Rabbi Raphael Klatzko - Part 2: Wisdom of Jewish Parenting - Being a Great Parent

[Music] hello again today I'd like to discuss how to become a great parent now there's gonna be all sorts of techniques within our parenting that we're gonna have to learn in coping and dealing in relationship with the children but first let's just give a basis to our parenting and that is if I want to be a good parent I have to commit myself to parenting I have to say this is something I really want to do I want to be good at this and I'm gonna have years of this and I'm gonna be active in this and me and my wife we're gonna talk about this and we're gonna work on ourselves and we come better and better parents if you become better pants you're gonna have happier children you're gonna have more successful children and you're gonna feel great about yourself now that many of us have been parents already for years and you know we're full of regrets and remorse and mistakes well first of all it's okay to make mistakes like we said you're the camp for the child so the mistakes are meant to happen with that child we're not about gross errors but but you know mistakes mistakes happen and your child could bear them don't worry about that but let's learn how to be our best okay so we said to be our best I have to be committed to wanting to be my best the first key is awareness when a child is born it's you can't not be aware it needs you to feed it to bathe it to change its diaper it keeps you busy 24/7 but you're not really thinking about what's going on in its head you're not really relating to it as a person you're relating to this let's even say a baby I don't want to say the word object but a baby that has to be taken care of but the really cool thing about kids is they grow and they're all the time and we have to learn them all the time your child of one is not your same child is one and a half and then you get a whole new child when they turn two and on and on and on and we have to keep learning and we have to keep experimenting and keep trying to get to know our child and that's being a good parent so just to summarize to be a good parent means being invested in parenting wanting to know how to be a good parent wanting to know about my child talking to your spouse about your parenting these are some of the keys to becoming an excellent parent now parent good parenting doesn't you don't judge ourselves by our children's behavior because what we're really looking at is the long-term and even if I get my sweat blood and tears to my child and I don't see what I do your success I'm a successful parent because I did what I have to do and that's a lot the responder who wants for you so let's try to do the best that we can do and we'll talk about the details in further talks it's been wonderful speaking of you hope to speak to again Rebeck let's go with the parenting lessons [Music] you