Rabbi Jonathan Rietti: Chinuch How To Series (Part 2) -Taryag Mitzvos

[Music] it's like to get to learn about how we can help children I'm going to touch on some very basics real real basics do you know in the Torah that there's an expectations [Music] actually equals 613 so the kamati of braces 613 - the shin in the shin represents anantam so says and medical Carter this is Hazael that we learned from the first word in the Torah that a parent Rebbe has a an obligation machine on terms of an echo to teach teriyaki mitzvahs to our children so that that's the olive bass excellent where where is there a did almost literally a direct command to notario quinces and teach tag mitzvahs in the Torah I'll give you okay so there are many statements throughout the Torah where it says you shall listen to my mitzvahs do we have a specific command or okay I'm give you a clue I'll give you a clue in the middle sits it's the high ala Hamlet's it says who eats and I saw whose heart M yes Cole Mitzvah signer how much is Cole 70% 80% 92 I hear 95 98 in the corner at 19 it's a hundred percent calm how many meters are they're tired mitzvahs okay it was hard and cognitive side VAR c summary some so the purpose of remembering all the mitzvahs is in order to be able to do them so can i do something i don't know of course not can i do something i don't remember also it's a problem so clearly there the assumption in the very mitzvah is that I've got this myths of cities to look at them in order to remember in order to do them is that right so the mantissa groove are see somewhat calm it's Versailles and here in Abbott's in the next part keep Eric test valve posture glamour tests in permit Bob hashish lock is the mid for Lamont hiss guru now why is it telling me twice because just already told me it was hard times why Lamont disco room so safer carried him who as you know is mostly famous for having written a listing of the tag mixes which apply nowadays based on the different parts of the body so he makes the claim that there's a myth with the Arizer to remember them this is where we remember the mid Spurs but also to say them out loud Lamont is guru is not a lotion of remembering over here it's a it means to say them out loud it's interesting that when we look carefully we will see that tired Mitzvahs is actually the skeleton of the Torah and the only reason why one would possibly ask the question okay if you can show me that tag Mitzvahs is so pivotal for children to know then how come what's what's the question it's not taught okay there are some you see dim and there's a there are a few programs but it's not it's not part of conventional curriculum is that accurate so I'm going to I'm going to address that very briefly number one can I teach something I don't know I'm very honest can I teach something I don't know that's a problem so right there we've got a problem the assumption is that in order for me to teach you targets as I first have to know targets list so right there we have a problem secondly one couldn't argue well who says it's the Messiah to learn Targ mitzvahs so I just brought you of course from from the Torah itself and returnees an extra hectare or a husk Gummer in the midst of sit sit but it's interesting that when we look at the shining we start to notice how many who shun him an Iranian were super fans of Tariq mitzvahs the Shah anshel Sonora in his safer pearls ethic which is a list of all Tariq mitzvahs he said he believes that when has all said I'm gonna be shown by yokai the acid in the future there'll come a time when tishka s a term me throw the Jewish people will forget the Torah he said there's there's a promise that will never forget the Torah so why you saying that so he says he believes this is the shark control Nora he believes that it's referring to teriyaki mitzvahs he said who knows Tariq mitzvahs bowel pay today he's talking about in hit in his time nearly 400 years ago so he wrote to say four pathetic he divided into seven parts that we should learn just a parcel of that mitzvah every day for seven days so that every time days we finish all tarik mitzvahs safer car radium brings a very simple predicate if I'm a soldier in the army of the king what's the first thing I have to know the rules of being a soldier in the king's army and if I if I if I'm loyal to the king and beyond that so devoted that I'm willing to give my life for this person and his kingdom so the most obvious khadeem didn't Kadima the predicate the most obvious assumption is that because of my loyalty and love for him I would want to know whatever he wants me to do as a soldier in his army in the Russian of safer car radium depierre Shah is it really possible Lee I severed lamella he's not saying a soldier that was actually from a different McCoy is it possible for a person to be an avid lamella in-law ADA who cooks a Royce up if the ever the servant doesn't know what the king wants how could I call myself a servant of the king I haven't figured out what the instructions are so safe caring him offers that that's an obvious predicate that I have to know Tariq mitzvos comes along listen Lucia Sharon and he claims that if I'm going to claim that I love God then the most obvious thing I have to ask myself is if I love God then surely because of my love I want to know what pleases him and if he's told me many many times we hire him Shumway Artie Schmo I'll commit suicide if you want you want to listen to my mitzvos that's going to be the first place to go to demonstrate my love for hashem that's in Perak you tested mrs. Sharon save the car radium also offers if I've got a mix of teshuva and I want to be a pal - shiver everyone should want to be about Yuva from from birth not from Virgil make a difference but if I want to do teshuva how can I do to shiver if I don't know all the love him all the lighthouses all the don't do sin the terror so that I know which ones I have to do to shew before and if I don't know all the assays that maybe I've missed out on so obviously I need to know Tigris was is this making sense so far grandpa moon Hill customer a parrot dollar pot Mishnah hallelujah gimel raved in a attire a nun ella hates us Latakia daily Asha column Ison he basically says Raman basically says that the majority of the mitzvahs are really there to help us fix ourselves our character our mindset the the mitzvahs are an amazing platform for children to in their earliest years define reality God's reality but I know this is not maybe politically correct but I'll just give you a simple example teaching children from four or five six seven years old Oh Terry at mitla i was just instant lewis this sharpest and Matsu sharpest a gentleman six foot three comes up to me he has go Shirley Haskell was his name so he said rabbi Realty I just want you to wish my son Mazel Tov yes well he's six years old he just finished tario mitzvahs using the cards I'm going to show you tonight and tonight I have a son Barnum I hope you can be there and I had to be there because there was election right after that so I managed to be there for it except I'm making a serum for Tareq mitzvahs this is what I want to bring out when a child learns the asurim of our ayahs and they learn from the youngest age and then repeating this throughout the curriculum Oh Mitch coughs aha then if later one hospice column has had and I am assuming in the from community you're not probably fully aware of the pressure the unnatural pressure do you know that you can't if you are employed in companies day in New York do you know that you have to watch a video about harassment in the workplace and that about a third into the video it kind of subtly switches to now we know scientifically that when a person is born a boy or a girl that's not accurate because the gender is something you have to choose do you understand what's going on here I'm not saying more words but you see that becomes something that if you if if a child hasn't got a frame of reference of what's right and what's wrong of what the tower is already given me at least the headline on then guess what's going to happen a Suffolk really I didn't know that is that possible and that possibility of entertaining that as a swaro of some sort of rationale becomes an actual having an actual possibility but if children learn from the youngest age it's so much easier there's a lady in another country that was in contact with me and thought she went through a divorce but she teaches Terry admits was using the cards I'm gonna show you tonight and she said it helped so much when it came to the mitzvah of kasuba marrying with a super and then in the midst of get because for her children to see that God invented both marriage and the option that if it doesn't work you separate and you start again it was something gave the children a context of oh this is this is not something that just just happens and I'm I'm a neighbor because I'm children of a divorced family but the Terr accommodates for the possibility that a father mother for whatever reasons might not get along and need to separate and with that start their lives again there's so much that Tareq mitzvahs can offer you can see in a few minutes of testimony from one particular parent he's name's Eric grosse he's the CEO of a very large company that sells kosher products in airports in all over the country and he started teaching tag mints was using these cards which you're going to see very soon he started using this quite a few years ago about thing I think he was son Yehuda who's just now permits we can hear from you hood as well this must've about five or six years ago so the kid is daren't arguments was many times over and you can hear from Eric Rose how he found that besides the technical mastery of information which we're going to see very soon how tag mitzvahs becomes the beginning foundation of a scaffold that will lead you into much nice later Gamora I'm gonna show you the rationale behind that he said the most important piece that really came out of it now I'm spelling it out but he says on on there but it goes so quick I just want to make sure you catch it is that learning targets are with your child and doing Hazara is an amazing opportunity that instead of having a relationship oh my she how are you how was school today how was school lunch - everything okay on the bus ride and and and and almost that's the end of the whole conversation excuse me um yes oh hi yeah and I get distracted by whatever I'm distracted by all my son my son is once it just wants to get out of conversation with that because he wants to go on to his computer game but what happens if you're learning tag mitzvahs and it's only one or two or three a night and then then you get to so many mitzvahs which are a platform for discussion platform for Java platform for why does Hashem want me to do this particular Mitzvah and there's tons like that Mitzvah versus throw have us again of us Hashem where does that take place so based on this on on Rambam as we try to explain it the middle of armor takes place over here the feeling of Arve is because we're thinking thoughts of love for a person that makes us feel that and helping children recognize that tarik mitzvahs touches everything they start going through the rhyme and they learn about oh agricultural laws or they learn about business over land in the basin Mick - they learn about relationships they discover oh my gosh the Torah has something to say about everything courts witnesses and so what ends up happening is you're preparing the child to have this huge hush gopher hush cover really means enormous context where there's nothing that they could ever learn or experience in life that's not part of this massive context which God gave only as the headlines the thymus is just the headlines we're gonna get that a few moments Mishnah Brewer points out and this is in Simmons Samak sits Dalit he brings the following mission was huge fan of tag mitzvahs he gave a shear every single day to Hizballah bottom in safe car Aiden big fan of safer car radium the hobbits hiam understood he wrote a safer kids emits miss settlements loser cut sir where he took all the missiles which apply nowadays which about 290 mitzvahs and he gives a very short paragraph each one but his idea was that people would learn this and finish it everything every few weeks so the the comet time in the mission Abreu itself points out that Shulkin are our peril crucial Kanak the entire code of Jewish law does not cover Tuareg mitzvahs that apply nowadays there are many misses which are missing and therefore it's very important to learn all those other mitzvahs because we have the following mark locus mitzvahs Rica's qivana or anxious qivana dude in the performance of a mitzvah does it require that my mind is engaged in when I'm doing the mitzvot or if I do the missile without thinking I still get the mitzvot so in that discussion the final conclusion is that mitzvahs Dale righter 613 Lucas qivana mr. Baumann America's qivana so if I don't have cabana when I do a Miss with the eraser I have to repeat the Mitzvah so comes on shore Mishnah Bruin children are Simmons summer sift alert and makes the claim we need to know all the mitzvahs that apply to us so that I know which missus I have to have qivana for otherwise I'll do mrs. without come on and not get the Mitzvah and he gives examples of mrs. who are not initial cannot for example to be deferred to her come him so they're the main meaning of that is is not only to follow in the ways of the her coming but to do pragmatic do business with her coming to eat and drink with Tom there calm him why because that brings us into a close proximity and the Talmud Holcomb who knows how to live that her according to shalls' are not according to shams expectations so we're role modeling from role models and in that in that sense the mix of being director coming which is not a sim initial cannot is the midst of I have to know that when I'm being Begg full or being mushy amish a talent akhom I'm gaining a midst of the Arizer in every single second he gives many example of love every Jew praise and praise at seeing speakers praise avoid hurting other people with words - Tamar him Latisse nice avocados Rebecca that's huge if I'm not aware of their thoughts of hatred that I have towards other people and it's not a hog there's no similar to talk about that but that's one that they're Rice's it's huge if I'm not paying attention to people that I have resentment for Lotito Mesonet submits as a Navarrete eraser letís not high club of america owes in American rice if I'm not paying attention this social Canara I mean sorry mission Abreu is bring I need to know the mitzvahs because she'll cannot recover all of them beaks be extra careful not to hurt a widow or orphans not to speak gossip or Rahila not speak loshon Hara avoid checker not to defame another person that's mostly shamera I'm not gonna give you a duty chuva now in Colchis trump to Shuba Rambam you got a whole section ten proc him on Hillcrest de cheveux in short Kanak there is no there's no simin no section for it so I need to know those ha lockers I just do a couple of examples and I want to show you some testimonies about what kids are capable of says the smart he's a Russian quiche Harbor Mitzvah Shana Tom Kai Blastoise I'm Archer bolio doy there are many mitzvahs that I only have here when they actually appear and are available to me Lucas you Kyurem but when you just read the mitzvahs that you don't have yet available to you guess what Molly burly boy I saw last time and you wish you could do them Marla cause of kilo aza the terror count so you actually did it there's air huskar Godzilla in Kate's this is the schmuck who himself wrote a is attrition he wrote his own safer on Terrance's and he's making the claim and this is something as echoed throughout cranium as well that when a person wants to do a mitzvah even though he hasn't done it yet but he would like to do it he gets the scar of that Mitzvah says the Benesch hi who's like the baal shem tov of the sodom says the banished high in Pasha's voice : he says the most extraordinary thing which is based on the same on the same idea and that is the following via do a she EF Sharla Adam Eckhart it's impossible for one person the can contact mitzvahs Papale it's important one but if you're a man you can't do all the mitzvahs that under get to a woman if you're not a ky any countenances of a kind if you're kinda come to the mitzvahs which isn't get to enroll etc ah I'll your day how much shava but through thinking sugar Shiva made supper he sits and wishes a massage table early arty mitzvahs ooh the acai Mina when will I get this Mitzvah and I'll fulfill it by halle by or oh if only she she shy of a mitzvah zubik a minute if only out if I were if I were able to do this mitzvah and fulfil it since the bench hi Nick shot like he look I'm coolin it's as though he gets all of them who live feyza because of this asha it is possible should be young at heart then in a single day he came out adam cole tigresses a person can get all 613 mrs. MA and mahashiv I'll call mitzvah Piazza ma if we would think about each one on its own and say he neighbors air tell via and through this tower via a field by your my husband bad initiative like Alou I see Tampa poyo it's as though he get six hunter Teen Miss was in one day is that a good deal so this is this is I'm trying to help create leverage in terms of the actual value of learning targets list I'll never forget when I did my I did a see him for my eldest son he was now 37 but when he was 10 years old we'd finished tag monsters ten times and I made a seaman I invited friends from his classroom and I write at the end when her parents came to pick their children up it was so interesting not one but two parents said to me why are you doing this I said whatever may so see him for my is something yeah but not but no one does this and it never occurred to me he's right I never saw anyone make us see him for tiring mitzvahs so one of them said did you ask ash I'll about you know making a scene for Tara Christmas said have you ever heard of anyone do that so I I admitted I didn't and it actually it actually concerned me yeah what I'm a I'm I'm being hard is something that doesn't because how many people do we know that teach their children to admits was so happen to me I was living in in Muncie this is going back over 30 years but it was interesting that within a week of this occurrence I went to a wedding in Muncie and for the first time ever I met rubbish mill kamenetsky so I decided you know I know everyone bothers him all the time every second of his life but he's there in the wedding I'm gonna ask him you know if there's a Messara for teaching children tag mitzvahs and is it really okay to make us see him so I asked him this question I remember exactly where I was standing by the lady's mohit so on the men's side yes on him inside and and he chuckled to me and he said my father the alcove communis gets out my father taught all of us and his daughters targets was before Bar Mitzvah so no oh it's not such a it's not it's not something that then why isn't it more of a foursome why isn't it out there more so I think the simple the simplest answer is and III don't have a very thought-out and analyzed answer to this but number one I can't teach what I don't know so that I will make the assumption if I don't know time words as I can't teach it I don't believe that's a correct assumption I'm gonna try and prove that in a few moments the second part of that is I think that Chloe's role has done such an extraordinary ly admiring the job of recovery from urban Europe of the from the Holocaust and when you consider especially just a barely a couple weeks ago the see'em her shots in MetLife Stadium all across the country how hundreds of thousands of Jews feel affiliated to ghazzal through shafts partly which is a commentary to mash nice what is much nicer commentary - so I'm gonna quote to you rob Barton aura Rob Barton or I think you will agree is is fairly well positioned I think and qualified to say what foolishness is about is anyone anyone take issue on that the Rob part to know is is he fairly qualified to say what who all much nice is about so you can check it out for yourself in Perak I love mission olive of perky advice he offers one of the reasons why perky advice is unique to all the other mo sectors he says because all the other mo sectors except for perky Ava's all the other sectors are a pay wish to the mitzvos our voice is all over the place be not only available on the Mac company of them that smite but all the others are specific like well many people are learning broca's right now also it screech ma this filler there's brick as Amazon there's Zimmerman there's well something that's there right sir there there's Broca's shyness there you go to payer it's dealing with piercing with sadaqa are you Adam I you go to any wherever you will look throughout demise mantra burner you color is the eraser you go through go through Mishnah and you'll see the vast majority of machine eyes is a pay wish to the Atari egg mitzvahs you hear the logic here so what would happen if children had 613 mitzvot s-- in their hands that they've learned not just the title not just in the picture but at least a few details of every single Mitzvah what will happen now in the first three grades if they've learned all tagged mitzvahs entering fourth grade when they start learning which nice I've got a few repayment in the room please tell me I thought in your experience how much percentage of class time has to be given over to explaining the background information of the Mishnah which the missionaries assuming i know without which you can't really even start the Mishnah how much percentage 20% 30% sometimes 40% is it am i exaggerating no I'm not exaggerating what would happen sorry sometimes it could be a lot more than even 50% Robert mill is suggesting even up to 80% if it will be a complicated mission er what happens if we just go with simple and moon up shooter that the Rothbart Anora really knew what he was talking about what would happen if we can help children know Terry egg mitzvahs and in such a way that they could almost literally teach themselves most of the mitzvahs that might sound weird to you but what you've you're familiar with the expression a picture speaks a thousand words so I'm going to put into your hands in a few moments a number of pictures I'm going to ask you just to look at them and flip through them and look at the front in the back and on some of them there's no back but some of them they do have look at the front look at the back and and see how many misses you can teach yourself in a matter of two or three minutes it's possible to teach I'm gonna sounds like an exaggeration it's possible to teach over a hundred Mitzvahs in 40 minutes - first greatest + and I'm gonna prove to you how it's so ridiculously obvious when if you teach children any one of the many ha mitzvahs the Rambam shokan the safe and you know who goes the quoting the sequences they arrive in the Torah Rambam has two listings he has the listing of our states and Lloyd assays and he has the listing of categorization which is the mission of terror unless you wanna go with the corrodium say for her 18 illicit mitzvahs as according to the body parts but but here's my point don't go with any of them teach the children tag mitzvahs are P dark I at the beginning what does that mean identify the mitzvahs which they already know how many are there so we have a list of approximately 120 mitzvahs when you count them up it's a mitzvah of twin children let me give you a quick real quick review of this history can can you or do agree this this would it would tell me oh this is miss finish all right yes or no you go with that I'll give you five guesses for this one who can guess which which Mitzvah they think this might be laughs Cohanim excellent this young man here is wearing to fill in on his arm can you can you tell me what you think this is mr. shell yeah it's Mattel yard I'll give you four for no maybe three guesses for this one mezuzah okay this might have looked a little bit closer oh what's he doing on Pesach is he sitting up straight is this sitting up straight always leaning he was leaning I was eating matzah Heelys Marzano pizza this is Cypriots the Atmos Rhyme it's not so obvious but I'm gonna once you once you see it can you see this is the myths of Cypriots um it's rhyme can you see it do you agree if you follow okay eight guesses for this one what's the myths one Rosh Hashanah listen to the chauffeur you see no one's blowing it it has to be blown by someone but you see he's listening so the actual mistress lish Moya because Schaffer on the back of each card is the Hebrew as Rambam of the exact wording of Rama he describes each single Mitzvah so it's a very simple title from the Rambam their past occurs there as well and of course a very simple English title for each Mitzvah I'll give you six guesses for excuse me six guesses for this one sitting asuka how many days you have to live sitting asuka seven days very good eight guesses for this one look carefully this is a manual woman it's a woman wearing a man's clothes is this an assay or later say a later say yeah and if kids start getting into the questions of why that's a great platform for a discussion oh because safer cleaner tells us that if men dressed like women or women dressed like men it could lead to taru voice and that would could lead to two forbidden relationships roundabout mitzva number 138 the kids are gonna start learning 38 forbidden relationships based on the question I didn't ask this question rabbi dovid wax of the teriyaki foundation was a personal friend of mine he was he headed the targets lab project and he asked rabbi yosef how how to teach the children all the availab a riotous so he said to use the lotion don't live as married with and then fill in the blank with it's a sister mother-in-law daughter granddaughter etc so these are fantastic platforms for discussions where you are able to give the Turkish golfer to your children before they get confused eight guesses for this one I'll show you the back of the cut okay service Kaka don't don't have to are they are these complicated or simple simple okay so so imagine children would have these in their hands and you're teaching it or as a little rubber millons in the audience he teaches first in the second grade everyday is that right on the screen and they do quick Hazara they learn one or two minutes is every day and which number you up to we have a clip oh great we're going to see it very soon and which number you up to 365 is this making is this simple so far this is not complicated you can have children learn all tag mitzvahs easily by the end of third grade by which time they haven't even started Mathias but imagine the following instead of instead of the Rebbe having the incredible oil responsibility of teaching so much background information what would happen if you had a listing of all the Tigris was in every single Mishnah that you could tell the children if they were learning this system which is what's taking place in dark hair Illya what would happen if you can tell the children oh before we learn this next Mishnah these are the mitzvahs in that missioner and you give them the exact listing so we have actually here a safer which goes through every single Mishnah in the entire show scissoring Mishnah and it gives you the listing of the exact mitzvahs in that missioner tell the children or let do quick Hazara using the cards on these three four five whichever however minute mitzvahs there are and then we're going to learn this missioner together now listen very carefully because one bout to say is not complicated is extremely simple what would you say is more valuable me teaching you are you doing much more learning than me teaching so Who am I making responsible for understanding the background information if I'm not delivering it myself but making you responsible for it by doing Hazara of the mission of the Mitzvahs in that mission er are you going to be less engaged as students or more engaged you can be much more engaged so this is a very simple system where it's scaffolded because whether you like it or not the reality is these are what we call four of ten building blocks building block number one is all of base which means language acquisition if a child cannot make sense out of a parsec I because he doesn't have soo sizes on the Kudus or blending or he hasn't learned the most frequently reappearing shush him there's only about 200 plus of them to make sense out of 13 thousand words in the entire process there are 16,000 to 158 words total please don't count them now if you don't mind doing a freshman's at the end the 16,000 258 words in the entire process but you don't need to know that many words to make sense out of it because 13,000 of those words are covered by these two hundreds Russian we've created about three hundred three hundred three strutting if you know those two answers we've shot him and all the 46 prefixes suffixes you can now make access to the tower itself the tower is made up of two components this is super simple the turrets of this trillions and trillions unlimited layers but there's actually essentially two components that the terms made up up from which everything else platforms number one it's a story line the story line of pre asylum all the way till till coming out of of Miletus e9 over there would be 40 years in the mid part and yuxuan desert just well that's the end of the tour two thousand four hundred and eighty-eight years you follow so in the story now you've got ten generations from Adam until now the marble ten generations from now till Avram the life of Avram yet sake archive life of Yosef they go down to mitzraim she wouldn't miss rhyme ten Marcos Marcos ten and then you'd see up miss Ryan and Martin Terra forty years in the mid part end of the Torah so you've got a story line contained in the story line are terry egg mitzvahs with no apparent pattern if the children have we're going to call them files for the storyline the storyline is a platform for everything they'll ever learn on the non legal side of the Torah Madras agar data harsh gofer for the most part casitas Musa ethics most of the non-legal learning of Terra will find its or somewhere in the storyline anything that's on the legal side of the Torah starts with teriyaki mitzvahs because tag mitzvahs is the skeleton of mish Nyhus the toshka pair the Gemara is a pay route to that mission eyes which is a pay was to tag mitzvahs and halakha are the legal conclusions of the gomorrah's discussion of The Machinist commentary to diagnosis so what would happen if you got children who know tarik mitzvahs at least a level of a few details per Mitzvah what's going to happen is that they are comfortable with Matthias because they're not just going to be learning something completely new they're gonna have add-on detail to something they already are familiar with is this making sense yeah I had one once a repeat asked me well what about Magilla because Insecta Magilla there's it's almost all Drobo nuns I said well yeah it was true but he's still gonna have some exceptions so I can't remember I think it was Parekh base Mishnah hey so often too quickly checked there and see if we can count up how many targets was there are there 19 you need to know Terry admits was to make sense Alamos knives and Gomorrah oh my gosh tomorrow is constantly cross-referencing is that accurate its cross-referencing all the time on a single page of the gomorrha single armed of the Gemara you can easily count at least ten of Tighe mitzvahs so what we're doing here is giving children that foundation but this is what there's an additional value and that is the children's vocabulary through Terry at Mitzvahs we've got a code name for each Mitzvah and on the back of each mitzvah card as you noticed is in Hebrew the simple notion of Rambam the vocabulary of the children grows exponentially through learning tag mitzvahs in preparation for mush nice do you follow so you can start to wean off vocabulary sheets which are becoming more and more as a crutch almost as though the curriculum requires that I can touch all these words on to the vocabularies but what about forget about the sieve of him what about learning inside the text straight away with lots of Hazara and guess what the children will start to build up their vocabulary and their familiarity with words and the context and the sentences until they start to be able to learn this by themselves which is ultimately the the real goal is this making sense so far so this point I'm gonna ask rabbi Selma if you could help me find the testimony if you want to call it of Eric grubs Eric gross is uh actually Isabella bus and a graduate of mmm mmm TM MIT in Boston pretty cool at MIT yeah thank you and the CEO of a company called kosher to go what's the name of it something then almost that so many concepts and topics exposure to and some company the Burmese migrant program his program which is comprised of a set of cards and [Music] impeachment [Music] sorry [Music] thank you that was Eric close I'm gonna put his son on in a few seconds but what while while you're listening you can watch the boy as well he's 13 years old he's finished Agnes is quite a few times I'm not gonna give you a whole packing in your hands and I just want you to look through them and pay attention to both to the picture but also to the in English and the Hebrew underneath which is the parsec and start to notice for yourself how many of these you could teach yourself this particular pack here has a short essay on the back if you just want to look at them I just wanted you to get a feel of of how much information you can get from a single card and how much you can teach yourself literally take it as a pet for yourselves some of these mitzvahs are obvious to you and some of them you've never seen before but the picture alone has the power to speak a thousand words and therefore it's going to be a lot easier for you to teach it to yourself and enter your own your own child or your your own students have a couple more pecs is his he's a children's version the younger children's version there's two versions of the pictures there's the the stick figure picture and then there's a photo version which rabbi skates actually did all the graphics for that's an example of the photo version that's actually a picture of the real heart scene I'm not going to go into details of that but the mitzvah of emunah comes from a notional caricature CT commencement rhyme what children will here's a mix of Akkad Hashem is one hears the myths of crema that's the child's version the younger child version there's the the icon picture for the section of called krishma which is in safe harbor safer rviz the second book of of Rambam which is demonstrating our our love for cottage baku and his love for us so children have cards these are separate cause I'm pointing to you where there's a card that says say the Shema daily and the child will actually match it with the picture card underneath it is apostle and and the word zing of Rambam there's the the PASOK there so we've actually got all these here you've got a cold word you've got the English run bums language and then the path hook so these are separate cards that the children will learn to actually match with the picture card so we're scaffolding incremental levels of detail do you follow the logic here when the children are ready for more information we go to what's called which Mitzvah am i which in this book is called hurry up detectives and which Mitzvah my cards I'm actually put out here so you can you can look at them yourself pull out at random and what it does is give you clues one of my favorites is clue number one I'm a garment clue number two I've got a hole in the middle glue number three I've got four corners clue number five for a I've got eight fringes five knots and the Komatsu of my name is 600 add the knots five and eight fringes six 13 which Mitzvah am I so do do you see the difference between giving clues and helping the kids come to it themselves versus giving all the information that's on a myth of this very familiar but we've got it on all six thirteen so the children as they're going through these cards and learn incremental levels of detail when they're ready for more detail they go to the clues and they can play games with each other where they'll quiz each other on the clues till they tell the Rebbe oh I'm ready for for you to quiz me on this we've got assessment sheets which you're going to see in one of these videos where the kids actually have to check off which parts of the curriculum service week they've done you're getting the kids to be responsible to do most of the work the kids have to know the picture and the English the Hebrew from the Rambam to the code name and the and and the past hook and as they incrementally go through those different levels they'll check it off on their assessment sheets rabbi can you show us his son yeah just give it this is it's 13 year old son speaking about teriyaki mitzvahs there's one before this one sorry it's okay [Music] thank you and he's not gonna show us how to how to how he would learn the Mitzvah it's going to show the second ones only two minutes [Music] you are the first the provision hands on and you have the puzzle then honey she's a beautiful in your painting extra fitted fitted telling you with you [Music] this is a departure in Durham royal between human right which is what [Music] I'm someone can you show us rabbi Millers class yes so I tell you how I do this I teach about a hundred 120 mitzvahs it's all in the manual that's everything exactly which ones because the children already familiar with differential residential yard mezuzah sit sit low love living in the sukkah for seven days etc and then there's certain mitzvahs which even if they're not familiar with but because the picture speaks a thousand words they'll see someone writing a safer terror OSes a mitzvah to write a safe with her the next myths we have the same person wearing a crown oh there's a myths of the of a Jewish King to write the same terror so we do these like if you want to call them random mitzvahs then after we've done 120 that's when the Rebbe asks the children how could we organize these mitzvahs and this is this is so telling what the children will now come up with I had this in first grade and a little bit in second grade as well the first graders will say oh you know what let's make two piles one will be the mitzvahs essay which has the green check and a mitzvahs later say so I'll say brilliant Ramallah do you remember where Rambam is on the timeline so we have a timeline I didn't put all of the pictures up but they'll know that oh there's Rambam on the timeline so random came up with your idea he wrote a safer called safe her mitzvahs and in safer mitzvahs he divided it into two sections did all the essays all the do mitzvahs in all the lighthouses so that's one way we could organize it and the other suggestions soon one kid might say oh you know why don't we list them as they appear in the Torah brilliant so after the run bomb ran about over here it's also written was safer you know this is one of I think 10 volumes in art scroll where it's all completely translated with footnotes and annotation whatnot so oh say parking look he did exactly your idea he lists the mitzvahs as they appear in the Torah I didn't get this till till 2nd grade there was a boy called gov real Garvey Garvey I never forgot his last name Garvey came up with the following and I decided to bring this for you because this is the exact one I had in the classroom when I was teaching for a second grade together this was lying on the floor and Gavi was taking the Mitzvah cards and placing them on different parts of the body I said Garvey what are you doing he said I'm trying to figure out which part of the body you do all the mitzvahs say oh that's safer karadian so what happens if you can now show Oh safe car a team who's buried right next to our result actually I'm not actually I don't think that's even accurate if you go visit the I result in space you'll see that not it's not next to it's on literally attached to the cave of the ariza is rebellious Currie the safer car a diem that's what Adam Khadaffi was to be buried with the a result more so so having the children do this by themselves means that they're starting to organize the mitzvahs but what we then do is we once the kids come to this on their own that we can bunch the mitzvahs which means categorize them and that's when we're going to follow the rumba so the Rambam which is the most popular of all the mone Hamid's is also a showing that they count the mitzvahs and he's the most relied upon in if you want to call it the most definitive listing there are other listings and in the full version of our of our manual I've actually listed at the back every single difference between Rambam and rambin run band for example with Nachman is with a nun has 70 differences where he differs with the Rambam in the tag mitzvahs say for her radium i went through all he does 290 so we went through all 613 and labeled exactly which parts of the body they're done with so the what ends up happening kids will figure this out themselves you ask a child for example which part of the bodies because Cohanim done with so hands so actually if a person if a client's does because can I'm sitting down it's not Mitzvah so you actually need the legs as well anything else you have to do the Mitzvah with your mouth so actually there's three parts of your body that are engaged in this particular Mitzvah so that it's it's not just one part of the body can be multiple parts of the body that that I used but this is an amazing way for children to themselves start organizing the mitzvahs themselves and it in yeshiva dakahliya they learn the icons all the icons of of the 14 books of Rambam and they figure out on their own this was rabbi skates innovation where he would teach the children the icons let's say you would have an icon like say a bomb and that would be four icon from the second the kids would have to figure out which mitzvahs belonged to that category you've got an icon which has a clock for zoom on him so which mitzvahs are nageire and are defined by time sharpest pacer yontiff etc and they would categorize them under that icon so these are ways you get the kids doing all the work now listen carefully how I could have done it in the conventional way please forgive me for calling it that okay children you know now that you've learned about 120 mitzvahs I'm gonna teach you how we can organize them we could either split them up into two groups according to Rambam he has safer mitzvahs ah say in Lotus A's or you could categorize them ago into RAM as well we could do it was a safer clinic who does them according to the sequences are your mind starting to wonder how I got the point how long is it going to speak yeah yeah you are you more or less engaged you see why are you less engaged because I'm doing the teaching and you're not doing the learning you're passively learning that's a different level of learning than if I'm trying to facilitate your mind being part of the learning process so that's a whole different type of learning and that's really a turret based method because the word Malamud unfortunately we translate as teacher so it's to disturb it on the path up in missionary para cough Kimmel posture cough toilet and in half hey cuz the work comes up twice on the word here let's hug him on the word eyelid he tells us the word Malamud is lush and Moylan - hi hippo is causative his mullet hokhmah but Leyva Talmud a Malamud is someone who's causing the birth of wisdom that's already there in the mind of the student so he's not actually delivering information he is drawing out information the word mora means teacher but it doesn't mean teach it means directorís or director someone who's facilitating learning you're showing the way you're not giving the answers you're showing the child how to come to the answer a red becomes from Tula a little rap which means a lot abundance a Rabi has a lot of ways of reaching different minds yes I have a lot of terror a lot of patience a lot of love for kids but he also has to have a lot of ways of reaching different minds so when we look at the way the Torah is asking us how to teach even in the words of a chignon time which is the Mitzvah the Arizer equal to most most of showing him there's no word there that says teach shinden means repeat and it also means sharpen also means shame because the tooth machine non-terminal NECA says the the the stripe that means two teeth to your children meaning smile to the kids because that's the method by which children feel there's a hain and they want to learn from you so it's in thing that we actually don't have a word out of all four possibilities in the word Mahana krabi Mara and Malamud that actually correctly translates us to teach we're not going to internet in that now but but what I'm just bringing out is when when we facilitate the children's learning it's a superior type of learning it's completely different because the kids are other ones who's doing most of the work so we have a look at Rabbi Millers class very briefly this is he teaches drop so they is reminding them at the begin of the pasta quits fine [Music] thank you repeat Miller who's here if you need to ask him any questions at the end please feel free you can divide all tag mitzvahs into little sections here I'm just giving an example of some of the materials that are available to you there's a reference book that will reference every single Mitzvah according to the smart and can look at this one more oh good we got one more thing for with the children are you getting a feel of using the cards and being able to teach yourself okay the in review they would they would go through the digital version very quickly so kind has got long hair come to the avoids based on weakness or if he's chica he's drunk are the kids engaged are they excited or bored it's through the facilitation of pictures and asking questions you're constantly engaging the mind of the children it's it's a very powerful and simple way if you think about it the Commish is that way the converse was written dictated by cotta Sparkle so nobody can understand it it's deliberate on the spelling is inconsistent told us with above without above so Kim where the word is law Sansa has possibly came like a rocker Robin Yaka Yaka drop him it's written to force the student to ask questions realize this doesn't make sense and now you you have to engage with the Rebbe to have a dialogue and 1300 years this method was extremely effective until hazael saw her being a cottage baroque Archer saw her Asha it was an emergency measure we had to put the missing information into writing but when they wrote the Mishnah is in such a terse language it's so cryptic it's such a kid solution that you can't understand that you're forced to ask questions so the Mishnah is preserved this relationship where it's not a delivery of information it's engaging the students mind and that becomes knock hunter shell terror and then within 300 years of the completion of the Mishnah the kumara had to be written all the missing information that's downloaded from the Mishnah what's the format of the gomorrah question answer format problem solution and often the kumar would find a problem with the solution and then go off on what looks like it's a tangent in other words throughout history whenever kazow or even later we'll see had to so to speak reconstruct the torah so it would be more available to cloudy throw they always tried to preserve the original intent which was engaging the mind of student and always avoided at the greatest imaginable cost that should ever be a delivery system that was part of the his numbers against the Rambam because he delivered the the Shakalaka without the process without the thinking and that was that was considered am a huge danger what they didn't realize those who were against it they didn't appreciate fully that Rambam was a visionary and he saw that unless there was a way to take the whole of the shafts pollyannish army intercept and see for unsavory all that touch of our pen and touchable Tov combining into Shakalaka the vast vast majority of carceral who don't know all the shafts publish an intercept in c4 and supra they have no access to the halacha so he created a code Mishnah torah which makes available to everybody and the irony is that there's almost not a single page out of over 2,000 pages of shah pahlavi that doesn't reference Rambam throughout the page what the her logic ruling is of Rambam on that page so these these are ways I'm hoping that you touch the cards enough to get a feel a sense of how much you can teach yourself and especially go to the next level with which mitts for my cards and there's other excellent curriculum out there by the hardwoods program this is one of five volumes and it goes through the same numbering of the Rambam that we're using and it's much more sophisticated in terms of the amount of detail for every single Mitzvah so there there are ways to have the children busy teaching themselves so that they they become much more serious learners and much more give much more in love with with learning because it's them who's doing the work this making sense any questions comments criticism oh so at the back of this particular manual I've listed hug schmuck smug Ron bond safe karadian and safer uranium wherever they different with the Rambam so I've given a full listing we've also created separate list of all the missiles of the mind for example there are 69 mitzvos total that are totally believed which really correctly translates as as thought and there are so many ways you can categorize the Mitzvahs and using tag miss visit is not a kid thing you can't get to i was once working as a consultant for a school there was a kid at the back of the class who was not interested in anything he was just reading a book so i went up to him i said i'm not going to say his name what he reading said to Harry Potter oh so which volume you up to so it was the fourth volume so I said have you read all of them he said yes my fourth time all over he said okay so then who's your favorite character so he's looking at me like yeah what is rabbi really know so he he told me his favorite character I told him my mind was Professor Snape when we got into a whole conversation eventually I reached the point where I said are you interested tied mister because that's what the kids were doing in the classroom at the time said no I prefer Harry Potter I said I don't blame you do you know how many mitzvahs in the turret relate to magic you see when you look at he'll kazakh mule see there there's quite a few mitzvahs which relate directly to magic so that means to say there's nothing you can't find inside mitzvahs that would be an entree a way into the mind of a child another kid might love animals well guess what there's 187 Mitzvahs entire mitzvahs that relate to animals directly and indirectly well haven't you got a kid who loves cooking hey we've got the centimeters relate to cooking there's nothing you can't find in tyre mitzvahs that could be an entree for a child who's got other interests other than the initial immediate learning that's going on in the classroom all you have to do is ask what what's your interest personally I'm just I'm not just get we have to be careful what I say in public I try to finish tag mix was about three times a day but it goes very quickly when you know the code the code words so if anyone a Rabi for example wants no but give me a list of tag mitzvahs on any subject it will take me about 20 minutes maybe half an hour max I'll go through tag misses very quickly and I'll make I'll give you a list of any Mitzvah that's Nagar - let's say metal or music or whatever subject you want to come up with I'll quickly go through it it may not be a hunt percent comprehensive but what I'm what I'm attempting to claim is that you can touch a child on any subject from tired mitzvahs because it's impossible that the tower is silent on anything and being the tag mitzvahs is the foundation of kala tell Kula it has to be there it's a different parents I will do it in different ways there was a guru who learns tag mitzvahs with her children she's got three kids she long time whispers every night just for a few minutes I can do it a bedtime you can do it the sharpest table using cards it's just a lot easier because it's almost like this is your cue it's or it's self-explanatory is telling you what and the numbered so you can you can go check which Mitzvah and my card if you want more information or if the kid himself is more interested and they can read so you send them to the yardas program where the numbering is almost identical throughout with very few exceptions so it's really it really starts with you but you do not have to note Agnes was to teach it that's that's what I'm trying to bring out you can learn along with the children and that's the most important piece because I the resistance I think to teaching tag mitzvahs is the assumption that I have to know it all first how can I have how can I know less than the kids but what happens if you're okay learning along with them we have we have a book with all tag mitzvos this is a manual here and there's the chart the child's version is over here this is a student version this one has much more information at the back for example it's quite a few pages that describe how to talk to children about Araya so if the kids get to SOTA or they want to understand what at Misgav soccer needs etc so there's based based on what goodell have told us of the language we would use and what levels of detail to share with children so there's there's quite a few pages there to explain how do you talk about the more sensitive type of mitzvahs but here's a very important piece in up I hope you're okay with me telling you this I heard this from Rabbi Greenwald the lavash alum who heard this from the from the cousin ish rabbi Greenwald who passed away a few months ago he wrote to say four aces of hard rockers with the stipple it was very very close to cycler so he once told me that a father came in 2000 ish who asked when when should I teach Mishka of soccer to my children about the Indian and love of homosexuality so the husband ish said well imperative tes because the story of sad I'm I mean so the way he explained it to me the Torah is not silent about anything so use the Torah as your your platform use it as your curriculum how much detail you go into the cut the kid is probably not asking for that much detail I once at one of my own children I think it was six years old asked me so so how did her mommy become pregnant right now I could have gone into oh my gosh I can't believe six years old oh oh no no I could get all lying anxious but I I think gave me the the you shoved us at the moment I said that's an excellent question come over here I'll show you and I pulled out Mishnah Anita I said when we get to the machine eyes I'm gonna learn this in the sector over here we're going to learn much more detail it's all there and what was so interesting to me is the kid was not interested in the detail just to want to know the information exists and that that was enough to satisfy him now he was a bit old and would ask for more information so I can go into a Marshall planting a seed in the ground and it grows into a tree that gives fruits etc so you plant a seed into the issue and it becomes a child etc but the amount of information the kid actually needs is very very little just the kids want to know the answers exist when we shy away especially in this generation we are actually inviting the street to educate our kids and Tyriq mitzvahs can take care of that because when children grow up realizing the Torah is not silent on anything and it's not ashamed and not afraid to talk about anything and that becomes the the best place for parents to be the ones to tickets about sensitivity issues and not get it from the bathroom or a roommate later on or on the bunk in in in summer camp yes ma'am excellent question so let's figure this out together doing kindness to another person which which one or several of the mitzvahs might not be okay the doctor is doing credit excellent giving massa okay the agricultural tides it has said it's sustaining different parts of the of the of the commune of the community the Lavi em the clay Hannam the poor mice irani the Halak did with rap-up excellent we have a mitzvah to go in a cottage bar whose ways and to emulate a cottage bahu so because he's going walk has said when we're doing has hit women crime that Mitzvah any others sorry vicar caelum excellent there are the record car my car I want her sit down to me when I need it so I'm fulfilling the midst of after working on mocha so actually you won't find once one particular Mitzvah per se but you'll find several and this we do with the children sometimes will I will actually ask them how many tag missus can you find in this parsec remember I don't remember Jewish molly was in in them with Rabbi Pliner and we were learning a lot oldest gnarrk gnarrk gnarrk it's a dictum hybrid or a sub it's a yellow key miss Hollis nya and Schmuel a shiner popped up when we asked the question how many tag misses are there here and he started listing off he I think he listed off six total in the end the Harlock to bedrock of your going in our shames ways because he's at arctic of his asada he probably had a versus Shem oh and Here I am she got three right there Aladar big boy to be dark talk collar Sparkle now Tom him is not one of the hangman's was in Rambam but in safe Anna radium and run bond they do count it so tom antion okay oh no it was a Tom C start you start looking at a park where on initial glance you'd say the there are only three mitzvahs of terry argue in the whole of gracious and there's no non Ania so there antenna here but but when you're looking carefully realized the tower is screaming out live my Mitzvahs it's in every single path up [Music]