Part 24: Conform to Hashem’s Plans, He Doesn’t Conform to Ours

okay good morning everyone and uh welcome to those who are calling in on this conference call experiment that we're trying this morning oh cool I'm not sure if anyone's even there but if you are perhaps you can mute your phone so we don't have any disruptions but welcome one and all and I'm so grateful to be resuming our Shear I know we've been on a break I've had weddings in New York Bar 3 weeks in a row that have coincided with traveling on Wednesdays so I'm so happy to be back together and uh wishing everyone AES well okay we've been studying the it's incredible saer faith and trust most well known for those two beginning essays on Amun and then on but as I told you in the past a wonderful saer that is so much more in it as well and what we saw thus far is the defin for us what is Amun and what is Amun is knowledge of God's existence amuna is to examine and contemplate the universe to recognize that everything has a first cause that things don't come from nothing and if there's order and meaning and purpose to the universe then there is a Creator who put it and organized all of it together and mo is the recognition that we don't exist out of nowhere but rather if one just uses common sense if you just use logic if you just apply the same critical thinking that you do to anything else in life and the same uh same approach that you do to anything else in life you weigh the evidence you will find that K's existence God's existence is supported by overwhelming evidence at least as much evidence that supports everything else you do and we've discussed this in the past as well many of you are drinking the coffee from the box of Dunkin Donuts cup of joe that I brought this morning you have no idea if there's poison carcinogens if there's you have no idea what's in there it could kill you instantly why are you why are you drinking it do you have absolute proof that all it's going to give you is a burst of energy and not instead cause you to pass out you have no proof why you drinking it cuz you have overwhelming evidence you weigh all the variables and you have overwhelming evidence and the same amount of evidence we're not examining it today but the same amount of evidence exists to support the notion that there is Aon that is then goes on to describe what is is not as many erroneously as as many mistakenly think that is I have trust that whatever outcome I want is what Hashem will bring my loved one is sick I trust Hashem is going to make them better trying to have a child I trust hasm is going to bring the child I'm looking for a job I trust hashem's going to give me that job that's not be talk the that's worshiping yourself because your interpretation your perspective your view of the world thinking it is the most authoritative it is the most omnipotent one and therefore wanting God to step in line wanting God to fit in with your view that's not bet that's in the world according to you real is the recognition says the and this is his major contribution to this conversation real says is the recognition that no matter what the outcome what whatever happens it's somehow for my best that everything that is happens is in my best interest I may not understand it right now I may not see it it may not make sense to me I certainly may not welcome everything that happens in my life but I trust that there is a reason I trust that it's not random it didn't just happen it's not just chance we've spoken about how the ramam says to live a life where you think things are carry where you ascribe everything in your life to being chance or circumstance person who lives such a life is practicing it's cruelty why is it cruel we suggested my brother-in-law suggested it's cruel because if I call your name if I'm calling you I'm calling you I'm calling you I'm sending you texts and emails I'm trying to get in touch with you and you ignore me is there anything more cruel than calling out to someone and being ignored well Hashem does things in our lives and when we just say well it's nature it's random it's chance statistics taping stance then we're ignoring God and that is absolute cruelty okay so all of this we've discussed at length in the past is the notion of leaning on hasem the recognition that everything that happens whether I understand it or not just as a parent everything we do for our children we don't necessarily expect them to understand or Embrace everything we decide for them no you can't go out with your friends tonight no you can't wear that no you can't watch that no you can't say that no you can't do that our children get very upset you don't want me to be happy you hate me don't you want me to be but we as a parent say look we are doing what we think is in your best interest whether you accept it or not with the hope and the confidence that someday you will mature and you'll appreciate and understand that everything we were doing was for your best is our parent of and he too interacts with us not based on what we want at the moment that's an irresponsible parent many parents today are lazy they take the lazy way out of parenting they want to be their children's friend so they say yes to everything there's no boundaries everything is yes do anything and that's the lazy way out of parenting and there might be a short-term reward that your kid loves you cuz you said yes to everything but the long-term damage to the child of the parent who fails to set the boundaries and fails to teach accountability and consequences and fails to mold and shape and cultivate the child into who he or she could be is a uh absolute negligence on behalf of the parent while K is not interested in making us happy based on our short-term desire he's interested in what's in our long-term interest with the confidence that someday we will understand and embrace okay we're on page 48 49 if you open the booklet in the last in giml the said this is the last point of review and then we'll pick it up a new just cuz we had this long break in the last point you recall the Kish said you know there's a lot of people they excel at in lip service they Excel with lip service it's easy to pay lip service that you trust in Hashem but when you put it into practice practice it's a lot harder and what's the example of putting it into practi right so you go to the amuna she and you subscribe to the amuna whatsa and you share amuna Torah and you see a friend in the supermarket the gym or sh and she says how are you and you say but then push comes to shove now things don't go exactly the way you want do you tap into that Amun that muscle do you Flex that muscle do you tap into that Reservoir well or do you forget everything you've learned and everything you've read and all the and because you Resort back to what often is the instinct which is fear anxiety stress worry so gave this example that uh that aam has a store on the street and he's doing wonderfully he's making a lot of money from his store and mostly passive income and he has nothing to worry about and all of a sudden y opens a store across the street and it's the same kind of store and he's selling the same kind of thing so now aam who's the biggest B a who until now had the Monopoly and therefore there you go squeeze that a who was on the who had the biggest Monopoly and he never had to worry he was giving all the Stu everyone always said everything's amazing he had time to learn and golf he had time to go out with friends he was a big b about everything was but now open this St across the how does react if he's the Big B if he's the big baluna that he claims and presents himself to be how should he react when when across the street somebody a competitor opens the exact same store how should he react should go over knock on the door and say welcome how can I help you do you need any names of Distributors do you need names of vendors what can I do to help you let me tell you these are the best advertising because he should realize that K provides there's more than enough customers for both of them and his income if it truly comes from Hashem cannot be affected one iota one penny by a competitor opening across the street if he's real B he claims to be but if in fact it was just lip service what will he do what many of us naturally instinctively would do which is to get nervous competitor he going to take a piece out of my business I've got to undercut him I've got to tell my vendors that if they sell to him I'll no longer order from them I've got to do whatever I have to do in order to survive says the K that I'm from the Big B the big who went around giving giving an Amun starting amuna WhatsApp saying when push came to show when the robber hit the road where was his am where was his so are not in the realm of theory you know it's not just when you're daving that's when you have a in or when the sitter is open and then you go about life and all of a sudden you stress out you're nervous and you forget it's in life in those most stressful moments that we're supposed to tap into it okay page 48 49 the reward we hope to gain from these points says is that by recognizing the negative aspects and all of the terrible things that come from it were for forced to recognize the wrongness of false trust in other words the reason spelling this out he says is so that we realize the danger and the damage of an inauthentic a counterfeit Amun and right the biggest baluna is the biggest Warrior well the two don't go together says worry is if you worry you're a heretic if you really believe that God runs the world and everything is for our best and there's a reason you're stuck in traffic and there's a reason they didn't call you back and there's a reason your ID was stolen your your had identity theft and there's a reason whatever you're going through then you don't worry about it because you really believe there is a reason and if you're worrying you don't really believe it's for your best so says the K I'm pointing out the failures of of so that we can distinguish between the counterfeit version and the authentic lack of trust is a fault of any thinking person and a person who lacks comes close to having no part in the basic Foundation of Judaism you hear that very powerful strong statement is saying if you lack you could be doing all the Mitzvah and you can D with kavana and you can be externally going through all the Motions but if your life is not informed and energized and inspired at its core by an awareness that God is the king of kings he's the creator of the universe that he is before whom we are responsible and accountable that everything that happens is the result of his omnipotence if a person lacks that core not only belief but the core Consciousness and mindfulness that's driving everything in their life then everything else they're doing is somewhat compromised and undermined because the whole reason to hear the chauffeur and take the lul estrog and light the shabas candles and for men put and F on the whole reason to live this life of mitos is to draw closer to that individual but if we're really doubtful and unsure and really forget the presence of Hashem that we're just going through these motions we're going through these motions which is silly in other words the whole reason your husband buys you flowers or writes a nice card or does the romantic gestures or goes even through the motions externally is to enhance a relationship with someone he knows and you do with someone you know but if you're going through those motions and you're not even mindful or aware you don't even know your spouse the other party then what's the point of all the external motions you're going through not only is it that if you lack this awareness and mindfulness that you're actually compromising everything else you're doing in Judaism but a full sense of trust is even worse than that person who trusts falsely is no better than one who does not not trust at all very powerful statement again if you trust falsely if your is counterfeit your B is not real that you think that whatever happens comes from Hashem I'm not going to worry I'm not going to be stressed out I'm not going to be anxious I'm never going to seek revenge I'm not going to be angry at other people as much because I realize that everything is from Hashem and it's all for a reason it's all for a cause it's all somehow in my interest that's authentic but if I subscribe to the counterfeit and I say every day I trust hm will make things come out the way I want I'm waiting for Hashem to turn things into the success of the outcome that I anticipate that I desire that I want that false counterfeit is worse than having no at all is worse than not believing in God at all it's an incredibly powerful statement is saying the person who denies who lacks okay they're failing in one way they lack by the way you could believe in God but lack I think many or most in fact people do they even pull Americans and the majority of Americans 70 something per believe in God believe in God is there a creator of the universe did we come about through a random Big Bang or is the creator omnipotent being of the universe ierse and even the majority of Americans say yeah Amun I believe there's a creator of the universe but then you ask the followup question and does he have an intimate relationship with you does everything that happens in your life result because of him do you feel connected do you talk to him rely on him lean on him and that's where there's a huge break where I think a lot of people who know and believe and take the leap of God's existence but they hesitate probably because life circumstances often make them feel like God's not involved in their life where was he where is he when going through a difficult situation so it's possible to have a and and says the if that's the case okay so you're making one mistake the mistake of but a person who has a counterfeit version of trust not only lacks the authentic version of trust they violated a counterfeit version they've perverted they've distorted yah this Judaism so you believe in amuna and you struggle with okay you have one challenge you struggle with but if you believe in amuna and then you distort to be that God is going to somehow God is going to conform to the way I want the world so not only do you fail the proper view of the world of but now you've distorted and perverted God and the person promotes and encourages greater Z because the people around them that they use that language with adopt that well if he or if she lives a life like that they trust God's going to make it come out the way they want I also trust God's going to make it come out the way I want and now you've got a whole movement of false a person who who lacks is not going to [Music] cause but the person who has a counterfeit view of they're not really putting into practice they have the lip service form of they're going to create a and why where's the going to be says can you imagine you go to sh all these years right change the names back to the ones the isues ru is the one who had the successful store and all these years ruin is the one volunteering to give a and it's always about amuna ru's the one who's giving staka ruin is the one who every Ed he takes in every sh and school Journal sides it you know the the B I'm the one with great Faith Ru is the one who's always saying to every other expression and then Shimon opens the store across the street and ruven becomes a ruthless Cutthroat businessman trying to undercut his neighbor so now what's going to happen everyone who sees that what are they going to think about Ruben what a look at that man this is the guy giving us Torah where is he the one who lectured us lean on hem trust in Hashem everything's from Hashem hasem will provide he lectured us about Hashem providing and now he's so threatened by shimon's business across the street by his competitor that he's doing everything he can to destroy him what a so says it's critically important to Define not only what they are but to understand what they are we must Define what they are not and what they are not is saying Hashem is going to conform to me I want my relative to get better so I'm sure Hashem will make it happen I want to get the job or I want this girl to say yes or I want my children to give me the Nas I dreamt from them I'm sure Hashem will make that happen that's Fantasy Land that's asking Hashem to conform to you who's the infinite and who's the finite that's not that's counterfeit it's false it's perverted it's distorted it undermines and ultimately it creates a that's fake real is not just on our lips it means that when you're stuck in traffic and you're late for that meeting you take that deep breath and you realize this was meant to be it means that when someone steals your ID has happened to me then you take a deep breath and you say This was meant to be we'll go through do whatever we have to do and now I don't mean to minimize there are circumstances in life people have have have terrible diagnosis of illness experience horrific loss and uh you know to say well look it's for a reason has meant it to be I don't mean to flippantly say it's so easy and every circumstance I will say it's remarkable that some of the people who go through the most horrific loss become amazing Role Models whether it's our Holocaust Survivors who themselves live lives of great faith despite what they went through or I sent out the link on our WhatsApp group of the mother of uh Hal the 13-year-old girl murdered in her bed who at the funeral just spoke all about hasem I mean it was unbelievable a mother of a 13-year-old girl brutally murdered sleeping in her bed says to Hashem you gave me theone you gave me you gave me a gift I return her to you 13 years old thank you for the 13 years I had with her it's unbelievable the amuna the amuna that that woman had so sometimes we can find the courage and strength we lack amuna when we're stuck in traffic we lack amuna when our car machine breaks down and we lack our cup of coffee that morning we lack amuna cuz we stubbed our toe and our kids toy they left in the middle of the living room for the millionth time and we start saying there's no God where's Hashem my coffee stinks they can't but there's no God so sometimes we can find strength when we when we watch that video when we listen to that eulogy when we meet that Holocaust Survivor we can find that strength says the to know what are we have to know what they're not to practice what they're not is worse than not practicing it at all and to practice it in real is not just lip service it's not just saying it but it's living it it's applying it it's doing it in those moments of stress anxiety worry in those moments of doubt and uncertainty in those moments of a desire to seek revenge take that deep breath and realize whoever hurt you couldn't do it unless allowed it if in fact the competitor takes a chunk of your business it's not the competitor's fault they're trying to provide for their family like you're trying to provide for yours why is it that that happened because will that for whatever reason your income went down this year cuz the competitor is here whatever you're meant to learn whatever you're meant to accept whatever you're meant to experience from it to interpret all of life through the lens not of how can I take revenge and how can I stop that person and how can I get even but to interpret all of life through the lens of whatever is happening was meant to be for me and how can I grow and become the best version of myself from it yes isn't there people on what you're allow to do what you're not allowed to do absolutely on your on your sure we so we have an institution of schol we have a concept which means that a person can't infringe on the business of another the parameters of violating Hasa schol are very complicated and um the criteria to violate are very complicated in fact numerous posts can believe that in America in a capitalistic society and based on the way the economy structured here it's almost impossible to violate Hasa Gul here to prove Hasa Gul you'd have to prove that a person was on their way to your store when the other person stole them so to say from being your customer and the products have to be the same and the prices have to be the same and the service has to be the same and yet they took them if your service or your product is inferior and that's why they went to your competitor that would not be a violation of but for our purposes let's assume the Kish is not talking about a case of clearly it doesn't meet the definition but it doesn't matter you're threatened you think that no one else in the world has a right to be in the business that you're in nobody else is right I'm the guy who sells insurance I'm the guy at the pizza store I'm the girl I'm the woman who who sells the mod clothing I'm the one who does the whatever at the boutique I'm the one who I'm the only person in the world entitled to make my living this way and there's not enough room in the world for both of us so K will decide if that's true K will decide which one succeeds but either way if we believe that our income is determined from above then we have to do our hasas we make our effort we do what we have to do we work hard we work hard and we work diligently and we work smart but in the end of the day we throw our hands up and we sh say the senior partner in in our Enterprise is not me I do all the work and take all the initiative here on Earth but I'm the junior partner the senior partner who determines its success is the almighty by the way I tell something unbelievable about the senior partner you can't show me any other business like this in the entire world we're the senior partner upon whom the entire success of the Enterprise the Endeavor relies without him it cannot be successful he does the minority of the work so to say but he's the one who gives the makes it happen and yet he says to you the the junior partner you keep 90% of the profits I just want 10% and by the way I don't want the 10% from me I have a bunch of children and they're struggling find my children who are struggling and give the 10% it's called Myer we're supposed to give we're supposed to give 10% of our income with poor people and to share's causes scholarship fund whatever the case may be K is the senior partner without him the whole Endeavor could not succeed and yet he says to and your partner you get 90% keep it 90% Joy do what you want with it 10% I don't want it from me says hem but I have children they have needs I have an agenda in this world give it on my behalf to my children my agenda it's a pretty good deal right when we give my 10% that's crazy I work so hard 10% of my income I have to give to staka that's crazy but if you think of it in those terms that really you could not succeed without the Senor partner and he only asks for 10% you say wow I made off like a bandit 90% this is the best deal in the world I hope the senior partner doesn't wake up to it this is unbelievable I get to keep I get to keep 90% let's keep going page 51 The Dwelling Place of trust is within the heart the true person who has is naturally modest you'll not hear from him that he belongs to the camp of those who trust in hem in other words this a very important point the Kish is making and this is all the great Kish K says the person who really has doesn't flaunt it they don't wear it on their sleeve they don't need to say a million times a day they don't need to lecture other people on the they should be having they just live it you see it in their life they're modest they don't get angry they don't worry they're not stressed out they don't undercut competitors they're not anxious they don't live with doubt they don't seek revenge the real person who has a you see it in the lifestyle they are leading it's a thing that happens in your heart so when you're talking to Hashem and no one else is around and you're telling him and you're leaning on him and you're trusting on him and you're sticking with him you know the person who does it when everyone else is around you have to wonder what motivates their speaking in that way it's the person who talks to Hashem and leans on him when no one is around talk to Hashem you know help me find this rusher help this work out help my daughter's luggage not be overweight who's on the way right now to the airport for her heading off to Camp you know when you talk to Hashem when no one's around cuz you're talking to him that's how he really knows you exist that you believe he exists I meet with every Barat Mitzvah kid before the bar mitzvah young man and young woman I shouldn't say kid and I'd say the same thing I very similar Spiel for all of them at the end of the Spiel I tell them the same time they're telling it for uh 15 years I say the same thing each time I say you know daving is now that you're a bar mitvah daving is really important don't miss a daving and to whatever degree possible particularly the young man don't miss daving with a minion don't miss daving in SHO however you should know the most authentic daving why why did the rabbis come up with daving right want it whatever but the idea that we D in a sh with the sitter that we have is all orchestrated by kazab by our rabbi and why they do it because they understood that if they didn't give the infrastructure then we likely wouldn't do it or there'd be days or weeks that we weren't in the mood we didn't feel like it we never got to it so by creating an infrastructure of a sitter a text a liturgy a minion a place it will promote and encourage us to D and we need that without it we'd be in trouble but the most authentic ding is not from the sitter in SHO the most authentic DAV is from your heart it's in your kitchen it's in the car it's in the living room it's in the boardroom it's in your office it's when you turn to Hashem and you ask him for help first of all when you thank him when something works out really well the deal closed the sh happen the pregnancy don't you know everyone turns to him they no atheist in a foxhole we forget to turn to him when we get the good news to thank him thanking hasm is also a form of we always think of thanking we always think of is when you need Hashem don't forget stick with Hashem lean on him depend on him rely on him grab attitude is also a form of amuna thanking him after the fact is also a form of of amuna so when we DAV when we talk to Hashem privately and personally outside of sh or you know the framework of daving is just a pretext for us to add our own personal Tas so you have the amid you have 19 bras 13 requests in the middle and all those are there as a outline to remind us the values and the priorities we are to have but to fill in in our own personal words so we know people are sick start talking to God just visited so and so could use a little help they're not doing wellem please about yourself or others financially and so on and things don't don't fit into any of the other ones you have I don't remember if I ever said it in this group but I said it to the men in the many years ago I don't know how I came up with this metaphor but I said that if you D from the sitter but you don't have anything personal it's like going to the store and buying a Hallmark card an American greetings card I'm sorry American I'm sorry I apologize I apologize the stone family representative here with hen gbar American greeting card it's like buying an American greetings card on your anniversary and giving your wife an empty card she say okay I appreciate the gesture you went out you bought the card but really you just handed me a card with a text that somebody else wrote on the other hand let's say it's your anniversary you didn't get a card so you you go and you take a paper towel and you take your marker your kids cray on and you write a beautiful little love note on the paper towel and you hand it to your spouse and your wife says to you your husband says to you appreciate sentiment but really couldn't make the effort to get a card really what's the combination that we all strike strive to do you buy the card and you fill in your own words and that's the sitter is the American greetings card and the authors were not the stone family the authors were kazal put the language the text on our card to a called the but we're supposed to fill in and write our own little language and every BR that's the most authentic that's where hit the road so drives me crazy every day I see people they fly through the amida they don't pay attention at all and they quickly grab out of their toel bag the P Tas on a cloth CU they read somewhere that if you recite P from a CL every day it's a scha for a gun parasa okay first of all according to some it's con you're not supposed to print on a a para that's incomplete okay forget the challenges of it but you just had an audience with the almighty you just had an audience with the almighty and what did you do you ran through it you ignored it you didn't take advantage of it and you recited a script from somebody else and then you ran from that audience with the almighty to go subscribe to some he GB magic that you think will make the almighty fulfill what you want him to do that's such a wasted opportunity what a lost moment what a lost moment I was just in New York somebody was it New York I don't remember where I was wearing and somebody said to me that they have a friend not from boka they've gone through difficult times and they've tried to observe a particular schoola and it hasn't worked and now they're going to and can I recommend which rabbis they should go to for br I said no I have one recommendation go to the Cotto I understand I can I can get you in the Oval Office not I you can get in everyone can get in the oval you could go into the Oval Office and you can meet with the president and you're asking me which congressman or Senator that you should go meet with I'm telling you you go to the office oh it's nice the Oval Office but still can you hook me up with a congressman a senator a state senator the the the city council member the mayor the whatever city planner the guy in charge of the traffic lights what skip all those you could go to the Oval Office you can be with the president every one of us can have an audience with the rebon Shalom we could pour out our heart and then authentic genuine what we need what we're grateful for the relationship and if we feel disconnected and we feel distance Fromm then let that be the very thing that we're doing for I put on the WhatsApp group a couple days ago let that be the very thing that we're ding for because that happens to be one of the things we D for every day every day give great reward to the people who really believe in you and and put my portion with them I struggle God I struggle to see you in my life I struggle to feel your presence I struggle to lean on you so it's very paradoxical I'm doing to you that I feel close and believe in you but yet that is part of the formula that's something that's in our amida we can D for it that's something that we that we believe that's the authentic so says authentic is not that God will conform to what I want it's that I conform to what God wants that I interpret whatever is happening in my life not as um not as God will make it the way I want but rather everything is for a reason we started reading that and that's why he says it's in the heart this is not something that you talk about preach about obviously you could teach about it trying to work with a group of people who are all working on themselves but it means that the ultimate measure or metric of whether you have is not how much you talk about it it's how much live it and practice it and the arena where you practice it is your heart in his heart as well he bewails his lack of trust and lack of perfection in his trait his trust and feeling of strength based on his belief in Hashem manifests itself only in practice he'll not be afraid if his friends open a store in fact he'll make efforts to help him to give him good advice to assist him and in general to be concerned for his welfare when a person does acts of kindness for someone who intends to compete with him the world is enriched by this additional Holiness because of this action more honor and praise are showered on his faithful and happy are this person and his generation as light differs from Darkness as light differs from Darkness truth differs from falsehood and the true kind of trust in hasem differs from the false you can almost read the kish's pain he's so bothered by the counterfeit out there it's fake lip service it's not real it's distorted he's bothered by it and so what he's saying is that when you live a life of it doesn't just impact your it doesn't only impact your relationship with God it impacts your it impacts greatly your relationship with fellow man you are you don't see others as your competitors you don't seek to take revenge you're able to have peace you're able to a m if you have a you could be a m you know m is is somebody who's who foros somebody who for goes ah you would do ah it was your turn ah you should have had a bigger portion somebody took Let It Go the capacity to let it go let it go and why should you let it go cuz you realized there's a master plan whatever you're do you're going to get and nobody in the world could take it from you and if someone took it you Wen do it and if you do it you'll get it back anyway manyfold be a so our interpersonal relationships will improve we won't hold on to grudges we won't be as angry we won't be as as because you realize that whatever is meant to be is meant to be it's just not worth it it's just not worth it be a let it go we studied together a few months ago writes that uh you know you have all the children fighting the one child who says I'm happy with what I got you'll give that child a double portion the children are all fighting about who got which and which got the bigger portion and I want that flavor and it's not fair to me you gave last time everyone's killing each other and fighting with one another and the one child says but whatever you give me is fine what are you going to do with that child here's five portions here come let's go offer ice cream together me and you so K looks at us and he says you know if you have me stop fighting with your siblings because if you're happy with what I give you I'm going to give an even bigger portion I'm going to give you an even bigger portion don't just inform and Inspire but they have the capacity to excite and to improve and to repair and as today is today and tomorrow tomorrow is really the first day of tamas we're entering this period soon we'll observe Shas The Fast of the 17th of tamas which will begin the 3 weeks but we're in that time of the year where we remember why the B MDES was destroyed the B MDES was destroyed because uh because uh two different reasons are given either we make a or because we um or because of and the antidote to both is to live a life of Greater Torah of Greater amuna and that life of Greater amuna to inform and Inspire our ability to get along better with others the PK in the navi that describes the different fast days including it ends shom that when will it end when will the Redemption come when EMS and Shalom when truth and Shalom are beloved says based on the G what'ss Tor but EMS issun I think that when we love EMS we love Hashem and because we love Hashem the EMS then then we have a much greater sense of Shalom when do you have peace in our people Shalom bias peace and our people all of this results from a greater faith and a greater trust and a greater that everything's for a reason that I'm I'm whatever I do I will get whatever happens is meant to be I'll do my establish I do my effort I try to myself conduct my life in a way that I can get the results that I seek but after I do everything I can I accept that whatever happens is meant to be so Ms when we love when we pursue when we Aspire for emun living a life with amuna and V Shalom and therefore the extension of that is that when we live the life of amuna it increases and promotes greater shalom in our life then that is the core of redemption let me just finish by telling you what I already wrote on the amuna WhatsApp group this morning I don't know if anybody's everybody's on that group but I'll just tell it to you again and I've heard this in different forms from different people I heard it from JJ shakar I heard it more recently from aasha who said he heard it from the G about his father but some version of this story about theid who who's if it's or children whatever it was comes to hisb and says need I'm seeking whatever this is the Reb said it's almost when comes we say and we say please so when you say please say it with that's the best school I could tell you so the tries the first comes around comes he throws the towels over his head and he's shuckling like a crazy man and he's having all the kavana in the world hm on hem please Hashem please Hashem and he does this the first month and nothing happens his wife doesn't become pregnant the sh doesn't happen the parosa whatever he was asking for so he tries the second month he figures maybe he needs a second month Anem he's screaming passionate F nothing happens he tries the third month he thinks maybe he needs a of saying Hal with kavana the nothing happen so he comes back to his Reb and he says RAB reab DAV like you told meem is more passion enthusiasm Vigor as I can still my tws haven't been answered Rabbi why so the reab turns to him he says my dear which are you having for please hasem give me salvation please hasem give me success that's what I'm ding for success I have all this the reab says it's the wrong what I meant is have greater when you say please hasm because I am your servant I defer to you I am your loyal loyal servant and what's the chat in the story what was the Reb saying is that we put a lot of effort into the bring me success success success success give me what I want children baby give me what I give me what I want give me what I want what I what I want we need to put a little more emphasis on the Hashem I'm your evid I defer to you you're the omnipotent infinite being I am your lowly servant to fulfill your your goals here on Earth your mission on Earth tomor to say with tremendous and in so doing to become great people of not just on our lips but in our hearts in our actions in all that we do and in so doing we should be the that we bring the