Facing the best version of you isn't scary

One of the challenges I see as a marriage counselor is couples waiting to come and see me when it is late in the game. It probably would have been easier should they have come earlier. If it is late in the game, I can probably still help you. Couples are afraid to come to a marriage counselor, especially the men, by the way. They're afraid of the emotional v vulnerability. They're afraid of the honesty. afraid of facing a certain reality that they might not be ready to face or might not fully buy into. And I totally respect that. If you are silently struggling in your marriage, you are lonely within a marriage or you know somebody that is and you come and see me, you're going to discover a version of yourself that you're proud of meeting and that you probably once knew. This creates hope. And this is where change really comes from. It doesn't have to be a painful, difficult, excruciating experience.