When you change your stance - you create new cycles.

If you want to be the type of person that other people enjoy being around, the type of person that people want to be friends with, the type of spouse that your husband or wife actually wants to be married to, the type of parent that your children actually appreciate, you want to be that kind of person, put down your sword. Not every interaction has to be a fight to prove your validity. Just put the sword down. [music] You don't need to prove yourself to everybody, to explain why you're valid. It's not because you aren't valid. You are valid. You are important. [music] You are awesome. You're incredible. God has given you so much ability. Develop it instead of trying to prove [music] it, and you'll notice you'll be that kind of person that attracts better interactions and relationships [music] in your life.