Rabbi Moshe Weinberger "Elevating our Motions with Emotions" Live on Coach Menachem

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understand better but the emotions hopefully will um clarify tonight uh the truth is while a person is young and you go to your header you listen to your mother or father get some information when you're young you take it in and you live with it with a tamimus with the cheetahs and you believe and what happens sometimes we get older and everybody with different experiences in their life in a way it looks like we we get smarter and more mature and now that we're older you can't sell us the brooklyn bridge it's not going to go so easy and if it's something that i see and i understand so then i'm in but if not and sometimes it can be hard when it comes to munna but and it comes to understanding what you do and many many feel a little bit disconnected so some stop and they try to figure out they search they search for meaning in life they learn and swarm others that you earn but they just continue doing whatever they did till now and they don't really know where to go and whatever they did they continue and some don't really want they're disconnected but they do it because of sometimes it can be family it can be the shul the community which which is good that you're in such a place that holds you but it doesn't always last so long and the people around you they feel it so hopefully we'll get some a little bit more clarity and connection the truth is when a person is faced with a challenge let's say he's in a hospital with a relative and he needs to make a decision about making a minion so that's when you know when there's a challenge there's more of a connection to the person he has to know what's his values you know i want to dominate him and have a misdominion so you have to make a decision and uh we know that our grandparents after the war in america shabbos was it it had to be a decision and uh it wasn't so easy you know we can't we can't know what we would look like in there in their shoes but mitzvah to make a decision i need to do limits i want to do the mitzvah and actually push myself to do it and act when i do it i feel good that i did it but for many of us shabbos just happens and it's not that we decided maybe not consciously so in today's day our challenge is so we're doing the mitzvos we're doing it but the challenge of ours is more of our connection where am i when i'm doing the mitzvah why am i doing limits it's more the the the inside of the understanding and the connection so hopefully tonight we'll miss hashem remy weinberger help us to elevate taka our emotions and tonight's year actually was sponsored anonymously but today one of our past speakers he was so happy he was on the show before he said you feel so many people have been being getting physical every week you want to be part of it i want to tell him and honestly he should have a lot of knowledge from him and his family from everybody and also somebody else uh sponsored honestly he said rabbi weinberger's milwaukee has whatever that means um again tonight we'll be discussing elevating our emotions with emotions how to feel more connected to hashem and every aspect of our life we have discussed i have a martial lamborghini here i'm going to read a very very short bio before moisture speaks remission weinberger is the founding and current rav of congregation h kodesh in woodmere new york he leads a vibrant community of hundreds of families in addition to thousands of students around the world listen to his weekly shiurim on hasidis and more weinberger is also mashpee university emotional hamburger for yours okay so thank you and uh to people i i've never met in person but i i became friends with him immediately and i see some familiar chavarrum it's very uncomfortable uncomfortable for me to talk to you on a computer i'd much rather be together with all of you and and the time will come to the image somebody should be able to sit together in a normal way in the room together have a secret there was a word that menachem used that triggered something in me it's not a bad thing don't worry menachem that he triggered something in me when he said that uh sort of welcoming everybody to the show i i didn't know this was a show and i certainly would not have agreed to to be on this show if it's a matter of shows there are better shows than this i'm sure this is a secret but you reminded me of something and i know you didn't mean to gods a bit in a bad way it's just a word a word but listen to what you reminded me of before we begin because this is going to be a shocker to tell you that's what that's what usher told me we're going to be schmoozing together it's not a it's not a sheer i'm not lecturing you we're going to be talking even in yeshiva i refuse to call it a secret musa i call the secrets with the boys with the guys the younger light it's always a secret a conversation among friends but menachem reminded me of of something and i thought that maybe it would be could i just start with a story a little bit about myself of how i got involved in all of this what is it that what is it that really changed my life and i think that will be helpful otherwise i wouldn't share with you it's a little bit embarrassing but here it goes i don't know the chevy here that's over that's over 55 60 years old you probably remember that and upstate there was a hotel called the pine view hotel all right so you know like nowadays they have four four-star hotels five-star hotels dubai there are six seven star hotels in dubai so the pine view there were no stars you understand it was it was there were no stars it was the pine view hotel it was a it was a place where you can get kosher food and meet some nice people and get away from the city a little bit but it's what we would call i don't mean to insult anybody but now by nowadays by the standards of nowadays it was mama should dive so so there was one many years ago uh around 45 46 years ago there was a labor day singles weekend labor day singles weekends big big thing was advertised for months before it was the biggest event you know for singles to get together this is a long time ago and uh things were a little bit different back then and and there was a friend of mine and uh and myself we we got we got jobs being waiters at this uh at this labor day weekend and uh there's a lot of energy understand hundreds of singles hundreds of eligible guys and girls it was leibniz and and we were watching we were waiters so we had a good time and we worked hard but we were watching and then it was mutsai shabbos and we finished cleaning up everything after shelshidus and it was after shabbos and they had two shows we have management there were two shows not one show there were two shows after shops one of them was a comedian and the other one was a magic show are the two shows for matsushabs now it just happened that it was a protest that changed my life that that particular year shabu-slikas came out labor day sometimes that happens a few years ago we had that this year it's going to be pretty close came out sleepless on labor day so what's the shabbos there was a problem the problem was that sleekers they were all these are all from clever guys and girls and there are uh hundreds of them you have to say sleepless it's massive but there are also two shows so what happens is follows there was the first show and the guys and girls are already sitting together it was the first show and the comedian was was vulgar it was terrible it wasn't funny but that was the first show and then the scheduling was that there was going to be sneakers because it was already time for sneakers and then there would be the second show so the guys that were running the thing screamed out to set up the pizza and have everybody move over and to have the guys on one side the girls on the other side and they started handing out the little bit like you know we didn't have fancy sneakers we had those little booklets and they were handing out the stickers to everybody but it was a lot of noise and a lot of energy hundreds of of of guys and girls was a lot of energy and the guy couldn't he was sushi he was trying to get the island quiet he couldn't he couldn't get the island quite so finally he was so frustrated he screamed out of the top of his lungs into a mic if the oil them will will be quiet we'll be able to finish this up and get back to the second show we'll be able to finish this up meaning solutions and get to the second show i heard that now listen to me i was a modern orthodox kid i was wearing a yarn because they just said that said moishan that some girl made for me you understand i'm being honest with you i come from a high minister background from jews very high michigan that's the place that hashem left me often and and i was uh i was shocked to hear such a thing that this guy summed up my entire life in one sentence and i looked at my friend and i said i'm getting out of here i just don't want to be part of this i'm leaving he said what's the matter so he came running after me and i sat under a tree and the two of us spoke the whole night i said sneakers to myself and i said i said did you hear then he was called then his name was lenny now his name is shmuel i said lenny did you hear that he hit he had said she said what did he say he said he said every should be quiet no no he said let's finish the sleepless so we can get back to the show i don't know let's finish this week you have to people have to mute the thing let's get back to the let's get back to the show we have to finish this and i said to him i said lonnie do you hear you hear what the guy said our learning our davening our you know how we do them we're waiting to get the school late for davening to end early we're just waiting for we're just waiting to to get back to the show we want to finish this stuff up to get back to the show and after that the two of us made a little bit late at night sitting by uh this pond over there we made this like packed between us that we're going to try to start again i can't say that i've been very successful i want i i was hoping that i'd be a much better jew and a much better person but i met this guy that was running the program years later and i thanked him i said i want you to know you saved your mama saved my life it changed my whole life you didn't mean to he said a really crazy thing and you were just trying to you're just trying to start sleepless he's a great guy but he changed my life because i decided then that i did not want to have my eater sky be a yiddish kite that was just between shows so that's what brings us to this show tonight it's a different kind of a show it's not the show back in the in the pine view 50 years ago it's it's jews who i don't know some i see one or two familiar faces i'm not moving around i don't want to do that i'm on this page and and if you're on this page if you're on this uh program it means that you're mavac means there's something inside of you that's still longing there's something inside of you that hasn't died there's something inside you that hasn't died and as long as long as a person is unable to have almost when dr malik said was that a singles weekend many years ago said do you hear that i can't believe it like almost it's not enough ever listen to me it's not enough just not to die gave us wants us to be filled with his presence have any care of us allah can lead ties it's not enough just not to die it's not enough just to to have a yiddish character that's a checklist and i did i i i'm asked hi darvin today did i dive in marv yeah i'm always good afternoon i'm finished for the day i remember seeing your slime once in a stable and there was an old zoom it was after marvel was late and it was an old charm and he gave a crafts after marv and he said no potter potter do you feel like that sometimes doctor it's not enough that's not to die it's not enough just to to somehow be safe and to know that i'm not going to get him because i was a good boy or a good girl yeah curious that's the toughness of being a jew if you want to talk about that welcome to the show okay right bro hamburger straight for i think the opening goes straight into the all the amazing questions we have we're going to do a little poll just to get everybody warmed up everybody who's here please turn on your camera i did everybody's here please open the camera or everyone wants to take everybody's questions as much as we could tonight um let's let's take a question right why we're gonna answer the question what is your connection four four answers choose one of them i feel fully connected externally and internally i doomed the midsoles but inside i feel i feel disconnected inside option c depends on the day option the week with doing the mitzvos but very connected that's the first question the second question is what area do you feel most emotions davening learning where do you feel the most emotional connection okay everybody answer questions we don't know who's answering just to give everyone a feeling what islam we have over here going to see the results right one we can see the results not everybody else can see it i'm gonna share it in a minute as soon as everybody's done okay five four three okay okay 41 percent of people is say they feel fully connected fully connected externally and eternally they have the the they feel fully connected they came just to say hello beautiful ah beautiful i gotta you gotta help me hey yeah you came for this year see the chance for you yeah yeah yeah but inside i feel disconnected inside thirty percent of people forty percent of the people are you know depends on the day six percent of people feel weak with doing the midsole but very connected in what area do you feel the most emotions 31 of people feel dominant which is the the winning answer 40 learning 25 percent eight percent mitzvahs and 22 percent yum yum yum i have to say yes people come sunday night so late at night to spend time yeah yeah you could x out the other thing now i'm going it's on the screen if you can okay see i see you again okay so the first question i'll start with and we'll start and then everybody will start asking people are texting already anybody wants to text me and then i'll try to put on warming copyright while we have them the first question is a very general question when we do mitzvahs day in and day out what what happened okay just click on mute okay yeah all right okay when we do mitzvahs day in and day out it becomes routine and it loses a lot of emotion sometimes how can we get ourselves to start feeling more of the emotions again when we do stuff the vaishlam gave us two main calendar which he taught us through hazal and through have to use these kalin to energize hashem and the two kalim are tara and filo those are the two caleb again mitzvahs were talking about how i should perform the misfits with more energy the mysteries themselves of course are energizing but the barista gave us two things that we could work on like right now we were holding by ray schreider it's already based we're going into gimbal and yante was coming up very soon each and every one of you and myself should be preparing for purim how do we prepare for purim if you're going to wait until purim arrives and you don't make any hardness you don't make preparations i'm not talking about this all of mundus and ants and getting you know opening up the piggy bank to see what you got for the ton of stuff your item and getting the food and all that stuff that's nice that that that has to be prepared also i'm not talking about that but in terms of the tyra and trilo tells that 30 days before 30 days before i begin to i begin to prepare so each person has to find within himself in terms of tire not to wait till it comes to the purim not to wait till it comes to the octave a person has to immerse himself and herself in the swarmakadaism whatever it is that speaks to you whatever it is that speaks to you to learn the swarmage and to prepare for yantra so that by the time you come to purim you're on fire you're excited about what purim is you you understand it and you're able to you're able to to be excited about that young to when it comes tyro is a tremendous hakona for those who are learning the suggested to prepare for purim and the message that's also a huge right to prepare for the excitement of a young div not just a full interyamth you have to make a channel the second thing is thrilla now when i use the word trilo i'm not only speaking about shahrukh khamar we do whatever we can to strengthen our feeling but i'm talking about the thousands and thousands of jews that i've spoken to over the years whose lives have been changed by beginning to develop a rapport with hashem in their own personal way with their own words this is not just i'm not i'm not a card-carrying breast of a faucet although i wouldn't be ashamed to be one they're very holy people i'm not impressed of a hasid i'm very deeply attached to the qut and and so on but but the breast of us did not did not um invent his abilities it was the way of avoiding hashem from the time of the navy and all the way through the years and the time and other greats means that the same way with everything else in life everybody everybody over time you know the one of the one of the because i'll say that human was a big beloved and he said yes i'll say that he was saying that their he's sleeping people do the same thing that was what you were asking you said on the thing before people do the same thing day in day out and it becomes just wrote it becomes it becomes just something that you do by habit or that you have to do and to be part of but when a person when a person just imagine this have uh you take out the caduceus levy and you learn the kadushas for purim one you learned the caduceus for purim it conduces lazy and not only do you learn to conducive slavery you start i'm talking to men and to women you learn not only do you learn the condition of slavery but you start writing down you learn a piece of those levy and you start writing down thoughts that you have and then you start to write fearless that you have based upon the terror that you learned you started daven to be able to absorb to acquire to put into practice what the rebbe is talking about with his life he's talking about like that sadikim said to take your turn to make them into its feeler to bring tyra and feel it together then then everything is new everything is exciting and everything is fresh it doesn't just happen on its own why is it that when you meet a belcher when you meet when you meet somebody that's new somebody somebody that just joined us recently you see in them such a he is such an excitement right and you're thinking in your head maybe he doesn't know what he's getting himself into especially if you see like a garrett said and or guillermo is like wow you know i'm sure you've had conversations with gay room you've had conversations with bella chuva some of you on our belly chuva or maybe garam and i know many of them are true but they're longing for that time when they first when they first joined the gayer misses that moment of titling in the midfield and coming up and being a jew how do we how do we as people who are we're not bothered we're not we don't have that source we're i hate to use it a terrible term but we're from from birth i once said years ago that that the word true but does not mean me to return or repent is not a jewish word but to return it means it means an answer to a question you see the balchub is a person that was living a life and he began to ask questions he began to examine he began to think about what it isn't what is he doing in his life what's the tactless of my life and he looks at us the firm from birth and he says oh those guys those girls they're my answer now we have the answer hashem our parents raised us to empty yeshiva we were given the answer in the silver platter menachem was talking about that it was given to us we didn't make the choice we we got those answers so we need to become ba alex you understand what i'm saying we need to begin to ask questions not questions that come from skepticism but a longing to know a desire to know and the ram khao says that the beginning of being a jew the beginning of being a jew is to ask is to ask what was it about avraham avinu that made him different what made rifki maine with the what is it in my life that is going to give me my life meaning and depth and joy what is it and unless you're a person that you're seeking answers and you're asking real questions and that's what this is about this program then you just go on day after day it's all the same thing it's all the same thing but if you're a balsh trailer and you stop and you ask yourself my name is kai maisha ben pero hi maisha van pero forget about purim top shouldn't pay top shania in test it's now purim to option pay isle poor in the middle of the in the middle i hope it's at the end of this crazy matzah that we're in bottom of the ninth basis load of three and two counts you're up at bat you're in sushant what is it what is it what does it mean to be a jew what is poor what does it mean this doesn't mean that you don't see god in your life the muslims not in your life but then after the homicide says oh you see that he never left you for a second he was with you the whole time mamish every single second he was with you you thought he wasn't with you what does it mean but that i'm in a hard place and when a jew was in a hard place the main thing is not what this scientist or this politician the main thing is what is aboriginal what does he want of me what is he asking for me unless you work at this just doesn't happen to you you have to work at it it's not void it's hashem that's what we put here to work hard it's not easy it's not quite used to work at it well i just want to we're discussing the emotions i just want to back up for a minute there's a question here that i believe i've heard from others also who said we need feelings and emotions and avoid this hashem my grandparents just didn't uh just did everything they were supposed to do and i didn't see it by them and even by murray russia shiva the answer to that question is very very basic first of all the fact that you didn't see it by grandparents or by russia yeshiva doesn't mean that they didn't have it that's the first thing is that i don't know what's in another jew's heart i don't know what that person i don't know what what what in his own uh what what he was about i don't know that but to respond to the question which takes us to yiddish 0001 i have the deepest respect for all that i receive from my parents my father allah some of you might have seen that this the silly best of the whole thing that my father spoke of this this past week my father is a murder i didn't see my father i didn't see my father jumping up and down by diving i remember once i started doing that when i was a bar my father gave me a little bit of a look and i stopped with the heavy shocking and the big jumping i didn't see him i didn't see him doing that outwardly i didn't see i didn't see it but you know what i saw i saw jews i saw jews like my father and my mother that they were not demonstrative they were raised as very modest and hidden people their love of the banishment their love of yiddish cried and their love of jews was through what they did and and how they held on through the necessities but your question the this sudden's question takes us to the outer base of either sky and i didn't know that you were going to ask this but i anticipated such a question so we were talking about this but there you know that we have the messenger and we learn there's a version that iran has in sharm that's written in the way it's written in the way of of a uh between and and the question that you asked was actually asked by the and the person who asked this question on the program is and the question was asked in in the round in the v of the chassis listen carefully i read you just one two sentences because asked the same question the question was this is the question what is the slightest of a jew in this world to listen to hashem to keep all the mistress i'm in a place of of what are jews supposed to be doing this is what god wants me to do to learn the halakhas to learn the myths and to observe the minstrels so that's the same hidden over here he created this this form of literature as we see many of the catamaran views like the kuzuri and so on which was the fictitious conversation between the king of the kuzrum and and which is really the levy of course created the whole thing so it's true it's true that when you know some post then you know what you're supposed to do in life but do you know based upon what you are studying do you know what you're supposed that your heart is supposed to be exploding with do you know what your mind is supposed to be filled with and he continues this is the source to look at you don't have to go you don't have to go to an obscure place over here you asked say hakuma is the compliment also the ask like in them what does god want what does god want of us now listen to the answer motivation says hashem here we go lee rosa sharma local mrs seymour isaac what it means to be in love with hashem he compares with the love of a woman that you can't think of anything else did you ever read sharon my friend it's a little bit embarrassing your ears turn red should we go over some of them all which means what learning the mistmas false and observing the mistress it's only one of the items listed in this posse [Music] that in order for a person's observance of misses to be in a place of slimers which is galaxy says the beginning of the tactics of being in this world you're only busy with one of these things learning and keeping them is this the arbor and four of them four of these you have put on the side that's exactly what the khabib is writes in his dharma that's the reason why ribosomal cellantas crucialeno came to the world that's the reason that the light of the seven days of creation about some of the questions were sent into the world because the bernstein sword at the end of time they're going to be going to think that the only thing in yiddish kite is what is to be mamish to be mamish like a garland that just does and learns and does and learns and feels nothing and the posix says that learning learning and keeping as one of the four ahav oh boy doesn't the tour goes on we don't have time according to you what does it mean vegas basham so the usual answer that the good yeshiva gives us well it means to be misled it means to to to connect with that's true and that's and that's if you look in this if i misses and you look in the and if you look in the other minyanihe mistress that you'll see that hashem it doesn't mean to the exclusion of once vegas hashem it means that through our connection to tamir rahman saddique i don't believe that's true all of my rebellion were literally rebellion i was not raised in hasidis my rebellion were lit fish i had a rebbe my who was my masonic illusion who i don't go a day without thinking of i don't know if you heard it from his name doublelift shark abductor lipsticks to sue valkyra that was my red abdavalicious abdav livshis was a yid at sadiq that was on fire with elokus who do you think the khabib khan was who do you think about barack obama was what do you think the villain was was doing in his spare time what do you think he was doing he was he was munching on on sushi and and and what do you think he was doing that the the vilma guy who do you think the pondergan was are we massive of the rambam so when a person when a person who's been learning yeshiva his entire life asks a question where do we see that that emotions has anything to do i didn't see them i remain i didn't see my parents my grandparents listen we're not the first ones to struggle with this and and it could be that our parents now grandparents also i'm not saying that everything was perfect in the past but my ques but but that's not my my the answer to this question is what does hashem want of us in that we're taught in the torah tereshi and terrific says the first thing of course is you have to keep every mitzvah regardless whether you feel you don't feel you have to be able to shuffle you have to keep everything that's not that's not negotiable you keep everything no matter how you feel you feel good you don't feel good you have to do everything that's not that's not up for a discussion we're not talking about that but the shiloh is what's the thoughtless i just read to you from the wrong hell if you have a song he wants you to know him tell me something my friend when you when you learn when you learn schneidermarks and metallus how how what exactly changed in your knowledge of hashem when you learned schneidermarks and the towers what's changed in your das of hashem look at the rambam the ram says and i just look at the rambam you look at audrey shine look how sad you're going looking kuzuri looking khabi salah is looking all all the kadmai all the khat monument crying screaming about the same thing a yiddish kite without das without knowing hashem knowing means connection it means devakers they all were crying about the same thing you couldn't possibly believe that the tacos that all of history is waiting for that we should go to uh that we're going to comes we're going to go to some minion factory come 10 minutes late or 20 minute davening and leave five minutes early do you really think that's what all of this is about that's why the barnacular made this whole this whole parachute called uh called the world and the history of the world was that we should be able to have uh more minion factories with daphne's 15 minutes so you come shabbos 20 minutes late leave 20 minutes early have a kiddish in the middle you really think that's what it's about now you officially david you were you'd say maybe the happening but do you think that's what it means i gave him marshall i'm sorry for being i could talk to for 20 hours this question i'm sorry i always want to let you know we have so many people that want to ask you questions i'm letting you know so okay so then i'll so now then i'll stop trying next okay we'll start first okay you're on rubber weinberger i'm on what what's what was the next question it's coming oh hey ricky on yes i am hi okay hi can you hear me yes i hear you yes okay so my question is as follows my circumstances barack hashem um which i say for everything have found me where i'm in a situation where i'm divorced and living alone and there are many many different nurseries that go along with that i really really really have barack hashem and munna and batacan but i find that for some reason when it comes to shabbos and i'm ready to get it i get ready for shabbos and i'm excited about it the minute shabbos comes in and i bench the left and i'm alone on my own there's something that takes over me that i cannot bring myself to get out of my bed till the end the pain is so deep my tears don't stop because i'm so connected and i want to be able to enjoy the greatest gift to shabbos this shabbos was shabba shkalim i was busy talking to everyone about what the shabbos would be but there's something that comes over me when i'm alone on shabbos and i'm faced i'm in a basement on my own unfortunately due to whatever it's not due to whatever there's a plan that the ambition has but i want to know what is it why is it that i beg the abster let me enjoy the shabbos and do what is meant to be done go out meet with people and for some reason it's like hus for shalom i'd be paralyzed i can't explain it and it's like not that i'm not connected and it's like not that i don't have the mona and batachan it's something that is so painful that it's very hard for me to even understand it's it's very deep it's a very very deep concept and i'm trying to figure out where is it coming from why is it happening to me why am i allowing the years or the eight sahara to take over instead of being able to fight it and and just be able to do what's expected from me even in the circumstances i'm in uh i didn't catch the name the name is rivka yes okay first of all myself with all of us here together right all of us together we give you a broker that you should never be lonely we give you a broker that your shabbos you should be filled with joy and should be filled with companionship not we will all give you a break we all give you i i don't know you but you're obviously a very holy and special person like it here in your voice and and what you're saying and we all give you a broker that you your shabbishes should be filled filled with syndrome as far as why let me tell you something this is a very deep question you said it is and it is and it would take it would take much more it's not for this it's not really for this kind of of a venue but i'll tell you this i used to think i used to think when i started off teaching and and i had to deal with a lot of questions that i ever had i i used to think that that um that the answer the questions were essentially religious in nature and we're based on silas in marshava and hashgraphy and so on and because i consider myself to be a little bit learned in some of those things so i used to think that i have you know some good answers in the meantime i've discovered that i'm not really as limited as i thought but i discovered something else that's much more that's much more important i've discovered that the vast majority of our brothers and sisters who are struggling with their yiddish kite which you're connected i'm not saying you're struggling but are struggling with with difficult shabboses or with the difficulty of just continuing on with their yiddish guy in in a in a heartsighted way that the problems are not rooted in theology at all i venture and that's why i began by giving you abraham i ventured to to say to think that you're somebody that you have the capacity to be very happy and that you've had times in your life that you were very happy i know what you're talking about the sadness of divorce and i'm not ashamed to say that i have two children who are divorced and out of out of our family we have two children who are divorced with children and i see them and i watch them and i feel their pain every moment of of my life i know what that is but the bottom line is that it's not a question that could be answered theologically it's an answer that only it's a question that can only be answered with companionship and if i were able to find that person in the world who should be with you in that basement and for whom you would be the queen the princess in that person's life if i could right now do anything i could to find that person all of us would do that for you if we could to find that person and to bring that person marmish to you then then your services would be left to your shabboses because you're a firm god-fearing person that's filled with a muna and and you're lonely and i know a lot of lonely jews and i've spent time talking to a lot of romney jews it's not anything i could answer with iran it's the only way i could answer you is with a person in your life that you that you're diving for that i should send you very quickly that's all the only way i can answer but i could add one thing if i could add one thing this goes back to what i was saying before i started giving the a few weeks ago in the school but it's not just a show with because now everything is with um live stream i started giving shirum and the indian of hispanics and it began with a few serum learning insights from the writings of one of the great muslim of our generation a dear friend of mine ravi sumer schwartz the author of bill bobby miss kennedy and we began learning about the introduction to true davening comes with the deepest deepest awareness that not only is hashem your father and your king our father and king but hashem hashem is my dearest dearest dearest friend hashem is my friend between hashem and a jew is a relationship of dearest companion and friend all i could say rivka is that soon mitchell you should have yeshua the candles are not going to be burning brightly until that time unfortunately but they can be they can be brighter to the extent that you feel in that basement with you you feel the presence of the shreema and to the extent that the shrine is part of your life and you strengthen yourself in that relationship with you nephesh because that the fish goes with you wherever you are in life i come from families where every single person in their lives everybody was killed they had nothing and the reason that i said going back to the last question about emotion i don't know what kind of emotions they have but i know one thing that my parents every moment of their life is the reason the way they were able to survive is because they felt that hashem is here with me right now he's with you it's not it's not a replacement or a substitute for the nephesh that we all want you to have and that should be mamish terrifying but if hashem will be your best friend that companionship will make it easier to wait until that day and will make the shabbos is a little bit brighter it should be soon let's go we have so many more questions let's try to catch some more yeah hi yes hi thank you so much um rabbi weinberger so my question is as follows so now we're in other and i feel this pressure you have to be joyful and simply gotta up the game i really feel that i'm reading about it and i want it i want to feel it and i have some days obviously that we feel more basement we like we're really on that ball we're like on a roll and then the sahara kicks in and just even though there's so much good going on that little negativity just he throws it in you and takes over your mindset and even your physical sense you feel it and you're like thrown off the ball and you're like that said you're on the floor now like you feel like you're in that struggle like your mind and your heart like you want to feel that joy and that it's a horror is just you know victor victorious so um i feel like i really want to i want to win especially now and utter i wanted to up my game so as as a mom as a role model as you know and i'm always the type of person in general like everyone tells me you know you have somehow you're such a positive person i am especially in general my out to my outside the look i'm always looking that way but from inside i have sometimes i have to fight it and um i need some tips especially for ada i wanna up my game okay you sound like a happy person you sound like a happy person what's your first name uh sarah sorry you know sometimes when you want something sorry you want something very very bad the sahara dhaka can make you sugar the other way when you want something very badly like i remember the first time when i was a kid and i went to the kaiser the first time so i was looking around they still i saw a lot of people crying and i and i felt terrible that i wasn't like uh i wasn't i didn't feel like crying and i tried to make myself cry and i made myself sugar trying to cry doesn't mean that all of a sudden when when uh it was marv on the night of virginia that the the the clock ding and all of a sudden maisha and sarah and the rest of her however that all of a sudden oh i'm so happy why is this happening why am i happy i became happy because it says i always say over the teaching doesn't mean when either arrives it means when the deeper meaning of what other is enters into you when you absorb what other is then that will cause there to be great joy now what i was saying earlier was that it's very hard to all of a sudden feel to feel joyous there are a lot of things in the world to get us down a lot of a lot of a lot of hard things that that that we're surrounded by and we've especially this past year people that we that we love that are that have been sick and people have died and and there's a lot of difficult uh things that have been going on you know one of the city cam not only wanted to give her a number that said he can spoke about how to make oneself happy in the simplest way with mili distrust you know what miller destroys means sarah you go and you buy yourself a if you're able to everybody has different exp you know budgets buy yourself some nice dress go go and get yourself something that you didn't want to get for a long time go and do something that's exciting that's fun that you've been putting off for a while now you might say robert warner what are you talking about this is supposed to be a simchas and i'm supposed to be happy about esther malka and about how how they tried to kill us and and and we won and uh i'm supposed to be in love with hashem i'm supposed to be happy yeah it's all true but those are things that are very hard to force if you if you learn if you do what i was talking about before the learning of purim and the preparations and the trees that come to praying for purim that'll help a great deal but the key thing is the following sadness comes from the assad offer sadness comes from the goof from the body offer it has no life joy comes from the nisham from the soul when a person is when a person gives himself or herself a shot of his only in a way that's permitted i'm not talking a class result to do something that's not allowed not their eyes not drop on it but when a person feels that i that a need for for for is so ideally that could come with tyron with feeling and i can come with but whenever a person strengthens the neshama against the gulf he feels joy the goof is lazy the guff is lifeless the goof is bored the goat is depressed the goof is dead it's a thick hulks a piece of wood it's a clump of dirt then the shaman is alive and the shaman's alive so how do we enliven our nishamas so each one of us has to find ways to enliven to give rise to the nisham ideally it's with tyra missus it's with three words it's with singing you're favoring the goon it's for doing a crazy dance when no one's watching you all kinds of things whatever it is but even mila destrucer even something that's an irish guy even some that's nervous okay now maybe you know i'm i'm saying this a lot of a lot of the people who might be upset with me meanwhile this means to listen to some jokes too they would say nikkim that they knew how to tell a good joke and they'll tell you options says you know you know how to tell he know how to tell a good joke they're upset sir why why would siddique come telling jokes and the officers are once that over i heard from that their opposition said the biggest joke that was ever told was by mahmud hassinai because mahmoud hassina was the biggest shirt and the gemara says that the rebbe before he would give a shia the rabbi would say over milsa did to open up the hearts of the tomb of the students so then they would be able to learn tyra so since miami has seen it was the biggest year it must be that hashem told the best joke at miami-dade scenario because how can you give a big shi if you don't give a good joke right so what was the joke that hashem said about marionettes tonight it had to be the best joke ever right this was the biggest the joke was when he said coffee gigas the rupture said it's not weinberger cufflin said them i mean held the mountain over their heads and said that if you're going to if you accept the torah good if not i'm going to drop it on you and everybody get what and i said just kidding i'll never do that i love you i've never dropped the mountain on you and then everybody start to laugh and the banjo said now listen to me that's the wrong option says someone take a deep breath it's it's it's funny but it's very deep what eruption did was like this the court jester i knew a jew would foreign i wasn't i wasn't certainly being talented even though i had a very close personal relationship his name was summer freifeld do you ever read the book about summer five there's a book it was summer fight for when you were with him you felt joy and he knew how to tell a good joke and i remember someone told me that there were his and one of the must be them said oh you're ready you know how to tell a good joke and somebody that was there like a very very serious like you know uh serious like eastwood scenic type you know the ones that like uh from the kingdom of sadness type of guys and this and this person said what is he saying he's saying they were fryfall was a light like honestly thomas like thomas sir a couple of good jokes some of some old music that you enjoy to good god go to a restaurant that you like if you could eat outside with or social distance i don't get in trouble whatever it is over there make yourself happy because when you do that in a way that's permitted when you do that right then in the summer then the sharma is speaking when the nisham is speaking then your diabetes is a different avenue even if it's merely the stusa is that what do you think are proof with all kinds of crazy things crazy things on purpose what's all the nourished kind of purim some of it is because you because a person drank a little bit and they're feeling a little bit tipsy but the russian wants us to generate more simple in our lives by doing all kinds of things that make us happy i'm talking at a very simple level when you're not when you're not succeeding in other ways mili distress got it thank you i appreciate that enjoy i mean hey we have a lamborghini here we go the question is maybe a little bit similar to what was just asked but in a more limited uh respect how would you advise a person to deal with a matzah in which a day meaning a specific day has started with some sort of big nephila some sort of emotional crash uh scigirl bonim or found out uh whatever some big sorrow has occurred and simply are just on a yum yum basis not so much a life uh aza but an asa for a day that looks like it's going to tank and it is going to be a total waste to sort of save that day you know things will work out eventually the next day even maybe but for the for a day so that's that's the question basically i refuse a good question i struggle with that myself so i appreciate that we could share this i know what you're talking about because the theft of a person is that everything goes like the gamora says that clown is good for both horatio like right right and like in the sukkah and goof above means that uh the the beginning of something sort of sets a tone for the rest of that's what it means goof above zeresha that the goof follows the rush and if the right begins at the beginning is the beginning of his heart so then the the rest is difficult that's why this form said that every minute is i because the whole year depends on those on the beginning the beginning the rush the beginning so sometimes sometimes a person begins in such a way where where it's a clap it doesn't have to be like you said there's not be a major club but it could set the tone for the rest of the day i can only share with you my own strategy things that i picked up in the swami daddy's room and i try to put into use all right since it's purim let's make everything we could talk firmly so esta malka got up that morning and it was a it looked like it was a pretty pretty is going to be a pretty bad day based upon what was happening and what she was told things looked pretty dismal for that day and uh it was a day of casual variety of oddity that uh looked very bad and the megillah it says a few words and i live with these words but listen have a listen to this not just your fault but esther esther means that when a jew experiences asked upon him before what you were talking about was ask the opponent that the beginning of the day my kid something bad happened or whatever it is an argument or some news that's not good so that's called esther that's called hestapon what do you do when when you're in a massive of a toysev esther that some hester ponum has been been added and come into your life especially at the beginning of the day so the way that the megillah says to deal with it is if esther dabber lift now you said you were repeating a little bit so i'm also repeating a little bit you're not the only one that can repeat but if not means but the double of numbers that when i have that i say i go on the side someplace where no one's watching me so it shouldn't become crazy and i said banished alone i believe what i learned in this ramakrishna i believe what i learned in africa when i went in i believe it all the city can reveal that every day is completely new and never was never will be and not only that i believe that this very second you are bringing me into existence this very second as we're taught in africa and in tanya this very second you're giving me my life therefore i'm speaking to the king of all kings i'm asking you help me to know that just because that minute that i experienced was painful i was asked upon him that that does not create any kind of a momentum it does not create any kind of a rut it does not create any kind of decrease and whether the rest of the day is going to be valdic or it's going to be terrible it depends upon my matsurua how i'm a couple that difficult moment in the way of emunah and that esther with the dabulif i don't just swallow it i talked to hashem and i said islam you're here with me right now that was really bad that news that i got was really bad give me some good news ibrahim help me give me some fears to get up make the rest of this day give me this next moment i'm starting again it's a new moment it's a new my life everything is brand new i have a sleekness in this world what do you want from me this day if you're going to get stuck in that news you're not going to go forward every one of us one of the greatest sources of simchen life is knowing that you have a schlitz you know when you take a little kid one of the things i always saw by by the children when they were growing up is that when you have a kid especially if it's a kid that sometimes gets into trouble and you say you know what daddy tati abba needs you to help help you need i need you to help me with this i need help i i have something very important for you to do i did the same thing as a rebbe yeshiva sometimes i had a boy that just wasn't learning and i got him involved in some very important sleepers to help somebody that needs some physic to go do it a stalker for somebody when you feel that you're vital and that you were something and the rest of the day the management is waiting for you to fulfill your sleekess you're too busy to mope you're too busy to get depressed you get busy doing what you have to do in this world you're slaying you sleep that's all there's a letter that was written to the to the balatani social that there was somebody that wrote about this got him upset this guy who said this guy this is what i need this is what i'm missing in life and it sadly brought back them saying that your entire letter is about what you need and what you want not what you're needed for not what hashem wants for you so when i go through a difficulty and i feel like throwing in the towel that day i ask myself help me to feel my sliches why do you need me in the world what could i do today what could i do to give you nah help me to help me to carry on my sneakers and if you feel that you're sleek and you have vital sleepers something very important to do you'll be able to put yourself together you'll be able to be the center when you feel that you're a shliyer then you you're excited you're happy okay invite that it's light i know okay because there's a question that was sent in i'm bored blessed financially comfortable life with a lot of extras i dive in i go to the dof when i can but inside i feel disconnected from yiddishkeit am i wrapped up too much with my luxuries that's the connection with my shaman what should i do about it taiwa i i i don't know if you're wrapped up with your luxuries and if you take them too seriously certainly the banished love ones wants a jew to have to have a good life and and there's no reason why you and all of us shouldn't be able to shouldn't be able to uh to enjoy there's no reason that we shouldn't be able to enjoy but i was talking to actually i was talking to her this morning and we have a khaburi on sunday morning called and we were talking we were talking about this nakuda and i know it's been the subject of a lot of the letters back and forth and the fruit magazines and because when you open up our publications you see that there's some sort of a there's some sort of a preoccupation of the things of this world so my friend if you are getting too caught up in this world if you are getting too caught up in this world then you should know that you're being mashlit the goof over the nishama that means that you are empowering if you're doing that if you're taking gas mias too seriously if you're really getting into it that means that you are you are taking the guff and the kayak of the life of the goof and you are giving it uh you are empowering it to be more important and to have greater weight and to be a greater priority in your life then you're in the shama if that's what you mean by getting caught up then you are god forbid caught up and that would damage your yiddish kite severely severely it would damage your hidden sky but if the if if the um enjoyment or pleasure that you're having as a result of of the standard of life that you're able to afford if that's something which you which you have not established as a priority if you have the mishka like it was just pasha scotland shaka means something that has white if you if you are able to like i don't know about you know you there are things that are going on in our community with consumerism with with gashmias that if you actually take it seriously if you really take these things seriously you'll be very very very depressing and and it would be hard for me to believe there's somebody that's advertising a certain magazine and i thought for sure that it was permissible some new magazine i don't want to say the name of it because the name itself is but a front person is putting out a magazine and i thought it was pretty purim and i thought it's funny it's about you know your whole heart had to live the good life and the best wines kosher wines and the best kosher food and to show a guy like you know on the cover with this yarmulke you know and sitting back in a chair sipping on on the latest kosher wine and getting ready for his big 10-day trip to study the history of the camels of dubai with all the big rabbinical speakers and the glad kosher food and so on and so forth if you actually take that stuff seriously but the person was asking the question couldn't be such a jew because you wouldn't be asking the question you'd just be buying the magazine and buying into all that stupidity and the emptiness the shallowness a jew cannot be happy if his life is shallow i don't care if you have the good wine if you have the best trip and you have the prettiest wife and you have the best behaved kids and you have the nicest house with 10 extensions to the house if you're living a life without their banish loan you're living your life without avarice hashem without curiosity you're living a shallow empty life and from that one cannot find joy cannot fight simcha khazal said a long time ago in the madrid shankar hellers the to my leg the soul is not filled and the madras gives the martial of what the medic is a martial of a guy from the town that marries a basmalek he marries a princess a regular guy and he buys all kinds of gifts and no matter what he buys her she doesn't feel fulfilled by a nephesh load to my leg the soul is not filled because the soul of the jew cannot be filled by by uh trips by expensive vacations it can't be filled by expensive wine it can't be filled by ridiculous kedusham of being the zolovo sovereign until childhood and kishkan kugal coming out of your nose and your ears that that's not that's not what could make a jew feel uh a sense of schlamus that he's malay malay full full yeah there are a lot of jews that they're full on shabbos they got to open up their belts and they sit back and they can't breathe from what they ate because they freshed by the kidneys and then they come home and they ate it again by the meal by nephesh the soul is empty empty and if you're if your wealth or standard of living somehow is comes together with a feeling of emptiness it means that the balance between the nephesh and the goof that shekel that miscal needs to be adjusted and you could be the wealthiest person rabbi no of you that knows he was the wealthiest person in the world [Music] molly roberts if you notice he was the wealthiest person in the world but by the mishka by the scale of rabiudanosi this whole world like he said wasn't anything to him it wasn't anything to him the halogen the original lived in royalty he had a he had a a wagon with white horses and he lived in a palace but you know that in his golden slippers there were no souls and he and he had there was blood that was scraping against the ground what it doesn't what does that mean it means that living a high standard does not have to throw your scale off if it if it's doing that then that's a problem then then the wealth is a problem it doesn't have to do that i knew wealthy jews that they were on fire with simcha with kieva kim rabiuta nasi was a tire fine jew and a big tamil rocham and there were other great sardican like that and you could be learning the daf and you could be making the money and you could be doing all the official things that jesus is supposed to do but it takes us back to a half hour ago but if you're not sitting and learning music is deep if you're not working on his birthdays you're not working on his buenos you're not asking yourself every single day of your life what's the tactics my being in the world like rambhaul says in their time why did hashem send me to this world what's the tactless of my life was it tactless of my life to make money it was a tactless of my life it was a tactical my life to go there a seven a seven a 12 piece band and stand there with a guy getting death at some wedding where there isn't where there isn't a simple just a bunch of robots marching around to other people playing some garcia music what's the tactics of your life so why young zoo is happy life has never been so good my father had a very very very hard life things got better after the muhammad he had a hard life but he was moles and he didn't have any any kindness or any complaints which now if you wake up like you said before you wake up the day didn't start off in a good way something good you know whatever it's not good because everything's a little bit losing because if your happiness depends upon the circumstances of your life and it doesn't depend upon what i'm feeling you on the shaman with torii with it with misses with a little cous not just because you were yahtzee you did the daffy army how did the version speak to you by the daffy i mean i asked i asked the traveler last year two years ago yesterday this was a travel all of their sons were learning in the finest yeshivas in the metropolitan area top yeshivas dusty shiva's great boys great families i asked them i asked their fathers some of them might be on the thing right now i asked the fathers we were talking and i asked them ask your ask your sons when was the last time they thought of russia yes someone's last night for workers borough they started them that's homework for the week find out yes take a take a poll and we had a conversation after that and turns out that there was only one who said that sometimes during learning he stops and he thinks a second about whether there's giving hashem the rest of the boys said honestly that they don't really think of hashem at all they try when they're darving a little bit in the morning some of them most of them not even them and the finest achievements now if you think that that's how our our parents and our grandparents and our baby and our researchers lived making a terrible mistake they were not empty people they weren't empty people so that so one so it's possible first for a person to be to learn the doubt and to keep the mistress at the diamond three times a day and to say bro and to still be an empty and shallow person it's possible that's exactly what i was talking about that's exactly what the highest levels is talking about it's possible to feel that way is it time for another question yes yes i have so many more but i know i don't end the time we'll do this again another time if you if you invite me back if i didn't insult anybody we're going to come back to the show okay just a quick question remember i um i teach and based on what you're saying um and one of the quotes that has really along the lines of what moshe weinberg has said about children in today's yeshivas that are not relating to hashem i am a teacher in high school and middle school and i'm zoha to like support other teachers and the quote that moshe weinberger has said in the qual perspectives many years ago about it's easy to blame the internet for our problems it's much more difficult and painful to consider the possibility that we have failed to communicate the true inner joy and light of yiddishkai to a generation that's anxious and ready to hear it so i just my real question for is is as a mechanic and as someone who worked with muhammad and like how do we kind of clarify to people a lot of things are done in the name of thanos that actually are in and like what is and what is really not enough so that we can kind of try to go back and look at what are we doing in our schools and is it really finished okay so i speak with the greatest perspective and and fortunately all your students both the students themselves and the teachers to have them like you i would recommend first of all since it's already it's very very late to understand what is really is what it was meant to be you heard of the site was written by the helicopters now i was sure here in the wood mirrors called ace carders it's not i named it after the rabbit i would highly recommend that everybody takes translated some years ago by feldheym it's there's a beautiful english travis telemedium with the hebrew on one side the rebbe on one side and english on the other side and in the introduction the rebbe has devised the introduction into two parts the rebbe first has a part where he speaks to the merchant to you and to myself and all the other muhammad and then he speaks to the students i would highly recommend that you learn the khao sa tell me begin with the introduction to the teachers and to the students you're going to be blown away by how that sadik who said this before in between world war one and world war ii how he understood exactly what was going on and he laid out the essentials of modern day because what was 40 50 60 years ago you know if you say over the same sichus musli that did it that worked for you and you say that over whatever that schmooze is you say that over for some kid in in in tough shampoo the kid's going to start rolling his eyes rolling her eyes so as a mechanic you have to be very relevant you have to be very current and very up-to-date what exactly does mean it's already very light so i would only at this point recommend that you learn very carefully yourself and then after you master it to sit down with the teachers and they and your your the other teachers that you learn with and carefully study the piezes introduction to khabib and there you will see that the deeper meaning of just like means to prepare something at the beginning for its life of kedusha and the question in testing pay aleph is is my being a mechanic am i have i laid a certain foundation for my students to live lives of kedusha kedush of holiness not just lives as informed jews who go through the motions i think that's the part of the title that the guys gave to tonight's that who are going through the motions but jews who are connected to hashem you'll have to read the pieces i just don't want to use up the next 10 minutes so maybe we'll take another question yes okay somebody sent it a very good question when asked that one then we'll go to closing right below okay where's that question can can can rabbi weinberger give his to a mother who is very emotionally connected to her struggling team and is working with giving them only love and acceptance but is surrounded by people who obey him yeshiva's neighbor his relatives are and consider the mother to be an eviler to these kids making her feel like it's her fault her husband's full wow wow [Music] what should i tell you look i'll just share with you a sentence from the zaragodas the zilgrimar learn and then to learn it if only a jew would know how much their banished loan loves each and every one of us have a s and the person would roar like a lion and would run after hashem i would say to you don't be discouraged by the sounds that you hear around you our generation is desperately in need of love desperately in need of love even though it's true that in early generations it was ne there was a certain hashpoi of the year or there was more that was more effective in many ways but in our generation loving your child who's going through struggles loving your child is not enabling your child it's enabling a child to end up being a healthy well-adjusted god-fearing person that's what it's enabling your child to do i would tell you mommy trust your instincts there's no one that knows your child better than you don't pay attention to anybody if somebody has a good order to make this it could be that in in a certain thing that might be that you could use some guidance of course we all need we all need help we all need help artists but this larson i've heard very often that where people who are who are dealing with a child that's a little bit that's struggling and that parent is showering the child with love and affection that that's called an enabler that voice those words i don't care how long the beard is or the person who said it that's coming from the malchus of atsu's the mouths of sadness that's exactly what's breaking the children that's what's destroying the children the children have to feel that which i just told you they have to feel that the infinite love of hashem for them to have to feel that their mother is on their side no matter what that doesn't mean you always have to agree with the kid but the child has to feel that the love that you'll have for him is something which is which is the the that oxygen that's going to help him to breathe during the difficult time of his life and you're you are an enabler you're enabling your child to live and don't believe that anybody else tells you a mother knows better could a mother make a mistake yeah rarely mothers rarely make mistakes and if they do it's with kleenekeite but in the bigger picture of who your kid is you know better and don't pay any attention to the to the uh to all the moving and all the all the experts if the extras were such a big movement we wouldn't see what's going on all over the place the kids are dropping like flies everywhere we look they're dropping like flies because that person thinks because the kid is hitting the further in the front row and he's shuckling a little bit he's act that he's also not so broken they were surrounded by so broken children so what is this missing in their lives you're missing from their lives a mother that's enabling i i give a broader to all the children they should have mothers that enable them tonight we're getting all the people are texting me when is reverend coming back so i think every sunday night 10 o'clock works for you every sunday night so gracious we're coming and travel will speak again we will definitely have to do round two again the nano sponsor that that helped uh sponsorship was actually one of our past people that came on it was so much that they they thought they wanted sponsored and also uh also uh robert weinberger also thank you uh next sunday night daniel mechanical discussion winning our family's heart and soul to the beauty of the distraction amazing program because let everybody know about it again we also have the rabbit wow we should look for program we have a lot of big programs coming if anybody has any ideas of any concepts or topics please reach out to coach menachem um everything again tonight is recorded um it's going to be tomorrow on the monastery's website not from barefoot.com if you have any questions please either another question i think we prefer to rapid warmbigger if anybody has anything to discuss with them who wants to tell them something and tonight's share is also number 41. you can call up the phone number it'll be up tomorrow the phone number is 848 777 to all our advertising sponsors as usual and uh the calculations from jcn the jewish cancer network really appreciate it go ahead weinberger before i go to closing i just want to mention to the last question um she's probably this mother's probably feeling like she's battling uh war who knows how many people she has to fight and um like you said hashem should help her give this yacht to the shema but i think sometimes sometimes she what she can do is to be there for her child she shouldn't uh try to fight all of those and eventually hopefully miss hashem the child realizes the mother's a mother and comes back and like i mentioned uh two weeks ago that uh tadan for those people that are uh looks like they're fighting her but maybe in one damn it's hashem you could say it feel it for them hashem should help them your child and yourself hashem anyways for closing tonight hashem we've spoken about some very deep topics the connection of ourselves to hashem and uh sometimes it could be a bad struggle for for those who have our routine already up and we're doing it day in and day out already and for us starving and learning what we need to do is be able to stop and in other words in a way start again it doesn't mean you shouldn't do what you're doing you should continue doing what you're doing but when you go davin you should stop and say where am i going now learning why am i learning and like wherever i said the hakana and the swarm we need to learn where we can uh connect find the information and hopefully midshine with that we can connect hashem somebody just uh i just want to mention like i asked somebody what he's doing for him he said it was a baker he said he's too old for that the kids are busy these last ones so we don't realize what's going on everything is turned over we have to stop and say what are we doing we have the mitsubishi and how do i do it learn about it and start again if social pink is mentioned when we learn homich we shouldn't learn it like the way we learned it um when we're in first grade it's good what we picked up then beautiful but now you're sitting down you're older whatever age you are with with the swarm so thank you very much and we hope to have you mitchum again because this is only the beginning same time same place thank you very much