The TRUTH About Humility that No One Is Talking About

one of the most unattractive traits in another human being is arrogance when somebody's arrogant they're almost like getting in the way of you connecting with them when somebody has false humility and needs to let everybody know how they're not that great that's also arrogant and it's hard to connect with but conversely when somebody is genuinely humble there's something attractive about it because their focus is not on themselves but on what they can give you I want to share with you a story of the AL that really personifies this trait the story is told by the it's in yish but there's subtitles take a listen for to me this story was such a paradigm shift in in how we view humility and how humility influences relationships humility is not thinking less of yourself it's thinking less about yourself the alter was very confident he was an accomplished scholar from the age of like 12 years old and and and impressed many scholars that were his senior yet his lack of Desire initially to share with his community wasn't coming from a place of incompetence God forbid or lack of confidence it was coming from a place of I don't want to make this about me because if I make this about me it's not holy the alter writes in chapter six of Tanya that it's and I'm paraphrasing here but anything that focuses on the self is inherently not holy is kipa hides God anything that focuses not on me but on God has a certain transparency with God can actually Channel God we call this B the AL sense of B was incredible b means it's not about me but it's about what I can give you it's about the value I can offer you to me that's so revelatory it's so insightful because when you see the AL demonstrating real B when you really didn't make it about him but he made it about the value that he can share what he had learned from his teachers because of that it seems like he has a attracted so many people to follow him because it wasn't about him the moment we make it about not us but what we can give and if what we can give is coming from a higher authority a more true Authority and ultimately from God from Sinai from Torah we become a conduit for truth that's really the purpose of of what we're doing here really the purpose of creation is not to become popular but is to Share value sacred meaningful value that makes people's lives better make people's lives more holy that's my story and I'm sticking to it