What's behind your guard?

It could have been because of an event that had happened. It could be years of resentment just building up of not feeling seen, not feeling heard. Behind all of that is a couple that feels guarded. Is a couple that feels that they have to put up this smoke screen [music] of who they are and avoid fake version of each other. They can't be their real selves. They want to get back to feeling connected and safe again, to feel like they can trust each other again. They need to learn to be able to just put the guard down. The way you learn to put the guard down is not by discovering why the guard is up but it's actually discovering why it's worth putting [music] it down. Like when you put the guard down, what's behind it? What are you sharing? Who are you? [music] Identity. When they discover who they need to be and why that is worth being and how that contributes to a deep connection, [music] a peaceful connection they learn to do that more often.