Lipa Schmeltzer’s advice on MASKING ABUSE– here’s what everyone’s missing…

in a recent interview Lepa schmeltzer gave advice to the Jewish Community about how to approach and help a victim especially a child a victim of abuse I'd like to share with you the clip let me know if you agree in the comments and I have a very important message that needs to be added I feel like it just has to be said but take a listen to the clip if there's one thing comes out from this interview the gift for clly SL is one if one message comes out is this message if anybody comes to you they went through something the first thing you do is to say I fully believe you I love you I fully believe you and even I don't understand I believe you cuz I you're talking at age 45 I went to my my family and one told me Sol hard and one told me look he can embarrass and one told me look it's it's it's over they're not there anymore just forget about it basically to believe someone and believe someone doesn't mean to take huge action it doesn't mean we're going to go now we're going to say we're going to do it means just hold them hold a person I believe you believe the child believe the victim very very true you got to empathize you got to realize and understand that this person is in pain and this person has to know that you understand that they're in pain they have to feel like you're empathizing with them you have to believe them but that is step one very important and crucial step but step two is to not just believe the victim but to believe in the victim which means with all the pain the distrust trust the hurt the shame with all those negative emotions and feelings that's going on with all of that what do you know about yourself that tells you that the that that I'm untouchable deep down inside what do you know about yourself that tells you I have the ability to cope I have the ability to live a productive life I have the ability to live a joyous life I have the ability to not Define Myself by other people's horrific Behavior but I have the ability to sore higher and Thrive and live because when we believe people we empathize with them very important when we believe in people in a way that's sensitive and empathetic not in a way that's dismissive we help them heal because we help them become their best selves rather than just defining them by their abuse that's my story and I'm sticking to it