbi Shalom Yona Weiss & Rebbetzin Amit Yaghoubi | A Night of Gratitude | CHAZAQ

[Music] want to thank you everyone for joining us tonight the sixth annual night of gratitude we have a very special program tonight we're going to hear first Then followed by Ritson I mean GOI words of inspiration and follow and followed by um music and by sh we want um and of course the event is dedicated and um it's being presented by the organization in conjunction with em Outreach amudim uja orava and allim of course we want to thank allim for opening stores for Elbas and for the entire for for partnering on the event of course Round of Applause for parting on this event and for being such a place of torren feel in the community want to thank of course um mud an organization which is uh literally has life-changing amazing programs and um and they have a special campaign right going on right very shortly unite to heal.com every want should get involved in mim's lifechanging programs and of course em doing amazing um Outreach for young professionals and amazing amazing college Outreach changing the community and of course umava won's organization and thank you to the uja and a quick word about the kazak organization organizing amazing events like tonight for men for women young and old and and has a major focus on public school Outreach with 15 after school programs in in different locations to to give the the youth the proper guidance to live a path live a live a life of purpose and meaning and connection to Hashem and and we have special division which is called Public School Yeshiva division which has transfer over, 1400 children from public school to Yeshiva so we ask everyone who's here if they everyone knows of course at least one maybe two or probably many more um parents relatives um um neighbors relatives co-workers who have children in public school and they should reach out to kazak um even anonymously whatever it may be to to to to give us the names we'll reach out to them to make sure that they get a proper education and to give a I think a a mindset for to to introduce tonight's event I think that there's one of the most famous questions about Kaneka that says why why do we light eight candles on khaka maybe you should just light seven why because there was enough oil to light the first night so fine just light seven so so there's actually a safeer a book that that has over 100 answers to this question so one of the one of the answers that that that it says is because is because is that is that who said that if you have oil that that it's that if you light it it's going it's going to become a flame that that's that's also the work of hasem that's also a miracle and and and that we also have to realize that even the everyday what goes on that we might just think is nature that that that we know te that there's no really nature it's really all hasem and hasem is is trying to tell us that even the basics even the the things we should not take it for granted from Hashem I think that that's what we're going to speak about tonight that we're going to find gratitude in our relationships that we shouldn't take our relationships for gratitude whether whether it's a whether it's a spouse whether it's a parent whether it's a friend a coworker it may be we should not take it for granted and without and and just to give a little background of of the event that this is the sixth annual event that that that Rober Weiss's um wife she came up with an idea um over six years ago and she said why do we only get to together for tragedies or just different things why don't we just get together just St just to get together to show to show gratitude to realize all the great things all the blessings that we have in our life and Rie Weiss himself is a a man who has tremendous gratitude and he and he gives so many amazing Shum and he's he's very passionate a tremendous do for cl so everyone pleasee rise for fahes to it's different ways to say it everybody has their own spice their own thing that they like I want to start with um first of all recognizing Robbie's last few words those were the best I I enjoyed the most that where he was talking about me Robbie if you want to left ear I would bring it back up and Kipper oh wow I didn't know you let the most H people in here incredible now I'm like nervous you have two very holy people here and I'm nervous [Music] to ker says weren't such holy days what was happening Tu Ander Robbie single I've been pushing him for a few years you know somebody I don't care this is on video I don't care if I embarrass him he's he's a Zite he's unbelievable he's so sweet all he does is for CL you so every second it's it's more programming more things and he just with a smile that lights up the room he's single as we would say in in my CES grab that I mean don't actually grab that that's inappropriate okay so uh I'm seeing all the I I didn't realize we did this in Cedar two nights ago and I did not realize how many organizations unbelievable organizations that we're talking about gratitude I have to show the Gratitude and to these organizations gratitude that Hashem has been Ming me over the years to be involved with these organizations on a very personal level give a lot of Shar for we'll talk about in a second am been involved there for a long time sending people there uja okay that's a little out of my reach that I don't know but they're probably amazing and we thank for them being involved and talk about had a tremendous to to call him rebi and to be close with him in the last few years and um what we're talking about tonight is bem really very much what his entire life was his entire life was about gratitude specific he wrote a safer on it but also gratitude in the way that we're going to talk about tonight and we'll get to it a little little soon and then this is this place and to have gratitude that they open their doors to us and theni she's here to be back together with you again um I'm sorry I'm not I I would stay if you let me stay I've snuck into some women's Spirits I think they're a lot better than the guys always a more emotional connection if you let me say I'm staying and chandel's here she's not here yet okay Shan's an unbelievable young lady my my and I actually met her through a different event in mados good people good organizations getting together for great things and then finally this isas I don't think he mentioned it oh maybe yeah okay just in Cedar it wasas a young lady that passed away many years ago so Robbie touched on the history I just want to catch you up a little for those that have not been anyone been here for this event before anyone been here I know by women's classes your shoulders don't work I always find everyone does this they're very I've never seen a woman that has their shoulder work on the first chance at least when I'm speaking I understand anyone that goes like this I've only seen this and it and it's after two or three times where's the self-confidence it's okay I'm not asking for your social security number I'm not asking what you're looking for in your dating life I'm not asking asking any personal question I'm asking did you attend an event before I don't think I know it's 2023 we have to be very very careful and people's boundaries and triggering and because last year there was Darkness involved and Yan and I'm triggered how many people were here at the event last year we go okay still no shoulders only elbows but okay I'll take it so this event as last year I spoke a lot about that I'm not going to go back into the whole appreciation for the wom was M also to marry ay woman and the beauty of the woman is that just and it was years ago that we were getting together as K does and as we've seen we're getting together now and all these gatherings and Helm Gatherings and when when the darkness seems to get too much for us we like candles and we like candles together that's the appropriate response and it's an appropriate reaction to challenges to CH to trials to tribulations to suffering absolutely but comes from a higher world and after some get togethers my wife said to me these are great but like why don't we be proactive not reactive why don't we be proactive why don't we just get together a bunch of Jews for no reason other than we're so happy to be Jews we want to say thank you Hashem not just myself in the morning but we want to say thank you hasem because you're hasem as I said over in Cedar saying the said that it's after we say all the things we for we above everything the number one reason we thank you is because CU you I was to be one of your people to be one of your children to have your DNA to have your DNA and for that why don't we just make a gathering say together sing together and say thank you hashm we're so happy and as my RAB says on a Tuesday in Tavis just a simple day of Tuesday in Tavis let's get together for no other reason I said that's a great idea I love it I think it'll bring mhia I spoke with my reita I told him about it he said fantastic it'll bring mhia don't get guys involved do it only with women I said what he goes yeah the guys are going to complicate things as me I like just do it with women and the first year myself well let's do it in the right order RAB Weinberger and Charlie and myself got together and we held an event and we we we just got together we said we're just going to say thank you and what we started working on in that first khek and the reason we picked KH is IND of hodala it's the SE of Hod which means at it core and his Essence is is gratitude we are you did so is the time that we do it and over the years we've taken different angles different perspectives different parts of the idea of gratitude but the goal really is to work on the muscle called gratitude called being thankful and the way you do that is you have to stop and look at L to recognize to see see to see something first after the initial view to to Really to recognize it when you don't recognize something if it looks like something else even even the idea ofma why how early you can say excuse me in the morning thear tells us it's when you can recognize another Jew at a certain level when you could that's the instead of saying what time it's it's no says it's when you could recognize another Jew when you see a friend and you could see who it is when is that that you could see a friend different than somebody else you ever have that you see somebody from far away and you kind of you're like looking at their gate git T how they're walking and you you're like I think I know who that person is but that moment when they come into Clear View and you recognize them what's happening you're seeing them for who they are and not St just for a person to recognize to have gratitude like the L says the is to recognize what it is to stop and think about it and differentiate it from other things we have a very uh unique on uh the the tells us that if person's in a position that they aren't able bble to light they don't have candles whatever it is even though it's one of the things you have to sell all your clothes for to sell everything to have but let's say a person can't do it they're un they are incapable of doing it you can go down the street you can look at somebody else's manura in the window and you can make a you can't do that one because you're not actually lighting can make you can fulfill your obligation by looking at somebody else's candle that is unique of every Mitzvah you cannot look at somebody and beah you cannot look at somebody's you cannot look at whatever it may be that they're doing they're being and you can look it and say I get the you can't all of a sudden there's a connection with other Jews so deep you can look at their Mitzvah their candle and you can make the you could be but on the flip side of that when you're lighting your candles you cannot take from one candle and light for the other I want to take a few moments and just understand this and understand another aspect of this idea of of being thankful what are we thankful for the truth is it it's I don't know who had the the uh NOA which we're going to talk about at the end of this an amazing M ofes but who had thees to write finding gratitude in our relationships because I asked RAB I said send me a flyer and I want to see the flyer I had already decided which is very rear for me because usually I'll decide what I'm going to talk about about five minutes before I talk I decided I what was going on there and and everything happening today that we have to we have to fit in with the times Hashem is sending us messages we have to s those messages and react accordingly and I said what's what's more happening now than CLA waking up to the beauty of other Yen doesn't matter what they look like it doesn't matter where they come from Asim Italians not religious super religious hates the religious it doesn't matter everybody's holding each other dancing for with each other for each other doing for each other everybody here I hope I hope everybody here has at least one name of one that they're that's by their heart that they're ding for is everybody should have somebody I have I have a great one everyone should say it's someone very close to me his son is right now in Gaza have in mind please it's unbelievable connected shows but it's interesting I'll tell you I I I spoke at a sh recently I get asked to speak at a lot of sh for my friends mostly because um I suffer from what most men suffer from it's the horrible disease called filterless itis it means there's no filter between the brain and the mouth and what happens in here usually comes out of here it's not really such a good thing the only cure is a long happy healthy marriage and barem in my 24th year of marriage and it's starting to work a little bit as you saying just a little bit I'm starting to be careful but I'm not careful enough and when I'm once my and my friends it gets a little interesting so I was asked to speak at very recently and uh I started with the following I spoke to the and col was in the middle of the room the women were on the right side the men were on the left side I said I want you this is could be uncomfortable if you weren't just married right now it should still be a comfortable thing I want you to look deep into the eyes of your spouse okay this is a little uncomfortable already for people of the from background nature that that think that maybe love isn't part of the Jewish religion romances and part of the Jewish religion so uh so the there's a little giggling on the guys and the girls side I said not only that I'd like everybody here to look across at their spouse at their loved one at their chosen one and to look into the eyes for a minute if you would if you don't mind everybody's almost everybody's compling you get get a good idea whose marriage might be in trouble right there and uh I said I want you to realize that right now as you look into that person's eyes this person that you're looking at right now statistically speaking is the person most likely to murder you that's a true statistic and everyone's like that's a fascinating way to open up ch's talk it's very different than usual it should be and you should love each other yeah I don't go for that everyone else is going to tell you about that I'm going to tell you how hard it's going to be but why is it why did I say that and I proceeded to tell the that the biggest sinon that there's something great there is that it's one of the most dangerous relationships in the world it it might be the most dangerous relationship the biggest Simmon that madly in love with each other is passionate for each other is right before this Z happened there were taka two Jews that could have killed each other there were threats there were horrible things being said I wouldn't say it over even outside the base matter certainly not with an AR kage behind me October 6th or October 7th that morning there were people that were willing to destroy yur to destroy other Jews Jews willing to fight back in the name of Hashem cuz that for some reason they think Hashem wants us fighting crazy the opposite of love is not hate the opposite of Love is apathy is total not caring hate is just a misguided expression of love it's passion it's it's fire well we have to realize is why do we get so worked up and so excited when it comes to other and what they're doing what they're not doing what they should be doing what I think they they are doing what I'm judging them about is cuz I love them I'm I'm crazy about them I can't get them out of my head out of my heart so yeah up until October 7th I'm going to say you you Russia yeah you're a fromy crazy you're and it's going to be like that but BS deep down we're brothers we're sisters we're family family gets like that how many people here treat others the way they treat their family don't raise your hand on that one right used to say he said you know the litness test where you're really holding how do you know where you're really holding in life am I really a great person am I do I care about others so a guy could walk go around all day and and he could bead and he could be part of AUD and could be part ofak and he could be doing all these wonderful things and and and and that's truly amazing the M are amazing but is he holding by on a high level question is the answer is rather how does he treat his wife that's what he says and for those not to have a spouse yet how do they treat their family that's the real answer where you're really holding so those that uh are feeling great about themselves because they treat their friends great and and outside side and shol they're nice and they're sweet and they're saying hello and how are you and what's your name and but they come home and they're Terror to their family and they can't stand their sisters and their brothers and their parents and their spouses you better check yourself in the old days of some band that I won't mention you better check yourself before you wreck yourself I don't know if anybody's holding from by what I'm talking about but it's an alter nigan so the we come to khah and Kaneka is trying to teach us message the Greeks outlawed three things that we know but the fourth thing was in general no tah learning no bris noes and no shabas what was what were they trying what do we have to win at we have to see what they were trying to make us lose at they were trying to make us lose the feeling of that a Jew is special every Jew is special but in general Jew is special what do how do we see that roses very quickly depends on us it could be 35 days in the month is not done until some Jew says I saw the mad I saw the new moon it depends gave us the keys to time that's expressed says if tries to keep shabas times we have a we don't allow it it's our spouse you don't give your spouse out other people it's for us obviously that's a s of a Jew even if a guy gets a he's called an certain of and so on he's called an Engaged also she's ours nobody else is allowed to be with the Torah and you're allowed to teach a Torah G whole in and how you do it the specialist for Jew more than any of the other any other represents we learn from right ysep was put into a bar that bar was 20 feet 20 anos deep excuse me and the g says in chab the very same sh the very same gar dealing with my khah that that GAR says there top of of an olive what where where do we learn the height of how how high it could be the 20 almost deep bar why what was that about the brothers saw yoseph let's just understand yoseph for a second Yos starts off and I was so excited I ladies if you heard rabar last night from last night listen to RAB from last night or just pick up a from and learn in in uh I think it's per so I I put this hasem gave me this idea but that gave this idea then last night I learned it inside this is this brought down it's always good to to know that the things that we think of some thought of way way before which made it accessible for some schnook like me to get to it y's born y's name is y's Essence is another son more Jews that's his Essence he was called yose because we want another Jew in the world y sent out by his fathers by his father by his father go see the schom go go look at the Peace of your brothers find in your brother's peace the the brothers come down to him what does it say about about ysep when they came down precious me Gates says they come down and and about ysph it says we have K they came the brothers came and he recognized him he saw them he saw his brother back here this was Yoshi's Essence to look at other Jews and to recognize and not just other Jews every time it's about his brothers y's whole inion is about his brothers Ys the way he's able to to stop sinning he's about to do that he looks up and he sees so why we put in the in the window and he sees yob whose entire Indian was having the sh they to to to CL y takes it over Y is called y y is the one who who holds this mantle Y is the one who sees and recognizes his brothers therefore the morale tells us that the essence of of Darkness and Light at its core is really about it's a social energy light is a social energy darkness is is the opposite of that therefore by the essence of darkness is you don't see your brother the essence of light is that you get to see your brother light is seeing another Jew when when's there enough light in the world to sayma you want to start accepting sh you want to accept Heaven first recognize your brother recognize your sister again that means get close to them see them see what's special and unique about them that every Jew is every Jew is his own candle there's no other candle like that flame it looks the same you look at all the Flames but you can't light One Flame from another flame that flame is unique that flame is that Jew take the time to appreciate every single Jew in your life in the world to realize that each one lights it own lights its World up that in a way that nobody else can saw that the light was good the first time we see the word to is by that in fact that to that test brings down has four crowns on it if you look at a sa for Torah some of the letters have crowns a t every other test of the Torah has three crowns if they have crowns this one has four a test equals 9 4 * 9 is 36 36 candles of Kan the essence of the first R the aronas was hidden in the 36 candles of Kan for all lights that we light on khah you're tapping into and you're drawing down the kadus you're drawing down that original aranas which was built there for what to see other people the moral says that's the essence of life is to see others and therefore you have if that's to and that's the first Tove and that tell us that when you see that something in the Tor the first time that's its Essence that's what it's about the first toe is by R what's the what's the first low it's not good for man to be alone it's not good to be alone what's good to be with others what's good light light is about others the of Y is there to try to Blind us to see the specialness of Y not just in general every single other Jew to take the time to appreciate again up until October 7th you took the time to maybe say I I know what's different about that one now we're going to turn that around they say ah I see what's beautiful about that one around a night where we're we're doing this this what he was about it's what real are about real are about they take aid that maybe everybody else said he's he's where the doesn't go he's in the dirt it's Tim he's he's completely he's totally T there's nothing about this that that that will produce AEM letters of n that will produce a an H this one cannot bring light to the world that's specifically where you need to find that Jew where everybody's turned away from and everybody's forgotten about and everybody's looked down on and everybody's cursed and everybody's spit out and everybody's said counted out and say no this one this I'm going to dig I'm going to dig deep into the ground and I'm going to find I'm G to find that's totally sealed it's totally pure I just have to learn how to see it that way this what K needs to work on now to see every the highest and the lowest when the brothers threw ysf into that pit they wanted to throw l cuz when you're beyond 20 the tells us as well tells us that you're in other words your eyes don't naturally look there behind 20 like you usually don't look up that high so be above 20as you can't light up there because nobody's going to see you and recognize you and Kan is about seeing and recognizing other Jews and working on that muscle of gratitude to say thank you Hashem because if it wasn't for that that person that note then the song wouldn't be complete I said a different story on in the other night because it was the fifth night of kanah and I think there's a to say over a fifth night of kanaa it's not the fifth night anymore we're closing up KH I want to end with Thea I saw this m just this week had a granddaughter who lived in communist Russia most of her life she was actually Prof a professor when I went back to my second grade I worked so hard on that one she was a professor and a mathematician she was a brilliant woman and her later years she moved R Hill Zach who was also grandchild of the he was probably the most well-known of the grandchildren of he went to visit her I guess she was a cousin that I just mentioned also went went along he's the one who told over the story they were sitting with her with the professor and they she was an older lady at the time and they said do you remember the Z his ad also he said do you remember his a and she said well I I only met him twice and uh first time I was a very little go girl and I I don't remember anything the second time I I remember she said please tell us want to hear about the we wereing I don't know if you remember it was a few years ago we came out we finally realized what the picture was we have a video now of him and the CL going crazy to see the she said right before I went to University my parents were religious and they were worried about the fact that I was leaving home I that I wouldn't remain from Tak she didn't and so they wanted me to go to see my to see the before I left maybe he could maybe he could do something to add more light to my life she was in warsa warsa back then was a very Cosmopolitan area it was high it was a big business it's a real City she went by left wara by train then by horse and wagon reached a tiny village of Roden Roden was a bunch of dirt and she said you know I'm coming from warsa it's probably I guess in the 1920s maybe late 20s and I thought I was this big city girl and I'm looking at my grandfather he's sitting there in the darkness and rotten there's not electricity there it's like she said she said I said I said when are you going to leave the darkness for the light of the world it was a double-edged jab she meant not only the light of of of with electricity she meant the illuminated world of higher thought and college right we see how how much illuminate thought comes out of colleges people that aren't smart enough to tie bcro shoes and they're they're giving big she says why do you come out of the darkness into the light we aren't living in the Middle Ages any longer there's a modern world out there to to be part of listen said unbelievable only was quiet for a few moments and he thought about how to answer his granddaughter this enlightened granddaughter living in a world of light eventually he said to he said he said do you see the planes flying above above us in the sky back then there were a few planes said yeah he says you know they're going to create a rocket ship that will fly to the moon this in the in the 20s said this they're going to create a rocket ship it's going to go to the Moon it wasn't even a Hava by any scientist at that point he said this you see the the the um bombs that they throw from the Plaines yes these were first generation bombs they were used to put fear and psychological damage more than anything else they couldn't aim them back then after world World War I granddaughter nodded again she said says science he said we will create a bomb capable of destroying the entire world again not something that happened till about 25 30 years later he looked his granddaughter in the eye and he said we work on improving man while they work on the ultimate destruction of mankind and you want me to leave my world so brilliantly lit to enter your world of Darkness the ior of light is not to see the world it's to see the people that make the world worth it to be created which by the way is is auss of was the 11th spice that had the worst smell and thear even said we should get rid of it it's a horrible smell but but the curus was pule without it Theus is what's used by the it's a big big scho to try to say it at least once a day if not twice a day for what's going on to stop Misa everybody should try to say it Charlie actually did a big campaign to to put people together he was uh put I think a few thousand people already are doing it but if you can try to say the worst Jew has to say it we have to bring more light to the world did it B's whole inion was about bring light to the world how do he do it every single Jew every single place no matter what no matter who no matter how old no matter how filled with hatred against y was another flame that needed to be added to the manura that CL was lighting may hasem help us give us the strength the clarity to see it to hold on to it to look at every other Jew and see the candle that they truly are to when we do that it helps that candle light up that light should destroy all the darkness of the world all the darkness and all those that go along with and they should be done it should be a distant memory with the coming [Applause] amen thank you every always for your powerful amazing inspiring words we want to our next speaker is um um a person who who who has literally then changed the community and I literally mean the words I'm not just saying it person who every single week she's speaking in different Community speaking in the five towns and ardal in farest and fresh metal and um everyone should join join us sh you should uh find out about them join US Weekly join us monthly and um and um it's night of gratitude so we have our gratitud thrs thank you thank you Robbie who makes it all happen ah ladies seventh night of kanuka the light in the midst of the darkness it's a time of dreaming of yadik has a he has a dream that his brothers don't like too much which gets him sent down to Egypt he's down in Egypt gets sent into the dungeon where his comrades down there have dreams he interprets them doesn't do much for him at first but eventually in this week's para parro has a dream and finally they bring ysf out quickly from the boore before he even realizes what's going on they shave him they give him clothing and he standing there it should be for all of the hostages like they are entrapped how yadik was entrapped it should be suddenly immediately please God in the of the that they should all come from Darkness into light complete in body and mind healthy that should send incredible protection to our soldiers to and now the dreams y has this dream pyro has this dream what is the property of a dream why does a dream so personify the kanah time you see Howes tells us there's something called reality and reality can often be dark and then he tells us but there's this thing called a candle and yes you know a candle is so lovely and a little bit of candle can dispel a lot of darkness and we all know those cliches and they're true but a candle in the face of so much Darkness B if that would have been the case we would have never needed electricity we would have never had to create LEDs candles are awesome candle is wonderful but to dispel darkness in the capacity that we need it right now we need something a little bit stronger so what is the power of the flame what is the power of a candle and so we know that a candle it's set for Ambiance it gives a person it sets a mood that a person can get into this place where they can begin to dream where we it casts this beautiful glow yeah you don't want to go on a first date where it's like strong LED lights you go somewhere with a little candle cuz it fixes up all the blemishes it makes things look more beautiful than they actually are tells us cloud I want you to remember how to dream how to dream means that what reality is is absolutely and completely irrelevant a dream says exists in a different plane and Hashem tells us I want you to look into the candles and I want you to remember your dreams what dreams what are we talking about you know who else has had a dream yov when did yakob have a dream well yakob spent 21 years in the house of his father-in-law Lan in a place where there were idols and Tuma and laon was Mish Mish the lowest of low and for 21 years he Shing he's Stark and then somehow all of a sudden it seems like out of nowhere he comes to his wives in the middle of the night and he's like ladies we got to go are you ready to go and they're like we're with you we could leave right now and like boom boom boom they're packing up why so fast yob 21 years you were there okay you want to leave now fine let's figure out how to plan it we don't want to traumatize the kids like why is it all of a sudden so fast after 21 years what happened Yakov Vu says for 21 years I was here in the house of Lavan and even though it was the most tum place in the universe I was connected to I was putting out kadus he says in something very strange happened to me you remember yakov's dreams he started to dream of sheep and he started to dream he should put the rods so that the Sheep become speckled or spotted and all of a sudden yakob says I'm dreaming about parosa I'm dreaming about goshas this place got to me wives we need to go we need to go now what kind of dreams do we have when we look into the candles when we ask ourselves what kind of dreams Hashem if I could have one Basha this is what I want what do our dreams look like and comes says remember those R dreams you had remember your spiritual dreams remember the dreams of kadha that you have and ladies T Shin we're living in a time that everybody's dream is mashia on everybody's lips religious secular I know I don't know mashia Hashem is telling us go back to those spiritual dreams okay Pop Quiz you know how there are vowels and when you have to read in uh Hebrew okay so all are underneath the they're underneath the letter the and the they're underneath except for one what's it called oh wow okay a lot of people don't get that I asked all my kids what's that one called what's that one called none of them knew all different ages a lot of different no one knew the is the only vowel that's above the letters and the is and sometimes it's just a little Dot and sometimes it's a V with a DOT and when it it's a with a DOT what does it look like a candle flame hasem tells us I want you to look and I want you I want you to dream when you look into the candle when you look into the nanaka I want you to dream now how do you dream you dream slightly above reality all of the other vowels the way of pronunciation is underneath the letters the script of life but then comes the comes Thea and something that doesn't fit into reality Hashem says stretch a little bit make your dreams bigger than you ever thought that they could be we just read about a woman named Tamar Tamar was the daughter-in-law of Yehuda and she's married to yehuda's son ER not a good guy in fact the letters of his name spell Rah and a is married to Tamar but he uses her as a trophy wife and she never gets pregnant and because of his sins he dies now nobody knows what happened in in their privacy okay she just was childless and she died and so we know the when a man dies childless his brother will marry the wife Yom in order to perpetuate his memory and so Yehuda gives his second son to Tamar Onan and Tamar is married to Onan but Onan was also not a good guy and he did the same thing he would not let Tamar get pregnant he used her as a trophy wife and he too died because of his sins now the isum has no idea but what do they see a woman who had one husband who died a second husband who died says the gamar it's like a Black Widow no one wants to go near this lady what's going on over here and Yehuda says a third son but by the time it's the third son Yehuda says you know let's wait until he grows a little bit older and then we'll see what happens and Tamar is waiting and she's waiting and she's waiting until she realizes Yehuda has no intention of giving her Shah of giving her his youngest son now the is that either the brother of the deceased husband could do evil or the father and so Tamar comes up with this plot Tamar says you know what I want to bring the seed of mashia into this world and she says I don't think Shala is going to marry me I don't think yud is going to give him to me but maybe I know Yehuda is going to be traveling in order to Shear his sheep maybe when he's traveling up to where he's going to be doing the sheep shearing I'll dress up like a zonah and I I will sit at the P of an ohal at the opening of a tent at Crossroads maybe Yehuda will pass by the specific Crossroads that I'm at maybe the holy sadic Yehuda will see a Zona and he'll want to be with me it would have been technically permitted he's allowed to marry her maybe he'll want to be with me says Tamar maybe I'll get pregnant from that maybe that child will be the beginning of the seed of mashiach oh tamari that's a lot of babies that's a very big dream sweetheart you sure you want to go through all of those steps but we know the story K Hava she dresses up like a Zona Yehuda is with her she does get pregnant from that re from that Union 3 months later her baby belly is is showing everybody's Whispering Whispering Whispering Anda says how could she get pregnant she's supposed to be you know not not no one's allowed to be with her until my son is with her we got to burn her at the stake and she sends the sey and Yehuda says she's a me the child is from me and she gives birth to Parrot and zerak and parot is the beginning of the davidic dynasty she gave birth to mashia the word and we will wait are the same letters Asuka says comes and all your there's not one person in this room that's not waiting for something all your V can come to to fruition this kanah maybe I'll give birth to mashiach who knows ladies maybe tomorrow you wake up you haven't dve in Shak in a long time you wake up and you dve in a Shak with a full Hal because maybe that's going to bring mashia and maybe ITA will you have one outfit that maybe you're going to get rid of and that's going to bring mashia and maybe Atta will who knows maybe I just have a dream I know what I want so let me take some action and maybe that's the Legacy that we have that was the maab beam they find oil it's not enough but maybe we just know we want to light the mines looks down at them and he says you want it so bad you put in the oil you're going to see how it's going to last that's the N is the time now we know that in Hebrew there's no such thing as synonyms so they're kind of two words that mean like thankfulness Le to say thank you usually is translated as Praise You Know What's the difference between praising and thanking it's interesting but the truth is is that Hal is not accurately prais what does Leal accurately mean it means to illuminate to lighten up I'll prove it to you you know it also the Hebrew name hila means light the English word halo is light what's the power of gratitude what happens when you thank for something when a yid says thank you you know what happens the moment I Le I illuminate I Leal that very thing and that is the science behind when we say thank you even for the darkness when we say thank you for the darkness why why because by saying thank you I illuminate it whatever I feel towards the moment I have that feeling I'm sending light towards that thing so galic when it's a lightful thing and you're thankful for it it gets more light and when it's a dark thing and you're thankful for it you begin to illuminate the darkness we say cold as long as the candle is burning we can fix we are in this world for tikun who knows why things happen why there's Darkness we don't know we can't understand but comes khah and Hashem tells us just trust me you try and trust me say thank you for the darkness bring that little candle create the Ambiance in our relationship Hashem says and you'll see that you can make let there be light ye or the word yei gatria this is an easy one 25 oh lovely 25th of K or on the 25th of Kem says let there be light there will be light or gatria a little bit harder I'll give it to you 207 what's 207 I me 207 is the same gammaa for the Hebrew word Raz Raz means secrets on the 25th of K during the holiday of Kana during the eight days of Kan says to us there will be a slight Illumination in all the secrets of this world because this world is filled with Secrets who are you really who were you in a past life what are we really even doing here what energy is where we're going to make a over here we're going to do this we're going to do that this world is secret if you think anything is what it actually is but it's not this was the Battle of the yanim of the Greeks to the Jews the Greeks said strip down the human body it's beautiful what you see is what you get everything we're going to have Aesthetics and only Beauty and he says what you see is definitely what you're not getting what you see is just the surface of what actually is and so let there be light on the 25th of tells us you look into youra and you remember your remember your dreams remember what it is that you truly want into in this world remember the Orel mashia means that Hashem will be revealed that there won't be Secrets anymore that we'll be able to understand we'll get a glimpse into the greatness of this world Le thank you Hashem that each one of us has the to be part of this story of history ofid of the kanuka of this year and ladies may we be able to live up to our script up to our potential of each one of us who we're supposed to be to have a standing thank you ladies