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The One Mistake That Pushes God Away
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There are two ways to live in this world. Which one describes you? In this powerful video, we contrast two opposing mindsets through Torah, Chazal, and lived experience. Is life about settling in, unpacking, and staying fixed... or about journeying, growing, and moving forward with purpose? This is a reflection on identity, growth, and why Judaism sees life not as a destination, but as a path. 🔔 Subscribe for weekly Torah that strengthens your Emunah: https://www.youtube.com/@rabbiefremgoldberg
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You can operate and live in this world
with one of two mentalities. Either I've
moved in permanently. This is all there
is. I've unpacked. I'm here to stay.
This is all that exists. Or you can
enjoy this world and all that it has to
offer with the recognition I'm only here
temporarily. I'm just passing through.
The mafam describe when they're born
Jacob and Asov. Yakob is an ava heel.
When a person takes steps, what touches
the ground first? The heel of the foot.
First, he steps with the heel. YaKob is
growing, walking, progressing, moving,
advancing. He's always, he's not a
finished product. He's not done. Yakov
is the best is yet to come. As of in
contrast, Asov, on the other hand, As of
Asov is a finished product. What you see
is what you get. Asov was born that way.
Asov was born that way. You know, thanks
to AI, you could do anything today. So,
somebody created on AI and I saw it in
my family WhatsApp group. It was a meme
or gif. I don't know the difference, but
two babies in a double stroller that
looked exactly the same, but one was
ruddy, covered in red hair, and one
looked like a baby. Right? They use AI.
How did Yakov and Asa, these twins, Asa
we know came out fully developed like a
mature adult. He already had a beard. He
was already covered in hair. Why?
Because physically was reflective of
spiritually, emotionally, Asov is
he's done. He's complete. He's a
finished product. What you see is what
you get. There won't be any progress.
He's not going to advance. We said this
last week from the Meshma. Remember what
we said? Beautiful insight from the
Meshma. After Jacob takes leave of
Lavan, Lavo,
Lavan goes back to his place, the Yakov
Jacob goes on to the and the said
contrast the two
after all those years of living with
after all those years of living with the
righteous Yako he's unchanged he's not
influenced he's not impacted where does
he return to Limo my play this This is
who I am. What you see is what you get.
I am the same way I was 13 years old.
I'm stuck. I'm fixed. This is how I d
this is how I learn. This is my
patience. This is my generosity. This is
my attention span. These are my life
goals. This is it. What you see is what
you get. This is who I am. I'm fixed.
I'm a finished product. What Carol Dwek
would say is the fixed mindset. Hako.
He's back right in the place. His
default. That's where he started. That's
where he'll end. That's where he is. All
the time in between. Yakov, in contrast,
goes the daro. The darco. Yakov is back
on the der. What's a derak? Derk is a
path. Yakov, that's his name. Footsteps.
Puts down his heel. He's walking. He's
progressing. He's advancing. He's
changing. What Carol Dwek would call not
a fixed mindset, but a growth mindset. A
growth mindset is doesn't matter how
old, how young, what stage of life,
retired, working, always growing, always
learning, always advancing. Asov is as
what is made, whatever exists in the
present is all that counts. That's not
Yakov. Jacob, our essence is that this
world is an entrance way to the banquet
hall that the Mishna Perovas describes.
So our stay in this world, you can
operate and live in this world with one
of two mentalities. Either I've moved in
permanently. This is all there is. I've
unpacked. I'm here to stay. This is all
that exists. This is my identity. This
is what I live for. Or or you can enjoy
this world and all that it has to offer
with the recognition I'm only here
temporarily. I'm just passing through.
Person goes to a hotel. a person goes to
a resort, so they don't necessarily
fully unpack. They don't start making
adjustments to the decor because they
say, "I'm only here temporarily. I'm
going to enjoy it. I'm going to maximize
it. I'm going to take out of it
everything I can. I'm going to take
advantage of all the amenities, but I'm
just here temporarily. I'm just here
just passing through." So that sadic
Yakobin who lives life in this world.
I'm a g. I'm a stranger. I'm a sojourer.
I'm a traveler. I'm just passing
through. I'm a temporary resident. Asov
says, I've moved in. This is all there
is. There is nothing more. So, I'm here
permanently. And that's the message
Hashem conveyed to when he said,
Hashem says to
Gore, sojourn in this land and I'll be
with you. And the explains based on
many I am a sojourer in the world. Hide
not your commandments from me. Why would
David's status as a g especially enable
him to understand Hashem's mitzvah? So
Ephraim explains that one shares one's
inner thoughts and feelings only with a
close friend. A person passing through a
town doesn't bear his heart to the
citizen of the town. He only bears his
heart to someone who's traveling with
him. Somebody who's traveling,
somebody's on a journey, someone who is
sojouring. They pass through a town,
they meet someone, nice to meet you, we
could have a coffee, we could check in,
we can make small talk. I'm not letting
you into the innermost secrets of my
heart. But somebody you travel with,
someone you go on a journey with,
someone you're vulnerable to, someone
you make your way through this world
with, that's who you're vulnerable
enough to share with. So David was
expressing that although he resides in
Haza, although he's living in this
world, he's doing so with the mentality,
the attitude of a I'm just traveling.
I'm just traveling. So Hashem is his
travel partner. Hashem is his travel
mate. They're going through the world
together. Hashem is hidden and has no
one to rest upon. Since I am only a G
and you Hashem are traveling, you have
no one to rest. So we'll we'll go
together.
We're in it. We're in it together. And
that says that's Hashem's message to
if you move in permanently,
I'm not with you. But if you're going to
bring the mentality of somebody who's
traveling and journeying and we're doing
it together, then I'm with you. I'm with
you.