Rabbi Moshe Meir Weiss - Ask The Rabbi Q&A Session

[Music] good evening rabbi Weiss good evening yes we want to thank you Seto for joining us here this evening it's a pleasure to have you my pleasure first question dear rabbi Weiss today the agate is making available to the general public purchase of seats for the CMI shah's this January 1st in MetLife Stadium buying seats for myself my wife and children and marrieds adds up to a pretty penny should I spend all that money for a hyped up event to possibly freeze in an outdoor stadium in the winter well it's it is expensive so our concerts this once in seven and a half year event is worth every penny and I'm not talking about $36 seats I'm not talking about $54 seats you've been worth $100 seats you see the commode tells us Pike CAHSEE my Ahmedabad go and see what people are talking about there is a power in the fact that 90,000 people of course it's much more than 90,000 people this probably almost for sure going to be a second arena and it's going to be also telecast but 90,000 people coming together makes an indelible impression that so many people recognize that this is an accomplishment with celebrating if only to come and join an our main to you hey slumber album in shamaya vishaya my toy them Elena because they'll dive inspired the Shyam toy a Malay Novi I'll call you strong I mean ninety thousand people answer me to that the giant am Elena ninety thousand people answer I mean that we should have a good life that's not a bad investment for a hundred dollars to say SH my astrology Emily Kano in such a auditorium of Kadesh and Shur Maggie but of course that's not the only reason to go the inspiration of seeing people from all walks of life finishing shafts and the strong feeling that I can do it too has propelled many people with incredible emotion to start learning shots and to finishing don't kid yourself it's worth paying that kind of money just to stand up for all the good item that walk under days you know it says that one of the Ameren was tired and he wasn't able to learn so he said let me sit by the door and when the rabbi's passed I'll stand up for them and get reward queer isn't it we're not supposed to do things for reward so I'm a forum tell us that this reward is different they say were talking about doctor today's all came via race America the vast up first sages sucking as a conic achma for standing up for old sages that both zotkin and savor the reward is race America theorem I am oh that kind of reward we can aspire to so this is a event that if you have the ability you should never miss their emotion now it's fashionable to talk about a few me but realistically I don't think I'm cut out to learn your vomits increases I'm more of an a god a ton of a man it's true y'all see has a point there in Europe there was the ioan iacob shul there was the till him saw her sure there were many people that felt that way you know I'm just I'm not cut out for this this was remain Shapiro and the chart cover Evans greatest novelty that every year can learn Joss I believe they got it from the fact that the Gemara need to teaches us Tanana mamas womb a child has learned color theory color for what for what just to forget it Miami mu Kim AIT's a believe ish ish Savona Atlanta it's an order for us to know that the same Calcagno bc osaka each and every one of us could do it it's what the some say physics out of colorado school see you're gonna lane who said in our god no we say tissue me I dare who knows 1909 tisha RK laid the nine months of gestation some services one is a Shem to is dilucca spheres de mamas for is the fastest fibers of Amish six is the Mishnah seven is the sharpest 8 is the Mila and nine is nine months of nausea of oddness of breath that's nine says if some sorry for it's the nine months that we have are given the potential to learn culinary kula no one should say that I'm only a broker Senate honest man no one should say I can't learn your bum ass that's what romayor Pierrot was teaching us I'd love to finish our emotion but I'm not good at long term commitments seven and a half years every night even on weekends and vacations sounds a bit much and yes he knows what he's talking he is a man that was on the radio all the years and never missed one program you know but he's talking about other people many people think seven a half years is very daunting it is Rippon said a remarkable thing reforms a subsided Caracas Michigan Alain who said that if a person decides at this gathering that he wants to join the ranks of the flamie there will devolve upon him such a sea otter dish mayor that he'll be able to do it and I want to I want to share with you an elaboration of this many of us responsible people will make a calculation can I do it no way maybe that's a promise maybe shop is once it comes to Aaron it's true you're right many if they used simple calculation they can't do it but they are missing thought of the ingredients of the correct computation they're missing the sea otter - mayor comedians you don't know how to add that to the calculation but once you add that to the calculation then you can do it and I will tell you I have in my shear two people that are finishing shots now the second time that never went to yeshiva they never went to Heder they never went to high school they certainly never went to be Spanish they could do it anybody D rabbi Weiss I ask people who have been learning to join me for a while and they tell me that when they come to the same table seven and a half years later it's like the first time they're learning it if there's so little retention is it worth the effort mmm interesting question you know it's true what your see says there's times even I'm doing it now many more times than two times and there are certain dauphin that I come to and I say you know I don't remember it so well so you'll say so isn't it better to sit down and learn slowly and Gaza and okay so a my cottage baroque of mine audacity doesn't count that fit shim-sham Pinkus set-aside girdle he said that for every dot that we attempt to learn we will gain entry into the achieve a show my love for that death but if we don't at least attempt it then we won't be allowed to learn that daffodil Shira show my own very important point we want to be able to at least enjoy it the nature dear rabbi Weiss I'm torn between daf yummy and dear shoe Mishnah Brugha what do you recommend hmm that's a real tough question what makes it even tougher is the fact that the Gomera tells us or Europe Hashem show re Mahmoud see on and below huh Joyce and Michael Shaara Israel Hashem Lake loves the gateways of halakha more than all the gateways of Israel so one would say if you have a chance to learn Michigan Brewer how could you forsake it to learn I'm a sector like Tamura which is in a Vera that's technical amazing the whole Missouri is not very it's not together wise it's not pertinent to today however we should not be smarter than Premiership hero then of its Khayyam then Roth I'm Isaac De Jong ski and all the good Island who decided that it's the discipline of Daphne being that where the Amma Talmud that we should spend our time on in a global united way of course a person has to be mother said and of course a person should try to find time at least to learn kids ischl Vanara to know what to do ain't booyah a kite and of course a person should find time to learn mother all these things are important but Claudia stroke its Godiva you throw the gear ever and throughout the ages it met with the approval of all the good eylem that this is what everybody should join together to do and therefore I would say that via me dear rabbi Weiss okay you talked me into it I feel guilty but every time I use an art scroll Gemara I feel like I'm cheating is my feeling justified boy yes he is easy I would hope I could convince everybody as easy as yes Allah we're saving him a seat by this year what could I tell you I use an arts grow and before arts grow I used the Sun Xena I finished shots with the Sun Xena now I finish us quite a few times so if it's cheating then I'm guilty of it too and you'll be a cheater that finishes shots many times that kind of cheating is permitted I want to tell you a story I made it a point when I went to a good at conventions I'm in a good ear of now for 36 years billion arith when I went to a good a convention I would always bring up an English Gomorrah to the dais and learn he used to be a sin sino and then it was a let's go sometimes it was even a let's go commish one time Roberto spoke heart attack the raucous goes to yoga milena yeah good came over to me and said rabbi Weiss I have to give you a big Yashica you bring up that camera gives physic to all of us that it's okay to do so as well so use if you need to use an English camara and you should be zakat to finish us here every wise when I use an arts girl and my forfeiting a male is pitaya hmm and the middle Spiteri is sure a big thing it Raschi says in this case I tell a soul yeah chase it make yourself at home in case a Toledo shed t you I'm a limb by Taylor and then we get all the brackets so we don't want a forfeit I'm a list but I grant people say our years a night scarlet spoon-fed as a matter of fact people say that about going to a share you go to you hear everything what I mail is better is that the first of all if you use an arts crow correctly and some amudha not documents oh no that's one side these six pages full of footnotes believe me if you use an arts girl correctly there's plenty of Emmaus secondly in today's world of distractions in today's world of emails and instant messaging and Twitter's and instagrams in today's world of - family incomes and crushing economy just keeping your eyes open in the shear is a maelys so you don't have to worry about a melis here at my wife's on a personal note last year you did this QA as a grieving almond we all want to wish you a Mazel Tov on your remarriage this year is there truth in the expectation that many second marriages are simply marriages of convenience boy what a way to switch his topic first he butters me up with a Mazel Tov and then he zaps me well marriages of convenience you Myra says civic shame me with amassing a person second civic is according to their behavior we hope that our behavior should merit more than a marriage of convenience let me tell you where that phrase marriage of convenience comes from hopefully a second marriage is not negated too late in life and then already the Tyva is weakened and people say okay so why do you get married you need somebody to support you needed there's somebody to cook feel to you need somebody to do the watch for you so that's a marriage of convenience but that should not be the reason why people get married you got a cleaning lady you still go under the couple with a second marriage and you're making a pledge that from now on I'm making you the most important person in the world that's not just convenience so now a second marriage should not be just a marriage of convenience it should still have the Gil arena deeds of a cat vibe of a flourish on the rails we still say that you know even by second marriage in miss baka magazine I saw a husband that remarried the second time referred to his second Civic as his second first wife and that is the right way to look at it they're ever wise it happens often that many who are widowed or divorced get comfortable with their single lifestyle and they don't want to risk a second marriage or they don't want at this stage to change for another person or they simply don't have the strength to date the complex selection that's available my question is is it acceptable or Petera to resign oneself to remain single Jessie knows from what he speaks there are people that are burnt out sometimes they were in a bad marriage and they're just happy to be left alone there are people that at their age they don't feel that they could mold themselves to another person they're so set in their ways there are people that look at the cast of characters that are available and each one has their own idiosyncrasies of a lifetime and they just don't have the color I heard from the Schlemmer maboob of the following advice it only says in tonight one time late teeth Yardley chemical I shall also he made time I know everything that he did it was very good only one time it says light a light tell you how I saw Adam Lovato it's not good for man to be alone it's not good a sham says it's not good how not good could be even the children say what do you want to get married again honor mommy's memory honored Tottie's memory so therefore we have none other than Avraham Avinu who is married to the perfect Civic sorry Manor well it says she lived a hundred and twenty seven years cooling shoving Latoya she was perfect and who did I marry afterwards the woman talked about honoring his wife's memory the woman that his wife kicked at a house tobacco to that saga and who brought him our each other yeah it's got Bob me bear like I write it's cut himself poor his father the easy way is not always the right way we have to be right at Sand Island Hashem made it that in an old age couples should be there for each other no one should go into old age alone so I want this to be a clarion call that nobody should say I'm happy with the way I am now I like to live near my children and I want to change I don't I'm not interested in having to take care of somebody else at this point now if I want the air conditioned I put it on if I don't they don't put it on and when it flashes these flashes of uneaten milk eggs eggs I don't want to eat I don't eat late ice it's not good there are my wife's from your personal experience do you have any dating advice for people looking to marry for the second time first of all davon as I see spout colossal a summit say for this every pious person should pray towards the time of finding inside matzah ishimatsu type davon also realize that sometimes you might date somebody who is scared it's possible they might be scared of the commitment because the first time around it didn't work out too good oh they might be scared because they had it so good and they're afraid that they won't match it it's not an easy thing also know what is very important money is not what's very important money is helpful but there are other things that are much more important health loyalty stability say hi oh sure being able to think straight those are all things that one should look Network talked to a lot of people define the parameters of what is important for you don't be afraid if you have the ability to take responsibilities maybe the right necessitates you to take care of some children maybe your job of taking care of children are not finished yet and that's what I Shem wants from you there are a by Weiss we're in deep trouble often in second marriages one has to deal with new blended families any tips for dealing with blended families now blended families so baka Shem my wife and I now have a big blended family and when we got engaged we went to the square and the sphere a bolita told us that you should treat your new children even better than your own children that's good advice that's good advice also good advice is to be patient don't expect them to love you right away expect them to be weary expect them sometimes not to like that their mother or their father is now taken by someone else don't expect Rome to be built in the day and also don't forget don't expect that the two groups of children should all of a sudden be one happy family because sometimes that just doesn't happen just doesn't happen you know our own children are biologically genetically connected these children aren't it needs a lot of patience a lot of patience and it'll get better and better if we're patient at it but it won't happen overnight jeribai Weiss I've always had an interest in Jewish mysticism is there anything wrong with immersing myself in Kabbalah that explains all those gusy songs Kabbalah he wants to learn okay so in cho Canara the rama says that one should not learn Kabbalah until his belly is full of shots and place key that's what the that's what the Ramos says on this the shock adds great shock adds that one shouldn't learn before he's forty because it says been our bomb Lavina and then he adds and one shouldn't learn unless he has the trade Yossi of kedusha Vitara holiness and purity and he says that those that try to do it without these requirements have had often their life snatched away at a young age you strong words if you look at the hi Adam hi Adam pretty much says the same requirements Justin Boykin kedusha Vitara so Yazzie just get cracking a chaw some point to skim and kedusha Vitara and then break out desire dear rabbi Weiss it's been 80 years since the Holocaust should I still refrain from buying German products and if so should I refrain from buying Italian products because the Romans were so cruel and vicious this is awful all those BMW and Mercedes lovers it's not so simple right the Bosch is a household item Bosch is also German anybody make scalloped as a Bosch and like else he said you know the Romans was so particularly viciously is to bury people in their head up to the sand and then swipe the floor with knives and the person never knew when the wife was coming knife was coming to his head so he shouldn't you know the Italians and sentence of the Romans although historians will tell you well they called you Kristen's the Crusades the they'll tell you that the Italians are not really the descendants of the Romans so here's my feeling on the manner according to those opinions that hold that the Germans are Amalek so then there might be a real reason not to have German stuff going said Germany was a Mallick before the Holocaust famous mice of Rob Yosef claims on in felt there are some crimes on Infeld when the Chancellor of Germany came to Israel he was the chief rabbi reveai sometimes on himself everybody went to make a broker and he didn't go he said I'm not going to make a brach on somebody that according to the grow I have to exterminate Rob Guzman as it says in the oscar biography of rev Guzman as a partisan killed a German with his own hands and said he was making the midsummer here's a mullet so according to those opinions it's really understandable why a German product should be reprehensible but even if you don't hold that way while there are Holocaust survivors still amongst us out of respect for them if they're around we shouldn't be using you German things in their face now people make a wrong equation they say what do you mean this German person takes reparation from the Germans one thing is absolutely enough to nothing to do with the other my father all of our Shalom violence we've been Ramayana LeBrock Oh aagama Lena took reparations from the Germans for many many years and after my father passed away the Germans still sent this cheque to my mother until she remarried in German marks not only that when my father was liberated by the Americans and in one day on the first day of schwas during the second sailor should transport the Nazis in Auschwitz gassed my father's father mother four brothers and one sister so that when he was liberated from the death march he was a double orphan with nothing the Nazis offered to Train orphans in the leather trade and my father took them up with it and went to Berlin I have pictures of my father in Berlin but that has nothing to do with it they took everything for my father so of course they should make reparations but for us to buy a BMW and a Holocaust survivors should see that say you're supporting the Germans I'll tell you a story my fare my first fare all of us all now but I share my having a second wonderful sweat my first fare all over Shalom rabbi memory Misha he lived with us the last two years of his life and one day I saw him looking at a clock a cheap clock on the wall he was looking and he was looking I said should i what are you looking at show that me with a shaking feet finger that it said main in Germany think I knew I took the clock off the wall and dumped it in the garbage so while there are Holocaust survivors around we shouldn't be buying German products you wanna a BMW so buy a very nice Lexus now the Bosch is a little bit of an exception because there really isn't an alternative if there was we shouldn't buy but I have a Bosch we all know really the mum couldn't say there's no real order so I don't think while there are Holocaust survivors around it it's a by the way this is not the only thing I don't speak about any possible lesson from the Holocaust in front of Holocaust survivors this whippersnapper is talking about the Holocaust he doesn't even imagine what it's like he won't survive for 10 minutes in there right am i talking about the Holocaust but not in front of all of course how could survivors around we have to behave with incredible sensitivity the Holocaust survivors this next question was received by email to the ear gun the rabbi Weiss there was much conversation about reducing the causes of wedding how does the rough feel about eliminating votes a totally unnecessary expense that's true totally unnecessary let me tell you how the vote expense probably started the Verte expense started because there's a Trillium expense people that make it tonight that's a serious business and it's a company by a suitor so we don't make it tonight him who we don't want to lose out festivity so we invented a vote of art is nothing but we don't have a 10 a.m. so we made our boat you know so the truth of the matter is is that a vote is a lose-lose preposition it's a lose-lose proposition what I mean evert with a little party planning not going out over the top you know it's $3,000 it's a lot of money for a family that's already has expenses over there so and on top of that it's at least 20 times a year missing another $20 issue or missing another 20 times with the children it's a lose-lose preposition okay but would that it should be so simple it's not borrow Hatari know la Haine de Mello feel I'm sure call me a boudoir there's a golden rule that we should try not to fight with the pneuma katana and this would be fertile area to fight we don't want votes what do you mean y'all want votes all our children adverts what are you a nutcase you want us not to have a vote for this child but if you're some kind of a zealot it's certainly not worth fighting with the pneuma katana mama it would only be if in your shul you could try to prevail that everybody agrees not to make a vote just a look I am no Birds it's it's too much expense should be innovate it's a double expense no the two nights even though the only helps for your sure if you have an interest or marriage then this is also you can now make up no vote and your daughter is gonna say wait I waited 229 and now I can't have a vote so it's not simple at all on paper it sounds very good well it's not worth fighting about with the melatonin it's not worth upsetting to Husson and Khalid it's a very delicate balance it's not worth it upsetting and we find that sort of simple eighths it would be McDuck honest but we find that the Turkish has been a Gazzara Shana to be your kilometer so the question is that it's a difficult problem to south but at least if you go with the attitude that I don't have to make the Tanakh east of art I don't have to have stuffed cabbage and sesame chicken I don't have to have ice sculptures in the potty planning and other words at least realize that this is not something that we should be spending a lot of money on dear rabbi Weiss the next question is from a Torah anytime listener why do so many shoals eliminate that feel afford serve our hagun ally Israel those are brave Jews out there risking their lives and fighting for all Jews okay this is a this is a tricky question you see we certainly should davon for the IDF for the Israeli Defense Force these children they're from has dear shiva's and even if they're not they hidden that are making millions of Jews safe and putting their life at risk in doing so so of course we should answer that no question in the battle in my shul a goodness of Staten Island I say that nimisha better for the trigana Israel I save myself in our bungalow County Sun circle I also say now I told my eylem that when I say I'm gonna meetcha barefoot it's far got only its route you could also have in mind at Selma members cuz that's also at Spa gun only is wrong that's also an army that protects Claudia sir and they're also driving at high speeds and they're also sometimes not getting sleep to done for them too also when I say the Mesha Bharath I add when we say for the hyolyn I also add Valkyrie yousra because why shouldn't we pray for the protection of Audion it's been a very very deadly summer for union why should we say now the reason why it's not said in many shoals is because it's an army that is not under torah law that's why it's not set in many jewels because it's an army that is not under Torah and therefore the worry is that by saying it it sounds like you're approving that's vahana Israel and that is it's somehow our on Claudia Silva even that's why in my show not in my bungalow currently because I'm not the official rub there but in my shul I sayin and I leave out the pursuit for that reason I say it without them something could happen for the safety of Jewish people I leave out the pursuit but if it hurts you that in your show they don't say it then you should have it in mind in every sim Sala man in every Shalom ruff that should be your answer I'm gonna have them in mind in every simcha one and in every shown rub that I say that they should be at peace there are by Weiss herr kolnas ma should i vaccinate my children or not if you don't let me know you know I've been reading that is a growing number of people in Europe that have stopped using cars because it's no good for the climate you can only use trains because the emissions are affecting the global global climate can you imagine if a group of zealots would come out that you shouldn't use cars how many people would follow these nutcases I don't know how we risk the lives of our children because a couple of layman and couple it's a strong muted a muta but they're mostly layman with loud voices some with charisma it's not a very strong block of physicians you're not hearing a group of pediatricians get together and say don't vaccinate your children are you talking about all the main physicians dr. Shanna clike the Adler all the main physicians that treat tens of thousands of children say you're better vaccinate your children Gruber the room of Gamaliel and some that we have heard prominently mentioned otherwise I've heard from reliable sources that there are some that have already changed their minds it's hard to back out of the real public statement I want to tell you something many of you have heard about that stewardess that died on a plane and now they're saying well she only had one of her two measles vaccinations people are not vaccinating and I have to tell you these people are crazy whenever I speak about vaccinations I get wake woken up by a woman in Eretz Yisroel who calls me up and calls me a murderer because I'm telling people that acts on this I'm expecting a phone call tonight they keep on throwing at your podcast and and reports and then I go up to the country and in dollar tree I hear some saying stay away from those kids they might not be vaccinated what a solution a collection we don't watch out they're not gonna let us on planes until we bring proof that we were vaccinated vaccinate your children and by the way don't take it for granted that your children are vaccinating their children cuz they they look up in the intricate internet yeah mercury vaccinations is one of Em's gift to mankind they shouldn't even have to be a discussion about this it's a double push it the majority of Piscean the majority group define sting clearly my cousin Russia by a majority of my skin and the overwhelming majority of of world class doctors say you must vaccinate and there's nothing I want to talk about in a lighter vein read my do you believe in so Gulas and if so which ones in you recommend see when the when when the country OC program was on i would say that's a schooler - laughs kayvyun - key is a good schooler I believe in the schoolís that I she that Hashem has given us in the oral law there are many cyclists the first school in shots Callum Ashland Passover my submission I am maker of effort targum my wreath in la llamada Joseph the first school in shots want to live long and have good days quality days be mother said it's not as easy as it sounds I felt behind them at this masse this year caught up first I did devour him and then I went back to my dismay but it's a potion of life person should make it you know we're talking about all the hype of Myra cetera beam they're all alive about that yeah me it's it's a big thing but it doesn't say if you learned up for your memory you know you're much nicer I mean it's a tiny the magazine money don't get me wrong you know grab gifter in his eloquent way his eloquent way gift reminded the eylem the Ramaiya shapiro homiletically said that the DAF Jamie Duff is abort and he says the DAF is a lifesaver when you're floating through the ocean of life the sometimes tumultuous and tempestuous waves of life you hold on to the dust and it gets you through life it's now you mean the magazine but there's no question it's that's the way Ramesh Sippy row in his flower we way there were stories of people learning that yummy and maddening the story of a year that went in and broken the Nazis had a shot and they broke in in the death camp he broke into the storage area and he stole a gamma ray Yuma from the Nazi shots because they da fury was only human and they learnt I believe it's 88 black of Yuma and they made us see him in a death camp and then they turned to him and he broke in again to get the next kumara they shot him through the head that's how you draw moisture nefesh for the deaf we don't have to break into Nazi closets to get our Broca's tumors but as much as the Duff is a lifesaver but it doesn't say I recently Amish noisome I have a cedra's my recently Amish nice of and don't wait and say okay I'll stop aberrations no again you don't have to be a rocket scientist to do this just say the parsha twice and then the uncle is once I don't know what it means okay doesn't make a difference say it even if you don't know what it means doesn't say you have to understand it you have to do it both quashing toy dish and uncle is intrinsic language and it counts even if you don't understand what you say but it's a potion of life I want a schooler that's also Yossi's uh you know he's looking for the mystical wanna schooler thank you yes why schoola be married to effort when you say smile you're selling Emily Kate I'll share my card it's good color my Irish but a lot Marika Lamoreaux schnikes it doesn't take that long to be master Oh God good you think I sham is one yes is over the seven heavens and one earth you want to go like Ramona Ramona says there's more than seven heavens and above the heavens is they found in the heights at kadish so have in mind is seven heavens and more and a one earth that's eight and dollar is a four row house the four directions then think that I Shem is unique and there's no uniqueness like his uniqueness and nothing exists besides him the anthem entire school I bet their world and then you think of you so salon - who says that were you when you're pointing a sham over the seven heavens and one earth in the four directions don't forget to point them over yourself though yes you want another schoolers you want another school of America ahmein says merit but I mean Mary Kamiyama wysz nice what do you mean mark balmy you ever wonder where we had salami Tabaka Tosh M shame at Fela why don't we answer em s why don't we say coming cuz M s is an intellectual statement I mean is more on me means I believe that's the heart so when we say Bogota shame shame and feeling we say army of course everybody in this room will say yeah I believe our Shem is listening to my Davin II but if you believe that Shem is listen if you happening then how could you davin without come on shows listening I know it but I I don't feel it it's ms but it's not I may have to be MERIS domain you know what my family's you know what the hi Odom says says when you answer or me you're not only answering I mean to shimmer at fili also answer coming to the Burkhardt ocean and then there's an our main that has a double meaning when you answer or me to binary Rochelle I am it's I believe but also may it happen soon you know what it says about our main color I know I mean personally Shari your name and they open up all the gates of Gunny now that's a school of that you could sink your teeth in you want another scooter give you one more school everybody wants coulis what a school call your parents more often Cabarrus of e-commerce Temecula man using a metal money table that's a nice school by the way it's brought down that if somebody says kiddush levana properly they won't die a Mesa machiner that month it's a nice school to go out and say it with qivana the schoolís to be taken on another school line I'm sorry I wasn't planning but it just since it's flowing out of me you want another schooler it says that when a person sweats person sweats the cover Chaves your bathing a baby in the hot bathroom I shouldn't considers it like tears you're working in our kitchen you're helping your wife schlepping a lot of groceries shall we chew Merced sweating is considered like tears that's a school so I guess I can throw away my Reuter Bendel yeah you would be in good company I'll tell you what Jesse Jesse wanted to throw something in on his own over here he's right the Bendel it's as good as the green bed now I'll tell you the truth about the right to bender the right to Bendel is a Red Alert red alert it reminds us that there exists such a thing as I inherent I mean how is very dangerous design horace mighty masada manila tomorrow tells us that rob went to a basic forest and says mom of Mencia the most of people died for my inner eye in horror is when we flaunt the extras that Hashem gives us and because other people's are soshim then says why did I give it to you I didn't give it to you the clothes are the people desire and then he takes it away the red bend Allah is to remind us that we shouldn't flaunt the extras that we have it's like Yosi tying a string around your finger the Rebbe Weiss is it permissible to sample grapes and nuts in a store before purchasing them you know what makes this so sad is that today we have cameras and the are sitting and looking at Jews come in but they come in with a whole family tailing behind them and the father tastes all the different olives and the children taste because he wants to know if the children like it then I'll buy more so each child takes it and then he comes in already with cattle so he has that with the olives and then the grapes and the blueberries in the strawberries you all have to go to a pizza shop they ready on a meal boy do we have to be careful it's true the game don't like us it's a known thing but they're looking for reasons not to like us they're sharpened we have to be careful to do the opposite we have to be a careful to frustrate them that's why I see a guy I say to him I hope you have a nice day it's hard for him not to like me and I hold the door open fit and if he has two items I let him go ahead of me and if he's pulling out in a parking space I let him pull out first it's hard not to like me but if I'm driving on the road and I don't shut off my brights and I'm honking in middle of the night and I'm double parking and blocking his car and I'm parking in a handicapped spot so I'm giving him ammunition now you shouldn't go into shop right and sample the stuff I must is a sign you could sample sometimes is the Sun that you could sample if there's no sign you can't do it and what's the give oh I'm not sure we try these then we compare I'll come back later maybe I had some salt in my mouth and what's what's the what's the give oh it's a big collection and then what are people do they open up a box of strawberries and they pick a few out of one and a few are the other and they make their own box can't do these things it says we used to makea Shama me Oslo why do we have to be Misa McCamish a moment I got him we have to teach our children this if they teach our children you say thank you you say you know I come in into a store and I'm served by a clerk if I go into that store a few times I asked the clerk what their name is this way I give them a respect I call them with by their name if it's a woman and your man maybe you don't want to do that okay I'll respect that but if it's a man or you're a woman it's a woman what's your name they like to be called by their name they like to be treated like a person and when you're talking to the clerk put down your cell phone and not even look at them they'd like to be treated like a human not like a giraffe in the zoo the rabbi Weiss how does one know if they are rejecting their by shirt there for example if one refuses to date someone who lives in a city they would not want to live in or has a profession they don't like or is a bit shorter or as a bit younger are they possibly throwing away their by Sheraton I believe this question also came in via email email question it's an indicative to hear the examples that are used if I reject this of because I don't want to live in that city that could be a valid reason to reject it as a young girl or young man who has what to offer and I want to live in a city near their parents near their siblings they want to live in a city that has a selection of yeshivas an exposure to thousands of torreón that's a valid reason it's not a valid reason if a person's donating already a long time but for somebody starting it's a valid reason that's not a reason that one will reject thereby shared it's not so easy to reject your Bashara Shem is not gonna make it that hard if you have a valid reason another example that was given was if you don't like the profession again not liking a profession can be a valid reason for example a girl wants that her husband should be home in the night so she doesn't want a profession that's based mostly in the night war she doesn't want a profession where her husband will be seeing women but she doesn't want or he doesn't want her to do something where she's gonna be working with men that way these are valid reasons well they don't want a profession that maybe leads itself to addiction or temptation these are boundaries and one's not gonna lose their by shelter for that but then the the questionnaire says if the person is too short a little a little short or a little young that already is it's not on the same level it's true that we make it harder the more the more reasons we make to reject the ship and we should make sure and talk to Murray Derek either mechanicus or Rebbe if our lists of absolutely not is realistic and finally Robert Weiss my wife would like to switch over to all of you sir all the children are all eating only call abuse role and she sees many four friends on mock pit I like Carvel and Hershey's is there a reason to switch forgot about the Kit Kat and you mr. Romm OSHA says that call of stamp today since there is governmental to trolls then ensure that no milk from non kosher animals is mixed in into the milk and the governmental inspection inspectors to inspect the farm say they don't even see it so therefore it creates an anon sade and it's like there is a musky AK and one could have closed down that's relation sack of course others argue in relation promote himself writes several times and share the Caliph of your day Zion and tests that about nefesh should be much Mir and he adds that when about meh fishes miles that mark me doesn't have to worry that it's considered you are up it's considered being about Geiger and he says that he himself is mama now one should add that this header was written in tough shinu dollars fifty nine years ago today let's face it you is good but there's a lot of good cover you so Chuck the milk stew and all kinds of drinks and while there's no Kit Kats there's pretty good imitations in Kobe's row and we don't have Hershey's but we have great swiss chocolates today unless you're traveling today it's not that much of a sacrifice to be about nefesh so to say that it's there's no reason not to switch over it's not true but but to look down at people that have how love Stan that's an available never look down at people that it comes that that's a big of a and that we have to teach our child and there are people I even look down at people that do do youdo you oh you how years ago they would college to have an organization with the sophistication and enterin knowledge of the oh you the understanding of the complexities of the industry and the thousands of ingredients as the oh you does thank God for the oh you what is it eighty minutes at 10:20 the first of all I'd like to I never take it for granted then I'm asked to join this August group from the greater good of the Israel speak on this platform of the Rav a bald dutch should be blessed for what they do it's important to support their works there was a dinner this week Wednesday night at the young Israel of the Avenue K that's Avenue K and East 29th at 7 p.m. there'll be a Q&A with replying to me F ski they'll be footage of me gunam from the caliber ever there's article of rocker they'll be an elegant buffet sponsored by classic caters it's for men only and they'll be speaking from night hi Segal bomb Moshe Wolfson whatever and I can remotely shown it's well worth to support again I thank yo Seto for traveling in from the mountains to be maja nose with his array of questions and to all of you men and all the ladies that I cannot see and all those that are watching this and listening to it for joining to this coaching Shania may we be safer with ghazan to start off join me and be zatia to say the K no c'mere so I say no the beer summer shifts it came to be Maryland shame here can she retired my sis bus tonight he'll be a Chicago by Weiss for answering all their shyness but some tombow das I'm sorry to country us he tell you for asking all the shyest it's at the time of the dice we like to my darling that as you heard from of advice about area she retires dinner this Wednesday one of the things discussed and I was about the article shots you have opportunity to win the complete Ostrow shafts with a fine special raffle one taken hundred dollars out here you can call the area sheer terror at seven one eight eight five one eight six five one or seven one eight eight five three three nine five our email tape Center at Shiva net.com to take part in this great opportunity so I saw Terra fore against rear turret robots it's hard to Robin throughout the world about the Year by Fiesta care to mister missus mental Weinstein for sponsoring tonight's shielded initially sovereign menachem mendel of servicemen alpha Mendel are showing Panama's common bandage they give us multi-users and modify have roamed labor infinitive savagely so Isaac wind Ovid you Daria been a fry my lemon Solon was like to reassure character mr. misters Grenadier for the support it's an Italian ich muss higher bail master of those on your side tonight and are to be assured to mister missus a cloak for the support it's a nice she leave the Nishizawa same relationship into sperm Deauville AV node samosa or so Miaka over so messy Jacob comer cannot even a camera second spoke Lazar cases Serafina Haven on time magician hermanos officer mugged altar be out there