When NOT to say "gam zu l'tovah."

you don't walk into a Shiva house and say gamova right that would be insensitive nothing should throw you through a loop because you realize it's all orchestrated cor curated from above and therefore while it elicits different emotions but none of it are you a victim of Randomness or chance but when we begin to describe it as all good is that callous to the people who are experiencing it as bad I I say it as a a clear yes you can't walk into a place of pain and put your concept of goodness on somebody else's EXP and that's true for yourself as well the greatest people on this planet were born from tragedy so can you say the tragedy was good no cuz once you fragment the situation if you just look at that so it's a universal Eternal context of reality as things are moving that we're not just in one life but we're a part of many lives and we're a part of many elements of History so in that you can say it's good