Ten Minutes of Meaning (Part 192): Be Simple and Easy - Mesillas Yesharim

please help yourself to some coffee and donuts and Advil and wishing everyone a friend like 10 minutes of meaning is sponsored anonymously Ben Pentecost we remain very grateful this morning is also responsible it's family on the earth side of israeliyah and lastly our Global campaign continues we're about 55 there if you've not yet contributed we greatly greatly appreciate non-brs members who benefit and enjoy the content we provide to help contribute and enable us to continue to spread it we are on the 22nd chapter of Mrs and talking to us the character trait of humility and of modesty We Begin by talking about it how do we think of ourselves how what is our posture what is our self-perception what is the way we relate to ourselves do we think that we're all that are we competing with the almighty who is in control who's managing this world or do we submit and we surrender do we recognize that we take initiative and we do our part but ultimately it's his world moved over from the world of mashaba to the world of maisa to the world of action it's not enough to be humble inside to be humble internally but a person has to be humble in their practice and their conduct in their behavior and the first way that's measured he said is bidiburo and the way we speak and the way we speak to speak banachas that the words are heard when they are relayed when they are transmitted nobody ever was yelled at or screamed at or threatened or spoken to condescendingly and said you know they've got a point I really should make some radical changes in my life people are open to growth they're open to influence they're open to a message resonating when it's communicated to them gently and sweetly what's interesting points out it doesn't say it doesn't say that the righteous or Scholars know how to communicate says you have to know not only what you're saying you have to know how it will be received how it will be heard many years ago but a person asked to have a sensitivity that if what you're going to say even if you think you're saying it sweetly and gently and kindly but it's going to trigger in the other person it's going to hurt the other person the other person because of their own background in history and filter through which they're hearing you is going to take offense or it's going to cause injury or pain not only should it be said with sensitivity but it requires tremendous forethought to anticipate the person you're saying it to who are they and how will they hear it and how can it be said in such a way which will not only said a person has to be very careful how we speak number two so the first behavior of humility or modesty is in our speech don't ever Raise Your Voice the ramban in the letter to a son emphasizes this the worst media is Cass the worst me to the worst character trait that doesn't belong in any measure his anger never indulge anger never lose your cool never be in a fit of rage never never get angry never raise your voice what's the best way to avoid anger he says person is transform yourself hit pile transform yourself to be the type of person who always speaks if you never raise your voice if you speak gently and kindly and sweetly you could be upset you could be hurt you could be passionate enthusiastic but if one trains and conditions themselves to always speak banachas then you'll find you'll never lose your cool you'll never fly off the handle you'll never get angry and you'll actually have a much greater influence than the people around us that we want to influence the second is the way we carry ourselves in our very physical posture um who is the person who will go to the world to come fake so they answered one who is humble one whose knee is lowly he was bent over when he enters and bent when he leaves in other words our very posture speaks so much about what we think of ourselves or how we want others to relate to us person can walk around and they need to suck all the air out of the room you walk into a room with a chin held high and standing up firm and needing to draw the attention and all the spotlight and Limelight for us to walk in with their chest out and bravado and think through all that the person could walk humbly a person could walk humbly looking down person could be slightly bent over I'm not good for your posture but at least uh humbly presenting oneself so hazar said you want to be a Ben Olam Haba don't walk into a room you think you're all that you stand up so straight your chest is out your posting your chin is high everybody look at me everybody listen to me this whole room has to revolve around me person should be able to just fit in just blend in our very posture I don't know others here like the hobby of people watching you're in a public place and you're sitting on a bench you just people watch just watch the way people walk watch the posture they bring the attitude the energy that they're putting off in a room so what's the energy that we put off in a room when we walk into a room or walk out of a room we're sitting around a table with others a dinner table or a boardroom table a business meeting table what is the posture what is the what is the attitude that we are projecting about ourselves don't walk erect or walk to formally love betrayed this Godel okay just be normal just fit in just blend in just be modest just be humble because if a person walks arrogantly if a person walks arrested as if you're pressing upon the feet of the divine presence so first was how we speak do you yell do you scream do you demand do people live in fear do they walk around sittering that you're going to lose it on them do you know how to communicate gently sweetly softly anticipating how it will be received and now it will be heard number two of the posture when we walk for if you were to watch security footage of yourself would you recognize yourself maybe unintentionally you don't realize usually the People by the way who their chest is out the most and they stand the tallest and they demand the most attention they have the lowest self-esteem the lowest self-worth there's something missing something absent inside themselves that needs to be filled with the attention or the praise or the honor of others but a person who has a self-worth person who has a healthy self-esteem person is only concerned with how Hashem perceives them and their family is able to not need to draw all the attention and Spotlight you can walk humbly into a room the third speech in the posture we carry ourselves how we walk and number three is bishopto how do you sit associated with those who conduct themselves in a modest and a humble manner they don't sit with the people who are ostentatious and boastful and arrogant and egotistical and competing for attention who do you run with who's your crew as the young people would say who's your crew who's your crowd who do you hang out with who are you competing with where do you want to sit where do you want to sit you know you have people when there's a school dinner a school dinner a simha wedding you have the people who when you're seating them you say oh they need to sit with they need to sit near close to the band far from the band near the entrance far from the entrance you can hear about it they're going to be offended can you believe where they put me they're not going to stay they're going to walk right out because the table they were at and where the table was placed and how it happened don't be that person don't be that person wherever you're seated you have your wish you get a thrill out of being with the modest and the humble whoever you put me with it's the best I'll tell you a little secret if you're making a simha don't put me at the rabbi table I'll know whether you're my friend or you're not my friend by where you put me I love rabbis don't get me wrong some of my best friends are rabbis I love rabbis I love rabbis but don't put me at the rabbi table spend a lot of time with rabbis put me with them I like the people put me with my people I just want to sit so you learn a lot the Deus where on the Deus where do you seat on the Deus you speak to the people who run the sea machas they need seven and a half years to figure out how to manage all the people the day is off the day is where on the day is what's seen Amadeus tells us don't be that person just Wherever You Wanna doesn't even notice where he was on the day is be a person who just Blends in fits in what do you need you're competing you're going to post it to your status the world needs to see where you sat where you were invited you attended just fit in just sit shame will end with this thank you for the alarm don't glorify yourself before a king the place of prominent people don't stand better to be told move upward than to be humiliated before the nobleman as your own eyes have seen it's better to start off low and someone says no no come step forward come sit more in the forward then you try to sit where it says reserved and they say this isn't for you what are you doing here okay move to the back move to the back just blend in just sit be humble be the extra leg room that you're allowed to but I'm saying in general just be honest just blend in just be humble so humility you could be you think you're so humble in your moved over to the world of maisa of action the test the demonstration of humility is not what you think in your heart but it's the reality of how you're perceived by others if you ask someone what's that person's brand how do they speak sweet soft gentle or yell scream loudest do they monopolize the conversation how do they walk when they walk in a room do you even notice or you didn't notice they say something oh I didn't even realize you were here when they walk in a room everybody has to know they walked into the room and be shifto the person that you'd sit there over where you're going to seat them or now they're simple they're easy they're happy they're modest be the easy modest person pick up with next week 8 45 living with the Moon