Ten Minutes of Meaning (Part 198): Fortunate are Those Who are Humble - Mesillas Yesharim

good morning Booker tele welcome back to 10 minutes of meeting please help yourself to coffee and donuts and 10 minutes of missiles to show them a big thank you to our Anonymous sponsor who has sponsored this conditions alter Ben 10 we're deeply grateful for his generosity and sponsorship we're at the end of chapter 22 paragraph Bays of has been teaching us the path towards a better version of ourselves and deep embedded in the safer is humility and it's done so not because humility is unimportant it gets tacked on on the end but just how difficult authentic genuine humility is humility in our mind in our perspective in our attitude humility and our posture and how we carry ourselves humility and our speech and how we communicate with others and humility in our agenda in all that we and all that we do and then I'll ends this pair and he says he says that honor and dishonor are not something that you can demand they're not something that you could require they're not something that you can buy they're not something that you can ask others to do but rather honor and dishonor or essentially earned by our behavior and just like a Russia a wicked person a person who's despicable a person is immoral a person is unethical person is a bully a person who's crude a person who's rude [Music] so disrespect and dishonor and disgrace follow them you don't have to earn disgrace you don't have to demand disgrace person acts disgracefully and people relate to them with disgrace and similarly how covered a rabbi a community leader any person who stands in front of their family their employees their co-workers friends or their community and says I demand respect speak to me this way address me this way honor me this way treat me this way is not honorable nobody honors someone who demands it we honor somebody who earns it who acts honorably that's why hazal tell us our rabbis tell us if you run after honor or honor runs away from you if you run away from honor then honor follows you we've seen that with our greatest sadiqam our holy holy Israel you see great people great men and women they shy away from honor they don't want attention they don't want to honor or honorifics and because they act so honorably everyone can't tell but treat them with honor as opposed to the person who doesn't take themselves seriously they take what they do or sorry they take themselves too seriously not just taking uh what they do seriously and says we try to successfully address the many components of humility to Define them and a person has to know every situation every circumstance every relationship every interaction what needs a different strategy needs its own unique approach person has to be mindful a person has to be thoughtful says let the wise man listen and add Insight there's no one-size-fits all person has to know at home at work in shul who am I how do I conduct myself what do I project about myself how do I act honorably not because I seek the honor life is not determined by how many followers or fans or posts or tweets or likes that is one of the tremendous Corruptions of the generation we're living in that we think that who are the most honorable people influencers but you don't have influence by signing up to be an influencer the greatest influencers in the Jewish World don't even know what the word influencer means I never heard of an influencer that a watch influencers that never signed up they never applied to be an influencer the greatest influence not only in the cosmos metaphysically but physically in the Jewish Community issuing and giving us direction through their Das Torah the greatest most righteous people they never signed up to be an influencer they have the most influence because they act in a way that we should all want to subscribe to their influence so I don't remember if I said this and this year reminds me of the New York Times one said a story about ramosha Feinstein's that's how they asked him about being Israel the Posse they didn't use exactly that language but essentially a translation of it they said where do you where do you apply how did you earn that title where do you get that certificate and he answered I don't know what you're talking about people in my neighborhood started asking me questions I guess they like the way I answered because more people ask me questions and now I'm honored that people from all over ask me questions it's a wonderful interview the New York Times that he said he didn't sign up he earned it when one acts honorably people give honor when one acts dishonorably then they act in a way that's a disgrace then they earn then they earn that attitude towards uh towards them humility removes many obstacles from a person if you're humble and you're not worried about getting the most attention in the room having the most honor in the room having the biggest Monopoly in the room if you're just in it for the right reason if you're serving Hashem not yourself if Torah is the brand not you if you're always interested in getting and not your name becoming more lights and bigger and better then that will influence the decisions you make your judgment how you been behave and you'll make better choices in life and you'll be a beloved person is humble person is modest person who is not demanding a person who acts honorably will be beloved to everybody will be beloved to everybody the person who is micromanaging person who's on a power trip person who demands honor maybe they get a response from people because they're afraid but actually none of those people like or admire or want anything to do with such a person you're humble and you're modest you're not going to get angry and you're not going to fight and bicker and get involved in conflict with others because it's just not worth it and it's not about you and it's not about your name and you're willing to let it go you're willing to let it go rather all that you do is done quietly you can live a life of Serenity and Tranquility you could live a life in which you are integrated with people and beloved to your community and to your friends and it's an amazing thing on this is the Sean points out that ends the spirit this chapter by saying fortunate is the person who has the privilege who merits this virtue later is recoiling and looking like wow wow such a person that could really do this so we might have put on evos we might have put humility and modesty at the beginning of the safer it's one of the places to start to begin just be humble big deal tucking it in all the way look how deep we are into the Safeway all the way towards the back and he ends up by saying wow astray Smith wow somebody you can authentically and genuinely there's a whole lot of false humility what the Internet calls humble brags every time someone posts I was so humbled to be honored and here's a picture of me being humble with my honor so it's called The Humble brag online humble Breakers I really want to brag but part of my bragging will be to show you how humble I am there's never been anyone as humble as me I'm the most modest person that ever lived and in fact I got an award for my humility and I'm humbly showing you my reward for being the most humble person there is so we live in a time where there's inauthentic counterfeit humility being broadcast and projected genuine authentic real humility she's willing to blend in doesn't need the lights doesn't need the likes just as happy to try to make the world a better place repair the world redeem the world and be on a mission to carry out hashem's will and that it's always all about Hashem the brand is Yiddish kite and Torah the brand is Hashem not about you and Shabba says just as wisdom makes a wreath for its head humility makes a heal for its Soul the entire the entire experience of wisdom cannot compare with it it's clear-cut it's clear-cut in other words humility is the foundation humility is the is the engine that drives everything else if one is engaged in all kinds of even other virtuous and meritorium serious Behavior but with arrogance it corrupts everything they're doing the core of everything needs to be a healthy and genuine and authentic sense of humility person that can really blend in fit in be happy not know more of shakter has no idea how many Shear me as he doesn't know how to get online he has no idea how many people listen or follow him are posted what his influence is if he's an influencer he just wants to sit in a safer with a turn Corona I'll never forget how many zooms I was in with posca hador and scientists and doctors to try to figure out what to do and and refshakta would be quiet and in the background and you'd be deep into the zoom could be an hour or two in when someone would say have an opinion have a thought and only then if you pushed he would share what he thought whereas others need to monopolize and insert themselves and and own the conversation the humility is is mind-boggling is my mind-boggling it's about the Torah it's about Hashem it's about speaking when you have something to say it's about offering an opinion not asserting or inserting it all the time anyway this is a difficult level very very difficult level to get to that's why we're towards the end of of the safer and takash we should be fortunate and blessed to be able to arrive at this Mida until next time stay happy stay healthy stay holy living with the moon at 8 45 tonight we're going to mind the bhima with Chief Rabbi sir Ephraim Mervis to have a conversation on the coronation tonight at nine o'clock have a wonderful young to everyone