Rabbi Lieff- Pre Shabbos Parshas Noach

this week bez hashem this coming shabbos will be historical i guess not only for our community not only for flatbush but will be historical throughout the world to be a nafas foreign uh i just want to make a few brief announcements before i introduce the rav and uh and give over the the podium to the to the shilohs to the well the issues that that are potentially potentially potential issues that might come up over the course of this coming shabbos and any other shop is that you might have guests who might not be as attuned to halakha but i just want to make mention to to you just the schedule just briefly a few remarks so first of all i i hope that everyone in the room besides you know we had a chance of a yantif to meet many people people are inviting people are understanding what needs to be done reaching out to a relative to a co-worker to a person on the block to somebody who they do business with that they can reach out to them and invite them the ralph will talk about that welcome to their home for shabbos maybe for shabbos meal etc um the whole shop is that they spend shabbos with you and to invite somebody so i really encourage each person not only for themselves and their families but also for their that they should spread the word to have a rem the people who you know are you inviting that's number one number two i just want to make make uh make a clarification everybody understands this there's you'll see in the periodicals specifically the fjj and other um other newspapers and also there'll be signs up as to what is really happening what is happening during the course of shabbos that you can tap into the fact that you're here at the good basement yemen this is a major hub we'll call it of activities over the course of shabbos that you're able to tap into and bring your guests to that they can enjoy not only your home and not only the ruchnius and the gosmius that you provide them at your home with your family but that you can tap into the many aspects and the many activities that are happening here whether it be the owner chavis that's happening here there's other there's other locations it's also by rabbi reismanshu and they go to madison there's something up in in uh marine park down by the time the torah and also by the young israel of midwood but uh over here there's there are five locations that activities are happening you can tap into specifically the onyx shabbos you can tap into the shabbos afternoon um shop's afternoon lecture series is shallow shooters and finally the mozart shabbos abdullah that i encourage each person here and i encourage the whole community if you get the message out to your have a room that people need to just go online you can go to keyroof.com the shabbos project and go and sign up and you can get a ticket for yourself you can take a few guests it's for free and you can um you'll be able to to join for the hydella program i ask everybody to please do it expeditiously because we the the tickets are the room is filling up and there's only a limited amount of seats available i will tell you that each shule each show in the community with 80 shules that are participating 80 90 shields maybe even more i don't even know at this point and each each jewel has can do their own venue however if you want to tap into certain schools that have a davening and have a you know have have have gotten people to come and dive and so like you huda green will be here for shabbos and uh salami dax will be dobbing here and by reisman you would agree with me dubbing shabbos day etc so look at the venues look at what's going on and decide where you want to tap into there's a printed printed out handbook that uh shiaya rajahanshaya is uh right in the middle is giving out some handbooks you can go online pick that out and print it out if you'd like to and the last and not least is that we encourage you to bring your guests to shule sit next to them doffing with them and the our introduction introductory mignon that will allow them to go and hear about about the beauty of shabbos the beauty of davening etc they can't sit throughout the whole thing that will take place in the different tequilas different schools that are taking place and specifically initial uh it will take place after the rough speech i encourage each person that's bringing a guest to the shul to please bring them in the morning for davening but be here by at least 10 15. that they you should encourage your guests to be here by 10 15 to uh to the russia that the ref will address them specifically and uh it should be very heartwarming without further ado i want to thank the ralph for all his involvement all his uh encouragement all his participation who has been a uh a real self-worth and and guide with regards to that torah with regards to all the hadropha that this project has taken upon and so i i really want to thank rabbi lee for all his for all his efforts and without further ado the motherdoctor of basement yemen a good basement governor rabbi the truth to be known we have a leviatha today in our kahila danny kriegsman an incredible whose levaya is going to be taking place shortly in yulet and at a certain point in time i was clearing back and forth what to do i spoke to his son my beloved friend sadia who's and i decided that the the greatest christopher for danny david would be to continue to give the sheer and lila nishmasai and i'll make my way after this year to the base bay sacheim to join them by the food i won't be there for the leviathan in miami beach florida there was a talmud who owned a bakery he was nifter this past summer his name was rabbi weiss he was a talented of the mirror yeshiva here in new york atama muvic of abba berman zadzal and also the talmud of the lubavitcher rebelzat cell and he had this bakery and aside from being a mechanic for many years in many schools throughout the country he used the bakery as a forum for kirov and one day he gets a phone call from the director of an educational system they're doing a unit on shabbat and he wants to bring a hundred children arab shabbat on friday morning to the bakery to experience a jewish bakery he welcomes the opportunity this clergyman arrives with a hundred kids coming off two school buses and he starts to explain to the kids we're doing this unit on shabbat and what did you get a feeling as to what shabbat is all about so rabbi wise provides for each child of color and he tells them take the khala in your hand lift it up and we're going to sing the special song on shabbat in honor of zachary shalom this guy thought that the brock of shalom aleichem had nothing to do with malachim coming to the home to see how a person makes shabbos this clergyman thought his entire life that sholam alaikum was shalom and that is singing peace to you bread so he said it in hebrew and he said it in english to you bread and a hundred children sang along with him i thought maybe thyself is that's how are taught a ludicrous message that when we sing shalom alaikam we're singing to the bread is that why that famous yid in the picture lower east side in a coal cellar in ludlow street sat there making shabbos by himself his family in europe a famous picture from the early 1900s that i've seen hundreds of times with a long black beard and gleaming eyes that's why he made kiddush in a subterranean coal seller that's why yidden and auschwitz campbell shabbis it's a tragedy ninety percent of hidden in the united states do not keep shabbos we're going to change that that's what this upcoming shabbos is all about so the hey michigan of flatbush minneapolis and muncie the five towns new jersey lakewood cleveland los angeles are going to invite and are going to host tens of thousands of years hundreds of thousands of years and throughout the world to keep shambus in its entirety and that's the sight of what we're doing we're keeping champis in its entirety we were fortunate to meet the chief rabbi of south africa and there for the most part the majority of jews are not shy materia mitzvahs but he insisted rabbi goldstein schlitter to make sure that it would be done cadastral keeping the entire shabbos but let me explain to you one more thing i'm not going to give a mimer about caduceus news for the jewish nation we keep shabbos we're in business as time said but there might be frustration and that will be zaika to bring many people to our homes for shabbos as i mentioned that the aguda ikara veda is yours all of the excitement and the hubbullah of mitsuhi shabbos have dollar with euda green and benny friedman and dax have fulfilled what's going to change their lives is the fact that you bring them into your inner sanctum in the corporate world it's unheard of of bringing co-workers into your inner sanctum the drawbridge is up the moat can't be crossed you want to have an office party it's in the office but you don't bring college kids into your home you don't bring people that are literally estranged from yiddish into your inner sanctum into your maki mamiglas into your malcolm of kedusha when you do that you don't just show them the beauty of shabbos you show them that they're your family you show them that you're going to expose them to your kinder to your helico kinder to your dairies most precious commodity that we have but your love for them is like the love of family and that challenge and those mirai's are going to change their lives and even if it doesn't change their lives and even if it's just one shabbos that champis is eternal of shankazawa said over that the brisker of zaza was posed with the following dilemma there was school in afula and eretz israel and it was very difficult to staff the school with rabbayam and moros it was a tremendous huge expense and they wanted to put their resources someplace else they weren't accomplishing anything the kids weren't even graduating going to mamakridati schools they went through the system in afulla and they remained shabbos so they wanted to get rashes to pull the plug on the school briskeroff told them 65 years ago you think lemonade is for this grand future plan you'll teach them to and to become godeli israel limit is here and now if yiddish are learning ladies and gentlemen i want to tell you those are the ezra's notion and those in the shul and those that are watching this and will watch this throughout the country this shabbos is going to be a success story the fact that yoda shakinda pain the clock of the survivors of the concentration camps and of ludlow street in the east side are going to keep shabbos in its entirety hardhat thousands will walk the streets and the idea is to bring them into the shul we're not creating a shabbaton we're not contacting a cute organization and saying host 5 000 people for shabbos there are 90 shules in flatbush that are going to have people that never kept shabbos in their shoes and as if you only said there are five hubs including a restaurant what's the name of the restaurant tea fusion that somebody is paying for the entire restaurant to have a suit of shabbos for 100 people that's wonderful and everything good it's going to be incredible charlie harrari they're giant but the bottom line is it's going to your shule and bringing them into your show and daviding with them and sitting with them at the table and having your children sit on their laps and whether they're older or younger men or women it's going to be an extraordinary experience we're going to show the revenue shallow what the seculars say is not true there is no gap nothing has to be bridged a year is his background is his lack thereof how estranged he is you don't know who's closed so this shop is regardless of what happens the following shabbos it's going to be an extraordinary shabbos where we're going to bring in flatbush alone and over 90 shulls thousand yen 2 000 yen and all over the country it'll be the same thing when i was a kid i went to perche where was pirkheim my day my mother in the rabbitsons in the mirror started appearing at the mirishi it was the only piracy in flatbush at the time we had healthy snacks like apples and oranges and when i went to borough park i found what pika really was about jawbreakers and bitter honey and chocolate bars we had a piracy leader for two years ichilon brown rabbi ichilombran the legendary thomas movement in baltimore he told us over the same story 50 different ways the zelda mesa and i see this is your mice in a forest and they come with tapaya i give a shipyard a lumberjack and they offer me schnapps and he makes a brother of barry minimizations and if i see them laugh potential says don't laugh schnapps comes from grain the snow storm ends and then we get back to measure that was the what was the story the story was that you had made a bronco the story was the year it was mom of the revenge of them this story is shabbos if hundreds of thousands of you are going to keep shabbos that's the story end of story a successful story and the fact that there are hundreds and hundreds of families in flatbush that are frustrated because they can't find somebody they've tried two and three and four times that's also part of the story so they're managing them sees that there are thousands of you don't that care about other hidden you know what the ladies are good at doing today going to be going to the malls they come up with this patent they told my rep it's more of baylor they go over to all the kiosks we have all these israeli kids who say to you buy 50 bucks of ava buy a hundred dollars above i'm gonna remake your face remake your phone remake your life and they're gonna remake their life they're gonna have it for shabbos these kids don't know what's hitting them if they knew about this they'd be running for the hills there's a ton of ladies going to malls today trying to invite these kids there's a cafe it's around the block they're going to go to the waitress in the cafe you got to try and try and try that's what you should all about ultimately rubioni will tell you the shabbat.com and their ways of con connecting now with other yin that are ready to be invited but that information wasn't disseminated yet because of the idea that we have to try we have to show to revenge to them that flatbush is trying that muncie is trying that lakewood is troy that bastion of torah muslim five thousand dummies there's a kid down the block or a college kid in the university with somebody in another township that can experience shabbos they're doing it in lakewood it's a map it's a revolution of shambhas of khashevas of shabbos like the shashiva governor baran shakhtar told me before we had one of the meetings with the rabbonum this was playing for months he said not just for those who are coming but for those who are inviting so realize that we already we have to continue and figure out ways to enhance it so we'll start with several questions that were asked and if there's time that zebra can ask questions as well what about the wine these people are khaleesha it's the first time they're keeping shabbos they're hidden some of their spouses might be going and murder of moshe concerning of russell today just know from the get-go we're not looking for humorous because you know what is it of the opinion that there's no such thing as the aim of said that hundreds of years ago was a mere chibamir there wasn't a lot of wine and most of it was not yamaha and also they explained that today the aim of bushel is totally different than other universal and the fact that then it was cooked in open vats so that the bouquet the flavor the sugar dissipated it was different and it was identifiable as lamborgh but today being that it's cooked in sealed pipes you can't really discern between the two sub sham zalman and with the opinion there is no dynamic i am a versatile today moderation that shall disagree and we follow emotion and he held that there is a concept of the aim of usher now ordinarily what i advise people is to be mahmoud like zalman concerning a guy pouring you wine don't rely on yamaha but my person is not yet chained shabbos you certainly can rely on emotion but in this situation i would advise if there's a spouse of the person you're inviting who's not jewish the immigration will suffice what happens if they bring you a bottle of wine and the bottle of wine is not maversal well this is what you do you tell them this is such exquisite wine i want to wait for yantev to use this or you hold on to the bottle of wine you pour it for them and say i'm putting it away for another special occasion obviously if it's not my bushel they can't touch it they can't be involved with it that's as far as the problem of one the best thing is to be prepared ahead of time they bring products before shoppers that have a questionable they want to use it you see my wife makes a delicious dessert i don't want to insult her or if you don't want to be chauvinistic my husband made a delicious dessert and i don't insult him you come up with a heisman as to how to put it away and you have to have the seiko shaking a woman's hands generally in secular society there's no problem extending a hand now there are different sheets on this no other place can amount to it what should you do this is what i suggest and i want to remind you hashem you all belong to wonderful schools all over the country especially here in flatbush i have tamir khamenes consult with europe i'm just giving you over what my experience was 19 years of minneapolis now the sixth year in flatbush based on the mood him that i had from the rebel ripped shlam azam and i spoke about these issues things i heard palpate from ravel yanchev tamir mover so again this is my approach there are many other approaches but i was asked to discuss this so i'm discussing this when it comes to shaking a lady's hand come pre-prepared my shivers outside he very often was in a compromised position he had a safer in his hand when the lady would stick at her hand so he like inadvertently like you know just shake the hand with the safer what you can do is do what i do and this story isn't shy there's such you'll see such tremendous shema you're not going to know where this brilliance comes from it doesn't come from me it doesn't come from you comes under a banished level in 2001 at the beginning of the first intifada so i was invited with mikey gila to go on a mission federation mission to eretz israel the uga was behind it as well i asked the goddalem of the miatas and they're set to go i went with all kinds of guidelines glad gosh i could tell you so many mices that happened 23 members of my kilo basis swell went and these fellas wear hats i told them don't take your hat off the entire trip even to take the shower make sure you're wearing a hat now it's other than in a hat it's to show that also can be part of a mission to support israel so whether it's a kippah sugar hat makes no difference but the idea was show who you are show your colors for three days we're with people from all over the country 500 people 95 came from the twin cities 23 everlasting for my gila we came to kibbutz magnificent touristy boots but because the interface was shut down so they plugged in the ferris wheel for us as we get off the bus my whole entourage we're walking up the steps to the kibbutz demand a helit of the keyboards like an 85 year old lady she comes down and her greeting was lolis don't dre don't poke your nose in anybody else's business just sit where you're supposed to sit it's a her i beautiful him so something triggered something in her mind so she stuck out her hand i didn't give her my hand ah you're from that so you're from that group so i said you know why i don't give a hand she said you're scared of me so i pulled out a very nice picture of my wife and i said this is my wife you think i'm scared of you like if i touch you i'm going to melt you know like the wicked witch of the west you know i'm going to melt with the water so i said that you know why i honor you and explain to the to the jewish people women are not just touchy feely huggy they're on a pedestal a wife a daughter a sister a mother but an average lady she's on a pedestal we don't have the hoods for the umbrage to even touch her now they think we don't touch them because they're diseased because the untouchables in india you can't explain it you know what happened after that she said oh is it first time i heard things like that and for the next three hours in the keyboard she was my puppy i'm telling you wherever we're going back on the buses i want to talk to you for a moment and she says do you know the reason why i was so angry at you because i grew up in maya sharim when i was 15 years old i bolted for a left-wing kibbutz when i see you my heart is broken i know i should be doing what you're doing now would that have been my normal reaction that you are we slept there six thousand miles minneapolis to turn on your keyboards and you're starting up with me i didn't even say anything maybe i'm amish i don't even know i'm jewish but the bottom line is i didn't say a word just took it all in and gave her a response i think it turned her around so you have to be a little for prepared if you're up says you could shake a hinge again if you want to follow me like we do do what we do you want to have a safe or whatever it is technology what do you do with a cell phone you take them to the side for a few moments they're coming to you for shabbos for the first time in the shabbos environment and explain to them shabbos is all about connecting with god soaring heavenward and disconnecting from the world and we're going to do it all together so we want you to experience shabbos and the entire concert so you basically explain to them in a nice way that you know what we disconnect the phone we disconnect the ipad we have nothing to do with technology we do it in your own way any way you want to do it but it's a wonderful opportunity to explain what we're all about but the family and you mean so much to us we don't want to be distracted speak to rabbini speak to rabia all these people have been doing this for dozens of years at the end of the day it's all about communication being prepared a bit ahead of time the shiloh was do you invite somebody just for a meal when you know they're going to be mahalo shabbos i'm not getting into that shyla i'm just telling you and this is what i would do the purpose is the entire shabbos that's the goal to keep shabbos in its entirety only a meal for another time we can discuss that so basically you make an invitation and when you offer the invitation you tell them we have a spacious place for you you can stumble the entire shabbos with us you'll attend the concert from the beginning to the end to see all acts of the play if right then and there they tell you we're only coming for a night then tell them maybe another time this is not the shot but if they hear what you're saying you're in good shape if thursday they call up and they say you know we really wanted to come for shabbos but we can't come for the whole shop it's coming friday that meal according to zalman do not have to rescind the invitation that's what he told me penalty and it doesn't work with shiny and peers by the way if you have kids that went off to derek will be wallace and they're doing an amazing thing with a lot of kids that entire shabbos for many many kids never that went through the yeshiva system or officer derek and they're going to come back for the shabbos they have a way of dealing with that and dealing with the entire shops but a shiny appearance some guy went off to derek you can't go ahead and say well come part you can't come party it's if someone doesn't know anything about anything and mama if you invite him for the entire shabbos and the fellow now wants to pull out for part of it enough to renege similarly if on shabbos the person leaves somebody leaves by inviting him for the entire championship everything has to be a sincere invitation don't bother inviting somebody who's not going to come for the entire shop that's not this shabbos and the mail all these things that will come up you'll have to use your secretary yoshi we can't prepare for every contingency but again umbrellas if it rains this and that avada you can't sanction shabbos maybe be malma maybe malama consult with your of what to do but at the end of the day realize this beautiful concept of thousands of hidden here in flatbush and hundreds of thousands all over the world are expecting up to half a million yen in australia and brazil and argentina all keeping this same chambers together keeping it together like they're saying is nippling the vote you want to enhance the shabbos you want to have smiros you want to have kishmaka sudo you want to have shmoozarai there's not going to be time even it'd be so busy between the darwining and the dish and the dancing and the shabbos and nick shabbos you come with your guests and we made a decision that for the mata shabbos event there's going to be a proper mojitsa it's going to be family style and the idea is you are hosting them that's why the suit is friday night at home and shabbos by day it could have been friday night this would have been a lot easier in sure but we wanted to give the ability of the family to host them so friday night because hashem you'll have to suit in your home then your suitor continues in shul sitting at the same table with the same people your family and your guests if it's one or five and you continue enjoying the earnings sharp essential so just realize what the mindset for all of this is we have to usher them in to shabbos but do it in an iphone that we're not going to khalilah disturb them so much that they're accepting upon themselves we have to make this transition easy what about coalition it's heard a story that a fellow in williamsburg was on a subway and a nice african-american lady she was listening to music quite loud and she was singing along so guys know from nothing goes kylie she calisha she said how did you know my name my name is kalisha that was the mice that had happened yo the niche face but that's the nice thing i said it happened so what do we do with carlesha you know we live in a door of the sound bite so i'm apprehensive in what i'm about to say because we like to sanitize history even good island well i could taste the mice to show you i'm not going to say the name from the daily oil one of the heads of the ada kharayas a dying a paisa cador and the rov of the most prominent children yurusha line a friend of mine learned by abdova and brisk many years ago 37 years ago and instantiated zero was downstairs from this god and they would always invite him up for sudas at this anak at his suda his daughters were the other end of the table and when they sang smee rice they sang smears too you couldn't hear them very loud and it was trey kolo but i don't want people to stop going to this man's cavers i'm not going to say the story i can say who it is but it's somebody that everybody was macabre as a place like adore so you see one side many others hold it doesn't work so what do you do simply sing out loud make sure everybody sings and very often if you're singing you're not getting anybody else to sing you so i feel the finished idea you can consult with your of that if there are ladies at the table that some are others singing with probably won't because they don't know those mirrors but somehow they get connected with something so you sing also this isn't the time for you to schmooze this is the time for you to sing out loud you will be singing out loud you won't hear anybody else i told over on shabbos an unbelievable story with an uncle of one and again consult with your paisak and uncle his name was hagoyin a godler of uria breida zazza he was the love of give a time he had seven shows and give a time that he was the love of not my great great uncle my uncle my mother is angelson's older sister in syria lashon was married to her yazadza right there in harassing next to my zeida my bubba my father all the uncles and aunts they're all there in harassing way up on top so i came to i was in tough shin lament hay i was a kid in koltar was 16 17 years old i said 16 17 you shouldn't guess exactly my age uncle bunny so what happens is is that i went to the different schools with him there was a hazard motions the famous razer motes in canada he was a vunderkhaz and a young man he was the khan so we go to show shop this morning he points out a college kid with a lot of hair he was in the 70s he says that's a student in the university he's from argentina i want you to sit next to him explain to me i said like you mean to barack sharma right no and after i walked on glory home to the suit i said glory the gun sazaka's laid down wasting your time uncle because this guy already is missionaries he starts telling me that the missionaries started talking to him my uncle who was in his seventies went right in the face but sorry shabbos he tells me we're going tomorrow to shalom you're going back to yeshiva and i'm going to take this kid with me to your shalom shanghai is the kid this is not the day of the limousine and the spatial he got on the bus to america's it with me you shall aim i went to kalturin by dragon the number 12 and he asked me the name of a balchu yeshiva he had no sheikhs to this he was a kavanaugh to this i remember this is varus of horowitz grace it's worthy having ghoul is now so he takes an asimone he puts it and he tells me to dial he didn't speak english person answers the phone i said the rav of give a time is here to enroll a student in dvara you should line he'll be there about half an hour he took a bus and he went to give a time he went to divine shalom end of story he enrolled the kidney shiva that day the kid that live in the cemetery mitzvahs this is the love of a given time in his seventies and he went with sugar and nobody said that's what the shabbos is all about it's not a huge deal just be yourself invite them to the champions table make them feel as if they're part of the family what about as i said a non-jewish spouse inviting a co-worker let's say a lady and she's married to shake it so good invite them let me tell you a big just say when it comes to garrus largest brightest red flag that there is someone who wants to convert because they want to marry a jew we reject them out of hand nobody with any shaykhs would ever ever ever convert someone who wants to it to get married that's not a real gift but once they're married five ten years and they're not worried about the schwing or somebody's going to push off the wedding because they're not jewish and they decide to get married what could be a bigger mitzvah than that now the lady or the man is not living in sin but barcelona married to a yidd this happened in minneapolis several there was a lady was not from married high school sweetheart from from from from connecticut ended up marrying this fellow she had four children sent them to torah academy they became close to us i was magaya him name is alicia mccoy today and they have four incredible kids one still learning in the cuddle in the mirror two of them live here in flatbush married to wonderful husbands another one he's an architrave he's a bentaira he's in the army he's an achna i don't care he's joined the terror admits he's the knock the guy learns shots the bottom line is that it all came from being macariff a lady was married to a guy i'm not saying go out and do this but if it turns out that there's a spouse bring the spouse for versus the greatest cure could be to turn these people around you're not going to proselytize but certainly if this and very often when it's happening i'll take my experience is that the fella that becomes jewish or the lady is much darker than the original one makes them from there there was a famous story going on university of minnesota there was a kid who went to school years and so the father says listen we don't keep shabbos in the snack but one thing don't marry a non-jewish girl whatever you do don't marry non-jewish girl fine as luck would have it he's sitting in college class next to chinese girl the next thing you know is marital a couple years later she starts getting involved in yiddishkeit and uh she's miguel and one day the son calls up the father and says you know the shabbat dinner we drive forth to minnetonka can't come anymore. he says why not we became shamashabas didn't i tell you not to marry didn't i tell you at the very same time so you just know at the end of the day sometimes this thing it works out again looking for it but if it happens it pops into your doorstep no reason not to do what you have to do so let's say we're talking about sneers the famous heterozygous that a married woman doesn't have to carry her hair it's not the head but there is that if you're in the presence of a lady who's married doesn't cover her hair you can make a bracha or kiddush and look the other way that's the head to the look inside that's his head somehow it morphed into you don't got to cover your hair and then we could tell them in different issues but as far as that was that same thing over here invite people to the house and they're not your stick or not covering their hair look the other way but don't like say chavez how are you you must usually lose my voice obviously nick will explain to you that's not what we do we don't do that that's a cure blunder what you want to do close your eyes with cavone it looks gently the other way so when it comes to everything that's niger these issues sneers let's say you have a couple couple that are not married jewish but they're living together what do you do what you do is you invite them and put them in separate houses that's all no big deal around space you can be my next door neighbor live together for five years so you think you're gonna like be the mach man you're gonna break up this thing maybe you'll be making them get married it looks like kitten i had such a mice in minneapolis this fellow i know i'm coming about shooting after shabbos very successful guy you know he went on a cruise with this lady i said whatever his name is let's say his name is uh song that's i'll do me a favor with a cruiser we had separate rooms i mean cruise with a lady get married already get married but soya i flew to minneapolis on the time in america because that's my chevy israel so much that you can do you have to show love and caring that's the kudz to give away the ship that's no big deal and what shabbos is and the beauty of shabbos and menu but there are many ways that we can do this and not encroach insult or turn them away so i'm ready to entertain any shadows that people would have but i think we covered most of these issues at the end of the day this is rebuy kuwaitchimai and what you think will turn someone off is going to bring them close to tasha adam meister many years ago was a couple that were from but i wanted them to become more connected to the terror cool yeshivish whatever you'd like to call it so i was living in cleveland at the time my wife was mara bayla and the children were in nursery school and i kept on inviting them inviting them inviting them for shabbos and soy shops they finally came so i broke open this cd i'm also demon something else certificate of deposit remember those cds so the kit sir and i got lox and sable and bagels and cream cheese and soy chambers gala malava malcolm they come in we're excited to see them good good people i wanted to have more of a seder in learning all of a sudden we watch and we sit down there's a knock at the door open the door i never seen this person before in my life i never saw him again the most slovenly looking mashola ever saw in my life six foot seven huge he had spit dribbling in his beard it was get fellow i walk in i'm convinced this guy is going to think this is like maharoosa he wants to borrow a safer it's a cuddle guy downstairs so i head off at the pass and i say to the guy you know to go he wants to sit he wants to eat here he washes his hands he sits down but against the noises the wife just doesn't know what to do she goes to the little bedroom that we had he takes a piece of smoked fish you know sable puts it in his mouth spits it out he says spoiled tissue on the floor on the table i'm like ready push it to to die i don't know what i'm supposed to do over here finally he says okay maybe i will take it to go i give him a check he walks out the door and i'm ready to bench it's over right this kvaldega initiative never took off the door closes and this unbelievable fellow who today is the makooten with the love in his town twice over his son is a rush kyle i'm a lakewood cuddle he says to me he was from the south he said you know i went to day school they taught us about kraftsgan what you did is exactly what the time would have done could you imagine that i thought corbin it's over it's destroyed try 50 years from now it's never going to happen again and i could have staged it better what you did not responding allowing the man in sitting with him and allowing him to take it to go and not responding that's what all of his time would have done everybody said we're going to do what the hovertime would have done we all know that mice the barrel wines i guess said this many years ago in florida and it showed his show it was a barking rod that went off to derek and have a time heard that the baja started smoking so took him into his room and spoke to him and nobody knows what he said and the bakr came out crying and kept shabbas became a talmud so a barrel wine said imagine if we knew what the time said and an elderly gets up from the back in florida in the sixties and he says i was that baker so what did the hovertime tell you he just said one word he took my hand in his hand and he said the word shabbos and he started crying and the tears scalded my hands and i could never be mchowell shabbos after that we may not be doing it this shabbos with tears but there'll be tears of joy we'll dance we'll sing we'll laugh we'll show them that yidden that are integrated into society can live loyal lives of torah and mitzvas and especially of shabbos ishmael's own health and that we should be saying to have a rebuild for chimayan keep on trying if you don't have a guest yet keep on trying invite them consult with rabioni rubyakov too outstanding we'll put the heart and soul into this beisham zone's health and that we should see on shabbos both here and throughout the world the banishment will have such nahas that we are concerned with all of his children he'll hasten the coming of mashiach said cain here