What's RIGHT for that particular child?

I think one of the most critical things to think about in this whole conversation is that it's not one siiz fits all you've got married children who are there and we've got single children who are there we have Yeshiva and Seminary Gap students for the year we have those who are in University and studying we have those who are lone soldiers we have those who are uh not young but maybe single or married there's all kinds of different demographics that might be your children whom you're worried about and you're offering guidance to and you're being supportive of and there's not one size fits all there are those who are there and do they leave there are those who for whatever reason are not there do they go back and each one is filled with different variables and different questions uh that come to it and it's critically important to stay really thoughtful really mindful really present in each of these conversations and really focused not on competing and comparing to what other people are doing and not on feeling the peer pressure of what other people are doing but what's right for that particular child of yours