Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #205 - Running to Make Kiddush

[Music] welcome back welcome back to turn Friday into AR of shabas today is not Friday today is Arab shabas it might be a very hungry Arab shabas but it is Arab chabas nonetheless we're great very grateful to our sponsors memory of brother Jonathan saak or Y Ben I say very hungry of shabas because today is today is the minor fast of the 10th of Taves what is the reason that we are fasting today the only fast that could fall out on a Friday fing seeming to contradict or compromise our era of shabas but it really isn't the Nai tells us that the fast the minor fast is because the wicked leader laid Siege around yush for two and a half years before ultimately the destruction of the Bas of the temple first there was a Siege around Y and that was the beginning of the end Hashem had withdrawn his countenance his divine presence his intense presence we were Unworthy of his company it was the beginning of the end it was the beginning ofan beginning of Destruction and so to Mark the beginning of This calamity we fast today even if it falls on a Friday even if it takes away from our ER of shabas nonetheless we fast today to recognize to recognize that tragedy but there's another reason to sa B he says and he writes he doesn't have an exact source for it but he believes that on the calendar on the calendar of the history the story of our people of tanak something else significant happened on the 10th of Tav and what was it the saale of yose yoseph Joseph was taken out of the pit and sold by his brothers into slavery on this day we are fasting because of divisiveness and fighting because we don't know how to get along because we don't Yet full fully have Unity the that baseless hatred that marginalizing that contempt that hyper criticizing of one another that's what we are trying to atone for and so even though in some ways it's holding is back normally a of chabas we want to eat we want to drink not too much because we need to save our appetite for chabas but still we indulge we spent a lot lot of time talking about that if you taste the food of shabas on air of shabas but we can't do that today because today is a fast day and the reason it's a fast day is we of course are practicing our s says it's a day of tremendous faith in Hashem to atone for that lack of faith but also it's a time of unity of so today as you're getting ready for shabas since you can't taste food you have an extra time make a phone call check in with someone make up with someone see how people in LA in California are doing our heart goes out we can't stop thinking about what they're going through turn Friday into a shabas by practicing by practicing by making up for that sin the cause of it all and practice Bas baseless love love love for no reason at all check in call wish a good chabas that's the way we turn our Friday it's not St Friday we turn our Friday into an a of chabas by thinking about by caring about by reaching out by unifying by uniting with someone else and we make up for this assar that is this fast you know there's a joke I'm sure it's going to go around if it hasn't already today the GIF the meme that tonight is the night the Jewish women find out what time sh really ends Friday night why is that a joke why is that funny because every Friday night the men in sh they tend to linger they smoo they talk they catch up with friends from the week and people are waiting for them at home and really should get home but when Friday is a fast day only nobody stays nobody lingers nobody shooes everyone makes a beline home in fact in some have the uh some have the practice of DAV and cabala shabas early and Marv early to be home at the first opportunity to make Kish when the fast ends many don't do that we don't want people to make KES too soon because even though some say that when you accept shabas the fast could end we hold that the fast doesn't end until three stars are out until Nightfall until we're certain that chabas has begun with with actual with actual Nightfall so we run home and we make Kish but the truth is that that din that law is not only true this week of it's each and every week the writes that the MIT it's considered to be virtuous and meritorious and proper to make KES as soon as the shabas begins as close as possible the whole idea of lingering and shmoozing and waiting and then coming home and waiting and shmooing and lingering more that's actually disrespectful to chabas if we want to bask in the Beauty and the light of chabas if we want to indulge and lean in and enjoy chabas then don't wait smoo catch up talk sing stories Torah after KES and not only after KES after says that it applies not only when people are hungry or waiting but a person shouldn't sit and talk with friends person should make says right away right away as soon as possible as soon as possible come home start right away so we're going to all do that tonight because it's breaking a fast it's ending and closing a fast but it's not only true tonight it's true each and every Friday night that ordinarily and we suggested a few weeks ago maybe to is to not get hangry instead of coming into shabas with some anger I'm starving I'm hungry let's start you take the edge off by eating a little bit before shabas we don't have that luxury and we don't have that chance because today's a fast day we're practicing baseless love we're atoning we're making up for the sa of Ys for the siege of Y we're bringing the bringing the divine presence even stronger and even more intensely into our homes we're converting and Transforming Our homes this shabas into a mikash into a miniature Temple to make up for that destruction of the temple so tonight certainly nobody's going to delay tonight certainly nobody's going to linger we're going to start right away but keep in mind that it shouldn't only be true tonight each and every each and every Friday night come home from sh take a place at the table start sh Kes from KES don't sit andoo and wait wash right away in my home I could be a little bit of a tyrant I always announce no shmooing no talking whatever everyone wants to get to we'll get to right after raot afteri stay the entire night but let's get started with kadha with KES let's set the tone for the meal with Holiness but then let's go right into breaking bread let's go right into Hamot let's go right into the two loaves let's go right into remembering the m and then we could Sho all night long it's true tonight it's true every Friday night hm should never fast again but we should spend every AR of shabas turning Friday into AR of shabas Ines with the B all of us all of us so please God use today can have can't eat a little something but we can call anyone use that time call someone check in show that love and we'll be [Music] oh [Music]