Parsha Perspectives for Today (Vayigash, 5783) - All Part of Who We Are

okay good morning everyone welcome back to posture perspectives for today thank you for joining us this morning of learning what a great morning it's been so far Hanukkah for those who are watching or listening while it is still Hanukkah our Pasha series is generously sponsored by Becky and all the cats and family member of David Grossman legal initials this morning's class is also sponsored by the one and only Essie Barry in memory of her beloved father Max gopin your dear brother Canter Moshe Geffen whom we miss thank you so much for your generosity and for Your sponsorship all right parsh is incredible story is unfolding I know you're all at the edge of your chair you have no idea what's going to happen the Cliffhanger from week to week what will be in this Saga that is unfolding between Yosef and his brothers we're on page 250 in the Arts growth Stone hamesh we are parishes and our Parsha begins the courage he puts together the confidence this is the moment of Confrontation Yosef who recognized all his brothers but remained unrecognizable to them Yosef has been orchestrating this entire drama this entire Saga he's been doing so in order to make these dreams come true and this is the Moment of Truth when you're safe now faced with the same exact Circumstance the same exact situation a brother who's on the outs will he abandon a brother once again will the brothers move on down one man or will they stand up will they stand up for a brother and refuse to leave until they are complete and the moment Yehuda is willing to stand up now Jose says they seize they've done full repentance and he is ready to be able to move on together with them I'm not going to breastfeed there's so much to say in this opening process it gets so hard you don't know how hard it is from this perspective behind the table up here so many incredible delivery Torah on this opening plastic we could spend four hours on the opening plus like of the diva Through The Years my favorite Ramada okay three steps forward every amida the three vayigashes but I'm not going to say it all I've said it before all new things all new sort of nachman says the following Yosef is Yosef was appointed to be the Viceroy of Egypt he's the Mishra he's the second in Commandments if they don't recognize him it's been many years he looks different we're going to explore in a moment still even if you have a brother even if it's 22 years even if it's in to have a hipster beard and Joseph looks totally different so what a brother you don't recognize a brother you don't recognize how could it be is it possible they didn't want to recognize him is it possible subconsciously even to a degree consciously we'll see in a moment but either way says he chooses to put them through a test and once the goblet is discovered in the sack of Benjamin Yosef now falsely accuses he says everyone else go home everyone else go back everyone else go be with your father he's staying here with me he creates a scenario that simply is a recreation of what he himself went through that a brother is a part is outside from the other brothers in order to test them he puts them in a position will they do the same thing they did last time which is abandon a brother and move on will they go back and make another excuse will they dip another coat in Blood and claim it again there was some extraordinary incident or will they stand up will they remain behind will they not leave a brother behind us and this time Yehuda stands up Yuda steps up this time Yuda says I refuse to go forward without my brother's question hey look at wrestler why does the Posse have to first introduce with the Yehuda approach Joseph why not simply start Yosef Yehuda turn to Joseph and he challenged when he confronted him and he spoke to him why do we need the drama of he stepped up he approached we're trying to give this dramatic background you know if you take if you're an English major or a minor you took in the English class often the teacher will get back and say you're trying too hard you're trying to create too much drama just tell the story let the story speak for itself so why is the Torah here almost artificially creating this drama we could picture it you would have mustard is the courage he speaks to himself then he's willing to step up and stand out just just cut to the chase what did he say what were the words that he used so Hazard tell us in that moment was not directed to Yosef the vayigash is directed to Hashem yehudah is girding himself preparing himself directing himself focusing himself to turn to Hashem in free love yourself sometimes externally superficial you can appear as if you're talking to a person but in your heart as you're speaking to that person you're offering it Fila this is the mission of a Jew the level of a moon of a meant to live with is to be in such close contact and connection to live with such a moon and vacas to Hashem that even while we're going through emotion even while we're speaking to someone else really who we're speaking to is Hashem really that action that initial we're taking is a form of Attila to Hashem we learn a very powerful idea and insight we learn a model of trilah one of the most famous teachings of rabbin but you always needs to be happy it can't be said we spoke about this if you know he's in jail he's rotting in a dungeon and he's come out of a pit and he's been falsely accused he's a breast lover he's the first brass lover is wearing one of those white the yamakas but Yosef is dancing even in prison he's always happy and when you're happy you can't stand that others are unhappy and that's what stimulates him to say he turns to the two officers why are you unhappy today that's the sadness is an Avera person has to be Singh is even when a person seemingly has a very good reason to be sad to beat oneself up to feel a sense of Shame and guilt even if a person has made terrible drastic mistakes and the eight Sahara wins when it says Be Sad have despair be hopeless give up all of that is the language and all of that it's a methodology and the strategy of the eight Sahara yitzahara is saying be said be sad but it's also like look for the good find a reason to be happy see the Silver Lining we all have some redeeming value quality we're redeeming part of our personality we're redeeming actions and behavior that make us virtuous and worthwhile some level of righteousness in our lives some level of good and blessing and bracha for which we could be grateful and maybe even when we find the good or we see the blessing it to us holds it to a shortcomings it to his compromise so we feel sad we beat ourselves up and we have Despair and we're down and out but a person who looks that way is going to fall to sadness and when you have despair you give up on yourself that you don't strive for greatness then you can't live your best self but when you see the worthiness and you see the godliness and you see the goodness in yourself then you believe you believe in the future all the good it comes from Hashem and with this explains our opening we've spoken in years past you can listen the previous shiram who is the a lovey love is a pronoun you'd approached him who's the him the simple understanding is Joseph he walks up to Joseph and he says Yosef not knowing it's Yosef I can't go back without being Yemen it'll kill my father it's a violation of my promise it's not happening I'm not going back without him take me instead I'll give up my life I'll lie down in front of this tractor it's not happening not happening simple understanding of your love is who's they love Yosef there's another understanding of who's they love himself he's speaking to himself this connects to our shabashu with Russia but the conversations that we have with ourselves the researchers have concluded don't ask me how that we speak no less than three million words to ourselves a day even the most shy introvert quiet person we speak we're cut from the moment we wake up till we fall asleep and many people sleep very little so we're awake many hours of the day and we are constantly in conversation with ourselves how many of you had a long arduous difficult conversation about whether to have one more regular how long was that conversation how many words were spoken well it's the end of Hanukkah you've had so many symphony the dials are tomorrow what's one more it's already been such a bad eating week no I promised myself today would be the new day I hadn't already enough I had Warner I promised I wouldn't have any how many you could spend a million words just on one regular the conversations that we have with ourselves to regulate ourselves sometimes to encourage ourselves sometimes to inspire ourselves sometimes to Humble ourselves and lessen ourselves and lower ourselves we all need different conversations with ourselves but we are constantly in conversation with ourselves so the second interpretation approached him who's the him Yosef maybe that's the obvious that's the simple a love could mean himself approached himself he inspired himself sometimes we have to give ourselves a pep talk you're going into a difficult conversation a difficult meeting a difficult attempt to reconciliation where you're about to stand up for something that you believe in you're going into Lobby to Advocate love we have to approach ourselves we have to gird ourselves we have to build ourselves our self-confidence but here says a third interpretation is none other than the ribonacial olamide is sometimes we're preparing to Daven we're about to take our three steps forward the Rama says three steps forward I can't help it avram approached Hashem for storm that was one vegash second approaches for his brother and the third Leo approaches representing Hashem himself the three times someone stood up for another Vegas we stepped up we stood out we we advocated avram for evil Wicked people yahood for a brother and aliyawanavi for Hashem himself for Akira shashem three Vegas we're supposed to think about the Rama quotes the three times that we take three steps forward for the amida one we're fighting even for a charm two we're about to think about our brothers three Hashem I'm diving for you for your name for your name to be made great for Coach Hashem okay good we got that out of the way somebody gosh I love you duh I can't help it every year so sometimes the person wants the Daven but they say who am I to David I'm going to Daven I've been a good do you know what I was just doing what I was looking at on my phone what I was saying on my phone Allah I was sharing do you know who I am how lowly I am how pathetic I am do you understand that how much I've abandoned Hashem I have not fulfilled what he wants and what he Wills for me who am I and what am I so I'm gonna now stand up and dive in fresh to Hashem so we beat ourselves up and we think we're unworthy and then we fail to Daven or we don't Daven the way we could the enthusiasm the passion the authenticity that we could that's why we spoke about intrila instead of Snippets what's the first thing we say even before we open our mouth we take three steps forward and the introduction to the amida is Hashem who said those words and when where are they from how many times have you said schwannessary three times a day for how many days how many weeks how many months how many years I want to ask where those words come from and where do they appear Tillman and base and what is saying there after the episode with basheva where he is confronted by the navi and David Amar says how do I talk to Hashem after what I've done I'm so I'm such a failure I'm so low I'm so far from him he probably doesn't even want to hear from me how do I find the words Hashem Hashem open my mouth help me find the words to re-engage to reconnect to readdress you and that's how we begin our media every day invoking that same feeling about made mistakes between chakras between Marv if you go to the same it's hard to make mistakes although if you look at your phone during sitter Snippets you know how many mistakes I've made you know how far I've fallen who am I you don't want to hear from me Hashem help me open my mouth move my lips give me the words to say so that's what's going on over here says no matter where I am no matter what's happening I can confront anything why As Long As You Are by my side realizes Hashem is approachable he's accessible he wants to hear from us answering why did the Torah have to say why not just start the passage three words in the real estate of the Torah is precious start three words in start with vayomer what did you do to say to Joseph why do we need those opening three words why do I need the drama why do I need the imagery why do I need this sense of approaching the posture says because it's not talking about Yehuda and Yosef I love you is Yehuda approaching Hashem offering it Fila let this go well I'm on my way into the board meeting I'm on my way into the operating room I'm on my way into the supermarket in the gym I'm on my way into parent-teacher conferences I'm on my way into any circumstance situation or venue vaigash a love approach Hashem is approachable he wants to hear us and when we do is Hashem says new speak talk what do you want to say I'm all ears I'm here to listen a totally new interpretation understanding of this opening that it's not yahudah approaching your safe maybe it's you the approaching himself but it's Yehuda ultimately approaching the ribonish Villa that this confrontation go well and that it yield successful results okay moving along Perry Mandela it's this is the whole dialogue this is the monologue really that Yehuda is giving to Yosef as he's confronting him and he tells them the whole story my mother father father sent us we had nothing to eat came back he said if I lose another son I'll surely die go back at his food we can't go down only if the youngest brother comes said you know that my wife bore me two sons one has left me he has surely been torn to pieces for I have not seen him since right Yahoo does quoting his father who says I lost that wife of two of my sons and I lost one of those Sons whom it was presented to me that what is that he was surely Torn to Pieces and I have not seen him since then what does that mean he was surely Torn to Pieces and I've not seen him since then so we turn for the first time today of several two as you know my favorite new safer Oster plus the wonderful Satora that this week quotes one of our members somebody who's here but we'll get to that but says something remarkable and understanding this is dead or did he hold out hope Against All Odds he saw a colored coat that was colored in blood covered in blood the evidence was overwhelming that indeed what they said was true that Yosef was no longer that he was torn to shreds that he was killed yet yaakov held out hope Against All Odds why foreign so where was he why hasn't he heard from him why didn't he hear from him even in a dream you know why can mean surely torn apart but it could also means has gone insane what made him go insane he was bit by a wild animal and a wild animal that bit and gave its poison will make a person lose their mind some sopher says it means I haven't seen him in a dream why because he's no longer the person I knew nitrov bidaito he's lost his mind so yaakov was inconsolable yaakov refused to accept the possibility that Yosef was no longer he was no longer among the living but he did have concern Lori SIV ode I haven't seen him and why haven't I seen him because in a dream because tariff taraf because he's lost his mind again otso Torah he finds and he digs up this fascinating obscure saksam suffer but opinions that introduce such ideas that we never knew from I wish I could share all of them with you but you know he talks about when Joseph reveals himself he says Joseph shows him that he's Maho what's the big deal a lot of people were circumcised Joseph reveals he has no scarring on his Mila why he was born Maho and only holy people are born he digs up these obscure fascinating insights anio safe This Is The Moment of Truth Yehuda finishes his monologue his presentation his moment of Confrontation and how does Yosef respond he responds with five words page 252 Yosef turns to his brothers and he says I am Yosef is my father still alive this too is unpacked many times through the years hazal the measure says on these words on the day of judgment when we will experience our own moment of ani Yosef what does that mean in what way will we experience our own moment of anio safe in that moment everything came became clear the picture became clear for these brothers all the things that were in denial of for ourselves were forced to see it with Clarity and to confront the truth and the reality of our ways we won't need to have any other consequence I told the story before in the pasture class but someone I'm closely related to through marriage my wife once called me she had been pulled over and she was getting a ticket so you believe that policeman is she didn't deserve it I'm sure it was a mistake but she was a policeman was behind there giving her a ticket so my first reaction is well how could you why were you going so fast now our insurance is going to go up why are we doing that she said to me and I quote Ephraim the policeman is behind me with his lights on currently writing up the ticket do you think I need to hear your muscular of what I did wrong do you I think I need the message right now from you about how not to go too fast or how to go just fast enough but not too fast that you get a ticket you think I really need to hear that right now it was a very powerful message that impacted me in marriage and parenting in life that when a person is facing the natural consequence of what they've done they don't need you to pour it on they don't need you to now articulate and communicate and make it worse they've got the natural consequence there's nothing that speaks louder or more compelling or more articulate than that we will see the consequence of what we've done we'll see the whole picture we'll see the scene we'll see the Fallout of that which we didn't even know on the yomadin the world of Truth we'll see the whole picture and nothing will need to be said nothing more will need to be said and that's what's going on that's all he has to say remember 22 years you thought I was gone you got rid of me you hated me you couldn't even say shalom alaikum to me remember you threw me in a pit you saw me into slavery remember you've been coming down for a little while someone's been rescuing you with food I have one thing to say I need you're safe mic drop it's the original mic drop moment your grandchildren will explain to you what that means it's the original mic drop moment he doesn't have to say anymore but he does say something more and what does he say more how old foreign a moment ago we have a father and our father's gonna die and our father told us this and we have to bring our brother back to our father and our father and our father and a father and our father Jose says might drop one more thing is my father still alive you would have just told them 100 times about your father but you'll notice Yosef did not say is our father still alive what does he say it's my father he understands their father is alive but as the one who learned with me who held on to me the one I was his favorite who gave me the coat has he given up on me did he move on from me how old Avi is my father still alive is that special relationship still alive does he long from me is that still alive and then he goes on the brothers are shocked they're frightened they're unable to respond we'll get to in a moment they're unable to respond and then he continues Joseph says to them incredible words extraordinary words and now don't be sad we started about the Issa of sadness even in that moment don't ever ever be said don't be sad and don't be angry he sold me here you think you did this you're about to react with sadness with shame with guilt you're going to beat each other up whose fault it was who really said we shouldn't have done this don't fight amongst yourselves don't fight with yourselves don't feel bad you know why this wasn't you you think I could have ended up here if Hashem didn't will it this is all hashem's master plan Hashem put me here is for this has been two years of hunger another five years he sent me here ahead of you so I'd be in position again he repeats you didn't send me but I was elevated I was elevated over all of aretz Israel I am Yosef your brother that you sold me to egyptus asks in a moment it's about to make them feel better don't be sad don't be angry don't feel ashamed don't feel guilt this was not your hashem's master plan I couldn't end up here if Hashem didn't but before he says that he says something that seems to sting it's like he drives a knife through them he says a Neo safe your brother you don't know how to be my brother but I'm Yosef your brother and in case you don't remember what you're safe maybe you had some classmates you're safe some neighbors you're safe some friends you're safe some Facebook followers you're safe so maybe you're unclear which you're safe so let me remind you I am the yosefrima that you sold me to mitzrayim practice why is Joseph sticking it to them why is Joseph driving the knife through their heart why is he emphasizing whom you sold to mitsuraim you think they forgot you think they forgot who he is and how he got there so says the sasame is safe the brothers got insight into who the real Ani this is the real Yosef they saw his nashama they saw he really was not the competitive brother not the one obsessed with looking in the mirror and fixing his hair not the one who selfishly only shared about flaunting his dreams they saw the shirt of shama they realized the greatness they realized his Devotion to Hashem they realize that hashemi was and the shame and the guilt overcame them and washed over them and they thought to themselves how could it be yours is an incredible Sadiq but imagine if the last 22 years instead of fighting for his life and saving the economy of Egypt imagine instead he was shagging he was sitting and learning the base measures of our father imagine we robbed him we stole 22 years from him who would have been 10 times Holier 10 times good if this is the greatness we see in front of us right now imagine who he could have become to which he answers that word Asher translate to what I share it can be translated not I share that it can be translated instead I share as because I am Yosef and the holy Sadiq that you feel the shama in front of you right now the Yosef you see in front of you right now you know who I am I am who I am I share not that I sold to Messiah but because I was Sultan Israel thank you for selling me to mitzrayim that hardship and those challenges that struggle and that suffering that I had to navigate it made me into who I am I only am who I am as a result of what I went through I didn't enjoy it I didn't appreciate it when you put me there but I want to thank you because I need Yosef the Yosef you see in front of you is a share is because you put me through that furnace of mind it hardened me it made me who I am it built me into who I am this is similar to the language we find my friend revelia.gov points out the end of Torah Asher shibarta wishes Yosef is thanking his brothers it turned me into the Yosef of who I am this is maybe the greatest moment of yosef's life that instead of instead of reacting lashing out with resentment with anger with Revenge not only does he stay calm and display Unity Brotherhood and love but he displays an incredible amuna he says I'm not going to beat you up you know why first of all because you look in the rear view mirror you see those lights and your ticket is being written up right now I don't need to say anything because you understand right now you understand right now the consequences of your action all I need to say is I need your safe but more than that moreover my understanding mayamuna and lead me to the conclusion I share that I only am who I am because of what you put me through and before that yashakoa you know in our lives there are people who have regrets I wish my parents didn't send me that school I wish I grew up in a different home I wish I hadn't have to undergo that hardship but Ani we are who we are only because of what we went through like Joseph we need to look back and realize it's what molded and shaped it's what fashioned us into Who We Are the story of Yeshua neighbor of Yeshua North the author of The Smith 1927 to 2013 and in his actama into the introduction of which until this day is the authoritative work on Shabbos in his introduction he tells his story he learned in kultura under the Greek in the introduction he says how his family survived the Holocaust it's a fascinating story they were being hit you should read the introduction but the short version his family was able to hide in their apartment the Nazis image thought that they had fled that they had run and they were hiding in their apartment and they were for three years they didn't go near a window day or night they didn't want to be seen they didn't want to be recognized someone was bringing them food ever so often but for three years they essentially hunkered down among the many unimaginable things about the Holocaust to not see daylight for three years they didn't see daylight so what does a family do for three years that are in isolation that don't see daylight that don't so much as look at a window that don't get a visitor that don't go out they couldn't even look out the window so he writes they had a gamark subas and they had a mission in those years to learn that over and over and over and over and over and over again for those three years and he turned that rut he turned that isolation he turned being confined in that small space into the knowledge and the background that positioned him to write the shemer Shabbos but that wasn't what motivated him ultimately to write the Shamir shamas when the war was over and the family had the opportunity to migrate Terrace Israel to Israel the ship that was leaving was leaving on Shabbos now he knew that if they remained behind they surely could be killed they wouldn't survive they wouldn't live it was a circumstance to be able to go so they went but even as he boarded that boat he made a promise to himself that because he had to compromise in the sanctity of Shabbos he would now dedicate his life to promote the learning and the observance of hilfashabas that's what he writes in the beginning of it was the fact that he learned that over and over and over again those three years of hiding and then the fact that he got on that ship and that's a compromise in the observance of Shabbos that he would use and dedicate his life now to promoting the greater learning of knowledge of and observance and practice of Shabbos he used the circumstance of his life and he said I share not that but because he was in hiding because he had to he had to travel on Shabbos that would become the shimir shabbosa we can follow in those Footsteps in that way so Yosef tells them don't be sad don't be sad this is not you it's from Hashem and the Megan Yosef of Yosef sirotskin wonders don't be said I understand where does don't be angry come in don't be sad I understand don't get angry why would they get angry management who was the danger they would get angry at don't get angry at me why would they get angry at your safe veneration you see hidden here in this pasok with this Insight a powerful insight into the psyche of people is the Natural Instinct and inclination in the moment that we're caught is to be angry that we're caught but that's the wrong feeling Yosef was telling them don't be angry right now that you were caught don't say oh why couldn't the neighbor go down to Mid surround why did it have to be us we should have wanted disguise why did he have to recognize us why were we caught why were we caught don't be angry you were caught Embrace and lean into the fact that you were caught to now live the rest of your life so whom were they going to be angry at they were going to be angry at life that they were caught our first instinct when we're caught is I can't believe there was a policeman and Waze didn't tell me our first thing is I can't believe I was caught instead of saying let me don't don't say this to the person who was caught but saying to ourselves let me use this moment to grow to improve to be better to be better I'll turn the page 254. what happens this great reunion Yehuda confronts Joseph Yosef reveals himself to his brothers and then he says please tell Dad I made it I broke through I am the Finance Minister of all I'm not a doctor but I'm the Finance Minister of all of Egypt days called sharisim see everything tell them everything that you saw um and bring notice it doesn't say avinu over and over again it doesn't say bring our father what does he say my father he's fixated on my father by the way you loved your father so much the little muscle you just gave me about how you can't do this to your father because of Benjamin 22 years ago where was your love for your father so don't tell me about your loving your father he's my father I never stabbed him in the back I never betrayed him I never took years of his life don't tell me how much you love our father look what you did so don't talk about our father let's call him for now on my father over and over again he says Avi tell him everything and quickly bring him down here and then what is do finally now he collapses on the neck of his brother Benjamin can they cry and then Yemen cries on his neck as well what were they crying over only Jews would have to ask that question to find something to cry over they're crying over the fact that they were separated they've met they're reconciled they're together they're the only ones who share the same father and mother Joseph they need a reason to cry but we always need a reason to cry don't ever use a good opportunity to cry don't ever waste a good cry so Rashi says what were they crying over uh they're crying over the tubate that are going to be in the in the area of Benjamin and ultimately will be destroyed and why has been Yemen crying on the neck of Yosef why is because the mishkan was in Sheila Shiloh is in the is in the area the region of Yosef the best samitas was in the area of binyaman each is crying for the other and what they're going to lose so this is another Jewish Behavior this is a happy moment you're crying for something that's not going to happen for hundreds of years you really have to ruin the moment it's like you had a big semen you're crying why are you crying because we're all going to die and we're not gonna have some because they're going to be missing and the great grandparents won't still be there by the time the last one will have their SIM card right now because in 70 years from now the 17 Generations up won't be there when the young what are you ruining the whole SIM card right now for such a Jewish thing no they have to ruin it right now you're crying because there will be a basement will be destroyed there will be a mission it will be destroyed you're crying for things that didn't happen yet just enjoy the moment enjoy the moment sing and dance and hug it's an incredible moment says you know why they're crying right now because it's not going to happen in the future what led to everything right now two words and what's going to lead to the destruction of the Michigan hugged each other and looked at the brothers they realized as much as we've put a Band-Aid for the moment as much as we patch things up for right now this horrific pernicious terribly destructive poison called it remains and it will remain and it will haunt our children through the generations so much so they won't solve it in time that the mishkan will be destroyed after 320 years they won't even know where it was the based on will be destroyed they weren't crying for the future they weren't fastering the present for the future they were crying for the present as they hugged and said Even In This Moment as we put a Band-Aid and we've patched it up but the seeds of cinem they remain and they're going to come back which explains us says I'm sure we've spoken about this before too so we won't elaborate Tisha but we sit on the floor we limit we cry instruction we all know the measures rabba why were the ten Martyrs killed we read akina about the 10 Martyrs murdered by the Romans we were the keynote we read about them on Yom Kippur and why were they killed the measures tells us because they were put on trial for the ten Brothers put on trial for the ten brothers and the brothers were found guilty and since their brothers never paid the price so therefore these 10 rabbis who are not contemporaries of one another but the 10 great rabbis of their Generations were brutally brutally murdered is bothered what do you mean they put on trial they're found guilty that someone has to suffer the consequence pay the price for them what happened to the reconciliation what happened to Joseph saying we're good we're brothers it's okay it was hashem's Master Plan don't don't be sad and don't be angry because we got we're all good what happened to we're all good sister they weren't all good as remember what happens a little spoiler alert for next week when yaakov avinu dies what do the brothers do right away they run to Josef and say don't kill us I don't know if you heard but Abba said before he died he wanted to get the message across to you even when he's gone still don't kill us and yosef's heart is broken have I not been incredibly magnanimous generous good to you that you still Harbor this thought that I would kill you clearly there's not a full reconciliation clearly there's still a tension in animosity clearly there's a level of a sinner which is not entirely eradicated and because they didn't get rid of it entirely at that time it continued to haunt through the generations why don't we have a basement why is mashiach not yet come why are we lighting the menorah in our homes and not in the basement itself continues until this day so Joseph were not crying on each other's shoulders about something in the future so that they were ruining the present they were crying about the present because the present wasn't yet fully solved they put a Band-Aid but does namator it is another question do they not have enough to cry about about the 22 years that were wasted that were lost 22 years that we can never recover of Shabbos and yet of meals together 22 years of barbecues 22 years 22 years of Hanukkah parties 22 years we can never ever make up we can never get back we can never recover did they not have enough to cry for that they had to cry for something in the future in the future foreign why are they crying for the fact that they're going to be destroyed but so he says in order to understand this we have to introduce why is built of Benjamin office in the thousands of years of the existence of the Jewish people how many years did the basalment exist only several centuries it's really a fraction of time we think of the basement as being our ideal existence and we mistakenly think it's our majority of our existence but actually chronologically it's a small fraction of our existence however even in its destruction we have to think about it it's supposed to be part of our mindfulness and our Consciousness collectively Even in our moments of greatest joy foreign if I forget you shall I am then forget yamini what you mean my right hand says the mega Joseph according to say those name the Torah it's not my right hand yumini is a reference to binyaman Benjamin McGillis Esther is never forgot he never forgot the pain the absence the destruction he never forgot the distance he never forgot the sinner that happened with Yosef so because binyaman never forgot that's why he was in his territory and that's why we have a practice even in a moment of great simcha like a wedding to invoke remembering the qurban like Benjamin in this moment of great reconciling with Yosef remembered the qurban we too remember the qurban and why do we do it because if I could forget you shalima I had forgotten the lesson of binyamin to never forget with faith the danger and damage of but also the hope and the future of redemption certainly they were crying over the 22 years of the time lost however Joseph is so I intuited that in that Merit of who Ben Yemen was and how he lived he would be Zoho he would meritas would be built in his territory and then he saw it would be destroyed and therefore they cried to create this precedent together for us okay Turn the Page yet again we are flying 256. Miyako receives the news brothers they go and he says what does that mean we spoke about it previously don't become agitated on the way it's a funny thing to tell your brothers they have failed you miserably you've been overly kind to them in this Revelation and Reconciliation and now your message is altered go business class don't take coach don't enjoy don't fight don't be miserable don't be agitated because I'll learn don't get distracted by talking about what does that have to do with anything what what a funny instruction for another time they come up in a send out of Egypt via lyrics and they arrive at their father yaakov sorry I skipped by a guitar that great news great news sitting down because I'll tell us how it was broken to him sitting down you come is on standby we got good news still alive not only is he still alive it's not that he's alive and barely holding on skin and bones he's in charge he's in charge and how does yaakov react by a foggly Bo his heart rejected it he could not believe them by doing love so they repeated everything and then he saw the agallos which were the embedded signal The Secret Message finally he came around I came around why did yaakov refuse to accept why did his heart reject like a fugly bow why did his heart reject again the Megan Joseph reveal sister Ruskin wonders person always wants to hold on Beyond hope for good news we long for we look for we wait for we welcome great news so yaakov wasn't willing to accept the great news could survive the Joseph had the survival skills that Hashem could orchestrate anything in the world was he not willing to wait for a miracle Venera Joseph the same way Joseph yaakov was not rejecting the news that Yosef was alive you know what he was rejecting what his heart refused to accept that's what your saves become my Joseph I used to listen sit and learn and shag my Yosef I took the office he sat next to me in shul he sang and he danced at the ticht if I bring in the onak my Yosef my Joseph who used to be so proud to be able to recite the mishra's papa my Joseph used to be so proud to sing smiros now my Yosef is so excited because he's the most Triumph that's what's become of my Yosef that's what's on the top of his resume his CV he didn't want to believe that that was Yosef Yosef essentially assimilated Joseph lost his ways off the Derek Joseph no longer has the right priorities Joseph's now greatest pride is I broke through I got the newest Tesla I got the latest iPhone I live in the biggest house I drive the nicest car I make the most money I have the most friends and followers I'm the biggest influencer online let him know I'm the biggest ruler I'm the biggest influencer and what does yaakov say ah you're breaking my heart again he never doubted Yosef is still alive but he was heart was broken by the idea that Yosef was most excited by Shelby so what happens that so then they continued as cultivarios now they repeat everything that Yosef said and now he sees the agalos and what is the agallos the ugalas are an illusion a hint too the last thing he was learning together with yosefa and now how does he react his heart comes back his heart was broken and his heart stopped when he's told that Joseph is so proud because he's the richest he's the biggest bogiver he's the most arrogant he broke yakov's heart but then they went out and said something about the wagons says all the wagons eglarufa he remembers 22 years later where we were learning where we left off his finger is still on the place in the mishnah he comes back to life his heart starts again no it's a totally different reading of the same sukim from like what do you mean he refused to believe and then they said more and he believed what changed why does he believe now what do the ugalists have to do with anything came back because he learned that Yosef was still the same humble the same Yosef the same Yosef that he always that he always knew Bergman they member of Yehuda Pig yes he sent them down ahead to go to Goshen why why do you send them down so let me read you from the outside area he says I heard I've heard from the Moon he says when did I hear this fort from the monkeys who's sitting right there if you're niflower was visiting I heard this vote in the house of Lipschitz who's sitting right here at the sheer that's why I had to say this word why does he would descend down first he's on a recognizant's mission a scouting Mission what is he going to look for lasak it's going to found the new Yeshiva before there was the Yeshiva of South Florida but Shiva to come in a scouting Mission from Woodmere where are we going to open this is Shiva yahudah was sent to Goshen to figure out where they're going to open the Yeshiva is to go find where are you going to open the Yeshiva what a waste of a ticket what a waste of an Uber ride who could have scouted out who could have found the place who already was living in Yeshiva even before they got there by the way what do you see yaakov doesn't send someone to open a shul he didn't say someone to open the Breakaway Jewel he didn't send someone to open the nikvah or build the Arab he didn't send someone to open the kosher pizza store the bark of a community that's made it the second pizza store the Breakaway pizza store is the mark of the community that's made what does he send open Yeshiva Community without a Yeshiva it's not a community you have to have a Yeshiva but Hashem we have many yeshivas we're very in our community and the new Yeshiva of South Florida among them so I said the Moon Joseph is only the mission of his second in command Yahoo does the progenitor of malchus Yehuda is royalty monarchy he had to send Yehuda to open a Yeshiva to fight the forces that you're gonna have to overcome to open Yeshiva to run through the walls that you're going to have to run through to open a Yeshiva next week is a matching campaign via Shiva South Florida I'm just setting you up right now Yeshiva the incredible hanahalla Russia Yeshiva amazing six incredible Colo men tomorrow what's today Monday Wednesday night behind the bhima is Introduction issue we're having Yeshiva Safara so we're going to need everybody's Hashem or not in Goshen we're in Boca but a community strength is at yeshivas we're going to need your help but in order to have a new Yeshiva Hashem with the impact it brings you gotta run for walls not good enough second in command is not good enough Yosef was not good enough you had to have yahudah himself however says Prime friedlander panader says something different major says The Following last game advice is if I believe because he remembers where we left left off if you remember we last knocked off I'll believe you said remember exactly where they left off that we understand is but why is the act of testing and what does Jacob believe that the brother should also remember where they left off of the ocean 22 years earlier foreign certainly when they revealed they said when he says I'm Yosef and they say our father's still alive first thing Joseph is going to say is for 22 years I've been trying to finish and figure out the Suge arufa my learning with Dad was rudely interrupted when you threw me in the pit so knew what was the end of the shoe that day 22 years earlier what was the turrets tati gave us he set it up with 15 caches 15 questions surely he gave a tariff surely he gave an answer what was the answer he gave that day no what was the answer is exactly what his father would be thinking too so he sent the wagons when yaakov social Zoo this was a worthwhile so he sent him down to open the Yeshiva they were all still holding Yosef the brothers the father they were all still holding in the same the same sugya uh we're out of time which last we'll do one more my favorite who lived the shortest of all the brothers Joseph writes he lives shortest of all the brothers because when he met yaakov sure foreign of course in that moment said dad get up it's me but he should have anticipated that and said the messenger in advance to say here's what I look like now I look different don't confuse me don't bow down to me mamela he went back down because he didn't do it was not sufficiently broken over the fact that his father bowed down to him and for that his days were shortened and he died the first of all the brothers that's the target Jonas and benazil all this give other reasons why Yosef died the first Joseph he went into the rabbit went into the rabbit when you're in a position of leadership and Rule you have to absorb people's problems and you take responsibility it makes you look old before your time it takes years off your life measures precious rabbit gives another answer is making his pitch to Yosef he says over and over again your servant my father I can't do this to your servant my father I have to bring my brother back to your servant my father and Jose Yosef never said yeah your father's not my servant stop speaking about your father that way he didn't interrupt he didn't correct him and for that Yosef died youngest he had another answer five or six that's a problem so all these are reasons maybe why he died the youngest okay really the last thing the very end of the Parsha we're skipping some Rock admasked power this is really interesting this is a great UTSA plus Satora to end with where parents base really plowing forward on page 266. memories and for the nation he resettled in the cities and only the land of the Quran he didn't buy why why it's a neglected process maybe you ever never even noticed this plastic before he didn't buy the land of the colony why not since the priest had a stipend from Paro and they lived off their stipend that power had given them therefore they did not sell their land what does that mean what's going on here so lots of Torah says the following this appears also on the page of the Russian government these priests were Priests of idolatry and yet he let them off the hook he gave them a discount foreign was brought into a public trial s first the prosecutor first the wife of potiphar brought her her evidence what was her evidence what does she have in her hand coat and it was ripped and that was her evidence then Yosef says his evidence he's innocent um so they hear both sides and the co on him where the showtimes say bring us the coat we want to take a closer look at the coat it's like and they decided if it's ripped in front it's in the heat of passion in the moment of passion that it was torn so she's right but if it's ripped on the back he was trying to run away it's while he was fleeing that he's right um because they sought to exonerate him because they tried to defend him they were unsuccessful but that's why Jose never forgot that favor and Joseph treated them well from the ballet tells us are quotes very graphic description don't listen if you're not mature enough but the wife of potiphar took the white white of an egg and poured it on her sheet and she said this was the evidence that it was the Zera of Yosef and it's from the baliatosos they brought the sheets to come and said let's see the sheets let's examine them and they put the sheet over a fire and they said if it disappears then she's right if it's consumed but if it fries like an egg then she's it's a ruse and she's just setting up Yosef they put the sheet in a fire and it fried like an egg and they knew that she was lying and they sought to defend yourself so again they were unsuccessful we know Yosef ended up in the pit the the power of potiphar was so strong it didn't matter but because the kohanim either because they examined the evidence of the of the coat or examine the evidence on the sheet whichever way they examine the evidence they sought to exonerate partial class is now going to be rated we have to change the rating between last week between last week and this week McCord dividers all this is within the Target yonasana that he was this is the kind of stuff that's 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