Parsha Perspectives for Today (Vayikra, 5783) - Picking Up Hashem's Signal

um good morning Booker so welcome back to partial perspectives for today this morning uh partial class is generously spawn to the series is sponsored by a Becca Navi katsa family in memory of David Grossman ilishments this morning sheer as many co-sponsors as well to whom we're all so grateful hello Schuster memory of Jacob would have loved and argued with Rabbi Goldberg's Torah insights every week it's true he would have I knew him and Rabbi Richard and Lewis biller in memory of their beloved mothers Ethel Raph itabas tomorrow thank you so much by Sharon Wenger and Jonathan Wenger in loving memory of the dear husband and father Bruce Wenger Dove Ari Ben y Israel on his seventh year at site by Maryland Jeremy Strauss my dear friends in memory of the dear friend Bruce Wagner's wheelchair was yesterday Ms lashama having Aaliyah by Brenda goldbrenner in memory of her father Moshe benavram on his 20th year and finally for a happy occasion by the Lynn family who sponsored in honor of their 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the Torah safer page 544 in the art girl Stone God called he summoned Moshe from the omoid saying speak to the Jewish people the America when an individual offers when they bring a carbon to Hashem here are the details here are the rules here are the laws my new copy of oatsar plus Authority did not come yet so I cannot share any insights from it but I did get another safer good uh friend Yuri gross gratitude for getting me the set it's incredible incredible set of swarm called imro's tahoros by the rachman and it are tremendous tremendous inside its beautiful insights into the parisha and he starts off listen carefully it's a beautiful beautiful Torah he says the following he's quoting for the morinima of Menachem of Chernobyl the first of the Chernobyl Dynasty the tourskis moriname says the following the olive zero open a Hamish look inside the earth girl you'll see the olive is small we've studied this many many times but every year we want to revisit it and offer new insight there's a tradition we start teaching children children start learning from safer the olives the small Olive like small school children it's a hint it's an illusion that's where they should begin and in the past we've developed that seems like the worst idea ever in all of human history start teaching children the most monotonous Litany of minutia detailed archaic laws that are not relatable at all today that's if you want to turn off a generation of children start teaching them from safer vayakra so why was that the custom why was that the tradition you left a lesson to previous shiram we spoke about it in the past the all of the era and we spoke about his humility wanting to look like it was random it was chance it was happenstance he left off the olive just like the word that appears with bilam Hashem says no way absolutely not you'll write it the way I dictate it and they compromised they compromised with the small life all this we spoke about in the past but the more I Nam him deals with a different question it says he called tamosha who called it's a very odd way to begin a book it's a very hard way to begin a Parsha vayic he called Moshe my wife sometimes we are incredibly aligned in attuned where two abs of a whole we have a beautiful marriage but she often will start a story or a sentence with so I said to him so she said to me so this is I say I'm not in the middle of your thought process I don't know what we're talking about over here beep beep beep back up the truck and start again what story are you telling me what are we talking about what are we in the middle of discussing so Moshe third book begins and he called to yeah who who called emotion who's he who's he love and then we catch up so he called to Moshe Hashem and God spoke to him only now do we say who's speaking what would have made much more sense to write love God called Moshe and he spoke to him hashem's name seems out of place it shouldn't be Hashem a love it should be Hashem al-mosha it's a great question and he explains that lent will try to summarize and only highlight some parts of it he says loves all the Jewish people he loves each and every one of us he loves all of his creations and he's himself even though he is infinite omnipotent and he is the source of all sometimes he constricts and restricts himself in order to have a presence down here on Earth to dwell near and in each and every one of us in fact that's one of the names that we have for him what are we looking for the end of the book of shmost building a Mishka and was all to give him a Dwelling Place we want contact with the Divine one of the names we have for the Divine is what's the root of the word neighbor like a good neighbor Hashem is there Hashem is always there the the king the president the person in a position of power they're not your neighbor they're not available they're not accessible they're not next door but Hashem wants to be he wants a hashra he wants a dwelling down here adira beta he's a shahraine he's a loving neighbor he's accessible you could borrow a flower from him or a quart of milk or he has a lend lend a listening ear the level of a relationship we should have of course is awe and admiration and a healthy dose of fear we're going to get to that today but also he is a neighbor accessible relatable loving close so Affiliates even the most wicked person has access to and a connection with Hashem Hashem wants to send us a message he wants to make his presence known he wants to invite us to have a relationship is sometimes the person is living life and they don't realize that you know the university Almighty he's calling he's sending signals he's sending messages he's inviting us to have an intimate and affectionate connection but sometimes we're so caught up in our lives we're so caught up in getting to the end of each day that we don't hear the signal we don't hear the message we don't see him only later that something significant happen in our life that rattles us or shakes us makes us examine our lives and now motivates and stimulates us to do chuva to come close to change to transform um only then do we begin to contemplate and look back reflectively retroactively how he was revealing his hand he was sending those signals he was speaking and calling to us all along do we realize he fired that job this didn't work out I was delayed that flight this door closes this door opened this thing happened you know that was all from Hashem he was sending me a message he was sending me a signal he was trying to wake me up he was inviting me to have a connection and that's what it's selling us accustomed listen to this schmack beautiful Insight the hilagamore name of the chernobylone aloof the letter aleph is aloof is the mighty General remember this is an illusion to God who is the Olive the one the only the singular who is the alufo shalodam he is the general he is in charge he is in control of the entire world the aloof chooses to be Zaire Zira he constricts himself he restricts himself he appears small and hidden and behind the scenes sending the signal sometimes before God speaks to us explicitly before we can hear him calling sometimes with a small Olive he's behind the scenes sometimes he's sending a signal but he's small he's hidden he's hiding the owl of the aloof is the era or the last days of Adar Michigan I quote every year from all the rebels dar when we enter not the month of Adar but when the theme that the aloof that the one and only God Dar he lives in us when it enters us you want joy you want happiness stop thinking you control this world you even control your life stop taking credit stop taking responsibility stop taking blame let go and submit and surrender to Hashem when it enters that the one only God lives in us down here where we could see him behind all that's happening then Marvin and you'll be joyous Rashi says that simcha goes from the beginning of Adar until six weeks not just other it's when you enter Adar until pesach so the fact that this week is doesn't mean I guess we can go back to being miserable others owned over enough with the smiles we could walk around for a business in a miserable frowning negative hypocritical Baruch Hashem we can go back to our default no from when we enter other Dr Ashi until all the way until pesach until pesach so again the aleph Adar aloof Daria small Oliveira the aloof appears because every year every Jew no matter how close no matter how far no matter how high no matter how low no matter what position we are in life Hashem is calling us by ikra sometimes it's an olives the era the aloof is the era he appears small where is he is that him what signal is he sending and only when we grab on only when we extend the antenna only when we pick up the signal then Hashem a love then Hashem shows his hand now we know he is the one who's speaking to us so that's what the morning says to read the beginning of the Parsha that answers the question is the very love what is hashem's name and not appear to later because the all of the era the vayakra the calling sometimes seems small and hidden you have to pick up the signal and only when you do everywhere now you hear him calling everywhere now you'll be in conversation and dialogue with him all the time who had a similar concept an idea it's quoted by everybody says each and every day every day you have voice goes out from harsinai and says return return my children and the bashant of wondered in terminology terminology if you could hear the basketball then why don't we hear it and if you're not capable of hearing it what's the point of it going out every day since arsene ayabasco goes out a Heavenly voice goes out and proclaims come home come back return improve repair redeem well if it's capable of hearing it why don't we hear it and if we're incapable of hearing it what's the point of it going out says you know that little Pinto yid that positive spark that good voice inside you the positive urge and Instinct that you say you know what I'm going to make it to minion today you know what I had a good juicy piece of La Shannara I'm gonna keep it to myself I'm going to show discipline and dignity you know what I'm gonna go to the sheer you know what I'm gonna change I'm gonna grow I'm gonna improve I'm gonna be better I'm going to try to be mindful and be patient and not get angry that internal Instinct that little penfully that little voice that says you can and you should and you will and this is your year and we can be better that's the bicycle hey that's Hashem calling hey come home I miss you talk to me come home to me and to this relationship be invested again with me that's the vayikra al-mosha it's an all of the era the aloof the Republic appears small as he calls to us it's very subtle it's very nuanced it's often hidden but he's calling out to us and he says come home and the question is are we are we listening are we picking up are we picking up the signal that is the first idea from the haloga whose name is impossible to pronounce quoting from the Moray name then positive goes on positive base tells us what is the message that God had to speak to the Jewish people the person offers a carbon lashem is from the bakar from the from the zone do you see something strange happening in this do you pick up on do you know to shift notice the shift what shift anyone What's Happening Here is thank you we start out with singular Autumn person singular individual key acrov when you individually bring a carbon and then as the past again you and the plural offer your carbon we're meant to read the Torah thoughtfully we're meant to pick up on these shifts these changes and to wonder why to ask questions what motivates and stimulates our commentaries even though in medieval times their tradition was simply to write the comment they give answers without a question but they were moved by a question and we should be too so why do we start with Russian and we conclude so he explains the following needs to think to themselves I don't live in this world by myself I'm not alone I'm not isolated it's not all about me how can I live with and connect with and feel United and together with others we're all part of one big Matrix we're all part of one big Community we're all part of one big um you know the Ariza said before a Jew begins dominating every morning they should say I accept upon myself to fulfill the Commandment to love a fellow Jew as I love myself you can't get up in Daven for yourself you can't think only about your needs your wants what you're missing the prerequisite the davening your prayer has to be predicated on and see and I look and I notice and I care about the people around me says that's the shot and the shift here is to who wants to come close to God what's the root of the word carbon a Corbin is not some ancient barbaric sacrifice a carbon is the desire the yearning to come close to God and once wrote a whole article because there was a whenever someone says as an orthodox rabbi you should be suspicious but I once wrote a response somebody wrote as an orthodox Rabbi why they're against carbonus and they're vegan and they don't long for the return of carbonos and trying to explain that carbonus won't really return no criticism of vegans or vegetarians or those who for health reasons or other reasons don't eat however we Daven every day for the return of corbanos it's not barbaric it's not something which is archaic or ancient it's symbolism it's beautiful it's what these partios were about to read are all about there's an animal in US and we're a human being but we're also made up of an animal Instinct and animal impulse and when offering that carbon we are essentially saying to ourselves and to Hashem that we're offering the animal inside ourselves God in this incredible battle in this tension in this war between the animal and me the animal anime that wants to eat like an animal and leave my room like a pigsty and wants to be undisciplined and just wants to give in to my urge like an animal I will defeat that animal I will Slaughter that animal I sacrificed that animal to you the fats of indulgences and the wine of luxury and the water of Simplicity and every part of the laws surrounding carbanos are all symbols of the mindfulness the one bringing the carbon wood go through this education this curriculum they would go through in order to improve and to better themselves so the root of the word carbon is it is a desire a longing a yearning Hashem I want to come close to you and and I know that the barrier between me and you is my animal impulse what makes me neglect you and just be disobedient to you what makes me sabotage my own relationship with you is this animal impulsive Instinct so Hashem I'm going to be Sovereign I'm going to reign supreme my Godly soul my Godly Spirit my sense of discipline and dignity will defeat the animal inside me and that's why I'm offering this sacrifice the symbol the statement that I offer that I offer you that's what's going on over here the individual who wants to get close to God between today in lieu of carbonos we have filos I want to stand up I want to dive and I want to pour out my heart I want to confide close his throne in order to do so you first need to connect with the greater Jewish people takoribu as carbon so now reread the positive you the individual want to get close to God first first you have to take you have to connect with the classroom first you have to care about the community first you have to be part of something bigger than yourself the prerequisite to connecting to Hashem is caring about and connecting with and being part of something bigger than you the al-shah kadosh has a different interpretation you know why because every time someone in the community makes a mistake shows poor judgment has a fail we're all collectively responsible if we would have reached out if we would have connected if we would have inspired if we would have offered to learn together if we would have been better role models ourselves if we would have been non-judgmental and loving and warm and embracing if we would have acted differently they wouldn't have felt pushed away or judged they wouldn't have thoughts a little of themselves to act in that way so every individual who makes a mistake everyone really needs to bring a carbon for the fact that it is an indictment of us that we failed as a community to that individual to have been a better role model better teacher better have Russia better host or better friend when an individual has to bring a carbon because they made a hate they made a mistake they came up short they did something wrong Israel the individual is liable they made the mistake but it's an indictment of the community and the greater people because we could have been different it's an enormous insight because it puts enormous responsibility on the community and on the whole we bear responsibility it's a total shift in a paradigm shift of how we should look at outliers in the community not nebuch not with judgment not with a sense of superiority we should look and say that's a reflection on us their kids in the community who are turned off who are disaffected who are making mistakes and poor judgment we need to look in the mirror it's a question we have to take responsibility that's on us and that's why it says the ash of the shift from the singular to the to the plural the degame is the grandson of the bashemtov has another Insight when you bring this carbon where do you bring it from says the pasokar Mina Zone what does that mean from the animals from the cattle or from the foreign awareness the animal is low level yet an animal knows enough to avoid harm an animal knows enough to recoil and withdraw from that which damage that which could injure that which could harm it to run away is a natural animal instinct when it engages an animal that's stronger more dangerous the animal runs away so a human being should learn if we are so much more intelligent so much more sophisticated so much further advanced than an animal and an animal knows how to avoid that which is harmful to it how could we indulge in that which is harmful to us ES says a person who says you know what I want to dedicate my life to the service of Hashem I want to be mindful and aware and focused I want to be thoughtful I want to be invested I want to be connected I want it to be a shahraine my neighbor I want a relationship with Hashem so what's the first thing listen how he reads the pasok this is perspectives for some of you Iran you're in heaven you're on fire for others you've broken out in hives but too bad we could all use a little bit more cressidas in our lives so listen what he says here's how to read the past like you ready if you want to be close to Hashem if you want to be close mikem of yourself Hashem so what's the first thing you have to do Minard stop being a behemo don't live life like a Bahama men rise up transcend stop being a Bahama stop eating everything you see stop saying everything that comes to your mind stop indulging every impulse every desire every tahara that you have Adam you want to be korov to Hashem you have a choice you're going to indulge the animal in you you're going to indulge the basis the lowest form of who you are you're going to be distanced and far from Hashem if you nourish and nurture the salmon will come inside you mikem and tell them what came inside you you're going to transcend and rise up above and be Supreme and Sovereign over the animal in you then you could be jakra because then you could be Scholars are like oxen that Gore one another that battle with one another in the melchanta bakar learn from the bakaraj because the shepherd see yourself as the flock as the sheep and submit and surrender to the shepherd sahamolytically seasonless Posse beautifully if you want to be karaoke you got to give of yourself how learn Minima learn from an animal avoid that which is going to harm you as a member of his flock recognizing he is he is our shepherd He Is Our Shepherd acknowledge and surrender to him okay before we get to the next episode of show altar the current that's a great question we're going to get past the second possible just bear with me it's a lot everything we've said today is new we've analyzed these took him every year since I was born just joking since we started the pastor's year and yet all everything we said this year is new and there's still you could spend the rest of your life on this puzzle but we'll get past it just bear with me the gemara tells us why does he use the word what other word for man do we have ish what else what else gather whatever we have other words many synonyms for man generic man not gendered man everyone relax we have many words for generic man Adam and more ish is what the Torah generally uses going forward yet hear it Adam why other mauritian reminiscent it should immediately word association should take us back to Adam and this is a beautiful soft so for why we've quoted that in the pasta say something amazing that just like Adam offered a carbon and it wasn't from stolen goods so to these carbonos one one has to be vigilant a person has to be scrupulous you cannot bring these carbonos from stolen goods can't bring them from stolen goods the rambam codes based on a mattress quoted by Russia at the beginning of our parasha Adam why Adam just like Adam didn't bring from something stolen you can't bring from selling stolen what's the problem with that learning with that teaching with that derivation what's the problem just like Adam so to you what's a big difference between you and Adam or demoned everything in the world there was no one to steal from he couldn't have stolen if he wanted there was no one nothing to steal from so what do you mean just like Adam didn't bring from stolen so to you can't bring from stolen kind of an analogy is that there was no one and nothing for Adam to have stolen from so to you can't we can steal from so many and there are many answers given to that question says there's a deeper message let our hands be absolved from theft this is the culmination of Yom Kippur the climax of the holiest day of the year at the holiest point of the year niella in the peak of our trilas after 25 hours of fasting and we say let us be absolved of theft there are people who steal from us is one of the three others it's hard to not do each and every day but do we steal that's what's on our mind that's our biggest most egregious mistake you have to make a bracha before you eat why because if you reach in the cabinet the refrigerator of your own home food that you previously paid for and now you're going to eat it without making a bracha it is as if you stole from Hashem stole from Hashem why is neglecting a bracha like stealing why specifically eating there are plenty of other sins you can compare it to so here's what they get rashiva will show all the answers foreign says everything I own in the world is not really mine everything I own everything I ostensibly own everything it appears that I own everything is an illusion that I own it's really hashem's he lends it to me he gives it to me to use in service of him everyone was put down in this world we're here for a reason we're here for a purpose each of us has a mission and all the resources we've been granted and given in every possession that we have is not for our personal pleasure it's all in the service of him now sometimes how do we serve him through our personal pleasure of it eat and drink and enjoy get energy and rest to serve and return to our mission doesn't mean we shouldn't enjoy this world but that's not the ends it's a means towards the ends the service of him so a person who doesn't say abraca before eating because they lack awareness such a person is akin to a thief maybe civilized maybe law abiding may never take someone else's property but they're stealing from Hashem because they think what's in their Pantry or cabinet what's in their refrigerator is theirs but a year the Jew has to know that even what Hashem has given him is not his own we're here in hashem's expense account we're here to carry out our assigned task and our mission in this world we're not trying to accumulate and amass as many things they can be our own I'm not trying to make it on some list of the wealthiest because everything we have really belongs to him and we have to ask ourselves between each usage of it each time we consume it am I using it properly am I using it in the way that gives him nachas am I using it to fulfill the mission he has for me here on Earth when we dive in at the end of the ELA and we say we say let our hands be absolved from theft what we're saying is Hashem everything you gave me in past year all that you granted me all that you gave me from my health and wellness to the material and physical possessions that I have to the income that I earned may I not be guilty of theft may I not have stolen to use it for my own interests rather than use it in the service of you that's what we mean and that's the deeper meaning of the statement here of adamarishan says the gear rosh hashiva so beautiful how can we learn from Adam there was no one on to steal from the answer is there was Adam could have stolen by using what he had not in the service of Hashem even in other maricion especially in Adam origin the first created person needed to say to himself why am I here what's the purpose of life what is my mission how can I use this Garden the gun why am I in it but what am I supposed to use it for and just like Adam asked that question and used it for that purpose so to we the same need to like other mauritian not bring a carbon from something which is stolen that's why we're able to learn one from the other says the Guerra Russia okay moving over perak it's on the page I told you we're going to turn the page 546 wash the innards on its feet in water of the animal the sacrifice and the coin causes it all to go up smoke on them is a fire offering a satisfying Aroma to Hashem a satisfying Aroma to Hashem says Rashi what does that mean a satisfying Aroma to Hashem Tas for the purpose of a carbon Allah uh when you offer the sacrifice it will create a pleasant aroma Hashem enjoys a good smell a good perfume my wife got you can order online some great I don't get royalties there's a plug-in whatever hotel lobby you like the smell of you can order the insert and your house can smell like the Ritz Carlton the Four Seasons if you like the holiday in express whatever you want it to smell like you can smell like and it puts out a stickle Spritz every now and then a little Spritz you walk in you go wow I just checked into a five-star hotel let's get valtic it's an amazing thing get order online and figure out what it's called you know what it's called centify send sponsor next week's partial perspectives sanctify so is that the Republic Hashem says oh your carbon who doesn't like a good barbecue the smell of a good barbecue I have to believe even a vegan likes the smell of a good barbecue I have to believe you know how you know somebody is a vegan don't worry they'll tell you but you have to believe that even a vegan likes the smell of a good barbecue suckers offer your carbon Viola which is entirely consumed on the altar the incredible smell the great smell of the barbecue says Rashi Hashem says oh do my bidding as the service comes to end the aroma Goes Up in Smoke and it pleases Hashem I have spoken and my will has been done says this whole safety is based on this Rashi is based on this is the core of the essence the goal of all that we do is not the smell of the barbecue Hashem enjoys you know what he enjoys that he asked us to do something and we did it he enjoys that we're disciplined and now we have self-control and that we want to make him happy and that we give him Pride that's what he enjoys created man that the greatest happiness we can experience in giving nachas to someone we respect so that when our parents says you give me nachas or our grandparent when our boss are superior at work when the big Rabbi or rabbits and that we admire say you know I'm so proud of you you give me such nachas that fulfillment that satisfaction that Joy it's greater than anything else we can experience in all the management books in all the productivity gurus and experts they'll talk about how important it is to know forget Chapman's five love languages but in motivating employees you need to know what's their love language so to say what motivates them there's countless research that shows in fact many more employees more than preferring a financial bonus if they got acknowledgment from their boss if their boss would say you know you did an excellent job the school dinner was outstanding Jeffrey you did a fantastic job best dinner we've had thank you Tyler the global campaign went without a hitch Thank You Youth Department of Team Department all of I don't want to start leading anybody what you do is fantastic is amazing that was an incredible event thank you for that do you know there's so many studies that show more than I'm not talking about you give them a million dollar bonus more than a Starbucks gift card is somebody stopping and saying thank you that was fantastic that was a job well done and when the source of the entire universe says job well done to us there's no better feeling in the world so Hashem wants us to know you give me nachas you give me nachas is not just something that your baby is not just how we end every Bar Mitzvah speech when we're trying to land the plane is based on this Rashi the pleasant Aroma is Hashem says Ah you give me Nas what does it mean that Hashem needs something from us can Hashem have needs these omnipotent and infinite nor knowing and perfect can he have needs last week's buying the beam a marathon is it over yet it was four hours long the global edition we went four hours from 8 pm to midnight four hours long and we had on countless guests and if you didn't listen you could listen in increments it's divided by chapters go listen to who you want all of our guests were phenomenal but wonder if I why I came honor of why Jacobson came on I asked them this question because I said we go back and forth on it they say Hashem needs us he needs our Mitzvahs Hashem needs us so how could the infinite omnipotent being have needs needs suggests what something's missing something's lacking he needs want I understand need I struggle with now if you say it's anthropomorphism he doesn't need but we ascribe a human attribute so we can relate to it so they say no no he needs actually he needs go back and forth and back and forth and I thought who better to be the final word than of why why so listen to last week's behind the Beamer you can find it on our YouTube channel or any podcast player fast forward writer of YY but essentially he explains much better than I'm about to Hashem chooses to need so yes as the omnipotent infinite being he doesn't need in the sense that we need but he chooses to have created a world he chose to have created a world that he needs our mitzvahs what does that mean go listen and go watch but that is that Pleasant Aroma for Hashem is Hashem smiling down and saying you give me nagas and we need to know he needs our Mitzvahs and every Mitzvah we do when we don't feel like doing it but we don't feel like being careful we don't feel like going the extra mile to prepare for pesach when we don't feel like making that bracha with mindfulness when we don't feel like being disciplined not sharing that lashinara he needs our Mitzvahs in every midsole we do he has a tremendous Hashem that is the whole thesis and a lot more to talk about about that skip to page 5 50. bottom of page 550. any meal offering a carbon Miracle that's offered you cannot prepare it with comets for you shall not cause it to go up and smoke from any leavening can have sore no 11. and you can't have honey what kind of honey are we talking about date honey not be honey we're talking about date honey fruit honey it looks like germano says Superman Superman it was a wonderful safer life he was one of the last living students when I was younger Rabbi Brody and I took teen missions to Israel from our shul groups of teen that we would take to Israel and we went to meet with Tuckerman and he sat and he told our students stories that he experienced to be a link in the chain to have met someone who met tremendous he lived in a little a little I don't even had a hobble in in Gula most modest little apartment humble and modesty name he says the following he says the following the straight path that a person should live is walk the golden mean middle of the road don't be extreme don't be extreme I was very blessed I am very blessed to have a rebbe Maureen he would say in sheer all the time and he lives his life but the motto be normal be normal the Torah wants you to be normal don't do anything extreme be normal next week we're coming out with our next episode of Out of the Shadows and it's on OCD obsessive compulsive disorder and one of the people we interview an expert on OCD should be a harvest of money he's a rabbi and a Doctor Jonathan Schwartz or by Tony Schwartz he says there's a phenomenon called scrupulosity which is OCD expressed in religion so the kid in yeshivo takes 20 minutes to say Shema for 25 minutes to say someone that's right may not be so virtuous and righteous and everyone should praise him there might be a problem and the world has come a long way in rebeim and teachers being trained to be able to identify and step in when you shouldn't be praising and putting on a pedestal but you should be intervening and getting help to someone who might have more of a problem so I asked them how do you know when do you know maybe it's righteousness or maybe it's how do you know when it's something that should be diagnosed so he came back to he wasn't sure with me normal if it's in the realm of normalcy if it's normal behavior normal for that Community normal for that culture then it's healthy but if something is beyond Beyond it's not normal it's an outlier to what's normal it may need help you may need help so a person whether it's cashless and that's OCD in the realm of religion it's called scrupulosity it's an actual psychological diagnosis and it's very dangerous because if a person is not sure if they lock the front door or turned off the oven they wash their hands a million times everyone knows that that's Behavior which perhaps is outlier but when the person is super scrupulous with cautious where it takes an hour to say you say let's honor them at the dinner that person's unbelievable and that's when it gets in the realm of danger and what's the differentiating factor how do you know the important word is normal is it normal what's normal what's normal I want to ask for shakter you know Allah because you're not allowed to walk in front of somebody who is domination you can't become the barrier between them and the almighty you can't distract them you can't walk in front of somebody's gardening so the davening and the main base manager who are you is not a short davening which explains why the other minyanama on campus are so heavily populated the main minion based manager is not a short dovening when Marv and the main base measures would end after a long schwannaster that waited for a shakter other Rashid Shiva there was a guy who used to still Daven forever and looking back now my time in Yeshiva there's no question that there was a scrupulosity issue going on so I asked her what's the night sailor kept going person still domination Monastery it's 10 minutes it's 20 minutes it's 25 minutes after everyone else Davin marav can you walk in front of him and he said if Marv is over he now has the din of a piece of furniture he's no longer a person who's been davening if it's outside the realm of normal what is a normal Monastery I'm not saying people who are a little bit longer a little bit shorter but normal normal a little longer normal a little longer he has the Allah status of a piece of furniture you could walk in front of him that was his answer normal the ramam says the golden mean normal normal it's not our shifter it's not Rabbi Dr Jonathan Schwartz it's the rambam and where'd the ramam get this from he quotes from avram avinu the golden mean the golden mean and there are my writes even further if a person finds himself they've gone to one extreme they need to go to the Other Extreme to what to bring themselves back to the middle to ground themselves to bring themselves back to the middle [Music] with a group of teenagers that maybe is what the Posse is telling us don't live in the two extremes what so whatsoever what's leaven inflated ego arrogance what's dwash sweetness don't live the extremes the golden mean go in the middle find that golden mean walk in that middle don't live in the extremes and that again the carbonos are a curriculum they're not archaic or ancient or old they're outdated they're not barbaric learning safer vayekra is a curriculum the symbolism the deeper meaning and the messaging for us even in this law that seems somewhat bizarre so that sort of Morse sukerman says others look at Soren devash's elements of the eight Sahara don't contaminate the sacrifices the carbonos with these elements so what's hummus it's good timing what's why are we searching and destroying and eliminating and getting rid of all these comets because is inflated it's puffed up it's it's haughty it's kaiva it's superiority it's arrogance it is a Abomination to Hashem anybody who's arrogant who lives a life with hubris so hamit has no place in the Cabanas the whole purpose of the carbon is Cairo if you want to come close to God there's not enough room for you and God if you're going to be arrogant if you're inflated like hamets there's not enough room watch Vash is sweetening external attempt to sweeten it represents pretense that somehow you're trying to soften cover up make everything palatable to you that's also arrogant it's got to be palatable it's got to be sweet you can't deal with it we're going to speak about we finally decided Russia which sorry if you don't live here is only a shop this afternoon no longer broadcast it's for our local community it's who we are it's our personal time together so our topic is murder and I'm going to pre I'm going to suggest a thesis that why are we eating mother on Saturday night a night of Freedom a night of Liberty a Night of Joy a night of Salvation what are you eating something so bitter because I think that freedom is only when you can experience bitterness if you need to sweeten your life like this Vash if you need to make it palatable so that you numb yourself to any pain you escape every pain you deny every pain you're incapable of experiencing and leaning into pain that you're not really free the role of Moro at the Seder is the ability to experience pain which we need to talk about what that means for our community that's still reeling in pain what that means the mental health space what that means in the addiction space we need to have license and give permission to experience pain divash divash is a little preview here for those who can't make it and this is as far as I prepared so far is we're trying to sweeten because we're unwilling to experience pain so you're not allowed to put sweetener into the carbonos the carbonos are the Way You Are the way you are don't try to sweeten don't try to sweeten now if you took them later we're going to get to it momentarily no comets and no honey what do you have to offer every carbon with salt salt we imitate this every day it's a mistake some people think Shabbos when do you dip bread and salt on Shabbos it's a mistake you're supposed to dip your bread and salt every day not just on Shabbos no honey yes salt why salt so the Ishmael is salt represents a healthy dose of awe and fear of Hashem how do you know that he quotes Mela was a promise made to the lower Waters when the upper and the lower Waters were divided salt salt separated in the waters was an act of din salt represents yira or fear of Hashem so we don't bring a carbon with ego with leaven we don't bring a carbon with honey with the need to sweeten everything but we do have to bring it with salt why says the ishpitzer because every Mitzi we do every carbon every gesture and bid and attempt to draw close to Hashem has to be flavored with as much as ashrina as much as Hashem is our neighbor he also we have to have awe and we have to have a sense of respect and fear of him skip right to that possible turn to page 552 call carbon milk all your meal offerings have to be salted with salt lot all of your offering every offering offer with salt so the Israel said why salt represents yira you need to sprinkle Yura into everything you do even when it's Hashem even with everything is so lebedic and wonderful It's gotta always be tempered and moderated by a little sprinkling by the flavor of melach It's gotta have a little a little dose of yirum but the teference to ZL tavaresio gives a different shot Harem is you don't want to serve bland food when a person Cooks they need to put in spice because if you don't put any spices it's going to be Bland tasteless literally foreign beautiful teaching you can't live a flavorless tasteless Yiddish guy every avodas Hashem you do every Mitzvah every yantev every Shabbos every Fila It's gotta be says the teference you've got a flavor of the avoda historicus you've got to bring a a fire an energy a brim and that's what it says Corbin is Corbin is not just the act of the sacrifice carbon is the attempt to be korov so every Mitzvah every part of aravadas Hashem every part of our Yiddish kite you have to make it flavored It's gotta have a flavor It's gotta have a joy It's gotta have a spice about this Hashem darshan it's got to have a flavor it's got to have a life to it it's Gotta Have a Zeus kite It's gotta have a sweetness to it and that is all alluded to an entity in this past every carbon every karov every attempt to come close sprinkle in some spice some flavor bring it to life make a gishmach nobody wants to eat a bland food and nobody wants to live a bland yiddishkai our job our mission our mandate his parents as Educators as teachers is Flavor of the Yiddish kite make it come alive with the bread it's got to be a Yiddish kite that's spicy a Yiddish kite that's flavorful a Yiddish kite with a zip to it with a little something a little spice to it a little spice to it okay what should we end with it's time for one more but we have a lot more than one more okay we'll end with the rest of which says the following posit tells us get Zion bottom pitch 554. an internal decrypt for all your Generations on all your Dwelling Places you're not allowed to in a carbon consume any of the fat or any of the blood no fat and no blood fat we enjoy blood we have no interest in Torah still tells us you can't have blood it tells us something where a pulse body can't have all the more so you have to be vigilant things that we're attracted to cesare Salvation while detailing the laws of the carbon we are instructed about the prohibitions of eating fat and blood the Torah is very concerned about our eating habits Torah says next to nothing about the essentials of prayer but a lot of detail about what a Jew is allowed to eat prayer so fundamental to our religious life the Torah doesn't even explicitly tell us and there's very few details of but the laws of eating we got a lot a few persuas in the Torah that go through the details but kosher not Kosher where you could eat we're not allowed to eat why says from salivation apparently it's easier for a man to pray than abstain from food it's easier to come to schulen to Daven than it is to not eat everything at the Kiddush even today in modern times he writes man finds it easy to apply himself spiritually much more difficult to regulate what he eats it does not object to singing hymns or visiting a sanctuary of prayer he's ready for cultic performance but he hates to be told that there are laws governing his body the torah's opinion it's impossible to hallow and Inspire the spirit without including the body safer way is known as the book of kedusha it's the book that details eating habits as well as sexual morality physical Holiness must precede spiritual Ascension why is the Tori here getting into eating because you can't talk about the soul if you're going to neglect and violate the body person has to be disciplined in what they eat that's the whole purpose of Cassius is to be mindful in what goes in our mouth and what we say before and after in whether it's good or bad for us we have absolutely destroyed and perverted the whole laws of kashras by producing terribly unhealthy but supposedly Kosher foods if they're unhealthy they're not Kosher if they're eaten in quantities and at times we shouldn't be eating it's not kosher kosher is not just about the ingredients it's about whether we should or shouldn't be having it when and how much and when to stop and when is enough because part of living religious life is not just nurturing the soul but is maintaining a vessel of a healthy body and that's why the Torah busies itself with these laws even more elaborately than it does the laws of FILA says much more but until next time stay happy stay healthy stay holy tomorrow 10 minutes living with a Muna tomorrow night we're going behind the Bima with Ellie Beer and seltzer Arts girl just put out a book on Ellie Beer called 90 seconds the Epic story of Ellie Beer and United hatsala was written by Rabbi nachman Seltzer the two of them are our guests 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