Shiur by Rav Asher Weiss Shlit"a in memory of Brian Galbut z"l on his 1st Yahrzeit

good evening ladies and gentlemen and thank you so much for being with us tonight what hopefully will be a meaningful night and undoubtedly with the words of a governor of usher weiss will be an inspiring night but is also a very painful night as we come upon the first jared site of boracay our dear beloved friend and mentor and brother and hero and role model rabbi dr brian galbet and as i look and i see the family gathered over the course of the zoom not only here in america but i even see from eretz israel from other parts of the world undoubtedly it is the family who continue to feel the most profound pain but one of brian's greatest attributes at least to me was making every person he met every person he knew feel like his family that means that each and every one of us he was he did never she was a soul brother and his loss though he mark a year later tonight is his yurt site the pain barely seems to have dulled at all we're in the three weeks the nine days shivohu shakalba the cusp of tishabhav that are engineered in reverse in order to create a sense of grief and emotion and mourning and loss over an available develops and yet though this is the first europe ambedera the gemara say that the passage of time a person is designed to forget and to be able to heal nevertheless this loss a loss which is a ghorban which has been so devastating to his amazing wife and his most beautiful children to his extraordinary parents his amazing siblings and aunts and uncles and cousins to all of his family and to all of us who felt like his family a year later the loss has not dissipated it's not eased at all it is equal to the destruction of the basal mitosis and as we said at the lava a year ago the basal mitras was a vehicle an instrument through which hashem expressed himself in this world and that's him the righteous they are our contact with the divine they are how we see and have faith and confidence and know that he is there and when we lose at sadiq when we lose a person who lives with a muna and devakas we lose a person whose every breath is in praise of hashem who is a walking embodiment of everything hashem wants from us that access that manifestation that expression of hashem is gone in this world it is based on kenu it is as devastating as the loss of the basis and that loss of brian remains for us a year later so profound and so deeply painful to his family and to all of us i know looking out at family and dear friends that you feel as i do these last four months as globally we've gone through a pandemic how many times not in the months or the weeks but how many times a day do every one of us ask ourselves how badly we need brian now brian's encouragement and brian's faith and brian's words brian zamuna and brian's strength brian would be looking around and wow an opportunity i get to quarantine with my family it's amazing isn't hashem amazing isn't everything amazing i'm with my family and look at the good and look how everything is wonderful and the some of us have not felt but every moment of every day these four months it's a harsh reminder of his absence as we want to reach for that phone to call him to text him to hear him and to draw from the contagious energy of ammuna and of simcha that permeated him all the time it is nothing short of a horban a horban to have lost our dear friend to have lost our dear role model tells us he reduced the totality of torah to one expression all of mitzvos and all of character traits can be captured because we rode the coattails of his ammuna of his it transformed our everyday our every contact and when we needed him if we needed advice if we had a bad day he was the rock he was the rock that we leaned on says it can be reduced to the pasta can ruby akiva says it can be reduced to via but writes in a mood from the fourth parrot that in fact torah and mitzvos can be reduced to apostolic in our pasha the sahayasha when you don't know what to do in life just ask yourself what does hashem want from me right now what would give him the greatest walk around with that acute awareness that mindfulness that presence of mind to always say what does hashem want from me right now how would he want me to react what would he want me to say what would he want me to do how would he want me to behave the ramban says the torah can't legislate and regulate every single scenario that can come up so it gives us this overarching assistant and writes this muscle intuition that a jew is born with the pentalyid that telomere the spark of god in us it speaks to us and it tells us this intuition towards godliness be on the straight narrow be a mensch be a bentora be a loving and a kind and a good and a gracious and a happiness smiling and a selfless person and that's how brian led his life that's why he was beloved by everyone who knew him family friends patience colleagues chavru obey him beloved by everyone and undoubtedly beloved most of all and welcome to shamayim himself he lived the life of yashar and he lived the life of tove and that's who he was in every given moment there's a story i don't think i shared any of the context or writings because really if you think that i speak often about brian i promise you i'm holding back i'm holding back i could speak about as all of you and we could forever but one time i was playing golf not all my stories we spent quality time together other than on the golf course but that's where you had the greatest conversations you talked in torah and you talked in life we were playing with jeff williams i remember where and i remember what hole we were on when one of the people from the golf course drove up in a golf cart to ask does anyone here have a volvo suv it's brian with his character yes i do i do she said well we have bad news a vandal ran through the parking lot and for no reason smashed the windshield of random cars and unfortunately yours is one of the cars and your windshield was smashed in so brian heard he absorbed the news the person pulled away and jeff williams and i looked at brian wondering what he was going to say next and he said no let's finish the round it's not going to change anything play on and that was brian that was brian the simple the joy the happiness the friendship the lovely time that we were spending he didn't want to ruin or have it be ruined play on in life that was his motto play on and when we got back the windshield glass was shattered all over his seats which meant it was shattered all over the passenger seat that was covered in swarm because everywhere he went he had the swarm of the daphyomi in the next kabura he was preparing and the learning he was doing with his children and that story that episode to me so much it captures brian his faith his simcha sachim couldn't be broken even if the windshield was play on carry on in life no matter what it deals you and no matter what comes your way that what the glass shatters on reflects everything about who you are and his car was filled with his lab coat and his stethoscope and his farm it's who he was and it's how he was defined and he is so sorely and badly missed by us all when the month of of comes in we'll never need to struggle we who knew brian galbraith for us we'll never need to manufacture tears for tisha b'av or for the nine days because this yard site tonight the eighth of av will forever be embedded in our memory we have two days of hurban call yesterday marks the night of and anyone who knew brian also marks the eighth of but the baba character says to read and punctuate a little bit differently which is when the month comes in we're lessened we're diminished we're deficient we're at a loss and yet what we're telling us is we may be less we may be diminished but we have to do it even when we're manhattan even when we're diminished and deficient and at a loss even when we're broken by a hormone he taught us brian it has to be basement and so tonight with no further ado brian would want nothing more and wouldn't be honored by anything greater than tamidek gedola israel russia yeshiva and postkim who would teach torah to honor and elevate his memory brian admired and grew close with agon ravashawi shlita and many friends and family dedicated ravashars sephora in brian's memory which meant so much to brian ravashad and cared and inquired about brian's well-being sunday his great rosh shiva from where you shall i am of sasebsky will deliver a sheer in his personal connection and i hope everyone will tune in then as well obviously understandably with the time change the hour is extraordinarily late in israel surah washer recorded and just got to us the recording of a special sheer that is devoted to brian with the beautiful introductory words so on behalf of his amazing incredible and beautiful family we thank you all for honoring his memory tonight his first year site for learning torah in his memory we thank hagon vashawais and sunday rav sasewski and i want to give abraha to adina to his beautiful children to the upcoming simcha and the simchas that were just celebrated to his amazingly strong parents into the whole family hashem should give you in he should give you comfort and consolation and by seeing how many people are on tonight but moreover how many people around the world have been so inspired by his memory may give you tremendous tremendous strength undoubtedly he is looking down with the biggest smile from shamayim and saying hashem everything is amazing a privilege for me to dedicate this year the illusion is dr brian galbraith was an amazing person an unbelievable person in many ways a paragon of a good job an admired doctor a talmud hochem an unbelievable muslim that loved to learn and above all said and a tremendous value this we have so much to learn from dr brian galbet one of the most special people i have known and it was a schools to me that his family and his friends dedicated the mindful social ana in his house he was desperately ill took him home and this is the first yard site so it's a privilege to dedicate this year to the illuminische he should be a melissa wonderful family and a kurdish vocal should give them all is the most difficult and terrible days in the jewish calendar the novice mentions the four fast days four days that are dedicated to fast to mourn to remember that of all those four days tish above is first and foremost this is the terrible day in which we lost the basement twice corbin by a solution and by is a full 24-hour fast compared only to yoymakipuri unlike all the others that are only you know that says tish above is an entire 24-hour cycle and that just indicates that this is the day like no other so the topic we will be discussing today is golo sangulo corbin of the binyan destruction and renewal by claudia's soil they always come together remembrance is something very central in yiddish right men atera medieval on one hand we are supposed to remember our days of glory and that to is stage another phase of yetis messiah place that we celebrate leaving egypt leaving eretz misline and sukkas we remember the journey the journey in the desert makes your mind that accompanied us along the way the so we are to remember our days of glory but we also remember our days of destruction of hurban [Music] and that is the connoisseur of ian valid sinus or bringing to mind there's a beautiful semen which deals with two different concepts which are two opposites many takonas we find in ghazal the prohibition on sheer and music seven different technologies and sources we find in shas which is in the continuation of that very same semen i brought eight different sources people were broken and they assumed and they understood it's a long way off obviously it needs doesn't necessarily mean that we will have to wait that long [Music] so on one hand we have golem on the other hand we have dalet soymoise and one hand zeke dash on the other hand zeifer that is part of our ethos many times i say a jew never lived the present throughout most of our history was too painful too dreary the jew always looked back to his glorious past to derive strength and kayak to move forward while his eyes are always fixed on the horizon waiting for sunrise looking forward and hoping to see his magnificent future yes our glorious past and a magnificent future that is the way the jew lives that's the way he traveled through this torches painful goddess almost two thousand years [Music] so involved we find argumentation being between some of the prussian after hormone base amigos and the great of israel so the prussian said how could we eat meat when we remember that the meat of the carbonates were brought on them and how could we drink wine when we remember niso hayan every day in the neistair which is no longer and responded and he said so maybe we shouldn't even eat bread because of the menace which were grain and barley and maybe we can't even drink water because of new zeal mayan and fragrance sucrose hello please share balance between morning between profound sadness and hoping for the future hope and faith and it is only they that could find the right balance belail has seido we remember yetis misline the focus is on but we make a safer for the girls but we also eat tomorrow to remember being and the meaning is to eat an egg which is so this is a joyous night a wonderful night but we do not forget the girls and the pain and the suffering tissue up to the contrary the focus is we do not lose hope so to shabbat was called the my aide and that is why we don't say two of the greatly shown and bring an amazing mean hug and this meaning is also quoted in sephora at the very end of massachusetts the world coming and both the cowboy and the merchant quote this minute in the name of great guido elemental from him the woman attacking tisha bob in the afternoon woman could rinse their hair and wash their hair and that is because machiavelli according to the messiest will be born on tisha let's say for a minute to make just this minute it's amazing because it goes against it and the issue of the entire 24 hours of tisha brown but they both quote this minute which was instituted by great good island obviously they felt that in their time in their day and age after all that soros of godus that was a meaning in our days many stardom have the meaning that the women wash the house the rinse they clean the floor they do what we call an exosaurus plunger on tisha vote well that that doesn't go against the innocent that are born but we once again see from this minute is the balance yes leila say this cooler haters but we do not forget the pain and suffering it is the most horrific day of the year but we do not lose hope and we have somewhat a safer to sing with that as so i would like to share a word with you which i said many times and i say this every year before to suburb so the navy is the one that promises a magnificent future says and many ask the question what of this is have to do with this safer so the first part of the prosecutor has many different interpretations it's an expression of hope it's a broker it's a filler a prayer it's a prophecy it's a promise that these terrible days of mourning in the future will ultimately be transformed into jays so you will ask when will that be and the navy says i can't tell you when i could tell you how when it is up to you you are the ones to determine when it will be i will tell you how oms i'm sure that all you all of you are familiar with them americas if you would be sitting next to me i would be standing in the magnificent children boca raton and i have such fond memories from the shabbos i spent in your shoe in boca it's been years but i have very fond memories so if i would be standing in sure i would ask you so what does that say what's the continuation of the mama and i'm sure all of you besides those that hurt me in the past that is what people are accustomed to saying margelou before made the in shape but there is nowhere to be found in ghazal what we do find in ghazal is far more troubling far more demanding it's your xiaomi and yamada called it happened it transpired in our days that doesn't put direct responsibility on us but that is not what ghazal is saying they do not say they say it is you that bear responsibility so mother leaves the home just for five minutes and she tells her little children that are playing nicely i'm just going to the grocery to get some milk please take care she comes home five minutes later the big beautiful window is smashed the flower pot that was on the table is broken into pieces on the floor and the floor is full of water and broken glass and as the mother opens the door all the children together in chorus called airhud mommy the window just broke and the flower pot fell off the table mother says windows don't break by themselves and flower pets don't just jump off tables somebody did it and i would like to know who that somebody is so when we say this it happened didn't just happen somebody did it and say we would like to know who that somebody is so that somebody is me and you and each and every one of us makes an interesting comment twenty one days from shavosabutano's titish above coincide with his 21 days from rosh hashanah both are 21 days and the significance of 21 days me finding you xiaomi at the end of thomas that is the very first apostol it is the half title that we read in precious matters after shavos of the talmuds so the very first nibbler that yamiya navy sees is marcel shockett who explains explains kaiden until amidst turn into fruit takes 21 days and that is an indicator of 21 days from shabbat i'm institutional so the my show goes on to say there's an other 21 day unit and that is from rosh hashanah and just like the days are days of truth of judgment of the same 21 days from shabbos of the thomas to tisha so it is not enough just to mourn is there are days that adam says i wish we all fast because of tragedy that struck our forefathers and then goes on to explain the rationale of these fasting is not only mourning leftovers explains in these days in which tragedy struck our forefathers we lost the base of mindas it's not only about mourning it is also about fixing what we broke because if cause i'll say marlon rivo the one that broke needs to fix the one that destroyed need to rebuild so every generation bearers responsibility yes therefore it is upon you to do your utmost to do whatever you can to rebuild the bay something in us so what exactly are we supposed to do what is it that is demanded from us let's go back to that very same person so what's the connection between malaysia and the station said navi says you want to know when that will be i will tell you how o ms what does that mean we need to understand what brought about corbin advice to appreciate and understand how we rebuild the lights so there are two gomorrahs and once again because i'll deal with corbin bias initially why did we use the first base of medus and once again nobody knew to explain why did we lose there to soil why was the basement make this destroyed the sages the prophets even the angels from above telekom who revealed the secret al osvam could be no other sort of vedio says if they didn't learn how come nobody knew it should have been already obvious it would be evident how come the sages didn't know that claudia saw it isn't learning explained it's not that they didn't learn they didn't cherish tell you they didn't love they didn't appreciate what toyota means in the life of every individual in the life of the community in the life of the jewish people didn't understand that toyota is the oxygen in our lungs it is what we breathe it is what gives us sustenance and hope story i related many times and many many of you heard it from me my late father passed away five years ago and since he passed away i've told the story many times my father met migrated the croissant first time second day schwartz 1944 in auschwitz my father arrived one day earlier first day she was that very same day he lost his grandparents his parents and five other siblings that went up in smoke in the chimneys and ourselves the great cloistenberg came to watch us one day later and that very same day he lost his wife and 10 of his 11 children his behold number 11 died at the end of the war from tifus so my father was 18 years old and he approached the great levy and he said how happy he is relatively happy as happy one could be an auschwitz a day after he loses his entire family but he told the rebbe he sees it as a privilege that he could get close to him that i be frowned down on my father and he said the mind set that up itself and set the garnish to elephant young boy if you think it's gonna do you any good it ain't gonna do you any good to which my father responded of course it's gonna be really good we could talk in learning and then i was surprised he was taken aback and he said you're in auschwitz and you want to talk and learning to which my father responded yes because of we don't talk among how will we prevail how would we ever make it how could we survive we need to talk and learning and talk and learning they did for 13 months talking learning they did for 40 years my father as a young boy as a young boy intuitively felt if we won't talk and learning how will we prevail and i think that is why claudius saw intuitively fell two thousand years ago finally meets asparcianos queso and as facianas develops a liking a fondness to the girlfriend and he says make a wish and it will be granted what is the biofun and benzakai's request knows that the house the base of english will be destroyed there's no way to salvage that they submit this so the kahuna will lose its relevance then a seals will no longer bear any significance the only guarantee to the future of claudius that is what kept us going so my father in auschwitz second issue was forty four touching dollars fell to the depth of his heart rabbi we gotta talk and learning otherwise we'll never survive so the days of the hormone like borrow explains it's nothing they didn't learn they lack the passion and the love of taira that is number one we need to rectify with lord about the biases more learning more support for taylor that is number one and then we need to try to understand what wrote about horton by his shiny and that is explained both in baby omad after and they did love taylor and they were extremely diligent in the performance of mitzvos so why was the base of make this destroying you know that is what destroyed the base of so how do we build the biases and the scourge of sinners still with us throughout the ancients it is still with us big time so these days of mourning these 21 tragic days between shavosa vitamins and tissue this is the call of the times that this is our challenge more he's a catholic and more i have a suburbans we are in the midst of a terrible pandemic the corona virus is still with us in israel we have thousands of new people that are falling ill every day and the numbers are rising it's not only the numbers of people that are infected the number of deaths is rising the number of severely ill patients is rising patients that are ventilated and i am very concerned we are all very concerned and i know the same is happening in florida and many other places in north america maybe many jewish communities how do we define the plague so once again because i'll seek about a terrible plague an epidemic that struck in the days of ghazal in the days of the great american and that was harassed on a certain form of leprosy very vastly kept the way he just distanced himself it's amazing we know in modern science his viruses spread plagues spread different ways sometimes by your pulmonary system by breathing sometimes in your bloodstream mosquitoes and flies spread malaria sometimes by your digestive system so the gemora says to the great american indeed food that passed their homes they didn't breathe when the wind was blowing from the towns of balerasson stay away from the flies from the mosquitoes and ability just socially distance himself make sure the navy learned with those lepers and today we have the opportunity to teach title with modern technology we no longer need to do what rabbishub did putting his own life in jeopardy just to teach taylor we thank of epidemics we need to learn more tyler and the second school is we all remember another epidemic that struck in the days of raviki vandega based 24 000 scholars 21 000. toyota tell me that perished in a short period being pesach maybe they did love each other maybe they didn't but they weren't know your colleagues that is that they couldn't respect each other because we need to respect even those we have difficulty loving yes it is legitimate that we have differences of opinion but it is totally not legitimate that there is hatred among us sinners it is only when we rectify that we will desire to the beginning of essentially so i started this year of speaking about god even on the terrible day of tisha so let me share with you one other thought on one other american mother not coming menigaskin as we say many kinneys while we sit on the floor and before we say the last of the many kinos we all arise stand on our feet and we say elizabeth why do we rise why do we say this can while we stand did you ever think of it sileo means labor pain yes the pain of gulas disorder my bias is like labor pain labor pains are painful many women cry out i don't know exactly how it feels only are wives daughters moms no woe is to the woman that never felt labor pain it's painful but this brain brings forth the greatest simcha the world has to offer out of this pain comes life comes the future our children our babies that give us more joy than anything else in the world [Music] or a product a result of labor pains so the mccoynan says elizabeth unbelievable pain and suffering that we've been through one generation after the other probably the climax being the holocaust which was probably the greatest human tragedy in the history of the world and the greatest jewish tragedy in our history yes this manifold we lost but on the volume of human suffering of jewish suffering probably the holocaust was even greater than humbai session or by his shame yes the goddess is painful painful beyond description but on the depths of our hearts we know it's like labor and one of the kiva and his friends were walking to harabai's more than 2 000 years ago children are sitting in shiva mourning the demise of their mother and suddenly the mother throws open the door and walks into the room and she is shacked and she asked her children what is this about why are you sitting on the floor and the children are shocked even more speechless and they say mother we're mourning your demise and the mother says this is a terrible mistake get up rise here we are and they get up and hug and kiss and rejoice foreign have a beautiful dish above let's hope it'll be less sausage you