Rabbi Etiel Goldvict Message for Tisha B'Av to Understand Eicha/Lamentations

[Music] Thank You rabbi for inviting me back today we just started just a few minutes ago was is rishabh is the kickoff of the nine days the days were on the Jewish calendar we start commemorating and started acting different acts of availeth of mourning in commemoration of the losses of a panicvis so I thought it would be befitting to speak here tonight to start getting us ready to torch a shout out and we Basilica that it will not be a day of mourning rather than celebration the nonetheless to still get ready because we know that colum is south allow Arusha like those have been ruined as a muscle anybody mourns over your jawline he is the one who married to see it in its Redemption so hopefully in tonight learning trying to understand a little bit about the morning of Jerusalem and how it became and how many we could overcome it so that would be dope that's a truly marriage to see the renewing of your jaw line may be ready next week we wouldn't have to sit on the floor morning empty shell Baptist one day what's fascinating is is the day of tea shop now I was just meeting with the group of students in H and I was talking to like you just imagine the Jews they left yerushalayim just under 2,000 years ago so when they left the first year they're out during exile in Rome the first few years so it makes sense they have their day of mourning the day that the temple was destroyed they're sitting on the floor in the morning but not only do that in their morning to shout out and everyone sits on the floor a fascinating sight if you've never been at the Kotel whether it's the night of or moats a fish above towards the end of disrupt insomnia is unbelievable to see the entire tree people coming in and mourning the destruction of the but just imagine the people who left miss left arable Charles and the first year they're sitting on the floor but first five years they're sitting on the floor and you know what altering the highest moment of celebration when they come over the story of the Jewish people that neither pizza what's the line that we end our state early Lycia my love to you and the highest every year Yom Kippur how do we have you Kippur listen on Bobby Rochelle I notice I can only imagine that the Romans in the first few years we're saying okay look at them they're still mourning they still saying next year you know they're laughing about it fifty years go by and they're still thinking seventy years go by a hundred years ago by the grandparents who still remember Jacob makes us are no longer with us and still the Jewish people on the day of excitement on when we say over the story they say next year in Jerusalem and then when we say Yom Kippur we blown the show from you say next year Jews are in one day here we sit on the floor and we cry when you want the destruction of the taste of the temple so under years go by they're like wow you guys are a bit nuts this nation is crazy 150 years ago five two hundred years five hundred years by now they're like you guys are off your rocker you're still saying the shut up off your shawl I'm agree and you're still sitting on the floor and morning what are you guys crazy but what happens a thousand years go by a thousand five hundred years go by and we still have the same custom when it's our moment our biggest peak when the whole family is together same over the storm to do people Yom Kippur or one day a year sitting on the floor the now 2,000 years of God man and that was last that was crazy we're still sitting on the seat because we haven't had the full redemption the last minute we're in your show we're rebuilding your rashon with our own hands we're building your ruche alive unfortunately as we've experienced this week as we experienced last week and still not usual I'm out it's still not in its full reception the puja is also a spiritual with building where we can make this world a better place and that's why it is up to us to learn tonight what brought about the destruction of the country because if we understand what brought about the destruction of the temple so then we kind of married not just the same as shown above you shall I'm agreeing not just that you know remember that your schleiden is still in our parts but they actually rejoice in the building so if you take a look at source another role you have a few sources here tonight but I wanted to show the source of inside and you're going to be throughout the night why I wanted you to see the cooking inside source number one is that you Michelle you the you shall we tell them I'm Roux called ocean no need now be a mod Malema lucky even he is people's you shall we tell us any generation that the big something fish is not rebuild in our time it says if we destroy disease which means that if the temple was around in our time it might have been destroyed as well we sometimes we like to think you know if we would have been at the time of the temple once it got destroyed we're good people but the Jewish army is telling us that we still have to take a close look inside inside personally and it's like collectively nationally what is it that we have yet to fix because if the temple is not built in our generation so then it says if it would have been destroyed so I want to take a look at what the Gemara tells us the very famous dua that tells us why the base annexation was destroyed hunger the Gemara and you want to source number - Nika - Tony shown me today muscled out the first temple why was it destroyed you need the National shibez about him schedule because of three things that happened during the first temple period da-da-da-da-da-da-da no special domain they certain idols that had inappropriate marital relationships the shield I mean they were murderers you need the Jewish people at the time even though they were wrong they were Jewish they kept most of the laws but they one another they literally were murderers the survival worshipper that inappropriate relationships and that's what brought about the destructive are continues and did a whole explanation where you seed in the verses into not that they that they have all these things that you skip to the second to last line from the bottom third to last line was about I bottom eg - Jeanine shall you looking back the wild let me go to the middle closet in the second temple the Jewish people were learning Torah they were doing kindness they had a lot of demacian and they had socks on that yet ezra villainous illyana's really under that all these extras munich asylum Ottoman territory institutions and there were full clouds that ever shines up and there was total earning everywhere and everybody was doing great things just like we're doing today they were learning Torah there were acts of Camila sauce underneath name up sorry why was it destroy meeting a shag that would be not enough because there was Xena Xena because there was jealousy there is baseless hate between the Jews I am the fascist Nazi Nazi not killing each other a lot I would as like you a logistical during which comes to teaching that baseless hate the Nazi Nam is equivalent to the three big sense of serving idols of murder of inappropriate relationship so what does this tell us today you know why the first temple was destroyed we don't necessarily feel that it applied to us we don't let say it's going in there's plenty of room here and this burning room over there okay if we own we don't necessarily feel that will necessarily feel that the furthest is of the first temple of light up let's get real bar fashion we live in the next moral society I don't believe anybody in this room is a murder and I don't believe anyone in this room serves avodah Zarah and I don't believe anyone in this room on even on four you might hear some of those story that it does inappropriate immoral marital relationships most people are so we're not we don't lack in the sins of the bites we should but are they still know Gaza today but these of English was destroyed because of those things and yet the second base to make this is rebuild second base ending dishes rebuilt we have kindness the Jewish people have Camacho many news cause of them they learn Torah but that baseless heat what is that they're doing kindness but they hate one another how are they doing kindness and hating one of them and where do we find to do kindness but not from the bottom of heart okay I like that for their own personal interest where do we find injuries in that if you don't like somebody God is going to destroy the Jewish people and exile the rolled up it says in the Torah don't survival and it says don't don't have inappropriate relationships but where does it say if you hate so many that's it that's the worst of all what's going on of here I want to seek a deeper look to understand why she not sanam is so bad and I want to take a deeper book to understand how the abuse of the first base in English apply to us do they give it up find out what's going on in order to understand these two levels the first paper maybe the second base in English why they were destroyed and out of life does I want to take a deeper look at Mickey lap eight if we have to choose one word that represents and that summarizes the destruction of the Jewish people the lament the mourning over the Jewish people of destruction what would that one word be a huh the word is now why do I choose that word not because it does it on the top of the sheet and that's the name of this year but because it appears in this week's power shop and it appears in this week's of Torah and it's going to appear in the middle of a law that we read last year by wearing not going to be businesslike if you look at paragraph number three in this week's partial Moshe a baby when he's saying over the story to the Jewish people this is his great final speech safer to enter this quote mission is over it's written by Moshe Oh baby we pretty much finished the four books of God and we're writing we're now reading the first book of Moses and together it's considered the five books of Moses Moshe repentance aprons Barnes right pretty much tells the Jewish people in his last major speech before they go to the land of ours own everything that happened and one of the things that he tells them is like oh you guys started complaining and I turned to God and I told them in barrack number three a table is sad that my be tell them who must and that it said how can I carry your burden by myself and how do you read this now about cold over here how do you read my side and you read it with the drop of a son because we're ready remembering the word of the lamentation of a source of in leaning we say if I sell divide these I assemble nothing then work already remembering the negative able also knocked over that we're going through the barrack number four a psychology or not carry on hermana miletti miss pathetic amoeba bat dominant I've seen how it was that the city became it was such a faithful city carry on a man I return this to their murderer is walking around in the work eight o'clock what is the word a from me visually how happens how did this happen how can I carry you myself and invariant number five over when we read last year in a science all your trouble does II's about the on how does this city sit in by itself in solitude I took out my knife it's like a piece of a widowed wife about the ugliness that I think I'm you know they've done a month the word a straw comes to represent the morning of the juicer what is so special about this wood here they don't tell us if you want to understand anything in Judaism you need to find it the first time it appears in the Torah where does the word a hub appear for the first time in the total now event it appears it appears with the same letters but not with the same meaning and that's the paragraph number 6 my gosh M accumulate down by your middle oh oh yeah and God turns to other after the sin of Adam and Chava and he tells them a Yenta where are you where are you where are that's what the word 8 huh in its deepest with age it needs a where are you a foolish person is asking where are same letters you see the letters of bearer of number 6 Lazarus same letters but a different meaning where are you now I want to take them even further and present we're going to go we'll come on in come on it the good dog it's okay you know people walking first okay I want to I want to take a look at the Zohar in paragraph number six okay let's take a look at the door and Patrick number seven we're good ever Cheers doesn't it all wrong okay baby Thor it's okay just to bring us back into things okay we're asking a few basic questions question number one them yet we wanted to understand what were the reason that the base of musician was destroyed because we know that if we were not zilpha's observe the base of English does it debate the main dish was destroyed in our time gemara tells us the basement mixes should destroy two reasons one reason for the first base I'm English which is three majors dance second based on the fishes because of see Nazi now we want to know why is he not see now so much is worse or it's parallel to the three major since the Second Temple is destroyed for that reason even though they were said to Kevin Eric middle of London organization and their learning tour what is it about to Nazi knob that destroyed the base of ignition we're still suffering from it today and how can we overcome it to understand this we wanted to take a look at the word that represents the limitation the sadness of the Jewish people which is the word atha that appears in the power up here something love you Pearson Mickey laughing huh what does the word a-ha means it means a hunt how did this happen but the first time we're a club truly appears in the Torah is all the way back safer gracious other Mauritian after the sins of other ones hobbits the same letters different pronunciation uh echo where are you so how does this happen and it's also where are you i yet if you look at the zone come let's take a value a little bit in tune with Azure is revealing to us in paragraph number seven says rizzo are vacant Ashima no female azzawajal meloetta the door and duration where our impression turns to other regions of the where are you hahaha mid-leg here he hates them they did little a baby - oven and you get a hot over here a college bar who gives a hint to other Murray show that in the future the base of McNish is going to be destroyed and he's going to cry ASA how did this happen a doubt deceive a Sayaka that this is what it means where the fuss except how does the city sit alone a cook a cook now the Tsar is splitting up the word for us into two different words a coke a sob is a so what is the word age nation over there is what does the word a mean in leshawna cause just ago the barrel number eight but your meta Shan and Kai a heaven a piece of any phone where is handle your brother God speaks the kind after he murdered his brother the first time is the first other words a appears in the door it means we're hey have a seat aware is handle your brother the word a means where what is the worst call me where is come a ha H oh where is gone what doesn't work on me let me go love you and what's the word Kony you turn the page to the other side the parsha smacking so we read last week that about the motion of anus prophesies that there are motion in the bomb they call I'm not ashamed totalizer motion are being most most of its prophesies work call America and Israel all of Tanna then if indeed Naboo because I'm not a this is what Hashem says most awfully motion is above and assures air whatever Rashi last expression tells us that all of the Nepean their prophecy comes with the words we see this travel Upton us call a mothership this is what God says the word Co is the middle of a shell in which the Libyans are able to give over the prophecy that they see what does that mean happenin VM see the prophecy different and Mosher of a motion beam is able to see things crystal clear in a clear glass the Nepean are not able to see things so clearly and therefore they need to compare one thing to the next we see some sort of vision and they need a compare that's how the prophets give over the proxy the word ko represents the prophecy and the connection that the Jewish people have to uh coluche Marwan is done with the prophecy of colum Irish and this is what I sham said now if I take you another a little bit further look at paragraph number 10 Co is not just a relationship through prophecy of colum Irish and we're going to go a little bit deeper and deeper into word code and you're going to see where it appears throughout that's an athame I'm only giving a few Floyds of where it appears and it's just going to blow your mind unbelievable what the door is telling us with that one line unbelievable famous posit that we all know Vera graph number 10 we're going to look at it totally different but your machine body Sabbath day Navi anatomically the whole god kid first the 10 and most physical test to automobiles I want me to take your son your beloved son your only son the one that you love the one that you've been waiting for for so many years and bringing them up as a carbon we're at the place that I will show you you just go walk and I will show you a place which ends up being where has a moly I are about okay but look at what the Plesac says on the third day ever lifts up his eye and he could see the place from afar and why she tells us he sees that there is a cloud on top of the place he sees the Sun this is the place but your metaphor I mean NASA LeBron tells his boy she would have sent for FEMA some oh I want you to stay here with the donkey then even now that me and the boys are going to go where NASA odd call finish the event finish rubali we're going to go to Co to a place called code and we're going to bow down and we're going to come back we're going up to Hera Maria we're going up to the place that in the future is going to be the base I make those and we're going as Co which literally means the Posche of travelling's we're going to go until there and we're going to bow down and come back but it's not just as another word add codes not stuff we're going to go into the place of the club what does that mean the place of code if you look at paragraph number 11 what is this place many years later the same place and Yakko will be news on his way out too hard he's running away from a sub that wants to kill where does he go to sleep after 14 years that he was in the issue he's about to leave he goes to sleep and he's got that famous dream what happened over there by Katya Coby shadow Yahoo wakes up from his dream y'all right now señor shush em Bob up over there battle Kyoya da di Shem is in this place I didn't even realize this place that by father it was called called in December that reduce godliness Louise there's some spirituality at this tree with the Angels go hopping down valley hop aroma Manoa McComas e NZ key-in desde lo keem possession he's fearful and he says it's amazing this is the gate of heaven this is the house of the world look away Rashi says - oddish are mine McCombs Palala notes Fela Thomas Amanda this display were all the prayers descend all the prayers go up from this way whom in English oh and the mattress me schibetta McCutcheon mala sorry mr. Shamala mokuba - naked bed and - in mud the base of mixer Shamala is parallel to the base of McNish of mud meaning there's two base emitter there's two Jews Jerusalem's there's yerushalaim shel mala a spiritual you shine and there is the physical huge line that we live and they're parallel once of the next remember that we said that the Prophet they prophesied with the word ko because they see something it's up there they don't fully understand that I need to translate it through the physical words and it's a physical explanation what it means over there there is a copy and paste there is a parallel world is the spirituality and the prophets need to explain enough isn't what it means in the physical world it when it come to the base of McDuff it's the same thing there's a usual I'm Shamala and there's the usual I'm Shailaja and it gets represented with what word with the word of coke the co means and represents the relationship now who are the people that serve and do that voda in the place that's called Co what are they called those people that do now Rosa Abilene Koha means okö hain the colony now how do you spell Chloe cuz there you have the hot pay and the noon if you take the coffee what's the game a trio cuff hey the numerical value of the hop is 20 of a a is fine if you use and when you take the the numerical values of things so they have a representation so you take the co the numerical value is 25 the nun so fit which is the ending of the coin is what it's 50 which represented your 25 - 25 Ocoee that does service down here in parallel to a coin that does serve as a spiritual work up in the face of a prescription line so you have 25 - 25 what does that come out to - the 50 there is a parallel world there is spirituality between this world and the world and daddies the coin and what is the brough up that the Kohanim give us take a look at paragraph number 13 Hashem tells Moe serving the barrel I rebelled butter blame or speak to iron and his children to say cool Diwali who it's been a flailing rolling coal should be the brother this should be the brough up that you give the Jewish people you have a resolution - Marissa yeah air I should ponder the left of this Vanessa you Sasha up another little man-crush on but the way to introduce is with the word Co and it's not a coincidence that when we lost the base of English and idols were put into it and the hush mole 9 came and liberated the base amygdala and rejuvenated and build it all together that that holiday is called Connor can come in the hanukkah that they rested on 25th of Kislev which means Cunliffe a which is the same word of the co unbelievable the base--emitter the prophecy the word code means a relationship that we have from this physical world Hashem in the spiritual world and look at what the Cree upper says of that part by dear photonic Mila Cohen he just wraps it up right because there's so many codes in the tour you have to understand it will be me last close shutdown caught up a boat the seal of all the brothers is with the word code cote d'ivoire quiz been hoc you do not be gotta belong the breadth of the Kohanim is similar to the blessing that God gave to Avram eviction action invalid because because our Avena was also blessed with the word coach and a mouth call he is a ha ha ha movie was given that blessing of Korea's army your children be like that which means that there's going to have a unique special relationship with a shed that can watch happy now remember the partial villain and that's why villain one is live attendees Lambie LoCascio he wanted to nullify and destroy the block of the code that we have seen a mass he said cool a little deck hast thou no here cannot cook bill of it you read the be we really cooking so quickly but the CLE offer which is coming already from the door from the Martian and telling us that bill wanted to undo the brough up Co so he tells Bella you stand over here yet this cook on your corners are knowing a croco and I'm going to follow code bamboo Bosch italico Bernadette Optimus Andy's got careers as I you as your kimonos we'll undo the brough of codes and agronomy no God Daniel attendees got coated rustling I'm going to destroy the brough up kochevar for the nature or the breath of our own the coin unbelievable the word code means a relationship that we had and therefore now we are starting to understand a little bit why this is the word that symbolizes DOMA meant and the cry of the Jewish people throughout the years and throughout all the generations a we're in this relationship where is the parallel of yerushalaim shel mata and you shellac shall not wear it and that is the biggest cry of where is it where is it Gus I echo where are we and where is that where is that relationship because if you think about and this is really what it is there were crying what exactly is Judas if you ask somebody I tell you what is Tora what would you say Torres the relationship with Michele so as I said people normally will tell me that it's mixed looks where I Mexico's command mission all the things that we have to do but Judaism in its deepest form right FF has any of you ever been in rule in rules in rules and you didn't rule okay let me let me rephrase the question have you ever been in a relationship yeah you've been in a relation to relationships have rules rule yes yes are you Elliot relationships has rules but if I ask anybody have you been in rule like what are you talking about we don't live in rule we live in a relationship but but every relationship has rules right I'm married to my wife we have rules there's rules of how we how we you know we're married only to one another we're loyal to one another we take we help one another out but if my wife cause I'm driving or my wife calls need you I'm hungry so what do I say okay what would you like I would like to give you some supper so she says I would like to have some pizza so when why say back well what kind of data she wants pizza if she wants Big Apple pizza right a good husband was going to ask what do you do you want any toppings on there right she just said I'm hungry and I say what would you like she says Peter what that would be the one store what can I put would you want chicks on the sides you want what's the meaning I'm asking more and more how can I do to help for you that's because we have a relationship let's see hustlers show them the relationship is not so good okay it's okay but it's not so good if she close up and I pick up only hey what's up she's like oh I'm hungry I like okay I'll get something right because I don't have time to ask too many questions because the relationship is not and if the relationship is not good at all and I see on the speed dial that my wife so what do I do oh my god right you do I pick that up now even if you have a great relation in your relationship or moments that you can relate that in one of those stages because sometimes with them relationship they're there moments where we might feel like we are living in rules and the rules are the dominant one and not the relationship now no one likes to live in rules and a special if somebody feels that it's getting to the situation that I had all these things that I have to do and it's a burden so then no one wants to stay in that relation because they're not viewing it as a relationship but they're just viewing it as things that I have to do and no one wants to do things all the time because that's just annoying I want to be free but if it's a relation it's not things that I have to do it's things that I want to do because this is a point to me and I understand that the rule and framework is what keeps that relationship go that's what you even is all about as well a lot of people have the misconception to think that Judaism is a set of rules that you have to abide by if it's a set of rules that we have to live by I don't know about you but I do not want to live in a set of rules that's cool no I don't like school I don't know some people that my son school but he's good I don't know I guess rule don't bother him because he's good alright he follows the robot about the rule does good so therefore I didn't like rule all right we don't like to be Royals we don't like to be in school but Judaism is actually a relationship it's a relationship between mankind and God Almighty and the relationship just like every relationship in order to foster it in order to keep it it has certain guidelines that help keep that relationship going and in fact the word mitzvot that is loosely translated as Commandments we normally view every Mitzvah as a commandment something I was commanded to do something that I have to do whereas this real translation of missile oh it's when you understand it definitely because there is the mix-up there what's the mess of it so in command there's the Metsu bats only commanded and then there is the T mu E which is the command where does the word mix of a fitted the word mix of a means the combination of all three of those things together the relationship that is formed between the commander and the person was commanded through the commandment there is a building of a relationship that is formed at that point of time and in fact the word Mitzvah comes from the root word sabda South demeans together but you ever see like a crew in Israel what does it say on their shirts 7/7 music crew what does the crew mean that a team were working together to reach a common goal we're a team we're on the seventh of God we're on the same team we have a relationship that's what you need them is all of them good reason is about a relationship and when weather is no relationship when the Jewish people feel that they are in a set of rules and they just want to walk away from those rules because no one wants to just live you know I have all these things to do so then the relationship is broke when the relationship is broken that is the biggest cry of a kook where is that relationship where did it go that our cries echo what gods cry the same exact letters but he's crying a Yakka where aren't you where do you go why did you leave me we had a beautiful relationship and he is crying waiting for us to come back and we're crying aiko where is that relationship gun we use that once a relationship and it's no longer here on its hind limb and that is what it is that worth crying over on Tisha but I'm going to take it one step further because if you think about it who are the Jewish people even more specifically what is the makeup of the Jewish nation what is normally a nation in the in the world what are the normal making the characteristics of a nation every nation has what they have a common land a common language custom and culture gold gold gold leaders shellac Pallister right that clear history let's speak about the Jewish people until 70 years ago I'm not talking about right now even though it's true even out to certain extent NIV years ago we didn't have a common land because no one lived here we were dispersed all over the world for all those hundreds of years that the Jewish people are sitting on the floor and saying they are lamenting over the base of meters you're saying the shuttle above your truck we didn't have when we were in Russia we were in Europe we were a never but South Africa we where we were in the United States and in South America we didn't have a common language Jews couldn't even communicate with one another because they didn't beekeeper at the time some spoke Yiddish some so Russian some spoke Arabic and some spoke English they were dispersed that we didn't have a flag so what exactly are the Jewish people we didn't have all of those makeups of what a normal nation had so what made up the Jewish people the Jewish nation for 2,000 years is it so low is it our religion because I believe and this is true about me as well it doesn't matter if it you is religious or not really just anti religious broke religious whatever type of religiosity he has or doesn't have he's a part of the Jewish people he's a Jew so you can be a part of the true people even if you're not religious so what makes us the Jewish people in the Jewish nation we're not even a regular religion because you're part of the Jewish people even if you're not religious we got the name we kept their names somewhat children rectangular clothing okay children of Yahoo okay I want to focus on that one word think the Jewish people are one word we are a family we started as a small family as a Grom Yitzhak and Yakov they went down to Egypt we grew as a large family we suffer together we came out via to Linda Schmidt Jose I'm Lizzy vocem they left as families as shuckin and we entered the land of arrastra we came back home to the homeland of our family now when you have a family sometimes it's not a so simply I don't know how is like in your day but when I grew up you know my parents moved to New York when I was 8 years of we needed to washing tonight any of you know Washington - so we lived on an extra tab and you watched a nice 186 Street small apartment ok yeah why you right there small apartment and those all the parts we were like there's three Jews in the building or saw the Lipschitz was there and we were there and there's it one other family that was there me and my brothers shared with ok be with Ben Walker now me and my brothers together my older brother he's great he's my role model I love him so much but when we were kids we used to go at it now you know how kids they only make up when they're like later ok so we used to go at it and we were very competitive and we used to fight he said not you take that picture down and no I don't want any string in the middle doing that don't blow up the side right I wrote you've had that with your kid kids can have a fight and we would fight with one minute but what happened when I went to school and we barely spoke English at the time because we were Israeli kids and moved to America and someone would pick up someone who would be the first one to start to stand there from up for me be my brother don't mess with my closet hoodie right I get into a kitty like those stars my brother so you protect mr. brother's family sometimes when we're in the same sandals we're in the same home we'll end up fighting but if someone kinds of a show starts up with our family then we stand up for what unfortunately you see that today we see today here in artist row which is our little home our little groom you take that picture down low I want this class to look like this no I want to look like that everyone has his opinion how he wants his room to look but if cosmic song song starts up with our family member that moved away from our home for a little bit because sometimes an uncle can move out to a different country for a few months sometimes it give you for three years something's for 30 years I'm going to get even be for 300 years that the uncle left of everybody best group and if somebody starts with somebody in Paris or in the United States it doesn't matter we don't ask Oh bill if they attack or from Jew whether you right-wing or with your left wing or the Democrat we don't ask those questions he attacked my same women so we stand up to protection and if somebody attacks our home again we don't ask what uh means like I would be video for it he our family you don't mess with our family we feel that sense of family the Jewish people are examined we feel it we know it unfortunately kinds of me that's when we feel it the most but as all parents we don't want our kids just get along with someone is picking on one of the brothers in school we want them to be able to sit around the table together we need to be able to figure out how to be a family here in our to Cheryl as well the Jewish people are a family but a family is not just a sense right because it's what we asked around here everyone has a different family name why is it important for the Goldbergs that there should be more gold works in the world why is it important for our our goals of it I take pride in the fact that our goals is why is it important that I'm a golden and I want my kids to do that because every family feels that they bring something that their family brings something to this world and every family does bring something through this work everyone brings something unique and we know oh my grandfather's is this or my grandmother did this and my parents did that and my kids are doing this and we want that legacy to continue because we bring something unique the collected Jewish family brings something unbelievable to this world because on our journey as a family back home we stopped at our se9 and when we stopped at our scene that we got to ten commandments and those are the core values of the truce people we got the Torah which is based on those up there zeros that was our journey in the desert which is what it's the basic values of humanity how to make this world a better place and that's why in the whole world accept it upon them Jesus there's don't get a little deal dry don't cover it have arrest honor your parents believe that there is one God in the world the world didn't just accept these values overnight we wanted to go as an eventually they accept the values that we encourage the world to accept education for everybody this is what Judaism brought to the world we're a family with values and that's why we want to keep this family but this family and those values are built on a relationship a relationship that the Jewish people have with a Kurdish bar and that's why when someone is and that relationship the way the ZOA brings it down is you throw the Jewish people and I could achieve Oracle and the soul of our one if somebody is attacking the Jewish people why do they hate us so much is because we represent them as values and they don't like that we bring a certain consciousness to this world and are teaching the world what's right and what's wrong they don't like that no one likes to be told what to do especially if they feel like all you you know you guys are too good or we expect more from you because we represent God in this world and that's why there's a fight against them but that's also what the Corbin and what the two core buttersworth the first based on matrix was destroyed because of what because of the three major sins that we did which means that the Jewish people lost the relationship of the values that God gave us at her spirit they no longer understood that they represent something that they can make this world a better place they started acting like the rest of the world and there was murder and there were idolatry and there was adultery they were behaving like anybody else and God said it this house which represents the values that I talk to the world quemic do they say to us demolish evolution I'm from Dora from seal from Zion emanates the wisdom and the values of the world if you cannot teach those values so this house is worthless so he destroys that a few people do tuba parade their macabre item sell together so they come back they rebuilt the second makes a magician and they're learning totem and they're doing classic and they understand the values that they stand just like we do today just like everyone in this room understands as well we represent we know what the Jewish values are and that we stand for something for what did we lose we forgot the we're family we're one family we might have different opinions we might think differently from one to the next we might wear different color shirts and different color keepers and vote for different you know political governments and very different political views but at the end of the day we're one family and you can having one family two kids that feel differently about different things but they could still have the sense of brotherhood of a sisters of a family and that's why coach bar from set because I coach Martin said doesn't matter to me if you keep the values if you don't realize that your friend it's against the essence of who we are and that is what it is that we're crying over the day of Tisha a color ACO where has that relationship where is the relationship gap between US and Russia that we don't fully understand these values where is the relationship God that we don't understand that we are family and we don't have our own relationship and that's why it's up to us to try to fix it to try to make it better I want to give a suggestion on how we're going to do it I believe the Navi and the three weeks are here to tell us how to rebuild that family and how to rebuild our relationship when this job is going to be called avocado why the coach avocado we all know anymore because of outdoor if you look at surah number 16 is the first part in this week's October hezonia shall be a mortician Havana value John remember the up its culture Baca zone because of the first word of that Sora has or what is the word has only vision a vision but we have three specialist double and in some of this farm you're going to believe in that they call each one of the Shabbat all of the three weeks based on the first word of that that I've just like we have shibata's own some of the smarter in some communities used to quote every Sabbath a special name shabbat shalom what was last week's polish october look at my room number seventeen shimu devar hashem how the demons o shabbat she moved the Shabbos of hearing and what is bearing up number eighteen get ready intro - look at the where do we have last week's up Dora we're gonna share Chavez oh no because I may have for the robot Amir going throw one it was so much Lee came in initially didn't they do use it but not this year normally we have to reach it what are the three half the Lord of the three weeks of national shall only a little dummy on my way let's pile it let's find it inside it should be here but yeah hello itself in 10 o'clock mouthing okay during most years power co-sponsors must be read together and those who is not so impartial Pinnacle's is a minute and the following tour is radically what muscles are they around different of the violence or debris your mio is what we read in masses not a right in mango and in mitosis or in taking other people's right but this year my husband normally will be in metal different year leo for the latter first of the three weeks Shimon bearish and base yeah oh you're right the wrong Kazakh on for the Republic it's in your meal Shimon bar should be Chapel the home base Papa's base control also the word Shiva but I quoted the wrong perhaps a view from yes time in two years time yeah they're actually going to read that can import them not punished then real and I'll be reading they're really not simple be I think a very good okay so thank you for correcting on that but it's also the word Shem of Irish and sorry it's in here me young not indicia oh shoot virus champagne ciacco the Hamish bubbles daisy straw what happens when you try to do things by heart and number three which is what we're going to read this week's parchment is hezonia Shia vanilla so we have and someone's a partial and I saw this brought down some in the spark they call each one two three weeks by their names Shabbat butyl a Shabbat she knew and Shabbat ago and I was thinking about that let's see what these words mean cazzo means a vision Shiva means to here and these ray means the speech I think that perhaps the Sakhalin who gave us these three parts besides the fact that these three after all speak about the destruction of the base emitter and the crime over that time period I think it also gives us a tool of how to rebuild the relationship how to rebuild the relationship between people between our families and how to reaso the relationship with a finish bar and we'll start with the more severe one which is puzzle when you enter any situation the first thing you need to do is to be able to see what does that mean to be able to see spoke about it a show this week if you look at Mickey lot face up you cannot decide is written in alphabetical course entire strim ever done the whole T skip my lighting I was being given up until you reach in the second pairing when you go in alphabetical order in the second character letter when you get to the letter onion and get switched to the letter pays first pay comes before are you talk to a less afyon when you get to video take a look at it the second better and in the third pair the letter pay is before I and the gomorian son hundreds out coupe valid at wise it's another your vo switch the order around why did he put the letter pay before the letter I and everyone knows that I in comes before pay answers the Gemara the year me Owen OB was in his lament over the Corbin was giving us a hint telling us why there was even the destruction of the base of music why did they turn into the day of the ninth of other day of crime why because of the sin of the maragua when did he come back on the 9th of a band that night there were crimes what does that have to do with say and I says the Gemara that the miraculous spoke with their pet before they saw with their eye in the latter day and I Rosa means our mouth and our eye so they spoke with their pet before they saw with their eye in with their eye and that's why the Navi puts the letter pay before the letter on what does that mean that they spoke with their mouths before they saw with their eyes they walked around for 40 days and then they came back and said that the land is not good because the ZOA tells us that the neuron Allah even before they went into the lands of our distro they had already decided that they do not want to go we're surrounded by clouds of glory we are the leaders of the Jewish people if we go in there we're gonna have to start working the land and you won't begin to see em anymore you didn't want to go in when somebody does not want to do to some me and he's going on a mission what does he see you only see the negativity they choose to and what's amazing is the You Martellus said there all these things happen I finish mark who made that they'll be busy at alibi of the day that they came to the big city an entire city when televised they were burying people there is a certain like something that happened kaleesh work water to be easy for that so that nobody would spot them but what did they see they saw that this is an Arizona snow shovel it's a land that people died in there they're always seeing the negative thing the fruits are so big but they're not seeing how fruitful it is they're saying look at the Giants there's no way we're going to conquer it everything that could have been seen as a blessing they end up seeing as something negative how often do we do the same thing when we meet someone who's slightly different in us who thinks differently than us who votes for a different political parties enough in favor a different soccer team in US or a different baseball team because he's a Yankees fan and easie when I get started over there right with the Red Sox so I different the different rivalries what are we judging people before we even have a chance to meet them are we speaking with our mouths before we see with our eye doctor Rochat the COS own analogous you want to be able to rebuild any relationship step number one is hello is truly see people for who they are do not come with preconceived notions do not come with I already made on my mind of what I think about that sex of Jews and that sex of Jews and those groups and that group and another I really have I am know everything I've already judged everything and now when I meet them they already fit into the category that have already cattle you know put in my mind try to see things and wishing for what they truly are and only after you see it with clean eyes then can you speak so the first step is to see once you see the next step is shit'll devar hashem shin with Iron Chef is Shabbat she women to be able to live first you're not coming with your preconceived notions the moment your comments preconceived notion tell me there is a person in front of me and you can actually have a conversation because if you don't if you already have your preconceived notion you're not even going to get into conversation with somebody that seems different than you why would I speak to that guy or it's in that person look at it just look at it look at the way he dresses look at the way you walk look at the way he talks he's so different than me we have nothing in common so we don't even want to listen because we've already preconceived notion we've judged everyone that is not exactly like them so the moment we are able to see him now we can enter a conversation but when we enter a conversation doesn't necessarily mean that we're actually hearing the person I remember I was branding once on the plane and you know I gotta want a kid and Israel will land on the plane that our own claps which is nice but then what happened the moment the plane thing and the light switches everyone gets up now it takes me at least 20 minutes half hour till they actually open the door but everyone is up and everyone's like edging their way up and everyone and they're standing there and you're stuck when I'm with my kids so I tell you what we're sitting on our seats anyways we're going to go up left so I'm like finding the Crocs and the business of a button the busy let's try to turn it up a little bit and I'm overhearing tea ladies the must've static two rows back they've already entered it way up there continuing their conversation and they're screaming I won and under your nose once even though more religious than the other a today you can't tell I don't know it is to lady when it was during the election times and everyone would say all working to win and we're going to do that where they weren't really talking to one they were talking one add another you're just so again each one was hanging their opinion and their thing you know I turned 11 on like welcome back to Israel which we have to we have to learn it could be in America Walt especially the last election right it could be anywhere but at the end of the day the question is are you listening to what are we listening to it so step number one is to see people to allow us to even gauge into conversation step number two is Shabbat she moved is to listen hear what other people have to say you don't necessarily have to agree but you know when you hear somebody then comes the next step which is vivir a term you know is how we speak to other people we don't listen to one another we're just talking one add another so that our conversations are not nice and our words may not be nice but when you listen to somebody else and we're entitled to argue with them and we don't have to agree not harsh topically not politically about anything but we could say you know it you said a B and C I agree with you about a and B but I disagree with you on see there's a conversation I heard you I can even repeat what you said but I disagree with you over here that tell be civil and they shop I used to argue with one another and that's why we possibly like they feel because they used to always bring down the word that they shot my before they used to say they shall I said like this and we hear what they said when we disagree we think over here like that and this little prep and we're friends that's our my slokas Lucia mind them you still learning today used to marry one another even though that did British Copic and maybe the political views but at the end of the day they were able to see one another they were able to hear one another and they were able to talk to him I believe if we take it the lesson of the three weeks of his own of seeing of XI mu of hearing and oh did we hear me old speaking that will start Reed mending mending our family your family back together we're still waiting for the rebuilding of the days of a fish that was destroyed because of Enoch Sina when the base of maybe this is destroyed because it's enough to have our family in a way that's all inspired our job in this generation and we're started we're back here we're rebuilding commercial I we don't want to go anywhere we don't want to go back into ghosts we want to stay here we want to build a kingdom that is going to be united that is going to stay here forever let us summon something with a minute with mouse's base of it with the mouse's of a fetish boxes show the entire world our relationship with a cottage partner and our relationship with one of them that's what fish above is all about not just the day of mourning the dance sitting on the floor and having real reflection an introspection and looking inside a club hey where is the coat how does it happen that's the word it'll have how'd this happen I echo eyes where are you and that got talking to us where am I where are we are we looking out for one another and it's our pride echo where is the relationship that we used to have Kohima Russian no heart called the colony where is that relationship that we use as and that relationship fall down into those two categories the categories of the relationship that we have with the Kurdish powerful understanding that's not ruled it's a relationship it's a relationship that we have with one another as a sample that's what this day's about that's what this coming we should go back today's the Rosh Hodesh out machine is Russ out with magnificent it's the timer it doesn't mean they were sad entirely but we just we reduce a versatile aerobic which is the time for us to think of to get more serious how can we really connect how can we rebuild our relationships with our family and rebuild our relationship with the cottage but I believe if we go through the three they're in their process of being able to see other people also seen jiu-jitsu ghost and the Dora for what it is not judging it oh we already have a preconceived miss concepts about certain mythologies taking things for what they are and then trying to here to learn learn what judy is going to telling you learn what the other person is tell me and then did rear me oh and thence the ability to speak to speak to somebody else to speak words of Zorah to ask those questions that will rebuild our relationship with the protocol will rebuild our relationship as it's in our family and will be Zopa sekolah madaba valley Rashad anyone more is over usual I will marry to see it we build and we see it very soon in our time [Music] but yup Wow [Music]