Parsha Perspectives for Today (Vayeitzei, 5783) - Be a Chariot

okay good morning Boca ratel welcome back to posture perspectives for today say fabricious such great stuff so much so inspiring so much to draw from lessons for Life precedent for our lives it's really an incredible thing that we can gather every week to examine a text that is thousands of years old that tells a story of people who lived Millennia and Millennia ago and we talk about them they're so familiar to us there are Bubbies and our zadies our mothers and our fathers we know the story and we know where it goes and we know how it goes and yet we read it with a new eye and a fresh insight and we continue to be informed and inspired by it it's really it's really amazing big thank you to our Parsha series sponsors Becky and all the cats and family in memory of Becky's Father David grossmanly shares also sponsor anonymously to the view delay Ben malka should have a speedy complete and painless this morning is also today is the year of sight of my great great great grandfather of Federer of kletsk he left an 1888 to pursue his dream of living in Israel and he's buried in horizam and you shall I my brother went to his kevir our great great great grandfather so lily as well we dedicate our learning this morning just a reminder if you're not yet in the WhatsApp group if you want to be informed of the sheer schedule if you want to get the write-up of the sheer if you want some bonus material join the WhatsApp group it is very easy Rabbi F from goldberg.org WhatsApp Rabbi Efron goldberg.org WhatsApp okay we begin page and he went to kharan and he went to Quran when was this for trying to identify or place it on the calendar the Jewish calendar when was this it's the safer to First Yahoo son writes the following this is from our favorite our new favorite he says you know when he left he was traveling on arabesa utilize and we know that when he lays weary head to rest the story of the Rocks we're going to examine in a moment the dream of the of the latter when was all of this it was on pesach night that Marv that he doesn't that he introduced to the world was the marava pesachberg Jacob was afraid he was worried he was fleeing and running from his brother he had just finished 14 years Yeshiva shame the ever he's running and Hashem promises him don't worry I'm going to protect you don't worry you have nothing to fear I'm going to protect you you're all good and what night was that and what is pesach night it's a night of protection we have many consequences now is not the time from not having to say the fukri malamita to being able to leave the door unlocked to many halach applications and implications of the fact that it is promised to be a little Hashem designated that night and protected it through history ready to provide us Redemption and he continues to secure and protect it for us until today so it's not a coincidence that the very night that Hashem made the promise to Jacob it was she makes a more famous comment familiar with the comment of Russia here Rashi writes Russia is bothered by the question trying to encourage you encourage all of ourselves we should read the text with a critical eye should read the text and we should question we should think of he left and he went to Haram what was it necessary to tell us that he left just say where you're going you know someone said to me goodbye this morning I'm leaving I'm heading back to Boston so you know say I'm leaving Florida I'm going to Boston he said Rabbi I'm going to Boston Boston boo but okay whatever no offense but I'm going to Boston you don't say I'm leaving Florida I'm going to Boston where are you going it's obvious you're leaving where you are you're leaving where you were just say where you're going so why does it say by Jacob just tell us the part about harana sarashi tells us famously this teaches us I forgot my glasses teaches us not to forget our glasses says Rashi you know why because when yaakov left his absence was felt yaakov's presence made an indelible impression yaakov had a transformational impact yaakov meant something and yaakov was a someone and yaakov made a difference and when he wasn't there it was perceived when he wasn't there you could feel it you could measure it it mattered so therefore it's not just where is he going where will he arrive what's the destination it's what did he leave in his wake what absence was created by the fact that he departed by the fact that he was no longer there when the Sadiq is in the city creates a glow a glory erosion an impact an imprint when the Sadiq is not there you no longer feel it this is part of our mission of how we're meant to live we're meant to live in such a way that we actually make a difference that we are a person of the cloud revolver quotes who says the way to persevere and Triumph and din this is uh Russia but he says the way to secure being signed and sealed for a good year is to be an Isha Claus is be a person who's needed be a person who contributes be a person who matters be a person who when you're not here you travel back to Boston wherever you went people said where is he where's she it's not the same it's not the same whether the fact that the way they Daven they do the joy and the radiance and the demeanor and the disposition that they bring they put away all the sudurem they invite people for meals they check in on people they're just a presence they're a presence that's our mission and our mandate is to live such a life that at sibur the people rely on us and need us were indispensable and if we're absent for whatever reason God forbid a person is out because they're sick person leaves because it's a seasonal Community or or Global people travel someone says where are they but if no one noticed it came nobody noticed he left nobody's noticed you're there nobody knows you're gone nobody notices you exists then what contribution are you making than what life are you living if you're invisible it's a statement about people we should never treat anybody as invisible we have to be much more careful about that but it's also a statement about the life that we live if it's possible that we're invisible and somebody doesn't even notice that's rashiakov now a question that's asked on this is that yaakov's not the first one to leave avram left Yitzhak left now Yakov leaves avram journeyed he traveled was mobile yaakov's not the first to leave so why is Jacob the first that we say that he leaves an impact that he leaves an impression so they say they say when avram left he left no one there so it was obvious that Sadiq wasn't there the whole town the whole city was different it's like similarly but yaakov leaves home so you might have thought yeah yaakov left okay but we still have the core of the original Sadiq so you don't really feel his absence because uh the senior God all is still here the senior avino is still there so no even when you leave a it's like behind one of yaakov it still leaves the rosham it's still felt the best Olivia has another explanation why does I need to say both the basalavi says when a person travels from one place to another the tacos could either be that you're running away from something or you're running to something right it used to be that people came to Florida because they were coming to our beautiful Community our beautiful state they wanted to live here they wanted to be part of our values our ideals our mission our motto over the last couple years vayette they were running away from something policies state income tax living conditions cold weather snow so people either leave they go because they're running from or they go because they're running towards regarding yaakov both were his tacos Rifka told yaakov therefore get out your brother wants to kill you get up get out get going but then yitzrook said don't take away from Canaan so the tacos was also go get married here's the destination this is event in beersheva go to meet the event in Quran that's where I want you to find your Bashar go there for that go there for that purpose so the basalavi says this was unusual he both was leaving and he was going because both were the tacos both were the purpose therefore the puzzle concludes both to tell us both revoinfeld schlitter has a third explanation I find very powerful very beautiful he says the following the impact that the vallets had on his surroundings we could add he writes it also emphasizes the impact vayeta had of himself this wasn't merely a journey from one place to another it was a life-altering journey was not just that he left but that he's gone out of the home of his parents where he spent many decades of his life until now his parents home wasn't just comfortable and familiar in the simple sense but the rambanon shmos writesh and the mishkan was malas he returned to the level of the others the reason being because the others were markava the Michigan was going back to that madriga that level and restoring the presence of Hashem the intensity that was felt and all of the others so yakov's Journey was leaving that you grew up in the home of the others the home of the merkaba they are the Chariot they are the instrument the vehicle for an intense feeling of being in the presence of the Divine and you're leaving that you're leaving that we had this list of Hosting Robinson he stayed at my house the whole Shabbos the whole time he's there you feel you feel that Radiance those midos that learning that wisdom that discipline that presence said when it leaves you feel the rosham so the Michigan was going back to that madriga that madrega of the intense presence you feel there's something big there's something special there's something otherworldly there's a window and there's access and contact to the Divine and now yaakov's leaving that he has to flee and run from that and he's no longer in the shadow of his greatest teachers of his beloved parents of Israel he's he's leaving Eric Israel the promised land it's a frightening Journey it wasn't only once he dreamed his dream that he learned were leaving him but there were special designated for escorting him to the unique and special purpose of being and then yaakov wakes up and what happens in this dream this is how ravinefeld understands the opening of our pasture he's leaving the intense protective Cocoon of his parents a place that he's Yoshi sitting and staging and learning he is the ultimate Role Models he is surrounded and feels the presence of Hashem and then he has to leave and is he thinks that's it it's over downhill from here my years of Aliyah are over downhill from here but he has a dream and he wakes up and what does he say yes until now he didn't realize that he had the potential to be on his own I didn't know that I thought that I could only ride the coattails of my parents I thought that to feel connected to Hashem I had to be in the Yeshiva in the KOLO I had to be in my parents home I had to be with that Sadiq I didn't realize that I could generate that I could manufacture that feeling that I could be the conduit and the instrument I didn't know know that I know he that I could be the merkava that I could be the Chariot that would bring down a divine presence until now we only knew about in the shadow of his parents but now that he experienced while being away from his parents from the dream now he wakes up and he says I thought I left it behind I thought I love godliness and connection spirituality and intense I thought I left it all behind he wakes up from his dream of a ladder uniting Heaven and Earth that he too could be the bridge that he too could be that ladder that he to could be that channel that conduit and bring Heaven down to earth and he said the fact that I could do it I didn't realize I didn't realize it's in me I didn't realize I too can do it and now he experience away from his parents now he knows his potential a personal explains the apostle that that yaakov said I knew that the Arya was on the kise but I didn't know there are four images on the four legs of the Throne of Hashem Zara tells us the Arya the crew of the Nash are these three animals what they symbolize what they depict the fourth what is engraved on the fourth leg of the of the Throne of Hashem is the image of none other than so he says that's what Jacob was saying yes that I could be engraved on the throne of Hashem that I could be a conduit to bring godliness in this world that I could be them or cover the Chariot for godliness that's what you accept and that's what he realizes what a powerful insight and understanding of the opening of our Parsha that really fits very beautifully with what we're up to in Sitter Snippets the very opening of the amida the opening of shimono esri how do we begin this conversation with Hashem three times a day we say no there there's a dual relationship we have with Hashem on the one end is that location we bask in the light and the lessons of our parents of those who came before we ride their coattails and we invoke their teachings and we live off of their memory and we are inspired by everything about who they were who they are but you know what else we have L okay new we also have our own independent relationship with Hashem part of our relationship with Hashem we cannot rely exclusively on the relationship of our parents we can't rely entirely on that you know when we had David Lau the current chief Rabbi in Israel when we had him on behind the bhima he talked about he was told that as a child I forgot which rebbe when he was a young young man and his father where we saw mayola the great Survivor former Chief Rabbi Vizio Chief Rabbi Tel Aviv and he grew up in that shadow of his father of his father who was a is a huge person and is a big name and arabivers told them brought him up to the front of the room one day and said right on the blackboard at the time now we have white boards but on the Blackboard write zeros your father your grandfather maybe you've heard of Israel talks about how many generations of rabbanim they go on it's mind-boggling I forgot the number many many many generations said your father put a zero grandfather put a zero the great save to put a zero great great Zeta put a zero great grades he says you see all that that's yours all those zeros but it all amounts to nothing unless you put a one in front of it the one is you the life that you live who you are the difference you'll make you got to put a one in front of it all those zeros they mean something if you put the one in front of it you get to a big number a big number say yes is all the zeros but the one that we put in front of it that's the life that we live that's who we are so yaakovina thinks I'm done I'm finished I'm running now it's all over with phone while it lasted sitting and learning basking in the in the radiance and the light and the lessons and the legacy of my parents but now I have to run for my life there goes I'm becoming a balabas becoming a balabas lopianski is the famous wonderful book bentota for life why is it that you're a Ben Ali and Yeshiva or seminary and you become a balabasas and they say that's it now I'm barely holding on if I keep Shabbos in kosher I remember the Daven every day I'm good to go my Aliyah my my climbing days my Ascent it's over if I could stay here I'm good to go likely I'm going to start going here the only question is how far I drop who says where does it say why can't we continue to be Ali our whole lives why is it over sometimes it's later in life when we're more mature and experienced maybe we have more time we're tired maybe these are the greatest growth spur years of our life this is it this is the greatest Growth Spurt of our life maybe now our children are on a certain trajectory and path we have a certain we have a certain stability we have a minute who says your Aliyah days are over so yakovina thinks I was a Ben Ali and Yeshiva I was in the home but now it's over I'm a balabas as a balabas I'm barely holding on he has this dream who says there's a ladder climb that ladder your Aliyah days are not over you're a bentota for a life of Ben Ali abasalia for life keep climbing higher and higher he wakes up he says even when I'm on my own without my parents I didn't know the I knew but there are no I didn't realize I could too and that's what Weinfeld says Yakov it's significant it's important we begin with the vayette he left his parents home and he thought it was over but he went to discover who he is he went to discover his unique and special relationship with Hashem the Megan Joseph of Yosef sirotkin will be here the Shabbos the shadow this morning he says the following so in his honor we have a few insights from his wonderful savior he says the following is Eva if others also left why did we wait to share this teaching when they left it was obvious because avram launched a revolution in his time it was a world of paganism and idolatry and avram converted the balchuva movement the garas movement that avram and Sarah in Partnership created thousands tens of hundreds of thousands mind-boggling so when he stepped down when he retired when he moved on when he left everyone knew based and his house was the Paradigm of hospitality so when he closed up shop it was over no one had a place to go get Kiddush anymore nobody had a place for a Shabbos meal nobody could show up unannounced is coming to Florida next week everybody should dig deep in their pocket you don't need me I'll give you the address remarkless hosts 150 200 people every Friday night for dinner it's unbelievable long after his Robinson tragically left this world he and a team of people who volunteer and help I'm very proud of my daughter among them prepare and cook and don't charge a penny so when when we have five guests if we have 10 people over we tell everybody we know you should kneel that we had Friday night the table we had to set the food we at the shop we had to prepare we had to cook but Marcus these numbers are staggering to set up the chairs the cooking the chicken soup the chicken it's unbelievable so who pays for it where does it come from so we have the opportunity to have a small a little part you don't have to schlep you'll set the table to clean up afterwards you don't have to put out the chairs you don't have to cook you just have to venmo a little money a credit card and it's all going directly to make sure that people who otherwise have no place to eat it's unbelievable mind-boggling so once a year of Marcus takes his family night is when he wants to be alone with the family he told the story he was also on behind the bema we had the greatest common residence program of all time let's go behind the bema and he told the story that the first year that they tried to to uh do it at home to be alone people came anyway so the next year they went away people found out where they went and followed them there and now it's an undisclosed location pesach Saturday night so yeah so avra mavin who says the mega Joseph goes away for a Friday night for a Shabbos it makes erosion but sadly it's not there because hundreds of people are knocking on the door who's making Kiddush for us who's making hamoti where's the chicken soup where's the hug where's the love parenthetically went to visit Kevin and I were in Israel last year so we went with my daughter who's volunteered to help him we went to his house I know it was like 11 30 12 o'clock at night there's a knock on the door of visiting him two people came by they were hungry they had no food could they come in and he but Marcus put it this was a I don't know what it was a Tuesday night a Wednesday night he puts out some food so one of the guests says in Hebrews in Israel he says your home is open the way you hosted us without notice he gave us food so I never thought of mockless he got upset and he turned to the person he said because you're trying to compliment me you think you're entitled to insult avrahama Vino he was so upset you're insulting Abraham avinu thank you but to compliment me you think you could insult avraham avinu and by the way he wasn't putting on a show funerals anyways I'll make the comparison at the risk of being upset at me if he closes up shop and close the door it makes Hiroshima stock made altars and he gave them names for Hashem tremendous shoes where our vote is taking place if the shoe doors are locked and there's nowhere to go to Daven there's nowhere to go to avoda people notice people notice so it's safe what was Jacob avina's contribution Avro avino's got hundreds of thousands of people that he's converted that he's transformed that he's revolutionized the world he's teaching them and he's feeding them when he closes up shop everybody notices yes he's built incredible altars he's got jewels and davening him and yelling Around the Clock you close the doors everybody notices yaakov leaves what was yaakov doing he was sitting in the corner of the base medrish nobody knew nobody saw nobody experienced he satch dying he sat there learning so maybe you'd think yaakov leaves ah who cares what difference does it make what does it matter he was just sitting in the corner of a room by himself pouring over some big book they didn't revolutionize in the world who's gonna notice dafka with yaakov avinu is where the lesson is taught you have a salad living in the city even if they're sitting quietly in a corner their Merit this they're sitting and learning Torah they're Midas who they are that is the radiance that is the light that is the protection for that City when they leave that too is that too is foreign he put it around he made a circle around his head why Russia gives us the reason why protection to ensure that no animal would come and Maul his head while he was sleeping if you want to be protected while you sleep so you make a tent you're going camping what do you do you put your head inside the tent and you zip your head closed up to your neck and the rest of the body you leave outside the tent no what do you do you're in the tent entirely because what are you protecting your entire being so why didn't he put the Rocks around his whole body he only had enough rocks for his head can't even make a full circle your neck gets in the way so why didn't you take a you know like a murder scene why do you put the Rocks all around his body and Marcus there why didn't he protect his entire body elishcon REM is quoted in this beautiful teachings of ravnakman applied to the Parsha is you know what takes the greatest and needs the greatest protection is our head where do things go wrong what leads us astray is thoughts fantasies confusion corruption chaos in our mind a lack of clarity in our thinking a lack of clarity and our perspective and approaches just like in Antiquity for entertainment they would for sport they would take vicious animals and unleash them against one another and watch them tear each other apart so to them a person's mind there's a vicious battle trying to tear us apart and tear us down and the proper thoughts have the status of kosher holy animals on kosher thoughts on kosher thoughts including worry and anxiety and fear and doubt and fantasy about inappropriate things they're considered um and the arena where this battle is taking place is our MOA is our brain is our head from the moment we wake in the morning till the moment we fall asleep at night there is a battle raging in our head should I share them should I keep it in should I be on time for sure should I schmooze during the evening or stay Kai and answer Kadesh with all of my KOA will I eat the potato chips late at night at night or will I close that cabinet and go to sleep because I don't need them sitting in my stomach we from the moment we wake up to the moment we fall asleep there's a battle taking place and where is that battle it's not in our heart to a degree it's not in our soul it's in our head and who is the master who is the one who invited to the battlefield to the arena who's the one who invited the different teams the ribonishulum is Hashem is like the king the royalty who sits Miss Royal perch and looks down at the Coliseum of the arena with the battles taking place and draws a tremendous where he's rooting for the one side and when it emerges Victorious when it tears the other side apart and renders the other side finished derives an incredible Joy um letters are like rocks Commerce we know that created the world with 10 sayings so Hashem created with words and with letters that's how we created the world we do it too it's called speech recognition speech recognition the other day my son was driving me crazy someone got us an Alexa and he plugged it in Alexa do this Alexa do that Alexa play this song Alexa say this Alexa tell a joke we have speech recognition you could tell your you could talk onto your phone and tell your Tesla to come pick you up because it's raining under the warning I'm not exaggerating you can do that because with 10 speeches 10 sayings we just said it a moment ago this morning and the Tesla came the whole world came to be so the avanimous he took these letters this capacity to create to design to engineer to build and he put it around his head he was worried about the highest Rose or the thoughts inside his head it wasn't vicious animals that would tear open his head it was vicious thoughts that would tear down his soul The Havana are the ocos around his head are protecting his head that's what needs the protection is around our head has a comment on this and he says first these Stones is a beautiful thought he says first these Stones they fought with each other for each one one that sounded to rest his head on them combined them all into one many moons ago when I became the rabbi the Boca Raton Synagogue I think one of the first Shabbos is I was the rabbi was 2005 parishes and I spoke about this Madras and I talked about this is part of my whole personal approach to life and vision for life is the sharakolo 12 Stones each one says that something should rest on me I am the exclusive of Torah because put them all together valuing diversity celebrating Unity each one said on me I'm the only righteous each one said a miracle combine them all celebrating Unity good stuff even back in 2005. I read my old rushes and I I'm humiliated and ashamed but that one was pretty good then say no limit says the mega Joseph says what's this conversation among the rocks fight a battle each one wants that sadik to rest on him what are we talking about over here or is this a child is madrish no there's a very deep meaning it means that we know that we have four levels of that which is created we have different levels inanimate objects animate objects but without a soul human beings madabear and so on so it means that even the domain even an inanimate object has a purpose a reason that it's here and it wants to fulfill that purpose these chairs are here for you to sit and dominant and learn in that's why they were designed I think in China that's why they were built forever so even a rock even a stone says why am I here what am I meant to contribute what am I meant to be what difference am I meant to make oh so you soda made them precious that we do a Bismillah specifically with that medal with barzel because the covering of barzel and golias was able to penetrate and as a reward we did the brzmila who cares metal cares metal nose Metals rewarded metal has Merit the answer is yes even inanimate objects have a purpose and a design and a reason and they seek to fulfill them or we seek for their fulfillment so even these Stones say this is why we're here to sit under the head of the Sadiq and what does he explains something very beautiful is what we call the brachas when you're a guest in someone's home all adventuring is beautiful first paragraph The Rice arrested the rabbanan when you finish some don't but what everyone says you have to say in Shabbos is the hirat zone you have to thank your host to thank your host tosus from the side of the gemara says we learned this is uh not the regular ptosis he says Where do we learn this from past success benching we Ventures and we learn it from the passage and you're Associated you're falling Hashem foreign what does it say s we know that these s are extra they're extraneous they're unnecessary so we learned with the driver we keep dedicated his life so what is this as teachers so when you bench before you bench after you bench you first turn more likely to the balabasta and you say thank you everything was delicious thank you for your hard work thank you for this beautiful meal thank you for having me first you think the host s larabos balabayas so we do that records the NASA of what we say in the paskins you have to say many skip it or they Mumble it say it out loud say it out loud the wine is nice and the candy platter was nice but the beer has you really want to leave a gift for your host say out loud mean it know what you're saying what do we say is never be ashamed never experience shame in this world let them have eternity no I don't know if you ever said it but if you did say it did you ever think about what it means doesn't it sound entirely redundant means be successful with all of your endeavors with all of your property and all of your assets what is it not the same thing twice what's the difference between Vietnam asks it's redundant what does it mean when Nero lavara says the mega yay save means may all of your portfolio go up may all of your Investments have a good return may you do well and be wealthy is a mass and accumulate wealth the universe and when you have that wealth when you have those things they should be may they fulfill the purpose for why you have them now you have a beautiful home and then use it to hosted and Torah and shiram may you have great wealth and use it to gifts to help the bogarton synagogue get its message in its Torah to do great things so there's two parts it's not redundant there's two parts to the bracha based on this inside of the Rocks fighting each other such a beautiful Mega Joseph no they should be successful in fulfilling the reason that you have them everything Hashem gave us he gave us for a reason it serves a purpose that extra guest room the extra seat at your table the extra capacity to give the extra spot in your car on the way to an event that someone could use a ride everything we have we have for a reason may we be successful in having a lot and may we have may that which we have be successful in fulfilling the purpose for the reason that we have it such a beautiful Insight okay should we do the move should we go to the end of the person and work backwards a little bit let's go to the end of the pressure and work backwards I'm trying to be a new me trying to based positive skip to the end of the pressure it requires you to know the Parsha meaning if you were trying to follow the story from this if we go out of order you're going to get lost so hopefully everybody knows the Parsha if not look at the Parsha we're going to go out of order to be able to see multiple parts of the Parsha then it's going to require your doing your homework too the very end of the Parsha let's work backwards a little bit now we know that spoiler alert yaakov runs he goes to the house of love and he falls in love with Rachel love on pulls the switcheroo gives him Leia before Rojo he marries them both he has many children he's ready to leave love on his house he leaves love on his house love and chases him and he says where'd you go how'd you do this accuses him of stealing his idols loving wakes up in the morning and he kisses his children beloved then leaves and goes back to his place first of all he wakes up and he gives a shekel kiss he gives a little kiss children and his grandchildren it's actually a nice image lava may be a low life but the zaida the Abba the tati is giving a kiss in our outside Torah our favorite safer he therefore has a long essay about kissing appropriate not romantic kissing non-romanticism it was a long line of kids who came from abraha and who came to wish him a good vak and parents who took pictures with them and then as Farley family came and the children knew they took her she was saying they didn't shake it what'd they give it I guess they give a kiss on his hand gave a kiss on his hand my son was watching so last night when he said goodnight to me I gave him a kiss on his cheek and he said wait he took my hand and give me a kiss in my hand so where did this come from the idea of kissing a hand quotes went to see the rambam and the remagash when the rambam was on his deathbed kissed the rambam's hand no sorry magash was on his deathbed and the rambam went in to see the remagast on his deathbed the rambam was seven years old and the rimigash kissed the rambam's hand at seven years old at seven years old understanding the future potential greatness of the of the Rama when he goes on and he talks about a motion keeper kolkla Israel kiss the hand the ivitz quotes everyone kissed the hand of the coin goddal the minute to kiss not only on the cheek or kiss the hand the minute to kiss the shoulder the minute to kiss the leg the minute we spoke about a few weeks ago can you kiss the corpse can you say goodbye to your loved one who's left this world to not put out your hand you're not allowed to kiss and shul can't show affection to anyone other than Hashem you can't kiss children when you go to a camera do you kiss a tombstone do you kiss him to kiss the king they are covered he's a long and this is this wonderful safer aposik said love and gave a kiss let's have many pages with an essay on every aspect of kissing in Judaism it's great stuff but I want to focus on another entry he has he has another entry here on the words before Lavan departs from them what does he give them and the sworno writes here and the foreign of a simple person we shouldn't take lightly every person who offers a bracha is serving as a conduit to bring down the light of Hashem and to give you that bracha so don't take it lightly don't only run to the righteous but a simple person gives you a break I say I'll take it have a great day you're walking out of the show with some of this have a great day on Main Absolutely I'll take it from that ice barf from that ice barf absolutely um even I'm sorry even a Barack of Allah is giving his children and grandchildren yeah even the bracha of Allah but more than that he says more than that he says of a parent has superpowers because nobody cares nobody has invested nobody is as present nobody is as much of a stakeholder in a bracha as a parent when the rabbits and gives you a bracha they mean it they care but they're not a stakeholder when a parent gives a bracha to a child what's the state what do they say You're only as happy as your least happy child so when you give a bracha to a child you're giving a bracha to yourself you want happiness you need your children to be happy because you'll only be as happy as your least happy child someone once wrote me an email and I said that don't say that it's a horrible thing to say it makes the unhappy child feel horribly guilty about their unhappiness now their parent is unhappy too and I say first of all with your email but second of all I couldn't disagree more a child will be comforted to know by parent can't be happy if I'm unhappy empathy they feel with me the companionship there's nothing worse than unhappiness when you feel the rest of the world's happy without me and I'm all alone in my unhappiness what a statement and what an expression of love and affection that the child knows my pet I don't want my parents to be unhappy I want them to be happy but I'm so moved by knowing that if I'm unhappy that impacts their happiness I couldn't disagree more so this foreign there's nothing as powerful as the brachava parent I found this so moving when I saw this this morning I thought to myself how many people wait on endless lines to go get a bracha to get a buha from atsandic it's beautiful it's meaningful it's wonderful I don't have a negative word to say about it and their own parent they haven't called they don't say hello they don't wish a good Shabbos on a Friday they don't ask could you give me a bracha parent gives a bracha they say well I want to eat quickly are you done yet shhh this is what he's saying the paleoates the svarna based on the Ghazal all those bracos are wonderful but there's nothing as powerful as the bracha of a parent a parent he writes quotes there's a bris there's a covenant there's a promise that's given to the lips of parents that the lips of a parent are endowed with greater power and potency to give a bracha than anyone else than the biggest rabba than the biggest rabbits and the biggest the biggest sadakis I know but there's a Minogue that women when they light the Friday night Chavez candles they dive in it and they bench they give a broker to their children or because the power of atfila is most potent when it is done accompanying a a Mitzvah so adjacent to the midst of light in the candles we offered Fila for our children plus this is how you interpret person is Rago benair Javion person is Rago benair gamara says person who's lighting light and increasing light and promoting light will have children who themselves illuminate so that's the time that we dive in that's the time that we dive in very very powerful who is this hedyote he quotes says we're not talking about a simple Jew it's a whole new interpretation it means an angel it means an anju it means the guy who fixed the air conditioner walks out and he says have a great day you say Amen anybody who gives you a blessing anyone who gives you a blessing they give you a blessing I told you in living with the moon I talked about my Uber driver in Alabama a couple weeks ago boy did he give a blessing he actually believes what it says whoever blesses Israel and blesses the Jewish people will be blessed we're wishy-washy yeah it's nice Russia parshanud explanations give it Russia but he actually believes it whoever blesses Israel the Jews will be blessed so give a blessing Rabbi you should be blessed blessed amen don't dismiss that bottle It capture it says that's talking about a non-jew but a Jew it's not a had you no Jew is a head yoke no Jew is a simple every Jew is great and therefore run after and accept and battle their brother but I love this image of the power of the bracha of a parent I know not everybody has the minute I come from a family of Dominic got a broke off of my father every Friday night and not only do we call children wherever we are try to get a bracha before shamas but my father has Dominic wherever he is in the world on Friday night you'll see he closes his eyes and gives abracad every one of his children his grandchildren through telepathy you don't have to be present you're taking a pause and you're giving a bracha and you give a bracha I try with my children and grandchildren every year of Shabbos we live in a gift of Technology you can right this was like George Jetson stuff you can now on a screen in real time video all of them at the same time whatever they are New York Israel Florida all for free FaceTime WhatsApp for free zoom and you could be looking and you can put your hand on their head the camera and give a bracha and don't I don't have time we ran out of time doesn't matter I'm hungry we gotta make the owner this is the most powerful broccoli you're gonna waste it you're gonna squander it everyone was so proud when they had an in the VIP line to go see everyone else the lion was down the stairs and up the block in but hey Brock I got in I got they got a buha I got a broker beautiful it's great it's important it's wonderful you know what's even more powerful than abrahim's bracha your parents did you stop at your parents you don't have to wait online except if you're represents children and grandchildren but you don't have to wait online so there's this image of the power of the broken parent and I say this from both sides as children we should run to go get that bracha we should ask we should demand the bracha we tell our parents I don't care it's not your Minogue I want a bracha anyway because your brother is more powerful than anything else I can get people fly to Israel get three Brokers to take a flight back that night forget that FaceTime your parent get a bracha it's the most powerful and his parents power we have in our lips brisk Crucible the power that we have says the paleoids the bris that's in the in the lips the power and the lips of a parent are any of us so confident so complacent with our children we don't have to dial them for them do any of our children not need a bracha for gesund and shall unbias and success in everything of life I'm sorry I'm going on and on but it's so beautiful we have to take advantage of that okay we're still going backwards here we're still going backwards what should we look at we're still going backwards base foreign what happened let's go back to yaakov's married to Rockland Leia again we're out of order but the torah's auto voters the partial perspectives so out of order so he's married to both of them Leia has children Raquel does not matter she's jealous of her sister give me children themes give me children and if not I'm dead consider me dead wow those are very powerful words very painful painful words silent mute Woman Who Lived in a sacrificial life and died young in distress and despair as a barren woman who was condemned to loneliness for the rest of her life she abruptly exploded the request she made of yaakov betrayed her desperation when one reaches an impasse at the point of exhaustion feeling a night of loneliness descending the responses to explode incoherently's demand was a shriek of hopelessness this is the extreme emotional reaction of someone who suffered silently hidden and now yells an emotional torment if the desire for children is not redeemed and purged of its instinctual elements a mother wants a child only to satisfy her need for loving and caring for another Java wanted a child because she was in need of giving to emotional pressure to grad to gratify an instinctual drive to shower someone with love what this leads to was Irrelevant for khava purpose is fulfilling and expressing This Love in the covenantal community however the urge to love is Purge of his egotistic instinctual elements and turns into a need to serve to sacrifice to participate in the Great Adventure of being a people of Hashem and a Messianic Community the woman is no more a dendling playing mother she is a mother who teaches educates trains and consecrates the child to Hashem covenantal mother's desire and craving for a child flow from the deep recesses of her personality where hashem's image is engraved she tries to imitate the Creator Jewish Mystics asked why did God create the world does Hashem the almighty infinite Eternal omniscient and transition Transcendent need a frail finite Transit and conditioned world yes they said he needs the world in order to have another on whom to practice kindness and mercy to let someone share in the great eye awareness of being to give love and bestow hasid Hashem did not need the world for himself he wanted to give men the possibility of attaining greatness so to the covenantal mother needs a child to make happy to have the latter join the great community of the Covenant to serve the great cause to consecrate the child to Hashem solegic rights so poetically so beautifully our maternal and paternal Instinct our desire to have children is not someone to bring us our slippers in our newspaper not someone to carry on our name not to have a little karachal who will say the Kardash on our behalf a desire is because we believe that this world is here to serve we're here to repair it we're here to bring godliness to it and we want to increase and invite and bring into that covenantal Community a new generation a continuity who will continue this Jewish story and continue this Jewish impact and so when a person suffers because they haven't and for me the gemara says there are four who are dead even while they are alive and one of them is somebody who does not have a child it's it's tragic it's it's so challenging it's so painful and we dive and we dive in the depth of our being that those who are waiting and longing should have healthy children and there are those who don't have biological children but they leave the world with Incredible children incredible told us the kinos last week a week and a half ago 6500 around the world many of them never met the rabbi he didn't have biological children did he not have told us did he not leave children all over the world one could have no biological children have more children than those who do but with tomorrow night are participating in a webinar 21 years ago we had a stillbirth of a little boy in the eighth month of pregnancy so webinar for prenatal loss people with pregnancy loss and we'll be sharing that story and real experts like Dr Blumenthal and others will be on it anyone who could benefit from it is invited the show sent that an email with the link to the webinari that's what the Emos went through that's what Racha went through her whole definition her whole identity was I'm a mother and if I'm not a mother I'm not so I need a child I'm desperate for a child I've shared previously but our Parsha is a fascinating Leia her whole identity what does she want to be a wife she wants to be loved A beloved wife and all she wants is to be a mother and in their lifetime Leia is always competing to be the wife and Rocco's always competing to have the children but in their death and perpetuity where is Leia buried right next to yaakov and how do we know what do we think of rakalas what's her name what's her title each of them got in perpetuity their legacy what they fought for in their lifetime Rahul is Mama Rahul forever and Leia is buried right next to yaakov as yaakov's wife for eternity they got in the next World what they were looking for and fighting for in this one how does yaakov react days of explodes yaakov reciprocates yaakov has his own outrage and Outburst leave me alone what do you want from me what am I what am I God am I the one who determines whether you'll have the baby or Not Who Am I who am I Jakob explodes um when you're lost if and so Rashi says sir yeah it's like I had no other children my father had no other children so he died for my mother but I'm good to go I got a little someone named Leia and we're good we've got kids so I'm good to go noramban asks a question the obvious question the question I'm sure it's bothering all of you right now that's yakovino that's what yaakov learns from his head your wife is an unbearable pain you're at the fertility specialist she hears she still has problems she doesn't have a child she bursts out screaming at you knew why won't you Daven from me yet why don't you get a broker from me why don't you do anything about this and the answer is I got to get home to the kids that I have with you sister Leia I'm good to go you're on your own so cruel so callus how how could he my name is how could it be and how does he scream the svorno says this farna was not rejecting that he couldn't show Davin what was he saying no no we believe in Hashem I don't have the power you're telling me heavily that I should give you a child that is it's a little bit of Kira what do you mean I should give you a child I can't give you a child we submit and we surrender only to him so it says this foreign what he was rejecting and giving Musa about was don't say heavily bun him I can't give you kids we surrender to Hashem it's all up to him it's all up to him but still so then based on the svarna wasn't a sadakis she didn't know she didn't believe in Hashem she didn't surrender to him says the mega deal is safe a person is somebody who doesn't have an is longing for children is struck with a double whammy first of all they're missing the absence of raising children and also the reality that they don't have a legacy and a continuity through biological children so if you don't have children to give you love and you don't have a home filled with children maybe it can be compensated with extra love from a spouse but all the love and all the affection in the world of a spouse cannot compensate for the reality of not having a continuity this is Khana also was Barren Elkin had a call wife her name was penina and elkana also seems a little cruel to Hannah a little cool and he says to her Hello what are you so miserable and down I know you don't have children and I'm sorry you don't have children aren't I better for you than 10 children at least it got me my love my affection my companionship you love them he thought what was the core of her pain the house is too quiet there's no one to show you love and loyalty but you've got me and what does trying to answer that her main source of pain she came binko's the God was she pledge and promise if I have a child what is she going to do with it immediately what is Hannah promise child is dedicated to Hashem and taka she has a son shmuel and right away she gives them to the mishkah Ely raises not her which is evidence that what she did not want a child to bring her her slippers a newspaper she did not want a child to fill the house with the noise of sounds of broken plates why did she want a child she wanted to make that difference that impact in this world describes so beautifully dictionary was the opposite she knew she would have a legacy she knew she'd have a continuity she knew she was one of the imajos what did she miss she is she wanted to be a mother she wanted a house filled with the sounds of children that's what she wanted therefore that's what she says that's why she says to yaakov foreign was challenging his love for her his love for her was so great and she says it's not enough he says my love for you is not enough how could it not be enough how could it not be enough and then he goes on further to explain this to explain this conversation I'll tell you one more quick one very very quick says that yaakov loved what is mean more than Leia right he says wrong what made him love from the fact that gave Leia this he fell in love with Rocco not because of the size dress she wore on the resume the picture that was attached not because of how many zeros were after the one not because of her father's bank account or real estate holdings you know why he fell in love but yeah from the fact that Rahel gave Leia the Simone raka was so incredibly kind and modest and good and giving that she likely never even told Leia from the episode when Leia comes back and says it's not enough that you took my husband you also now want to take my son's flowers to which the commentaries say huh if you're right and what does Rocco say you're right I'm sorry maybe we can share yaakov will switch nights if you're rocker you go crazy are you out of your mind I took your husband are you crazy and some say what are you deduce from here that Rocco never told Leia Leia never found out that Rocco that that wedding night was supposed to be Rahul never found out that level to keep that to herself to keep that secret to herself to do the right thing and never wanted spoken about and never even tell the beneficiary of your kindness what you did for them while Jaco fell in love the only two people in the world who knew it were Yakov and Rocco so from the episode and from the transmission of the simanim because of what had happened with Leia so much more to talk about but there are Russia again next year tomorrow 10 minutes I'm living with that moon in the morning behind the beam at night webinar on prenatal loss at night have a group I'm giving you a birha's head yo have a fantastic day amen it's the happiest the healthiest