Rabbi Eytan Feiner at Sefira Conf 2012

coming back but wanting to this past week's Marshall that said the partial software most work to pass close okay statements foreign seven to three Cardinal Alvarez of uh hashems rocks and ears I want you to live I want you to thrive within this is writes the famous conster robo what are we going to take out what are we to infer from the grocery that when you perform the ninja I want you to live by them don't do them don't before them in a monogamous fashion rights the clocks Coronas that's how I want you to perform them with the hips with a dynamism with an excitement with an enthusiasm like a schmuck me Saul let me just carry it on my whole life it's got me with the Shema that's with ahias that's doubleu Ates for us various methods of Performing the mississaugurate you can have a person rights they're on bond who is doing it is doing that with the intent he just wants to get sorry he wants to reap the benefits they're all he wants to get the reward in and out English is silk already tell us so granted that's not the ideal Rodrigo but it's still my trigger nonetheless it's not cool with the same but the qamar tells us and broke us about the assignment now look we have it in your place this brings it down they call himself see even if it is immunity it's not the ideal the optimal utopian State Foreign I'll give you exactly what you want my dragon number three is someone who serves the boreola I'm assuming the English term because you'll love him foreign delineates and what he labels of the title of the gashnian that you make no employees the material of a mundane materialistic world around you your mama if you're about then you make no one void you subjugate to the last few questions these people went up alive it's got even parenthetically it's a big Distortion Elio Nami for example is his wife as his wife allowed to get remarried it's a big discussion does he have to get remarried to his original life based dragon to serve up another squirrels well not just because you're afraid of punishments and not just because you love the English don't look to serving with all of you with all of your goshening with every hand of the ghost with you you die if you're replying and you're about all the Health Care Group you subjugate them you make them subservients in a higher more elevated Realms of The Rook name then you're so good to be Memphis okay look at it because there is no need for the heaven there's no need for the decomposition of the body in the Gravely and you made it you transformed that's the highest country so amount here has delineated he's sketched for us foreign what if I'm not thinking about anything what if I'm just doing an insulin like the W admonishes and it's a social model I'm not thinking anything I'm just sounds like doing a Mitzvah it's even a discussion by Ramon what if eating them on you know that the man was colon accomplished they were in The Heavenly Man up and it comes throughout every taste imaginable to mankind you wanted a statement or a pizza dinner whatever you wanted you had in the month now you don't have your rights in the neighborhood the same quality was characteristic of the Irish any drink you wanted he wanted a water or seltzer a an orange juice you want a Diet Coke you wanted a grasshopper whatever you wanted it was all there it'd be better submarium so you can have power should unbelievable pseudo if you want a piece of prime rib with a nice uh succulent juicy rib steak and you want the mushroom sauce delicious and you want a nice drink what if you didn't think about anything that's why everything sweet in the tower is always sunny why do you think husbands hold their eyes honey because the lashes came out to 306 and he shows 306. no taste at all because you have to always be thinking and you just actively be thinking about something right Beyond in the label what do you see what are you in person about there are various Amore the greatest you go down the ladder down the roads and when you have hours of sudden you go down you have years and then you go down to doing the Menses Style mama has to come across in order to reap the benefits of the world together what if you're not thinking anything it's not even there gotta be thinking you can't do it there with me so oh it's like a person he's dead he's not thinking it's not alive you got to always use the brain the scene of the end of life you have to always you're missing something so of course in okay it's charmains an old discussion it's a sweetness Cabana but a component to really be immensely you got me thinking so Highway do those visits in a fashion of cynical obligation and when we talk about this morning the Quest for an inspiring exciting family Dynamic but that's how it is you gotta bring excitement into the home you gotta bring enthusiasm and energy into the home so yes many psychologists Will Champion their Guild always has music in the hall have music or a young moment reads and I'll be outside I'll be wrote oh joy through the three weeks acapellas and look there's an outlooking without getting into that Holy robots that we know it's a good thing in general to sit down at the house music and always read all the answers you have to come into a Helm that always has to be a suit Club there was a time and once traveling and they were leaving yeshiva's Cultura heading back to Sharika lived to accompany him tonight on the way back to his house she's shopping with a towel within five minutes before they get to the vicinity of Charlotte pulls out a piece of cake of chocolate cake he had a rabbit and aluminum foil a nice fishmark a piece of chocolate cake and he unwraps in front of the town and the Talman says I don't understand probably you're gonna be home for dinner for five minutes foreign because right now I'm very hungry and if I knock on the door and I entered into my home you know what's gonna happen on another girl because I'm a little bit hungry and when you're hungry you get irritated a little bit then what if I see something in the house that I don't like I wonder if there's something that rubs me the wrong way I get slightly perturbed this way I know if I'm gonna walk in on a full stomach I'm going to always make them for dinner there's always room for dinner for dessert at least but at least I'll have myself okay and I go into the house with a smile and I'll be smiling when I walk into my house I says okay not something everyone he's smiling about look and he says goodbye to the tablet yes I heard the story from another town she said and I'm sure there was a lot of cake in the house and I'm sure Shawn was element even if he didn't eat that piece of cake and think it's difficult for the hamburger and put on a smile he wouldn't even have to feed a sense of Happiness he doesn't have to put on any false facade or someone would automatically would walk into the house and of course he'd have a smile to Grievous Asian style shops with your personal base I'm abusing the Old MacDonald this is his body excuse sweeter than honey if you think he has to eat the pizza chocolate cake up on them so why did he because of that time I needed to see the lesson because you know that that topic was having confidence that he would come home slightly irritated and he'd say where's my dinner and touches he won that talent to know that when you go home you better eat the joke okay eat something before you go into the house and he wouldn't look at the lesson he would believe that all important message for someone himself something so we have to create an exciting Dynamic environment in that bias but it's going to start with an excitement enthusiasmine wow we have a beautiful porch but it's up safer it's one of my favorites outside first I've said it over in the past at different venues it appears in the sacred egress so from a collection of letters from the anger of the silk from his Focus it's also in some additions at the end of the groceries it sounds like Fair all right stick sounds safer soon of some sacred swallows in letter number 18 of the igorithm and the section of writings of the subsection oh he says I'm altered by a very perplexing governor the Commodore tells us in a sentence I see them so are you who know and the future reference was going to be learning Torah and the tortillas in the theaters and services are going to be disseminating promulgating the study of Tyrone we're going to go into the theaters and services into the stadium tomorrow since we're going in where are we going and we're going into the place where the Rangers play with the next play we're going at the Maxis we're going to press and now we're going to the Giants and a city feel for internet uh can they see them all like what do we see is there any is there any lion the abundance and the prevalent the yeshivas and what they can see us all over the world you know we're going to be about the time now and we're going to be learning in the theaters and the circuses of the guide he says this is where the Jews are going to be learning Torah what's the point six I'm sorry forever so beautifully all right stay here which is I'm sorry for you know what we're going to be missing an accuracy everyone says more than ever before it's come up with you she was opening up and seminaries opening up left and right and we have more shoes and more Steve buckets Commodities so what's missing because she helps to come around and wants fishing missing you know what's the fishing well it's still sore me lacking right so he looks up safe for is we're missing the excitement the labor that could take because she might be enthusiasm to type of learning yes people learning it's great and they know we're making kindness is the air that we breathe before they and a lot of Lake of all the rights and on the shore and hammock I live this is the starting point you have to recognize you have to be fully calculated this is the air the oxygen that we breathe and well finally we have nothing there borders secure economy available what are we missing we're missing the verb the dynamism the energy the excitement enthusiastic you know what I want you to do I want you to go into the theaters and the stadium so they're going I want you to go with a New York display when the New York Rangers play and I want you to think for a second about how much money and time you're going you are wasting thinking about your tickets for 100 150 250 500 for the VIP seats and they're going to wait online for Broadway shows and they're going to make it online you can't just go to that small camera you have to go for dinner tonight fancy restaurant and you're gonna make a dinner then you got to go away you got to go around the hotel it's maybe a merry MIT you got to go out for a drink afterwards to hold it and it's a light and then the monkey forget it the pumpkin is almost as much as the ticket and then all the time and all the energy the traffic in the city but it doesn't bother us those of us they go through a Giants game and a wonderful game when people go to G and sit in traffic but do three hours there two three hours on the way back and you're sitting in squash before and your team might even lose I was once on the way how to throw I was being driven to Newark Airport I was copying your shoes with the taxi driver 162 games I travel when the Yankees wherever they go when I come and see every week I said I'm sure I said do you have a wife and you matter you know she can't stand me I said oh gee I can't imagine I can't imagine I don't know I mean trouble for watching the New York Yankees huh it's a hell of them I mean I remember the last numbers at a baseball game was so many years ago I don't even remember the game but what I remember is that it was in a hole in my face that was one of these family trips we didn't care to go in baseball you got to find something to do and everyone's filling up Liberty Science Center in the Bronx Zoo and they broke a botanical gardens they gotta find something to do so of course somebody you're not in New York Yankees can't call on my face you could hear matzah mulching in the ground everyone's munching on a matzo known as a patient but they have a good one was watching on a monster has sitting right behind me and I was so impressed because he was reading something the whole time and he had some headphones on and I'm so impressed I said only because Mom was reading a safe room between pitches and he sees listening to a sheer mustumber in between earrings the system only and when there was a break I turned around I said rebir and I said I just want to give you a grocery store there's an amazing thing I'm at a baseball game you're reading a safer and you're listening to received on this is still open he says don't tell me he saw the cops close this is actually one of the program thanks for the game when I'm listening to the CBS play-by-play okay hvh there's some people their mama's so into it something you see how much time and money and energy is expended for what the baseball games for hockey games for Broadway shows for the theater for Lord for sure does anyone even know who won the World Series five years ago who will understand the earth oh look at the money and the time and the energy that's expended so big stop so far unfortunately something but they put in such time and such money and such energy for what movies the theaters for the Ringling Brothers abominable Valley circus to watch people being shot in the Cannons For What and this is what they make money for then a lot has come upon the worst hour excitement for the toront where's alimony going are we willing to spend money how many times are you shopping for storming out to Thrill and your window guys still here when he got a living and Associates at a storm 60 seconds 60 Seconds this week actually the rabbi's worst problem I thought the show was too crowded but all of them she tells us okay okay about how many times are we waiting online for a share or things aren't running a schedule that we had and they're asking us to spend money all of a sudden that money perugoly and sweetie you're kidding something sounds safer why are you not learning that pushing a couple hundred if we spend so much time energy and money for mundane materialistic Pursuits a lot of us come and come but why can't we learn the lesson and apply that the time went to this hey Mr says that's what's missing is ever before but are they learning with a bread with an excitement with an H they want such a small bar nouns on salvation you can be deserving a Visa I asked Tysons to pay his counselors Consciousness official they said well wholly accept the thyroid willingly will receive the thyroid massive nishma so why the knee why the necessity accomplished places because they were afraid when there was an age there was an age October there was a fire so the fire that surrounded mount harsino I have an easy solution take away the fire give them nothing to fear and then you don't have the necessity for complain about taking us because a tiger without anxious is Kentucky you can't give a title Without fire because the fire is there demonstrating it's got to be with a brand it's got to be with enthusiastic with an excitement you have to be able to learn when you're doing the Memphis Hashem you've got to be on fire it's got to be exciting it's going to be leaving it we have a famous quality the Lord says that he was talking to 80 disciples foreign how great to see every time he was learning colloquiao and he burned that fool overhead instantly it was consumed by a fight sarashi says on the spot is made in a fire they were so enthralled and so taken by the tyrog episode they also wanted to be a part they also wanted to listen so they came down the Angels themselves are made out of fire and made on a fire they came down to listen to may love the word book was burnt up I mean that's not the way that Texas learns based on them others most of them of course them understand that it was the silhou that he brought down to bring up the words of hello and says got a plan yeah I don't know Utica says hey who's going to clean up the mess well done I had different approaches to the camera but the pasture is that it was such a success rights off if you can tap into that co-op in the suicide that's what the universe the same way the market are from rights I have talked sorry there's four reasons of course then anyone who speaks up Allah you know coffee breaks Etc I don't know every single second but we have a minute the only way we can be shocked to be my probably a turtle we can make ourselves worthy receptacles of absorbing the type of first and foremost we soaked entirely die that we go to sleep in a number of places then we have to go to sleep to be certified the girl used to tell us to get cautious during the day go to sleep a night of them are welcome are going to come and they're going to tell you answers and in all of your dreams and after we have worried about the attention to me I could be marvelous he authored the whole world from an angel in the middle of the dreams people get a mesh up my rights he says celebrate I slam God we have to celebrate it what do we celebrate your mouth we celebrate a sea of our shots we celebrated Russia we celebrate on this front could have gone from singing in my head and Christ have been someone with clapping or singing We're dancing together for what the rules somebody told me that the last name of shots they met an African-American also I'll buy the SEMA shots and he says you know I'm thinking about converting to Judaism our world he says I never saw anything like this they're dancing they're not strobe lights there's nobody playing electric guitars on stage nobody getting slammed dogs or ice hockey goals and steal these Jews personally couldn't believe that thirty thousand Jews are saying anything together for 10 minutes and nobody was saying a word now we can only thirty thousand jokes and everything was quiet that was itself an amazing thing nobody was saying the Lord Joseph told me they couldn't believe it but then that they were dancing sing for what to tell you right that's the brooklyness that's the enjoyment that they have that something is what I want you to take out of the theaters and services of the guide and that brings us to a comments time as well the very first piece of pastures sends a message brothers and screens brother ASAP and he says that he saw and long in the darkness of Russia I was evil waves so everyone's bothered by the castle what are the quotes about it for slavery many of the proportion of other ones that what's he heading home this is evil ways and if you didn't fulfill the Titans that you should know by yourself below among him I said no I didn't learn from the nefarious evil ways of Allah and it is secret little games and switches in such a game to have me so excited and he spends money anything from money anything for fame and fortune and beat those old fans can become a white kid and I learned from him I should have learned from his mice and my Royal that all the energy of Magnus and enthusiasm that he puts into his mind to ruin I should have believed that message I should have borrowed that message I assuming so let me put that in time to my learning for all the atrocities and all the calamities everything that they did easily the Jewish people and the nations of the world speak up trying to defend themselves we reaches at Road highways and bad masses we did all this stuff their referred Souls only we did this for the year we didn't do it for us ask them something what are they trying to pull the first one in the body I'll show you this world and helps here we are your tiny smoker later both employers he's here my shoulders he knows what's going on inside the heart of mind so what's up shots don't pick stuff safer they're telling people reality right we did it for ourselves but we did in the full view of the Jewish people that the units would see how much time and how much money and how much energy that we expect for wood for World Trade Center for everybody's safe all day for what now it's gonna be how the tallest building look how much money and time and energy you're right we did it for us like what we did it simultaneously in full view of the Jewish people that they should learn and say hey if we the guy you're spending so much time so much Blood Sweat and guts to see your Snapfish for this then honest I'll become away with the Jews learn from us floral from our panel and take the same time energy and money and put it into Telluride to spreading Irish that's what we're supposed to take out of Florida level in the theaters and stadiums and circuses on yesterday and also appears in here the process what's the difference between dinner deep instead of lost Lord Hashem said all this accountable they are various all the sins and evil and iniquities that we perpetrate I said that was the freshman cashmere is foreign foreign but when you do with my South theorem and Hashem says what are you going to tell me you need it to relax when you do the bicep open because you have no energy you have enough tolerant energy and looking to do the money survey right that's what I'm going to model you that's what is going to be a tail if you were able to give her my spirit welcome to channel and go back to save energy everyone I submit so that's going to be the problem that's the kitchen what is it coming upon us we have to bring that excitement enthusiasm that we have everything else in the world we have to bring that into our own which certainly is conducive to such an environment it's not only about the great total which is certainly incredibly beneficial for fostering such I guess saving and it's got to be when the children and all of you see that everyone is involved it's a whole full sensory experience now when you're doing you're keeping childish when you're keeping up if all of you is going into it every ounce of your comforts you're giving it all your guns same way we go with the dominating in the morning person goes into Downing but before he gets up in the morning says I gotta check my emails I gotta check my emails out speaking with somebody on a Friday night and this one tells me he's got to check his whole messages he's got to check his emails he's so addicted to the emails he's got to take the account before he comes and took his library before he gets up in the morning before you how do you do that yeah come on tell us a problem how do you do things before now what's accountable to listen to a beautiful emotional restriction papers was explained in a ship about Philo that sometimes people ask them why is it that they wanted to dominate the morning they showed the logos but they just couldn't concentrate they couldn't get their prognosis they couldn't get the laundry out of their mind sometimes we go to the doctor who enjoy like a kind of Illusion devices and shot bases we want to leave this world behind us they want to build us up on the base of the base yes behind them but sometimes it's very difficult notice a famous joke about two years moving goes over to shooting it says I'm telling you I know how to read people's mind I woke up this morning and I'm able to I got my psychic ability I can actually read people's minds he says yeah I don't believe you he says Ruby come to me we're gonna go to chakras this morning that I'm going to really increase one yesterday and I want you to look around and tell me what everybody's thinking so he brings them to assure people that morning and he says okay yeah yeah I did okay we got me quickly this morning okay we're gonna tell me what's he thinking about oh wow that guy's thinking he's got to get up really early the next morning he's got an important surgery o'clock in the morning everything's got another appointment with somebody later on and then he's got the medical buildings open says that's really good that's Steve you see he's a surgeon that's really impressive moving and he takes it to the next guy and he says he says oh that guy that's a litigation he's going to be in court and then this afternoon and this in the time he's got to represent this in his life says that's really impressive he says that to you though yeah he's a lawyer that's really good with me and what about that guy what he looks into the corner and his young pulling the corner and he's shuffling by the line of kindness he's not responding away and he's like I'm Gonna Keep you fighting on one corner next thing he put your hands up in the other corner and he's shuffling away and said his mama schmitzing and he looks at him he says well but only yeah he says oh everyone's thinking about everyone else in the Christmas Hill so why can't we concentrate listen to her biggest muscle and this is and he was unfortunately very destitute in another Penny to his name but he had a very wealthy cousin and one day his cousin was making a castle and he was so excited because he never had a groupie opening up this last thing he's gonna be at the old story of uh a lot of words expensive banquet and he says you know what this is going to be a schmuck I'm going to get the seven course meal one of the most fancy and expensive hotels in the city so I'm gonna fast the entire day and this way when I go I'll be able to really enjoy the smoking sport right how much can you get eight smoke is what I'm boil you know there's one's a husband and wife are smokers for the husband who loves the the cold pump cutting all the meats the meat table which open has the longest line and the husband kept going back for more but then those triples we've got drupals and finally the wife says husband he says the husband says have aren't you a little bit embarrass you go around the double shoes he says no he says I tell them what's old for you so what does he do the morning goes fine nobody knocked on his door mean well he's fasting he's getting Mighty hungry and his mouth was watering the whole day when he's wetting the appetite he's savoring the moment when he gets the plunge a person to that children's board and then the Viennese table published The Mark of the pumpish ruled for this Earth and he's getting so excited he's dancing to Joy for the morning I'll be invited him and the afternoon hours start coming along and again nobody invites him and yet he was getting very worried that it's called an invite him and finally it's already five o'clock the cousin has guessed at the start at 5 30 and yeah nobody knocks on the door no limitation came his way and he's already starting five o'clock in the afternoon he has no choice he goes into his refrigerator and all he's done is an onion all he's got is an onion but what you're going to do is I'm starving she takes out the raw onion and he cuts it at the pieces and he starts eating the onion piece by piece when he finishes the onion and he has onion breakfast in Chicago and he finishes that onion all of a sudden there's a knock in the door at 5 49 Now call the house of course everybody he's got the smorg all to himself and he wrote down he's down the big table on his side of the bubbles and the triples and they have piles up the airplane from the sushi he's got everything the fish played in a meat plate instead of being plates nobody ever eats it but it's got to be there and he got to know that it's there and he's killing on the table and he saw Steve but all of a sudden he doesn't enjoy anything because he's filled with the taste of raw onion in his mouth and everything he puts into his mouth tastes like a raw onion and he doesn't enjoy the best meal of his entire life this morning of course he's got to check his phone messages and then he's got to check his email and he's thinking about this he's having the New York Times how to check the stock quotes then it means you weren't in the Dollar Tree that means something else came in your mind everything else and now it comes into your mind they're often it's me love it's now going to be stained by that New York Times saying by those emails it's going to taste like that onion as well because you weren't charcoal it wasn't all of you into it you know what children need to say you know what a family needs to see for an inspiring exciting family Dynamic then we can mix this in the house it's not just yes you have to do with an excitement It's gotta be that all of us is involved and we're doing it all of us together I think a smart guy and we're all there together teachings he told us once he told us that when he's learning himself that you can't ask him a question in order to accept them because there will know that they need he's not holding himself does that make any sense was there there was nothing else in the world going on but how many people can say that that's a famous story of a America came home to his house one night and he saw that his house and shots was missing he comes his life he says honey where's my commodity it's the same thing about a person that goes into more technical rights and his health you think about the success in the British feeder you think about Disney World what's the whole success of a Disney Original you know people like hearing companies but they also go to the tragedies why you say what the full-fledged sensory experience because you go to a Disney you want to go into scary rides you want to go on the It's a small world we want the full pledge Adventure Land of fantasy land because they feel real to feel genuine and it's going to be all of you and all of you goes to touch you want to go to the clarity process of all the Thrills and all the scares and all the enjoyments and you package it all together that's what makes it real good when all of you is going into the Memphis you know what it means it means you got to bring a SIM card brand new lady that can hang into the house but it's got to be with once with all of you when you have to show the children you have to show yourself that we do this walk all of us and it's not just all of us it's all the closer because you're so Ravens ever said of course the one's an exciting Sean's table you want an exciting to go to the table bring in guests of all the very ingredient backgrounds all diverse backgrounds and educational religious levels bringing them all in all those all the different yogurtas all the different clothing and your shelves that they will do it's going to be exciting it's always going to be including it'll be a different Shamus every week I don't share bad news with the spouse don't bring managers into the house and stays out of the house the exciting family Dynamic can only be achieved the ickess on Heels of one has got to be walking with a smile what the exactly what that excitement has to be directed and channeled the Toyota to use like Dimensions with the brim excited and accept it that brings all the unit from Christ not to say we're going to share the experience and share this excitement of because we love them so much and we love it so much happy to keep it all to yourself like with sarcastic show rights and they can see Cosmos or if you're an interesting you want nothing more but to give the English to them and sort of that can only be achieved various all bring them into your family into your home and let's change the world ideas