Ten Minutes of Meaning (Part 160): Serve With Joy - Mesillas Yesharim

good morning book your toe welcome back to 10 minutes of meeting please help yourself to coffee and donuts special thank you to our serious sponsor of the year jeffrey gilbert memory michelle mcdovid abner ben avraham very grateful for his generosity we're in the nineteenth chapter of music has been helping us chart a course to a better version of ourselves how to not just be carried by momentum and by inertia but how to consciously and mindfully live life to make the right choices to be our best selves and to be able to look back with pride each and every day and on the lives that we've led we began with zahira's mindfulness and caution zereses alacrity and zealand we've gone through countless uh midos so far and we're still up to bayer we have been defining what it means to be achasad what it means to not be satisfied with good but to strive for great and here in the context of what it means to live with piety what it means to be a khasir that has told us that the second hashem you know you seem to sometimes we might picture or conjure up this image that the hostage someone is truly righteous and pious walks around very sober very serious very careful to be basement to be jolly and happy that's not a hasid that's a frivolous person but teaching us it's exactly the opposite in hashem says a core part of your serving me is being happy is being joyful it's being positive is living a joyful life don't walk around sad and sober and somber don't walk around absponding and depressed don't walk around negative and critical but put a smile on your face be happy so much so listen to these words of ram this is what we're up to um is gets angry with the jewish people even when we serve them and do everything right show up a minute and give stakka you learn you clean for pesach you buy the expensive matzah you have the finest wine you put on the trail and you light the can you do all the mitzvos between man and god between man and man you're doing it all right but hashem says you're doing a miserable abyss and a negative critical then he gets angry at us so but i took the garbage out you say to your wife but i put the dinner away but i put the kids to bed yeah but you did it miserably and you had such negativity and forbidden upon him the whole time so don't do it if that's the way you're going to do it don't do it at all gets frustrated he gets angry and he says it's so nice that you're doing it but if you're going to do it in that way then are you really doing it at all put a smile on your face be happy and joyful be excited and enthusiastic do you know why i will visit this horrifically graphic terrible punishment upon you you know why it not serving with is not because you're not serving you ate pork on yom kippur while you were bowl and need delayed the khaju barco doesn't come up with a whole list of things you did wrong and that's why i'm angry he says you did everything right externally if you looked at the checklist check check check check you did everything right but you did it without joy you did it without a smile you did it without enthusiasm it's an incredible standard that level is unbelievable he visits the tokuga and claisro not because we omitted or neglected not because we violated but simply because we failed to smile we didn't do it with happiness and joy it's a beautiful new messiles asharam with the commentary of the mashiach of don segal mesut ozil with his commentary i get that morning and he says the following very beautiful insight on these words is both the short and the long path what does that mean it's a sure path because how hard is it how hard is it to put a smile on your face well you say i i don't feel happy i smile when i'm happy i'm not happy i don't want to smile the answer is who said smiling has anything to do with feeling happy it's a decision you make to smile it's a decision not an emotion not a feeling when you engage the micro muscles of your face and you make that decision to smile it turns out that you release endorphins and adrenaline and it turns out chemically then you start to feel happy so you don't have to wait to feel happy to smile make the decision to smile and you will feel happy it's relatively easy says the bashem but you get a very long result because when a person is happy you're living at a different plane your relationships are going to be in color not in black and white your decisions are going to be made with clarity they're not going to be clouded when you're living basement you're alive you're alive your pulse will slow down your blood pressure will rest you'll be healthier mentally emotionally spiritually khazrish writes he quotes not only you know what else is going to happen you know what else happens when you feel simka you get smarter smarter when you're not basimha you don't make the best decisions and you don't think clearly and when you have all this weighing on you and you're worried and anxious and angry and resentful and you're negative and you're miserable who can think clearly who could make good decisions who can remember doesn't embed itself in the memory it's writes you want to succeed in learning you want to grow in you want to be smart and wise then choose to be bisimra smiling and being the wellsprings of wisdom you want to be smart you want to be wise then choose to be happy choose to be happy and then says something incredible he points out that the fact that is invoking listen to the words shen that's what ramachan said says he's angry he's frustrated at jews who serve without happiness so i might have thought said that simcha is being happy and serving with a smile it's an additional benefit it's a nice added layer it's a beautiful virtue you should try to accomplish so if you serve you did the core job bottom line is the garbage was put out at the curb bottom line is the kids got their bath homework and were put in bed the bottom line is i put in our leftovers away so okay i could have done it with a smile could have done it with a little more joy and enthusiasm i could have made you feel better that i was doing it you're right but the bottom line is i did it but says it's not the case when it comes to the service of hashem it's not that i get a check next to i did the mitzvah but i didn't do a basimcha so i get an x next to the simcha it's that the mitzvah itself is compromised the mitzvah itself is corrupted the mitzvah itself is khasir it's missing something that's why misray mcconaughey it's a tanaiba dasam it's not i did the avodah i just did it without the enhancement of simha it's that my avodah itself is lacking the avodah itself is incomplete the avodah itself is compromised it's a big hiddish it's not that i did the mitzvah but it's really nice to do at basimra it's that if i didn't do a basimha i did not entirely do the mitzvah it's a big hiddish it's powerful and what an expectation and a responsibility on us to not just do the mitzvah but to choose how we do the mitzvah to do that mitzvah with a joy with a smile to do it basim to open up the hazardous or those wellsprings who doesn't want to have better relationships who doesn't want to have better health who doesn't want to have more wisdom who doesn't want to make better decisions and clear judgment it's all in our hands just put a smile on your face just choose to serve him had already attained this level and he davened that this virtue should remain below tasur he saw the jewish people were giving were contributing they were donating nobody had to extract it it wasn't like pulling teeth or giving root canal the people were excited they were giving with joy they knew that's what they were meant to do with their resources and they were proud and joyful to participate so david said uh if we could bottle this feeling if we could battle this emotion and that's what he says in divrei the nation is gathered here preserve this forever let them feel this forever the other night at the shore dinner hashem over 400 people we were back came roaring back to energy and enthusiasm and a great feeling ah ribonuclease bottleness the actus the energy the joy kabbalah and they're so joyful in their contributions he says hashem lo tosura battle this let it never disappear let it always continue in this way let it always animate and inform and inspire the culture of who we are not to be negative and hyper critical but to be positive and joyful because that's icker avodah that essential and a core to all that we do living with amuna 845. tonight we're going behind the bema with auburn coach bruce pearl might have seen him speak about purim the ukraine tonight nine o'clock have a great day say happy healthy and holy