Rabbi Raphael Klatzko - Part 3: Wisdom of Jewish Parenting - Knowing your child

[Music] hello this is Rebecca latsko and again we're speaking about parenting and we were speaking in our last talk about how to be the best parent and the best time we said is being invested in getting to be a invested in your parenting now let's start with one of the key ideas of being a good parent and that is getting to know your particular child now that sounds obvious she's living and growing it up in your house you know your child true you know your child but in a certain age there's a change and the changes is not just knowing their basic things but it's knowing their nuances now women are very adept to this and when they see their child they're able to say oh the baby is hungry or the baby is uncomfortable right and those things Baruchel we have the wonderful lives of clients well who have an amazing intuition and we'll speak about some of the differences between mothers and fathers later on but as a father we're also have an opportunity to learn our children and the first way to learn a child and this is also a surefire way to keep a great relationship is communication now people don't speak to their children when they're very small they just you know coochie but as they get older it just happens like overnight like they start getting more and more start speaking to your China children from very young age understand I want and more than anything to understand your tone they understand your compassion and when they start speaking to you and you say even gibberish back they feel a connection there's a response going on now the gibberish doesn't remain gibberish it just becomes more juvenile thoughts very very young thoughts and when they say this is that whatever you know whatever kind of cute thing they're saying if you say oh that's so cute right you're talking about them you're not talking to them so we want to start talking to them and start talking with them if we do this and we'll talk about mini stages of this then we're going to have a connection with our children and that is going to help us really really to be in tune with our children a child who feels close to his parent it's gonna is gonna be open with his parent is gonna be accepting of what his parent has to say and I'm gonna tell you the rule is if you want to show someone that you care for them you listen to them more than even talking to them you listen to them so when your child says I made this picture in gang you say how beautiful how'd you make it I'll say what that crayon and say wow what color crayon or whatever you're saying you're communicating and you have to communicate on their level I don't mean talking baby talk and I don't mean you can't be intellectual but it means talking with them on what they're talking about that's called communication and we're going to take this through the stages of youth how to communicate with your children I thought as well who should help you that you're able always to communicate with your children and my doing cell your children were super came back and it really being real contact with you okay looking forward to seeing you at our next segment this has been Rafal classical of the jewish parenting [Music]