Rabbi Mintz Live - 1/8/13 - Never Give Up! Pray and Pray Some More!

that's number one our glossy sheet she called her name now if you remember we had a similar name before by name of dun one of the boys the M servant of RL son the name was D Dina d means to judge and here we have a very interesting point at this point Leah was pregnant and Ra was pregnant imagine that she was pregnant but however they knew Leia was carrying a son and R was carrying a daughter and they knew it lay knew it anyway he said some of the bubbles today they say stand this way tell the boy it's a girl they tell you they thinks they know how to tell a boy and a girl I don't know if if people can tell or not I don't know but somehow they knew and Leia and B Zila said what's going to happen if Leia gives birth to this boy that means number 11 is being born and that means ra they knew they all Prophet prophetes they all the great Le and R they knew that there going to be 10 12 children to Y 12 children to 10 branches of the Jewish Nation Ru shim and if she has number 11 as a boy then R will be less than even the maid servants they had two each so Le I can't do this I can't be I can't do this I can't have this boy and Bill and Zila came there and said you can't let it happen even though Leia would be so happy to have another child another son we know from before she kept trying and working more children more children to build up the Jewish nation was the biggest Mitzvah to build up the Jewish Nation another son another son that was the biggest thing in her life but she couldn't bear to see her sister ra the big the one righteous outstanding special mat of the Jewish people she should have only one child and she has seven and they have two each can't be so guess what she made a judgment to herself what's going to happen she was judging what's going to happen if I have this boy what's going to happen to ra number three if this is a boy she'll be not even like one of the maid servants who had two boys each number four she prayed to God and this child turned into gave it to a girl how do you like that child turned to a girl now there's two things we have to understand over here first of all we are told those who studied the tal the firstate that a person number six a person who prays for something that happened already and says he pray didn't happen that's a it's a prayer in vain for instance the Mish this goes on person comes into the City and hears screaming and yelling if somebody's in pain and he says b if God please make it that that scream did not come from my house can't you can't pray on that it happened already you can't pray God's not going to change the history and make things not happen with they happened can't pray for something that happened already see scream that scream came from if it's from his house and from his house you can pray I hope things will go okay I hope things will turn out okay whatever but she can't pray for something that happened to say pray didn't happen if a doctor will tell a woman you're going to have a son and she's dying to have a daughter you can't go and pray God make it into a to a daughter it's a son it's a boy already you can't change the what's happening you can't change the actual reality what's real is real but great people great people can't pray for miracles Regular People Like Us were not great enough but we mentioned last week remember the great T who said his wife is of shabas lighting the shabas candles and she found out that not oil in the flask that she had the bottle was vinegar so she said to husband what am I going to do it's right before shabas we have no oil it's vinegar bite the vinegar God was said boil should oil should burn who say vinegar should burn what's the difference to God he can make anything happen that was so great to him was nothing God's in God's hands whatever he wants he can do he he didn't oh boy look at that vinegar is burning was know him was so that's a big deal oil is also as a miracle why why does the oil burn because God made the into the into the nature of the world the oil burns put a wick into oil and light it and burns why should it burn cuz God said so a real reason so he can do the same thing by vinegar you can say put the wicked light it that'll burn even though we cannot pray for things to change what the reality is could pray for that great people could pray for that but there's something over here very interesting exactly what happened over here it could make a big difference Rashi says and number four he turned around to be in the C that means that Leia had was carrying a boy and the boy turned to a girl Ro was carrying a girl turned her to a Boy by the way some of the great commentators tell us that's why we find that YF who was eventually was born to RL had Tendencies of a girl of a female used to play with his hair he used to like look look nice you find later on we talk about this a whole thing about that but he had certain tendency he originally was a girl turned into a boy and Dina had tendency to be like a boy like a male say later on she said will come to it pretty soon that she did certain things that usually girls women don't do but she did so it fits in very good what we're saying over here because they were turned around from one to the other the tag tells us a whole different thing that happened that we start off the same way that Leia was carrying a boy and Ro a girl but what God did the miracle that he took out the baby from roel and put him into Leia took out from Leia put him into didn't turn change from boy to girl they changed places right y y Dina Was Dina but they changed places one to the other now today we have a very big question the surrogate motherhood that we had today if you're familiar with that that people have an embryo for man and a wife who start off having a child but the mother doesn't want to carry that child for whatever reason maybe for convenience reasons maybe for health reasons so they have a ways of taking out the embryo from one woman and putting into another woman with the child develops and is born from the second woman and there's been big court cases who's considered the mother is the original father mother the embo started from is are they considered the parents or the woman who gave birth to the child that came out of her body the child is that consider her child a very big question today in the court system and it's a big question in Judaism who's the father who's the mother well the father would know who the father is but who's the mother is this what the mother that the mother from here it would seem according to this interpretation it seems that we see from here that the one who gives birth that's considered the mother because we took the boy that was being developed in Leia and put into ra who was eventually Y and Y is considered Torah says that his mother was RA so we see that he go according to the one who gives birth to the child of course according to the other interpretation that the boy turn into a girl turn to a boy then you have nothing to do with this weren't taken from one to the other where they were they Chang over from one to the other from boor to girl to boorn it's a very interesting uh idea that uh to see how the Torah looks on this surette motherhood that we're talking about so we say the next PK elim number seven God remembered Ro he listened to her her prayers two things he remembered her something he remembered about her which gave her a reason to be be able to come pregnant and give birth to a a son he listened to her to her prayers he opened up her womb and she gave birth to a son now what did he remember something was remembered over here so we're told what he remembered we must mentioned before if you if you remember that night of the wedding Ro le as we know L the father of Le made up the deal with yov serve me for seven years and I will give you my daughter R to be your wife came after the seven years and Lon the swindler secretly took Leah at the last minute and he put her in the place of R but Jakob anticipated he knew what kind of swindler and bad guy Lin is so he was afraid that maybe he's going to do such a wicked act so he told some secret information and said to her that when we come together the night of the wedding I'm going to ask you for this information nobody knows except you and me therefore you'll give me that information I'll know that's you that's not her so sounds like a great idea right L and can't went out over that can't trick him over that but what happened was that Ro saw that her father is bringing Lea instead of herself and she felt very bad for Le do she put to shame y was going to ask her what's the secret information what was it and Le won't know said oh you're Leia trying to trick me it would be very embarrassing for Leia so she got up and told Leia the secret information so now yov asked her she said this and this and this you must be Ro of course the question is why she did it yov but we discuss that once before so here ra imagine what she's doing over here ra the great ra who is destined to marry the great yov ainu and build up the Jewish nation and she's willing to give up what she has in order for her sister not to be embarrassed so God remembered that act that she did therefore she's worthy of having a child another thing that's number eight that I just said just now remember that she gave over the information secret information to her sister in order not to embarrass her we know one of the worst sins in the world is to embarrass somebody and here she wanted to take the embarrassment away she wasn't wasn't embarrassing she wasn't the embarrassment it would have happened by itself but for her sister to go through the embarrassment she couldn't bear to see that and therefore she gave her over the secret information and number two number two Bas number nine she was very agonizing agonizing of the fact that she should not end up by asov remember in the very beginning Le her eyes were puffed out eyes were she was crying and crying people were saying yob has two sons love and has two daughters the older one's for the older one the younger for the younger one so yob will marry BR he's younger son younger daughter and ASA will marry Leia and Leia was such a great s it's a righteous person wonderful great person I'm going to marry asov she's crying and crying and crying and because of her devout prayers and her determination that she's not going to let that happen to her therefore God made it that she should yob but now Ra was on the other side of now ra do have any children so it looks like she's not the one for Yakov maybe we made a mistake should go to as and Ro naturally was also going out of her mind she should end up by as so she also crying and and and and and very upset so naturally God sees people with the prayers the great actions the great Deeds that she did and he therefore gave her the great opportunity to have a son the first son that she had interesting point over here how many years ago did she do that that was seven years ago seven years since she gave over that secret information to Lea the night of the wedding seven years it took so long for God to give her a reward there something we have to remember all the time we can't expect immediate reward from God not immediate punishment has and I me a reward sometimes there's reasons why we have to wait and sometimes it takes years many more years than seven years for whatever reason sooner or later it's going to come rewards in this world the world to come but we can't get over anxious say well I did this I was such a good person I gave money to a poor man today so God come on give me everything good today I want to win the lottery and I want to cuz he gave a few much pennies a poor person person Instant people want instant reward but doesn't work that way God will give reward he's trustworthy he'll for sure give reward but we can't be too pushy about it can't be too expect it imediate reward takes time many times reward come right away some people told me about to give charity and the same day something happened they s right away got paid the back immediately never know but here we have a case where she did a great act a great deed seven years before and then finally God gave it her reward and number 10 and God listened to her the same way that's the name of our title tonight of our tonight God listened to her prayers she was praying all these years praying and praying and praying people are say how much can I pray already pray what called the name of it never give up pray and pray and keep praying you never know when that prayer is going to break through the heavens and God's going to look because every prayer doesn't go is not lost we should never think that the prayer is lost because every prayer has an effect in the world maybe a person's children his grandchildren every pray person prays does not get lost that's for sure person maybe in California is is is benefiting benefiting from our prayers or in Australia every prayer that prayer that person prays over the world all Jewish people are open to benefit from the prayers that everybody praise we ourselves can to benefit from it years later like I said the children grandchildren great grandchildren we never know the prayers we see from the T many places prayers that were said many years before were rewarded and listened to to God answering many years later so here you have two important ideas the acts the mites that we do the great acts that we do we shouldn't look for immediately Roar and the prayers that we pray we should not look for immediate answers takes time good prayers they build up another prayer another prayer we once as you mentioned before by mosu by Moses when he went up to Har to mount sin to pray for the Jewish people after they did the big sin and God wanted to destroy them he was so angry at the Jewish people m w to pray to him not to punish them it was there for 40 days and 40 nights he went three times 40 days one time the M second 40 days 40 he was there praying for 40 days and 40 nights so great rabbis tell us imagine that MOS been praying for 40 days 49 the prayers of M the greatest man in the world imagine what kind of prayers they were who knows we can't even imagine his prayers prayed for 10 days for 20 days for 30 days so some people say okay listen it's not working it's not going to work okay one more day 31 okay 32 33 34 let's say 39 that's enough so 39 days that's it God's not going to listen I see if you would stop the 39th day 40th Day okay God said we got to pray and pray and pray some more you never know when that opening God's going to open up the gates of prayer for a prayers to go in we listen to this a great lesson we learned from Ro and many others seven years that she didn't give up and she was well worth it because she finally got of course we always meant and God wants the sikim to pray that's why he makes it difficult for them for the great sikim Sor didn't have a child mentioned so many times Rifka didn't have a child ra didn't have a child they all had to pray and pray because when they pray the whole world gains from their prayers God wants them to pray for the pray for the whole world so now she said finally which we have in number 12 God put away my Shame by having the son Y what was the shame that she had of course she was didn't have any children she didn't feel too good about that she also was ashamed because she's praying and praying God doesn't listen to her prayers maybe she's not so great prays and she has so many children I pray don't to children so it looks like she must be much greater than me so it's very shameful for her she's very upset that God didn't listen to her prayers and then we have a third reason why we say she got to go this is something that's very interesting and needs an explanation that Rashi tells us that first doesn't have a child everything that happens if it goes wrong she gets to blame something broke but you must have broke it nobody else was around something spilled on the floor must be you nobody else is around once you have a child oh who broke the child broke it maybe mother broke it but nobody knows said something spilled on the floor oh child did it so God took away his shame all the things that happen in the house that blamed the her till now now let's say blame that little child so the so go God took away my my shame so the question is is this so important we're talking about such great things having a child Ro having a child one of the 12 branches of the Jewish Nation y from the greatest of the all 12 children that yov had and she has so happy about it so thankful for it and she's worried about who's going to blame her for the broken glass is that that's what she's thinking about I mean is that something that seems to be so insignificant she had a child and she was so happy about it and she she doesn't have to be worried anymore so much why does her make a point out of it and the great comments tell us a very important fundamental idea in Judaism from this that people tend to appreciate big things but they don't appreciate Small Things big things oh somebody a child that's fantastic they get a lot of get a new job it's fantastic go to the doctor and he gives him a a good bill of health that's fantastic it's wonderful but small things people Overlook it's a nice day outside today the sun's shining do we think oh it's such a beautiful day today we think about that a child came home with a good Mark on the test today people don't connected with God's goodness R over here every little detail of her life was recognized that God's giving it to me from the biggest thing to the smallest thing that's what the is telling us over here the biggest thing that God made me have a child I couldn't have a all these years wonderful I'm not embarrassed anymore of going about everybody's children children not an easy thing for to walk around like that prayers are not being answered now they're been answered yes for the big things they have to appreciate but for the small things too now I have a child I won't get the blame for spilling the the milk I have to appreciate that also not just the big things especi the small things in life that's what R was doing over here the biggest to the smallest so she called him y for two reasons y means God put away my bars embarrassment and Y God should add on another son for me one more son had to be born there's 11 there had to be 12th one she had only one the other two had two R had six so pray to God I should be the one to have the and the Merit and the great honor and privilege to have the 12 at least two of the 12 that's the name of ysf that she gave y means to add on she prayed to God please I should be the one to have the 12 sons be should be two two and two and six at Le should be equal with the other two M servants so this is more or less what we wanted to discuss today and we open up any would like to say any ask any questions or any comments we'll be very happy to hear um why did uh R die in child birth for uh Benyamin we didn't get there yet we didn't get there yet we we didn't get to we we'll get to that we'll get to that we we give away people won't come next week as give Secrets Rabbi uh so why specifically 12 what is the true significance of 12 um cuz you said that all of the the wives knew that that was the number that needed to be accompl 12 everyone of theim had a Mida had a certain Talent outstanding point about them something special to make the Jewish people's B Perfection there's 12 different 12 different uh ingredients that are necessary to make the Jewish people complete and we come to the BR the blessings when yob gave the 12 children later on M before he died gave the 12 children the blessings we see from each one of those things that each one had a unique something about them that the other one didn't possess and those 12 unique uh characteristics somebody said that's a good word over here that they were important to make up Theus and the completion and the Perfection of the Jewish Nation each one of those who had something special because we talk about y next time May up to come but this special about but today all Jews are really from did you say one of the tribes Yuda I don't well most Jews today come from Yehuda and bamin wasn't born yet bam over here he's been by now born but um because those uh the 10 branches the 12 were led into Exile before the two before near inim and that was saved for many years from the destruction of the uh Kings attacking the Jewish people so the 10im the 10 branches they call them tribes branches were exiled before the other two the other two Yehuda and Bam those 10 that were exiled we don't know what happened to them exactly taken away someplace all kinds of stories about it I'm sure you know about but um the main ones that left were yud B that they were EX child years later but then we have we all come from them but there was other from all 10 there were some of them that were left and for sure today we have people from all the different ones they they didn't have many but all shim Le have that's what we have today but all those other ones that also had represented representation that left over in that we not thrown into Exile that mixed with UD so all those tribe is still around today but mostly they outnumbered by H they are at six kids right six boys right and ra had two so for one but she ends up with two right eventually why she had two and the other one had six mean one than or what's the reason well the uh thing that we have to realize that sometimes there's and there's there's a there's something that has to do with a multitude a lot of things and uh things have to do with with quality it's quantity and quality and the quality of Ro of y and D is very matchable to the six children of Leia and uh we say that sometimes quality wins over quantity so uh in this particular case the two that she had was so special so outstanding that even though every shav has something some quality to them that other ones don't have but y we're going to find out as we going to study later on what he accomplished more than all the other ones in in in the and and the family that time so this quality of ysf what he accomplished was very more outstanding to all them put together so that was something that that R had two questions yes in last week parad they said each Jewish woman they used to have six children in once how come uh our mothers had only one each time you mean no then then they used to then they six how come they each one day they was they had babies they used to have six in in once right so how come and how come like ra and Le they had only one each time mean yeah no that was a special uh special bro that was because in Egypt the MIT that was the time that God wanted to build up the Jewish Nation they were about to go out and accept the Torah in Mount Si now sin so they were not ready yet for the Torah yet for whatever reason but Torah is not ready to be given for almost for another five generations after another five generations the Jews weren't ready for it yet when they were being prepared to become a nation of many people to go out accept to so therefore God made things very fruitful to Jewish Mothers that gave birth to so many at one time that uh because he wanted make enough Jewish people to accept the Tor he wanted to make him to a nation and then they're going to the land of Israel afterwards and they have to settle there you have only 12 children in Israel you can't have 12 to settle the land you got to have many many peoples that's why he made this very quick uh that they had many children at one time in order to build up Jewish Nation to accept the Torah and to go and and and settle the Jewish or Holy Land of Israel yes when Le and Rael was pregnant you said Le had DIN and Rael had Y and and switch they D and they switch them yeah so why didn't pray to live it as it is and to have more shim instead is that's exactly everything has its its uh its amount which is correct which is which is necessary and 12 is the amount of the branches of Jewish people to make the to make the Perfection of Jewish Nation 13 is not necessary 12 is just like everybody in this room nobody's here for was born accidentally as far as God concerned everybody has a place in this world and every Jewish people since the world was created every person in the world was created there's a person there's reason for it's not half hazly that there happens to be how many millions of millions of people that were born since the creation of the world everything was a why some people are tall some people are short some people fat some people skinny whatever there's a everything is done with God is but 12 is considered the of the Jewish three aot that had to be before a vote the three a vote because they included the 12 afterwards and everybody came up from those 12 that's that's that's Perfection I think we have if 12 is perfection then how come the boys Bar Mitzvah is at 13 and the girls Mitzvah is at 12 no no 12 branches of judism is perfection not the number 12 12 12 those 12 sons that per Perfection that we need the 12 different types of people and branches to make the Jewish people complete that's what I mean but not the well yehud was the shav of Kings to come out of so they needed Yehuda Ley had have the priest to come out of each one had their own thing that they that they were excelled in and together it makes a complete nation of of the Jewish people that happens to be the uh this 12 of course it goes into much deeper things than that if you want to get more deep into you you're a deep type of person and you like the Deep things but God's names yud God's main name y v is name that we're not allowed to pronounce out of the Holy Temple has 12 ways of putting together 12 different so 12 is last there's 12 breads put on the in the uh in the Holy Temple the 12 breads are put on top of the table there 12 is a lot of significant things about it but it boils down to the 12 different Sheamus that God has from his main name that can be put together 12 different ways which has different kind of influence and and special blessing to the world but we can't go into these things it's a little too deep for us yes just I do for you uh Raba you had uh mentioned the connection between the birth of ysf and Dena um I was wondering if uh you thought there's any connection between that and the fact that yoseph wound up marrying the daughter of Dina uh asnas um if there was some kind of a connection between that do you think or if maybe it was just a coincidence um and how well there's no coincidences by Jewish people obviously s a it's a good uh it's a very good idea that you're saying I'm sure there was a significant connection there yeah makes a lot of sense probably is I never thought about it but not mentioned it makes a lot of sense I would say so there was some kind of uh connection there between them definitely yes we told that when M his mother put him into the Nile River you know happened when he was born and uh she couldn't uh hide him any any longer so she put him into into a little cradle a little boat into the N River and the daughter of par came down to uh to wash and she saw this little cradle in the in the in the river so she stretched out her hand to take it it says that was very far away and uh she SP on her hand so we say a miracle happened and their arm stretch got become bigger and bigger and bigger wearn that yeah so the question is the miracle happened but how what was she thinking she she start way over there he say so far away what are you trying to stretch your God made a miracle his hand stretched all the way over there but what what was she thinking so we learned from there very big important lesson that we have to do everything we can do to do everything we can do God will help us afterwards but we can't I can't do it so I'm not going to try you got stretch your hand best you can and then God helps so he came right away see but the Bible when oh this way good when Rachel was praying and praying was she praying for a child or a son she was up for a son it had she was just praying for son she want at least the two sons no but she wasn't pregnant she didn't have any children she want at least two sons she love love to have good daughters also but at least two sons because those were going to complete the 12 of of the branches of the Jewish people you have 12 branches and two the sons made up to 12 branches so she want at least those two sons singles no online questions tonight there are but let people here get a chance first we decided that if they don't come here maybe you know no no no no because it's about uh Rachel I wanted to know what the age difference was between Joseph and Benjamin and how old she was when she died I don't know how old she was when she died they were married for uh a little over 13 years that's all about 15 years Rachel and Jakob that's the only time they lived together wasn't very long because after seven years after the first seven years he married her and Yos was born after those seven years and he stayed another six years after that by Lo and then they went there they were married for 13 14 15 years that's how old she was I don't know don't know what she was try look it up find it some place anybody know how howel was I don't know doesn't say and the Torah doesn't say maybe some place it says I'm just going to go back to the 12 again when I was in Israel in an old old synagogue I saw a zodiac mhm which is 12 what is a zodiac well 12 months of the year that's 12 another 12 yeah that's 12 months but why every month every month has its own uh flavor to it just like every shavit has own flavor to it and as a matter of fact every month responds to one of the 12 sons of yob oh and everyone corresponds to one of the names of God 12 names of they all correspond to one another all 12 and 12 and 12 they're all if you delve into it we see why each shet is corresponds each of the branch corresponds a certain month of the year they all they definitely have to do with one another you see that the uh month of has sometimes a leap year two months the one with the Le was divided into two Le andan divid into two parts so every month has its own significance corresponding right that's right that's right is the number 40 have any significant in the Jewish religion because a lot of things happen by fory well tells person is 40 years old that's when he gets his b and he gets his real understanding of things and the Jews in the midb for 40 years I mean a lot of 40s yeah that's why I'm asking what why 40 why not 39 40 is going I tell you 40 is 40 consider 40 days that a a baby is formed inside the mother whether it to be a boy or a girl so that has a big significance of of creation 40 is considered a time of creation that's very significant was we mentioned before about praying for a boy or a girl we told that after 40 days you can't pray anymore for boy but it's determined inside the mother boy and the girl and you don't pray after 40 days cuz 40 days considered the the 40 days of the mble of the flood was because of the uh illegitimate children that they had and the but Wicked people in time of the flood which the child is considered gets a form by 40 days so that really is the foundation the old 40s we have it it's considered a think is considered it's it's created by 40 the creation is by 40 so therefore a lot of things have to do with 40 because creation just like the baby inside is considered already a boy or a girl it's determined by for consider has his form already takes form by that time so that has to do with many other things with days with different things for you don't you don't pray for a boy or girl before days it's called unless you're if you're greatest them I be surprised if you do that you it's a number question it's a number question uh since every number has a symbol 1240 what is the most powerful or most significant number oh yeah there's no such thing because there's a lot of names of God there's the main ones that he has a name of 12 name of four and then 42 name 70 and uh 72 and they're all different this it's like one of my teachers told me I was young I was asking a certain question I said he asking me who's the bigger Angel Gabriel or mik who's a greater Angel who's greater they're all they have their own greatness every has their own greatness every number has its own greatness what's the greatest it's not it's not uh simply speaking the number four God's name that's God's main name that he has that's four and divides into 12 different ways of putting it together 12 ways of putting four letters together that's very significant put it that way but the most significant it's I wouldn't be the one to say that very difficult any other questions here so we have an online question that's um not related to the C what 40 days that's right he got the Torah then Torah got got a got a creation for 4 days God taught him the Torah that's has that we said before okay we have an online question unrelated to the class people nowadays are very occupied with different diets reading about them trying them out what is the Torah view on dieting that's important to a lot of us well uh we really spoke about this at Great length a few months ago we about the rambam and dieting has different aspects to it uh the way when we say people today it's very uh relevant most people today diet for one of two reasons for health reasons or cosmetic reasons and uh dieting for health reasons is naturally very important the Torah tells us very clearly we have to watch our health and uh we have to eat the foods that are healthy and not the foods that just taste good quot at that time the rambam just to bring it very very precisely the r is talking about people eating food and uh he's talking about there certain foods called Mo that they're beneficial healthy and calls Ave they're sweet and delicious but not beneficial the Rama goes on to say that somebody who eats foods that are not beneficial just because they're delicious but they're not healthy this to me and an animal this person animal is the same thing it explains because what does it mean by that because an animal doesn't have any DTS doesn't have any doesn't have any intellect an animal a man is created with intellect with understanding so it comes in front of the table you know you're not supposed to eat that food the doctor said don't eat it but is just can't hold yourself back so go and eat it so you're not using intellect you're using your body your physical desires is controlling you at that time intellect is someone out the window I don't I know I shouldn't be eating it but I can't help I want to eat it because it tastes good so ra says at that point you are being an animal because you're not using your not using your let your body take over that's what animals do their bodies have no intellect they only have bodies so as far as that's concerned it's a person has to be very careful not to indulge in foods that are not healthy if it's healthy and tastes good okay why not but if they're not uh the type of food that's healthy for a person the Torah is very much against it or for cosmetic reasons people want to lose weight and look nice and so on then it depends why want to look nice it could be different reasons why a person wants to look nice a woman wants to look nice to her husband to look nice she wants to feel good feel good about herself she wants to or man wants to feel good himself not overweight and feel they they'll live better that way and be happier that way if they're happier therefore they can serve hasm better that way so that's a good idea cosmetic reasons could also be a good idea for cosmetic reasons and of course U great people who were keep away from the uh desires of this world many of them kept away from good food only shabas they good food but during the week they would eat good food because they wanted to be more holy to themselves so there a lot of different uh aspects of of dieing but the one that most popular that we're going around today in the world is the one we said for health reasons and cosmetic reasons and if the right ideas the right thoughts it's a big Mitzvah to watch your health and if it makes you feel good to be cosmetically to look nice so it look fit and uh look the way you want to look and be good feel good about yourself in order to be happy and function the right way so that's a Mitzvah too based on that question what is The torah's View on cosmetic surgery well uh it's uh it's really something that we said before but um it's uh complicated because sometimes surgery could be dangerous certain risks or uh are are involved and to put the person for cosmetic reasons to go on surgery and the anesthesia which is considered not the healthiest thing most doctors don't like people to unnecessarily honest doctors don't want people in the C to go through anesthesia because can have a bad effect so it has to be weighed very carefully if it's a local anesthesia depends why a person wants the uh the uh cosmetic surgery if it's something that uh maybe that some people have something on their body that bothers them very much and that's very embarrassing to them and uh it makes them miserable so then it would be a good idea if there no risks involved and to to have it done if a person's healthy and they're doing okay they just want to make it a little nicer a little better that's uh already not really the T riew to go to that extent for surgery to make it a little bit nicer be something that a real reason for it to for a person to go through that and it has to be totally without any uh risks involved I don't know if that answer the person's question but that's I don't know want to continue do every wants to continue I can have one more it's not 9:30 have one more okay maybe something from the audience another question only other questions we have are long let's look anything that uh we can look forward to for next week or we should stop we have some good questions for next week we'll keep them on on T for next we so how about just leave for wedding so what said you have to leave for a wedding yeah I'm enjoying myself much just sent in something hold on so any other questions from the audience here we have over here okay I think this will have to wait till next week Michael by the way while I'm on my way over here we have a wonderful program here Thursday night for girls Chill Zone for Girls starts at 7 o'clock and we have Chill Zone for Moms while Chill Zone for girls goes on downstairs so we invite you to join us this week Mrs ver Greenfield will'll be running the class how about for the boys oh boys for the boys here El right for Dad rabbi we've been talking a lot about numbers significance of numbers what about names that we give uh to you know Jewish newborns anything that really any Halas about that anything we should really oh definitely most people uh before they give a name to a child they'll consult a rabbi to many times to see which name to give because there's many different aspects of giving a name a lot of things in a name and we've discussed it by the even every one name was given we discussed what the significance of the name was for that time and the significance for the future of that each one was a prophetess and they gave the name according to the future of their children what's going to be in the future so every name is is a is has a significance to it and uh we're told that uh the names that a parent gives to a child if they're worthy of it God puts into the mouth and a name which is befitting to the nature and the uh future of the significance of the child's future of what they they're able to accomplish so a name has lot to do with a person definitely I I I'm not so happy with today people making up their own names that though not names are from the previous generations just make up names today that's not really what we should all the all the generations names were given according to the generations from before AB mosha and all these names people said make all kinds of names today which they're not having the greatness and the support of previous generations of people who had that name before and uh that's not so good I I urge people who give the children one of these a lot of Israelis give names that are new they would like find what sounds nice I urge them to add on the name that's a Biblical name or a name of one of the great grandfathers grandmothers that they're great sadik they are very righteous people to give a name like that also to add on to the name of the M name they give today the name is very significant one more question um when so when you name in Judaism um is it that you're not allowed to name after living person or you they do that don't do they name after the grandp a lot it's a different kind of uh is there can stare it all one way or the other or go with the custom of your family that's what we that's important to go to the custom of the family that's very important by Jewish people also we have to follow the footsteps of our previous generations whatever they did everybody has their great people who uh started these Customs where they earn and uh they all have a basis to them everything from previous generations they all have a significance to them so we have to go their footsteps I I know look in my family um during the Holocaust you know there were some uh people in my family who died and it was future Generations didn't want to name after you know certain people that died I guess because of the way they died or something like that is there anything well we have a general rule that a person dies called a so a difficult disastrous type of death we don't name after them but people in the Holocaust since they were Martyrs and heroes they have a different different way therefore the since Mars we do name after them people that even though they might have died in the very horrific kind of death in the concentration camps but since they were Jewish Martyrs the that they therefore he do KS after them that's a big a big cover okay one more more question just by the way who wrote and when well the tells us every sa was written by different people part of it and the whole list of it the list over everything that was written by who so wrote some of them and some of them they're great authors who wrote them but the exact list you can look Go the whole list of who wrote what what yeah okay everybody thank you very much hope to see you next week again thank you very much every