Ten Minutes of Meaning (Part 83): Eat to Live, Don’t Live to Eat - Mesillas Yesharim

good morning Boker Tov and welcome back to our 10 minutes of meaning series generously sponsored this year by Lenny akane Greenstein I'm Randy's father mr. Aaron Tambor our own Dan get stuck who's neshama should have an earlier on how the greater from moshe haim with Sato has been charging us giving us the formula giving us the prescription for how to live a life of our best selves how to conquer the temptation the inertia the drive the appetite that will lead us in the wrong way and sabotage our success and how to acquire the kinds of attributes and qualities that in fact will lead to our success we began by looking in depth at the quality of zeros mindfulness caution consciousness how to be present in every thought speech and decision that we make every behavior every act that we do the remedy moved over to services once we've learned the mindfulness and the caution how to unleash our alacrity our zeal our enthusiasm set goals and go achieve them and accomplish them and now we petting me this time Nikias how to identify the kryptonite in their own lives how to see the parts of our lives that could be responsible for our downfall and how to eliminate them in areas of promiscuity and in areas of honesty and integrity and most recently in areas of eating and that's where we are in Perak Yadav Luca de l'eau de l'eau Shalaby Amos a tomato sauce got some embodiments meum lagana trifle Shiva mean Akasha asked me McCloud tumor not only are categorically non kosher animals forbidden to us in other words it's not just the pig it's not just the animal that doesn't have the criteria for it to be too determined to be kosher but even an animal that is in the category of being kosher but it meets its demise in a non kosher way it didn't undergo a proper schita ritual slaughter it too is forbidden to us well have they been I tell me about tartar my BOB parish Lamba say mr. colonel raha ain't sarcoma been humble apart you don't have to know the difference between a donkey and a cow a cow is a potentially kosher animal donkeys not so why does it say the Torah that you're only allowed to eat that which is taller pure and not that which is tummy impure then Tamela hoping to hoo-hah they Nishka rubbish a little cuts you because it means even an animal that falls into the cow bori of being potentially kosher but if it didn't die in a kosher way if the animal had an illness and simply had an end of life if the animal was hit by a car the animal was hunted it's not eligible to be kosher it has to be done with shaquita become AB in rubella Hatillo and Sheeta has five conditions to it which are incredibly sensitive and nuanced the difference between cutting the majority of the windpipe and of the esophagus mooladhara the rabbi's say is the difference of a hair's breadth Varma washrooms ever seen Ahmad Mohammad bin rouble aha Rose come and Niflheim it for chef Anna so after between military Manish you know the show hate slaughters the big cow and he says you know my knife get stuck for for a moment a millisecond of time I added a drop too much pressure do you know that I cut a little too little not enough that would invalidate the cost of value of that whole cow is so much less is so different than if the sheet that were done properly and yet that little amount the little amount of pressure the little amount of time the little amount that's cut is the difference between kosher and non kosher because the rabbis want us to understand the Castros is all about harnessing or a sense of discipline and it's not just about whether the and the ingredients meet the criteria of being kosher but it's a matter of how much we eat when we eat and why we're eating we're supposed to be eating to live not living to eat food is the fuel that drives us to be able to accomplish who were meant to be and lead the lives the difference were meant to make but when our relationship with food is unhealthy is dysfunctional when food is providing us comfort or an escape when we're eating at hours we shouldn't or eating well beyond when were foe are eating foods which are going to shorten our lives then not only is it an unhealthy and dysfunctional relationship with food it's a suicidal relationship with food and I'm not saying this as an outsider I'm saying this as somebody who my whole life until today struggles with eating outright with a diet and a healthy lifestyle and love food I love the taste and I love the the aroma and I love the crunch and I love the variety and I love the diversity and I love food and I struggle with that notion of the comfort in it and that's why that's a daily battle lakum Mihama bread and war every time we eat were going to war every time we withhold from eating we are in a vicious battle what will win who will triumph the godly soul the discipline soul inside us or the animal instinct the animal in the animal craving who just wants to indulge what will be who will drive us the enemy sheesh Lamar click cut cut the stem classes let me give you a little help let me give you a mindset let me give you a lifestyle that will help and empower you to conquer that temptation that urge that instinct and to make the right choices in your eating yak shall be Surya Martha come on fellow Marcia more commotion is audible is it ever I see you have to see food as either potentially containing poison it will kill you it will compromise you it will cause you great pain or food can be the fuel the energy that drives you the energy that elevates you it is the battery that enables you to go Keeney lua da Brasileiro hyuk other man so not for me man when Bashar egoism makes me wish I feel of Cascia katana and if you ever had a negative reaction to food if you're lactose intolerant if you're allergic to dairy if you're gluten free if you're celiac and you know what that food does to you you know the pain it puts you in you know the hospitalization god forbid it may have it may have compromised you with then you're not even tempted to eat that food again you look at it at the end you see that food is trying to bring about your your demise your end it's not even a struggle so says that I'm how we need to look at food the amount of food or the timing of food or the ingredients of food even if they're all technically kosher but if they're in koushin unco sure in their impact on us we have to see it as poison if to say I would never put that in my system there's no nutritional value or unfold there's no reason to continue to eat that or this is a time I'm about to go to bed why would I fill my belly with food that will just sit there all night foundation oyako a person will never be lenient they mock yellow yellow not sure about all the show the gum work so if a person flirts with eating poison lets anybody somebody tells you you know there's a warning that went out from a certain company and a certain amount of its food has cyanide in it there's a poison that got mixed in so there's a recall on that food and you go to your cabinet you go to your pantry you go to your frigerator and you say I don't remember when I bought this or where I bought this I'm not sure if it's subject to the recall or not I'm hungry I'm just gonna go for it I'm gonna press my luck Russian roulette I'm gonna eat it not check the label and I don't know if it's subject to the recall or not who in the right mind would do such a thing even the person who is a risk taker would never do such a foolish thing they would understand they would be labeled a real a real food if something potentially contains poison if it can contaminate you if it can compromise you if it can sabotage you you don't have to harness some major willpower to overcome it hopefully you're not even drawn and you have no temptation to eat it says that I'm how that should be our attitude to the foods that harm us if a food as nutritional value and it's energizing you nourishing you if it's good for you if it'll give you the energy to go be your best and have your best day then eat it eat it judiciously and eat it and enjoy it doesn't have to be unflavored we don't live on bread alone enjoy a flavor delicious but a person should look at and examine and reflect and be mindful of every morsel we put in our mouth not only does it meet the strict criteria of caches but doesn't meet the criteria of a healthy life officer a mouthful far beyond eschew eros mama shall label our nefesh non kosher ingredients even more than only harm us and compromise our health and well-being but the non kosher ingredient contaminates our soul it is in fact poison for the Soul and came here for ya MA and make a mockery listen ba say hello yo Dahmer's NMR Basanta second below Ewa in battle nephesh autopathic initially put a knife to your gullet if you possess intelligence if you want to know whether there's someone's smart or not don't check their IQ don't ask them for their SAT score or their college transcripts if you want to know how intelligent somebody is don't look at their bank account and don't check how much they've accomplished or how many friends or followers they have online says that I'm hala quoting I'm Ella if you want to know how intelligent someone is look at their eating look at the lifestyle when it comes to food now I understand there are genetic predispositions I'm not judging house for Shalom there are genetic predispositions that make it difficult to eat right or to be the right weight and as I said I'm an insider I struggle this my whole life I'm talking to you as somebody who's on the team of those who are working on it now if somebody who has no temptation it can look on the outsider and judge who is who has desire but I'm saying with the show marmella kata I was telling us is we can we can harness our self-control in our integrity we have that ability to say no to be much more choosing much more intentional much more judicious and mindful in all that we put into our system to give us an energy that drives us and not to put in anything that would have to show them compromise us and in fact in fact whether we harness that capacity whether we use that mindfulness whether we draw that strength to make those right decisions will say so much about us and by the way I have to tell you as somebody who I struggle and go through periods of undisciplined in periods of discipline when you're disciplined when late at night you're rummaging through the cupboard looking for that bag of potato chips and say you know what why would I put that in my system right before I go to bed I don't need that I don't want that the satisfaction and the joy of expressing discipline is in fact much more delicious than anything you gave up in the process it's just that your your appetite is trying to trick you and fool you in that moment it's trying to make you believe you need to eat it so those are the moments of truth that's lehem and Mahama that's terrif often I show her naked solar I wear my enemy's negative on there at the table is a beautiful sound so fur which will end with for today some so for my friend and colleague herb I Blumenthal shared with me Sam suffers back in Paris Baku Co cite the beginning pressure little kosai the Torah gives us the blessings if we live a proper lifestyle we are blessed the histogram dioecious but zero but serious I guess that is Zara they are how to not make a mess over B shaft and load that dock bar it so come your threshing will last until the vintage until your your wine crop is ready your grapes are ready to be taken and your vintage until the next planting and you'll eat your bread my sofa with say shoes but you shot them about Akbar took him so says the Sam so for commenting on this PASOK he says you know the fond memory boy chef al-majalah Minato wladim sometimes overeating is not good for you and so being wealthy and having access to all kinds of foods and delicacies and quantities and diversity can in fact be a curse not a blessing in fact that Sam so first says he observes I don't know if it's true honorum cubed Aruba honey and Brima Bali koa people who have less means people who are underprivileged are sometimes healthier they haven't overindulged their cholesterol and blood pressure is better merav a serum shushei carvajal i'm rahamallah with Lana and people who are incredibly wealthy who can stuff their face with all kinds of delicacies and treats unfortunately therefore are often a less healthy miravakily loccent a new Gotham because they have access to unlimited amounts of food and varieties of food people are less healthy so says the Sam so for you know the biggest brother is Hashem says via Carlton laughs ahem last sofa you'll learn to eat only until you're full stop eating when you're full that's the biggest brother he's singing like and Ayesha's butts here and so on but even though you'll have all that quantity of food that you're threshing will last until the vintage and the vintage until the sowing even though you'll have that enormous quantity of food nevertheless the Haltom laughs ahem my sofa you'll have the capacity to stop eating when you're full mentioned last time the rival had a great practice the tightness arrived it he would leave over the last morsel of whatever he was eating and it wasn't a waste because it was harnessing and cultivating that sense of discipline within himself he didn't have to lick the plate didn't have to eat yummy till the last drop he intentionally left over the end of whatever he was eating to make the statement not to others but to himself that I own the food the food doesn't eat me that I'm eating to live I don't live to eat that I help them laughs ahem las over I'm full I don't need another portion I don't need extra I don't need to keep going just because it's here or just because it tastes good or just because it makes me feel good I only eat in order to live I don't live in order to eat and with that thought I'm file finishes this section of Nikias the notion of the Battle of food and what it says with us our area of discipline in this area of life and he described in the Dom Barrett ah Hatami Medina man old America has been the other way kyboot some continue please guide next week as I'll describe to us some of the behaviors we need to be mindful of we need to work on when it comes to social interactions as social animals how we treat others how we speak what we what use to make people feel mr. 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