Parsha Perspectives for Today (Terumah 5784/2024) - Give Your Heart

good morning BTO may it be AER for cl should be a good day we should hear more hostages all the hostages coming home soldiers returning to their families and a sweeping sweeping Victory We are continuing pases truma page 444 in the art scroll Stone Kish just first a few reminders par Shear is generously sponsored by Becky aiats and family in memory of David grman nishas D Ben we continue to be incredibly grateful to the Grossman for their generosity this morning sh is also sponsored by Ellie fov in thanks to BRS rabbis for the shum that we offer and BRS we're very grateful to him for his generosity and sponsorship as well which is the perfect segue to remind you that next week we are beginning our annual be Global campaign looking out it's amazing to see so many people here to have the privilege to learn together I see many of you are not BRS members and that's okay if you don't live here and you're not here regularly that's okay but if you learn here and you grow here and you're 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the utensils that are in it and the purpose why are we building this mishkan what are we trying to achieve why are we extending this experience how do we morph into this Mish so we'll begin with a ramban the writes on this speak to Claw is and please take from me a truma a donation a gift I say this almost every year this para because it's a beautiful Insight why do we go from because we came down from the mountain the spiritual eyeem you're amazing and we love you we do anything for you Hashem says really Trum BRS online.org Global here's the link Shem says you'll do anything you know it's easy to blow the Chau for shake the lul love sit in the Suka light the Kana candles even clean for PES but dip into our Wallet tap into our pocket give our credit card number that's a lot harder so the real measure Shem says you love me nma that was the end of last week the end says really you'll do and then you'll listen you're ready to jump you're ready to act you're ready to do Nas you put Nas before nishma really let's see let's see will you take out your wallet so says the following says the ran very succinctly you know what the purpose of the Mish was to continue the har experience two paros ago and into last par the last two paros were capturing the experience of what it meant to climb that mountain to be with Hashem to understand understand there's something so much bigger than ourselves to have a moment of revelation of contact with the Divine to hear Hashem speaking to us inspiring us letting us read his diary giving us access to his manual for life and for living that's with the last two partial but what happens then we're going to move on then we're going to go back to our mundane lives then we're going to go back to the ordinary so the ramban says and this is the expanding on the after we access the Divine we experienced this revelation we felt the presence of like tells us on the day of our wedding on the day of our glading of our heart what is the day of our wedding what's the anniversary we have with hm what is the day of our wedding Hashem held that mountain over our head like a we derive many of the practices and customs and laws of of a wedding from the experience of That's So the day of our wedding a wedding is that connection of intimacy a wedding is a wedding is the ability to say I'm having an intimate private randevu a connection that I share exclusively uniquely distinctly with this other why do we have don't have room as part of the process of the wedding we that according to some opinions it's we go right from the and there should be a connection it's not just some Modern phenomenon the grabs the kala's hand for the first for hopefully for the first time after the on the way to the room and others there's a in order to create a connection between the and the room they display they demonstrate now marriage through contact that was previously forbidden and in order to create a connection between the and the the grabs the Kal hand even among the most righteous and the most religious who will not do that any other time display that in public they do that night because that's part of connecting the room to the and they're in for how long different rabbis different M K not that the m is in charge who's in charge how long the room last the photographer the caterer the makeup artist there's a whole team outside the room there's a whole negotiation who's going to bust into that room the makeup artist now you have to hire somebody who puts up the hair afterwards again now you have meanwhile the guest it's 12 o'clock at night the first dance hasn't started yet because the makeup the hair the caterer the photographer the whole team is there whatever what what what's the debate how long the room should last because until an hour ago until you stood under the was forbidden it was prohibited to be alone to be secluded to be is olated with this person to whom you weren't married how do you demonstrate marriage you demonstrate marriage Now by by being alone it's prohibited it was forbidden until now now that there's marriage now it's permissible that's the demonstration of being married that is according to some the Fulfillment of the the second half of the wedding that you need what was previously forbidden so when is when is our with that's t the beginning of describes a kiss the intimate connection something reserved only between a loving husband and wife is a kiss Rashi says what is the metaphor of a kiss of the intimate connection of a kiss says Rashi Z Tor that was har a connection an affection intimacy that was har that was what's the building of the bikash what is the building of the bikash have to do with why is that the definition of these two descriptions and the answer is how do you continue the love the affection the intimacy the connection the the admiration the all the feelings at a wedding how do you continue it how do you continue that so that's the mishan the mishan was the continuation of Hari it wasn't just that we stood at har with Hashem and then we parted ways now we got to go to work and the gym and the supermarket and life and you go back to what you're doing and we'll remember nostalgically that once upon a time we stood under a mountain no we need to find a place that every time we return there we're back experiencing that intimacy that ection that connection and that's what the Mish was says building off of this the metaphor of at a wedding at a wedding some people spend exorbitantly on this there's a whole team there's 15 photographers and 17 video people and 4 some people spend and some people have one person with a camera but I've never been to a wedding that didn't have a photographer ever I've never been to a wedding where nobody was taking pictures and if you think about it for a minute why not the whole point of getting married is anyone know the whole point of getting married is to be married I when I meet with and kala when I'm doing their wedding I always tell them this I say I I just in case you're confused or nobody told you I want to remind you that the purpose of the wedding is to be married is not to compete about the the flowers or the photography or the symphony or the singers or the dress or the gowns or the mat all of that's lovely and nice and enhances and we're not getting into it but that's not what it's about and why do I make that point because so much friction can happen with these two families who are first meeting each other around the negotiation which is so unfortunate they're about to build a family and be connected please God Lor Doos for generations to come they will be connected and it begins when we made our our first wedding someone I won't quote who it was said Rabbi maav on the engagement good luck with the wedding it's like making a bar mitzvah with an opposing team that was their uh description I'm very blessed of course not we have three sets of incredible mam dear friends Mish family that was not our experience why did take why do you take pictures for what do you need pictures the whole point is you're married and now you're married why do you need pictures and the answer is you want to look back and you want to remember you remember how exciting it was you remember the first time we saw each other after a week we didn't see each other do you remember the joy and the excitement and the love and the energy that was in the air reminds usem nostalgically employing a very important tool called selective memory says I remember the said of your youth when hasem wants to nostalgically remember what it was like when we were first forging and forming our relationship how does he describe it like AEM says remember our wedding remember the buildup remember how silly it was you got family members to hold up numbers that counted down the days 10 days but nine days Eight Days Seven Days how ridiculous it was but how exciting it was how amazing it was how much would look forward do you remember you remember then the first time and then we had us turn around at the same time and we saw each other and then we walked down and standing under that and we couldn't even pay attention to the rabbi because we were just looking in each other's eyes and you remember how amazing it was you remember you followed me we had no idea how we were gonna pay the bills or earn a living or what we were GNA do we knew exactly how we were going to do it the same people standing next to us under the but but remember you remember so says the that's the that's how we got here what do I need a mishan for because we're not leaving that moment behind it needs to manifest it needs to be housed it needs to be captured we have to be able to revisit it re-experience it reengage it it wasn't a one-time only thing every time we walk into the mishkan the the mikdash the mikdash called the we're back at our wowm I feel your Revelation I feel your conversation I feel you're communicating with me I'm talking to you through you're talking to me through the learning the listening to the Tor that I do there I'm back at har I'm back at that wedding I'm back under that K I'm back with that excitement you know if you ever watch your wedding video you watch look through the pictures the albums people don't as often as they should it it re-energizes and that's the was the place of doing that after we said we'll do and then we'll listen which is something that the Angels themselves commented continues he says now we can understand a little bit we're going to read in a couple weeks how could it be they went from the on the honeymoon to someone having an affair infidelity how could it be how could it be such a dramatic and enormous and catastrophic fall how could it be the says says AA can be there can be an infidelity after this moment of connection of of a so he says you see from here something I won't read it inside because it's a lot more we want to get to he says you know the Higher One climbs if you fall off that balcony or roof the higher you are the greater the fall so if you take a step three inches off the ground and you fall off the step so you get up you'll walk away you'll be okay but the higher you are and one Falls the greater the more catastrophic the more devastating the fall so because we were on such a high we were in this incredible High it meant that the fall is so much greater too the fall is so much greater which tells us that the higher one goes in every area of Life The Higher One is in any relationship of Life the more the border the more the fence the more the precautions that they need because it's wonderful to be on a high it's wonderful to be on a high a legitimate authentic not a bad kind of high it's wonderful to be on a high but the higher one goes the greater potentially that fall and therefore the more careful that one needs to be so now we know the set the stage how did we get from why do we pivot the whole second half of the book ofos The set the stage that after Now we move over to trying to capture in other words the mishun was our wedding album it was the place that we went to in order to reconnect I got married at Marina del thank you Mommy and ABA mom and dad I got married at Marina del not that often but when and I are back we walked to the Gazebo and we remember we were standing under here how windy how cold how we were in't sure should we do the outside should we do it inside you're back you're back oh you remember exciting and the buildup and the anticipation and what it would you remember you remember every time you walk into the mishkan every time you walk into the mikdash you remember you remember you remember that kumit you remember that connection you remember that Revelation you remember that that you remember that trip to recently you remember that feeling so then sets the stage that's what it's really that's what it's really all about rash writes hasem says take for me a Trum a gift a donation a contribution for me which word seems extra there there Lee what's the word Lee doing there take from me so Rashi says Lee l lishi means for my name for the right intent it has to be for a pure motivation for a pure for a pure purpose for my name last year we spoke about the I thought every mitvah needs to be every mitzah should be sincere every Mitzvah should be for the right Reason Not driven by ulterior motiv so what's different about this everyone knows the famous question you can't read without raising this question what should it say not who take from me a donation it should say give to me a donation and there are many many answers and we've shared many many answers through the years says let's offer another Insight based on something he said last week on it said last we to go backwards to page 430 when you lend money to my people to the poor person who's with you do not be to him like a creditor do not lay interest upon him when you lend money to my people so said of Dr last week if you lend money to my poor person who's with you what do you mean he's with you what else is he the answer is the money that you're holding on to does not belong to you you were a steward over that money but it's not yours really when you have money what's in your portfolio what sitting in your your bank account is not entirely all yours you're holding on to money already that belongs to a impoverished indigen IND indent person so how do you have it how'd you get it why is it in your bank account the answer is Hashem deposited it with you as a steward in charge of making sure it gets allocated and get sent to the right place if you need to give money to a poor person and which money should you give the money of the poor person that you have right now that's what it's there for us says hem I give you a mush many people do this today and I highly recommend it set up a bank account whether you technically have a charitable fund charitable Foundation charitable account whether you technically enlisted in that way for the tax benefits of it or even if not you just set up a separate checking account that is your your account and whenever you get your income whenever you make your paycheck you take 10% and you put it in that other account and now that charitable account you look at you don't feel it's yours you know all along I'm just the steward I I'm I'm in charge of that Foundation what a great job I'm watching over money that's not mine was never mine and it's not hard to part with because it was never mine so when someone asks you for money erit needs money continue to give AR to continue to stand for ER teach yes it's that time of year I'm going to keep doing this but unless everyone just wants to right now take out their phone and give I don't have to bring it up again but to the causes that are worthy and that deserve and from which we benefit it's hard it's hard to reach into our own pocket it's hard to take from our own hard ear money but if we already set that aside and put it in account and we are simply guarding it with the stewards over it we're in charge of it but it was never ours then not only is it easy to give away it's exciting it's an opportunity you have to decide what's worthy where how much and so on so Cesar of Dr that's the in last week's IM means the poor person's money that's already with you you already have it in your charity account you're already holding on to it now you just have the opportunity of a destination where to give it so now we can understand our par as well says all the money that we're holding on to is never really ours who said we deserve it we're the junior partner others are smart others worked this hard and others don't have what we have so if we have what we have it's only because the graciousness the goodness of as our senior partner he gave it to us and he said 90% of it even though you're the junior partner even though you're not necessarily deserving or entitled to it even though you're the junior partner partner 90% enjoy spend go off for dinner go on vacation put an extension on your house go shopping at the 90% enjoy but 10% even though I deserve 100% says Hashem 10% is what you should put in another account because it's not really yours none of it's really yours but I'm giving you 90% enjoy enjoy but 10% now allocate where it goes so are you really giving anything if I Turn to You and I say you have a charitable account I looked it up online you have a foundation and your foundation has rule I didn't don't worry relax we should if anybody can help me with that I'd greatly appreciate it we haven't yet and we should but let's say you have a a charitable foundation so it's uh visible it's public knowledge Public Access so we know the rules of your foundation and your foundation says you have to give 5% away a year and here are the five things to which you give and allocate so when I come to you I don't sayu will you give I say can you take from the money that's already allocated that you have to give away that's not yours anymore because you've already taken the deduction because it's already in the charal account and this meets the criteria and the rules and the whole Paradigm has shifted from an attitude of Vu can you go into your hard ear money and deprive yourself of something and sacrifice and compromise to give what's really yours and you want to hold on to that's the pathetic gring neb please I'm begging Vu could you give theik who is we both know it's already not yours we both know it was never yours it's already been set aside this meets the criteria it's a worthy cause we both believe in it you're not doing me a favor I'm doing you the favor so therefore go and take from it and contribute it to this cause says that's why rather than it's a reflection on our entire attitude towards that which we have do we have believe it's ours or do we understand that we are we are the stewards over it and therefore this is the worthy destination that Hashem is saying the take some of it and put it here 90% good enjoy but the 10% that we both know is not yours that's already set aside the take because this is a worthy place for it to go now we understand the continuation of the Torah calls it Trum hasem says go take from those with A Generous Heart Take true my dedication my donation my contribution what should it have been called go instruct them they should give their donation that's not what the Torah says says not give but take what's mine Hashem says to Moshe go remind them they should take not give TR not Their donation but my donation because all along this was all along already mine so with this ruk is giving us an entirely different attitude and approach towards having the Merit Theus what an incredible it is you know if if I think Elan mus is the wealthiest person in the world whoever Bill Gates Warren Buffett if whoever tapped you and said would you do me a favor I'm worth I don't even know the numbers 50 billion what's the number $50 billion I have a 10 billion Foundation it's not mine it's already set aside it's already I got the tax benefits of it I need someone to be in charge of it to meet with the people and to evaluate and to decide where it should be allocated would you do that job by the way it pays pretty nicely too would you do that job who wouldn't be super super excited to to give someone else's money away to hear the pitch and evaluate and decide what problem do we want to solve what difference do we want to make how do we want to repair and redeem the world wow it's unbelievable with Incredible resources that's unbelievable who wouldn't want that it's the best job in the world every one of us have that job Hashem has said 10% of our income you are in charge you're the CEO of that Foundation it's not yours was never yours it's already set aside and now you get to decide what's worthy where should it be spent where should it be allocated because it's not TR it's not your gift it's true hasem says it's mine it was always mine I just let you have it in your account because you're in charge but it was never it was never yours and that's what the navi says ha we had a navi named Haag for those who don't know in says it may appear like it's in your account but it's mine all along you're just a steward you're just holding on take take not give what's mine all along not that's number one number two he continues in the next piece and he has another question why does say the same question again so he says the world we live in is not a world of Eternity it is a very fragile very temporary very temporal so we can't take any of it with us of it is coming with us there's one form of money that one can take with them I think we shared this in another context just a few weeks ago what's the only money we can take with us very paradoxically the money that we hold on to We Leave Behind and the money that we give away we take with us what we give away no one can ever take from us what we hold on to the market could collapse the banks could implode the the whole sector could go under could all disappear what you grip what you tightly hold on to could all disappear but what we gave away and made a difference with nobody can take from us nobody that's why it's V you're not Vu you're not giving your Vu when we go upstairs after 120 none of these things none of the possessions none of the portfolio none of the Holdings none of it comes with us what does come with us MIT so you know what comes with us when they say they help sponsor a sheer they help promote a Yesa they helped coordinate barbecues on Army bases they sent supplies to families whose husbands were all fighting a war they took care they made it the money that we're giving to all these causes to make this different that comes with us nobody could take that away so we have a choice to make we could either go upstairs empty-handed we've got nothing because we left it all behind and everything we thought we could take with us we have nothing with us and we never gave it away because we really wanted to hold on to it and we couldn't part with it we couldn't imagine parting with it then we go up empty-handed and we're going to look around and everybody's got name and lights everybody's holding on to lots of things all that they gave away and we're standing there empty-handed or we can take again Hashem says 90% enjoy enjoy 10% the 10% of our income we can do our part be a partner with Hashem and when we give it then we're really taking because that's the only thing that we could take with us and we explained he doesn't quote it here that's the in death you can't take what's the word hak mean everything it shouldn't say you can't take everything it should say you can't take anything why did you can't take everything should say you can't take anything the answer is there's some things you can take very paradoxically the only things that we can take are what we gave away and what we held on to we can't take any of it with us it will all be it will all be left behind also weighs in here on Trum and he quotes he starts from the and he says the following we back to the wedding metaphor at a wedding there are all kinds of people who come some come for the good food they never make it to the dance floor they just came for the good food some come for the action the Haw they want to see which singer how many singers who got invited where were they who were they seated with and some come to leave it all on the dance floor they come to be flowers and photography and wedding gowns and there's so much that goes into it but all of that is meaningless if there's no wedding ring and the doesn't put it on the K's finger and doesn't say if he says meses you are hereby married are they married no n descriptive he has to say mes Le there's something between us there's something unique and distinct and singular that is now made you forbidden to everyone else that we share only with each other this whole world is like a wedding some people came just to eat and drink they heard the food's pretty good in this world some people came for the haak they want to just know what's the latest controversy what's the latest good lanara who's got the latest juicy gossip some people come and they never make it on the Dance Floor some people come to dance in this world and have fun and to enjoy but you know but the whole point of being in this world is to stand on that and to say I want to enter a relationship I want to have an intimate connection I want to have affection and love I want to hear what your needs are I want you to know not my needs I want to give to one another I want to invest in the relationship what all relationships need which is Time Communication our heart that's the says what does truma mean Trum if you're in Israel you have to separate Trum on my last trip we went to a farm we pick things on the farm and what you eat out on the farm what you pick out on the farm you could eat without separating TR is in the field you could eat directly once you bring it into the house now you're obligated you got to separate the word to separate says you know what the whole purpose of this world is not to hit the beff and the bar not to tune into the latest ha and controversy and conspiracy and all the good gossip you know what the purpose of this world is to continue that conversation that began under with Hashem to be in this relationship to make that time to give him our heart to make that connection to feel that love Trum means to separate out the relationship to give a sense of all he wants is our heart how do we do that says this says the the word Trum is the word Torah with the letter R Torah was given in how many days 40 days which happens to be the letter so take from me what's the what's something that we take so you see the letter is closed on all sides because like the Torah was given in 40 days the letter me and a letter me is closed on all sides a person who wants to serve hasem has to make the proper boundaries and only make the proper boundaries safeguards to not fall the higher you go the harder the fall so we want to go as high as we can we need greater boundaries fences we have to make sure we have guard rails like the me to make sure we won't fall so how do we do that then we have Trum Torah Torah was given 40 days a Torah of how to set boundaries in our life says that's what I want you to give me I want you to give me a total way of life and the total way of life has boundaries and borders we're living in a world that is exactly the opposite there are no borders There Are No Boundaries there's nothing off limits do dress experience act identify behave think go whatever wherever whatever will make you happy no boundaries no borders no limitations that's the world we live in and not coincidentally the world is more unhappy miserable anxious unhealthy than ever before relationships are dissolving and falling apart unhappiness is off the charts because it turns out that the more you remove the boundaries and the borders and the limitations and the safeguards and the railings you don't find happiness by having that freedom you in fact don't find any anything no meaning no purpose no happiness and the more that we have it and they guide us and they guard us and they take us to where then the more happiness that we're able to findum Trum T of give me the Torah of the letter me that is closed on all sides and once saw that's the going back on theem says I remember it was amazing after our you followed me into the Wilderness into the desert you followed me to a land but Loa so I once saw I for who said it you followed me to a land low Zara doesn't mean that it wasn't blossoming it wasn't planting it wasn't planted it wasn't low Zara it was planted with the word low you followed me to a place and to a Torah that would tell you no no there's limits I'm sorry you can't go you can't watch you can't say you can't listen you can't no our Torah has a lot of MIT a lot of positive Commandments it is a formula for how to come close to connect with hasem through the positive but we also have our fair share of low I'm sorry sometimes the answer is no relationships mean no if you want to feel connected to me stop looking at her stop talking to him stop going to that place stop having that emotional con stop no low z if you want a connection then it means low you have to be willing to say no elsewhere to be willing to say no elsewhere be ER to a place of low Zara that was planted with the idea of low of low in a world that didn't want that Hashem offered his tah to the other nations and they said nah I'm not good with limits and boundaries and borders and know I want to be able to do and experience anything I want whatever my heart desires Hashem says okay you're gonna be pretty unhappy and the Jewish people said nma we're in yes no do don't do go here stop there we're in whatever you tell us this is your your world you created us you designed us we're in so truma take from me a truma truma is Torah with a me take from me a life and a lifestyle a Torah that has boundaries that has the me on all four sides that will safeguard us you know you have this in sports every sport is only fun and competitive because there out of bounds just picture football basketball hockey what would it look like if you could just run anywhere with the ball what makes makes the entire sport meaningful and competitive and fun is the fact that there are boundaries to it you can't go out of bounds was he out of bounds the replay who touched it last did he have both feet in did he catch it across the goal line every every sport laav but it's the boundaries this is a very important metaphor when you talk to kids say I just want to be able to go and do and why can't I they say great we're going to play basketball at resource there's no you just run wherever that's ridiculous we can't play that way Whoever has the ball can just dribble and run and go and there's no yeah that's life what gives it the arena what makes the arena a place of purpose which is what makes it competitive with ourselves and others and elevates it is the fact that there are boundaries to it truma the truma of the letter of the letter me okay a lot more to say just on this opening P but apparently the par goes on beyond the first apparently apparently okay so we're going to go on beyond the first pk to okay one more thing on this PK back to sorry one more thing because this one I never noticed before how many times have we learned and taught this par and shared this Insight all these things but this one I never saw every other campaign you do you may have noticed coming in we're doing a capital campaign we're expanding person is raising money for Israel whatever the purpose the k for the for the Tom whatever the purpose first you mention the cause and then you do the fundraiser Torah here has it backwards did ever notice this ever bother you first we do the fundraiser and only then does Hashem mention oh by the way here's the cause what happened shouldn't we mention the cause and then the speak to the Jewish people and say fork get over oh and by the way the reason for it is because we're gonna use that money to build the mishan and all the and everything that's going to go inside we have it backwards backwards if you're building a building first you talk about the capital campaign wel a big building and here's the reason this what will contain and this what we'll be able to accomplish be able to achieve together and then you do your renderings and your drawings and you get some excitement and then you start the meetings similarly if you want to open a new a new cour first you open a new school here's the reason here's what we're going to build here's what it's going to look like here's the excitement of it now everybody Fork it over I think is the technical term first it tells you all the different substance to give without mentioning what the reason and only at the endem says oh by the way the whole reason the whole purpose for this is for the oh yeah I forgot to tell you that the reason that we're doing this campaign is because we're gon to build a mish have it backwards now we understand Rashi why did Rashi say give give for the right reason give because I asked you what's the evidence one gives because God asked because you don't even know why you're giving you're giving because you have such trust and such love in the other such a desire to make them happy to help them meet their goal that you don't even need to know why this is a continuation essentially of nasem says look I'm gonna need you to take out your checkbook you say no problem how many zeros then later he says oh by the way the reason was we were building a mishkan by the way that was the reason why but the relationship is revealed the depth and quality of the relationship is revealed when Hashem says take out your checkbook you say no problem how many zeros not what's it for what do you need who else is giving what's the budget why can't they just go do no and you say no problem and that's what me and therefore this wasn't coincidental had the reason been revealed at first you wouldn't know that people are giving because they trust they believe they're investing in that connection that relationship with hem maybe the reason they're giving is they taka think you know it's a good idea we're a lot of people were dispersed all over we need a clubhouse would be a great Clubhouse Count Me In I'll give to that makes sense then you wouldn't know it was leish how do you know it's leish by the fact that the fundraiser happened before even mentioning the reason the reason why and then he continued he says tell us that there are three ways that a person is recognized you want to know everything about somebody check out their wallet check out their cup and check out their temperament if you want to know how they spend their money you know everything about them so that's why instead of sh resumes there should be credit card statements I don't need some resume I don't need to know where your uh siblings are in yiva show me your latest credit card statement I want to know where do you spend money on how where do you spend your money I'll learn everything about you how many times did you go to Starbucks how many Manny Petes did you go to the beat game did you give staka did you what did you order when you went out to eat you want to know everyone about somebody check out their credit card statement and then you'll know about themo after see a little after they drink a little bit you know according to so ordinarily you only eat a little meat and you don't have just have wine and chabas this year we have two a little bit more so have with someone and see how they behave if they can hold their liquor what really comes out you know the truth if somebody comes out and bico the temperament see what happens when someone cuts them off on the highway see what happens when someone pulls into the parking spot they were about to get see what happens when they come into sh and somebody's sitting in their their seat the temperament he says there's some people who can't part with their money the take my kidney take my liver take my left arm but my wallet my credit card number you can't have that they don't want to give the only reason the lever give is they're embarrassed everybody knows in fundraising that's why we're going to start to live list who are the global members next week when you come maybe they'll be on your seat who in this room contributed and who didn't yet because that's a great motivator we all know in fundraising sadly it shouldn't be that way it should be we don't list any names it's all private it's all personal it's all part of our relationship with hem it's all a commitment to say thank you for the benefit that we get Hal Hali that where the world we live in but it's not unfortunately what drives a lot of people but we should the first question I never got this question of all the sh questions I've received nobody's ever said do you know if they give 10% of their income when you do when you do a fundraiser are they the first to give do they give do you know if they give away 10% of their income nobody's ever asked me that I never got that question I get a lot of questions I never got you want to know everything about somebody biso are they generous are they magnanimous are they gracious do they love to help to host to give to do to bring joy to others so that's why first first the fundraiser and then the and then the reason and then he goes on he says you see the same thing when it comes to Shalom is we know that a Jewish Home is a has this we're not going to get to it we're not going to get to anything else has our home is modeled after the mishan and the of the Mish are the of our home and just like the mishan Has A and A M and A Min and a Kor these are the vessels in our house we shouldn't worry about you know what's the measurement of that flat thing on the wall that entertain that's not the vessel in our house what's our what's our where the sacrifice where are the sacrifices within our home where's the where's the place of and of Hosting others where's the Kor where are we purifying our where all the vessels of the mishan are the formula for the vessels in our home because if a husband and wife Merit just like the mikdash was a place of of divine dwelling so to the Jewish home should be that mikash so just like the mikash was a place that first when we were asked to give we said yeah yes only then did we say for what similarly in a marriage when a spouse asks the other can you do the answer should be automatically sure yes I'm in and then what why where when NASA slave slave Hashem doesn't want us to do things because everyone else is doing it because we have to keep up with others he wants to wants our heart what's in our heart he wants us to do it because we're driven for the right reasons ultimately the reason what we're building is a we all know the shift from first it's the singular and then it switches to in them we shift from one to the to the other the listen to this Insight I never heard this either we know that whenever you do something we had recently so if you put your hand in the s's hand and helped write a letter in the Torah what do you say beforehand t t if you participated in our campaign to tie 2,000 pairs of tius what did you say before you tied the tius mitz if you're going to go soon to a matah factory and you're going to B matah what are you going to say mat what are we saying all these things for it's not obvious tying obviously you're tying the ti you're sitting at Torah the s for the Torah is open in front of you it's obvious you're writing a Torah what do we have to say these things for the answer is something that needs LMA we say it out loud we are intent creates theas what would happen if the serur didn't write it LMA what if the s is watching the Super Bowl out of one eye and writing the Torah with the other he's not paying attention to what he's doing and afterwards it's the most magnificent Torah beautiful cloth incredible ink magnificent saav magnificent Torah but it turns out he was busy in the overtime following the game not paying attention it wasn't Torah you know what it was for his parasa his honor that he writes the most beautiful Torah wasn't for the right reason is the Torah kosher the mat koser kosher no so what gives it the intent when we say something you see the power of when we say something we create things you see this with carbonos if a person takes an animal and brings it to the AAR so you go and you grab an animal you shap it into the Bas of mikdash but you never designated it you never elevated it you never said this is a carbon carbon now you violated the prohibition of bringing into the AAR you brought something mundane into the holy place but if you take this animal and you first say this animal is a carbon carb I want to grow close to Hashem how will I get close to Hashem I'm designating this animal the animal in me and I'm G to slaughter this animal because I want to slaughter the animal in me and this is not just my barbecue for tonight this is not just dinner this is Aon now you didn't violate now through debor through designating it you've elevated it and now now you brought a holy corbon into the holy Mish the holy B mik so says that's what it means in each and every one of us when we designate when we have the right intent when we have the right attitude that's how he dwells here you could have a perfect Torah but if it didn't have lat not Kosher could have a perfect tius perfect matah but the person who crafted it created it didn't designate it with the right intent it's not Kosher so make the M but what makes it holy it's the person who makes it that makes it holy Kal if a heretic when one of these missionaries drop pops off a Bible at your doorstep you know what you do with it let's say they got smart and they use the Aral translation of the Bible and they drop off their volume their version of the Arts scr translation of the Bible at your doorstep you know where you put it garbagio in the garbage garbage it's it's Torah it's a translation of the Torah kadosha how could you put in the garbage what's the answer if it's produced by A Min by a heretic it's not Torah goes in the it looks like reads like Torah sounds like Torah goes in the garbage why it's the person who gives the LMA so Hashem says don't get confused in this world of the physical thinking it's all about the physical it's the intent of the one who created the physical that creates the entire world so there's the physical world that's down here and then there's the metaphysical World up here so hasem says you know where I live in anything that you create that you say k that you have the right intent that is where I live that's everything that goes wrong next week two weeks from now the whole problem with the is we missed Hashem we longed for hem we wanted a tangible connection to feel the presence of Hashem and when we miscalculated and it felt like he didn't come down what do we do we built an agel so Hashem says you don't get it it has to be not just the physical it has to be the it has to be the kavana it has to be the intent it's of who makes it and therefore destroy that agle you got it all wrong you crave something physical tangible no problem I'm gonna give you a mishan I'll give you a mikdash I'll give you a sa Torah but Kal we can't turn the sa Torah into we can't turn the Torah into an agle it has kadha we kiss it we elevate it we celebrate it we dance with it but it's as good as the gamar says the fools who kiss a sa Torah who stand for the Torah when it walks by but they sit when the living Torah when the when the righteous person walks by because it's all in us it's the Power of Words said that's why what's the first thing we do the holiest day of the year the night ofid we walk into shumer and we have the least inspiring motivating liturgy to open the holiest day of the year maybe the tune is haunting is moving but you ever think about the words all vows and Oaths and Promises they should hereby be an knowed and some technical disclaimer about vows and Oaths and annulling it is the most uninspiring uninspiring opening to what is supposed to be the most inspiring day of the year s of salich you know why we begin with that because words matter words create reality you made a vow you made a promise you said like you said this is the K you declare you created a reality a is a reality if you designate this chair as HEC I've now changed the status of the chair and if I prohibit the chair I say this chair is prohibited to me I say I can't benefit from it it's forbidden to me the chair has the same status as a Pazer it is the same status as b i it's just a chair it's just wood and a cushion what forbidden about it me my words my designation changes and creates a reality so says the that's the says I want to have a de I want to dwell I want to live I want to be present I want to be accessible here in this world but how does that happen not just through cow hide and ink it happens in you when you designate when you use your words with your intent with your LMA that's why when you when you bring an approach and an attitude ofma that's what changes and creates the reality of this world the first vessel is the Theon hous is the make an arc of two and half cubits in length and a cubit and a half in width and a cubit and a half of height we've done we've been doing paral Shear for many years go listen to the previous one magnificent clak throughout our para how each of the measurements are a metaphor for a message contained in that vessel there so much to to share and to unpack further in this but something new this says the only time we make a mistake is because if a person has a moment of insanity a lapse of Sanity how could it be how could it be how could it be some of the brightest and most accomplished and most charismatic political leaders athletes celebrity people in the world threw it all away because they did incredibly foolish stupid moronic things because there was a r there was a moment of insanity that they thought that that was a good idea thought that was a good idea a moment of insanity but that's true for all of us there's a moment of insanity how could you when you just got your last lab report that told you that's your cholesterol level your blood pressure your sugars and you put that thing in your mouth you ate that it was a moment of insanity because it looked good it was tasted delicious you wanted more you didn't believe what the lab report said we looked at we said how could you fly the handle you just yelled at your spouse you yelled at your children your grandchildren you damaged that relationship you put distance between all because what you tripped on their Lego they didn't clean up after their kids all because they disappointed you from what you wanted you threw away the relationship you damaged it you gave them this negative impression because every mistake we make every poor judgment we show is because there's a moment that we have a lapse of Sanity word if you give in the if you indulge the Satan in us then we do then we're gonna have a lapse of Sanity what's the what is the advice how can we save ourselves from that is only in one way how by learning Torah and that's why make an make Anon what was in Theon the the sh the original sa Torah Theon which is the CLE the vessel in the that radiates the light of Tor what's advice is the source of the the is the not to indulge the that's the and listen to what he writes the of is nice is nice is nice but the is theor of Jewish life and living is learning Torah and when we learn Torah when we learn Torah live Torah employ Torah interpret the world through the prism of Torah when Torah animates and informs and inspires our life we learn Torah own we are tapping into the greatest the greatest advice that there is to overcome the today it's very a personal coach a business coach a dating coach a marriage coach a career coach a life coach everyone's a coach a coach a coach a coach so many coaches most of the coach they're all wonderful people and they're amazing many of the coaches don't have a degree didn't go to school I'm not sure the coach so many coach a makeup coach a shael coach a baseball coach uh everything coach everyone's got a coach and there's nothing wrong with it many of they're wonderful and they help and they Inspire and they keep us on track and they hold us accountable I'm being serious nothing wrong with it it's beautiful tap into it don't do it while neglecting Torah you want the greatest coach there is in the world Aron the greatest what's the coach there to give you advice you want to overcome what does the coach do you just said I blew it again coach help me I lost my cool coach help me I made a mistake at work I made a bad decision bad strategic thinking coach help me I eat the wrong Foods I need you to be the my my nutritionist coach workout coach help me every coach is there to help us overcome the the the the lapse of Sanity in us so you want the greatest coach there is in the whole world it's called Torah and we and we are the lucky winners we have it the whole world's out there the next app the next book the next Guru the next conference the next convention the next we have Torah we have Torah it's unbelievable we put it inside the we have time for one more we don't have time for anymore the K why K why the picture of a child on top of the Aron why is the the manura was so hard for motion to make that he had to throw it into a fire that to be made on its own so if it was so hard for him to make and Hashem is the one who miraculously made it why does the Torah tell us how it's made why do we need the dimensions why do we need the details if in the end hasem made it because it's so hard to make it he could never make it on its own so what do I need the dimensions what do I need the details you'll have to come back for that and more next year please stay for ol of Saum we'll read and conclude the more who stay the more times we can finish ol of Saum in five minutes on behalf of our brothers and sisters we yesh