Part 11

okay good morning Boer to it's great to be back to our weekly dose of amuna and this week we're going to study a piece by the Shalom shomi and it's connected to but as we do every Wednesday the pieces that we study are just broad General attitudes or approaches towards amuna because as we mention every single week the goal is to have a conversation of amuna and to remain mindful and cognizant of amuna because the amuna muscle is one that needs to be worked out other otherwise it atrophies so says the foll this week we should be people of Holiness God says be people of Holiness you should be for me is it says in the understands from the that when we Are Holy we're sacred when we're consecrated that is how we fulfill being Le being for God and where does the med know this from from the extraneous word in the of Lee the verse really should have said be holy what does it mean be holy for me be holy to meeses so the M concludes the extraneous word Lee in the verse the word for me is totally unnecessary if God's mandate if his purpose was to live elevated lives live mindful lives live holy and sacred lives then we should do all of those things for those things what do you mean Lee do them for me El what do you see what it means is when are you for God when are you giving God so to say when you live a life of Kad when you live a life of Holiness through this we can understand what God was saying before he gave us the Torah last week's we read that our mandate our mission as a people is to be what we are to be a nation of priests a kingdom of priests and a holy nation what does it mean to be mean to be a kingdom of priests what does it mean to be a kingdom of priests to summarize what the Jewish people are to be we use the phrase but really we are to be a nation of priests and a holy people what is a nation of priests what's the role of a priest within a people the priest leads the aod the Coen leads the aod the service of God but more than that if you have to describe the role what is the role of the priest be a role model the purpose of the priest is to be a role model is to be a spiritual mentor and teacher is to be spiritual activists the the the priest is supposed to represent the values and the lifestyle of what the religion is supposed to be that's what it means to be a priest so what a priest is to a particular people the Jewish people are to be to the world the same way we have colon him within our people and they lead the aod and they have greater restrictions the col has greater restriction upon them the Great have greater responsibility because of that have greater privileges we honor the the co gets the first the co the Coen you're not allowed toes this is based on the you're not allowed to benefit from a Coen so if you're sitting you can't ask the Coen could you get up and get me a drink Coen has to be treated with a certain deference certain respect there's a whole discussion the commentar yeah well I I'll let you off the hook you're sarty so you take care of your husband anyway but the the um the uh the um the commentaries on the all have a debate it was a compliment absolutely the commentaries on the all have a very interesting analysis where they say can we really prove that our Kim today are do we know that our priests today are really priests the whole world has gotten so uh so confused and mixed up so therefore if you can't prove that you're really a priest are you deserving are you worthy are you entitled to the honor what genetic test there are genetic test but the genetic tests don't prove anything because of the because it could come from the mother not the father the genetic line it could come from inter marriage there's there's isues actually wants to give on the genetic testing but anyway there are certain names which are more names which are more there's more confidence that you're really coing like Rapaport um the Rapaport was a commentary on the but certain names which are more cats cats there are a lot of cats a lot of cats is aren't con they're people a Mas in any case the point is the same role that the Coen plays within the people is the role that we as a people are supposed to play to the nations of the world so here too in this verse you should be a kingdom of priests and a holy people why does it say atemp to Le you should be for me what is God talking about be for me just you should be what do you mean Lee says here too the word Lee is extraneous it's extra it would have been enough to say be a kingdom of priests and a holy people but rather what does it mean be from me you want to be on my team says God you want to be connected to me you want to be serving me you want to be giving Nas to me if you want to be Associated and identified with me you can't ignore the Mandate you can't ignore the mission you can't ignore the way I've designed you as a people you can't ignore my wishes for you my children and then say Oh this is my father and I love him we're so close and we're so tight and meanwhile you're neglecting my lifestyle you're neglecting my values and neglecting everything if you want to be Lee you want to be associated with God you want to express that you have am that you believe I exist you believe I'm involved in your life you have gratitude for what I've given you the blessings that you have then fulfill your mission then live your purpose then be who you're meant to be which is a nation of priests and a holy people who perish what does it mean to be a nation of priests shim what does that mean it means being of service like the word sh national service it means the same way the priests serve in the temple so too we are to serve in the world we are to be role models of kindness and and compassion we are supposed to teach what it means to live an ethical and a moral life what it means to have Purity and innocence and modesty we're supposed to teach values we are supposed to be of service to others to create God CH us as a result of our great great grandfather choosing him and he told us I want you to be the Honor Society whenever I meet with potential converts conversion candidates I give them the same Spiel I say the following I say you know people think Judaism is an elitist religion that we think we're better than other people but it's entirely wrong it's not true at all our great grandfather God created a world I'll give you the two-minute version of the history of the world God created a world and the med tell us that he originally intended on sharing his Torah with the entire world the Torah is the blueprint of creation the Torah is the prescription how to relate to time how to relate to physical pleasure how to relate to food how to relate to people it's the prescription for the world and God intended on sharing his Tor in fact with the entire world but what happened the world proved entirely unworthy what are the first three stories of the Torah post ganen it's the story of Ken killing he the D the doraa if killing heav over jealousy and you have the story of the flood which is the result of or the the story of the uh the flood which is the result of giving it Temptation T and you have the story of the tower M which is shame we're going to make a name we're going to climb to the heavens and God says you know what not so fast so um what are these three stories Kina jealousy TAA lust and covod honor and the missionary imp concludes these three character traits remove you from the world so God says what I'm going to give a Torah to people who live this they're missing the point of life they're self-centered egocentric narcissist pleasure seeking they totally missed the point of life I'm going to give them my Torah forget about it I'm holding my Torah I'm keeping my Torah from me and all of a sudden he notices Abraham AB it's all right it's all right he notices ab and ab is categorically different than everyone else everyone else only cares about themselves all abam cares about is everybody else everybody else is bowing down to Idols abam discovers monotheism or he actually promotes ethical monotheism so God says AB you get it you've chosen what I always imagined from the world and because of that I'm choosing you in return and I'm going to make you and your children after you the model for the world to learn from so I always tell conversion candidates the Jewish people are like the Honor Society of the world in the Honor Society if you make good grades and you have good character then you have certain privileges of being in the Honor Society and you have certain responsibilities you have greater obligations and responsibilities to be in the Honor Society what is the Honor Society a teacher has a classroom with kids they're throwing spitballs they're talking to one another they're ignoring the teacher and there's the one little kid sitting next to the desk who's hanging on the teacher's every word who just wants to listen and learn so the teacher says you know what you're the Honor Society and anyone can join the Honor Society if you make the grade and you keep up the proper behavior anyone can join the Honor Society you can have the privilege of being part of it you just have to agree and live up to the terms of it meet the criteria and live up to the expectations of it anyone can join the Jewish people we're not intrinsically better than anyone else anyone's welcome to join the Jewish people you just have to keep up the grade you just have to keep up the lifestyle and the behavior you can't join the Honor Society because you think it's going to get you a better job or you think it's going to get you a better husband or wife or you think is going to bring you some kind of esteem you could join the Honor Society of the Jewish people if you keep the mitus If You observe the and if you live the lifestyle anyone can join we're not any better than anyone else that is so we didn't we're not the chosen people were the choosing people AB chose God and God reciprocated and chose AB in return what were the three things L jealousy lost jealousy and honor Kina Tava and cavod honor the generation of the tower said we're going to make a name for ourselves n shame will build a tower that gets up to the heaven but honor in a negative sense honor the pursuit of Honor the pursuit of honor the pursuit of Honor right not honor like honorable but honor like the pursuit of Honor so actually that's what our rabbis looked at the first three stories of the Tor and said wow look at the result of pursuing jealousy lust and seeking honor what's the result God destroys the world and he withholds his Torah so what do you see they remove you from the world and what do they see then what are the next three stories in the Torah and yob and what are those three stories Torah which are so they say three things remove you from the world those are the first three stories when god holds back to Torah three things upon which the world rests Torah Torah observance and study aod the service of hem and doing those are three pillars upon which the world rests where the rabbis know that that three things removing from the world and three things are the foundation of the world it's very simple how they knew it they opened the they studied the first stories of Torah and they understood it so coming back here the says that what does it mean to be part of a kingdom of priests it means that we are chosen we chose God he reciprocated and chose us we are to be an exalted and elevated people we are not to be connected with lowly degraded decadent immoral corrupt compromised Behavior we are to be a different people we are to be a holy people throughout the Torah you see that once we are born as a nation God over and over and over again says you are to be distinguished Jew walks down the street people should say wow look how Regal look how modest look how humble look how dignified look how honorable look how ethical anyone who interacts with a Jew in business should say I love working with Jews observant Jews they are the epitome of honesty and integrity of dignity we should they should interact and watch the way we eat look at observant Jews they should be healthy and exercise and thin and say wow Jews understand how you're supposed to connect to food look at Jews and say look at their relationships look at their parenting look at their kindness look at their that's the way did I tell you the story I don't remember where I told the story I heard um Dr pelovitz talked about a a seminar that he went to with the psychologist who deal with abuse and a woman got up and told her story and she shared how she was a non-jewish woman she was non-jewish and she was abused as a child herself and she suppressed all the trauma of that abuse she never dealt with it and she just lived her life and uh and she married and and things were not going well in her marriage her own husband was was neglectful uh of her the children anyway for whatever reason she found herself driving on a Sunday morning through te Neck New Jersey of all places for whatever reason and she saw a pizza store she was hungry stopped for lunch she went to the pizza store and on a Sunday morning in a Jewish Community you can often find in a pizza store fathers with their children right sometimes it's mom's day off or the father's off from work so he takes the kids out or it's after the little the sports leagues so she's in this pizza store and she's totally stunned by seeing these fathers who she concludes are so attentive to their children in this pizza store like a pizza store of dad spending time with their kids attentively and lovingly and even though her entire life she had suppressed the trauma of being abused for some reason this was her trigger an abuse there's something called the trigger and this was her trigger that she was all of a sudden flooded with negative emotion and the trauma of what she did not have and that she had the opposite of the love that she was seeing in this pizza store so anyway she goes and she undergos major counseling to deal with this trauma and part of her therapy is she wants to figure out what's what's special about this pizza store but she had no idea was kosher she just happened to go driving through a Jewish community and stopped in the pizza store and in her research she finds out that this is a kosher pizza store an observant community and most of the people there are Jewish and fast forward she converts to Judaism she gets a PhD and she becomes an expert in child abuse and and Trauma now but there was reason does that mean right so just to clarify does that mean every time you stop at a Jewish pizza store you're going to walk away with the best impression right I I know I know well cleaned up under the I know well that the real Miracle of that story is that the right people were in the right pizza store the children were behaving in the right way and the dads whatever like so that's the real Miracle of that story is that everything was right but the point is what does it mean to be a what does it mean that God chose us and gave us this Torah what does it mean to be and this is what the is driving at what does it mean to be Lee to be for God God to be on his team to be living with amuna is to be living the mindful heightened life that the the dignified Royal Regal ethical elevated exalted life that people look at and point to and say wow I want that I want to be that kind of mom I want to be that kind of dad I want to have that kind of marriage I want to be healthy I want to be disciplined I want to be that's I want to be honest I want to be that's spiritual I want to be um faithful I want to be that's what we are supposed to that's our mandate that's our mission yes that's like the CL super story where the kids are screaming I want this that and the other thing the parents does not goer Char stops the Tantrum everybody wants to know why right yeah exactly that's that's right that that power too exactly so that's what it means Lee that's what it means to be for hasem many times we find that God says for you to be for me is not just that you fil fish or like kanaka candles yeah you know you're culturally Jewish to be for me is to live a life of sanctity and Holiness it means that while the rest of the world is pressed and speaks in a pressed way and tells dirty jokes and uses inappropriate language and forwards inappropriate emails that you speak in a dignified Royal Way means while the rest of the world dresses or the rest of the world practices the rest of the world behaves in ways that are people look at the Jews and see that there's Holiness that there's sanctity still the last Bash of Holiness and sanctity in this morally depraved world over and over and over again you see when there's a reference to our being a people when there's a reference to our character and our definition as a nation you always see it associated with the word kadha to be holy this notion of being holy is not about specific mitz the way you're holy is not by having manyas in shabas the way you're holy is not by having lots ofas inas the way you're holy is not by having lots of lots of stringencies in a specific the way you're holy is to sanctify yourself even in that which is permissible to you you know the ran is a famous comment that K in the beginning of thean says that it means this is an this is a warning not to be a man what's a how do we use the word the term man a man is a low life you could be a low life b t what does it mean a low life b t like you sit on the couch all day drinking beer watching reality TV have you violated a specific in in you haven't violated specific you're you've not violated anything wrong but you're living the life of a low life like you're you're you're that's not a Sanctified exalted Mission driven light onto the nation's life that's not what we're meant to be who we're meant to be so that's what kosim is not a stringency and a and the Mana it's a lifestyle it's an attitude it's a mentality to be holy is to draw attention to Holiness right what do we talk about that our mission our mandate we gave a shabash about it when was that last year two years ago of Kos of of Kes hasem that our mission is to create KES hasem in all that we do that's the campaign that we need we have lashara campaigns and we have the chabas campaign and we have the this campaign what I was trying to do with that shabas Russia was launch a a KES hasem campaign for a while I was posting on Facebook and Twitter linking to stories of Jews who made a great KES Hashem right this Reit is in Ireland on his way to Israel and he buys meals for 400 American soldiers because he sees paper bags that's a kidish hasem every story and every secular newspaper on CNN and fox show a guy in a yamaka an orthodox Jew is's buying 400 meals for American soldiers that's Kos to you that's that's Kem to sanctify God's name that's who we are not to be Noor you're in the middle of a long flight you're exhausted so you'll be a Noel Bor in the corner of the airport yes I think even more you know dangerous is are people who are so mtic in every part of obvious they're not nice to people absolutely they don't talk to that's exactly what he going to get to exactly no no you're exactly right you're exactly right Torah warns us many times and that's exactly now he's explaining the P sanctity living a life of Kusa is a prerequisite it's a condition to a relationship with when are you for as you when are you in fact for me you know when are you giving God Nas when are you on God's team when are you identified and associated with God when you are living the life that he meant for us to live for a Jew living this life is a prerequisite to being a Jew it's the foundation of being a Jew we found when it comes to many they end with the words why should you be holy God says cuz I'm holy or because I am the Lord your God so in other words we find the command the mandate to be holy often concluding with the words why should you be holy cuz I'm holy or why should you be holy because I'm the Lord your God you see it says because I'm the Lord you should be holy and be holy because I am Holy you always find God saying you should be holy because I'm holy because I'm God this seems to be the that our Holiness somehow is an extension of or draws from God's holiness and he says this we can understand this based on what it says what is the purpose of Torah what is the purpose of living this life is to cling to God you know what the the essence of mitzvos is the 613 Mitzvah are 613 opportunities to cling to God to connect to God to be with God what does that mean what is the greatest form of flattery to imitate imitation so what is T mitos essentially it's imitating God God is ethical God is disciplined God has self-control God is elevated God is exalted God is dignified God is honest God has Integrity all the 613 mitzil are opportunities to imitate and to emulate God which is the greatest form of flattery which leaves you feeling most connected and most closest to God and that's why each time it says be holy because I am Holy what God is saying is you want to feel close to me imitate me emulate me be like me I find myself saying this my children all the time you know you you say you you say no yeah you say you love me you say you're committed to me so embrace the values that I'm telling you I hold most dear be part of the life that we say is the most important our job is to inspire our job is to motivate but you know ABI Weiss has this famous story of his father uh who was um coming into New York and needed him to pick him up from the airport and he said you know ABA I love you you mean the world to me but I just I can't busy can't come to the airport and he says okay but I I really need the ride I need somebody to get me ABA I can't tell you how much I love you you're my ABA you mean everything I love you more than anything a person's son couldn't have more love for a father if I would give anything in the world I love you so much I just can't do it and this went on and on and on until his father finally said to him AI love me less and pick me up from the airport right so so what what is the essence of that story love me less and pick me up from the airport is that like don't tell me how much you love me what matters to me show me actions speak a lot louder than words so you know if if your children love you it doesn't mean in this world of autonomy and children have a right to discover who they want to be and why do they have to be exactly like you because you these are your values why does that mean they have to be their values and you're depriving them of their individuality and blah blah blah blah blah all this stuff that our parents and grandparents never had to deal with so despite all of that despite maybe they did but not nearly as much as we do so despite all that the bottom line is that that Nas that you give parents is to embrace what matters to them that's the greatest Nas that you can give a parent is to come to the conclusion and reach the decision and embrace the choices and live the life and follow the values that that are the most meaningful I'm not saying because a father's a doctor the kid has to be a doctor but I mean that if it matters to me to be you know one of the most meaningful satisfying in our home I try to place a lot of emphasis and I have this from my own parents and and you and I place a lot of emphasis on on honesty on doing what's right as I'm sure we all do so once took the kids this goes back a few years she once took the kids to uh some amusement park or I don't remember what the activity was anyway there was a line and um they were on the line it was going on forever and for whatever reason they left the line they gave up on the ride they did something else and they saw that the person where they were that line they hadn't even reached the front of the line so one of my kid said to okay let's let's go back to our place in the line right we were rightfully there so one of my other daughters said ABA would be very disappointed if we did that that's not that's not the right thing to do ABA would be disappointed if we did that right I heard that oh I probably smiled for a month long that's like the greatest moment of that you say I've been trying to inculcate a value I've been trying to drive home a value and then you find out about a story about your child being in a circumstance where they got it they got it they lived the value so is there a greater Nas is there a greater sense of connection is there a greater sense that that's your child that that's that that's your your continuity that that's your impact your your impression in the world is through that child so the same is true for a k has values he created a world for us to live a certain way and when we Embrace those values and we live those values and we model and we emulate those values nothing could give hasm greater and nothing could make him feel more connected to us so that's why it's a to you Lee you want to be Lee you want to be for me you want to continue what I care about you want to fulfill the prerequisite of our relationship you want to give me then I'm holy you be holy I'm disciplined you be disciplined I'm dignified and moral and ethical and honest you be all of those things too and that's why there's always says the this connection you have a Muna in me you honestly believe I'm here if you love God pick him up from the airport if you love God live the life that he intends for us and every time that you don't live the life every time we don't live the life he intends for us it's actually a moment of it's a moment of denial of Hashem you can't claim to believe in Hashem and then neglect what he wants from you if you really believe in an omnipotent infinite all- knowing all controlling being you would be incapable of neglecting what he wants from you in those moments that we do neglect it's a momentary it's a moment of insanity it's a momentary lapse of judgment it's a it's a moment of of insanity where we just lost our minds and we forgot God exists in that moment because you can't simultaneously feel connected to God and ignore him it's just it's an impossibility so it must be that in the moment of ignoring him you somehow rationalize that you're not really sure he exists it's a moment of of Doubt so the greatest form of flattery is imitation is to emulate AEM and that's why each time hasem says be holy be sacred be mindful he says why should you do those things because I'm that way and if you want to believe if you want to be as he starts out if you want to be if you want to be mine if you want to be connected with me you want to Bear my name then this is the precondition and this is the prerequisite continuing on the bottom paragraph in the right column those who engage in the mystical teachings never stop repeating two verses what are the two verses that are in the dripping off the lips of the really holy people what are the two verses that everywhere they go and every time in their day when they're driving their car or standing in their kitchen or they're at work what verses are they constantly repeating over and over again two verses do what is just and good in the eyes of God and Kosh to you it's like they walk around with two PEX two notes in their pocket they have two alerts buzzing on their phone all day one alert is do what is right and good in the eyes of God and the other is to you what does this mean what does it mean that we have a tradition that the holy mystical ones walk around with these two teachings these two verses constantly in their minds after all 63 are given in the Torah these two verses are given this is my favorite Insight one of my favorite insights you know you can't legislate you can't regulate everything the Torah can't imagine every single possibility that could possibly come up in life the Torah couldn't imagine it so you could tell us general rules that regulate Behavior don't steal don't have adultery don't murder eat this don't eat that here are the 39 categories of shabas but every single possibility and and combination in life Torah could never possibly have legislated so what happens after giving the 613 details now the Torah comes along and gives a general overview and what's the general overview number one it means when you're about to confront having to make a decision and you look in and it doesn't say clearly anywhere there whether it's right or wrong what should you do at that point in that dilemma ask yourself the following simple question what would God want me to do you know the Christians stole that from us and they ask somebody else but we have what would God want me to do what's Yash vov I once wrote a whole article about this I picked a fight with a prominent website that likes to promote deals and included in promoting deals he likes to provote when when websites may have a glitch and they make a mistake and he'll say quickly so they just had this uh this just happened three weeks ago just happened 3 weeks ago that Target had an error on their website and you were able to buy a $15 gift certificate for $10 so he quickly promoted it and everybody was constantly looked at the comments yeah I bought 700 of them I bought a th I bought 15 of them I bought and so I once wrote an article and I just said you know can cuz and this individual like likes to defend it and prove through and through sources that you know it's not entirely wrong it's not wrong at all you can prove that it's right so I just wrote an article and I said does it stand up to the test of what would God want me to do would God want me to take advantage right if you own Target your family own Target would you want other people doing this to you this taking advantage of a mistake of a computer error the airlines there's a computer error error of an airline or of a store or of a franchise or of whatever if you owned it or you were an investor in it or was your brother's store would you want people taking advantage what do you think God Wants You promotes it puet promotes it like if you if something is wrong or not labeled they you get for free for example you know they it's like a their system so if they promote that because it's a check in their system they're happy about it that's fine I'm saying I'm not understand I understand I understand but I'm just I'm giving that as an example of what V says is would God would God want you to do that right now you know there there are decisions we make every single day that you can't find the answer in of exactly what to do so those are the moments to stop and say to yourself what does God want me to do what would give God what would give God pride in me in this moment right you see God in your mind's in your mind's eye so that's the first verse and that's in my interpersonal relationships I should ask myself what would God want me to do you should go above and beyond even things that are not explicit even teachings that are not explicit want to go above and beyond so the first teaching that the holy people walk around with is to always ask themselves in every interpersonal reaction in a business setting and in life what would God want me to do what's the right thing to do now she's Kadesh and the second teaching is to walk around say the second thing is between man and God you know are distinguished guest that we had this past shabas one of the greatest rabbis of Our Generation who literally knows sh by heart literally and and he's a brilliant mine you know me to see him on the entire encyclopedia about like 10 years old I walked around with him on Sunday afternoon I took him he loves animals when he was a young child he wanted to be a zoologist so we went to go see animals so he was reciting all kinds of random facts said did you know that there are only four snakes in North America that are poisonous so brilliant in Torah and non Torah so on shabas morning he coined an amazing expression those of you who are there he said that Judaism obligates us to live a life of passion and compassion passion and compassion Judaism is about passion between man and God and compassion between man and man it's a beautiful expression a great expression and that's exactly what the SL RAB is saying is that the the the holy Society they walk around with two alerts buzzing on their phone with two notes in their pockets one says live life between man and man always ask yourself what's the right thing do the right thing do the just thing and the other is K you between man and God be holy be modest be exalted live a life of mindfulness a Jew who wants to climb to a high level in their service of hem you believe in God you feel God's involved in your life you're grateful to God for the blessings that you have you want to cling with and stick to God then the way to do that is right just like as a parent you say to your child you want to be like me you want to be mine you want to be on my team then be like me then then then cherish my values then live our lives then then live the life that that that I've tried to teach you is the valuable life so the same thing with the Mna says in that anyone in whom there is the people have trust and love then God can trust in love but anybody who anybody who who is not I don't even know how to translate these Expressions how do you translate somebody who's Pleasant with people who's beloved by people if if you want God to love you then be beloved by his children and if his children can't stand you then there's an excellent chance he's not going to love you you right I say this all the time also if you want me to love you you better be kind to my children if you're cruel to my children I don't care what you do for me you're out you're on the outs if you're unkind if you're obnoxious if you're cruel if you've done something hurtful to my child there's nothing in the world that no kindness in the world you could do for me which is going to make me like you at all and on the other hand even if you're not entirely kind to me the way I wish you would be but you're very kind to to my children you're on the end and the same is true with Theon the way we treat his children is the prerequisite to his being open to a relationship with him because the other human beings that we associate with they're God's children they're God's other children you know we we uman Haro one spoke in our and he said I think that when mashiah comes he's going to come to BRS first really said and he explained why it was a great Shas morning said wouldn't have it on tape but he explained why he said you know if if you have 10 children and nine of your 10 children each have one other child that they're not talking to whose home they won't go to they're friendly with most of the other children but they have one child that they won't go to and there's the 10th child who's close with all the other siblings who goes to all their homes and they all come to his home whose home as a parent are you going to love to spend the most time in the child whose home is open to all the other children so that's what he said B on synagogue are diversity in the mini and you know many other communities these are all separate shs they're different homes they can't live in the same house and they don't go to each other's homes and there's the I go to the don't go to the would never step foot in he says a home where all of God's children can feel comfortable Bel that's where God that's where mashiach is going to come first so that's what it says if the prerequisite the prerequisite to God being open to a relationship with you is the children loving you now you'd say what does one thing have to do with the other so what if I'm not honest in business so what if I'm not kind and I don't say good chabas so what if I this that and the other but I makeas and I'm the most and I Shuckle better than anyone in the entire what is one thing I have to do with the other a God loves only the person who's kind to his children what it means is means you're honest in business you hold the door po you say good shabas to everyone especially with the people not like you you're kind and you're loving and you're compassionate and you're good and you have that reputation and you make it means that we can't separate the two things it's not that I have my interpersonal life and then I have my relationship with God it's through the interpersonal relationship that I get close to God it's by following his value system it's by living an exalted life it's by caring about my fellow man that is the mechanism that is the means through which I end up with the result of being D how do I cling to hem how do I feel close to him through my relationship with people and living a exalted holy Sanctified life and that's what the always ask yourself five million times every single day is this what God would want me to do and am I achieving a level of kadha if somebody looked at my life what I watch what I read how I speak what I email how I dress how I conduct myself in business and in life if someone looked at me would they say they live a life of kados of kadha they are a person of kadha or would they say nowar the pr and they're they B they they uh try to um cut corners and they this and they that they're unkind they're insensitive they're neglectful they're they're self-centered are we living a life of the combination of these two things and there's a lot more he has here but uh we'll have to end here but this is coming full circle this is what he means why the extra word le it should just say why does it say and the answer is you want to be on God's team you want to be playing for God you want to Bear God's logo God's endorsement and God to be your sponsor then to be Lee is to live a life of mindfulness between man and man and between man and God passion and compassion