Rabbi Lazer Brody Speaking In Lakewood Parnassah Shalom Bayis

[Music] and beloved brothers and sisters is a gift I have for my beloved brothers and sisters in Lakewood you listen to what we talk about tonight you will have the master key to open up every door master key for shelice master key for educating the kids and it's a big challenge today if people ask my humble opinion what number one pro problem is in yishai today it's off the D kids and it's all over the world it's in Canada it's in the states it's in Israel nobody can escape it because there are so many challenges and so many ins snars and so many traps out in the street if we don't give our children exactly what they need at home then they look otherwise and that's bad news all right so with this master key I'm going give tonight it's a key to child education and a key to Shalom you got Shalom you got parosa you got great kids you can have good health you can have everything this key is based on what RAB teaches us in his famous book Torah 282 it's a teaching that we call a zra good points now if I would ask you what do you think the worst Yates orara is in this generation don't say it but everybody would probably think you know we all the time talk about SAS for women all the time talk about Shir for men and that's the number two yat Sara this yat Sara [Music] for gar is that's the number two yatar the number one yatar what a lot of people don't realize stop and thing it's self persecution you look in the mirror you say I'm not good enough the men they murder themselves the women they murder themselves they compare themselves with everybody else rather than looking themselves you know they comparing yourself with another person is it Easter D just learn to T yesterday what does it t mean when it says people says oh I shouldn't be jealous of the other guy bought a new Lexus and I'm driving around the little Honda Pacific okay so I shouldn't be jealous of his Lexus or I shouldn't be jealous his business should be jealous of anything because Hashem gave you your own gifts Hashem gave you your own special abilities how come Hashem doesn't have Rob robots hasem wanted robots Shem could build robots Hashem has Creations in the world that don't have free choice not every Creation in the world has the addition to show them with free choice but we have to use our free choice for the best in order to make our best choices we have to know a couple of important points every single person in this room is a hm's only child does everybody talk about BL hashem's only child very simple very very simple take the most compassionate parent in the world most compassionate parent in the world and suppose he has 20 children or she has 20 children and Ne God forbid they lose one of their children who would be so stupid is to come and do a and say to the parent be happy that you have another 19 kids doesn't care how many other kids it does not lessen the pain of that one child now just think it doesn't matter Hashem the most compassionate person does not have one tenth of 1% of one iota of hm's compassion for every single one of his Hashem loves you you don't believe that hasem loves you I know in Lakewood they don't believe that hasem loves you you know why walk down the street in Lakewood and I made a little statistic on the way here the few people that I met on the way one out of six was smiling and say sh smile guys smile smile back you know why you're not smiling because you don't believe that hasem loves you if you believe that hasem loved you you'd be smiling and dancing every single day now why don't you believe that sh loves you you say what with Hashem love about me I mean you know what's a big deal now I'm not the rear Cutler there's only one rean Cutler you're MOA K and your yaka Ley and your Sara Goldberg you're not supposed to be that the famous story of reisha reisha the brother no he says when I get up in sham they're not going to ask me if I was the no that's when they thought was zisha we all have our separate task on Earth we all have our separate talents on Earth we all have the ability to do something that no one else on Earth could do okay we don't know that we have to start finding out how do we find out we search for our good boys and let me tell you a little story you can read more about it in chapter 8 of the trail of Tranquility chapter 8 of trail of Tranquility talks about a bird a rare bird and this bird is called the flak foot Falcon and if you can imagine that a bird suffers from depression this bird suffers from depression Birds suffer the bird the bird has a very sad song a very sad song Why does the bird have a sad song every time the bird looks at its legs that's why it's called the flake foot he gets upset because this bird has a natural psoriasis the whole days of life of the bird his legs flake so why is the bird upset that he can't walk around a pond like a flamingo now hold it suppose the bird would come to me and I would counsel this bird I say bird you're persecuting yourself so what do you mean come on let's make a list let's make a list of your good points and let's make a list of the bad points you control and the bad points that you can't control there are no bad points but let's say what you consider your bad points let's do the same thing everybody in their own mind right now okay we'll do a little therapy session for ourselves we'll make a list of our good points and we'll list of the bad points so we can control the bad points we can't control for example let's suppose that we are under 6'3 okay it's a bad point not 6'3 how come Hashem created us under 6'3 Hashem made us 5'6 5' 7 say thank you very much oh some people consider it's a bad point why I can't play basketball basetball good enough okay mark down your bad points can't play basketball good enough Hashem didn't want you to play in the NBA it's not a bad point because that's not your tun Hashem doesn't want you running around the court with these 10 watusis in her Underpants trying to throw a ball in a hole that's not why you got a yish in the Sha okay so it's a bad point that I'm I can't in NBA SC to show you every single point one by one one by one it's not a bad point so you have a good point and you write another good point and you look for your good points first of all you know what the good point we all have [Music] is when you get up in the morning how do you say stop and think say this and that you remember to say it at all some people run to the bathroom okay they don't have the Neo B by the bed you run to the bathroom to get it what's we stop and think of our good points open our eyes wow I thank youm and this is number one good point that we all have people said what's laser talk like some Jewish hippie all said beloved Brothers beloved sisters uh-uh you know I do that my favorite Mitzvah in the Torah everybody has to have a favorite Mitzvah you read fori everybody has to have a favorite Mitzvah Mitzvah when they're really really good my Mitzvah is obviously strong yeah you could talk a lot about they can't F me in a is RO and what's the secret of a is roal I don't I'm color not physically color blind I'm ideologically color blind I don't see asazi I don't see SPI I don't see Lish I don't see kidish I don't see religious I don't see non-religious I don't see Orthodox C I see [Music] you anybody that's not yet a lakew is a lakew in potential he could be why is he not a lakew because he was born in De Iowa he does not yet know there's re he knows there's cornfields okay he knows there's in De Mo Iowa they have sheep barns he knows there sheep barns okay never been inside to Bas a mish guy's never been inside of bish so suppose you told him hey you know know what it means to be a Jew and there's such a thing as the Torah Torah and you know you have and what is about [Music] that it's a tiny bit of a Shem wow we're all walking around with a tiny bit of AEM now stop and think if you can say bad about another Jew when you know that right behind his eyeballs in his brain behind the right eye is a little point a little pin of [Music] her when I look at another je train myself this a VOA a VOA I don't look at the face I don't look if he's got a skis slope nose or a hook nose like and she to look if he's got this complexion or that complexion or if he's a yemenite or yish or whatever you look at the little Sparkle of godliness that is aem's son and hashem's daughter and this is not in the sky this is the Torah says that we are Sons and Daughters of hasem so if I'm a son of hasem and you're daughter a chef and you're a son of a chef we don't need a PhD in genealogy from ruter to know that we're brother and sister EMS now you know we're beloved brothers and sisters come from brothers and sisters because we have the same spiritual DNA not only that if you go back 15 Generations anybody know how much 15 to the second power any mathematicians here or CPAs huh 2 to the 2 to the 15 power 2 * 2 * 2 * 2 * 2 * 2 it's up in the hundreds of thousands or something okay and other words okay let's suppose chick CH they multiply two 15 times it's 15 Generations from me to Russia okay from the generation younger the generation of my kids and my kids are about my kids range between uh 18 and 37 so and this this is already 16 generations and for the generations of our kids my gradu it's already 17 Generations by the time you have 15 Generations you got thousands and thousands and thousands of Zas and elto Zas and Bas and elto bobas great grandparents all you need is one mutual grandparent and your cousins and not only ashkanazi a lot ofi CH most of the tun they come for rashiti one of the big Po and uh tunist that many come from if they all Trace back to Rashi almost all ashkanazi jury goes back to Russia 50 Generations not Russia excuse me 15 Generations is Spanish Inquisition we all go back to Spanish Inquisition let me tell you something about Brody you know where Brody comes from this is really something bro comes from Toledo in Spain and is and bro com the old Spain bro's Brothers in the Spanish Inquisition they didn't go east to Poland Lithuania they went South to Morocco they're called Bal doesn't matter the me we go back not only were physical Brothers we're spiritual Brothers we have the same spiritual DNA and we go back 12 15 generation 16 17 generation 20 Generations V every Jew is related 20 generation how can not love another Jew so we have this great thing we have a tiny part of AEM the tiny part of AEM means Eternal means that we never die we never die the body is not us and look we spent all this time investing in the body but it's not us the Nisha is us the Nisha doesn't die the you teach your children Rashi says that's so your are an aspect of children if you leave children in the world or if you leave even a person doesn't have children didn't have kids didn't have kids but how many thousands and thousands and thousands of T did they leave every time who's more life than the K everybody learns their sping their d their spiritual power it's alive they're still alive that's the person that is the person what a great thing hasem has given us an eternal life we're tiny part of hasem write that down in a good point yeah think a good point Hashem gave us mitzvas everybody here put on fill today you put on fill today do you know what it says about filling we say in kishma me who are these four guys who are these four Angels the four archangels know the M says about these four archangels they're willing to take their Angel's Union card and say okay we're checking out it here for one filling one time they take up one time one time they put on filling they want okay sh let somebody else change me off that's it one time I'm to go to the world put on [Music] filling you guys AR smiling you put on filling today still still looking at me like this I can't believe it I can't believe it and Gaza they look like that you guys are not smiling of course you got shom's problems I'm telling you got a little piece of a shed walking around you put on filter and you walk home with your wife like this of course she opens up the door you scar that's why you got shom Pro you think that that's a horror movie she's married a Dracula she had degr to smile what does it say the Torah the Torah says when it says the 98 clus in kabo wow wow wow the worst curses and the prediction of the Holocaust and the things that we don't even want to mention here and why does it say it not because of bloodshed and not because of idolatry and not because of elicit sex the three big thez this is the master key guys and if you're happy you got good parosa you know why because people that are happy in their smile they've got Charisma the boss loves them and the customers love them and everybody comes like flying you ever seen them the summer in Lakewood you in the backyard you cookout in the backyard you put on the little lamp and all the Flies how they come to the light that's it everybody gravitates to the light the long thing it used to [Music] be you're down for the tent count we don't sing that anymore VI how good it is to be a Jew how good it is to be a Jew and you stop it thing [Music] says the good points look for the good points there's so many good points one by one here okay wait a second hold it guys don't think you're off the hook girls you know what it is when a woman lights shabas candles open up the Aron and see what he says with is with is when asan sh's candles you know what it means when you like sh's candles when you like jaas candles the sky is open over your head like K in mikdash a woman lighting Shabbat candles people go and they look for ribes and they look for bubas and they look for miracle workers you don't need any of that all you need is a Jewish woman lighting Shabbat candles and praying for a husband and praying for her kids and praying for herself and praying for CLA kind of a whole defense for the nation of Israel the woman on shabas cand punish to protect every single Jew in the world it's not the silly Israeli Army it's their prayers in the sh stands but you know why you're not happy because you don't realize that you've got the power of Coen god a woman wrote me an email I get plenty of emails every single day and she had a certain problem and I told her if you bake kalas every week and you do a frous Kala and I told her to make the prayer with the what they usually do it's called in called a you make the first after PES and take a key and put it the impression in the D we talk about the master key this is the key opens up everything the not my words sh okay the is good enough for you Mario mccomus anybody I know in Lake what I got myself I got to prepare myself cuz everybody's ask me for my Mario mcom where you bring this and where you bring that okay the he says that a woman taking kala from the D is it's just like a changing the the holy bread in second time second time a Jewish woman has the power of K look at what we pray give us a mikdash give us a Gul give us Coro we got we're married to K but she doesn't realize the feminists say I know it's not cool to cook it to make your own Collis what am I going to do you know get my manicured fingernails with the dough underneath and come on buys the H don't realize your good points don't realize what you're capable of doing we have to stop and think of our good points the presence that aen gives us stop and think of the M this do you know what it is what the gmor says when you send your child [Music] feder as soon as you dress your child you feed your child in the morning and you send him with a smile in the face toer in other words the lucky Jewish women that wake up early and get everything and it's not a panic kicking the kids out in the and they're half dressed and the shirt is half in and half out they got a sandwich in the hand and sometimes you know they give them a piece of chocolate the worst thing in the world by the way as you know the ADD and the ADHD kids 50 % of them it's just nutritional problem a kid is weird because he doesn't have the vitamins he needs that they give him a sugar flakes or a chocolate bar or a glass of Coke in the morning basr and the kid's liver gets a shot of glycogen and at 10:00 in the morning it ends and the kid crashes and he crashes he's got no attention he's got no attention he's crashed it's not add it's just not proper nutrition wake up early make the child noing give it proper protein it's the best protein don't listen to the doctors they say you know cholesterol that's good cholesterol in the eggs do like they do with Israel slice a tomato slice a cucumber and eat vitamins I'll eat bread and send the child to school and I'll be learning an e on all day long and'll be happy have feed your kids it's a mother it doesn't matter you feed a husband like that you feed a child like that you're already in Gan you have given your child every chance to learn you've given your husband every chance to learn now it's his problem look at our good points our good points R says like this there's two places and where not been warned I'm warning you I'm warning you to eat kigle on shabas sounds funny doesn't it warning something something good RAB of course our first warning he warns us to be in kadha I'm not going to go into that that's a whole different lesson [Music] says a person has to be very very careful to be all the time happy you know what happens when you're not happy you know what means when we don't have a smile on your face it means I don't like the waym runs the world a Jew that is not pleased with what's going on why remember the r the very first R I believe with that blessed be his name he's not only Creator his creator director everything in the world the hul and he alone also he alone did does and will do everything as soon as you know that there's no more negative emotions in your life you're not angry do somebody say something wrong it's not them it's if this person didn't do it someone else would have done it something the worst thing happens you look for the good points so what is the good point about breaking your toe you got St you broke a toe to and it excruciating pain you know what the good point is if you look spiritually and if a person can look at a broken toe or a sprained ankle or working in the kitchen slice a finger with a knife the very first thing should come out of our mouth is thank you Hashem this is a good point Thank You Hashem if we say thank you Hashem it has 48,000 times the co- off of kapara the power of to 48,000 times what do you get the number 48,000 times from the SP met the Met he explains and SP par before him that Hashem wanted to take Amel from Egypt to erel in 3 days 3 days Amel complained hasem wants to kill us in the desert it took 40 years 40 * [Music] 365 is 48,000 times more than three theat EMT says that the tiin for the complaining of am Israel in the desert is to say thank you for everything about that he teaches us he teaches us he teaches us gratitude he teaches that everything is good this another good point so if you cut your finger and little loss of blood and you say thank you Hashem imagine for some reason King David both King David King Solomon said there not a per Pi person a s that's perfect that doesn't do a sin every once in a while okay and who knows somebody inadvertently says something about another person and because of that the other person loses his shom b or loses his business and then in shamim the person that said that one little word he didn't mean to do any damage but the word got around got bigger this and that and they're calling for the death penalty so the person caused them great damage but I in intend doesn't matter if you didn't intend and Al if you step on a person's foot and a person yells other person scream that you're responsible for the damages you stepped on his foot but I didn't tend to but you did okay so it's not amazing it's show but you're still responsible now how do you know if the other person he's the one that had broken toe you step on a normal person's foot you say excuse me I didn't mean to thank you and go ahead but if someone is sensitive they got a broken toe and they scream so what's you so sensitive it doesn't go about Our intention and Ezekiel goes according to what has been done to the person damage the person and remember this guys you look at the world with your head remember paraz Alin Baba beta why does the gor say that if a wife sheds one tear the husband is owes the death penalty not my word suur Bia F shamur say what's the big deal the big deal is because she's sensitive it murders her we write in the garden of piece you don't criticize a wife you don't criticize a wife you know why you don't criticize the life they don't even know why we write not to criticize the life I'll prove to you beloved sisters that you don't even know yourselves you know Jewish woman they don't even know themselves we can't we can't expect to know them because they don't know themselves and I'll prove it to them I'll tell you the two most important things in your life and if I'm wrong yell out or throw a tomato at me do whatever you want you know what the most important thing in a Jewish woman is most important thing in the world is that she's number one in her husband's life number one everything else is a far you know what the second most important thing is in life you're not going to get away with it evening with lazy you got to and bite okay but you'll be happy you listen to this you'll be happy with the rest of your life the second most important thing in her life is that she's perfect in her husband's eyes you know what that means don't ever mention another woman in front of her don't ever talk about your mother's chunt and your sister's kgle to her cuz that's a hint that she's less than they are she can't stand being second place not to your mother not to your sister not to anyone she's first place and when you establish your wife as first place number one she's happy and when you comment any little comment in erism she knows what the divorce statistics are I got to tell you in Lakewood the divorce has come for Lakewood now think the balovers is no this's a city limits in Lake where I don't go in there uh-uh the Bal does not recognize the Yahara is in Lake foot also as far as that go so to keep shom bite you don't ever ever make any comment in criticism we say well what if she does something wrong you know what the AR says and 20 look inside not my words and not breast ofver stick oh aror in gamor everything say tonight arizo and gamor he says everything a woman does is a mirror of the man when you see something in her that you don't like you're looking at your mirror so if you see something in your wife that you don't like you go and talk to Hashem Hashem how do I make chuv now you can understand understand what King Solomon said when is pleased with a person's ways then even his enemies will reconcile with him what theor says about a wife okay if you're she's AER and if you're not she's ConEd and Ked that's an enemy King when when AEM is pleased with the husband's ways the wife Falls at her feet always know when I get it when I get it at home thank you very much sweetheart go out in the field ler it's chuba time and you go into chuba like we should come home and it smiles again that's all that's all secret the she'll invite people say oh what are you just talking about us why not about her sh not me she says the man is the sun and the woman is the moon now who shines light on who the moon Shines on the Sun Sun Shines on the moon you know what that means the whole Western idea and it's a problem it's gotten into yish cops from Western influence but it's goish man comes home I want this I want that I want that are you want to receive if you want to receive according to the zor you're in Thea and you can't have two women in the same kitchen they can't get along okay man has to come home and he's got to be a giver other words we don't expect don't expect the thing oh you got dinner thank you hasem thank you Hashem why am I saying that because when you go and you have a mentality of what my beloved Rabbi and spiritual gu says I don't deserve a thing that's spoil that's a sense of entitlement I deserve something who says you deserve anything as soon as a person deserves something that's arrogance what does AEM say about arrogance that we can't Shem says that he and the Arrogant person can't be in the same univers but as soon as you expect nothing than anything you get from your wife you appreciate and it's all a good point and hold it Turn the Page what about his good points you know why you don't have Shai because you don't appreciate your husbands now if you would go with a little notebook and my husband's got this and that and that the bad point yeah these guys are a lot of economic Gladiators it's not easy to make a living I know many women are making a living and to our families but how many people learning Torah and really learning Tor and it's not the Army that's keeping arm Israel alive it's their Torah husband and if for husband is really working and learning Mal Mal write down every single good point if you look at her good points and she looks at your good points instant shite same thing with educated kids we all come back and look at look at look at parents child comes home fromer and he had a test on this Mish and he comes home with an 88 and what does the father do what did you get wrong you murdered your child you murdered your kid what did you get wrong rather than looking on the 88 points he got good on the test you look on the 12 points he got wrong what if you Ro did that to you what don't you understand what don't you do murdering a child we have to build on the good points re says even in the worst person in the world you can find a good point and this is what the magz said the mag Ali that I should love the biggest sadic like the bov love the biggest Russia why what was how could bov do it because he looked for the good points in every single person and that's the only way to be happy is when we look for our own good points we are so negative it's so critical and so self- persecuting get that all out that's all the aner that's all Western Society I'm not good enough so you got to buy Coca-Cola no you don't need Coca-Cola I'm not good enough you got to smoke Maro no you don't smoke cigarettes at all you got EMP on lung cancer that's nothing we look for only good points B and T how many how many am in the world now show you something else think of it mathematically we don't stop and think and why do we have so much trouble what do we say at Shabbat before T why the whole thing at T why we suffer the noi gives answer we don't open up our eyes we have spiritualized less than a bull and a Cow Shed the bull and the Cow Shed you knows and he appreciates that his master gives him straw and less brains that a donkey it's not my words so nobody says it [Music] K sells it a donkey and an ax they recognize look what hasem does for us the ramal tells us that the world is a perfect balance of Good and Evil and if the world is not a perfect balance of Good and Evil then there's no sense in reward and Punishment because reward and Punishment only makes sense in the context of perfect free choice and the gorah tells us that if we don't have free choice it's called o coercion right guys if we have coercion to do good we don't getah and if we have coercion to do bad a Jewish pilot he's down and he's an enemy captive and to give himself that to eat it's not Kosher supposed to eat it supposed to stay alive so he can live and spend another 100 Years of eating kosher he doesn't get punished for not eating that kosher because he's loness he's coerced now stop it think how many Jews are in the world population less than one % how many observant Jews are in the Jewish population less than 20% so we're already 1/5 of 1% 200 Pro Mill of the observ a Jews how many Jews are learning Torah you had observ a Jews you got modern Orthodox you got this you got that how many cill jewes how many Lake water Jews and paiter Jews are in how many Jews are learning Torah their lives they living Torah lives okay they working they got jobs but their lives oriented to what they're called b toy let's call them B to how many B to are there in the in the 200 PR mil another 10% 20 PR mil 20 PR mil 20 parts of a th000 of all the population and that's you is a because without not and hasem calls this even we are against the whole world you know what it means when our kids come home and the Yater has got the whole world trying to take our kids away from Torah and try to take us away from Torah and look at you the heroes of society you're here in the United States in New Jersey with everything going around every Ty and every Schmutz and everything going in the world and you're in wow I really feel a and ashamed standing in front of you this group and the whole world and this is she calls perfect even more than how many billions of Chinese and how many billions put 800 million Brazilians or how many Brazilians there are so that you guys could have a cup of coffee with the Gamora in the morning good deal hashem's got three Mill three billion Chinese so that you could serve rice to your family with the sweet and shower Chicken on shabas at night look no this is this R I'm only taking a and take again perfect how can you not have a smile on your face we are sitting with the cream not of Jewish Society the cream of the world hashem's most beloved children I will sign a paper for anyone the difference we take we take a take respons a sign a paper it's a good point how can you now be depressed I'll tell you how you can be depressed re says it right here and I learned this plenty of times was only recently when I took and I asked their said let me understand this the longest distance in the world is not between New York and Maui the longest distance in the world is between the brain and the Heart told someone this evening between the brain and the Heart what we know in the brain internalizing the heart I know there's not a single guy here that doesn't know that first par Ram from that I said everybody learned it how many realize what it means to bring it down to your heart we learned Torah but why why why don't we not happy because we don't bring the Torah into our heart and that's what the zor says hasem wants the heart put the heart in the Torah we got the heart in the Torah we got a smile in our face RAB says says why does a person fall into depression it's because of his gmas when he focuses on his physical side now this is very logical and it's very deep just as there are physical laws there are metaphysical laws Hashem created the world the same laws apply in the physical world and the spiritual World Einstein's Law of Relativity also is in the spiritual world the law of gravity is also the spiritual world but it's exact opposite gravity and the spiritual World why is it that we're sitting here and that the people in China on the other end of the world are not falling off off the world now because gravity in other words we're we're up and they're down and then we're down and they're up gravity holds up we all think that we're up true we throw a ball up it comes down anything we try to throw up it comes down that's gravity gravity pulls it down if you live a life of goshas then you're prone to depression because it always pulls you down now let's light a candle is the candle going down the flame falls down you don't have to pick a flame up the flame all the time flickers now you know when he learns and he doens and he sways back and forth and when he's dant and he's into his doing and he's learning and he's into the Su and he can't stand still because the body is getting weaker and weaker than sh is getting stronger and stronger and that's the [Music] flame it's flickering inside and what happens with the little flame it yearns to go up and cling to the big flame that's the secret of I learn andaz and learn Ander but that's only the small part the big part of learning is I pray to Hashem Hashem open up my eyes and my brain and help me understand what I'm learning there's no such thing as success and learning without prayer there's no such thing as anything without prayer re not a breast says anything we get without praying for it it's no good for us anything that we get that's not for the service of Shem it's no good for us because you're about to make a wedding and you get a couple $1,000 BTO and you can buy a flat for the kids that's terrific but just money for no reason not for serving AEM money like that one of two things happens to it re do says either hasem takes the money from the person the person from the money but they don't stay together we ask Hashem when have money we need money to our Mitzvah the king's servant that his job to polish the king shoes yes that's the the same comp of shoe polish you doesn't have to K says take take the best shoe polish take the best br ious take the best of everything a soldier he has to ask his Commander Polie Commander let me have a weapon please Commander let me have ammunition no they load him up as much as he can schl cuz he needs when our parosa is to raise our kids in Torah we get all we need when our orientation is doe miss us we get all we need ah and something great happens we look for our good points and we see that our good points that we are grenade to and not like the other world everybody else way behind the one bed to one bot to has got the weight of thousands and [Music] millions and look we are here are the few the handful of us that we outweigh all the rest of society the [Music] good look at are good points and this brings us up as soon as we focus on this there's depression so people say so so what so what if I I'm depressed anyway we have to over and over and over again and the more we get our emphas in our lives that's okay it's nice that thear sha says it's perfectly legitimate to have a gorgeous house a nice furniture whatever you could afford cuora says husband comes home and he sees a gorgeous G wife in a gorgeous home and a g and it opens up his heart he learns better he serves Hashem better he thanks Hashem better when you come home it's not a person here that Hashem didn't give him a gorgeous home and a gorgeous wife and a gorgeous everything just don't see it why is not gorgeous CU you don't thank Hashem when you appreciate something you thank Hashem should live on a hill outside here up in the up in the hills in New Jersey and be out in the snow and the cold you appreciate everything appreciate everything whole thing I remember lying in ambush in January I got word that uh supposed to be a terrorist infiltration in Israel and they sent our unit Special Forces they didn't know where they were to go Li in Ambush inside Lebanon in the frozen mud in January we had waited for 4 hours for the bandits came and every single bone is freezing and it was sleeing rain and freezing and from then on every time I put on a dry pair of socks I remember that and I have what's called a happiness Ploy happiness PL then when I was out there freezing up in the mountains up in the mud not enough to freezing you don't know you're going to be very shortly in a life and death situation you got to Big up you got to protect the country and my dream was a cup of Israeli black coffee cup of black coffee if I feel the tiniest taste not even depression a little lack of sim boil some water ysph and I we go everywhere over the world together that's said our general director from bre of Israel here they come on say so one of us already has some coffee if we don't have it Eric has it our program director come on guys take out the coffee right away happy hard being away from right away happy put on a pair of dry socks right away happy that's the good points in life the good points when you're happy you thank Hashem for every single good thing imagine going out in this weather now you guys call it 22 we call it uh 13 for us it's 7 below 7 Below in centigrade nasty cold the middle the dead of ashon winter is uh maybe 48 de at night I mean that's our dead of winter okay it's cold here you go you appreciate got dry socks you know what it be to go out in that weather with with wet socks remember what it is being in that weather with wet socks up in the the mountains ter on the border between leban and Syria just a pair of dry socks what a br did anybody in this room thank Hashem for their dry Socks today when you said M shum did you think of your winter coat and your sweaters and your scarf and your gashes so much to be happy about What would life be without or just imagine we got a cuch okay B suppose Hashem takes that away how would you be embarrassed walking around with that c State Hashem thanks for my cage hasem thanks for my beard hasem thanks for my pis what hey what do you going think for pay us for rean says that person's got pay person says T and if he had lucky enough to be an um then even if he falls into cah will slip him out by the payis got to be thankful you got pay us he says something else in t when he talks about good points or even a l Fisher guy takes his p and puts it behind and what 21st century America the GU got to pay us 10,000 10,000 10,000 they start yelling got to pay us these are the good points you got to remember the good points as soon as you have the good points you look for the good points in your spouse you got shom bite as soon as you look for the good points in your kids you got shom bite as look for the good points in whatever you do you're happy in what you're doing and when you're happy then you'll get out of every single problem why it's a promise and open check from Isaiah the prophet and with Sim and the good points those who need shom you get shom those that need parosa you get parosa amen those that need good kids you get good kids all your hearts wishes for the best [Music] amen