Part 48: Everything is For the Best

good thank you BTO ladies we continue our should have an Aliyah and I also want to dedicate it to my grandfather's memory who year is this week we're on page n b page seven still plowing our way through plowing actually suggests we're going quickly still making our way through the shom T is PIM on amuna which has been a great springboard for our conversations on amuna last week we talked about the relationship between hisas and amuna between human initiative and Faith what's the right ratio how much work do we have to put in and how much is up to Hashem and people take either one to the extreme and it's very unbalanced you can work 18 hours a day because you think that's what it will take to get rich and that's a failure of amuna because it means you think Hashem can't make you rich in working 10 hours a day on the other hand you can sit on your couch doing nothing and say Hashem will send money I have such a moon Hashem will take care and that's a failure because Hashem wants to see us show faith in him both with our lips through as well as with our feet and hands through the action so we talked about or we began the discussion of what is the relationship between andas how much effort on our part and how much should we sit back and rely on Hashem for example in the area of shim it says the the gamar says beginning of s that 40 days after a person's conceived a Bas goes out and announces bason the plony that so and so will marry so and so in the med say in a number of places that since God created the world he's been on vacation what is he doing since creating the world what takes up God's time every day since he created the world and kazal say what's he doing he's doing he's making it's so challenging and difficult so hard to find two people who are compatible and can build a life together successfully we see the statistics bear that out that it takes the almighty the divine intervention itself so the gr based on this the Von has a tradition that because we believe more explicitly than any other area of life that Hashem intervenes and intercedes that Hashem has Providence over shim one must not do too much initiative so it doesn't okay it says with parnasa also that the earning of parnasa as difficult as yamu we gave a she on that on P why is it that earning a living is as challenging why is the metaphor it's as challenging as the splitting of the sea but the area of life where it says most explicitly that God is intervening and dictating isim is getting married is finding a compatible life partner so the villon said because it says so explicitly that God is directly involved we should not show Too Much initiative and says he still should so some initiative you can't sit back on your couch and say I'm waiting for the right one to come and find me and pick me up you have to show some initiative but paradoxically this is the one area of life where people show hyper initiative too much initiative I know that because I receive phone calls every week on behalf of the single people in our community and uh with reference calls they want to find out and you want to say like okay what happened to the yamuna where's the I answered a few of your questions I can't give you a complete medic psychological profile in history I can't answer your uh you know I can't respond to your investigation which is more like an inquisition so uh be dka in that area so the point is dka specifically in the area where it says so explicitly that God expresses his Providence as the area which we should show less initiative instead of more so the point is this we don't think about this very much we go through our daily lives and we work our tails off or we do what we're supposed to do and we don't stop and pause and say what's the right recipe how much initiative and how much amuna how much do I need to do and how much do I sit back and realize I put it in hashem's hands and while there's no the said last week There's No One right one fits-all answer for everybody because it's proportional to the amount of faith that we have everybody has to figure out and formulate the answer for themselves however the key thing is we should be thinking about it and we should be thinking in these ways how much initiative and how much where does Hashem fit in my life I'm trying to arrange these travel plans I'm trying to get this job trying to earn this parasa I'm trying to get married trying to set myself up or my f my children or grandchildren I'm trying whatever Arena of I'm trying what is that right Rao of his childless and as we quoted last week the famous so famous I have no idea who said it but the famous quote that you've got to act as if it's all up to you and pray as if it's all up to God act as if it's all up to you but DAV as if it's all up to God okay we're in the uh second paragraph in the right hand column page page seven and this is the these are the words of the M of in his that the capacity for is so great the possibility is so great that if we can tap into that highest level of with all of our heart and with the greatest sincerity then we can make everything for us be laa now it's it's an amazing Insight like it was for andu do you know R's end's end life end on a high he was not surrounded by children and grandchildren at 120 years old you know living in Comfort with the wonderful pallet of care that's not how rabaka left this world his skin was combed by by the Romans he was he was he was tortured and murdered and yet he's the example of how they were able to live a great life so isn't that a contradiction how could you say it's living a great life for people who live a life that's defined and characterized by suffering this is the key Insight of if you take nothing else from this class it's take this andun are not are not instruments or cheese to make everything in your life good they're not you could still step on a nail you still get diagnosed with a horrible disease you could still have a miscarriage or struggle with infertility or have no parasa or struggle to find your partner and and are not the secret magic formula it's not that you know what you know what your problem is you don't have and if you do all of a sudden everything's going to go right for you and the Yankees will break the seven gain losing streak it's not that if you have all of a sudden everything verses and all of your dreams come true and it's a magical place on Earth that's not what promises and if you come to this class or you learn about and that's what you think is going to happen you're getting sold uh a bad Bill of good it's not what happens that's not what do it's not what did for and it's not what it can do for us what do do for us that whatever it is we're enduring whatever it is we have to face whatever challenge we have to confront it gives us the tools the support the strength to be able to see even the good in that even the good in that the worst circumstances you talk to survivors not all and not at all times but many talk to survivors they can find and tell you something good from their experience and I give that as the most extreme example in the world the most extreme example in the world we're going to Poland on Sunday with a group leading a tour for week we're don't have class next week I was talking to about what happened stepping on a nail and having have it surgically removed could you imagine if you were an inmate in aitz midic and trinka and that happened to you there was no pause you stepped on a splinter in the forest you do there was no so what you're going to complain about it here we have the tools to get it out and record time no big deal heal keep your foot up every yeah again I'm not saying that we should therefore never feel pain or not feel upset about having something happen to us because imagine if it happened to you in aitz that's not the solution to life you know always imagine if it happened to you in in aitz but the but the point is that the survivors are the most extreme examples of challenges and suffering in life and if they had the capacity to be able to see good and to see the Tova in it then we do as well so what am are and are not the means or mechanism through which you can make everything in your life good but there are the means and mechanism to be able to see the good in everything in your life so that whatever challenge whatever struggle whatever obstacle that you are confronting you're able to see the good you're able to realize and feel this is what's meant to be this has happened for a reason nothing is random nothing is chance nothing is accidental nothing is data nothing is a statistic if I'm going through this it happened for a reason and now I can embrace it because I can either sit back and say can't believe this happened to me it's so ridiculous has happened to me I'm so upset this happened to me and why is this happening to me and I don't deserve this to happen to me and I'm going to cry my way through it happened to me or you can say I'm not enjoying it I'm going to try to reverse it taking all the initiative I can but whatever I'm confronting it happened for a reason there is a reason so for let's reread that you can have you could have trust in hem with all of your hearta so that everything that happens to you you see through the prism of it being good not that all that happens to you is good but all that happens to you you can see the good in it when you put your trust on hem that he can save you that not all hope is lost that there is a possibility that nothing is random that you're going through it for a reason whatever is meant to be will be whatever happened was meant to be what does the say even if according to the rules of this world according to strict Justice according to the laws of consequences you're not deserving of God's intervention according to the perspective you didn't behave in such a way you were deserving of his intervening but if you have you can tap into if with you can tap into and make a withdrawal from your account upstairs that becomes worthy of God's intervention that brings salvation and miracles you never could have imag ined we're going toin next week so that if you can achieve that highest level of you can tap intoa without pain when a person has to exert great effort and it comes with great toil and pain it reflects a lack of and if you're living with and it doesn't have those things now you can interpret that in one of two ways either literally that if you have that highest level of everything flows to you without any pain or you can interpret it that because you're living with and you're embracing whatever amount of work it takes to earn that that's not painful because you realize that's my avod that's my effort that's what it takes for me the took it to the extreme that if you really believe if you really believed if you were at that highest level and we're not suggesting trying this at home but if you were at that highest level like the ran writes about going to the doctor if you were at that highest level you wouldn't need to go to the doctor you'd sit back you to he's the so to with if you could be at that highest level you wouldn't need to work you could lean and rely exclusively on Hashem we don't believe that so the announced this in his Bas medish one time and this lowly wagon driver heard it and listened and it entered his heart and because he felt it in his heart he embraced it with all of his being this lowly wagon driver discovered a suitcase filled with gold and the was asked why did this lowly wagon driver we were all at your we sitting Le Tor all day long we're so much more righteous why was he why did he marit to discover the suitcase full of gold not us answered your so high analysis and debate and what does exactly it mean and therefore there's an element of Doubt his amuna is so simple so what we call a a simple leap of faith he let go and let God he said really it's up to Hashem I'm good to go I have no fear I have no worry I don't ask what if I am entirely dependent rely on Hashem and when a person can embrace the level of like that then there Z then they Merit to that kind of degree of of bra okay continueing the next column door and this path is the one that our rabbis have taught us in each and every generation that we should Aspire and aim we should be ambitious to live life with that level of amuna whatever happens whatever injury whatever traffic whatever complication whatever disappointment whatever blessing whatever positive whatever unexpected great thing that happened to always see the braa in everything that is going on to look for the and to place your in to put your entire faith in Hashem I'll tell you this uh story just as an illustration I was telling you before that last week without even knowing it I stepped on a nail that embedded itself in my foot I didn't even know it CU I didn't even see it it went straight into my foot I thought I just cut my foot that I thought I had an infection and only with the X-ray yesterday did I find out there was a nail in in my foot so I saw a podiatric surgeon and uh they tried to get it out in their office with a local anesthetic I won't describe what that was like was unpleasant let's just say I was sitting back breathing and saying ain't OD ain't hasem guide the hand find the nail yeah sometimes Hashem says no he said no so we had to go to the o to have it done there to be put to sleep and you know I'm leading this trip to Poland on Sunday so I was eager to do anything I could yesterday to get it out to give the maximum time to heal so they were going to schedule at 4 today the next day with the assumption that I had eaten yesterday it just happened to be that I was so busy in the morning and the whole day that I literally had not had anything to eat or drink wow and this was at I don't know 2:30 3:00 in the afternoon so we were able to schedule it to do it and right away my feeling was I was so grateful to Hashem for the yeah that for whatever reason he made me so occupied and preoccupied you know that that I hadn't had anything to eat or drink or I wouldn't have qualified to be able to have it done you have to see now you could either look at yesterday's story and blame AEM I can't believe you put a nail in my foot and I can't believe they couldn't get it out locally and I can't believe I had to go through that whole process you could say for whatever reason that was meant to be thank you for your kindness within it being meant to be that you ordained that I wouldn't have had anything to eat or drink so that it could be scheduled to have it happen you have to see that something's so fluky such a fluke to step on a nail not even see it not be able to pull it out it's such a fluke it's clearly Yem what was I meant to learn from it I don't know that's my aod I got to figure out to where shoes in the house I sound like my mother-in-law so uh to wear shoes in the house I am a mother-in-law nothing wrong with that so maybe that maybe that was the lesson you got to ask yourself you know what was what's my personal aod what's the lesson I meant to learn what can I extract from this experience why did I have to undergo it it's a personal question you ask yourself and it's a personal response that you have to figure out but the key is to figure out what's my where do I see Yem do I blame God do I think it's a fluke it had nothing to do with God or do I realize such a circumstance is so unusual that uh it must be it's Yem there's something for me to learn from it I I I hate to interrupt the class but I also think isn't it also not just for you necessary the doctor had to do for whatever reason he was meant to have special surgery we're so interwoven that we can never I mean when you said we maybe sometimes you can see it I think most times we really cannot understand and and how could we ever if godess infinite or finite so it's such a web of interacting between people there's a great great Point meaning there's such a Matrix and intersection between our lives that you move one piece a million pieces move so only the ribon Shalom but that makes us even more impressed because it means only the ribon Shalom only the almighty upstairs is able to understand the intersection and interaction and Matrix of all the moving pieces simultaneously that's how I think it's very healthy so we do our job to just see within our own lives his hand but to think that we could take a snapshot of the whole picture and see it we absolutely can't the when he had to face or confront a particularly difficult challenge that there was no means within the natural world to see how salvation could arrive he would try to inspire and support a sense of of trust and faith so the person himself became the conduit of the Salvation sometimes when we dive into Hashem and we're waiting for God to interact we have such aun we put our trust in Hashem God makes something happen from the outside make something external happen to me I'm putting my trust in you we don't realize that God has responded by putting the power in our own hands and that's why the hisas comes in in other words God's response we say God I'm Letting Go letting God I'm not doing anything I'm falling back and I'm putting it all in your hands I have the highest level of regard the greatest trust the greatest faith in you I'm handing it off to you God's response is don't hand it off to me because what I'm doing for you is I'm putting the power in your own hands to solve your problem that's the within one's hand amuna could yield that the solution the answer is within one's own hands and we show God that we have amuna within him God I have such faith in you I'm proceeding anyway like the reab described last week when walked into the sea it was a irrational ridiculous absurd move oh we're stuck the Egyptians are pursuing us the seas in front of us I have an idea let me walk in walk in if someone if they formed a committee and someone proposed that idea they'd be left out of the room yeah out of your mind that's your idea that's your big idea what are you crazy and then nothing happened at his ankles at his knees at his waist you know what I need to do I need to keep walking keep walking you out of your mind goes up to his chest to his shoulders to his neck you know what I need to keep walking covers his mouth and now he's up to his nostrils says you know what I need to do keep keep walking what are you crazy crazy the answer is sometimes we display amuna by putting one foot in front of the other Against All Odds Against All Odds one continues with the treatment one continues with the therapy one continues with the effort one continues with the initiative even though it seems all hope is lost it makes no sense there's no reason to and this is not something that we should impose on others it's something a person has to choose for themselves but sometimes the way we display our am inem is literally putting one foot in front of the other is the the is what we do with our hands do we continue do we show the initiative do we make the effort even when it seems the situation is hopeless so this rebba had a scho I'm not such a school of guy but this rebba had this nice practice it's called that that when you feel overwhelmed when you feel hopeless and helpless when you feel the situation is beyond repair make a br sh you can't just make a broa for no reason get a cup of water get a glass of soda make a cup of coffee do something have a steak do something that will precipitate making a sh because within that is that all came into being with his word that within that broa you remind yourself my problem having to do with X Y or z i I think God can't handle that problem everything that exists is an expression of the almighty there was nothing there was a vacuum there was chaos there was to we don't even know what nothing looks like because we can't imagine nothing when we try to picture nothing we picture an empty black space but that's something we don't even know what nothing is right we can't even picture it we can't even relate to it we can't identify with it we've never experienced it we can't even imagine nothing but whatever that nothing was is what existed until Hashem B God created the world with 10 sayings for a long time we didn't understand what that meant we couldn't relate to that now we can because now you can say if I were to say Hey Siri half of your phones would answer half of your phones would jump and say what and you'd say now you have every turn on the lights in my house lower the air conditioning you could tell your Tesla drive my car for me make a right turn here it's unbelievable what you can do today speech recognition you can make things happen you tell the 3D printer hey printer print a piece of jewelry for me so you're creating we more than any generation can identify with the idea that speech recognition you can create through speech when you learn that mishna in AOS for the last 5,777 years you said what what are you talking about you could talk and something happens that makes no sense we've never seen such a thing you talk and something happens can't be we live in a generation you say you could talk and something happens yeah what's a big deal I do that all the time so to relate to the fact that Hashem did that but Hashem didn't just get Siri to tell him what time the movie is didn't just get Siri to tell him where the uh where the uh traffic is or how to avoid it Hashem didn't just tell but rather Hashem spoke and the entire world as we know it came into being and and we remind ourselves that every time we make the that everything exists happened bid with his word so I'm going through a particular challenge I have a migraine that won't go away I'm stuck in traffic I'm late to the appointment I've got whatever it is that I get frustrated disappointed by find a glass of water and make a shahak and remember Shem created everything he created this particular challenge he can get you out of it one of my daughters at B is it Leora said a beautiful wasn't you I think it was Leora she said how come the other bras all speak to exactly the food Bor eat a fruit of the tree you reference the fact that fruit of the tree eat a vegetable from the ground Bor you reference the vegetable of the ground you eat grain name who cre who created grain you make you eat bread you make and then you have a glass of water you say this generic why is it a generic I forgot who she quoted but she quoted a beautiful answer that when you go to a restaurant restaurant and you order whatever it is for you go to a coffee house you go to Starbucks the markup on that cup of coffee is ginormous as kids would say right it is almost indefensible the markup on that cup of coffee how do they get away with it cuz what are you paying for you're not just paying for the cup of coffee because if you stop the gas station on the way to the Starbucks that same cup of coffee cost one1 of the price what are you paying for the environment the experience you're paying for the you know the ask oh you went to that new restaurant how was the Ambiance pay for the Ambiance there's a huge markup anytime you're eating in a restaurant if you calculate the cost of the actual food item that's not what you're paying there's also your built in there's a premium you're paying for the Ambiance Shak is not just on the cup of water it's the Ambiance within which you're drinking the cup of water you're not just having a cup of coffee you have a beautiful view you're in beautiful setting you're in a comfortable room with air conditioning there's an Ambiance there's an atmosphere that you're also making the braa for so the generic braa on the other miscellaneous foods that fall between these groups drinks other Foods you're not just making a braa on that food you're acknowledging and making a br on the greater Ambiance everything God created the Ambiance the sun is in the sky which is no small thing in Baton in the month of June this month of June the sun is in the sky and it's a beautiful view and it's a comfortable room and I'm with friends and I'm sitting on a comfortable chair and so the shahak is not just on the cup of coffee some of you have a Dunkin Donuts cup of coffee in front of you shahak is not just on the cup of coffee that you made it's on the comfortable chair you're sitting in it's on the AC that some of you wish wouldn't be blowing as hard but I'm very grateful for it's on the lights that are Illuminating the room it's on the beautiful setting that we're sitting in the shahak applies in a much broader perspective so the here quotes from this Reb that when you're feeling overwhelmed by judgment when you're feeling hopeless and helpless when you're feeling there's no way out when you're feeling that you need support or strength to endure whatever challenge you're going through make find a cup of water make a cup of coffee and realize Shem created everything there's a rhyme and a reason there's a matrix and an intersection Hashem is the master chess player moving all the pieces sees the entire picture and understands what is happening and that gives us the strength hopefully it brings blessing but it also just gives us the strength to see the blessing within whatever we're going through we're on the next section o page seven see where we are yeah to what degree is the influence of that this principle the has from everything that God does is la is for the good everything hasem does in our life is for the good everything they say it's for the good I go through a lot of painful things why would Hashem want me to endure pain not me personally people go through painful circumstances why in the world would Hashem want that so means that everything is somehow we don't understand we don't see it right now but in the greater picture in the greater scheme of things everything is for the best all that God does the of it he does for the best and we come back to a theme that we've repeated many many times that if we see Hashem as our Father in heaven we understand that our parents don't our parents or we as parents don't always or good parents don't just say yes to everything and don't allow their children to do anything that whether it's the little kid who sticks their fingers in the outlet and you have to smack their hand they run in the street and you have to give them the PCH or the bigger kid who has to who has to um what do you call it you can't go out grounded has to be grounded and they're not allowed to go out know this never happened to you never the the bigger kid is grounded and can't go out and the from the perspective of the child we all remember when we were children you say to your parent why do you hate me why don't you love me can't believe you're making me miss that party you hate me can't believe you're not letting me go to that event you hate me me I can't believe H you don't want me to be happy why would you do that and what do we as parents say to the children I don't expect you to be happy with my decision but all I ask is that you know everything I do I do for your best interest every I don't expect you to understand it I don't expect you to be happy with it all I want you to know is that whatever we're doing it's because what we think is best for you that's all we want as parents so here as parents we're able to say to our children whatever consequence or accountability your punishment that I'm bestowing upon you all I ask of you is that you understand and embrace and see that I'm doing it for your best interest then we turn to ashm as his children and now we sound like our children Hashem why would you do this to me don't you love me if you loved me you wouldn't do this and all Hashem asks is the same thing we ask of our own children I don't expect you to necessarily like everything that happens to you I don't expect you to welcome everything that happens to you all I ask is that you understand that I am your father in Heaven and everything I do is for your best interest the of it it's all for your best you may understand it you may never understand it you may someday understand it but understand this I'm your father I love you I of course only want the best for you and your happiness and whatever I do I do for you for your best the famous story Raba who was walking on the way he had a donkey and a chicken and a candle he came to a certain Inn and he asked if he could rent a room and they wouldn't allow him they were they had uh fully occupied he said to himself I have no place to sleep I got to sleep in my car sleep on my donkey okay everything hasm does is for the best what happened he's in the desert and a lion comes and eats his donkey zik and so his animals get killed his candle becomes extinguished and how does he respond the tough listen these animals ended up killing my animals my candle ended up being extinguished whatever Hashem has his reasons I don't understand it not happy about it not enjoying it but everything does it for the best he Embraces it what happened that night a group of Bandits of terrorists came and went to the town didn't I tell you everything hasem does is for the best if the candle would have been lit these terrorists would have seen him if the animals were alive they would have crowed they would have screamed they would have been found if he would have been staying at the Inn he too would have been murdered along with all the inhabitants of the inn by these terrorists soika understood now here's the everybody after the fact would have been able to say who wouldn't have said after the fact huh you know what God's good to me I wasn't in the inn and my candle wasn't lit and my animals weren't barking God is good to me thank God thank you God for leaving me out in the cold with no candle and no animals otherwise I would have been killed it's easy anyone could see it after the fact and say thank you what was the greatness of Raba he said thank you when he saw the good even before it happened it meant he was ready to say he was ready to say everything God does is for the good even before he saw the good after you see the good that came out of what happened it's easy to say thank you but to be able to say thank you even before you see the good that comes out of it that is the greatness of within his belief that nothing happens without it being orchestrated and ordained from above and his trust and his faith inem who is only good and all he does is out of hm's love for us he loves us like a parent now there are dysfunctional parents and there are there are uh parents who are really unqualified to be parents and there are parents who masochistically sadistically don't really love their children we have dysfunctional terrible parents but Hashem is the best parent he is the proper parent he is the paradigmatic parent and Hashem has nothing but love for us nothing but love for us nothing I was recently counseling a couple who have a child who's in a particularly difficult circumstance and it was having an impact on the parents and I said to the parents you know this circumstance could either bring you together or drive you further apart put a wedge in you between you but the way it can bring you closer together is that no one on the entire planet no one not even each of your parents as the grandparents of this child nobody can relate to the pain that you have inside the worry and anguish you feel for the love that you have for this child like your spouse as the co-parents of this child they are uniquely positioned unlike anyone else as much as a grandparent loves the grandchild as much as aunts and uncles may be worried about their niece or nephew nobody can love as much as that co-parent so if you recognize that and embrace that if you invest in one another and you allow it to bring you together then this particular challenge can result in you feeling even closer together because you've gone through it together in a way that you share and that no one else has or it can drive that wedge and so on and so forth why am I telling you that because a parent has a unique love a unique dedication and devotion a unique level of being able to worry and have anguish for that they they they take a bullet they easily jump in front of for the child they would do anything on the planet children think they understand that they don't understand till they please God have children of their own they can love their parent very much they could have a car to towards the parent they could have K of aim towards the parent but until one has their own child they don't understand it so Hashem is our father he loves us he's also our King he's also our spouse he's also our Master we have many metaphors for our relationship with hasem but within them is ainuu he is our love he is our father he loves us if he sees us stumble stub our toe hurt ourselves disappointed frustrated in pain he's in pain Hashem is in pain with us Hashem goes now the is that a person goes to galus when a person murders accidentally and they have to go to mlot they have to go to a City of Refuge the re go says their rebi their teacher goes with them they don't go alone so say that we were exiled we had to go to Gus we were exiled from our re goes with us he's with us wherever we are he's a loving parent he feels our pain even when what's best for us is to endure and go through that pain he understands it he feels it he's our loving father so one should always recognize and feel that when I asked Martin juditz on yah how did you maintain Faith after what you lost parents family everything you knew after what you endured how did you maintain faith and he looked without hesitation or pause and he said what do you mean I had lost my real parents all I had left was a I had one father left what was I going to lose him that was his answer unbelievable answer that's the level of amuna that people of the old generation you know they had Faith after the Holocaust Our Generation I don't think I don't think we could survive a holocaust let alone have faith afterwards you never know what people rise to please God we should never be tested or have to find out but that level of amuna that level of amuna was able to not only survive was able to maintain that amuna afterwards I lost my biological parents what was I going to lose my spiritual father too why would I do that my father a so one should feel my father loves me he absolutely loves me he would never want anything but love for me Raba understood this so when the candle went out he said my father loves me he wouldn't blow out a candle if it weren't for my best when his animals died were killed said my father loves me he wouldn't leave me without these animals if it weren't for my best whatever he went through in life he said that's the secret to living a life of if you say well he's my master maybe he's punishing me he's my but if you say he's my father he my mother he loves me so whatever happened to me I don't understand it but he would only do out of love for me he loves me so now I'm able to say it's a of it oh this is for the best I can't wait to find out how having a nail on my foot was for the best maybe I'll never find out why maybe I'll never find out but somehow it's for the best and I'm able to live with it and say it's all for good ah how can you be so confident how could you know because Hashem loves me it wouldn't happen otherwise let's just finish this up so when the when the person at the front reception at the hotel said sorry there's no place for you he didn't say he anti-semites won't give me a room he didn't say I can't believe there's a conference in town so there's No Vacancy he said okay it wasn't meant to be Hashem didn't want me to stay here when he was attacked by these animals could have said I can't believe it my luck these animals attack me he didn't he said oh these animals attack me Hashem loves me so it must be for a reason in the name of the great best we have all these what do you see from this story said the about this in what do you see from the story is not just thata responded to each of the events in isolation as but thata was able to see kind of a penny what you were saying before that the intersection of all these things together this not a coincidence everything was pre-ordained it had to happen in that way in that order at this time all these extraordinary events happened there must be one goal for them all it can't be a coincidence the candle blew out there was no vacancy at the hotel the animals attacked my animal it was all orchestrated it was for a there was one goal there was one theme and the BTO brought a parable to explain the combination of these things but we're going to stop here so we'll pick up with this in two weeks we're off next week because we're in Poland have a fantastic couple of weeks and we'll resume when we get back