Rabbi Ilan Meirov - Night of Inspiration (In Memory of Israel Ben Margarita)

everyone you know it's uh it's a festive time of the year but we're here to commemorate the life of a young friend of ours that passed away not too long ago there are no eulogies during the time period so we're gonna try to give a shield in his memory for his so we could all grow together Israel Israel Ben margarita foreign you know I'm missile throughout the generations has always had enemies we're not short on having enemies because every generation we have people that want to knock us out however you should know the two types of enemies that we have one is represented by the holiday of Hanukkah what is represented by the holiday of Purim so let's see what was haman's mission Haman basically said you're Jewish you're dead I don't care if you're asking us your Persian bukhari in theory and if you're Hasidic if you have Jewish blood you're dead even if you went off the path of Judaism you're anti-judaism but your Jewish you're dead that's how Haman operated similar to Hitler Maximo then you have the story of Hanukkah the Greeks I'm always their philosophy listen your Jewish no problem but stop with all these rituals you know stop it is trillion and stop with the Shabbat and kosher you know and make family enough enough just come join us even though marry with us let's have quote unquote but you don't have to deal with all your nuances when it comes to your religion now the Greeks eventually forces upon us and it causes tremendous tremendous suffering but how do they start this whole process I want you guys to understand how they started it you know they made a very simple decree back then no one had cars obviously you had uh animals ox and you had to engrave on the Horn of the ox and we don't believe in God that was the law imagine you had a law here in America we have to put a bumper sticker we don't believe in God at every car that was the law that they made we don't believe in Hashem now why do they make such a law so there's two reasons they're trying to influence two segments of our population number one the adults you see back then everyone worked the field agriculture was a very big uh business back then so imagine you're working your land and you're plowing and you're working hard and you're sweating and you're struggling financially and as you're there on the ground you look up and you see your animal and it says there is no God you know what happens to you in your mind yeah where is God why is he not there why am I struggling so much why am I having a hard time making a dollar so you start having doubts very simple then there's another reason they're trying to do this the Greeks they made this decree because of the trolling how is that yo today for any of you that have children the baby bottles are very expensive right you have adlington this company that company right I see a few guys nodding their heads you know what you're talking about so now back then they didn't have this how did the babies drink their head the horns of these animals they were carved out chiseled properly make sure and then the water or the milk will be dripping through these horns to the Cheval so imagine the baby is one two years old drinking from the horn and what does it saying we don't believe in God so the Greeks wanted the adults to see it and the kid to see it that's one simple question guys adults I see how they're influenced you know you're working hard you're sweating your head off you're trying to break even at the end of the month you're struggling you start having question marks when you see that sign no God here where he's got it but a baby when's the last time you saw one or two year old baby knows how to read anyone over here so what were the Greeks thinking how are they influence their children if they can't even read in the first place I want to share with you a few very strong foundations about life tonight to do so I want to tell you guys the story of yourself just a review where we're reading the Torah but just empathetic who knows how old is Joseph when his life started unraveling before him he was 17 years old now think about his own Brothers tried killing him think for a moment your own siblings are trying to kill you Adventure you're sold as a slave and you find yourself in a foreign country in Egypt now today if you're stuck in a foreign country you have you know WhatsApp you have social media to try to reach your family and friends the fact that he didn't have any of this so he has no parents no siblings no family no Community he's in a place where he knows absolutely no one and once he starts getting settled in what happens to him he gets framed he gets framed he gets put in prison on false charges now guys how long was he in prison for 12 years 12 years thinking of in the age of 17 to 29 he was in prison for not it's one thing if he did something maybe he made some money on his side nothing he didn't do anything wrong he was in prison at false charges when he came out was he suicidal was he depressed what happened with him he came at a hundred percent in control of his mind today you take away a 17 year old's phone for for an hour he gets suicide on the breast right here we're talking about a guy that was in prison for over a decade and he came out 100 wrong how's that possible does it make sense all of us go through challenges in life how do we overcome these challenges so you see when I was younger I used to pray at a synagogue with many Holocaust Survivors we think about the greatest tragedy that we've had over the past Century or two the Holocaust is definitely did murdering so many men women and children six million people you know what that is survivors they're still alive today they could tell over the story to keep the memory alive and make us appreciate the kind of life that we have today now imagine for a moment there's a holocaust Survivor that is that a wedding for his granddaughter he's at a beautiful wedding hall and he's sitting there at the khupa just think for a moment and everyone walks in you know different family members the little children the tallied boy the ring boy whatever maybe the people have today and as this is happening he starts thinking about what happened to his family in Nazi Germany he's thinking about how he saw with his own eyes his brother being murdered by the Nazis how he saw his own eyes then burning down his his business he's thinking about how his parents were tortured I asked you guys right now where is he located this this old man is he at the wedding or is he backing out to Germany he's physically at the wedding but he's not in Germany there's a rule you are where your thoughts are I'm giving a class over here I hope you guys are all paying attention that is not in your heads but it could be that one or two of you as I'm speaking of thinking about you know I gotta have a good trauma after this and you already imagine yourself in the true Army store so you might be sitting here in this room but you're really aware you're having a drama right now because you are what your thoughts are how many guys are married yeah you're married let me go out with your wife and she complains you don't spend time with her you're not a video that way no one knows who this is who I'm talking to but it happens sometimes right the guy takes out his wife to a restaurant and he goes down to 170 11 takes me out no way like why would why would they say that mother just like the chicken doesn't get you angry why would women say that because it's very common the guy takes his wife at the restaurant but while he's there you know he's on his phone he's looking at text messages checking up the score checking up his stocks answering emails looking at the so you're with your wife but you're not with your wife the idea is you are where your thoughts are and we can have this example in many areas of life so here we have yourself as a dick who was in prison doesn't have to live his life with the utmost if Hashem put me in a certain situation he'll give me the strength to overcome the situation so here he is no father no mother no siblings no community in a foreign country in a rattle over prison and he's there for over a decade and he was positive every single day I'm gonna make the best of this situation that was yourself's mindset and every day in prison positive to show you how positive he was you know there were two other people that eventually joined him in the prison cell who were they the Baker and the butler the two other people a guy that was a baker local uh uh uh uh Bakery but also served the king and also about the guy that was serving the wine they were put in prison these guys one night had a dream they woke up in the morning all shaking up nervous about the dream see yourself why do you look so sad today the commentators asked what do you mean why they said they're in a rat hole for prison why would they not be said they're not sitting in a hotel right they're in the prison cell so why is yourself asking why are you so sad it's quite obvious why they said look what the commentaries point out you know yourself ask them why you said today today implying what every other day they were not sad they were actually happy yourself was so positive that the Baker and the butler every day were positive in prison the only time they got sad as well because they had a bad dream otherwise they were so positive who brought the positivity just said about the positivity he was able to convert to prison cell into a quote-unquote chill place I said put me here I'll make the best of the situation guys how many of you know the story of lagbao milk what happened like bone Mill you know during that time period the custom among Jewish communities not to get married from Passover right from Pennsylvania people don't take haircuts right they're different Customs that people have comes along like boom everyone says celebrating so what exactly happened why were we mourning for those uh few weeks what exactly happened who got me out well they keep a story anyone knows beautiful had 24 000 students that died came along like ball man what happened they stopped dying so I want to ask you guys a very simple question how many students did Robert Kiva have 24 000. all 24 000 died there's no one else to stop dying yeah imagine someone over here has 10 million dollars in his bank account okay every day you lose 200 Grand so the first day 200 Grand second day 200 Grand 30 by the 50 lost a million dollars you work your way up after a few weeks that lasts 200 000 you wake up gun you open up your bank statement zero the next morning you wake up you lost nothing would you celebrate there's nothing to celebrate nothing to lose so here we are Jewish people celebrating that his students stop dying well we're just looking for a reason to celebrate there's no one else to die Ellie you hear the question listen very carefully what I say just tell us so what are we celebrating that day that he lost his last student maybe Akiva got five new students now let this sink in for a moment here we have a person that had 24 000 students and now he gets five new students we make a whole celebration on this doesn't make any sense to you imagine University thousands of students and all them protest and leave the school they all leave the school the dance is zero Monday morning you have five people coming in to register is that a cause of Celebration Ellie honestly yeah because you're still getting a plus you're still getting what it's not a negative it's a plus he said you have something but let me ask you a question let's make it more personal let's just say you have 50 000 followers and tomorrow someone that boom you're down to zero followers and then me and this guy and that guy we got five new followers are you gonna be happy now I mean I hope you say it honestly what yeah I'll be tight too what does type mean I'm assuming is that a good thing to be very upset right so that dude what type of followers are upset we're talking about students right pretty frustrating so so what is the celebration here you got five I want you guys to hear what the answer for this question is you know we lost a friend over here Israel was a good friend of ours young man how was he when he passed away it's getting 31 years old he had a whole life ahead of him that's one loss a big loss maybe people lost twenty four thousand people the average person after having such a devastating loss you know what he would say I quit my job I'm not going to teach Torah anymore I wouldn't be around I'm a failure let me go maybe drive be an Uber driver let me work a 47th Street then be a barber let me be accounted a lawyer but maybe I shouldn't be teaching July anymore did not let his mind destroy him he said what happened happened I'm moving forward I'm gonna move forward and he got five new students and those five all the Torah we have today because of those five could you imagine have you given up I guess who one of those five was who was the famous person of black Bama what's his story back then there's a freedom of speech he still got against the Roman government they put up wanted signs they put his picture all over town find him you got yourself a nice uh prize and you have to hide in a cave for over 10 years he hid in the cave for 10 plus years did he come out the Press did he come out but I came out 100 in control he ordered the most capitalistic book we have today the foundation of Kabbalah was authored by him a man that was in the cave for 10 years power of the Mind ladies and gentlemen this is the power of the Mind foreign history that people fall and with the power of them able to get themselves back up but it's even more than that you know scientific studies show you that if you have two guys with the same disease you have a and b both diagnosed with the same disease both in the same age bracket both wait same thing everything's the same with the two of them now one of them says you know what I'm going to overcome this that's not a shame I'll do all the treatments I'll do this I'll do that and the other guy says I'm gonna die my life is over that they both have the same exact disease and have the same treatment who has a greater chance of survival the guy with a positive mind you have positivity you're exuding positivity to all your entire body we don't realize how powerful it is in fact you know the placebo effect it's the same case like you mentioned two people having the same disease for example and you give one person actual medicine the other one you just give like Tylenol something like that and so one guy gets real medicine one guy gets a placebo gets a sugar pill right nothing bad you have 10 guys with a headache five get real medicine five get up placebo you know how they all feel afterwards are more unbelievable give me more of these right but you got nothing he got nothing the answer is because he thought he got something therefore what his mind sends a signal you should be feeling good in a few minutes if anyone that has a little child at home if your child ever Falls and he gets a little boo-boo what do you have to do get the kids where exact location that has the Booboo right I tried one of my kids once he fell down he got a little uh bump over here he starts crying on a couple of gun where did you fly he points here I kiss him here no no but not there and they're kissing me no not there he stops no what did my kiss really help him out psychologically he's trying to think that's a healing uh method power of the mind power them will not power whatever you want to call it how you could control I just truly I'm talking about adults as well when you have a positive outlook it could change everything you don't realize how powerful you really are be positive people always complaining try to be positive I know everyone has their own struggles financially Shalom bite government Health all these problems the real problems no one's belittling it but a person could take their approach and let me just destroy myself or say let me build myself up again let's get back to the incident so the Greeks made a decree we don't believe in God on the Horn of the of the animal to be sad it makes sense why an adult could be affected but what about children I want you guys to understand everything a child hears or sees has a tremendous impact on that child tells the parents all the time you keep it screaming at your wife screaming at you nah my child only two he doesn't understand trust me he's in the shall understands they're cursing at each other you don't realize how it's affecting the Greeks understood that even if you just put the words in appropriate words we don't believe in God in front of a child it affects him some may somehow can affect him the subconscious Minds you know I'll give you guys an example show you how powerful your mind really is you know you have a person jogging in uh Central Park suddenly someone comes from behind knocks them to the ground right smother him or her they robbed whatever they have and they run away the next morning you see signs up and the street wanted there's a sketch of this person that mugged this individual okay a few days later the guy's Quan you see the mug shot of him you see the real picture and you see the sketch like wow Perfect Details the person that was mugged described every scar every birthmark every detail of the mugger how's that possible huh no it doesn't the worst memory this is not positive thing what you're jogging and someone comes and knocks you from behind all you need is as you're falling a split second you see the person's face right before he Smothers you and punches you in the face and you're knocked out that Split Second is enough for the professionals to take you back to that moment they take you back to that moment and you're able to describe everything because everything is in your subconscious you know you're sitting in this room right now who can I choose if you're what's your name David David can I choose your tattoos in Iran Iran is ah David close your eyes for a second okay see you next series Daniel right what color hat is he wearing baseball cap everyone knows that that's his uh it's his brand name that's his brand color right but if you would describe his shirt that he's wearing under his leather coat what is the what kind of shirt is he wearing black shirt was it standing shirt did you talk to him today you didn't talk to him today you should know anyone you talk to anyone you see every detail of that person is in your memory bank most of the time you don't remember because we don't care it's insignificant to us but there is a clock of retrieving that memory when necessary so in reality in the perfect world I should close my eyes and describe every single person what they're wearing today because it's insignificant to me I don't care but there's some ladies you know when you go to a wedding they remember who everyone what they were how they wore there didn't you wear this six months ago at the other party you know they remember every detail because maybe it's important to her and there's some guys when it comes to watches whatever is important you remember but everything you have isn't made everything you see is in your memory bank so the Greeks understood you want to mess with the Jewish way of life teach your kids in a young age is no Hashem think about that's what happened today in the public school system at the age of four five six take these little kids contaminate their mind with all these ideologies so they're confused about who they are what they are and then when they're older and they try to teach them a little bit about their Heritage like well you're fanatic they think you're fanatical because they've been taught a certain way this is this is the way to get to people get them from a young age is all about telling us foreign and look The Maccabees were outnumbered big time you told me they had a whole Army of Greeks and they had a few guys some tough guys like over here you know strong guys but I want to see you guys start up with the whole Army but they had it's just you have your back focusing right they have you have people that had a Muna they had their immunizing and they said we're going all the way over time I told you guys what I'm telling you is that in life as many times you guys want to make changes you know at times you're inspired to change a few of the guys told me after they lost Israel to Rabbi we want to change by Kent it's not in my hands I can't change like why can't you change I I just can't my life I'm already 30 I'm 40. I can't change anything you don't realize if there is a will there is a way I mentioned before how was he when he learned out of bed 40 years old most of you guys are under 40 years old over here that means if you're if you already know out of bed you're ahead of Herbie Akiva if you already know out of bed you had a baby Akiva because he went to sit down when I was bad at the age of 40. but there's a rule if there is a will there is a way if you want another type nothing can stop you nothing can stop you nothing could could you could only stop yourself I know some of you guys are friends with him and also with Joseph and Angela I want to share an idea I said over at his at his memorial a couple of months ago I told over to his friends as follows you know in Hebrew how did we say person Daniel how do you say it Adam now what other word in Hebrew sounds like Adam you sound American you just changed from Madame to Adam I said well the word in Hebrew damn very good what else very good Adam Adam right Adam I mean right eat a banana now Adam that means we're called Earth ground that means when we say you're Adam it means what you're now why we call Earth let's go who got me at why we call Earth yes Sonic in the back oh he's telling us because the first man Adam was created from the Earth he had no mother and father he was the first man in creation he was created from the earth his wife was created from him and everyone else came from a father and a mother for one second where's he in the summer from where's your soul from your soul is from somebody from heaven Savvy body over here every single one of us is comprised of two bites you have a physical and spiritual your body is a physical in this I'm out of the spiritual the soul so the body origin came from the Earth the soul came from the heavens why we call the earth when I call us heaven why we call it Adam which means Earth why not call this heaven hear the question yeah you follow the question what do you say what's the answer give me a good no come on what do you say let's go anyone oh so Daniel is telling us in a very tough fashion I was like the way he did it he has his hand like this because he's gonna end up in the dirt right and that's true so Daddy was telling us because Adam Earth because the first man came from the Earth and all the other men are going to be going back to the Earth but Daniel it's not like a little depressing have to know I'm at him I'm going back to the Earth why not give me a look dude look at the summer goes back to your mind right why not a more loftier statement now the truth is you're right your reasoning is 100 true it's a reminder don't be such a haughty person don't be a big shot because every single one of us is ending up in the same place so have humility help people out don't insult people listen don't think you're all that it's here to Humble us I agree with you 100 but another reason why we call Adam which means the Earth and I want you guys to hear this anyone who has a has a backyard where you plant anything yeah what are you plant grapes anyone else what are you plant what do you plant nothing you have no you haven't planted the flowers roses what's going on cucumbers tomatoes huh flowers okay we're calling sit here Daniel about Hashem plant flowers right let me ask you what's the key to get that final product what's the process let's go help me out you gotta plow the land you gotta plant the seeds constantly water it and what exposure to the sun right four-step process plow blunt water and sunlight now imagine you plow you plant the seeds but you don't want to give water every day the point of Earth has to drink water every day so Sunday you give water Monday you get some chocolate milk Twitter give some uh beer when they give you know vodka is it going to help you get the final product obviously not right but what if no Batman you really give water every day but you wear you know a real hardcore it's a fight of Judy over here and you're scared of einella so you don't want your neighbor to see what you're planting over there so you put a nice Persian rug over your Earth are you gonna have a final product obviously not in order to have the final product what's the process you gotta have plowing planting watering and sunlight now the other flowers tomorrow morning obviously not depending on what you're planning you take weeks months maybe a year or two or three but there's a process Hashem says you called the Earth you know why just like the Earth your bundle of potential in life you got to work hard you gotta plow so you got to plant your seeds what are your values where do you want to see yourself in a few months in a couple of years what are you planting you gotta constantly water it and you got to make sure you have the exposure to the right people are you going to become exotic overnight obviously not but when you take this classes of working hard at planting those seeds I'm kind of watering and being around the right crowd eventually you're going to spread into something special I'm not just talking about religion the Community Education in business in every area of life life you gotta work there's no shortcuts in life no shortcuts you gotta work and this is a message it's all in your mind if you want to do something you will succeed if you want to choose a path you will succeed some people say Rabbi it's impossible for me to work feeling every day not possible bye-bye for me forget about kosher if you want you could do it it's not so difficult it might be a little harder in the beginning it's taking you out of your your normal comfort zone but once you start doing it you're feeling good about yourself so we'll tell you the best thing we could do for Israel's memory is it strikes being in control of our mind you control what you want to do in life I always tell the guys that we have how many parts of the neshama let's go you know what you look like a big capitalist huh how many parts are in the Shabba five three fives anyone else three or five Ellie you wanna take a guess I was joking about the people leaving here I said don't worry about it you look like you're disturbed so how much you say eight eight so we have actually five primary part five primary parts of the genre five primary or what I'll tell you what they are you have which is associated with your brain associated with your emotions Netflix associated with your live with your actions then you have tourists around you like your aura so there's three that you constantly using all day long thought emotion action you guys drive you driving the highway yes what's your name again Elon beautiful name so listen carefully Eli you're driving on a highway and someone says honking at you so it's cursing at you and cuts you off what's going on in your system let's go nothing he's chill he lets the guy go yeah do we have with your friends so one second what's the name over there the guy right next to you hey time no what are you doing what happens in such a situation you're driving in the highway someone's hugs of you looks at you cursed at you Cuts you off what says automatic oh that's his automatic so he has roadridge well he used to have road rage hopefully you're not gonna do it from now on now why is that because naturally the first thing that kicks in is what hey time is your emotion now if you're a person with a purpose in life you have a family you have a job you have a goal then your intellect says yo chill let this Hummel go and you just drive safely to succeed in life ladies and gentlemen you gotta make sure that your intellect controls your emotions once you let your emotions in control you're done road rage fighting with your husband with your wife beating up your kids whatever it is why because you don't control yourself guys is in control you guys are all going to be successful in life but if you let your emotions being controlled you won't be successful so one thing tonight I want you guys to go home with is to realize your potential you're going to have frustrating situations you're gonna have challenges in life do you give up or do you get stronger we learn from the story of yourself you had the potential to overcome any challenge yourself was in prison for 12 years for over a decade for over a decade trust me for those of you who are married that can't see their mother-in-law you can go to your mother-in-law for somebody that's gonna happen you know you can go see your brother more your sister want nothing's gonna happen I can't sit at the same room with them like the Batman says how many people there I can't be in the same room cut it out stop creating scenarios and making things worse than they are sent me live a good life we're all going to have challenges but look at the good that you have and when you have the challenges first of all you have rabbis you have Rapids you have you have friends that you could talk to never keep things to yourself foreign do for yourself because one day after 120 we're also gonna have to go there take upon yourself one extra mitzvah one extra thing men and women both of you figure it out what you have to work on either to hold back from an Avera or do an accident and when you do it you say but really do it for yourself I just bring him but him is a little bit motivation for you and I hope and pray because that we could take this message to Heart to realize the power of our minds to never give up in life to always be strong to always try to overcome the challenges never be scared of taking on a new Mitzvah to fight off everything one of you should be blessed it says you should have the inner the inner strength to overcome the challenges in life should make all the right decisions and we should take upon says