Part 89: 100 Reminders a Day

okay good morning I want to thank dor aorland for continuing to sponsor the Amare memory of their beloved daughter mam eser should have an Aliyah and also our learning this morning is in honor of one of our members who's undergoing a serious surgery should guide the surgeon's hand to a complete and Speedy and fullu we are continuing um with RI we finished the last week we finished uh or two weeks ago the section that we were studying in Al B in the second volume Al Shore so I was looking last night I decided we'll just continue the next peric because I think it's very powerful and very insightful and here ri yeah sure there's more copies there in the middle anyone else knock yet anyone else need here I'll RI again the great Mas of RI has a fascinating background himself for another time but he had a tremendous capacity for human Insight insight into the human psyche and uh for personal growth development really for penetrating into what is it that holds us back and how is it we can break through and his far whether it be his his real seminal Works which are Al the the two volumes of alore which are a collection of his mus approach and the vadm that he led or sa called planting in building which is all about parenting and education it's a small book you sit and finish it in one read but it's a really fantastic but revola was incredible and here he's going to deal with this in this next section the continuing section that we're doing it's volume two peric shishi perish and you see from the title itself is called his and we've we've addressed this several times over the years that we've been studying about amuna together there are a limited number of topics within the topic of amuna so we keep revisiting the same ones we always droke but it's true that amuna Shar is really the same thing every single week I say the same thing every week so why do I come let alone you it's a good question and the answer is very simple because we could say the same things every week and we need to hear it because an hour after we say it I'm only speaking about myself I already need it again an hour later let alone a week later so you know the notion about not losing your cool or your patience and not being envious or angry or jealous remembering everything's for a reason all the values of living with we we need a constant constant reminder that's why we d three times a day understood understood it's more than three times a day it's why the says don't read it what doesm want from you don't read the word what but read it which means 100 and a rabis to from here the obligation of making a 100 bras a day you can't make less than 100 bras a day so much so do we follow this as a it's a mandate you have to make a 100 bras a day so much so that on shabas it gets complicated so during the week you have three shr of 19 bras each so you're at 57 bras right there so you're already more than halfway there you're going to eat if you got an ashkanazi GI track you're going to make a few ASAT you've got you're going to hit your 100 bras you're going to hit your 100 bras throughout the day so but chabas you only have seven bras so you're at 21 not 57 you lost a lot of bras how do you make it up so in there's all kinds of discussions about how you get to the other bras during the day I was when I spent shabas in new Square this past summer so I always wondered what the origin of the that you come home from sh you make Kish you have crackers and Herring and all kinds of food and you go wash and eat so not only did I wonder about it I always wonder it isn't really conned it's really not the it's What's called the G says that you're not supposed to make you might think the more bras the marrier so let me make a ton of bras the says no if you make a br that's not necessary that's not complimenting Hashem it's doing the opposite one should calculate and one should plan and you know which BR you need I'll give you an example I Happ it with my kids all the time you go to the pizza store and you order pizza and french fries and the french fries are ready and the pizza's not yet ready so the french fries come to your table and there's no pizza but the pizza is going to come momentarily and let's assume you're washing on the pizza which this is not a sheer but let's assume for whatever degree you're having enough Pizza you're washing on the pizza or you ordered forget the pizza you got your French fries and you got a tuna sandwich everyone agrees tuna sandwich you got to wash on so now you're really hungry you want the fries should you make a b prama and eat a fry or so then if the sandwich hasn't arrived yet it's not a technically you know you're going to be getting bread but the bread hasn't arrived yet you want to nibble on a fry make a it's not a but let's say they bring you the fries and the sandwich so again I don't want to disparage my own children my neighbor's children will on the way they'll get up to go wash and on the way to the washing station they grab a french fry and say Bama and eat a handful of them while they're going to wash that's exactly a it's a you don't need you're going to wash you're going to sayi it's going to cover the fries that you're you're wasting a you're wasting hashem's name you're not complimenting hasem your miscalculation your your lack of adherence to his his calculation of how to make a is actually accomplishing the how do we get on this tangent because back to shabas so why make KES isn't you're going to start to have the Herring and the cracker and the schnaps and the this and the this what do you mean go wash it's so my host told me this Summer that the origin of the is you got to get to your you got to get to your 100as so it's not a if you're using it to get to your count of 100 bras so you have the Herring and you got the cracker you got the K and you got the whatever whatever all the different uh premeal meal so you're going to add a bunch of bras you make up a few bras there that's why they do that how in the world did we get to this someone's GNA remember oh thank you thank you I appreciate that no no no thank you thank you how do we get on to that what do want from you don't read it what read it 100 so why you want 100 so the ra says you know why we say 100as a day the ra Tor who doesn't usually give the reasons but the ra there writes you know why you say 100as a day because we need no less than a 100 times a day to remind ourselves oh yeah there's a hasem 100 times a day now you say 100 times a day sounds like a lot right I forgot what the average is but you're checking your C on many more than 100 times a day so if you're willing to check your phone whatever the number a thousand times a day I don't know they have the research out exactly how often do people check their phone a day I promise you it's more than 100 times a day if you check your phone more than 100 times a day you could check your rebon 100 times a day so so easily distracted are we so easily do we lose our way and we do we lose our mindfulness and do we forget to be conscious of hashem's presence in our lives we're we are so pathetic you'll excuse me but we are so utterly pathetic that we need to be told a 100 times a day 100 times a day now it's hasm super needy if I said to my wife I need you a 100 times a day to call me and say you love me so we'd have a problem in our hands because no matter how much no matter how much she loves me it's just debilitating who you know it's how needy are you that a 100 times a day you got to call and say I love you I got it once a day in the morning in the evening okay twice a day when you wake up say you love me when you go to sleep say you love me G will call it a day 100 times a day you got to say you love me 100 times a day so is HEM so needy that he needs a 100 times a day we have to say oh yeah we love you oh yeah you're here it's not for Hashem Hashem has no needs Hashem has no feelings Hashem doesn't lack anything we're not doing it for Hashem we are so vulnerable we are so pathetic for lack of a better term that that 100 we need 100 times a day just to have a shot of remembering this hasm in our life he's asking it of us but unlike the spouse who asks it of the other spouse because in fact they're needy Hashem asks it of us not because he's needy but because he knows what's best for us he knows what's best for us so he's asking us to remind ourselves 100 times a day don't eat the chocolate cake 100 times a day don't forget to go for a walk get your 10,000 steps 100 times a day we do this we now spend a lot of money on this we buy electronic true gadgets that we strap around our wrist or we put in our pocket or we wear around our neck or we wear on our belt we because we're so pathetic I mean think about it it's 2018 I have to pay a lot of money to get something to vibrate on my arm to tell me get up and walk get up and new I don't even know where the app came from it tells me to breathe now again you're laughing but I forget to breathe now I don't forget to breathe that I I'm going to die I'm not a risk of dying but you're on the move and you're running and you're looking down and you're doing slow down your respiratory system take deep breaths there's a lot of actually um studies today showing that that we're we're suffering our pulmonary we're not getting the oxygen that we need first of all we're looking down all the time because looking down at a phone at a computer at an iPad we're looking down our gadgets so when your head is down you're not getting in the a that you need and we're always racing and running and going and doing that we're not slowing down and taking deep breaths so we have gadgets that are set to a certain frequency to remind us get up and take five steps use seditary pathetic loow life get up and take five steps right so it means it doesn't matter who you are the president of the United States Apple watch is is ringing on his wrist the CEO of the Fortune 500 company you could be a billionaire you could be the greatest Professor academic Nobel Prize winner it doesn't matter how smart you are how accomplished you are we all need the gadget to remind us don't forget to breathe don't forget to take a few steps and walk around so if that's what you need for breathing and that's what you need to take steps all the more so we need to remind it 100 times a day this Hashem don't forget delicious grapes wow where do they come from they're delicious they're succulent they're sweet they're incredible a cup of coffee wow it starts my day it's it brings the dead back to life it's unbelievable the gift the the the gift of a cup of coffee take my hand yeah the gift on a frigid batone day 47° when I left my house this morning on a frigid batone day you could turn into an icicle I gave us a cup of coffee everything is from hem wow I almost forgot I almost forgot I grabbed the cup of coffee I drink the cup of coffee because I grabbed the cup of coffee while I went to the when I to the so I forgot I forgot this I forgot the the discovery of the Coffee Bean was not a given anyone know when the Coffee Bean was discovered the coffee bean has not existed forever it's not even existed since Antiquity I don't know that much about it but the cof one of the Explorers yeah the Coffee Bean is they went to some place and they were there's an amazing article there's an academic article I once read that that actually traces the origin of T sh of staying up all night for sh to the discovery of the Coffee Bean and the beginning of coffee houses that that that in the same region and at the same time you see this notion of whether was T sh T sha certain practices of nocturnal practices of staying up all night happened I forgot there's an academic article about my point is the coffee been didn't always exist there were generations of human beings who had to find a way to wake up without the Coffee Bean who had to warm their kishkas on a cold morning without being able to sip a hot coffee we have it wow what aom what a gift so a 100 times a day why am I telling you all this this is all just an introduction to this year why do we meet every week and we say the same thing every time because if I have to say it 100 times a day I could do it once a week if I make a br 100 times a day to remember so the ra writ in M Torah why do we say 100 bras a day Hashem is invisible you can't see him you don't hear him you don't touch him you don't smell him you can't feel him so how do you know he's there so 100 times a day we have to reawaken re re arouse our mindfulness that there's Hashem the truth is you can hear him if you're listening and you can see him if you're looking but we forget to listen we forget to look so 100 times a day we stop and we say you know what I'm not just going to look at my cup of coffee but I'm going to relook at the whole world I'm going to zoom out the lens I'm going to see the big picture not only do I have a cup of coffee I'm able to swallow not only why I'm able to afford the cup of coffee and if the cup of coffee just came from Starbucks I'm able to pay a 1,000% markup on a cup of coffee wow I'm in a position to be able to do that wow so the shahak is not dressed on the cup of coffee it's I my swallowing mechanism is working I can afford it I didn't just spill it on myself it's amaz it's unbelievable it's unbelievable so 100 times a day 100 the ra says 100 times a day 100 times a day we interrupt we stop and we think wow wow so if Hashem gave me the cup of coffee and the Coffee Bean and gave me the presents and the then you know what he also the traffic is from him and the frustrating email is also coordinated from him and everything that happens it's all from him it's not random it's not chance it is by Design it's by Design it's all from him it's all from him so mentality I'm supposed to look at and supposed to live with even when other people hurt me says why is there a Prohibition of taking n why is the toad have a Prohibition of taking Revenge now I can hold someone else accountable if you rammed into my car and you're supposed to pay for my car I can take you to Bas and you have to pay for my car but I can't take revenge and why can I never take revenge says because if you take revenge what you're saying is it's the other person who hurt you but you know what they're just an agent can send that person to Ram your car or he can make a cause a tree to fall on your car or he could make aund ways that your car could have been dented so he's the one who did it he was deserving that ashem used him as the instrument so you could take him to Bon and and get the compensation but you can't take revenge because then what you're doing is you're knocking God out of the equation you're knocking gu out of the equation so when I get a nasty email or something happens in my life where I feel someone's hurt me which doesn't happen often but it happens I try to stop and I try to think to myself what am I meant to learn from this if a person has to be held accountable they're held to be accountable I said the security committee after them and we break their legs but I hold them accountable but aside from that you can't take revenge why because then you're knocking Hashem out of the equation as if Hashem had nothing to do with it human beings are empowered to be able to affect one another not everything is from Hashem it's all from Theon 100 times a day I stop a 100 not just the three times a day of not just when I wake up in kishma while I'm falling asleep so it's not 100 it's a thousand when you add up all the other components to it but in addition addition to all those other times in addition to them there are no less than 100 times a day come out of the bathroom I'm about to eat some food I'm about to D in I'm about to I'm about to smell a pleasant fragrance I'm about to I'm traveling today I'm going sit on an airplane what do you think I'm going to take for granted it's the pilot and the front of the airplane is going to get me there it's another so I get to 101 today so every every 100 times a day you have to so all that's introduction why would doing this every week so all that by way of saying Revol is going to deal with a topic that we've dealt with before but he's going to deal with it in a new way and the topic is the topic of the relationship between human initiative and Faith what is the relationship between initiative and Faith because these are contradictory Concepts they go against one another initiative says it's all up to me and faith says it's all up to God so which is it which is it how can it be both aren't they in contradiction do I get the credit or does he who is the Orbiter of its success which one is it aren't these contradictory Concepts aren't these in Conflict I know we like to say they're both but how can they be both how can they be both apparently says I once spoke to ra Shar the author of Gardon of Amun about this and he says I I shared before that that conversation he uh he says he quot to me says it's like b b is meat and milk we're prohibited from meat and meat and milk it's one of the severe prohibitions of food that we're not eat so severe that it's one's not even allowed to benefit from meat and milk so now meat is meat kosher assuming it's Kosher meat yes is milk kosher it's kosher kosher and kosher you put them together kosher you got kosher so free will kosher kosher don't mix them together just think of each one separately don't think of don't try to mix them together when you mix them together you get confused so okay that's an approach that's an approach but we're going to mix them together and we're going to try to see whether we can get a kosher mixture of them together a kosher mixture of them together so say a Jew lives with a different perspective on the world than the rest of the world a Jew is wearing a different pair of glasses a Jew is looking through a different lens we're living a different mindfulness a different Consciousness a different reality and not not from an arrogant or or a judgmental or discriminatory way towards the rest of the world more in a obligatory way obligating us so I'm not trying to offer a judgment kala against the non-jews of the world who are capable of great things and living with God and so on and so forth but more in terms of obligating us to wear a Jewish pair of glasses a pair of glasses and look through the world through Jewish lenses so the non-jewish world and again I think euphemistically he doesn't mean every non-jew you have non-jews who have tremendous Faith you can have a Noah Jew who is living entirely the Jewish view of how the non-jew should live included in that living with tremendous faith in hasem I think he's means more euphemistically the secular World secular culture pop culture its roots are in this world the whole world is defined by how many friends how many followers how many likes how big is the house how nice is the car how much money is in the bank account how good do I look how much Botox what is my surgery what brand are my clothing how much am I in style everything is defined by the material world the physical world and by this world it's all rooted it's rooted in this world happiness is dependent on the experience and the pleasures of this world self-de is defined by this world everything is this world but we're not rooted in this world we happen to temporarily be visiting and staying in this world but we're aliens from another planet and what planet are we from as aliens we're from the planet elus we're from the planet God we really in other words we have this we have this uh today is what is it it's a continuation it's still a continuation yeah so rabago is wearing his Kap still this morning I think they whole two days no slave so we could still invoke the we keep it going yeah why not why not so um so the the Tanya's whole with we discussed this the other night at our but but the the notion of these two Souls that we're living with unlike many to talk about um the physical impulse the animal instinct or voice inside us is categorically b or negative and it needs to be purged or removed or eliminated the Tanya says no we have two souls and a puts Souls if it's a component of a soul it's not categorically negative it can't be if it's a component to the soul but even theam even the animal impulse and soul in us we're capable of channeling transforming directing elevating so that it serves a higher purpose it's not categorically bad or good it is and then our mission is that our Godly Soul Reigns Supreme Over channeling focusing elevating the the animal soul that is in us that's Theon the mission the goal of Aon aad is not even struggling there is no animal soul but the Boni can be what we Define as a tadic meaning even the Boni the intermediate person is is the person who is what we would classically call sadak meaning they never sin but there's a struggle they're engaged in a struggle there's a battle they want to eat that thing or say that thing or look at that thing or go that place or do that thing even when they persevere and Triumph and win and never give in they're still called the B as long as they're engaged in the struggle the the t is written for us it is the book that was written for us I quoted the other night the said about the Tanya that the balatan was able to take such an incredibly large God and put him in such a small book that's this notion that we're from the planet God so in other words the rest of the world we have this conflict we all walk around and we have a dual personality we all suffer from multiple personalities we have an animal personality that says eat whatever you want do whatever you want look at whatever you want go wherever you want be undisciplined be unregulated give to your instinct your impulse your desire your appetite your Temptation your addiction that's the animal voice we also all have a Godly voice that says whoa whoa whoa be mindful be conscious be present is that right is that wrong what the says conquer yourself in thought speech and action the three levels the garments of the soul soul is three garments and expresses itself in the world in these three Realms so we have the capacity to put on those garments or take them off or direct them so the The Godly Soul says whoa I know that I'm strug I know that you're in a wrestling match I know I have an opponent and I know the the opponent in the other corner is saying just do what you want eat what you want go where you want look at what you want do what you want I'm telling you don't I'm telling you there's right and wrong and you're capable of of owning your choices directing your choices you're capable of being in control so what Revol is saying is without invoking any of this language or the Tanya but I'm trying to translate it what rol is saying is that the rest of the world pop culture the Western World the secular world it's living in the animal Soul it's in the it's rooted in the Here and Now by the way this is why the animal Soul how does an animal walk on all fours and looking down cuz the animal is connected to this world that's the animal it's all about the this world the human being walks on two legs cuz we are all about striving to get back to Planet elus we're trying to get beamed up we're trying to go back to Planet ELO I had the best conversation with my son last night I was putting him to sleep I was lying with him and my little son Shai he he you know your when kids just talk you get an insight into how their brain is working it's just fantastic so he says to me he's falling asleep I'm lying with him he says Hashem who did Hashem create after Adam who was the second creation I Saida he goes oh that's right and then who was next I said they're children he said oh yeah Cen and Fivel no not FAL he he he reminded himself it wasn't f it was he good and then he says um where is he I said he's he's in shmay he said right that's right because Ken killed he he say so one second where's Ken is he in shamim also with he I said yeah after he Hashem forgave him for what he did he also everyone's in Shay he said oh and then Hashem is going to make everyone come back when mhia comes right I said yeah this is a great conversation right he's just turned six this is the best part why I'm telling it to you then he says but ABA how do we all come back from shm isn't it going to hurt when we land coming all the way from from from there won't it hurt good question great are great questions wow well it doesn't exactly work he's basically calling me out like AB you don't know what you're talking about you're making this up you don't know what you're talking about but he's like yeah won't it hurt how do you come back and if he killed him does he come back with a knife in him he FAL how's it and won't it hurt when we fall from Shay isn't it anyway unbelievable so so the animal walks on all two because the on four rather and looks down because the animal is rooted in the here and now it's the physical world it's the appetite it's the material world the human being says I'm visiting here temporarily I've got a temporary Visa just I'm not even unpacking I'm walking on two legs because I'm stri I want to get back upstairs I want to go back where I came from I want to go home I want to return to where I'm from I want to be able to go back home so this is the contrast between these two worlds so yeah we're temporarily visiting here we have a Visa we we're here temporarily visiting but we striving to go back home so even while we're here we're here but we're looking through the lens of where we really come from so we're living in the material physical world in a world of pleasure and appetite and temptation but we're living in it with our Godly soul and our Godly spirit it's the door door we say in shab this morning this is Mos God you are our Abode you are our Dwelling Place you are our Escape you are our place of Refuge from generation to generation meaning yeah I'm here on Earth but where am I really living in you even on here I'm living in you what is that idea it's the idea of you know a country is able to have an embassy in another country and the embassy in the other country has the status and the law of the country that the embassy stands from right so so the American Embassy in Israel that's now in Yim so when you're on the property of the American Embassy where are you you're in America what do you mean you're in the Middle East you're in Israel right the coordinates the GPS says you're in Israel but no while you're in the embassy you're in America even while you're in Israel Theon is our Embassy we're in this world Hashem while I've been in this world and I've been distracted by this world and tempted by this world and in some cases beaten and oppressed and persecuted by this world where do I go where does a person go if you ever saw that movie of when they escaped from Iran they got him out posing his journalist what was that called when the when the Sha fell that whole episode right so the whole thing is they got to get to the Embassy because once you get to the Embassy then you're protected you got to get to the embassy it's like your home base in a game of tag you got to get to the Embassy and then you're home so Hashem no matter what was going on in this world around me often not pleasant but you're my Embassy you're you're really I'm an alien from another planet the planet God but I'm a visitor here on the planet Earth the material physical world the planet animal so how do I how do I go home even while I'm here my Embassy where I can find a place of Refuge I find has even while I'm here is in Theon secular sner used to say and he knew he was a graduate of the sbon where he attended with the r and the Reb he was well versed in philosophy so rautner said secular philosophers are trying to squeeze Hashem into this world where do you see God in this world where's the evidence where's the proof Where's God in this world they're squeezing God into this world because if your core if your core identity and understanding is this world so now if you're trying to be religious you're trying to squeeze God into this world we're trying to do the opposite we're trying to say where is the place for this world in God not where is God in this world what's the role and what's the place of this world in God meaning is this world everything and now where do you find God or is God everything and now how do you make sense of this world which Direction so what R is establishing is that a Jew is approaching the world from a different perspective we're looking from a different angle we're speaking a different language we're coming from another Direction Al together so that is by way of introduction to this concept so now a Jew has to look at how do we strike this balance between initiative and effort and Free Will and Divine Providence and faith is it all up to hasm or is it all up to me who gets the credit when it goes right who gets the credit when it goes wrong are things the result of people's choice or are things the result of the Divine will we're coming that from a Jewish perspective not from a secular philosophical perspective or psychological perspective or sociological perspective we're coming at it from a Jewish Torah perspective we're not trying to squeeze God into the world we're trying to say what is the role how does the world operate within the role of within the role of Hashem so we began this piece I just want to interrupt to tell you how this fits into this para very very beautifully in terms of this balance in terms of this tension we'll develop this more so far we've just introduced it it's an appetizer we set up the conflict which is it are we the credit are God the credit how do how do I go about my daily life how do I figure out that balance how can I create a sense of integration but that notion of that tension fits very well into our par because y excelled in y was the king of yosef's Master potifar saw literally everything everything Yosef touched turned to Gold he saw hasem was with ysf everything Yosef touch turned to Gold so Rashi says what does that mean how did he potifar see that Hashem he could have seen that everything that y touches turned to Gold he says I have a Jewish account I have a Jewish investment banker I have a Jewish hedge fund manager it's great to I to have a Jewish Financial person but it isn't just say I have a Jewish Financial person he says I have a Jewish Financial person whose God has helped him succeed all of a sudden potifar is such a mindman he's such a believer where does he see God the answer is Yosef was the first kir of Outreach person since AR but Yosef is the first who does it see abam held Discovery seminars a had n Torah program aam did a very explicit overt Outreach ysf does it very very differently ysf is a is a financial Wizard and works in finance but what does he do when he goes to work every day says rash sh everything he does and he says hasm with God's help thank God he just he drops he's a name dropper he's a name dropper whose name is he dropping not some celebrity not some athlete not some wealthy person the name that Yosef loves to drop is the name of Hashem so how many every single time potifar says wow another investment turned to Gold how'd you know Yosef how'd you know to invest in that stock in that mutual fund to buy that piece of real estate to do that business thank god with God's help this will go well thank god let's be grateful to God so yoseph never sat potifar down and said let me show you the Bible codes but Yosef dropped God's name all the time and the result was potifar says wow God's been really good through Yosef to me it's an incredible method of Outreach so we know that ysf excels in all the time he's talking about God we should not hesitate or be embarrassed or apologetic or defensive in the workplace at the gym in the supermarket to talk about God to talk about God it's our mission that's why we're here our mission is to sanctify your name where but I've been publicly everywhere I go thank God please God with God's help that's a holiday of Kaneka we're going to be lighting it's not we love kabad and what they've done but they don't own the holiday it's on all of us we they've popularized lighting the manur in the Public Square but the how they was designed to light the manur in the Public Square you have to light it outside your home visible the whole idea was I'm not apologizing I'm not embarrassed I'm not shy I'm telling the world how amazing God is and the miracle that he did for me that's our mission that's why we're here the final rash of the par tells us that sashin forgot ysf because ysf put his trust in him so here you have yosf the king of B Yos who excels in Amun and the end of the para tells us that yosf languished in prison in additional two years why because he put his faith in the Sim in the cup says fortunate is the man who trusts on and doesn't turn to the Egyptians who are called R for help so now what did y do wrong what did yoseph do wrong he said to sash by the way when you get out of here and you go see parro you put in a good word for me pleas put in a good word for me what did he do wrong Jonathan po did something wrong that there were people advocating for his release what do you do wrong bash did something wrong that people said this was a too severe a punishment it's in congruous with the crime don't we have to advocate in Lobby in the public sphere so what did y do wrong that he said to S wouldn't it have been irresponsible for him not to tell the Sim after all we're supposed to do what we have to take our initi so imagine s was on his way out of prison he says yose should I mention you to par no no no no God's going to get me out of here Gods you know the old story with the helicopter in the plane and the Rope so God's G to say what do you mean I'm going to get you out of here why do you think I let the sarash him out so he would go tell paru about you so y to the right thing by asking sarkim to remind parro about him why is he stay why does he have to stay an extra two you so the common answer is because y requested from the S twice K explained that Ys said Z his remember me and mention me twice he said to so he said it twice so that was excessive it's one thing to do initiative but you can't do excessive initiative so there a fine line for a Jew we've got to find that balance the right initiative you got to do without the right initiative you can't rely on God too much initiative then you've cut God out of the equation so you know it's like the the Three Bears it can't be too hot or too cold can't be too little initiative it can't be too much initiative our mission our mandate which is very challenging life is you got to have just the right amount of initiative so so that we'll talk about that next week right can I say something yeah um you know I was learning this morning with my son and we got to app point there that sha had the fight with te and basically he saw that the people started to leave and uh team is about to head them and Sh is not coming seven days pass and they're not coming and then he didn't know what to do said almost a war and like I didn't D to has right so he sacrificed and he shouldn't have done it and basically that was his punishment that the whole Kingdom stopped and then we were talking about it that one second you know he was put in the place of right right and it it was very powerful and they said you know some times are going to get to life that cuz think about what sha was he was the people leaving he has this huge amount 30,000 people about to kill them to get into a war and SCH is not there so where is a fine life he was supposed to wait seven exactly exactly or you could ask missive calculation right with the c you could ask the same thing we're standing opposite the sea the Egyptians are pursuing us and they start daving the andm says what are you doing start walking well I understand like what do you want from me like which is it religion me is it doing to you how do we find that balance we'll come back to that piece of the revola next week in everyday life like how are we I have to make sure you come back next week so we come so next week but just to finish with Ys and then I got I got a plane to catch so just to finish with yose so the kazal tell us that because he said it twice mention me twice remind par twice because he told him twice he spent an extra two years in prison so ask ask the the's grandfather of brisker he asked stud what would happen if y would have just said it once so again say that Jose spent two more years in prison why cuz he said mention me twice what would have happened if he said mentioned me once so shim answered say one year right that's the logical conclusion if two years CU you said twice and if you said once you say one year said no he wouldn't have been punished at all he would have gotten out right away why because that's exactly the idea some some initiative you have to take it would be irresponsible not to mention once please tell par so it's not that twice his two years once would have been one year twice is two years once is zero years cuz that was your responsibility that's how you were going to get out so that's exactly our mission and that's what we're going to continue with next week is how do we find this balance what is the proper balance in life how do we strike that balance take initiative but not too much I got to go to doctor but to how I go to work so what will it take for me to be a millionaire if I work 14 hours a day 16 18 hours a day 12 hours a day God God Can Make Me a Millionaire if I work one hour a day but what would it take to make me a 1 hour a day what would that be called a miracle I can't rely no so I can't rely on Miracles so I can't work one hour a day and ask Hashem to make me a millionaire because that's going to be relying on a miracle I can't rely on Miracles but is it proper to work 20 hours a day no no because because that's excessive I'm not seeing my family I'm not doing I'm not and so on and so forth so what is the right amount of hours because if God wants to make me a millionaire he can make me a millionaire in less than 20 hours a day of work so what's the right amount of hours a day to work that's really the question too little you're relying on a miracle that's too much not enough too muchas 20 hours a day not only you're not relying on a miracle you're relying entirely on yourself and God can you're neglecting the rest of your life from it that's also irresponsible where is that what's the just right bowl of porridge what how much are how much is exactly that amount that's what we start with next week have a great week