Rabbi Noach Isaac Oelbaum on "Sharing the Pain of Others"

[Music] another hat is very pleasant to see quite familiar faces over here and um but without hoping that we would come together for a different reason as I mentioned unfortunately a college Sola very much still strongly need the issue is Menasha maíam and when we say the dominie Mira's AHIMA Rama you throw a laud the extra emphasis should be said when we get to those words that coach Bronco Billy hold the right hand to continue as it was has preserved us to this time and continuously they should be the min the miles idea the idea of various casualties and so on swords and clubs well let me just say the following regarding the killers of people getting together here today that Hina might or even mine or even shibasaki become yoga so wonderful thing to see people coming together and the truth is that the Navi Milwaukee says now in law he says Oz NIT Brewer a Hashem when you can come together to talk about your Shema him to talk about chuhwa the fascinating thing cause neither brew a year i Shemesh array yahoo when people come basically we talk our hearts out we talk and we bring out our penny meais we express our feelings so the novice says Barack Shiva Shiva is Marcos brought from ourselves the bottom self is there and he listens the occupation by each one not only listens via KHOU CIFAS occurring with on/off which basically means when here i sham get together allocated getting together simply for the idea to be me or for to volunteer shamayim clear buffer listen that he records he actually records what is being said in the cipher so not only being recorded over here with all these modern advances and technology but it's being recorded in shamaya and therefore tonight when people have come together basically to hear to be me couple different cyrus on behalf of the plight of our cannabis oil in their soil so you have to be aware that cuz bomb who is here right now with everybody he brought was here this king who said not only that could work was also taking notes they both taking notes at the POSIX says via I because you Bart Whitaker's listening but you cuz it's safe as a cardinal form of so all those who have actually have come here tonight actually realize to see what we can do on behalf of the murder game at Savannah soil as I get to be written that's safer they're very special safe vanishing I am the coach Bravo keeps Rikers everyone who is being involved so needless to say that we are living in very frightening times and the matzah veneris oil is oil in vanilla and the truth is was taking place today is mommies with Izawa told us the younger miss after sighted optimum case the Chimera says very clearly miyahara basa me - hey look um shame by Coloma unfortunately they does not go by where there is no clothes it's not over here it's over there is someplace else in different areas and literally the truth is were afraid to hear the news because who knows what the next piece and bit of information will be something one tragedy after another here you have another stabbing that you have another stabbing but then is it the world but koalas on fire it's not just a matter of minutes it's royal just in general and there's ready to explode any moment and what intensifies and what aggravates the situation all the more because of a boy side because we are confronted today with the same dilemma that Reb Akiva the great honor of Akiva was confronted 2,000 years ago and that is the following there's a very fascinating fascinating cause Allah tell us mr. Thyssen Hedren DAF kefalas I listened to his little piece of Gomorrah just a few lines the more it tells about how the great tannery belies that when he became sick and it's great Tommy them came to be mavica kala and the gomorrah says over there Keyshia Cole or a blazer well laser to kill says the Gemara thickness of our bones occasional Ibaka for great comedic our common Godoy Leroy L came to visit him who are the talmidim one was the photographer and one was a be schewe one was the blows of an Azaria the other was the week even so each one had something to say to his Rebbe and the marathon's of the following then erupted out from the Omar the toughened began and he speaks up and he says rather you are so important to us toy battle is royal material you shaman you are more important the toy if the benefit that Clouseau gets from you is more than a drop of rain everybody understand that you can't survive without any rain so damn tough but you ready toy battle is royal you are more important to us than a drop of rain then is to be a shoe has turned to speak up and now the Rebbe issue of a Omar rabbit toy vitaly royal yes Miguel go Shamu you are more important to us he says than the revolution of the Sun we know that the world cannot exist we would not have the Sun yet rabbit you are more important 12 at oles royal you are more important the gal Guillermo the Latinas are you now you out to all that compose bizarrely says Rebbe troy Fotolia soil you are more important than a vein more than a father and a mother as much as the child cannot exist without a father and a mother what kind of a life will he have but rather you are more important to Chloe sir than a father and a mother so how do you top that then come the famous words of a beekeeper which nobody understands what we give you says rabbit your suffering cough even you serum you serve as a good thing half love a filmer is that what you see you got to be in fact to fail or someone you try to conspiracy try to lift them up you tried to give him a kiss hook and you tried to give all types of association that he should understand that looked other people maybe went through the same thing and the header of which Elena and Rebbe is sitting here a blows abanazar you may be sure of tar from everybody is saying something positive and then come the behavior the drybeck have even you saw him what does that mean the fascinating words of rope crime similar is a mirror of Shiva and he says something which is a doubly fluid he says each of these to know him you understand we're trying to make a case of sham I am that your mind should allow the great Rebbe that Reb letters should be able to stay alive and the way that they did it is by making a case of Shema him that the world can exist without him so everybody in his own way was trying to point out why it's important why is important that regulator receives a refusal Amos 1:1 says Rabi says your important part to us than a drop of we can't exist without any rain we can't exist without you either the other one says 12 optima goggle chrom oh we can't exist without a son you are more important than the Sun we need a father and a mother a beer more important now which will be keep is saying the kid is also making a case why we need to bless it down here and what's he saying the beekeepers as5 even you saw him you know that means Sepik I'm Olivia says hafla favela as much as you need a rabbit to teach you Tyra as much as you need a rabbit a teacher a shaman more than anything you need a rabbit to teach you the meaning of suffering when the suffering in the world they're stabbing over here and the stabbing over there and in America this person is sick and that person is sick and you have all types of stars preneur subproblems at prom you have all different crisis's you have to realize there is a mean that have to be a reason why this is happening and you need a ready for that because this is something that's continuous cause month that we are in goalless and we are not yet so if it to be a summer share there's always going to be suffering some place in the Jewish community some place in the world and I'm a little picky with things even you sir and what I mean to say not it's good that you have your Sorum Kadima Yasur means lacrosse Bronco sends is termed as a message it's trying to make us aware of something but how do we know what a Cotabato wants from us so it says ready for even you sir I'm a compromise and historian there's something so precious about it as a reason there has to be a meaning it should not be all for naught but suffer for nothing so we need your Rebbe we need rabbit the teachers that teaches the meaning of suffering why clawless was going through and all of this kind of suffering that's why we need you more than anything we need a rabbit to tell us the meaning of suffering as the crimes lavash says many many times that the word Eucerin is from the world of MU sir which means a college bra who does not give you some just for the sake of punishment hey brother wants to hurt the class to show them any Eton College royal the reason Tara is stirring because there is a muster to be learned but unfortunately all too often were not very sure exactly what is that mu sir what is that message what fact as a career brothel really want from us well so when the posix says does chafed him destroy him tight enough obokata haruko basically what the plastic means simply of course that every community is to make sure that they are dhyanam they have judges they have shaped into pastiche eyeless short term then you have to have officers in order to carry out to make sure that people follow what the hell off is neat policemen shave them astray to him till tomorrow behold sure echo and it says further leash vertical every tribe every tribe should have their safety item set in autumn godless a tag evolving hip shot listen thrift shop shifting be shortened tipton Aqaba cultural issue whatever the worst voter for you know a little bit of lotion coitus you don't have to be a scholar lotion Kadish the way jewish Pratap of course whatever shape it meets tribe we know that but the word shave it also means they whip the word shape it also means a whip coil asha yeah very talk as I shove it right when you give my sir you can ten the tenth one under the whip you strike it this is the my so Bahama or the politics says Bechet vat of rasoi we find the Megillah sarah shave it is a whip said the POSIX of this autumn god--all shorten be shortened theta macaw leash for taco Monica's brother strikes - with the whip can eat safe to meet someone to explain it why were you hit why were you struck why did it happen shift in the shortened title for make sure that you had judges properly you have LFA in of tsadikim you have get oily soils are trying to give the message transmit what the message might be mushroom I'm leash vote therefore we are undergoing situations of a shavette of great great difficulty and the truth is that was the way always of Godoy Lister lab Tom Schaad ROM the corner of the oil might remember many many years ago used to frequent this community very often almost on a yearly basis almost and we had the privilege I mentioned many times you sure that haven't the sharpest table shall be spent by us his slippers we gave him a room and so on and we would hear from many personal things of course there's so many tapes and so many choices but I mean when you hear from himself we show mr. safe course of the many Bala Musa that was his robbed a man he by the way published this forum of his great Robin rubella plan or blade a sermon and so on and so forth he brought the turret of the masses the attire of these great Bala Musa the Masters of MU sir he says that once they saw that the much gear up labelled up young they saw that one was coming to you Shiva's communist he came to visit you Shiva's culminates so he's going up the stairs he fell he slipped and I'm Ella he remains sitting on this step so people right away came very very quickly that he came to ask Kimmy says rabbit you feel okay are you okay are you all right the great much gear he slipped he fell he's sitting on the step is not getting up so he said yeah yeah no I feel perfectly fine everything is fine three set him the white you're getting up on your feet if you feel for him so he says I'm sitting and contemplating why it happened why it happened you saw him is from the lotion of MU sir there's a message because Branca wants something and ability on if he slipped he didn't just right get up he was okay but gosh I'm at that time we continue to sit the reason continue to sit to figure out before he gets up he wants to know why did it happen why did I fall what is the college boy who want from me there has to be a message truth is there was a woman in Heritage Hall who gave birth to a child which is the handicapped child handicapped child and you can imagine that the surrounding all the family members took it very hard very difficult and this very only natural her parents took it very difficult even a new I Nick who was born the the simcha was simply was blunted by the fact that unfortunately saw that the child was a handicapped child and the immediate family around and around all of them they took it quite difficult and she kept saying the woman the mother the child who gave birth she says I know why it happened I know why it happened she said I know what happened turns out that this mother of this child she was what they call net stole a gun in it she was a kindergarten teacher and of course people trying to get their child in yeah you're him a particular day a mother comes with a handicapped child and she wants to register the child in the kindergarten and the woman this woman who is the kindergarten teacher says I cannot accept your child and the mother pleaded and said I need a place for my child says I'm a working mother I cannot be with him I can't stay with him I need a plate please take him she pleaded she pleaded she begged and she said be sure - I will not I can't I can't accept this handicapped child she said now I see how could he bro who paid me back okay brah who paid me back for the fact that I refuse to accept in my kindergarten this handicapped child in northern I should understand there should also feel the pain of a mother I should also feel the same pain of a mother what it means to have a handicapped child and maybe next time I will understand a little better and the idea to try to avoid it shouldn't have to come to a situation but here somehow it seems very clear what the message was only she and only she would know what happened because she was part of that experience she understood that the leash vote AHA Jonah said what they shave it this whip the fact that she was strucken with this particular situation or stricken she understood the shift in the short-term what is the message to show if at the judge what happened over here till it Stan had to take the message and the lesson of course is that coach Bronco works media can I give me the they might remember also in Queens also the famous marketer used to come along also review on Kelly Galinski used to come we had him once speaking by shallow shooters and I think the opening line mommies the first words that he said well living in a world he says we're all middles are bottles no such thing as middles anymore don't you think it's Middle East there's such a thing as fine character used to be a time where even by the Ummah soil and by the typhoon Shaboom boys by the time uShip moment you found there was a line that even going would not cross the certain things you just don't do you're a civilized person the certain gather of sneers even a minimal gather of sneers a certain gather of schmears are lodged in a certain get minimal Taisha boys now there's all the barriers of broke him there's no pool anymore there's no Inc minute we're living in a world where all the Middle's are bottle except 1 meter meter can I get me though he said neither can I get me that did not become bottle this meter still remains because you broke with judges each and every one of us the way that we behave Pinos Mahavira the way we have been or the Momoko him that me that meter did not become bottle and that is the message when we see chef to be show a template to make sure the Shiva tattva when the coach Bronco sends that shave it you have to realize that there's a reason why you have been stricken when I coach Bravo sends all the various tourists that means obviously what we're trying to do we're not doing enough and maybe if we're doubling we're not governing enough and maybe if we're learning we're not learning enough and maybe if we think we're doing cresset we're maybe not doing it more maybe we're not doing enough I think of many many reasons why what we're doing there's many many deficiencies and what we are doing my sister Hoyer was the particular woman a sexual woman whenever she would see a Korean woman with her hair covered again she would actually mock her marker laugh at her and always stick her and say look what's the idea here because both natural thing women has hair everybody has here was this idea that you're covering your hair every opportunity I would meet a Kuwaiti woman she basically mock her at the particular situation and she'd say look you belong to the ancient world the world is now moving ahead people used to cover the hair that's part of the old world that's something very old-fashioned that's not what we do today but yeah you're him by the way who told me this my said campus Rubisco silberstein the summer of rabat Yossef he said the following he says yeah your Amy says I know I married this woman neighbor who was stricken with the macula and she underwent treatments which was chemo chemo again and chemo over over again what are the side effects of chemo you lose your hair she put out a cycle she put on a cycle for the different reasons you put on eye shadow now she understood what it means sometimes they put on a cycle so this is the idea from then on she did not mark anymore she understood that again this is a situation which coach Braco shows us and conducts himself that the way we deal with others and that's the way we have to understand that be the ocean so the basic messages that we talk about mythic energy meter and that means the following herbicide if you want to be spared Eucerin if you want to be spared you serum then remove pain from another eat if you're able to remove pain from another you'd mythic connect admit abraha will remove your serum from you also that's the basic thing that you see from all of this if you want the crowd to be much care you soon from your life try to remove the pain from another year if you're able to remove the pain from another Eid the media can I get miracle Brock will also remove the pain regarding yourself you know the particular rod was a you did of mine I spent the Shabbos and assure when he medicine if it's a bias many many years ago our bodies I've Ginsburg used to be a rope over here in Hillcrest then he had moved to the five towns no show and so we spent the Shabbos there stating spoke like four or five times in the show there's a bias Robbie's brought was there's about tril also was a very very nice Shabbos and they mentioned that a number of years ago he went to visit wife shock in with tickle time that he had a lot of problems with his foot recharge now josh had problems with his foot and as a result the doctors said listen we can't delay it anymore but he needs surgery well shot clearly need surgery so the arranged to have a doctor to come to the house apparently wasn't that kind of a extensive surgery that you needed a hospital he would do it at home however the doctor says of course we have to bring the calum for anesthesia because it's very very painful situation and the mice a very interesting is that what sharks said with one tonigh he'll go through the operation but does not want anesthesia the reason is not the one is seeing because this was cloud his mind and would detract from his clarity of learning and it's incredible that that sounds is not the first for example that you've been a rose the great guy in a good luck door also of his time not so long ago also had surgery and insisted he says that there's not one Nastasia but rather his mind the mind would be occupied with various areas of learning who would be able to have that full concentration to have that extreme concentration so basically he's in a different world he will not feel the pain and I've shot the same thing don't shut the same thing however the doctor insisted that if there's no anesthesia so we want to make sure that he'll be able to handle it and not and keep calm and not jump around all over the place after all they might be feeling some pain or a lot of pain so that tonight was that somebody will hold his hands and somebody will hold his feet to make sure because in surgery had to make sure that the patient doesn't move and that's what they did to everyone's amazement the operation went very smoothly but shock did not flinch nor did he utter a sound that indicated any kind of distress half of the fellow half loved the fellow he's simply like quiet and the doctor did what the doctor had to do a procedure went quite smoothly and the foot was on his way to healing they mentioned about is that mentioned that a few months later he says you have to be near the soil is that a visitor up shock again and at that time he says someone entered the room to relate some important information the news was it was information the information was there was a terrible accident involving an IDF helicopter and several soldiers died in the crash so he says immediately I'm hearing the news he says there are sharks face dissolved into expression of grief and it be game to shed tears endless tears he cried over the loss of life and the plight of the orphans as a result of that and one about the Elmo knows that the accidents would bring it mommy she looked at him his heart seemed to burst with pain he said about his heavens as the half of the fell I thought back five months ago when the doctor were cutting knives into his own flesh he didn't cry out in pain but when he heard about the pain of others heard about the suffering of the pain of others he heard what happened that he could not contain that it could not hold back and that is a dogma that's the doom of every heat of what it means how sense that we have to behave even you saw him to understand and to a sewer manicotti broth was ends and our avoid is to try as much as possible to try to neutralize as much pain as we can to alleviate from other Jews and if we're able to do that Bashar mythic and I admit it because broth will repay us inclines any of you might be familiar even some Spartan by the way also used to travel to Montreal to touch already but you rather lived way way in his 90s up to 100 I remember I think as a young man when he was still in his 30s something like that in his 30s he lived in Montreal I grew up in Toronto Canada I'll just tell you just one incident it was Mort but so talked about in the 50s as I was before my bar mitzvah and the the Satmar Rubio came to Toronto Canada that particular time was in the 50s and they rented a large hall nickim area was packed with literally thousands of people and they gave at Russia before Chris at Toyota still imagine was a couple of hours that the rabid arson Friday night there was a Tish and he had robbed ornament coming from all over not it's not only the local rub on him people came from New York I see them rub on him and the torturer became all the way from Montreal to spend Shabbos in Toronto to be with the rabbit so it was a head table a long head table with the robe on and we're sitting there and the table was sitting there and the Satmar always a couple of seats further down and everybody's trying to find a good spot to be able to see what's going on so the easiest you know age group to be able to find this part is if you're a young kid you can really hang from the rafters to be able to look in to see what's going on so right above the head of the Tashia rebel there was a window and the window realized has a window sill so I managed to climb up and I was on the window sill and was right above the tasha rabbit was down below me and I think eval will give you so looking around the room it was a very narrow ledge I forgot was a narrow and all of a sudden I find myself falling down on the hand of the touch 11 and the Toshiba says this gets to get the other finish it's okay it's okay it's okay so I said it's okay I went up again again yes I fell again on his hand on his hand and again he did not say a thing just give you the sit kiss Aviv it's it's the V I mean you should have said the other spoon yeah I got I could write it better you know what he would've been able to say what he should have said but it did not anyway had a son remotely with his before is all the son I saw him once or twice and then I can imagine he would have been the malamaal him he would be the man walking with his father to succeed him he passed away was an iftar witnessed at a young age with every young age she was married already with a fairly engage what had happened he would lift on the Erev Shabbos it was nipped on Erev Shabbos there's the call mottled touch it that's what the Coleman motel Tasha it was never there of Shabbos he was still in shul he'd done with me Arab Shabbos and something beloved on there but he collapsed so they call that's all that he hadn't sold it and they thought it said okay so right away mommy should immediately have the paramedics doing what but didn't take long when they realize it's too late now the biggest task was harder yet tell his father hi tell father Michael's father it's an all of a sudden it's not like someone is sick and then of course off in the back of your mind you know that it may not work out so you get used to the situation it's never a good idea it's never a good situation how are you able to relate such a message but instead of salt all of a sudden this all of a sudden situation who and how are you gonna tell his father and it was important because the Leviathans air of Chavez had to be before Shabbos and by the way the torture of his manana mode will aid also said he'd um like to begin with the down late to begin with in his air Shabbos you have to make those very very quickly and they have to tell the river they went they told the river and the wedding for the l'viyah rather locks himself he's in a room he's in a room okay they say rabbi denied it's late you have to come to LA via he says I need another five minutes they waited five minutes he still didn't come out again they knocked on the door he said no I need another five minutes I need another five minutes did he realize what happened I want to tell you what happened and this my said was repeated by many it he was busy on the phone dealing with the shoreland bias problem he was dealing with a shawm bias problem with a wife wanted to leave the husband he was trying to do whatever possible to try to convince them at least to give it another try it didn't go Basu my admission was not mask him I can't go back to him and rebel being the regular he was always tried to enforce all him to try to promote shaman bias so finally he says he says to the wife I have a la vía to go to he said his own son I can't go to La Vie until you go back home to your husband she did she did I don't know what happened the end the story is later on I can't tell you okay but this was a half life away good thing he did not go to the Y of his own son until he's able to do something over here here's the Y it was able to sacrifice his own pain pain of losing his before losing his own son is Bihar he's not going to the l'viyah because I have something to do first which is more importantly since I have to see to patch up this problem of showing bias it's a half of a political situation so I have to tell you is this following so a Lada Nevada many years ago quite a few times the guy Venusian I am Reptar via vice who is the the guy with the rows of the a de freitas in which shall I am he's the guy with and the rush business Ramesh is terrible the good oil is royal you know right there and so I went to visit Roberto via vice with the guide review shall I am I remember telling him over a vote from the red ribbon of abscissa we say in the domine rabbis I was saying the Dominguez following the hollow Lukas every day we talk about what a shame all the ceragem does recession mathira Suren unties those that are bound if someone is imprisoned there overseas they should let him out if a person is bound and chained for some reason because he broke on ties the chains I share mati rasoolum Hashem entice those that are bounded I shared by caregiver him we say okay Babu gives light to the blind a shampoo caregiver him a sham way of tsadikim as James O'Keefe foof and those people who are bent over but people are crouched people are down because Bravo allows them to stand upright he gives them physic he strengthens them a shame Chalmers gay rim because welcome protects the Garen your Simba monitor coach Bob who gives physic to the awesome amana rabbi shai talks about the blind it talks about the lame it talks about the game at Obama's where as I share my f tsadikim where were they confer blonde yet with the assignment with the our monitor boy sir with the blind and the lame well it's a shame I've Siddiq him well it's a take him come in here with a shame I have Siddiqui but didn't with gay or meeting but blind matera serums I give chief of him your some ammonia de-ice my daddy came where as I've said to him so travel been him said I share my wife said he came the boy's room asleep Siddiqui me love tsadikim not kind said he came that tsadikim therefore blended that are mixed with the gayer mmm with the blind and with the assignment with the amana's those tsadikim Ashima if tsadikim thought tsadikim there are all mixed in with all of these those are the kind of tsadikim the regime loves taught tsadikim that care had a little more room in their heart for somebody else as well that's a shame of tsadikim those of the kind of tsadikim come about you the value yourself very often was a sondik very often was this something not unusual not hard to believe you know the hollow he is that if you are sondik at a tie this netiquette the Bala Brits are allowed to eat if it's a time is that significant the ballet dress includes a Sunday the Moyle there'll be a Ben they allowed to eat on the Thainess so he was the sound occurred a bridge that happened to be a tiniest knit with the tiniest etiquette so him at a time as you can bring the wine when you make the bra by the bris so usually give it to the baby but being that the ballad risks right the moil the sundeck they don't have to fast they can bring the wine so they were McCobb with him to bring the wine so I can bring the wine so why don't you bring the wine the value serve says it says because I'm fasting why a fasting say you're the sundeck if you're the son think it's at times it's very allowed to eat he says how can I eat everybody's fasting on what I have to Bhima started in the service a clown it's worth it Sybil and the favorites fasting he says I can't be I have to be me start I have to share the sorrow of the Sybil he fasted not pillow him then I have to fast but now comes a new dimension the dimension is with a barn cost the Taurus emission Esteban we talked about Casa professor professor fasted we talked about trying to help other people it's Olga Volvic Reb Aaron Kotler basically found out that he said by might remain with you a new dimension a festive but much away no the POSIX says by yidao moisture moisture grew up the Yeats a lack of last week's parsha VR he saw busy voice on me saw the burden that the hidden were burn them it's Ryan the famous Rashi what did he see what they see sera she said not just he saw notes on a novella boy Leo's mate Sarah Liam his eyes in his heart to feel for them he felt their pain something he saw what they what's happening to them now said a Novelli boy Leah's mate Sarah Leah so byron caucus has a gevalt a good thing Rabanne says that the shot is two things that we find over here reponse that must remain the two things he shared their burden number one he shared their burden and second of all he felt their pain it's a big difference what's the difference here's an example of sharing someone's burden right you see someone in trouble see someone in trouble what you do is you know what I want to share the word so you write a check it's a composite you think you're sharing the burden see someone needs medical attention can't afford it you write a check that's called sharing the burden what happens after you write the check you go home and life as far as you're concerned goes back to normal and the tower that other people are going through that's nothing get it to you you shared the burden but you don't feel the pain because it does not affect your lifestyle at all Maurice Rubino says rabbi and taught us it's not enough to share a burden but important is he says to feel the pain feel the pain means is that things just don't go back to normal the way they were that means to say that when you go back home you have to have a certain attitude that life cannot just be lived the same way you also have to somehow change a little bit your lifestyle in order to be able to share into her good shape with the other person's going through several burn that with moisture ah bueno mucho bueno taught us and therefore should not be a pretty shy boys that what the verka Rebbe said one of the great man he gotta see this the worker has said something evil League you want to know our boys high school Sarita comm everybody wants to live a long life and a healthy life well tomorrow McGill adoptive crest said that the Astros IRA the Astros a bomb a her after yeoman it was Chris what was this who's that you were Mary fumin Sohrab Zahra says the following and it's incredible what he said the posture does make sense you know why I was likely to be mark your men you want to give out the good thing I do you know think about the good thing is that I'm knowing you know how I behave me you're my he says Lisa ste bit Koehler Scuderi I never rejoiced at my friend's misfortune in other words when I saw my friend was down I never rejoiced that's his horse that's a big deal it's not a big deal when your friend is down that you shouldn't be happy about it how lowly can you get you actually should be happy how old person would you be that when you see that somebody is suffering that you don't have to rejoice that's a godless meilleur my voice Asti I never rejoice but colas Kaveri in that who's to resolve a redress your men Mela you don't help a person but to rejoice how long would rejoice would be happy when he sees that somebody has a misfortune and he takes that as as who's the verka rabbit says that's not what it means any average person who has a little heart will not be happy he's gonna rejoice at somebody's misfortune that's not what he meant what I meant is something else many times the voice I you have a good occasion you have a legal occasion you have a good reason to rejoice you're making a bris make a bris about it so give all the key reason rather is to be Pacifica you make a Bar Mitzvah it's a give a legal reason to be a bit similar making a pigeon I been making a fastener second bow the key reason legitimate read the paper simcha imagine let's imagine making a Bar Mitzvah yeah you give a big happy you're waiting for the de Beauchamp to see how your child's becoming Bar Mitzvah but you find out that a good close friend of yours network is going through hard times mommy she has to declare bankruptcy hey Bama Drager says the following if my friend is suffering I can't rejoice with my simcha my bar mitzvah cannot be be simple yes of course but mr. Boyd doesn't have to suffer we're going to go through the motions we're going to do everything but I cannot fully be Pacifica if my friend is suffering then it affects my own simcha my own life may you're my voice Asti I never was Basilica in my simcha that call us Kaveri we may cover had misfortune that's a madruga that's Amma draga is that if somebody else is suffering then you cannot enjoy even your own life your own legitimate simply you deserve to be able simply that is the idea a boy said that is the feeling but a barn cultural basic is saying it's not enough to share the burden you write a check but your life is not affected at all somehow it should affect your life as well should feel the pain the pain of the other person and I think that if we were able to basic come a little bit in my Dragon when we hear what's happening that's the soil you know hear the noise then you close the radio on you basically you go back and you finish your breakfast right that's the usual situation that's what happens if we go find in our heart to generate a little of my dragon to be me started and it's our of others know what you gain because both will remove the Tsarevich as well also let me tell you how coach Bronco works the famous vertebrates or salon theory we can conclude to this salon this is the following mr. petheram msot octave because you profit judgment is perfect as MS satkaryavada is righteous for all-around what does it mean it's righteous all around I'll give an example let's say for example a boy sigh someone breaks the law some breaks the law so now the judge right sentence is that person he has to go to prison he deserve to go to prison he deserves to go to prison but you know what happens that person going to prison not only he's being punished his wife is being punished his wife is being punished don't have a husband the children are being punished they don't have a father but this is the way of this world the person didn't avila so meili's so the court in oil amazi punishes him even though they're side effects that don't deserve to be punished services atlanticus Bravo does not do that if a person deserves to be punished but by punishing him the surrounded craving will suffer needlessly kakaako removes its art from him also miss potassium M is sought cooled off everybody the side effects from all the side suffering that's also righteous we don't know why but when something happens a tragedy in a family right and mamela there are others around could be parents could be fathers could be mothers so many different others are suffering as a result if there wouldn't be a reason that they also should suffer if they would not have a need to suffer k ba who would not cause the one who deserves to suffer there even if one deserves to suffer but with caused unnecessary suffering for others the debacle removes it from also the mix of olive oil there's a myth sir that you should escort somebody dal Adamas somebody leaves the house was that why's it 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to feel the pain so maybe when we go home rabbi sigh so maybe maybe we should deny just a little bit of pleasure maybe maybe just a nice little pleasure maybe skip that midnight dessert I don't know whatever you're doing at night or something it's good for the diet also probably before you go to bed or whatever so no it was just a little bit in any situation even if it's sometimes only symbolic just to show a Kody bar who then we are right there together with them it's not just we hear about it it's easy thing to say to Hill Emma by saying but that D is what does it do what changes do we make in our life do we really do really is their aeration in our daily behavior or the situation in fact that is happening so a male is so I conclude just with one thing I said the following when we look out in the world and we see that Sora's that is happening let us remember our site in the governing we say I'm a fascist remind me of him how could is baccarat boys I covers the sky with clouds was it say after that I'm a concert remind me of him a college boy who covers the sky with clouds what's after that ha makin the alread smote or the Bravo prepares the rain for the earth so they much gear after Webb don't say God once said you know what's being said in that listen what that POSIX says Maggie I said when one sees dark you see ominous clouds everything looks bleak but immediately after the clouds comes the biggest block of all comes around Gish may brocco it's a lesson life when you see clouds in your life you see darkness realize that this is our climate for much more greater and better things I'm a constant remind me of covers the sky with clouds it's for a purpose for a positive purpose the purposes are making Lawrence motorcoach brothers preparing you for praying motor to bring rain and noise inshallah cat summer let us tell you this my boys I will not snow anymore every here I don't know me too soon let's say I'm noisy shell look at summer acaba who gives shell like like wool wool was white right flakes of wool what's the motional was that mean we say the dabbling in the hollow Lucas emerging shellack atomic ok Bravo give snow Couture my like whoa what does it mean Sodom godless Erica Valda get shot shellack Robo is called it's extremely cold if you don't have a coat to cover yourself and to keep yourself warm guess what no you say Shelley because Bravo only gives as much snowcat summer as much wool you have to keep yourself warm gray box will make sure that you are able to insulate yourself you're able to be sable to withstand no matter what tourist you're going through it you're gonna prevail okay Brock only gives just as much as you can handle it appears sometimes you can't handle it but I know since shell egg he only gives us much snow cut summer as wool you have the moral will you have there'll be more snow the less will you have will be less know that's how could he broke up race and therefore we take a look the world looks for many many ways to destroy us either through assimilation or through annihilation simulation means they try to befriend us and we blend it to the culture that's all that's growing us destroying us spiritually if it's not through assimilation then its annihilation stabbing here and stabbing over there but their boyish way my boys I guarantees and that's what's in a Shem that they will never succeed we possess a certain resiliency because what we gives all of us that no matter what happens we survive by yahushua as a more like how Lathika read whether it be i should see the schinsky say with the Guyver which aligned the malum oakum of abusive crimes on fellow you know what the care of yeshua was live coral is the mouth we open the stand before our coach both we are misspelled oh but Yahoo I see show us a molecular fee for EV that pair was the chorus but we said that is the sort that is the core of the Jewish people it is depend a little for when the owner Melek says but I need Fela what is Bonita philomene 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