Part 121: Can You Hear the Music?

okay good morning boes to special thank you again to our uh amazing sponsors for the series for the year doctors a and Bella Morgan who sponsored nishas our dear friend Rabbi Dr Brian gabit bar ban Ruan n who lived a life filled with Torah VOD and Hashem and amuna I'm sorry it's been a little while and we are continuing with the saer of which the name has even more significance to me because the acronym for is anyone know the acronym anyway our new grandson's name is and at his bris his father our son-in-law said that that's an acronym the name stands for is anyone there's here if anyone still needs to wake up you're all looking at me like uh you guys okay is everybody here okay feeling okay I feel like we need some defibrillators we need some defibrillators in here anyway again the premise of the whole safer that we've been making our way through is that one is really only alive if they are living a life in a relationship with Hashem if there is no Hashem if a person's living only for themselves their happiness their Joy their pleasure they think they're in charge they're in control then they live a life of anxiety and worry and fear fear a life of arrogance and ego and selfishness and if a person if a person is living a life of Amun a mission Driven Life a purpose-driven life if we feel I'm here for a reason there's a difference I have to make if a person is in this planet realizing that my mission and goal is not to be selfish but selfless my goal is not to seek my own pleasure but to repair and improve the world around me we are truly only alive when we relinquish control we let go and we let God and we realize that he's in charge okay so so we've been going through told us quoting from that we have four elements within a person we have fire wind water and dust Earth we come from all four and that all of our character traits and habits are symptoms of a corruption or a virus within those four elements within us and just like in medicine you don't treat the symptom but you try to heal the underlying illness or sickness so true each of these four elements if there's a virus it expresses itself in uh inappropriate behavior choices actions and so on and we went through so far that when the fire in US is misguided misdirected fire is the element of passion of enthusiasm somebody who's on fire misdirected fire expresses itself how as arrogance and as anger a person who has a burning fire has a burning ego person with a burning fire has rage and anger and flies off the handle and so how do you solve or conquer or heal those manifestations those symptoms is to repair the element from within that's what we spent a significant amount of time on and now we're on the second element which is R we're on page p in the handout page P we're going to go back and and catch I know we did the first paragraph already but we're going to go back because uh if you're listening online in succession there was no break but if you're here in person we've had a little something called Yanti in the way so it's interesting the second element within us is ruak that word ruak wind in this context sees it as an element there's a notion of wind right even anatomically or physiologically or biologically we can find these parallels that doesn't mean to suggest that there's a fire inside us but it means that even within the body there's heat and a heat element you have a notion of wind there's a notion of Earth and there's a notion of water our body mass is made up mostly of water so these four elements are not just metaphysical but they have uh expression in the physical world and the physical way as well so in this context Ru here means literally wind but Ru also means Ru is the word that we use to describe a a soul someone who has a soul has a Ru spirituality is called Rus there is a NE Nees Ru there are three layers or three levels of the soul the nees the ru and the not for now but R is the description of the so lastas when we dedicated our mid I mentioned a beautiful Insight that was just shared with we we say every day the G stands for GM is the physical Material World we say God make it rain now if you're a farmer when you say Make It Rain you literally need to make it rain if you want to have in come and food to eat that year when we say Make It Rain we mean bring in clients and customers make my stock and portfolio go up let me do well financially right Make It Rain the lawyer who has to produce has to make it rain it's how we use the Expression Even in our vernacular Make It Rain so we say this is aav giving you a little sitter snippet bonus is every day we've just introduced that we start on to three times a day we say God make it rain Make It Rain help Make It Rain why are we saying it there by the way we don't say it in the middle section which is the Basha where we make requests where are we saying it in the first three bras why are we inserting it in the first three bras what's its role in the first three Bros sh is divided up into three parts you've been with me long enough to know that I take a lot of tangents but we ultimately get where we're meant to go we just go on a lot of detours so Shon is made up of three parts I have the three blessings of Praise I have the the 13 blessings of requests and I have the three blessings of gratitude of thank you that is the formula first I praise Hashem then I have my 13 requests which kazal the the men of the great assembly authored and how did they do so because with their divine inspiration they were able to anticipate the universal human needs and the 13th section the middle bras that we all say in represent the universal needs of humanity and they areer knowledge and healing and repentance and Justice and then we have the generic catch ofu that if they didn't get it in the verse 12 Inu throw in whatever you need to throw in help me do well on my test help my flight leave on time help me come up with a good drer help whatever it is that I want to throw into the generic one help the CH come out not to watery whatever you want to throw in whatever you want to throw into the generic Shu you can throw into it so I have the three of praise the 13 of requests and then the three of gratitude now is not the time but there's a lot to be said why is it in that order and why am I starting out with praise R pinkis writes in say for people often mistakenly think why are we starting out by praising Hashem why am I praising Hashem because what is the best method or formula to get what you want so if I need something later I'll go home and I'll say did I mention how beautiful you look today everything you amazed did I tell you how good your cooking was last night did I tell you how brilliant you are how insights how invaluable your insights are to me by the way I need you to drive me to Miami to the airport so what do we know that what we do is we praise and then we go in for the kill by asking what we need so of pink says maybe you'll mistakenly think that that's the role of CH here say Pinkus do you think a your wife is not so foolish your boss is not so foolish nobody around you is so foolish certainly the almighty Theon is not so foolish that by throwing a few Praises God have I told you how good you look have I told you how magnificent your world is he's not going to buy into that so why are we starting with shach sayra pinkas all together different reason which is before you can go ask Hashem for the things that you need you first have to understand that he's the one who can provide it so the goal of the praise of the sh is not to position yourself to ask and get what you want the goal of the praise is to understand how categorically different we are than he he is the infinite omnipotent being he is the source of all he can provide all so I describe him as he's the source of everything he has that strength I'm understanding who he is so that now when I go into to ask I'm not asking from someone who's incapable of providing I'm asking from the one who's the source of everything the purpose of the praise is not to position hasem the purpose of the or manipulate hem exploit AEM the purpose of the praise is for me to understand my dependence on him so that when I ask so actually when I flew to is recently I sat next toosha on the airpl so we had a great time together we spoke for so he said this V he told me from RBA taka from RBA he said how do we introduce what's what's the sentence that we use anyone know where that comes from comes from wrote it anyone know which capital which paragraph ofum what the context what DAV was talking about some of us have been saying the more than a handful of times our whole lives it's important to know where these things come from because they change our our mindfulness for everything David wrote it in the capital where Nasi comes to him and challenges him about what he did wrong with M Beva Beva was married to another man and was attracted to her and he orchestrated things with urya the husband and we're not supposed to say the gar says anyone who accuses David as being sinning in ela has made a terrible mistake this is not a sheer about David and Bacha which is its own other topic but in that Capital when Nasi challenges David with the mistake that he made David says whoa I'm so far away I'm so distant from Hashem hasem Hashem I don't know if you're ready to even hear from me I've so violated our relationship I've so disappointed you I feel so distant from you I don't even know if you're ready to hear from me so move my lips open my lips so that my mouth can sing your praise so every day when we say when you say the you know what you're starting off with you're saying hasem between you remember at chak when I told you I was going to be a really good boy a really good girl remember when I told you I was going to be careful to make a br before I eat and think of you and I'm not going to gossip and I'm going to going to be honest and I'm going to be righteous and I'm going to be virtuous I'm going to be remember all the promises I made to you just a couple hours ago shakas I've made some mistakes I've slipped up I haven't lived up to my potential and my promises and I feel kind of far away so how do we start out each time do I have permission to approach the bench move my lips are we good can I tell you how I feel can I can I speak to you again even though I told you I wasn't going to do it again and I did it again in between the last time it's an amazing thing gave us the license he gave us the license to continue to DAV even after we violate everything we just said during our last ding beautiful really important to know so told me from the following we say move my lips so that I can praise you and then we say that's filled not only with praise the majority of twice the amount of Praise in sh is requests so what happened to the isn't it Hashem move my lips so that I can praise you and how am I praising You by asking all these things of you that's a praise SOA says there's no greater praise to Hashem than recognizing that you rely and depend on him isn't that amazing it's gack the greatest praise to Hashem is I need you when you say hashm I don't need you I got it covered I'm good I'm good I have all the money I have all the health I have all the talent I have all theas I'm good I'm good I have everything so hasm says where's our relation relationship what happened to our relationship hey you only have those things because I give them it's like you know you fill your kids debit card and they say you know Mom ABA don't call me I'm good I have a lot of money on my debit card I'm good where do you think you got the money on your debit card who do you think's replenishing it for everything that you have so imagine your kid says I don't need to talk to shabas I'm good I got plenty of money I'm going to go off and have a good time so that's who we are so move my lips why because I want to pray you and what's the greatest praise from you please give me wisdom give me knowledge give me healing give me this the greatest praise to hem is I need you okay just come with me on another DeTour for one more minute we're going to come back I promise I promise we just read last week's paraa EMB braci the snake seduces seduces they all make a mistake none of them take responsibility K doesn't punish them when they make the mistake when does he punish them points out when does Hashem punish them when he says a hey where are you Adam what's going on remember when I told you you have a all you can eat schorg but just like one item on it don't touch and you went boom right to that one item anything going on anything you want to let me know about anything you want to inform me of and Adam says wasn't my fault was her fault anything going on anything you want to let me know about anything what's happening wasn't my fault was a snake's fault so that's when Hashem punishes why say hasem can tolerate we make mistakes he designed us he programmed us he knows we're not perfect and he knows we will make mistakes mistakes you know what he can't tolerate when we don't take ownership for the mistakes when we don't own up what in that whole essay talks about is taking AAS we have to take AAS we have to take a extreme ownership we spoke about this last shabas before pesak last year taking extreme ownership in our lives no was I don't remember when it was extreme ownership so anyway they get expelled each of them is punished K's punishment is contractions Adam's punishment is he's got to go to work and what's the snake's punishment craw it crawls around on its belly and has what does it eat from the dust of the earth so ask this is a punishment he says to the snake your food is the dust of the earth and the snake says unbelievable I have in all you can eat paay the rest of my life there is no limit to the dust of the Earth how is that a punishment how is that a punishment says you know what a punishment it is because when a parent says to a child here's the bank account here's the money I don't want to hear from you again you're good to go you have everything you need the punishment was the very fact that we have deficiencies and needs is the foundation of the relationship we have with Hashem when we feel that we have everything we struggle to connect with him it's when we feel that there's something lacking and there's something that we need and we turn to him and it doesn't have to mean that we're missing money there are people I've used the quote qu recently before and I love this quote there are people who are so poor that NE all they have is money there's one form of being poor is needing money but there are people who have a lot of money who don't have health who don't have Nas who are struggling in their relationships their self-esteem their happiness anxiety there's many many many forms of being poor and many many many ways that you can be rich so when a person feels I'm missing something and I need Hashem I need him help I want to heal this relationship I'm concerned about my child I care about the Israeli Palestinian confli what anti-growth of anti-Semitism I'm worried about the future of of American po whatever it is that you want to D in for when you feel there's something that you need that is the basis of the relationship with hm when you feel I'm good I look at my life and I've got everything so on the one hand it's very good quality to feel I'm happy with what I have but on the other hand to connect with Hashem you have to have that have that sense of a deficiency so says the the punishment was the snake was here's a unlimited Bank account leave me alone I don't want to hear from you that's a punishment because it is the very lacking which creates the core of the relationship that's why the records based on G that when you choose a when we choose a a to represent us who are we looking for the wealthiest most handsome most Charming best voice the one who has Allah one who has everything no says you're looking for the person who's struggling who has needs person who who when they DAV boy is that a sincere davening that's coming from a place of great of desperation it's coming from the most authentic genuine place that's who we look for that's who we look for okay so coming back that is the source of oh that was all because we said Make It Rain what's the first half that sentence is another word we use for if is G is the physical then is our hope for the spiritual so make the blow make the make me feel spiritual let me come to the Amun let me get into daving let me get into feeling your presence let me be dancing to your tune to your music I so an amazing bem this morning anything I say here I plan on repeating so I'm telling you that in advance I'm just kind of trying it out here with you the B says the following says you know what AM is like imagine somebody comes into to a room and everybody's moving moving their arms moving their feet gyrating moving with each other everyone in the room is dancing but the person who comes into the room is deaf so they can't hear the music so they don't understand what everybody's moving to they look like a bunch of crazy people because if you can't hear the music the people who are dancing look like they're crazy we went to a s recently there's a new phenomenon where you give out head it's called a silent DJ anyone ever been to a s with this you got to keep up in the anti of what's like the next exciting thing this was never on my bucket list of exciting things but everybody in the room has headphones and most of the kids participate and uh they play different music on different headphones channels there's different channels and it's different music playing on different headphones so first of all if you're an adult and you want to be sitting at your table having a conversation you're not competing with music that's bursting your ear drum but you also the kids anyone who's dancing looks like a weirdo because if you're sitting having a conversation in a quiet room and somebody's dancing they look like a total weirdo and the whole idea of it is that some people are listening to slow music and others are fast music or music at different beats so it's a lot of fun and it's funny that the people look different than you and it's all fun so says the bem you walk into a room and people are all dancing but you can't hear the music they look like weirdest he says that's amuna the people who are living with amuna they're hearing the music and they're dancing through life they're living a different life life is an HD it's a high defition color when you're living black and white it's a different life if you're living with amuna if you see Hashem in every apple and every cup of coffee you see Hashem in the rainbow that was texted to me several times by people this morning that was no that you're not supposed to talk about you saw rainbow but whatever it's you see hasem in if you see Hashem in absolutely everything then you're you're hearing the music and that's why you're dancing with other people and the person who looks at you and says you're a weirdo you say Hey Brother Hey sister you just don't hear the music I'm not weird I'm dancing to music you just don't hear that music this year is an invitation come let's listen to the music together some people need to turn the volume up a little bit some people need to put on the headphones some people need to clear their ears out from the wax that's blocking them from hearing the music we have all kinds of relationships with the amuna but that's we're hearing we're hearing the music of amuna so we can do that dance together so back to mash and then we'll get to the text what time is it oi so back to Mas why is spirituality and why is the called R so I mentioned this past somebody shared with me my buddy send her gab but Shar this V with me why is it called because wind is invisible how do you know it's there because you feel it blowing because you see a tree and it's rustling and when you see the branch or the leaves of the tree that they're rustling you know that there's wind and the Nish is invisible you can't see it you can't capture it you can't touch it the Nish is invisible but how do you know it's there because you feel its impact spirituality this is the same as the B it's invisible if someone says can you bottle some spirituality for me you're going have to tr can I give you a container you'll bring back some spirituality for me right could sell it for a lot of money at Town Center mall we'll bring back bottles of spirituality from the Holy Land you can't bottle R spirituality it's not tangible it doesn't fit in a box it's invisible but like the wind you can feel its impact and just like when you look at the tree and it's rustling you know it's windy if you look outside because you want to know what the weather is and you see the branch you see the wind you know that it's windy because the tree is moving you can't see the wind the wind's invisible but you see the tree so to when you look out and you see the people who are dancing you know they're hearing the music when you see the tree that's moving you know there's wind thereus that's why Rus spirituality is called Ru that's why the is called okay let's get to our text a little bit now so if if one of the elements is R is wind how does that Express itself if fire expressed itself in arrogance and anger wind expresses itself through speech the element of wind inside of us our wind pipe our wind that's how we produce sound That's The Power of speech is through that capacity of wind soar gossip and um speaking negatively and distorting the truth those all come from a virus a corruption in the element of wind that's in inside us the tells us that forem there are four groups of people that there's not enough room for God and that person in the world and one of them are the people who gossip so you remember last time we had like four or five different interpretations by people in the sheer I didn't have any good ideas but you had the most amazing ideas about why is it that if you gossip you are denying God I had one suggestion that theim and everybody everyone is an expression of God if you gossip about them you are denying the godliness in them so that a person who's but you remember there were many other beautiful ones go back and relisten to the last year because there were beautiful beautiful ideas that came out said the person who gossip says you know the power of speech that I was given it's mine I own it I could use it how I want if I want to speak negatively if I want to gossip if I want to degrade if I want togate if I want to marginalize if I want to call a name it's my power of speech I could use it however I want he thinks he's in charge of his power of speechs our Limbs and our organs and the faculties that we have they're not ours to choose how to use they're un loan from God we are stewards and when we use it in his interest we give him a return on that gift that he allows us to keep it and if we violate it God forbid he takes it away Emanuel feldin Stark in his book Tales out of sh he was a rabbi in in Atlanta he writes the most difficult question he ever received today it's different but there was a woman who had cancer of the larynx who was having her voice box removed and she asked him before the schedule the surgery was scheduled what are the last words that I should say I won't be able to speak after it's removed I'll have one last chance to speak what should they be should it be AA should it be I love you to my family should it be what should the last words I say imagine we knew that we had last words not because we were leaving this world we going to remain in this world but we'd lose our power of speech today we have all kinds of thank God the gift of progress and Advance we have ways mechanisms to get around it now you hold up something to your throat and based on the vibrations it produces a sound we had a great sha from BRS West about it we had a bar mitzvah BRS West where the father had this issue and only was able to speak by holding this up and the question is can a person receive an Aliyah to the Torah if you're not really hearing their real voice when they make the bra for the Aliyah it's only coming through the electronic mechanism that's here feeling the vibration so number one can they get Alia to the Torah is that a real you're hearing number two can they use it on chabas so I asked the sh to who wrote a CH about this sh very interesting soel says toughest question you ever received in his Rabin it was that question what would be the words you say what would be the last words that you could say if you could only speak one more time to whom would you say them when would you say them what would they be what would they try to communicate or Express so that's what says if you're m if you gossip you are denying God why because God gave you those lips he gave you that voice box and he said I'm giving you a power of speech and that power of speech is what distinguishes us over the animal it's what distinguishes us over the animal marish is described as having the power of speech tarum the tarum translates the Aramaic translation of the Torah last week's Pas brous when it says that God breathed life into Adam brought him to life and he made him says the tum it means he gave him the power of speech the animal barks and meows and Grunts and maybe speaks in a very low unsophisticated way but sophisticated speech the capacity to really communicate deeply and profoundly was only first given and gifted to man now by the way why was it given to man to whom was he with whom was he supposed to use it when Adam was first given the power of speech who was he speaking to kava wasn't there yet if so believe me she would have been doing the speaking okay dangerous I understand sorry sorry dangerous crowd okay relax everybody relax you know it's true but relax I live in a house full of women trust me I get a word in like every other week every other week anyway that's why I talk so much at sh cuz there I have an audience that will let me say something so Adam was given the power of speech Adam was given the power of speech with whom was he supposed to use that power of speech didn't exist yet so the commentary say you see what is the primary use the primary purpose the original use of the power of speech to DAV there was someone Adam could speak to there was someone that Adam was given the power of speech to use with and that is Theon Shalom yeah I also happen to use we get it backwards people think oh I have the power of speech so I can talk to the people around me my friends my family at work and life oh I guess I should also Al use it to DAV but you see it's the opposite I was given the power of speech primarily so I talk to hasem oh now that I have this power of speech to talk to Hashem I also have the ability to use it to speak to my family my friends at work and in life but the original use of the power of speech was given why to talk to ashem because you see in the very definition of his creation we were given the ability to speak when why to speak to Hashem even before we were given the ability to use it to speak to people around us it says you're a kofer you are a heretic you're denying Hashem if you use that power of speech wrongly negatively why because it's not yours it's unnan from God it's unnown from God ask people with laryngitis we had a good friend who a few years ago had a pup on his voice and he wasn't able to speak he had to go like two months without speaking he walked around with an iPad he would write out everything and then it would say it to you you know what a pain that was both for The Listener and for him so ask someone with laryngitis or the inability to speak and we understand what a gift it is is that we take for granted but it's not our gift it's to be used only to further his cause his vision to build to construct to uplift to to create to give and so on not negatively oh right RAB harit out in California with ALS who's only able to communicate by moving his eyes and typing on a keyboard and uses that to write a blog every week a young he was vibrant and alive and such a source of light and inspiration his wife spoke here a couple years ago an amazing amazing couple so he can only speak painstakingly moving his eyes on a on a keyboard thank God he has that otherwise he'd be locked in a body the only thing left that he can move of his whole body are his eyes that's all that's left and he uses it great example great example second paragraph now we're ready to start that's where we're up to thank you for coming along on this ride I really do appreciate it was the principal tal of the the there is nothing that we do say or think that is lost on God God has access to our innermost thoughts God is recording everything we say and God is it's a know what is above you the ear hears everything we're saying is being recorded So for generations for thousands of years people were like ah I don't know exactly what that means there's an eye that sees there's an ear that hears but we know exactly what it means because those of you who have your phone in your pocketbook or on the table or anywhere near you you need to know that apple or or AT&T whoever sees and hears everything that you're saying and doing we know that we know that have you ever been talking to somebody about something and then you go on your phone and next thing you know there's an ad for the thing that you were talking about and you say what a coincidence and that's what they're banking on that's exactly what they're banking on is that you're going to say what a coincidence but there's absolutely no coincidence it's because they're listening whether it's algorithms listening or actual people call centers that it's been shown that they were listening that's why people who are very uh whatever they put a little piece of tape over the camera on their laptop on their phone and their everything they turn off their devices if you want privacy get away from your technology so we're living in a time maybe the first time that we can really understand what this means I inas there's an eye that sees there an ear that hears you can't walk outside without a satellite picking up your image you can't be anywhere if there's technology nearby where there's not a camera or a device that's recording that's listening that's hearing and so on and so forth I I mentioned an adress a few years ago there was um what's Amazon Echo no what's the Alexa Alexa was there was an issue where the Alexa recorded a conversation between a couple and by accident sent the conversation to the person were talking about cuz in Alexa you could say send an email so and so so by mention the name it thought it said email so and so but they were really gossiping about so and so and had sent the conversation about the people they were talking about oen you're gossiping there's an eye that sees there's an ear that hears everything's being recorded everything could be shared so the Reon the almighty if we now see the physical manifestation of that right and and the of course always was doing that and he adds based on this p in Amos says Raa that when a person comes upstairs and they have to confront our creator the secret is that Hashem will have recorded everything that we said so the things that we said that we want to forget Hashem doesn't forget anything we'll get the transcript we'll get the transcript of everything everything how judgmental we were the gossip the lack of giving the benefit of the doubt now we can the good news is we can edit the transcript you can Purge it from the record it's a little something called chuva when you feel bad about what you did and you commit not to do it again and you don't repeat it we have the ability to edit the transcript we can edit the recording we can Ed the video that's the good news the bad news is if you don't edit it if you get to edit it you don't edit it sincerely you don't do a good job editing it's going to be a very uncomfortable time with your mother-in-law in the world to come so not not my not my mother-in-law not my mother-in-law I'd be proud for her to hear my recording but you're mother-in-law so that's the Ros of the Milsa that is the secret that is the secret that everything we're saying and everything we're thinking everything we're feeling is going to be recorded on the next page it's not just that we're going to see the transcript upstairs you know what we're going to see we're going to see the impact that our words have that we have no access to in this world so we're going to see that you know we once said something negative about something to someone else who then was asked about a sh by someone else and really didn't know anything but just relied on our gossip and said something negative and that called off that sh and that person was single for 10 more years all because you flippantly over coffee without even knowing anything shared some gossip so in this world we don't know that we don't know about the email that we forwarded or the text that we said or the gossip that we deposited without even thinking about it but in the next world not only do we see the transcript but we see the impact that it had the famous when someone said I spoke gos I feel bad how do I repair and he said bring me a feathered pillow and he ripped a hole in the pillow and he smacked the pillow and the feathers went everywhere and he said collect all the feathers and he said I can't possibly do that and he said exactly that's the Imp of your that was true in the town in a little called Roden that was before you had social media and the internet and a digital footprint that once something is out there it cannot ever be taken back or taken down it is part of the permanent record even if you think you've deleted it or purged it so that's what we see in the world to come is not just what we said but the impact of what we said the damage of what we said the hurt the injury the pain that we that we wrought by what we said or conversely we can see the good that we don't even know that we said you know that you send a text to someone that you're thinking about them or or that you thought of them or you put in a good word or you check in on them we don't begin to know the positive that we create through the little things that we do through the little things that we do we don't begin you know often you do that and someone says you know that message came in just when I needed it you don't know what you did for me you don't know what it meant to me that you were thinking about me we don't begin to understand the positive too so it doesn't just work one way it works both ways the positive impact that we could have and the difference that we can make also with our words we will also get to see that upstairs let's just finish this paragraph said it's worth studying mus your entire life if it empowered you to just refrain from once it's worth spending a lifetime of learning mus if there was one time where you had one really juicy piece of gossip and you found a way to say you know what keeping it to myself keeping it to myself because we can't begin to understand or appreciate or anticipate how much we will suffer and how much suffering we caused by the negative things that we said so back to Amun what does it have to do with Amun because if you have a in hasm and you realize he runs the world he's the one who's in a position to judge not me he's the judge I don't sit in Judgment of others he's the one who judges I don't sit and judge and gossip and negative and the negative impact the damage that we cause the hurt and the pain that we create so if you live with amuna you don't feel that you need to judge others or speak negatively of others so on the one hand the reason amuna so again the whole premise based on is we have an element inside ourselves called wind when that element is corrupted there's a virus in that element it comes out as the misuse and abuse of speech and why does all that happen because we don't have amuna so how do we solve it and cure it how do we heal it by working on an Aruna so every day I try to be mindful you know there's a God let him judge let him judge I'm really angry about that thing and this thing and I want to tell someone about what happened with that person and then you stop yourself by saying you know what all I have responsibility for and only one that I can control is myself I have to work on me the one on the right and the one on the left politically religiously and this and that and the other thing the people around me at work in my family I can't change them so you know my job is not to talk about them it's not to judge them it's not to call them a name I can only work on myself and what gives you the strength to do that is when you have auna when you say it's not my world it's his world and they're not accountable to me they're accountable to him and it's not my plan that will call the shots it's his plan that calls the shots and when I work on that amuna that I'm a small Cog in The Wheel of Life of hm that I'm just one puppet I'm just one he's pulling the strings for all of us if I work on and promote my sense of amuna then I'll have the courage and the strength to not need to gossip about others to not need to sit in Judgment of others to not have an opinion about everyone and everything if I work on a moon I realize you know my faculty and power of speech is supposed to be reinforcing my relationship with him I'm supposed to be using it to give him a return on the investment he gave me of the power of speech to build and to uplift not to knock down and destroy that's a abuse of the gift I was given and when someone abuses a gift you've given them they take it back they stop giving gifts or they take that gift back and I don't want this gift taken away from me I want to be healthy I want the power to be able to speak then we need to all be very careful in how we speak wishing everyone a will continue next week