Turn Friday into Erev Shabbos #181 - Don't Do the Minimum

good a of shabas today is my Friday of course it is a of chabas our last a of chabas without music because tomorrow night and Sunday our and we'll be able to lift ourselves up with the sound the AR of shabas playlist the a of shabas Music our turn Friday to AR of shabas series is generly sponsor by fish in the memory of Jonathan your calendar May say Friday but our calendar says AR shabas and our mission our mandate what we are here to do is turn our Friday into an a of shabas just to demonstrate the significance of covet shabas of honoring chabas of being prepared for shabas the in writes that when lag falls out on a mo shabas since L one would be allowed to shave and get a haircut it would be inappropriate on shabas to be Manu shabas to be so straggly and unkempt and then to be shaving and getting a haircut such a short time later and therefore the Rama says a special dispensation when the calendar Falls the way it does this year when like B is M shabas Sunday you're allowed to get a haircut and shave as of today as of AR shabas I Shar that because it's an important to know to go into this shabas looking handsome kept haircut shaved looking proper looking Prim but it because it also demonstrates the significance and the sanctity of chabas the coved the Holiness how we honor our chabas and we don't want to dishonor it by remaining unkempt and then getting a haircut we honor the shabas this shabas in every shabas to time our haircut to time our shave to time our looking our best to be chabas shabas is not when we li our worst there are people who all week long wear suit and thae and then shabas they dress down in their wardrobe there are people who look prim and proper when they go out they put themselves together incredibly Friday night they wear a chabas robe a robe instead of putting themselves together COV chabus the COV chabus honoring shabas is so significant that in fact it allows us to get a haircut and shave even though it's not yet like B certainly that should remind us the significance to honor the chabas in preparing to honor the chabas in presenting ourselves to honor the chabas in what we wear each and every week as we come into shabas last week we began to focus on to shabas we saw it in the par a couple weeks ago to shabas to honor the chabas not only by the chabas that happens automatically inevitably not only the one chabas that comes ready or not but to extend it to bring shabas in early and to carry chabas out a little bit late we saw maybe that's what it means the two shabas that we observe are really on one week There's the chabas that happens automatically and there's the shabas that happens voluntarily and we show our love our commitment our affection our passion our enthusiasm for chabas by not doing the bare minimum of when we have to but by volunteering by bringing in it early by being ready so that chabas finds US waiting for her instead of of course the opposite that's why the says that women have the custom to light the candles 18 minutes early we schedule for men so that we can receive and accept so that we can make shabas even before the sun sets even before it descends upon us there's a a debate among the early commentators is the ra holds only Yer can you extend regular shabas you can't others say that you can extend shabus when is ITA and when is it dur you can extend chabas but it's only a it's RAB and the mor another opinion says that in fact bringing chabas in early that's RAB but holding on to shabas even later than when the three stars are out that's D righta that is biblical it's a debate but all agree that there's an incredible Merit incredible virtue there's something very special about extending about expanding about being ready for chabas in the winter shabas can be short in some places it's hard but in the summer a long Friday there's no reason there's no excuse don't be running don't be rushing don't be using every minute of those 18 minutes but take advantage of the ability to show to show the B says tells us we should observe shabas in order to create shabas wonders what do you mean create shabas chabas is a total law Hashem made chabas not you so where's the shabas what part of shabas are we making it happens automatically Ready or Not explains that's to when we show we're here early we're ready to go we can't wait we're so excited it's not the last possible minute we're not minimizing it to have to experience it the least possible but tophus we're expanding we are experiencing it extending it as much as possible the holy significance of this to shabas I mention recently put out a contr a collection of some of the virtues and the reward of to shabas of bringing it in early now we normally say that you don't get rewards for mitz in this world we wait for the next but the of P writes the r applies only when one performs the minimum requirement the Mitzvah itself that which you're obligated there's nothing special that you're doing don't wait for the reward you're just doing what's right the reward will come in the next world but toes the voluntary part when we go above and beyond we extend ourselves when we do more that you are rewarded in this world and you're rewarded in a multitude of ways one B children the Aral would say to those who are struggling with fertility secondary infertility that one of the schools one of the things that we can do is to show a love of chabas through to shabas bring it in early bring it in early and Merit children where does he get this idea from Perhaps Perhaps from the gamar the gar tells us that tells us that a person who habitually sits next to the candle will have righteous children Aus is that the shabas candle theah candle what candle sitting next to the candle because one is immersed in studying Torah it's all right but perhaps it's the chabas candles which is if you bring in chabas early you light the candles early that love that passion that commitment that Embrace that demonstration of faith in Hashem by extending and expanding and bringing shabas and early is rewarded by having another generation to teach that and transmit that to it's considered to be a wonderful thing for everyone but in particular to be rewarded rewarded with having children rewarded with having righteous children to teach our children our children could look at us and see a Yiddish kite which is bare minimum a Yiddish kite which starts when we have to and ends when we can or a yish kite which is voluntary a yish kite that we love that we're committed the first earliest possible part let's bring it in early let's hold on to a little bit late let's go above and beyond let's not do bare minimum and therefore if a person wants to have righteous children they have to live they have to demonstrate they have to model what they want to see in those children so bonai the first is the blessing of healthy children blessing of happy children successful children to have a long life the pre adds that a person should be cautious with he writes if you add just like you've added to shabas hasem will add to your life so if a person's ill sick worried about a diagnosis a person struggling suffering there are no simple there are no certainties of course it's all Hashem but one of the things that we can do among the list of ways we take care of ourselves is if we extend if we expand then Hashem will extend our lives he'll add on to our lives it's one of the things that we can that we can do to earn to earn to earn life and we'll continue next week more to shabas what else can we do and what else do we get from it how can we practically but today turn Friday not only into Arab shabas turn Friday into shabas by bringing into shabas don't wait till the end shave haircut show the covet of chabas the honor of chabas wardrobe dress code chabas is so special we live for it's the M the source of we love it we love it so wishing a holy shabas a happy chabas a healthy chabas wishing a shabas that takes us into the light of should light up the world with BOS we should get great news May the hostages come home May our soldiers have a sweeping Victory may we celebrate only the best of