Part 19

okay good morning everyone we're going to dedicate our learning this morning in this in the Merit of our dear friend mayor Hill Ben raisel Esther please God we should hear only good news yes hopefully soon we pray okay we're still in the middle of this Feast by rinkus and we're on page five we're going to pick it up from page five but just to give a little background a reminder of where we're at and how we got here um rinkus has been developing the notion that sometimes you have to go back to basics come on in there's a chair right chair right over here sometimes you have to go back to basics and that we get confused in this world of so many different ideas so many different Temptations a world that is uh cloaking us in a cloud and often darkness and distracting us and confusing us that sometimes the answer is to go back to basics what we call Basic belief and to ask ourselves the simple question last week I told you the story of my class trip in 11th grade to Boston and how that transformed my life and um and and I was forced to confront a group of friends who said to me you're a hypocrite you're criticizing what we're doing you also pick and choose you're a typical man you're picking and choosing in your own way so who are you to criticize what we're picking and choosing you're also picking and choosing and they said to me is it real or not real you taking it seriously or not if you think that you're like the rabbi in the group probably didn't say that but if you think no never thought in a million years I was going to be but if you think that you're in the position to criticize well we're picking and choosing so you know what about you are you taking it seriously or not and I went and back and that you know it's it's a real blessing to be able to pinpoint a moment in your life that changed your life a moment in life that set you on a different trajectory than the one that you might have been on and I feel very blessed for that um I'm not blessed that my classmates were eating Burger King on the bus back from Boston but I guess in a way that benefited me so that was hashem's Master plan but it forced me to confront something that every year during this month during Nissan and in anticipation of pesak we are supposed to confront and ask about ourselves is it real or is it not real does God exist or does he not exist is the compelling evidence in favor of God's existence or not we spoke about last week it takes more faith to be an atheist than it does to be a believer and if God does exist what are his expectations of me how did he design the world what does he expect from me what what are my responsibilities and duties and obl ations to his world either I'm taking it seriously or not and I want to clarify I'm not suggesting an All or Nothing approach that you need to be the most righteous person the most scrupulous Vigilant person the most person we don't believe in an All or Nothing approach we believe that better to be doing what one is doing than doing nothing whatever level one's comfortable with one is on a journey and that's okay so I'm not suggesting an All or Nothing approach what I am suggesting is that we be intellectually honest and truthful to ourselves is it real or is it not not real so pesak which celebrates the holiday of coming out of MIM of leaving Egypt of forging our unique national identity because we did not come we were not saved from Egypt in order to just be some other secular country we were not saved from Egypt in order to be Switzerland or Sweden we were saved from Egypt to be the Jewish people to be Israel you know and it's the contrast is remarkable in the Middle East we were saved from the dark Middle East that's providing so little to the world and and creating so much Destruction for the world to be the Israel that is the light onto Nations we were designed to be that country Israel and the People Israel who whenever there's a natural catastrophe whenever there's a crisis somewhere in the world Israel is the first one there with their Mobile hospital we were meant to invent medicines and cure diseases and create Technologies and that's who we were meant to be and and so what does it mean to do that to be a Jew is more than bagels and locks you could filter fish and it's even more than the startup Nation who disproportionately is represented on the NASDAQ with startup uh with startup tech companies it's more than that why does it matter that we as a people are disproportionately why is that part of our mandate and Mission and who are we and what are we to teach the world so with Nissan and with pesak comes that asking ourselves and reflecting collectively and we're going to do that to shabas I'm very excited I got great stuff for the shabas ofha got great material it's not my own so that's why it's easy for me to say it's great stuff but it's uh it's great stuff so so we're going to talk about there's an amazing book called essentialism which has changed or I hope is changing my life um it's a great book it's not a Jewish book essentialism oh essentialism it's it's not a Jewish book I I can't tell you how highly I recommend it and we're going to take a lot of the principles of that book and apply them to Jewish living through studying the Mitzvah what are we looking for is a joke by the time you get to next Thursday night hopefully your house is spotless and clean you haven't let a kid walk around with a dut since uh suus tell so uh so by the time so even if you listen even if you listen to my workshop which says that you can clean and caser in half a day which I believe that you can which I believe absolutely that you can the difference between spring cleaning yeah has even started yet the difference between PES cleaning and spring cleaning but even if you if you agree with me you can do it in half a day by next Thursday night essal M something mckian so if you Google essentialism he's the only one with a book called essentialism don't worry okay so by next Thursday night the house is spotless so who are we fooling that we're doing aik you're searching for it's ridiculous you're searching a spotless sterile house you could do surgery on the floor of your kitchen next Thursday night and we're doing so what what are we really looking for and and what we're going to discuss what we're really looking for after we develop and analyze the is what we're really looking for is how to live the essentialist lifestyle how to live the core value lifestyle how to get rid of the noise and extract the things in our life that are inessential that are that are that are taking away and compromising the life that we are meant to live and that's all part of the springtime and PES and getting back to Our Roots getting back to that notion of Amun okay so we're on the bottom of page five I I could repeat the whole class from last week or you could just listen to it online there's another idea says rinkus there's another idea which is even more which is even more profound even deeper even greater and that's the concept of Godless that God he is one to realize that everything sings the praise of God every leaf every blade of grass every moment every experience every song on the radio every conversation that you can see Hashem in everything everything that exists is an extension of the almighty now I will interject which he doesn't that we don't always appreciate it you know Community is going through a crisis with someone that you love it's hard to see Hashem you go through a personal illness you go through a personal sense of of profound disappointment hurt angst worry it's hard to see Hashem but that too is I'll tell you an amazing Insight that uh RHA who was our guest earli this year the great menash quoted from his rebi the son zarov and he said the following that in shma we sayma is listen Jewish people who are we talking to you're supposed to say shma out loud that you can hear it even if you're home alone so who you talking to so the is is yourself is takes back the explanatory days the is I I said this 15 years ago at the expiratory service so the is that we're talking to is the Jew in us the pint in us we're saying wake up you're sleep you're asleep at the wheel you're a zombie you're just going through life wake up is the p Jew and you you know wake up there's a God you're a Holy Soul you're a spark you could be alive stop sleepwalking through life and no is know that Hashem El now Hashem the that name for hasem that we pronounce Adonai stands for adness God's Mastery over the whole world and then you have Elohim hasem El elim is that's the name that we use for God when we're talking about God as a judge we're talking about God as the master of Justice who exact Justice he looks at us and gives us exactly what we deserve justice so the name that we pronounce is that's God's attribute of kindness you know that means that parents just like think about parents sometimes you're you're in a certain mood or for whatever reason you're predisposed to overlook a certain thing your child did and you're overflowing with that you ignore the mistake they made or you let let it slide or you don't you let them off the punishment you're kind other times children encounter our one of my children encountered this morning significantly I realized that when my throat was hurting earlier giving the class because anyway so sometimes children she deserved it so sometimes our children encounter the mid because as a loving parent you have to know kind of the yin and yangang of of when when does the child need the love and the nurture and the compassion and the flexibility and when do they need a little bit of tough love when do they need a little bit of mid so God towards us as our parent and God you know in my case it could be I too little sleep it could be I'm stressed out it could be a million factors you know served me the wrong dinner last night it could be a million she didn't she didn't she she didn't I said it could be in theory I ate the wrong food and the vending machine at 1: in the morning at CH it could be a lot of pretty accurate so it could be a lot of different factors that make the parent Express when they should have they express Justice when they should have compassion god is perfect so if God is expressing one over the other it's because what it is right it is correct it is accurate it's what we need what we deserve so God like a parent has either of those so sh is we're saying wake up you're asleep you're asleep walking through life you think what's important is uh how big your house is or the name of your car or the latest fashion TR the shopping you think what's important is keep it up with wake that soul up wake that Spirit up connect and know that hasem the god of R andu the god of M of justice that Hashem that God he's one that whatever happens to us that's good or bad it all comes from Hashem and here's the inside of the son we cover our eyes we take our hand and we cover our eyes when we say shma and why do we cover our eyes when we say shma cuz we're looking around the world and we're saying a beloved friend is missing this one has no parosa and this one's looking to get married and this one's desperate for children and this one's this and this one's that and and hasem God is kind and God is one you look around the world and you say Where's God we all have those moments of doubt and uncertainty and and you feel abandoned or isolated alone and you wonder what where is God Is there really God what's going on here so the son of re said that's why we cover our eyes because in order to ascribe to that uh to a irm that belief to remind ourselves that that belief you cover your eyes you say you know what I'm not going to just live my life based on what I see with my eyes I'm not going to accept the superficial I'm going to tap into a deeper faith and know that Beyond it all there is a God there is a master Puppeteer there is meaning there's order there's purpose to the universe and while I may not understand it right now hopefully it will all come into Clarity for me and if not but the god of the god of D it's all Hashem it all comes from the perfect omnipotent one who has a master plan for us and that amuna so sometimes you have to cover your eyes in order to tap into that amuna in other words sometimes to be a believer you have to not you have to not believe what's right in front of your eyes you can't believe what's right in front of your eyes sometimes if you believe what's right in front of your eyes you'll never he's like the rest of the members of be I'm speaking and he's snoring it's okay so the uh there's for those listening there a little baby next to me it's not a person sing so uh those listening online thinks we're making fun of someone who fell so the um sometimes in order it's an amazing Insight of the Sans rebbi sometimes in order to feel that highest level of amuna you have to extract yourself from the reality that you're in it's not always good to be a realist you know you have extreme realists it's not always good to be an extreme realist if our people throughout our history were extreme realists what are the odds we would be here today if the people before us our ancestors faced the Crusades and the Inquisition and the Holocaust and the Millennia of persecution and oppression yum War Yuma War the odds being against us Six Day War right as recently as modern Israel history if we faced as realists what lay before us we wouldn't be here as a people we'd be long gone we have historically throughout our people's existence known we've learned how to take our hand and cover our eyes and say you know what I'm not going to look at what's right in front of me I'm going to remember there's a master plan and put one foot in front of the other and do everything I have to do with the confidence and the knowledge and the certainty that there is a master plan and that there is a reason and that things are going to come together so hold on one second so that's what he's saying is this deeper idea is going back to the basics to know whether it's the physical world spiritual world it's one that every detail and especially the small that leaf only exists because God wills it to still be connected to the tree and the wind is blowing right now because God Wills the wind to blow that way and whatever is happening to me is happening because God wills it we read in the one of the themes of is that God it's not through an intermediary and it's not through an angel and it's not through an emissary Ambassador God not with agency directly is involved in our lives and that can raise a whole list of questions why do bad things happen in good people theoy Dr shat spoke about it couple weeks ago last week a couple weeks ago I don't remember why did bad things happen to to good people and it raises a legitimate difficult set of questions but it also if you believe in it raises tremendous confidence and gives Incredible strength and support to know that I'm not going through whatever I'm going through in vain and though I don't know it's ending will I get what I'm dreaming of Will I be relieved of whatever pain or suffering will it have a positive fairy tale outcome I don't know but either way it's comforting and strengthening to know that it's not random and it's not chance I'm not a statistic or a piece of data that it's meant to be it is what is meant to be by the omnipotent perfect one who orchestrates the whole world the way only he can and if you Embrace that that ideology and that attitude as I say that at ude can raise questions and then you can be distracted by the questions and the questions become the excuse to drop out of the whole program because you say ah God who could do I don't believe in a God who could hurt this that and I don't believe a God who could cause pain I don't believe in a God who bad things could happen to good people or you could say I could live my life with strength and confidence and comfort and hope because I know that whatever happens is not random there is meaning and purpose and again those who historically in the Jewish people raised the questions and used it as an excuse to exit they're no longer part of the Jewish story and those that use the experiences to strengthen and say we're going to overcome this Inquisition and this Crusades and this Holocaust and the forc conversions and the oppression and the persecution and the and the Exile that group who became strengthened by knowing it was for a reason are today thriving in the land of Israel and yeshivas and and and and seminaries and and Jewish communities that are thriving that are giving birth to generations of vibrant Dynamic spiritual ual Jews so how we deal with with that question or how we deal with that with that fact so determines so much of our future and the message that we impart to our children do our children see us using the question as an exit strategy or do our children see us using it with a sense of Faith and Hope and optimism is a crisis we doin because we know Hashem is the one who can answer and we you know something was a great disappointment but Hashem has a reason we're learning to to embrace it that there's a reason and we accept and we're not fighting it we accept it we're going to try to improve it we do all of our initiative we do everything we can in our power to overcome it but our family see so our attitude towards this does impact generations to come when they see the attitude we bring yes Jessica so I think is there a premise that we we want to live that we have a will to live in order to have a Muna because if you don't really have look around and you don't really want to live then why would you develop your so that's a good question does the will to live bring amuna or does amuna bring the will to live so there's a book I've recommended a thousand times um it's called the Survivor Club I've recommended it a thousand times it's a great book and and here I'm going to give a little spoiler alert that the author who's Jewish and in the introduction is a self-proclaimed you know unaffiliated non-observant Jew um but he explored what makes some more predisposed to survive than others and he goes through chapters those who survive PL and crashes those who survive illness those who survive the Holocaust those who survive why did some animal attacks there's a lot of very cute information that comes through the way for example you should always wear Clos toed shoes when you fly he says yes and I do because you know if you if you're wearing like loose sandals a lot of people like to wear comfortable shoes when they fly but if you ever had to run from a wreckage you would be in trouble so he has all kinds of Right Where to sit on the plane where you're more likely to survive a crash if you're sitting in the front the middle the back of the plane he has all kinds of you know for example that left-handers have shorter lifespan than right-handers both lefties but for interesting reason interesting reason it has nothing to do with our biology or our makeup he says because the world is designed for right-handers so there's more accidents using by lefties using right- hand equipment machinery those kinds of things cu the world is designed for rightand I'll give you one last cute piece of information he has in there anyone know where is the best place in the world to have a heart attack if you're going to have Cardiac Arrest where is the best place on Earth to have it so people think the hospital but the truth is you could be in a a hallway of the hospital or the stairwell and no one would notice you for weeks casino right why he says they're always watching you there's cameras everywhere and there's a room of people watching the cameras everywhere and the fastest response place to a heart attack anywhere on Earth is so if you're feeling you're going have a heart attack go to the Hard Rock so anyway why am I why am I sharing this with you because he has this incredible uh at the end of the book in the epilogue he essentially examines so what was the answer what made some more predisposed to survive than others he has the oldest man in the world is a holocaust Survivor he 110 years old 112 112 yeah and he has he has theories about it but here's the theory he asserts and he comes back to the fact that he is not an observant Jew with faith a Jew of faith and he says what he thinks is the most important ingredient to survival is faith that when people have faith when people have faith they find the will to live because they believe they can overcome and when you lack faith and you say it's all random and chance there is no God there is no hope in optimism there is no savior there is no possibility this can turn on a dime so they give up hope faith gives hope a few years ago you remember there were um um three or four famous football players who were on a boat that capsized they were on a fishing boat that capsized off the west coast of FL and a few of them drowned and one survived he held on to a plank of wood and floated by holding on to it hours days I don't remember what it was and when they asked him afterwards you know why do they think he survived when his friends did not he said I think I'm getting the story right see Shan's Googling in her head the the uh the she's wondering which football players so so um so he he said because every time he was about to let go of the board he pictured his wife and children and he felt this responsibility to hold on for them and he had faith in God that God did not want his wife and children to lose him so he held on he said for one more hour and he kept doing that until he found himself rescued so anyway the upshot of this book so it's interesting the way you pose that question know do we do we have the will to live and therefore we find Faith or is it that we have faith which gives us the strength and the will to live faith can give unbelievable strength to people to overcome the greatest odds ever collectively and individually we just have to and we all have the gift of it we have the capacity for it we have the potential it's in us we we it's in our DNA we've inherited it from our forefathers who have perfected it because we had no choice and we're lucky we C things to believe it because people who don't I don't know how they get through difficult times it's totally random and they could just be so angry and and and not he should have had a book he should have had a chapter in the book The Jewish people really are the survivors club we are the survivors Club no other people have been so targeted so so it's such a tempted extermination and and we are the survivors club and so what that means it's it's unfortunate it's sad how do we understand it why all great questions but really ultimately what it means is that we have inherited within our spiritual and even physical DNA I believe you know Rabbi yehuda's daughter is a expert she's in the book she's quoted in the book and she's an expert in having studied the biology of second generation Holocaust Survivors to see is there did did it do Holocaust Survivors Offspring have literally a different physical makeup makeup as a result of their having survived it said Holocaust Survivors had elevated cortisol in in their unbeliev you know and I imagine again this is anecdotal but so many Holocaust Survivors have such longevity in their life and it's kind of like if you if you were able to survive the Holocaust survive anything you you are predisposed to have the capacity physically emotionally spiritually to to endure to endure in general but we are collectively the survivors club and that should be that should be inspiring that should give us hope to know that what we're going through our ancestors have gone through before and they found the will and the faith to put a foot in front of the other and we can too and please God hopefully our story has a happy ending and please God you know we celebrate what we're yearning for and looking for and the Redemption that we desperately need individually and collectively but never give up hope never think that we don't have it never think that we don't have it the Torah gives it to us and you know whether you were brought up religious not religious Jewish or came to be Jewish we all have that capacity that strength we are given that gift to tap into through Torah through amuna through faith and that's why that's why we study it did someone else have a comment second paragraph in the bottom half of page five now this idea is not something that you can you know it's not not so simple Bon and that's why takes it's profound it takes some thoughtfulness and it takes Insight this is a great novel contribution of our great Torah if you look superficially at the world you say to yourself you know whoever is a schlamazel an underachiever has no work ethic doesn't apply themselves doesn't know how to make money will be poor you say the smart one the intelligent brilliant one who knows how to analyze and understand and uh earn money and how to invest it how to live life that that person will result in being rich what's means property it means material Goods that you will be a you will have a lot you know note the more you have the more worry you have you know when you rent it a small place you had little worries then you own a big house and then you know the roof and the plumbing and the air conditioner went and the thing that's the it's kind of be careful what you wish for because the more you have the more can go wrong and get fixed and go stress and gets you know so means material possessions so at at first glance in a superficial look you look around the world and you say basically you know the overachiever smart intellectual top of the class they're always Rich the underachiever lazy good for nothing bum they're always poor um that there's a direct we're tempted to think that there's a direct correlation between effort and results but in reality while that's the way superficially we see it if you actually take a look and analyze it you'll see that that's all false it's not true the results don't always correlate with the effort the only thing that correlates is what did God allow the individual to achieve we all know people who were like the bottom of our class lazy good for nothing and they came across the idea they married into the right family their family their parent had their right whatever they end up being in a position in life that they're it's unbelievable and you have other people who were at the top of the class they gave the validatory speech they were you know chosen voted to be whatever and they like they're struggling to succeed they're struggling to to to get some Traction in life it doesn't correlate now we have to do this is something my brother-in-law taught me he's a lawyer in Israel it was a great Insight he shared with me we we have an obligation to do hisas we have to do our effort we're going to read about that on the seventh day of PES the Jewish people are trapped between the sea in front of them the Egyptians behind them and they start to DAV and God tells to mosha what what the heck are they doing close your mouths close your tum start walking get into the sea it's a PK it's a PK in B and we're going to read it on seventh day of PES and we talked about this you why what do you mean they're going to look at mosha and say close are to hilum it's exactly what we were taught right every time there's a crisis open you to Hill what do you mean close are to H so what's the answer is that there are moments to say to and there are moments to take action and we have to know when to do what the two things complement one another you can't not take action and just sit in your couch and say tell him and think that God's going to perform Miracles we don't believe in relying on Miracles we have to do our effort we have to do our part and then the tum correlate with our effort that God hopefully responds and rewards the effort we've made now you can't just do effort if all you do is effort then in the end of the day you think that you're the one in control so you have to combine effort with faith you have to combine effort with prayer and the two compliment in other words I I always like to express it this prayer with words and this prayer with action we show Faith to God with the words we use do we say to him do we turn to him do we talk to him from the bottom of our hearts and then we also show our faith and prayer with action we say God I understand I have to do my part I have to meet halfway right this is the theme of PES which I don't want to get too lost on this right now but that's exactly the blood of Brisa and the blood of theb p in are connected right and what's the connection between bris and P both of them Raba met the Roman general tus Rufus and the Roman general said to him tus Rufus if God wants Jewish boys circumcised why didn't he create them that way if forkin is such a devil a villain why did he create it so right he thought he had a great question so Raba turned to him and said that uh he gave him some wheat and he gave him a piece of bread said if God wanted bread why didn't he make it Grow from the ground the answer is God wants us to be his partner in creation his partner in Redemption and so he leaves he leaves to invites us allows us to be his partner so that's true with Brisa and the symbolism there which we're not going to get into now and it's true with PES God didn't know which were the Jewish homes in Egypt they had to slaughter the god of the Egyptians put the blood on the doorpost so that God could identify the Jewish Home it wasn't enough to see the Honda Odyssey in the driveway he had to put the to put the the blood on the doorpost so why why did God God needed us to do it and the answer is yeah God said you know you can't sit in your couch watch TV and think I'm going to come redeem you from Egypt and skip over your house what you need to show some courage take that God of the Egyptians tie it against the doorpost for 4 days and then Slaughter it and when you shmear the blood on your doorway and basically show the Egyptians who's God then I'll do my part says God but don't think you're going to sit back you do your part I'll do my part we have to do our effort and that's why why do we we when we sing we say and we say we sing um no what do we sing so why do we open the door for him can't come down the chimney Al can't crawl through the the window it's to open the door so I want H up by risk and say that yeah if you want Redemption Le is the harbinger of redemption then you got to get up off your and you got to do something you think you're going to sit at the table drinking your wine eating your matah and is going to come passively redeem you you want Redemption you've got to get up and you've got to do something too so this is a theme of the Jewish people that God will do his part but he needs to see us do ours because our doing our part isn't Act of Faith God I know I have to do my part so where's the Insight of my brother-in-law it's a great insight into amuna we tend to mistakenly feel that the hisas that the initiative that we take will always correlate with the results that we have so basically I work hard at work then I'm going to do better I'm going to earn more money I do X then y will happen he said you know we do the effort because that's the prerequisite to get the results but doesn't always correlate what does he mean so he's a lawyer in Israel and he has his own firm and he has to be the rain maker he's got to bring in the own he got to bring in his own business so he's constantly and he's got a wonderful firm he's doing great um good news for my sister and nieces and nephews so but he's got to bring in the business so he's got to constantly email and and phone calls and reach out comes to the states and he sets up meetings and networks he does aist and he has told me on numerous occasions he says eam you you won't believe that every time I do the effort and he he's not naturally the extrovert who loves people who wants to be out there but he's got do it so he brings himself to do it and he says every time I bring myself to do it afterwards I get an influx of business and it has nothing to do with the meetings and the phone calls and the emails he comes back from a trip from New York and it's not that the people he met with now want business from him it's that you know an old friend reached out or saw him online or an old client remembered and referred him to another client and he says when he does hisas when he does his effort he gets results but it rarely correlates that the effort with the result and he M feels the yach Hashem Hashem is waiting no do your part and I'm I'm ready I've got a storehouse of clients ready to drop on you but I can't do it till you do your part you cannot sit back you can't sit back in your office with the gamarra open thinking like you know the phone's going to ring you've got to do your effort and then God says I've got a client Rolodex that I'm ready to send your way and it's not going to necessarily correlate sometimes it will correlate sometimes it won't correlate but what it relies on is our doing is our doing our effort and finding that balance between effort and Faith so that's what he says here is that you know you tend to think that you know the number one guy in the class is going to be rich and the last person in the class is going to be poor but that's not necessarily the case everything is run right is the the hisis we do never think that your success is a result of the efforts that you took because there were a gazillion other people who took the exact same efforts at you and didn't have that success you're the only entrepreneur you're the only one who had that you're the only one who spent long hours in the office you're the only one who sent out lots of emails you think the only one so why is it that your effort resulted in success and the person next to you who did the exact same efforts did not it's the senior partner we have a partner in everything we do and we are the junior partner and when you deny you know when there's a conflict between partners and one partner starts saying the other guy didn't do anything and he's out that's when you have a breakdown don't knock God out be grateful be humble and be grateful and recognize he's the senior partner do your work show up do your part means the Godless means an Outlook a perspective an ideology of seeing the world as an to achieve that level where everything in life everything in the world is the rebon is Hashem every leaf every blade every music every scene every moment every CL you see a isn't it we all know people like that they make us a little bit nauseous but on the same time they make us a little bit envious you know of the of to a little bit you're like are they real are they in fantasy land are they real and the other piece of us is like I wish I were in their fantasy land that is such a happy place that is such a strong place I wish I was with them but we can be them we all have that capacity to say isn't that amazing isn't hashm amazing isn't hashm great let's talk to hashm Let's lean on HM let's be grateful to hhm to be that that person we have that capacity which is an let's just get to the uh next Bowl it's like a young child waiting for his mother at home in the afternoon when the mother comes home she'll make lunch and the mother is delayed she's not guilty it's not her fault there was traffic on her way home so she's 45 minutes late so that young child the mother's going to say look I didn't delay your lunch it's not my fault I'm late hasem wanted you to have the lunch late the 5-year-old's like Hashem what Hashem wants me to have lunch late like Mommy where were you I'm starving there's no lunch Mommy where were you so that's all the child understands the the development of the child is not yet at the point that the child can say oh yeah it wasn't your fault Mom you know circumstances and that was orchestrated by the omnipotent infinite one the M's here right bottom line is I'm hungry and you're not here the child only knows one thing yesterday his mother fed him lunch on time when he was hungry and today there's no momy and he's hungry so the child who only lives in a developmentally shallow stage says well all I understand is Mommy's the one who feeds me when she's here I eat when she's not I don't and and and I blame her I'm grateful to her when I eat and I'm angry at her when she's not here so that's the child so many of us are are adult children right we're looking and we're saying not that hasm is the one orchestrating these things we're blaming the momy in each of the circumstances you know instead of realizing Hashem orchestrated this this traffic Hashem orchestrated this experience Hashem orchestrated this success Hashem orchestrated this disappointment there's meaning there's purpose I meant to go through this I'm somehow meant to grow from this I'm meant to be stronger I'm meant to experience this this is what's best for me it doesn't mean I have to be happy about it doesn't mean I have to be complacent about it hashm wants us to protest I believe sometimes that's why things happen and we have incredible we spent time on this a with sadom mosenu himself we have our greatest leaders whether it's a who says to God how could you do this to Stone or mosu says to God let me see your face why did bad things happen to good people we come from a um record of challenging God he wants us to protest when we've had crisis in the community and We Gather for TM I always say the same thing we have gathered to protest what Hashem is doing that's not a denial of Hashem that's the greatest affirmation of Hashem you only protest somebody who you think is in power who's in control you don't protest the custodian in the White House you protest the president in the white house right you only protest the person who you hold accountable for the reality so it's a great statement of faith to protest Hashem aam did it Moshe did it our most faithful people did it and we can do it Hashem I'm protesting this decision it's not good I want a job I want a spouse I want children I want happiness I want my friend to come home I'm protesting it's not I don't accept it Hashem I'm protesting it we are meant to protest but ultimately we're meant to realize that it comes from Hashem it's not just chance and random it's not the equivalent of the Mami in the story in the metaphor but that there is a higher being that Hashem elu whether it's that which is good for us or that which we perceive is painful it's allem and we have to cover our eyes and put our hand over our face to be able to find the strength to say it because we have to divorce oursel from reality in order to tap into that Faith then so be it but that's what it takes to to sustain ourselves and to continue so the difference between a cut and a GLE being the child who just sees the mommy it doesn't see anything anymore and being the GLE who realizes that it wasn't mommy's fault she was stuck in traffic there's a greater plan is our perspective on the world so good for our MOS also that like for our patience and for you know to right you can't control you know you can't control it there's traffic here you know it just makes you calmer it's good for the kids to see that attitude when you don't have to blame you don't get angry right away it's you know I I've over the years I've given shuna and the not when I'm giving shuna I'm like all of us you know much more aware of it and it's amazing it is when you're stuck in that traffic and your blood pressure starting to rise and the sweat lands are starting to work and you're starting to get frustrated and then you stop and you say to yourself I can't change this it was meant to be for whatever reason and what's next what's next all of a sudden it's like taking a perette it's unbelievable it is it's the same feeling you ever take a per anyone wants you know you take a perette all of a sudden I I have found and thank God I only took it for a few days but the peret didn't relieve the pain in my foot but who cares but but right but who cares it just what happens is you take peret and 20 minutes later you know you're a little loopy you feel this like warm Rush come over you it's like calm this tingling it's I don't know everybody has different reaction it's like it's great and all of a sudden whatever your foot was hurting you it doesn't really matter anymore so amuna is like a perco set for life like so you're starting to feel pain taking amuna pill and realize this C come over you say you know what this is what's meant to be I'm in traffic I can't change it it is what it is what do I need to do next and then that's it then that's it hold on Rachel wanted to say something yeah just my conclusion is that once you've accepted and once you know that it's all in hashem's hands and you you're at that point so then you then you say but it's okay to protest so that's my that's my you know it's almost like when things happen then you kind of lose your emotions and you but like you're saying but then you're supposed to protest so that's the confusion tell someone's missing in the community whatever else and you say you know this is from God and and but then but then we go and protect so that's and there's a balance in life there's always balance that's the bottom line in in this world is the balance so that's the questions like why are we protesting why w we just say this is for the best but could you just like take you know that's the question it's a great question but think about it in the realm of illness right somebody's ill we don't say like scientologists well that's what God wants don't go to a doctor and and don't change the will of God by getting better we say get better no you have to go to the doctor you have but the thought process that's confus think about daving doing is is protest I'm protesting somebody's sick I'm protesting please God make them better I'm struggling with parasa I'm protesting God make it better daving is yeah you know what it's like in in in the middle of an election we can appreciate this it's an amazing thing democracy you fight and fight and fight for your candidate you call the other candidate every name in the book and hopefully you don't you you hang up signs you do bum bumper stickers you do everything in the world to protest the other person and to advocate for your person but when the election's over if the other person won they're your president and you follow their rules and their laws and that's democracy you know in the Middle East you just kill the person you know you're you just stuff your Ballot Box you kill the other person because you didn't want them to be one so that's like you know we protest protest protest and when God when the election's over when God has determined this is it that's when we go towards acceptance I think that's I think that's how it goes okay if anyone yes a great story is when uh with when Chad was pregnant with his first child that child got very sick and he was crying and ripping coer and on the floor and and praying to try to change God's mind yeah but then when he finally passed away and walked away and they couldn't right exactly that's exactly that movement from protest to to we just kind him it's the same thing it's it's we know that our's in control and then and then we protest and there's fasting and there's all this that goes on and then it's a it's like what we think we see is how but it's not exactly that's exactly but and that also correlates with the with the what was saying to Esther he was saying look God's going to God's Got A Plan here but someone's got to do his so either you like someone's got to do the it's not that the is going to result in the Salvation God's going to bring Salvation but we got to do theas because that's what we do we're fasting and ding for three days and we've got to do effort so Esther you're lucky enough that you're in position that you get to do the effort but somebody's got to do it because without the effort God can't release the Salvation so it's exactly the same theme if there anyone who's not on the email I send a weekly email out to remind people about the class if anyone's not on the weekly email that wants to be please um write your email down you going to have no we'll meet next week yeah people good still next Wednesday morning we'll meet next week and then p will'll take a break my house is good and then uh and then we'll resume after so we are on for next week but if I don't have your email list email uh give me your email so that I can put you on 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