Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #186 - Think of Others on Erev Shabbos

a good Arab shabas today is not Friday today is Arab chabas we are turning our Friday into Arab shabas want to thank our generous sponsors of the series for the year memory as well today's she today's shabas is sponsored in memory of my dear and beloved grandfather Sam my son is named incredibly special as we go to we're thinking about the those who are snatched from us the hostages may they come home our soldiers and we hear only I want to think about I want to share with you an idea as we turn our Friday into shabas we go into shabas there's a Min a prevalent in cl to wish and to call people on Friday to say good chabas not Friday on Arab shabas to call people on Arab shabas one of the ways that we turn Friday into a of shabas is that even though we can call and check in and connect and bond all week long Sunday to Thursday but it would be kind of random to call somebody on a Monday on a Wednesday when we call on Friday we say I'm calling to wish you a good chabas people call their parents and their in-laws and their grandparents people call those who are alone or shut in people call those who are injured or wounded or hurt people feel those call those who feel invisible and we call to say I'm wishing you a good chabas why do we call dka Friday to wish a good chabas and it's a beautiful Min and we should continue we should expand we should add we should reach out to one another we see each other and we say shabas shabas I was in mod for shabas Israel and it really um it was very impressive to me everyone I passed on the on the street observant religious non-religious diversity of religious everyone said shabbat shalom shabbat shalom shabas shabas shabbat shalom it is a greeting we walk by one another during the week we nod we give that Jewish nod when you see another Jew at the airport when you see another Jew in a public place but chabas oo shab Shalom good shabas we connect chabas is a time that we connect with CLA Isel Arab shabas we call to say good shabas on shabas We Wish each other a good shabas and we wish each other a shabbat shalom and that is not a coincidence because that's part of the fabric it's really what part of chabas is all about and it's one of the ways that we turn our Friday into AR of shabas to wake up Friday with a list with an agenda who am I calling who am I checking in with who am I texting who Am I whatsapping who I leaving a voice note for who do I want to make sure feels that they're not alone that I connected that I love them why is it that we do this why is it so important how is it that we turn our Friday into a of chabas by wishing a good chabas and connecting how is we turn our chabas into a more exalted and elevated chabas by everyone we walk by saying shabbat shalom and good chabas that actually connects to our paraa it's an idea for Pas K but you don't have to be listening to this on or in advance of K we know the para begins took what did he take the tum tells us he took himself to one side of he created division SED division what did he Divide from what did he come apart from tells us pluged the Shalom korak took on two things he took on Shalom he was against he was an adversary he confronted peace and plug with shabas korak was against chabas korak somehow attacked chabas what does it mean that korak divided or or retreated or was against Shalom peace and what does it mean he was against shabas wasn't a sh shabas Kor in many ways sometimes is misunderstood there was some greatness to Kor certainly minimally he was a shabas he observed shabas so what does it mean that korak was against shabas how could one say that against about korak and the answer the says it writes it on our all write this idea and they say the following they say that shabas and Shalom represents to not feed our ego to not have an inflated sense of self Shalom peace comes because it's not all about me there's room and there's space for you I can have Harmony and I can have peace because I recognize I respect I make space for you shabas is a similar idea for example thees he disagreed with why is the name of Hashem Hashem is everything Hashem is everywhere and when we when we assert our ego ego is an acronym for edging God out we push out of the picture if it's all about us our honor our distinction our name our being an influencer then we've edged God out with our ego with our sense of yesus of yes here I am I exist I'm independent I have value I'm in charge I'm in control we push out and similarly he writes is the day we cling and connect and we surrender and we submit to Hashem there's no me there's no I all there is isem a yet a Jew can't enter shabas with a sense of ey with an ego Friday is a day that we work on ourselves to be humble and to be modest we don't wait for everyone to call us we call them we don't wait for people to drop things off at us we drop it off at them we don't wait to be invited to others we invite them we don't think that we are God's gift to the world it's not about our ego we don't fight and we don't yell and we don't have anger we don't have disappointment in the people who didn't prepare for chabas the way that we want we practice humility and modesty we overcome that yesus that sense of ego and ID and I and instead instead we have a sense of humility the holy B says that's thear tells us told us if a person dies on a of shabas it's a positive omen or a positive sign reinterpreted to mean not that a person dies on a of shabas it's a good sign but M of chabas means if a person nullifies or kills their ego on Arab shabas it's a good sign you want to know you're going to have a good chabas how do you turn Friday into Arab chabas by spending Friday killing your ego by spending shabas thinking it's not all about me it's not about my want it's not about waiting by my phone for others to call shabas I'm going to not stand a of shabas I'm not gonna stand on ceremony I turn my Friday into a of chabas by overcoming my ego shabas to kill to murder to nullify that sense of ego that sense of self on a of chabas on a of shabas and to kill that sense of in the sense ofo and that's what it means that we go into shabas with a sense of humility and a sense of modesty so korak korak was all about me and my name and my ego and my COV and my honor and my influence and my power Kor who confronted MOS and said it should be me I'm in charge I should be the influencer I should have the most followers I should go the most vital what's going on over here Kor was asserting his ego and when you assert your ego you're taking on Hashem you're taking on Shalom peace and you're taking on shabas and you're taking on chabas you can't go into shabas with an ego don't go into shabas are they gonna ask me to Le doing am I going to get alyah how come I wasn't invited how come going to shabas of shabas that's a mission of turn Friday into a of chabas the way we turn our Friday into a of chabas is M of chabas kill that ego on a of shabas murder that ego nullify that ego don't Edge God out Edge God in you want to spend the Beautiful chabas with your family and friends and with Hashem you want to have a beautiful chabas with peace of mind of yourself then it's not about ego surrender surrender let go submit get rid of the ego don't Edge got out Edge got in how do you edge got in by less ego that's a for Friday so we should be successful turning our Friday into a of shabas by being we should be vigorous and healthy should be alive and well but M shabas what should not be alive and well and inflated is our ego be modest and be humble and have low expectations and have a beautiful air of chabas by calling others to wish a good chabas by making sure on chabas you walk by everyone and connect to have unity and no no no no conflict and no crisis and no strife and no division only AAS only unity and wholeness and togetherness that can only happen with a sense of humility and that and the Merit in the Merit we should hear a good Shas everyone [Music]