Unapologetic Torah Living: A Tribute to Brian Galbut z"l on his 3rd Yahrzeit

this coming thursday night after shabov will be right by dr brian galbets russell ben riverine lessons third yard site we commemorated tonight with the shir in his memory and for the leah business shama everyone here maybe almost everyone here knew brian in some capacity on his masseva if brian would have had it we would have had two words but we have many more the two words would have been evident we believe brian represented the ultimate evan hashem evan to the melech how did brian know what inevit is how do we know who the king is and not through our robunum ryan developed early in life a reverence and a love for their abundance he believed that our rabbis truly understand the messora because they were given it to give to us from an early age brian recognized in the rebuttal of his life that he could learn how to be an evid i'll never forget the phone call i got from the hebrew academy in 11th gr in 12th grade when brian called me and said i know where i want to go to in yeshiva and usually in israel i said how is that possible he said i met the love who i want to be taught in israel and throughout his life everywhere he went he made the love is ready to become the ebony bus all of us know brian knew brian in a different capacity perhaps as i once heard someone say we saw in brian part of ourselves so it was very easy to be in love with him and i think in turn brian saw in the robunnum that part of a hashem that he reveals to us albeit from goldberg was very close to brian when he first moved here and he was instrumental in many of brian's decisions and especially in the uh the racing of his children and his development he was always known as rabbi dr brian galbet and i think it's because he insisted that people understand that it is through the abundance that we really can become the uh the evident that we all really seek to be and she's robert goldberg without any further ado and i tell you all that in the name of the learning of torah we do tonight that we all find in ourselves that connection with hashem that we all really are capable of and we all really felt and so i'm brian so when the galbit said they're going to invite family and a few close friends this is what happens we should have done it in the other room i want to begin by thanking you for the opportunity this evening i didn't know brian the longest and i won't argue that i was the closest and i'm not the smartest in this room so to have the chance and the privilege and the opportunity to continue to express our love and what we've learned i'm so grateful to you for this opportunity i don't know about for anyone else but at least for myself tonight there's a great uh ramada skull by weinfeld that's the best madrish and they started writing up his divrei torah sharing and disseminating his divrei torah and i saw in the parasha a couple weeks ago the kiddush last year in his sheeble was sponsored by sender leela nishmas bryan barthen spoke about brian barely knew brian he'd met him twice he acknowledged but in that little short time because that's who brian was and barely a meeting in a look across a room whether you were a patient or a colleague or a friend or a talmud you felt so connected you learned so much and you saw the essence the goodness of who he was and my weinfeld had an incredible incredible insight something that touched me very deeply when i saw that he said last year for the yurt site which i think about now and hadn't thought about before he writes he was zoka that his eurozone would be in the um why is that for your side to is on the eighth of average above india amitsaram in the summer what's such a school what's a privilege of having a yurt site then rabbi weinfeld al-khaim understood brian he understood brian's mission in life was to make people happy three years later i can't say his name without crying i don't have to tell you and i'm not the only one who's not family in this room who feels that so brian's whole life mission was to put a smile on people's faces to make them happy was to make their life better was to feel more benched more blessed if he would think if he would know the pain he was causing people in the time of the year that you were allowed to be happy that would have caused him great pain so what is it was for him that anyway we're not shaving and anyway we're not listening to music and anyway we're not eating meat or drinking wine and anyway all of claudius rolls in his collective universal state of aveilus of mourning he wasn't adding he wasn't contributing he wasn't detracting from our simcha all of claudius and what is it was that a person who would never ever be maimite in someone's simcha could never imagine diminishing or compromising someone's joy what is that at least he left this world in a time in which he knew were in our veils anyway continue to by weinfeld he said you know every death is really connected to us the loss of life and the shama transitioning to the next world is khurban basement oh it is the destruction of our base amiktas that's why we say available because it's the shambhala that's taken from this world its unique individual expression of hashem that is no longer here is like the destruction of the bay sahmitas so when you visit a mourner not in the nine days and not an heir of tish above you visit a mourner you come for the morning you pay a shiver call any time the whole year the greeting is connected to hurban what's the connection because the loss of the best is a loss of contact with the divine it's feeling more in darkness absent lost without him and his providence and his love and what the best was for us in our lives is what the role of an a is each individual unique expression of hashem when they're around and when they smile you know everything will be okay and when they exude unending superhuman emunah you feel stupid if you don't jump on board and when they're always seeing the positive and optimistic and see the guiding hand of hashem no matter what's happening who are you to disagree they are the revelation of hashem in this world and like the besaktas represents his pulling back and our distance from him so too is the loss of at sadiq every jew every neshama particularly the holiest is connected with the loss of the basal mitras i spoke on shabbos but the insight ramos mo shapiro why is it that moshe abeno and he translates that moshe a banana rebukes benegadon beneruvain you're telling him of the miragum and his insight a talmud is anyone who's learned from you you didn't sit in a classroom you didn't tend to share you don't read a curriculum but in life we have tamidim who see you watch you witness what we do and we shared several sources rabbi ryan shared with me a beautiful insight of shows all those teachers have many tell me them live a life in which you have many students it's talking about people who are dedicated to our bots try to have an impact spread torah lift the masses is not just written for people in rabbanus or it's not just written for a mura an educator pekiamas is written for every jew no matter what their career no matter their profession no matter what they do vanira qi mashima i have an obligation to teach a bar mitzvah boy is an obligation to teach little bar mitzvah boy starting life of torah and mitzvos knows how to teach what to model what to share is in a position of being a teacher so moshe said every person is a muhammad every one of us have an impact and an influence on the people around us by the way we live our lives because the way you live your life the way you dive in the way you sing the way you show kindness the way you're positive the way you're optimistic the way that you you make torah supreme the way that you're proud of your family the way that we're proud of the community you grew up in the community you live in and everywhere in between who you are and how you live and what you speak about and what your shabbos table is like you are a malamade everyone is a malamad and that's what he continues and he describes having tambitam that's what it means and i don't think i know anyone who had more tell me them in life than abortion than our dear friend then brian all of us in this room older or younger could be grandparents it could be children we are his tamidim we learned we watched we listened we spend every every day trying to emulate and trying to live up just finished we had another wonderful wonderful summer cola brian was always so proud every learning opportunity in any part of the community so proud and so supportive our summer cola included a bunch of young guys from all over come to spend the month of july learning it's one of their last nights they were over for a barbecue before the nine days and as i want to do and speaking to them i referenced dear friend brian galbet and when i was done speaking and everybody was schmoozing i heard one co-little guy say to another i'm not exaggerating the story in iota i heard one cola guy say to another i don't know who this brian galbit was but every home i ate in over every shabbos this month we were here brian gabbard's name was mentioned it's the testimony of a of a young booker not from here who didn't know brian but who shared messiah fetumo he didn't know that i was eavesdropping and could hear he said i don't know who this guy was but every house i was in over my month in boca every house that's what he said beli guzma without exaggeration every house this brian galbert's name was mentioned where all is talmidim we're all meant to be to live up to being his talmidam yesterday i spoke to his good friend atana garawa who's bracing for this yurt site what it means today another good friend rabbi dave cohen sponsored on the beam of this week in memory of of brian galben and just before coming here i got a text from someone who says quote i can't make the shiraila nishmas that's a this is also a lifelong friend his nishama should have an aliyah if it can get any higher i'm sure he's already at the top because that's the legacy left for all of us at the top of every way that we could measure ourselves and maybe dr gabit as you said see ourselves in him or see the possibility of a best of ourselves in him or see who we could aspire to be in him he left so many talmidim all over the world and he continues to live because his messages and his mottos the stories the torah the laughter and the mischievous giggle and every part of the best of who he was continued to live but there are no more talmidan greater tamidim and his incredible families and his children who each emulate him and our living representations of him of whom he is so incredibly proud he was in his life and he continues to be more than ever when he sees the best of who they are and who they're becoming and we continue to see him through them in the beautiful way that we were raised together with adina sharing those values and that devotion so i want to share already having used most of my time in the introduction and tears i want to share one way that i think of him impacting us as his talmidam one of the ways that he was arabian is a rebbe still to us from this week's parasha swarm this monologue that is the last of his life with sensitivity and subtlety and nuance but without shying away from what the people need to hear he reviews jewish history until that point and tells the people what they could have done better how they could have improved when it gets to the episode of the miragum not only did you impact yourselves that terrible decision that horrific judgment that night you cried for no reason at all not only not only did you abruptly divert the course of jewish destiny for yourselves gambi also me is was angry at me because of you and he told me to go i also can't go in because of you the first one that i'm bad but really all jump and ask we're in the story of the marathon do we see hashem get angry a mushroom hashem his own challenge with hashem and we know independently he wasn't allowed into the land because of an episode of mehmer eva what does that have to do with the miragulum the ramban is bothered by this question as are all the mafirsham what is moshe talking about it's like he's trying to pile on or he's trying to distract or divert as if he has no guilt he did nothing wrong oh yeah me too i also can't go in not because of me that also is you miserable and courageable people you did everything wrong what did the morocco have to do with the moshe rabbenu so the ramban answers that moshe didn't mean that he meant hashem was angry at you for the miracle and he was angry at me because of what i did wrong and i couldn't go in either and mushroom was really communicating two separate things that even though it looks like he lumped them together moshe is intellectually honest to understand that the episode of the meragman was not the fault of moshe radena but it's not buying it doesn't like it because says if that's the case then moshe should have pivoted he should have said you know the miragum you messed up bad judgment poor mistake oh by the way i also made a mistake and can't go in but then move on the fact that the text the torah goes back to the story of the miragulim indicates his that moshe was not pivoting away from the miraglum into may mariva he was talking about the miragum through and through so where where do you see moshe abbey no assigned blame for the miragum where do you see hashem getting angry at moshe for the miragum where do you see hashem telling moshe he can't go in because of the miraculous gives an answer he gives an answer gliac or also is bothered by this question the kryokar says what was the result the consequence of the episode of the miragum forty years shauna yom shana leo they wandered in the desert for each day of negativity the 40-day mission to investigate the land they were caused to wander in the desert for 40 years parenthetically russia white's wonders doesn't seem like a very just punishment after all the hate of the miragum how long was it it's a year per day so 40 years for the 40 days because their mission to israel was 40 days but one does russia wise i don't understand was not 40 days it was one night on their mission they went they investigated the land on the mission they went to the hotel on mars and they enjoyed the israeli breakfast and they toured the land of israel when they came back and they gave the negative report one day one night that was the mistake so wander for one year he has a tremendous insight which i think also is very much reflective of one of brian's defining characteristics for which we should all be as talmidim weiss we all live self-fulfilled prophecies when we go into a such situation with an eye in a row with a negative eye pessimistically looking for the problems looking for the troubles sure of why it won't work out then we create and we bring about that reality the ketamine was not one day only when they came back it wasn't just that one night that they gave their report it was all 40 days they went there ready and looking to find what's wrong they went there looking to find the complaint we know people like that they live life already before they've woken up before they open their eyes something's wrong there's something to complain about there's something to be angry at someone about what it is they'll figure out they just know the world is unfair to them it's unjust to them they have what they're worth they're complaining about being negative about being hypocritical about and now they'll figure out what to fill in in their mad lib of life of what to be angry about the miragum went on this trip looking knowing something's going to be wrong and then they justified it then they rationalized it so the mistake was not one day it was the entire mission but the opposite is also true when we go in with an ayantova tamid we're going with a positive and optimistic and everything's amazing and everything's going to be amazing and isn't it amazing when you're going for experimental treatment when you're going in and out of a hospital when you're enduring unthinkable pain when you're a professional physician and you know the likely conclusion of what you face and you still say isn't everything amazing and isn't hashem amazing then you create an amazing energy and reality around you we have self-fulfilled prophecies in what we create so says the kliyaka what would have happened if the miragum that night said you know got some question marks fruit's pretty big over there people are pretty big over there we've got some question marks exactly how we're going to do this but hashem if you say jump we say hi if you say get on board we're in let's go we got this let's do this it's going to be amazing it's amazing had they said that what would have happened kleister would have marched where right into the promised land what wouldn't have happened miriam would have died and with that her merit the well would not have dried up and then the people wouldn't have been parched and dehydrated and complained they wanted water and moshe wouldn't have been asked to speak to a rock and instead hit it so says the klyaker you know why moshe says you know when you started the negativity that you introduced it spiraled it snowballed it impacted me not directly the miracle wasn't my fault that's not why he said i can't go in but when you started the negativity the negative eye look what happened as a result created a negative reality we wandered 40 years that made the opening for everything to go wrong and that's why i that's why i wasn't allowed in there's many other interpretations but i want to share with you a suggestion of my own maybe a kirish i don't know if it's true or not but i think its message again is one of the hallmarks one of the defining characteristics of our beloved brian and something for which we should all i believe be his talmudim what is a common denominator of the height of the marijuana god says to the spies go investigate the land come back and report who are these spies everybody here knows the story there says these are not ordinary individuals these were the princes of the tribes this was the moenesses gadoli atara these were the greatest sadiq rashi yeshiva of the time that's who was sent in and that's who failed this is not a pedestrian failure this is not something simple that we can relate to there's something much bigger much deeper more profound that went wrong something perhaps noble and intent but a gross miscalculation that led to what we're going to observe and mark shabbos really mote shabbos and sunday tisha b'av doros where did these anashim khashov where did these great people go wrong and what does that have in common with where moshe went wrong is there a sarasova is there a common denominator is there an overlap an intersection between where the miraculous calculated and where motion is calculated such that moshe can lump them together and say gambi that got angry it got angry at me maybe maybe i'd like to suggest not he got angry at me because of the miragulum but gum he got angry at me for the same reason where you went wrong i went wrong and i couldn't go into the land so what is that common denominator where do they both go wrong what is the tzarashava of these two stories it's a long episode which time does not allow but i'll just try to say it quickly and extract and share the lesson the lesson for all of us it's based really on rosh hashima from karbiyavna khanyak of goldweft and others say it and others share it as well these miraculum understood that their life and lifestyle in the midbark the medrash tells us the miracle knew that when they came into our soil they would be replaced displaced they would no longer serve on that leadership role in capacity others would take over for them the simple reading or understanding of it is were they so egotistical were they so self-centered were they so arrogant and power-hungry that they wanted to usurp the power for themselves they were unwilling to have succession or transition can't be again these are the nasim the these are the who's who these are the holiest of the generation so where did they go wrong and how were they miscalculated what they weren't wrong was they wanted to continue the lifestyle they had in the midbar forever generation that came out of egypt had unprecedented and unparalleled experience of being taken care of exclusively by hashem traveling through that mid bar didn't have to shop for clothing it grew with them and it never wore out they didn't have to worry about water hydration because they had this close of the the miriam of the well of miriam they didn't have to worry about an army or a police force or any form of protection or security we in our time our generation have learned again how important and how necessary that is they didn't have to worry they're traveling through a desert and they've got enemies on all sides and people want to exterminate them even in their infancy before they've even begun but they have no worries because the ananya club covered they've got the fire they've got the clouds of glory it's all taken care of for them they don't have to plow and plant and harvest and winnow and knead and bake they don't have to work for food because the mun just falls from heaven it tastes like anything you want great shalom bias in families even person could eat what they want milk likes flake sushi chinese pizza the month fell from shamayim so what did jewish people do with all their time in these 40 years that you don't have to work on not to shop you don't have to earn any income in order to pay for a life you don't need to earn a livelihood in order to feed your family the month folds from evan you don't have to worry about security volunteer or professional or an army conscription you don't have to worry about anything what'd they spend their time doing we know what they spent their time doing they sat and they learned torah they sat and they drank from the well of moshe abbenu they sat and they were being molded and formed as the first generation after our sinai all they did was sit and learn torah and these moraga they said to themselves wait one second we go into that land of israel we're going to have to give this all up the month's not going to fall so we're going to have to all become farmers and set up an agricultural system and build an economy and work and labor and toil in the field we go and tear it to sorrow we're no longer going to have a pillar of fire and clouds we have to set up a security force and an army and a police force we're going to have to volunteer and rotate we're going to have to protect ourselves we're no longer going to have water and so on and so forth what's going to happen what's going to happen so therefore they came back and they gave the report they did not for some ennoble self-centered narcissistic motivation not out of arrogance or ego they did it because they wanted to remain fully and entirely immersed exclusively in torah they wanted to live in a spiritual cocoon and bubble in which they didn't have to integrate those teachings or that learning they didn't have to figure out a way for it to manifest or apply in the world around them and you know what that's a very very noble thought and it's a very beautiful intent and just like just like the generation in the midbar for its kufa for a period of their life while they were still growing they were still forming themselves that what was needed for them the same is true for us brian reinforced that for me as my children were getting married and as we're thinking about life and ashkaf the importance of supporting and encouraging and enabling a period an incubating period of learning torah before one goes on and applies that into the rest of life it gave me a lot of physique in that area the miragum weren't entirely wrong it's important for it's kufa for a period it was for them and it's true now in our time but hashem he said you're wrong that is not a permanent lifestyle that is not the permanent and ultimate purpose that we are here we're here to take total and integrate it and apply it and elevate and impact everyone around us that is the uniqueness of the land of israel they're going into eretz israel eric's israel has something that no other place on earth has it is mitzvos sacred spiritual things that depend that are conditioned that connect to what the lowest the earth the soil the dirt outside of eretz's throat it's dirt inertisseral there are mitzvos that are tolus on that dirt it is that bridge between the spiritual and the physical the miragula wanted to remain in a place that was purely and indefinitely ruchni and eric's role is the ultimate destination that is the bridge between those two realities we're setting up an economy and a society and a security system where every part of life and living is the ultimate bridge and integration between the material and the spiritual between the physical and the heavenly the moroccan didn't get that they didn't understand that and we continue to pay the price for that and i'd like to argue that the same was true with moshe's mistake who tells moshe and aran frankly to speak to the rock the lush from the torah says speak to the rock people are thirsty they're complaining can imagine the decibel level is escalating and elevating the people are yelling and screaming there's a atmosphere of panic of hysteria hashem tells moshe speak to the rock the debate there was a rock he used to speak to that put out water but it wasn't working the measure says and he turned to different rocks and nothing was coming out and feeling the pressure of the people building up with the rebellious tone and hashem saying new speak to the iraq speak to the rock to a degree motion panic that claims he gets angry and he turns to the people and he yells listen you rebellious people should i draw water forth from this rock and he proceeds he strikes the rock and hashem says you failed to make a king of hashem in that moment because every moment is one of the two writes says you know i think this is another way that brian lived his life when he says there is no neutral there is no power there's nothing that we do that falls in between it's not that you're either learning or dominating you're doing a mitzvah or are you just doing a neutral thing it's not that there's mitzvah and there is no neutral there is no power of there is no switzerland when it comes to hashkaf everything we do is either a kiddish hashem or it's a hilasha if you don't take advantage of the moment if you don't grab the moment then it's a hashem you don't just say well what did i do i didn't make a hill hashem i didn't stick my head out the school bus window on the way to the class trip i didn't throw a spitball i didn't wear my yamaka cheating business i wasn't discourteous to the cashier i was just neutral it says neutral is you have the chance you have the opportunity to make a kirish hashem and you don't that is that is that too was the way brian lived his life non-jewish colleagues and patients who knew the yamaka which was you couldn't miss on the top of his head proudly proclaiming and promoting i'm a total jew and i smile and i'm kind and i go the extra mile and i go in the oven beyond and i never lose my patience the kiddush hashem that continues to reverberate and echo three years later and will for a very long time in every opportunity a kid is hashem obviously in shul and on the boards of every institution in the community and the kiddush hashem in the hospital but also a kiddish hashem on the golf course and also a kid of hashem in the supermarket in the kitchen on vacation finding and bringing back a lost child and the kid is hashem at every single chance and opportunity there is because the alternative is not neutral there is no power of if we are given the moment and the chance and we don't make a kin of hashem that is achill hashem so hashem turns to motion he says there was an enormous opportunity an invitation here for akinesh hashem you didn't take advantage that's where did moshe go wrong why did he hit the rock where was the breakdown so i'd like to humbly suggest it struck me that word vedibartem it's a lot of words you could use to say speak the torah hashem specifically uses the word vedibarten and that reminded me of a previous conversation and earlier the first conversation between hashem and moshe abbaynu when hashem tries to recruit moshe to be the leader the emancipator of the jewish people to be a sheliac to go down to messiah and bring them out and what does moshe say in reaction he doesn't accept he doesn't say where do i sign on he doesn't say i'm so flattered i'm honored he says i can't and why can't i why can't i what does moshe rabbanu say he says lois i'm not good with speaking i'm not an orator i'm not eloquent i can't articulate thoughts whether we understand it literally as a speech impediment from the medrash of his youth we touch the cold to his tongue we understand it as the maharao does more metaphysically that moshe says to hashem why was he alone describes what the power of speech is that creates a dover deeper is the bridge between the physical and the spirits with this world and the next heaven and earth we have thoughts and we have feelings and we have emotions but they remind them they remain amorphous they are intangible what gives them expression in this world what makes them real what builds and creates the power of speech when we communicate when we use our words the power of speech is what takes what is otherwise spiritual and it enables it applies it manifests in this physical world it is that bridge the writes who we know one of the rambam's principles of faith is to believe that he's categorically different superior to every other human being on earth moshe al-bayna who essentially continued to live in the heavens he struggled with that kawaja to create that bridge of those two worlds to bring down heaven to earth so when hashem tests him all these years later and he says we're poised to enter eretz israel where 40 years later we're ready to go in 38 years later when the story happens we're ready to go in but moshe you told me when we first started the story we first began this journey together you said you said you don't speak well we're going into a land in a circumstance where you know what's going to be critically important the tool of the instrument that is necessary and crucial the kawahadibur because eric's israel is the bridge between heaven and earth eretz israel is that place where there are mitzvahs israel is where we take the torah from a concept or an idea and we bring it and craft and mold a reality and you know what it will need a leader who has what kawaja before we go in the debate let's see if you've learned the kawakadeepor have you acquired that capacity have you learned that trait that skill and what does moshe do he strikes the rock he is not to his credit in some ways he remains so spiritual so holy so above so elevated he is not so hashem says not as a punishment i'd like to argue but simply as a reality hashem says to him you were the leader for the midbar generation for the incubator spiritual lifestyle but as we're going to go into a land and a country that are mitsubishi we're going to go into a land that when the passage says the heavens are hashem's in the land he's given man this foreign there's one land that is his even though it's on earth it's god's embassy even though it's here on earth and that israel it is the bridge of heaven and earth moshe you are the right leader the quintessential leader in the midbar but this new stage is going to demand new leadership not as a punishment but simply as a reality and if we understand the marathon in that context and if we understand the mistake of main mariva in that context then it comes out that when moshe abbaynu says when he says gan be his hashem hashem got angry at me also for the same reason not that he got angry on me i'm suggesting because of the episode of the moroccan we never see that what did he mean why where was your mistake miraglen you didn't realize you're supposed to transition into a new world in gambi that was also my deficiency that was also my shortcoming that was the reason that i too was not allowed to enter the land why did i choose to share this with you this evening because i think it's another way that brian is a rebbe and we are talmidim to he had him tremendous devotion to torah the passenger seat of his car was always overflowing with a pile of safaram all over the place and he was walking with children hanging off of him from every angle and a pile of swarm under his arm and always in a perpetual state of learning or preparing for his next kabura or saying over the khabur he just heard from rebecca's wife or someone else he cared so much about torah was primary torah was it was it was absolutely his everything his value in his shiva satora and his cover torah and covered of rabbanum it was everything for him everything but he also used the toro not a torah that's abstract or theoretical not a torah that remains in a basement but a torah that came with him to the overnight shift at the hospital when there was down time and the torah that informed the way he was a physician and a torah that inspired the way he was a community leader and a torah that was how we live life how we live every part of this physical material gosh me world in which we live how we use it and how we live it and how we navigate it the torah was not something that was supposed to make us separate and apart but the torah was supposed to make us normal and that you could be an enormous ben torah and you could be an aspiring and you could have a shiva satora and be normal and live and be considered and connect with the diversity and the tapestry not only of claustral but of humanity that you could be normal and this two you see in this week's parasha when moshe was recounting these episodes and he tells the story of him in the is telling us a new definition of who's at sadiq we think to be sad that you lock yourself in a room you learn your malala you make a siaman ko tarakula and certainly those aren't sadikim but we think that we limit the term of the appellation the definition the labeled sadiq is only for that person who locks themselves into learning all if you're a person who's connected to the people around you you are of the people you care about people you are focused and you sacrifice for people you are a leader of people you're an example to people that's who's at sadiq that's who is it sonic to a degree it's easy to be at sadiq in the mid bar but be it sadiq when you enter there it's israel it's in the basement but take the torah into your medical practice take the torah into the communal leadership take the torah into the cure of an outreach take the torah into hosting everybody at your shabbos table and countless kabura's in your home take the torah and have it guide and inform and inspire everything passion be a member of the anashim that's talik that's it and that's who brian was i think that's the ultimate legacy and that's how we could be as talmidim to just be normal a torah of normalcy a torah that lifts and elevates not by trying to make us holy or superior or different but a torah that inspires and touches and makes us even more relatable and real and accessible but agents and ambassadors and messengers of hashem that's who he was fun and fun loving so many countless examples we all have i don't need to take advantage because i happen to be standing here but basketball games golf outings and fun times so many other capacities trips i know his family took with others and so many countless memories which he took the torah and applied it in such a real real way umar tells us why was the world lost tells us because they failed to make a birkha satora ram has an answer what does it mean they learned torah they lived torah but they simply omitted the birkha torah they didn't say the bracha that we say every morning birka satora that's a capital crime millions of jews lost their lives the base of mikdash was destroyed we have a history with the inquisition of the crusades in the holocaust because they left out something from the sitter because they omitted the birkha satora that is countless examples has shared with us many times a very beautiful insight about eugene is that his name i saw elsewhere who says means the following but this i'll close we all have hopes and aspirations for our children and for ourselves we give our children brachas give them brachas they should have material and physical success they should have academics intellectual success we give all kinds of brachas all kinds of dreams and all kinds of hopes all kinds of bumper stickers that are on the back of our cars but for some people the brachav torah it's in there somewhere maybe it's at the end but shalom that generation they gave the bracha they wanted their children to be beneath torah they wanted them to mold torah families but that wasn't the first bracha it wasn't the primary bracha it wasn't the most important it didn't come first and it wasn't the most important it wasn't a matter of saying those words it was a matter of the impression that we gave and even though we learned that even though we lived we failed to communicate through our words and our actions that passing on the primacy of torah is the most important thing we are brian's talmidam because he made a bracha on torah his life was a birkha torah in the way he lived it his hopes and his aspirations which belian hara are being fulfilled in his children hashem his grandchildren but he taught all of us the role of torah in our lives that you could have fun and you can laugh that you could lead that you can participate but torah comes first the shiva satora you should continue to be his talmidam we should continue the people who visit our home to leave to say i heard about this guy brian galbet i know i'm not alone when i say there's not a day that goes by in three years there's not a day that's gone by but at some point in that day i haven't asked myself what would brian do how would he react what would he say what would he advise how would he be an example should continue please god for many many years to come be that inspiration in that guiding light and his beloved and beautiful family should continue to have muhammad comfort and strength through knowing what he did and does mean for every one of us thank you galbits invite everybody to come make a bracha