Ten Minutes of Meaning (Part 136): Commensurate With Your Car - Mesillas Yesharim

good morning and welcome back to 10 minutes of meaning our weekly study of mesilas yasharam the great ram kharar of moshe ludsato who takes us on a path of how to be a best and better version of ourselves to constantly be working to improving to growing to not be stagnant or complacent to not be stuck where we are in life but every one of us has so much more to do to accomplish to achieve to grow both personally professionally in our avodah hashem in our service of hashem and in so many so many other ways i want to uh invite anyone who wants to sponsor the series for the year we're looking for a series sponsor for the year a great close to great merit each and every wednesday morning people all over the world learning the seals to share them together 10 minutes the changes the radical improvement to their life will be in your merit if you're interested in sponsoring this series for the year please be in touch you can email lee at brsonline.org or to sponsor a particular share you could go on the link brsonline.org sponsor all right we are in the middle of hasidis and as we've been discussing hasidis does not mean to wear a big furry hat and have long long pious to have long pais khasi this is means to live a certain life life of righteousness of religiousness of piety it's hasidis is defined by the as going above and beyond not mailing it in and not getting away with the bare minimum not trying to do only good enough but striving and having an ambition to be great we see this with our own eyes we see this empirically this media this quality this desire and relationships that relationships are enriched and relationships are improved and relationships thrive when we don't get away with the minimum when we don't do just enough but we anticipate the needs of the other when we are excited to exceed the request of the other when we're so happy to make the other party happy and go above and beyond and we see this in so many realms we see this benicio ishito in marriage being able to know we see this in parenting claudio dover here's the rule being called any parties between whom love is strong love is authentic love is great love is true shalom yomare so those parties they don't say lo nuts yo sir daily machinist ah it's good enough i put the dishes on the counter they didn't have to make their way in the sink i schlepped the laundry basket to the laundry room i didn't have to put it in the washing machine i bought them cubic zirconium it looks like real jewelry it doesn't have to be real jewelry i did this i don't have to do that when we really love someone we go above and beyond what they asked we don't wait for them to ask we do even before they asked so the reflection or the um evaluation if you want to know whether there's an azerbaijas is there a burning true strong genuine love is there a bond is there a respect is there an admiration one can measure it by how far the parties are willing to go for one another are they satisfied with it's good enough is it a marriage or is it a parenting child relationship or is it a friendship which is just barely holding on it's in survival mode it's good enough or is it thriving is it blossoming is it flourishing is there commitment given a person should deduce what the other person's mind what's on their mind and what they want and to attempt to go above and beyond it and what's true in marriage and in parenting and friendship which true professionally and work to go above and beyond to exceed the expectations to exceed the ask of the other to anticipate the needs of the other is true in our relationship with hashem are we of the hashem are we the type of people in this world that we do the bare minimum god says that's good enough that's a biddy evid life good enough you could get away with it good enough or do we say god i love you you're so good to me you're kind to me you're giving to me you're generous with me and i love you i want to confide in you i want to communicate with you i want to connect with you i want to bond with you so i don't just do the bare minimum i don't just do enough to put a check i don't just do enough to be good i want to strive for great i want to be great in my understanding of you and in my sharing and confiding in you and in my connection with you the same is true for the person who loves god a faithful love a true love for he too is one of those who are devoted to return so a person should think now the difference is when my spouse says to me could you get the kid ready and drop them off at camp this morning could you take out the garbage could you do the dishes could you pick something up on the way home husband to wife wife to husband when the spouse asks something they're asking something for the family but they're asking something for themselves because they can't or don't want to or don't need to be the only one to do it everything god asks of us he doesn't ask for himself everything god asks well 613 commandments every expectation he has of us is for us he is the master of the universe he's omnipotent infinite and perfect he has no needs by definition so any ask he has of us is for us is for this world is for his other children our siblings the rest of humanity it's for us so all the more so when we go above and beyond we do more than the minimum we anticipate that need it's not his need we are anticipating his reflecting to us a need which is really for our own benefit vasloyo marshall we shouldn't say daily masha alma beferesh it's good enough says this or the torah says that and that's good enough or after athme i'll call upon him i'll get away with the bare minimum the least expensive mezuzahs the least expensive rule of an esrog the least amount of kashru standards the least opinion in observing shabbos the least amount of having to give stuck or volunteering to do i'll do the least amount people sometimes ask me you know messages come in all kinds of price points you could pay forty fifty dollars for a mezuzah and you can pay a hundred fifty two hundred dollars from a mezuzah so people sometimes ask what measure should i get is there really a difference first of all there absolutely is a difference it doesn't mean that the seller who's selling it represents that difference unfortunately there's a lot of counterfeit and there are a lot of corrupt people in that business but it's someone you trust someone you know then you need to know that the quality of the mezuzahs the standard of the mezuzahs are not all equal they can be different and that price reflects those differences so i always say what kind of car do you drive what kind of car do you drive do you drive a luxury car now a regular standard inexpensive car will get you from point a to point b if you step on the pedal it'll get you there today it all has power windows power locks are you satisfied with the minimum when it comes to your car or do you have all the bells and whistles do you have a luxury car do you have a name brand car where do you shop for your clothing do you buy non-name brand clothing or fashion fad do you keep up do you need the latest neighborhood let me see your watch what kind of watch are you wearing and the answer to those questions dictates and determines which mezuzah you should buy which lulu of an aesthetic you should invest in if you're not satisfied with the bare minimum with the lowest standard when it comes to the material gas means of your life then you cannot must not be satisfied with the lowest standard the mere minimum when it comes to the spiritual part of your life a person can't say good enough is it good enough technically do i fulfill that's not what it's about allah now that i've learned now that i see that god prefers this god desires as god loves this god wants this god craves this again all for me but it's what he wants my eye should be wide open i should be looking longingly i should desire to give him this is the notion a person who gives nachas a person who gives pride and pleasure to his creator yothro's creator that's our mission that's our mandate in life it's the way that we were constructed as the way that we were designed when we give nachas to our parents it doesn't matter how old you are it doesn't matter what stage of life you're in when you give nachas to a parent when you give nachas to a superior when you give nachas to somebody you look up to you get a tremendous geshmaq you get a great feeling a deep satisfaction a profound fulfillment well the greatest superior there is the greatest parent there is is our creator is the almighty is the master of the universe and when we give nachas lyotro when we behave and conduct ourselves in a fashion where he doesn't say it we're mailing it in we're getting away with the bare minimum with the lowest standard it's good enough but we say we want to do the best we can we strive and we search for piety we're overachievers so many people are over achievers in the physical world overachievers ivy league or bust over achiever have to work hard make more make the most be the best in every area every arena what about spiritually are we spiritual overachievers are we trying our hardest are we communicating to our children our grandchildren that we want them to succeed in the physical and we want them to strive to achieve and over achieve in the physical but much more importantly we will get nachas when they strive and achieve and over achieve in the spiritual in their learning and in their prayer and in their taka in their qualities in their character that matters even more nimsa clara has we see a principle we'll just finish this up so you see that piety is the same category as precious as living a disciplined life elisha appreciates beloved so precious the ability to be disciplined to live without to say no to go above and beyond us in the realm of that which is forbidden the negative and this piety is taking upon ourselves more on the elective and the positive they're two sides of the same coin foolish to go above and beyond to do more than what is asked allah 18 next week we'll begin chapter 19 the elements of piety will further dissect and define so that we could begin to pursue that level of piety but i leave asking you and asking all of us in every area of our life do we want to be pious spouses and pious parents pious friends pious employees and pious servants of hashem pious in the sense i see this in the sense of above and beyond passionate on fire eager trying to do more than just the bare minimum because that will reflect and that will define us again if you're interested in sponsoring this series for the year please be in touch and please contact you can sponsor an individual class at 8 45 living with emunah until next time stay happy stay