More toilet paper please?

I know a lady who was a Holocaust survivor. She had immigrated from Poland after the war and in her golden years, well into her 80s, she moved together with her children and what one day she says to her daughter-in-law, I need 24 rolls of toilet paper, please. The daughter-in-law thinks to herself, that's interesting, but sure. She gets her the toilet paper and this senior lady proceeds to put the toilet paper rolls in the window seal. She says, "Mom, what are you doing?" She says, "I needed to block the sun. It's too sunny." Imagine rather than saying to her daughter-in-law, "I need toilet paper." She said, "I need to block the sun." The daughter-in-law probably would have gotten her a sun shade, would have been cheaper, would have been more effective. Because this lady strategized rather than stated her desire, she found a strategy that was not very effective and not very efficient. I see this all the time with couples when they go through difficult times and there's feelings of hurt, pain, betrayal, distrust, and they want to amend the relationship. The first thing they try to do is strategize. We need to work on communication. We need to do this. We need to do that. They keep focusing on what they need to do. And they might be right. They might be wrong. But if they figure out what they're truly trying to accomplish deep within, what they're going to discover is clarity and or they will more likely reach the correct and most efficient and effective strategy. DM me if I can