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Parsha Perspectives for Today (Vayigash, 5783) - All Part of Who We Are
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The Torah and its messages are timeless. Join me as we draw from the weekly Torah portion to extract lessons and inspiration for today from a wide and diverse range of sources and personalities. For more content, visit http://www.rabbiefremgoldberg.org. - Introduction - Why Does it Say Vayigash (R. Nachman of Breslov) - Yosef Went Crazy (Otzar Peleos HaTorah) - The Making of Yosef (Sefas Emes) - Don’t Get Mad (R. Yosef Sorotzkin) - The Future in the Present (Modzhitzer Rebbe) - The Brothers on Trial? (Rabbeinu Bahye) - Yosef and Binyamin (Oznaim Latorah) - Yehudah Opens a Yeshivah (Otzar Peleos HaTorah) - Who Died First (Otzar Peleos HaTorah)
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okay good morning everyone welcome back
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is
incredible story is unfolding I know
you're all at the edge of your chair you
have no idea what's going to happen the
Cliffhanger from week to week what will
be in this Saga that is unfolding
between Yosef and his brothers we're on
page 250 in the Arts growth Stone hamesh
we are parishes
and our Parsha begins
the courage he puts together the
confidence this is the moment of
Confrontation Yosef who recognized all
his brothers but remained unrecognizable
to them Yosef has been orchestrating
this entire drama this entire Saga he's
been doing so in order to make these
dreams come true and this is the Moment
of Truth when you're safe now faced with
the same exact Circumstance the same
exact situation a brother who's on the
outs will he abandon a brother once
again will the brothers move on down one
man or will they stand up will they
stand up for a brother and refuse to
leave until they are complete and the
moment Yehuda is willing to stand up now
Jose says they seize
they've done full repentance and he is
ready to be able to move on together
with them I'm not going to breastfeed
there's so much to say in this opening
process it gets so hard you don't know
how hard it is from this perspective
behind the table up here so many
incredible delivery Torah on this
opening plastic we could spend four
hours on the opening plus like of the
diva Through The Years my favorite
Ramada okay three steps forward every
amida the three vayigashes but I'm not
going to say it all I've said it before
all new things all new sort of nachman
says the following Yosef is
Yosef was appointed to be the Viceroy of
Egypt he's the Mishra he's the second in
Commandments
if they don't recognize him it's been
many years he looks different we're
going to explore in a moment still even
if you have a brother even if it's 22
years even if it's in to have a hipster
beard and Joseph looks totally different
so what a brother you don't recognize a
brother you don't recognize how could it
be is it possible they didn't want to
recognize him is it possible
subconsciously even to a degree
consciously we'll see in a moment but
either way says
he chooses to put them through a test
and once the goblet
is discovered in the sack of Benjamin
Yosef now falsely accuses
he says everyone else go home everyone
else go back everyone else go be with
your father he's staying here with me he
creates a scenario that simply is a
recreation of what he himself went
through that a brother is a part is
outside from the other brothers in order
to test them he puts them in a position
will they do the same thing they did
last time which is abandon a brother and
move on will they go back and make
another excuse will they dip another
coat in Blood and claim it again there
was some extraordinary incident or will
they stand up will they remain behind
will they not leave a brother behind
us
and this time Yehuda stands up Yuda
steps up this time Yuda says I refuse to
go forward without my
brother's question hey look at wrestler
why does the Posse have to first
introduce with the Yehuda approach
Joseph why not simply start
Yosef Yehuda turn to Joseph and he
challenged when he confronted him and he
spoke to him why do we need the drama of
he stepped up he approached we're trying
to give this dramatic background you
know if you take if you're an English
major or a minor you took in the English
class often the teacher will get back
and say you're trying too hard you're
trying to create too much drama just
tell the story let the story speak for
itself so why is the Torah here almost
artificially creating this drama
we could picture it you would have
mustard is the courage he speaks to
himself then he's willing to step up and
stand out just just cut to the chase
what did he say what were the words that
he used so Hazard tell us
in that moment was not directed to Yosef
the vayigash is directed to Hashem
yehudah is girding himself preparing
himself directing himself focusing
himself to turn to Hashem in free love
yourself
sometimes externally superficial you can
appear as if you're talking to a person
but in your heart as you're speaking to
that person you're offering it Fila this
is the mission of a Jew the level of a
moon of a meant to live with is to be in
such close contact and connection to
live with such a moon and vacas to
Hashem that even while we're going
through emotion even while we're
speaking to someone else really who
we're speaking to is Hashem really that
action that initial we're taking is a
form of Attila to Hashem
we learn a very powerful idea and
insight we learn a model of trilah
one of the most famous teachings of
rabbin
but you always needs to be happy it
can't be said we spoke about this
if you know he's in jail he's rotting in
a dungeon and he's come out of a pit and
he's been falsely accused he's
a breast lover he's the first brass
lover
is
wearing one of those white the yamakas
but Yosef is dancing even in prison he's
always happy and when you're happy you
can't stand that others are unhappy and
that's what stimulates him to say
he turns to the two officers why are you
unhappy today that's the sadness is an
Avera person has to be Singh is
even when a person seemingly has a very
good reason to be sad to beat oneself up
to feel a sense of Shame and guilt
even if a person has made terrible
drastic mistakes and the eight Sahara
wins when it says Be Sad have despair
be hopeless give up all of that is the
language
and all of that it's a methodology and
the strategy of the eight Sahara
yitzahara is saying be said be sad but
it's also like
look for the good find a reason to be
happy see the Silver Lining
we all have some redeeming value quality
we're redeeming part of our personality
we're redeeming actions and behavior
that make us virtuous and worthwhile
some level of righteousness in our lives
some level of good and blessing and
bracha for which we could be grateful
and maybe even when we find the good or
we see the blessing it to us holds it to
a shortcomings it to his compromise so
we feel sad we beat ourselves up and we
have Despair and we're down and out but
a person who looks that way is going to
fall to sadness and when you have
despair you give up on yourself that you
don't strive for greatness then you
can't live your best self but
when you see the worthiness and you see
the godliness and you see the goodness
in yourself then you believe you believe
in the future
all the good it comes from Hashem and
with this explains our opening
we've spoken in years past you can
listen the previous shiram who is the a
lovey love is a pronoun you'd approached
him who's the him the simple
understanding is
Joseph he walks up to Joseph and he says
Yosef not knowing it's Yosef I can't go
back without being Yemen it'll kill my
father it's a violation of my promise
it's not happening I'm not going back
without him take me instead I'll give up
my life I'll lie down in front of this
tractor it's not happening not happening
simple understanding of your love is
who's they love Yosef there's another
understanding of who's they love
himself
he's speaking to himself this connects
to our shabashu with Russia but the
conversations that we have with
ourselves the researchers have concluded
don't ask me how that we speak no less
than three million words to ourselves a
day even the most shy introvert quiet
person
we speak we're cut from the moment we
wake up till we fall asleep and many
people sleep very little so we're awake
many hours of the day and we are
constantly in conversation with
ourselves how many of you had a long
arduous difficult conversation about
whether to have one more regular
how long was that conversation how many
words were spoken well it's the end of
Hanukkah you've had so many symphony the
dials are tomorrow what's one more it's
already been such a bad eating week no I
promised myself today would be the new
day I hadn't already enough I had Warner
I promised I wouldn't have any how many
you could spend a million words just on
one regular
the conversations that we have with
ourselves to regulate ourselves
sometimes to encourage ourselves
sometimes to inspire ourselves sometimes
to Humble ourselves and lessen ourselves
and lower ourselves we all need
different conversations with ourselves
but we are constantly in conversation
with ourselves so the second
interpretation
approached him who's the him Yosef maybe
that's the obvious that's the simple a
love could mean himself
approached himself he inspired himself
sometimes we have to give ourselves a
pep talk you're going into a difficult
conversation a difficult meeting
a difficult attempt to reconciliation
where you're about to stand up for
something that you believe in you're
going into Lobby to Advocate love we
have to approach ourselves we have to
gird ourselves we have to build
ourselves our self-confidence but here
says
a third interpretation is none other
than the ribonacial
olamide
is
sometimes we're preparing to Daven we're
about to take our three steps forward
the Rama says
three steps forward
I can't help it avram approached Hashem
for storm that was one vegash second
approaches for his brother and the third
Leo approaches representing Hashem
himself the three times someone stood up
for another Vegas we stepped up we stood
out we we advocated avram for evil
Wicked people yahood for a brother
and aliyawanavi for Hashem himself for
Akira shashem three Vegas we're supposed
to think about the Rama quotes the three
times that we take three steps forward
for the amida one we're fighting even
for a charm two we're about to think
about our brothers three Hashem I'm
diving for you for your name for your
name to be made great for Coach Hashem
okay good we got that out of the way
somebody gosh I love you duh I can't
help it every year so sometimes the
person wants the Daven but they say who
am I to David I'm going to Daven I've
been a good do you know what I was just
doing what I was looking at on my phone
what I was saying on my phone Allah I
was sharing do you know who I am how
lowly I am how pathetic I am do you
understand that how much I've abandoned
Hashem I have not fulfilled what he
wants and what he Wills for me who am I
and what am I so I'm gonna now stand up
and dive in fresh to Hashem so we beat
ourselves up and we think we're unworthy
and then we fail to Daven or we don't
Daven the way we could the enthusiasm
the passion the authenticity that we
could that's why we spoke about intrila
instead of Snippets what's the first
thing we say even before we open our
mouth we take three steps forward and
the introduction to the amida is Hashem
who said those words and when
where are they from
how many times have you said
schwannessary
three times a day for how many days how
many weeks how many months how many
years I want to ask where those words
come from and where do they appear
Tillman and base and what is saying
there
after the episode with basheva
where he is confronted by the navi and
David Amar says how do I talk to Hashem
after what I've done
I'm so I'm such a failure I'm so low I'm
so far from him he probably doesn't even
want to hear from me how do I find the
words Hashem
Hashem open my mouth help me find the
words to re-engage to reconnect to
readdress you
and that's how we begin our media every
day invoking that same feeling about
made mistakes between chakras between
Marv if you go to the same it's hard to
make mistakes although if you look at
your phone during sitter Snippets
you know how many mistakes I've made you
know how far I've fallen who am I you
don't want to hear from me Hashem
help me open my mouth move my lips give
me the words to say so that's what's
going on over here says
no matter where I am no matter what's
happening
I can confront anything why
As Long As You Are by my side
realizes Hashem is approachable he's
accessible he wants to hear from us
answering why did the Torah have to say
why not just start the passage three
words in the real estate of the Torah is
precious start three words in
start with vayomer what did you do to
say to Joseph why do we need those
opening three words
why do I need the drama why do I need
the imagery why do I need this sense of
approaching the posture says because
it's not talking about Yehuda and Yosef
I love you is
Yehuda approaching Hashem offering it
Fila let this go well I'm on my way into
the board meeting I'm on my way into the
operating room I'm on my way into the
supermarket in the gym I'm on my way
into parent-teacher conferences I'm on
my way into any circumstance situation
or venue vaigash a love approach Hashem
is approachable he wants to hear us and
when we do
is Hashem says new speak talk what do
you want to say I'm all ears I'm here to
listen a totally new interpretation
understanding of this opening that it's
not yahudah approaching your safe maybe
it's you the approaching himself but
it's Yehuda ultimately approaching the
ribonish Villa that this confrontation
go well and that it yield successful
results okay moving along Perry Mandela
it's
this is the whole dialogue this is the
monologue really that Yehuda is giving
to Yosef as he's confronting him and he
tells them the whole story my mother
father father sent us we had nothing to
eat came back he said if I lose another
son I'll surely die go back at his food
we can't go down only if the youngest
brother comes said you know that my wife
bore me two sons one has left me he has
surely been torn to pieces for I have
not seen him since right Yahoo does
quoting his father who says I lost that
wife of two of my sons and I lost one of
those Sons whom it was presented to me
that what
is that he was surely Torn to Pieces and
I have not seen him since then what does
that mean he was surely Torn to Pieces
and I've not seen him since then so we
turn for the first time today of several
two as you know my favorite new safer
Oster plus the wonderful Satora that
this week quotes one of our members
somebody who's here but we'll get to
that but
says something remarkable and
understanding this
is dead
or did he hold out hope Against All Odds
he saw a colored coat that was colored
in blood covered in blood the evidence
was overwhelming that indeed what they
said was true that Yosef was no longer
that he was torn to shreds that he was
killed yet yaakov
held out hope Against All Odds why
foreign
so where was he why hasn't he heard from
him why didn't he hear from him even in
a dream you know why
can mean surely torn apart but it could
also means has gone insane what made him
go insane he was bit by a wild animal
and a wild animal that bit and gave its
poison will make a person lose their
mind some sopher says
it means I haven't seen him in a dream
why because he's no longer the person I
knew nitrov bidaito he's lost his mind
so yaakov was inconsolable yaakov
refused to accept the possibility that
Yosef was no longer he was no longer
among the living but he did have concern
Lori SIV
ode I haven't seen him and why haven't I
seen him because in a dream because
tariff taraf because he's lost his mind
again otso Torah he finds and he digs up
this fascinating obscure saksam suffer
but opinions that introduce such ideas
that we never knew from I wish I could
share all of them with you but you know
he talks about
when Joseph reveals himself he says
Joseph shows him that he's Maho what's
the big deal a lot of people were
circumcised Joseph reveals he has no
scarring on his Mila why he was born
Maho and only holy people are born he
digs up these obscure fascinating
insights anio safe This Is The Moment of
Truth Yehuda finishes his monologue his
presentation his moment of Confrontation
and how does Yosef respond he responds
with five words
page 252 Yosef turns to his brothers and
he says
I am Yosef is my father still alive this
too is unpacked many times through the
years hazal the measure says on these
words
on the day of judgment when we will
experience our own moment of ani Yosef
what does that mean in what way will we
experience our own moment of anio safe
in that moment everything came became
clear the picture became clear for these
brothers all the things that were in
denial of for ourselves were forced to
see it with Clarity and to confront the
truth and the reality of our ways we
won't need to have any other consequence
I told the story before in the pasture
class but someone I'm closely related to
through marriage
my wife once called me she had been
pulled over
and she was getting a ticket so you
believe that policeman is she didn't
deserve it I'm sure it was a mistake but
she was a policeman was behind there
giving her a ticket so my first reaction
is well how could you why were you going
so fast now our insurance is going to go
up why are we doing that she said to me
and I quote Ephraim the policeman is
behind me with his lights on currently
writing up the ticket
do you think I need to hear your
muscular of what I did wrong do you I
think I need the message right now from
you about how not to go too fast or how
to go just fast enough but not too fast
that you get a ticket you think I really
need to hear that right now
it was a very powerful message that
impacted me in marriage and parenting in
life that when a person is facing the
natural consequence of what they've done
they don't need you to pour it on
they don't need you to now articulate
and communicate and make it worse
they've got the natural consequence
there's nothing that speaks louder or
more compelling or more articulate than
that
we will see the consequence of what
we've done we'll see the whole picture
we'll see the scene we'll see the
Fallout of that which we didn't even
know on the yomadin the world of Truth
we'll see the whole picture and nothing
will need to be said nothing more will
need to be said and that's what's going
on
that's all he has to say remember 22
years you thought I was gone you got rid
of me you hated me
you couldn't even say shalom alaikum to
me remember you threw me in a pit you
saw me into slavery remember you've been
coming down for a little while someone's
been rescuing you with food I have one
thing to say I need you're safe
mic drop it's the original mic drop
moment your grandchildren will explain
to you what that means it's the original
mic drop moment
he doesn't have to say anymore but he
does say something more and what does he
say more how old
foreign
a moment ago we have a father and our
father's gonna die and our father told
us this and we have to bring our brother
back to our father and our father and
our father and a father and our father
Jose says might drop one more thing is
my father still alive
you would have just told them 100 times
about your father
but you'll notice Yosef did not say is
our father still alive what does he say
it's my father
he understands their father is alive
but as the one who learned with me who
held on to me the one I was his favorite
who gave me the coat has he given up on
me
did he move on from me
how old Avi is my father still alive
is that special relationship still alive
does he long from me is that still alive
and then he goes on the brothers are
shocked they're frightened they're
unable to respond we'll get to in a
moment they're unable to respond and
then he continues Joseph says to them
incredible words extraordinary words
and now don't be sad we started about
the Issa of sadness even in that moment
don't ever ever be said
don't be sad
and don't be angry he sold me here
you think you did this
you're about to react with sadness with
shame with guilt you're going to beat
each other up whose fault it was who
really said we shouldn't have done this
don't fight amongst yourselves don't
fight with yourselves don't feel bad you
know why this wasn't you you think I
could have ended up here if Hashem
didn't will it this is all hashem's
master plan Hashem put me here is
for this has been two years of hunger
another five years
he sent me here ahead of you so I'd be
in position
again he repeats you didn't send me but
I was elevated
I was elevated over all of aretz Israel
I am Yosef your brother that you sold me
to
egyptus asks in a moment it's about to
make them feel better don't be sad don't
be angry don't feel ashamed don't feel
guilt this was not your hashem's master
plan I couldn't end up here if Hashem
didn't but before he says that he says
something that seems to sting it's like
he drives a knife through them he says a
Neo safe
your brother you don't know how to be my
brother but I'm Yosef your brother
and in case you don't remember what
you're safe maybe you had some
classmates you're safe some neighbors
you're safe some friends you're safe
some Facebook followers you're safe so
maybe you're unclear which you're safe
so let me remind you I am the
yosefrima that you sold me to mitzrayim
practice
why is Joseph sticking it to them why is
Joseph driving the knife through their
heart why is he emphasizing whom you
sold to mitsuraim you think they forgot
you think they forgot who he is and how
he got there so says the sasame is safe
the brothers got insight into who the
real Ani this is the real Yosef they saw
his nashama they saw he really was not
the competitive brother not the one
obsessed with looking in the mirror and
fixing his hair not the one who
selfishly only shared about flaunting
his dreams they saw the shirt of shama
they realized the greatness they
realized his Devotion to Hashem they
realize that hashemi was and the shame
and the guilt overcame them and washed
over them and they thought to themselves
how could it be
yours is an incredible Sadiq but imagine
if the last 22 years instead of fighting
for his life and saving the economy of
Egypt imagine instead he was shagging he
was sitting and learning the base
measures of our father imagine we robbed
him we stole 22 years from him who would
have been 10 times Holier 10 times good
if this is the greatness we see in front
of us right now
imagine who he could have become to
which he answers
that word Asher translate to what I
share
it can be translated not I share that it
can be translated instead I share as
because I am Yosef and the holy Sadiq
that you feel the shama in front of you
right now the Yosef you see in front of
you right now you know who I am I am who
I am I share not that I sold to Messiah
but because I was Sultan Israel thank
you for selling me to mitzrayim that
hardship and those challenges that
struggle and that suffering that I had
to navigate it made me into who I am I
only am who I am as a result of what I
went through I didn't enjoy it I didn't
appreciate it when you put me there but
I want to thank you because I need Yosef
the Yosef you see in front of you is a
share is because
you put me through that furnace of mind
it hardened me it made me who I am it
built me into who I am this is similar
to the language we find my friend
revelia.gov points out the end of Torah
Asher shibarta wishes
Yosef is thanking his brothers
it turned me into the Yosef of who I am
this is maybe the greatest moment of
yosef's life that instead of instead of
reacting lashing out with resentment
with anger with Revenge not only does he
stay calm and display Unity Brotherhood
and love but he displays an incredible
amuna he says I'm not going to beat you
up you know why first of all because you
look in the rear view mirror you see
those lights and your ticket is being
written up right now I don't need to say
anything because you understand right
now
you understand right now the
consequences of your action all I need
to say is I need your safe but more than
that moreover my
understanding mayamuna and lead me to
the conclusion I share that I only am
who I am because of what you put me
through and before that yashakoa
you know in our lives there are people
who have regrets I wish my parents
didn't send me that school I wish I grew
up in a different home I wish I hadn't
have to undergo that hardship but Ani we
are who we are only because of what we
went through like Joseph we need to look
back and realize it's what molded and
shaped it's what fashioned us into Who
We Are the story of Yeshua neighbor of
Yeshua North the author of The Smith
1927 to 2013 and in his actama into the
introduction of
which until this day is the
authoritative work on Shabbos in his
introduction he tells his story he
learned in kultura under the Greek
in the introduction he says how his
family survived the Holocaust it's a
fascinating story they were being hit
you should read the introduction
but the short version his family was
able to hide in their apartment the
Nazis image thought that they had fled
that they had run and they were hiding
in their apartment
and they were for three years they
didn't go near a window day or night
they didn't want to be seen they didn't
want to be recognized someone was
bringing them food ever so often but for
three years they essentially hunkered
down
among the many unimaginable things about
the Holocaust to not see daylight for
three years
they didn't see daylight so what does a
family do for three years that are in
isolation that don't see daylight that
don't so much as look at a window that
don't get a visitor that don't go out
they couldn't even look out the window
so he writes they had a gamark subas and
they had a mission
in those years to learn that over and
over and over and over and over and over
again for those three years and he
turned that rut he turned that isolation
he turned being confined in that small
space
into the knowledge and the background
that positioned him to write the shemer
Shabbos but that wasn't what motivated
him ultimately to write the Shamir
shamas when the war was over
and the family had the opportunity to
migrate Terrace Israel to Israel the
ship that was leaving was leaving on
Shabbos
now he knew that if they remained behind
they surely could be killed they
wouldn't survive they wouldn't live it
was a circumstance
to be able to go
so they went but even as he boarded that
boat he made a promise to himself that
because he had to compromise in the
sanctity of Shabbos he would now
dedicate his life to promote the
learning and the observance of
hilfashabas that's what he writes in the
beginning of
it was the fact that he learned that
over and over and over again those three
years of hiding and then the fact that
he got on that ship and that's a
compromise in the observance of Shabbos
that he would use and dedicate his life
now to promoting the greater learning of
knowledge of and observance and practice
of Shabbos he used the circumstance of
his life and he said I share
not that but because he was in hiding
because he had to he had to travel on
Shabbos that would become the shimir
shabbosa we can follow
in those Footsteps in that way
so Yosef tells them don't be sad
don't be sad this is not you it's from
Hashem and the Megan Yosef of Yosef
sirotskin wonders
don't be said I understand where does
don't be angry come in
don't be sad I understand
don't get angry why would they get angry
management
who was the danger they would get angry
at don't get angry at me why would they
get angry at your safe veneration
you see hidden here in this pasok with
this Insight a powerful insight into the
psyche of people is
the Natural Instinct and inclination in
the moment that we're caught is to be
angry that we're caught but that's the
wrong feeling Yosef was telling them
don't be angry right now that you were
caught
don't say oh why couldn't the neighbor
go down to Mid surround why did it have
to be us we should have wanted disguise
why did he have to recognize us why were
we caught
why were we caught don't be angry you
were caught
Embrace and lean into the fact that you
were caught to now live the rest of your
life so whom were they going to be angry
at they were going to be angry at life
that they were caught our first instinct
when we're caught is I can't believe
there was a policeman and Waze didn't
tell me our first thing is I can't
believe I was caught instead of saying
let me don't don't say this to the
person who was caught but saying to
ourselves
let me use this moment to grow to
improve to be better to be better
I'll turn the page 254.
what happens this great reunion Yehuda
confronts Joseph Yosef reveals himself
to his brothers and then he says
please tell Dad I made it I broke
through I am the Finance Minister of all
I'm not a doctor but I'm the Finance
Minister of all of Egypt
days called sharisim see everything tell
them everything that you saw
um
and bring notice it doesn't say avinu
over and over again it doesn't say bring
our father what does he say
my father he's fixated on my father by
the way you loved your father so much
the little muscle you just gave me about
how you can't do this to your father
because of Benjamin
22 years ago where was your love for
your father so don't tell me about your
loving your father he's my father I
never stabbed him in the back I never
betrayed him I never took years of his
life
don't tell me how much you love our
father look what you did so don't talk
about our father let's call him for now
on my father over and over again he says
Avi tell him everything and quickly
bring him down here
and then what is do finally now
he collapses on the neck of his brother
Benjamin can they cry
and then Yemen cries on his neck as well
what were they crying over
only Jews would have to ask that
question to find something to cry over
they're crying over the fact that they
were separated they've met they're
reconciled they're together they're the
only ones who share the same father and
mother Joseph
they need a reason to cry
but we always need a reason to cry don't
ever use a good opportunity to cry don't
ever waste a good cry so Rashi says what
were they crying over uh
they're crying over the tubate that are
going to be in the in the area of
Benjamin and ultimately will be
destroyed and why has been Yemen crying
on the neck of
Yosef why
is
because the mishkan was in Sheila Shiloh
is in the is in the area the region of
Yosef the best samitas was in the area
of binyaman each is crying for the other
and what they're going to lose so this
is another Jewish Behavior this is a
happy moment you're crying for something
that's not going to happen for hundreds
of years
you really have to ruin the moment it's
like you had a big semen you're crying
why are you crying because we're all
going to die and we're not gonna have
some because they're going to be missing
and the great grandparents won't still
be there by the time the last one will
have their SIM card
right now because in 70 years from now
the 17 Generations up won't be there
when the young what are you ruining the
whole SIM card right now for
such a Jewish thing no they have to ruin
it right now you're crying because there
will be a basement will be destroyed
there will be a mission it will be
destroyed you're crying for things that
didn't happen yet just enjoy the moment
enjoy the moment sing and dance and hug
it's an incredible moment says
you know why they're crying right now
because it's not going to happen in the
future what led to everything right now
two words
and what's going to lead to the
destruction of the Michigan
hugged each other and looked at the
brothers they realized as much as we've
put a Band-Aid for the moment as much as
we patch things up for right now this
horrific pernicious terribly destructive
poison called it remains and it will
remain and it will haunt our children
through the generations so much so they
won't solve it in time that the mishkan
will be destroyed after 320 years they
won't even know where it was the based
on
will be destroyed they weren't crying
for the future they weren't fastering
the present for the future they were
crying for the present as they hugged
and said Even In This Moment
as we put a Band-Aid and we've patched
it up but the seeds of cinem they remain
and they're going to come back which
explains us says I'm sure we've spoken
about this before too so we won't
elaborate Tisha but we sit on the floor
we limit we cry instruction we all know
the measures rabba
why were the ten Martyrs killed we read
akina about the 10 Martyrs murdered by
the Romans we were the keynote we read
about them on Yom Kippur and why were
they killed the measures tells us
because they were put on trial for the
ten Brothers put on trial for the ten
brothers and the brothers were found
guilty and since their brothers never
paid the price so therefore these 10
rabbis who are not contemporaries of one
another but the 10 great rabbis of their
Generations were brutally brutally
murdered is bothered
what do you mean they put on trial
they're found guilty that someone has to
suffer the consequence pay the price for
them what happened to the reconciliation
what happened to Joseph saying we're
good we're brothers it's okay it was
hashem's Master Plan don't don't be sad
and don't be angry because we got we're
all good what happened to we're all good
sister they weren't all good
as remember what happens a little
spoiler alert for next week when yaakov
avinu dies what do the brothers do right
away they run to Josef and say don't
kill us I don't know if you heard but
Abba said before he died he wanted to
get the message across to you even when
he's gone still don't kill us and
yosef's heart is broken
have I not been incredibly magnanimous
generous good to you that you still
Harbor this thought that I would kill
you
clearly there's not a full
reconciliation clearly there's still a
tension in animosity clearly there's a
level of a sinner which is not entirely
eradicated
and because they didn't get rid of it
entirely at that time it continued to
haunt through the generations
why don't we have a basement why is
mashiach not yet come
why are we lighting the menorah in our
homes and not in the basement itself
continues until this day so Joseph were
not crying on each other's shoulders
about something in the future so that
they were ruining the present they were
crying about the present because the
present wasn't yet fully solved they put
a Band-Aid
but does namator
it is
another question do they not have enough
to cry about about the 22 years that
were wasted that were lost 22 years that
we can never recover of Shabbos and yet
of meals together 22 years of barbecues
22 years
22 years of Hanukkah parties
22 years we can never ever make up we
can never get back we can never recover
did they not have enough to cry for that
they had to cry for something in the
future in the future
foreign
why are they crying for the fact that
they're going to be destroyed but
so he says in order to understand this
we have to introduce why is built of
Benjamin
office
in the thousands of years of the
existence of the Jewish people how many
years did the basalment exist only
several centuries it's really a fraction
of time we think of the basement as
being our ideal existence and we
mistakenly think it's our majority of
our existence but actually
chronologically it's a small fraction of
our existence
however even in its destruction we have
to think about it it's supposed to be
part of our mindfulness and our
Consciousness collectively Even in our
moments of greatest joy
foreign
if I forget you shall I am then forget
yamini what you mean
my right hand says the mega Joseph
according to say those name the Torah
it's not my right hand yumini is a
reference to binyaman Benjamin McGillis
Esther is
never forgot he never forgot the pain
the absence the destruction he never
forgot the distance he never forgot the
sinner that happened with Yosef so
because binyaman never forgot that's why
he was in his territory and that's why
we have a practice even in a moment of
great simcha like a wedding to invoke
remembering the qurban like Benjamin in
this moment of great reconciling with
Yosef remembered the qurban we too
remember the qurban and why do we do it
because
if I could forget you shalima I had
forgotten the lesson of binyamin to
never forget with faith the danger and
damage of
but also the hope and the future of
redemption
certainly they were crying over the 22
years of the time lost
however Joseph is
so I intuited that in that Merit of who
Ben Yemen was and how he lived he would
be Zoho he would meritas would be built
in his territory and then he saw it
would be destroyed and therefore they
cried to create this precedent together
for us okay
Turn the Page yet again we are flying
256.
Miyako receives the news
brothers they go and he says
what does that mean we spoke about it
previously don't become agitated on the
way
it's a funny thing to tell your brothers
they have
failed you miserably you've been overly
kind to them in this Revelation and
Reconciliation and now your message is
altered
go business class don't take coach
don't enjoy don't fight don't be
miserable don't be agitated because I'll
learn don't get distracted by talking
about what does that have to do with
anything what what a funny instruction
for another time
they come up in a send out of Egypt via
lyrics
and they arrive at their father yaakov
sorry I skipped
by a guitar
that great news great news
sitting down
because I'll tell us how it was broken
to him sitting down you come
is on standby
we got good news
still alive
not only is he still alive it's not that
he's alive and barely holding on skin
and bones he's in charge he's in charge
and how does yaakov react by a foggly Bo
his heart rejected it he could not
believe them by doing love so they
repeated everything and then he saw the
agallos which were the embedded signal
The Secret Message finally he came
around
I came around why did yaakov refuse to
accept
why did his heart reject like a fugly
bow
why did his heart reject again the Megan
Joseph reveal sister Ruskin wonders
person always wants to hold on Beyond
hope for good news we long for we look
for we wait for we welcome great news
so yaakov wasn't willing to accept the
great news
could survive the Joseph had the
survival skills that Hashem could
orchestrate anything in the world
was he not willing to wait for a miracle
Venera Joseph
the same way Joseph
yaakov was not rejecting the news that
Yosef was alive
you know what he was rejecting what his
heart refused to accept
that's what your saves become my Joseph
I used to listen sit and learn and shag
my Yosef I took the office
he sat next to me in shul he sang and he
danced at the ticht if I bring in the
onak my Yosef my Joseph who used to be
so proud to be able to recite the
mishra's papa my Joseph used to be so
proud to sing smiros now my Yosef is so
excited because he's the most Triumph
that's what's become of my Yosef that's
what's on the top of his resume his CV
he didn't want to believe that that was
Yosef Yosef essentially assimilated
Joseph lost his ways off the Derek
Joseph no longer has the right
priorities Joseph's now greatest pride
is I broke through I got the newest
Tesla I got the latest iPhone I live in
the biggest house I drive the nicest car
I make the most money I have the most
friends and followers I'm the biggest
influencer online
let him know
I'm the biggest ruler I'm the biggest
influencer and what does yaakov say ah
you're breaking my heart again he never
doubted Yosef is still alive
but he was heart was broken by the idea
that Yosef was most excited by Shelby
so what happens that
so then they continued as cultivarios
now they repeat everything that Yosef
said
and now he sees the agalos and what is
the agallos
the ugalas are an illusion a hint too
the last thing he was learning together
with yosefa
and now how does he react
his heart comes back his heart was
broken and his heart stopped when he's
told that Joseph is so proud because
he's the richest he's the biggest
bogiver he's the most arrogant he broke
yakov's heart but then they went out and
said something about the wagons
says all the wagons
eglarufa he remembers 22 years later
where we were learning where we left off
his finger is still on the place in the
mishnah
he comes back to life his heart starts
again no
it's a totally different reading of the
same sukim from like what do you mean he
refused to believe and then they said
more and he believed what changed why
does he believe now what do the ugalists
have to do with anything
came back because he learned that Yosef
was still the same humble the same Yosef
the same Yosef that he always that he
always knew Bergman they member of
Yehuda
Pig
yes
he sent them down ahead to go to Goshen
why
why do you send them down
so let me read you from the outside area
he says I heard I've heard from the Moon
he says when did I hear this fort from
the monkeys
who's sitting right there
if you're niflower
was visiting I heard this vote in the
house of Lipschitz who's sitting right
here at the sheer that's why I had to
say this word
why does he would descend down first
he's on a recognizant's mission a
scouting Mission what is he going to
look for lasak
it's going to found the new Yeshiva
before there was the Yeshiva of South
Florida but Shiva to come in a scouting
Mission from Woodmere where are we going
to open this is Shiva yahudah was sent
to Goshen to figure out where they're
going to open the Yeshiva is
to go find where are you going to open
the Yeshiva what a waste of a ticket
what a waste of an Uber ride who could
have scouted out who could have found
the place who already was living in
Yeshiva even before they got there by
the way what do you see
yaakov doesn't send someone to open a
shul
he didn't say someone to open the
Breakaway Jewel
he didn't send someone to open the
nikvah or build the Arab he didn't send
someone to open the kosher pizza store
the bark of a community that's made it
the second pizza store the Breakaway
pizza store is the mark of the community
that's made what does he send open
Yeshiva Community without a Yeshiva it's
not a community you have to have a
Yeshiva but Hashem we have many yeshivas
we're very in our community and the new
Yeshiva of South Florida among them so I
said the Moon
Joseph
is
only the mission of his second in
command Yahoo does the progenitor of
malchus Yehuda is royalty monarchy he
had to send Yehuda to open a Yeshiva to
fight the forces
that you're gonna have to overcome to
open Yeshiva to run through the walls
that you're going to have to run through
to open a Yeshiva next week is a
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night behind the bhima is Introduction
issue we're having Yeshiva Safara
so we're going to need everybody's
Hashem or not in Goshen we're in Boca
but a community strength is at yeshivas
we're going to need your help but in
order to have a new Yeshiva Hashem with
the impact it brings you gotta run for
walls not good enough second in command
is not good enough Yosef was not good
enough you had to have yahudah himself
however says
Prime friedlander
panader says something different
major says The Following last game
advice
is
if I believe because he remembers where
we left left off if you remember we last
knocked off I'll believe you
said
remember exactly where they left off
that we understand
is
but why is the act of testing and what
does Jacob believe that the brother
should also remember where they left off
of the ocean 22 years earlier foreign
certainly when they revealed they said
when he says I'm Yosef and they say our
father's still alive first thing Joseph
is going to say is for 22 years I've
been trying to finish and figure out the
Suge arufa my learning with Dad was
rudely interrupted when you threw me in
the pit so knew what was the end of the
shoe that day
22 years earlier what was the turrets
tati gave us
he set it up with 15 caches 15 questions
surely he gave a tariff surely he gave
an answer what was the answer he gave
that day no what was the answer
is
exactly what his father would be
thinking too so he sent the wagons when
yaakov social
Zoo
this was a worthwhile so he sent him
down to open the Yeshiva they were all
still holding Yosef the brothers the
father they were all still holding in
the same the same sugya
uh we're out of time
which last we'll do one more my favorite
who lived the shortest of all the
brothers
Joseph
writes
he lives shortest of all the brothers
because when he met yaakov
sure
foreign
of course in that moment said dad get up
it's me but he should have anticipated
that and said the messenger in advance
to say here's what I look like now I
look different don't confuse me don't
bow down to me mamela he went back down
because he didn't do it
was not sufficiently broken over the
fact that his father bowed down to him
and for that his days were shortened and
he died the first of all the brothers
that's the target Jonas and benazil all
this give other reasons why Yosef died
the first Joseph
he went into the rabbit
went into the rabbit when you're in a
position of leadership and Rule you have
to absorb people's problems and you take
responsibility
it makes you look old before your time
it takes years off your life
measures precious rabbit gives another
answer
is
making his pitch to Yosef he says over
and over again your servant my father I
can't do this to your servant my father
I have to bring my brother back to your
servant my father and Jose Yosef never
said yeah your father's not my servant
stop speaking about your father that way
he didn't interrupt he didn't correct
him and for that Yosef died youngest he
had another answer five or six that's a
problem
so all these are reasons maybe why he
died the youngest okay really the last
thing the very end of the Parsha we're
skipping some
Rock
admasked power this is really
interesting this is a great UTSA plus
Satora to end with where parents base
really plowing forward
on page
266.
memories
and for the nation he resettled in the
cities
and only the land of the Quran he didn't
buy why
why it's a neglected process maybe you
ever never even noticed this plastic
before
he didn't buy the land of the colony
why not
since the priest had a stipend from Paro
and they lived off their stipend that
power had given them therefore they did
not sell their land
what does that mean what's going on here
so lots of Torah says the following
this appears also on the page of the
Russian
government
these priests were Priests of idolatry
and yet he let them off the hook he gave
them a discount
foreign was brought into a public trial
s
first the prosecutor first the wife of
potiphar brought her her evidence what
was her evidence
what does she have in her hand
coat and it was ripped
and that was her evidence then Yosef
says his evidence he's innocent
um
so they hear both sides and the co on
him where the showtimes say bring us the
coat we want to take a closer look at
the coat it's like
and they decided
if it's ripped in front it's in the heat
of passion in the moment of passion that
it was torn so she's right but if it's
ripped on the back he was trying to run
away it's while he was fleeing that he's
right
um
because they sought to exonerate him
because they tried to defend him they
were unsuccessful but that's why Jose
never forgot that favor and Joseph
treated them well
from the ballet tells us are quotes
very graphic description don't listen if
you're not mature enough but the wife of
potiphar took the white white of an egg
and poured it on her sheet and she said
this was the evidence that it was the
Zera of Yosef and it's from the
baliatosos they brought the sheets to
come and said let's see the sheets let's
examine them and they put the sheet over
a fire and they said if it disappears
then she's right if it's consumed but if
it fries like an egg then she's it's a
ruse and she's just setting up Yosef
they put the sheet in a fire and it
fried like an egg and they knew that she
was lying and they sought to defend
yourself so again they were unsuccessful
we know Yosef ended up in the pit the
the power of potiphar was so strong it
didn't matter but because the kohanim
either because they examined the
evidence of the of the coat or examine
the evidence on the sheet whichever way
they examine the evidence they sought to
exonerate partial class is now going to
be rated we have to change the rating
between last week between last week and
this week McCord dividers
all this is within the Target yonasana
that he was this is the kind of stuff
that's in the outside plus
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