A Rabbi's UNCONVENTIONAL response to loneliness

this young lady writes to the rebit that she's feeling lonely in life she wasn't yet married which was a challenge for her and she's feeling very lonely and the Reb's reply to her was you know that you have a soul which means you know you have a beautiful relationship with God you might not experience it all the time right and the Reb says as a result of that you know that you have a beautiful relationship or at least the potential to have a beautiful relationship with people if we felt at ease with ourselves if we felt most comfortable with our ideal self that soul and that weight was lifted it's going to get out of the way that of our relationships it's not going to gum up our relationships you know you have that within you you know that with that comes a sense of purpose and meaning and a calling to life you know that you have that within you so why are you lonely why are you lost why are you by yourself you know why cuz you're not a sadic so you have this within you but you're not aware of it and that's not your fault right I'm not saying the expectation is to be a sadic the expectation is to be perfectly align 100% of the time we can't always do that then the rabbit told her do me a favor and just think about this a little bit and he uses the word I'll say it in Hebrew and I'll translate his boa light thinking you don't have to go that deep think about this just lightly and you'll realize well if I have an ideal self that is at ease and that has meaning andp purpose and Mission and occasionally I'm doing things that are align with that meaning and purpose and Mission just emotionally there's a little bit of a gap but behaviorally I'm there think about that and you'll start to become more comfortable with that soul