Parsha Perspectives for Today (Mikeitz, 5785) - Bottle and Bank the Good Times

good morning Booker welcome back to parure perspectives for today great to be together again and I want to thank you to those who come in person bar a pack Sanctuary it means the world to me to learn together the energy the eye to eye contact for those watching online if you're not living locally that's fantastic it's incredible to be able to learn together virtually but you can't compare looking at a screen or listening while you drive to being in person so thank you to those who make the effort to be here I know it's for me not to slush the coffee the free pastries so I really appreciate okay par perspectives is generously sponsored by Beck AI cats and family memory of David this morning she is sponsored by Dr gold SAS in honor of and Doris kurzer her dear uncle and Aunt our beloved dear members not been able to make it down yet this year we wish them well and good health and please God hopefully we'll be able to see them sometime soon para Mikes page 222 in the art scroll Stone Mikes the drama is building it's growing the brothers are going down to Egypt and they're encountering this yose and they're desperate and they need his help and the drama is just building as I say each and every week in braus we know the way it ends and yet we're still at the edge of our seat because every year every turn every time we learn the par again we discover something new about it which makes the drama come alive all over again page 222 beginning ofik it's the end of two years and parro is dreaming and here he is standing on the edge standing over the river there's so many questions in this open p we're not going to uh to dive into them right now I got in trouble last week I asked you four questions I didn't give answers to and I was harassed all week by people who were angry felt entitled to the answers and how dare I deposit those questions and make people think so I'm not GNA God forbid do that again but V is a language of negativity why would we introduce our para is l a language of something sad where's the sadness in yose finally coming out of prison yoseph is going to emerge and attain his freedom Yosef is going to elevate to the Viceroy of Egypt he's gonna sustain his family he's goingon to sustain all of Egypt why VI he where is the sadness in that and it's at the end of two years why did it take two years it's the end of two years since what two years since when it's the end of two years what does that mean two years Rashi tells us it's the end of the two years after the the um the dreams the prisoners y says we studied last week y says why do you look so sad why are you sit down and out he interprets their dreams and he is remembered but it takes two more years because Yosef showed excessive initiative he should have had faith in hm that hm had a plan hashm would take him out in the right time he showed excessive initiative and so he had to wait twice as long two years and doesn't say he dreamed he dreamt means present tense he's dreaming he's dreaming why does it say he's dreaming because he's dreaming over and over and over again and in fact kazal rabis tell us for these two years he had this recurring dream this wasn't one time it was a recurring dream that was over and over and over again why did he need to dream it for two years St why couldn't he dream it just once why couldn't he just dream it right when it's time for y to come out why was he having this recurring dream in the present tense over and over so those are the questions I'm not asking because I don't want to get in trouble for not giving you answers and from this river that power standing over emerg seven cows of beautiful appearance they are robust healthy and they're grazing in the marsh and then there are seven other cows that elevate that come out of the or they're ugly and they're gaunt and they're malnourished they stand next to the and now the the scny gaunt unhealthy cows consume inbi they ingest the healthy ones and he wakes up he wakes up and then what does he do Falls right back to sleep and he has another dream and our rabbis note unlike Yakov that he wakes up from the startling dream of The Stairway to Heaven the ladder Bridging Heaven and Earth he says wow there's God in this place and I didn't know and yakob is transformed as the result Yakov is changed yakob is impacted what does parro do turns over right back to sleep he turns over he goes right back to sleep nice for him that he could go back to sleep when he wakes up in the middle of the night but he wakes up and he turns over right back to sleep and now he's got the same dream in taking the case of seven stalks the thin ones consume the large ones the healthy ones and and so on which brings us to where we're gonna begin it's on the next page because parro is his startled by these dreams they make no sense they don't add up and they recurring over and over and over again and they can't shake them and they can't understand them they're not enough to wake him in the middle of the night for the rest of the night turns over and he falls right back to sleep unlike Yakov but they startle him they startle him so he calls all of his interpreters and the Wise One the dream interpreters the Psychic Network he Taps it all in and nobody a they're all no good they're all unable to provide an answer a solution so what does he do this is dangerous for me to even mention to you that I once failed you but do you remember do you remember was once a flying your drink my bad so sorry you remember you got really angry at me and you put me in prison together with the baker while we were in prison we had these dreams and there was and there was with us a young man I he was he was another he spoke a funny language he dressed funny wore a funny thing on his head he was an outsider but but when we told him our story he successfully interpreted he was accurate he was dead on he predicted exactly what was going to happen out of our dream and that's exactly what happened so what does parro do Tu doesn't even tell us that he responded doesn't even tell us he said anything sends and he calls him he takes him out of the pit change of clothing bring him new bring him everyone else failed me he's good at it go get him go get him it's interesting Rashi already points this out that when the sarkim when the wine pourer is telling par the story and he references yoseph he references ysph he doesn't even use his name why he's not interested in helping yosf even though at the end of last week's para Yosef says to him I helped you I calmed you I predicted for you I help get you out of this predicament do me a favor do me a favor when it all works out well not if but when I know it will when it all works out well do me a favor will you remember me could you remind parro about me could you get me out of here and what does he do now that he's got his chance the sarkim he doesn't do it to pay the debt he doesn't pay the favor he doesn't do it to help Yosef he doesn't even mention yosef's name why does he bring this up all together who is he helping himself how is he helping himself by being the solution to par and he thinks he'll somehow be rewarded or elevated as a result and you see that from the text itself because the text he doesn't even use yosef's name and how does he describe Yosef as so in such an insulting degrading judgmental way he's a n and Rashi picks up on this he says cursed are the wicked because even when the wicked do something nice they can't do it nice even when the wicked do something right they can't do it in a kind way and where do you see that here there was this kid immature unsophisticated kid Unworthy of anything but I I'm trying to help you so there was this kid he was a he was iy says Rashi a feel he couldn't speak our language he doesn't speak Egyptian EV he was a lowly slave but there was one thing that this immature unsophisticated lowly slave non-egyptian Foreigner one thing he did well which was interpret dreams so really credit me if it works out I want the promotion he is just some Foreigner Outsider doesn't speak our language immature unsophisticated slave kid but of course it backfires because they go get Yosef and now tells I had a dream and I can't find anyone to interpret it but I heard about you that you I heard about you that you're good at this and now Y and that's the P I want to begin with how does Yosef answer what does Yosef answer this is always incredible now you're Yosef you've been rejected by maybe your father who sent you to check on your brothers when you got to your brothers they conspired to kill you they backed off of killing you instead they decided with their pity and compassion to throw you in a pit with snakes and scorpions and then their greater compassion kicked in and ultimately what do they do they sell you into slavery and even in that predicament even in that circumstance you rise to Greatness you become the in charge of your Master's home but lo and behold what happens you're falsely accused you act nobly and virtually with virtue and you act with with morals and ethics and and how are you paid for that falsely accused thrown into prison languishing suffering there and now you get out it's your big shot it's your big chance they say Joseph come with me shave change your clothing you come into parro you come into the Oval Office and in the Oval Office parro the emperor of the world says to you I heard you're good at something I need your help you're yoseph what do you answer how do you respond it's true I'm pretty good I'm grateful I've been given a gift no what's the tell me the dream I can help you and I have a future with you and I can make a contribution to you and I can be an ongoing part of the solution instead yose does exactly the opposite of what any of us would have coached him to do what does he say per of Y answers par and he says B die it's beyond me oh I I'm so sorry I don't know what you heard about me it's not me eloim oh little me no it's not me Hashem Hashem has the ability by and then continues like okay whatever kid here's my dream and then he tells them his dream why in the world does ysph say that that we begin with this morning it says Y is par Yosef answered par leore saying well if he answered him he said something if he said something he answered him isn't it redundant to tell who says the word lore is not saying what ysf said out loud to indicate the verb that Yosef spoke he answered leore is not telling us that Yosef spoke leore is giving us insight into what y thought as we have later in when you say in your heart how do you say something in your heart to say in your heart is another way of saying to to think thank you Rabbi Fox to think to say in your heart is another way of saying to think so the word lay more says the is not indicating that y said out loud it's giving us a window into what y thought inside when par calls y to interpret his dream whom did he hear about Y and he intends to encounter a brilliant charismatic insightful analytical dream interpreter ysf I heard about you you interpret my dream and says that he says yose I heard about you that you you hear dreams and interpret them and that's what was relying on he's relying on Y and what is y he answers it's not right it's where you put the Comm it's [Music] not it's not y answered say it's beyond me it's not me it's God no put the K after y answered you need to know you need to know that whatever I share is not coming from me I don't own it I'm not smarter than anyone else I don't have inherently a gift that is superior to anyone else God puts the words in my mouth God puts the thoughts in my head God gives me the solution the interpretation and whatever I share I'm just the mouthpiece I'm just repeating if you want it's a it's worth L my interpretations won't get you anywhere so he said you need to think in your head par you need to think in your head that it's God who's answering and he's doing it through this guy y then we're going to succeed yosef's giving him the conditions to be able to help him she's pretty bold pretty Brazen one might think pretty foolish for someone trying to make his way out of prison but that's ysf ysf who we saw in last week's para sh Ys living in a foreign land abandoned by his family living far away from the influences of his life he cannot stop talking about hasem he can't stop talking about God please God thank God God's will he can't stop talking about God so much so that in this moment when this is his chance to Freedom he tells parro I don't know what you heard but if you think it's me this is not GNA work the only way this works you have to in your heart know it's God and if you surrender and submit and believe it's God and I'm just the agent then we're going to be good to go but if you think it's me we're not going to get anywhere wow that's amuna that's that's Outreach that's trying to promote God's presence in this world and bring other people to see and to re realize and to feel God so if someone comes to you you're an accountant you're a lawyer you're a surgeon this is an indication about how to live our lives how to pursue our professions or how to even fulfill our Hobbies if somebody says I heard you're an incredible bridge player I want you on my team I heard you know how to nail Maja you're a golfer I put you on my team for the tournament I'm coming to you as a surgeon because they say you are the best in Jews we only go to the best we only go to the best I want you as a lawyer because the answer yose taught us the precedent the answer is God has given me lent me some skills and talents but need to know they're his I'll do the best I can I'll work the hardest I can I'll take the most initiative that I can but in the end of the day if this is going to work it's only the condition of employment the condition of this agreement the condition of this partnership the condition of my being on your team is that you realize that if it succeeds he gets the credit and if it fails it wasn't meant to be and I'll do the most I can but ultimately it's all from him you still want me am I still the one that's what yose teaches us our attitude and our approach has to be has to be here so power repeats the dream and power repeats the dream and we won't take the time now but the way power repeats the dream he does so with some distortions it's not exactly the way that the Torah testified that the dream happened But continuing with verse 20 and he's telling him the dream he tells him and the diminished gaunt unhealthy cows consumed the first seven healthy Zig good cows they came inside them they didn't even know they came inside them and he tells them they came them wasn't apparent their appearance remain just like at first and thenat and then I awoke says salich and the meager and ugly cows devoured the first seven healthy cows this aspect of the dream poses an obvious question cows it's obvious if you know it but cows are not known to be carnivorous what do cows eat grass cows are vegans vegetarians how do you know because they'll tell you just joking that's my joke about vegans how do you know someone's a vegan don't worry they'll tell you the solution is based on an earlier arashi explaining the appearance of the healthy cows earli arashi said the healthy cows it is a signal that during the years of plenty people would be well disposed toward each other no one envied the prosperity of his fellow because everyone was prosperous no one envied the other because everyone was prosperous I was just talking to somebody not from bokeh we're talking about how South Florida is exploding and they were saying W it's beautiful the community the harmony all the institutions everyone gets along and I said you know why we get along because we value getting along and we work hard at it and we believe in it and bar we have tremendous Unity but it's also incredibly easy when every school's at record enrollment every sh is at record membership every restaurant's full every everything is thriving and succeeding it's really easy to all get along that's what Rashi says in the years of plent people were welld disposed towards each other everyone was prosperous no one was hoarding for themselves and there was no Envy or jealousy Rashi writes from salich here defines Prosperity how is Rashi defining the prosperity the years of plenty were not because the stock market went through the roof because inflation was all the way down because people were flushed with cash that is not the definition of prosperity according to Rashi what's the definition of prosperity a lack of competition and envy people would be satisfied with what they had not reaching out for what did not belong to them that's Prosperity if you live in a prosperous generation a prosperous Society a prosperous Community whether they have a lot or a little it's because people are happy with what they have that's the definition of prosperity the definition of prosperity is not an external measure not an external measure it happens to be tonight's Mega Millions is closing in on a billion and I don't want to give myself an iara that the winning ticket it's in my pocket but I I'm pretty hopeful not for myself but for the campus could finally be done no Global campaign so now you're all ding from my pocket so Prosperity is not because you got the winning ticket in your pocket Prosperity is not because of the measure of your bank account your net worth Prosperity is when you're happy with what you have when you're not filled with envy and jealousy comp competitiveness comparing keeping up when you could look and say I'm happy with what I have however if during the years of plenty the people acted selfless selfishly toward each other if they practiced hoarding and price scouching they would figuratively eat each other alive during the years of famine the normally or borous animal would suddenly become solely carnivorous Yosef told parro to avoid this eventuality by preparing for the years of famine during the years of plenty by taking control of the farmers and their produce with the signal to Yosef what he understood what was going on here is that the definition of Plenty is everyone's happy with what they have if you could create a society where people are happy with what they have even in the years of famine you could give out and everyone can have enough without they're devouring one another but if in the years of plenty they're devouring one another if in the years of plenty they're comparing and competing and keeping up if in the years of plenty they're hoarding and price gouging then in the years of famine you're finished you've got nothing you're going to be in the ultimate trouble but you see from here the torah's understanding and definition of what it means Prosperity what it means to have years of plenty yose is incredibly ahead of his time he has a very sophisticated understanding of economics and finance the idea of the Cycles economic cycles of when you have to save for when you have to wait to be able to tap into what you save to live within your means the knowledge that there'll be these Cycles here we are thousands of years later and I can't tell you how many people have failed to learn from it sadly how many people I know that in the years of plenty fashion lives and Lifestyles that assume they will always have years of plenty and when economic Cycles turn as they always do it's a galal the Torah uses the term gal cycle when it talks about staka and economy and finance money in the gamar is called Z because it's Z it's in circulation and it moves the Cycles move the the years of plenty will eventually to catch up with us there'll always be downturns before it turns up again and if you don't heed the lesson of ysf if you don't learn early on from thousands of years ago from the Torah from that best-selling book that's back in fashion whose sales are up again the Bible that they're economic Cycles you have to save in the years of plenty to take care of yourself in the years of famine and how many build Lifestyles that assume they have one good year and they think that that year that best year will be their every year and now all of a sudden their lifestyle is built on that budget that was a outlier year and not the new standard and they can't afford it and now they're in trouble and it's a lot harder to give up what you had than to not have it to begin with three housekeepers and four vacations and super expensive leases and private memberships are hard to give up much harder to give up than to not have but a person has to learn from ysf and rabman says we don't only learn from ysf when it comes to our finan we learn from him in other ways as well continues in turn to page 227 ysf interprets par is blown away by the interpretation by the way Yosef offers a solution even though parro never asked for the solution what led Yosef to do that what led Yosef to do that yose par dreams this bizarre scene and not one of parro's advisers was able to interpret it and the butler recalls ysf and ysf succeeds but ysf doesn't just interpret the dream what does he do next he offers a solution he doesn't just acknowledge the problem that the dream presents he provides the solution and it's impossible not to be amazed by how presumptuous and seemingly Brazen it is of Yosef in this conversation to not only interpret the dream but to go above and beyond and do something he wasn't asked which was to actually give a solution U how dare this slave who released hours ago who the Shaving rash and cuts are still visible on his face is now giving advice on domestic agricultural policy to the ruler of the world he didn't just walk out of Harbor business school he didn't just you know finish serving as a uh a VC as a great investor with a great track record he's just out of prison and now not only is he interpreting the dream which is his specialty now he's offer also a solution and how does power react he doesn't say how dare you who do you think you are what are you talking to me I didn't ask you for the solution he accepts it parro had consulted the interpreters and they failed and he now hears from Yosef and he accepts it and he's Blown Away by it and in fact his response is to say wow have you ever seen anyone so smart ysph you're now not only not only in my cabinet yoseph you're not only going to be working in my office ysph you're now number two you're now number two you now run the entire economy of the greatest Empire on Earth at the time of Egypt how'd that happen how'd that happen what did Yosef see what was Yosef thinking that made him so Brazen to offer the solution not only interpret the dream to see the problem and if you look closely you see that yose does something none other of the interpreters do he realizes that from the dream itself was the solution was the solution solution and that is points this out the lesson of power's dream interpretation goes deeper part of Y advice is that power appoint someone that's wise insightful and Discerning Discerning wise man put him in charge Bon questions the need to appoint someone who's unusually perceptive it's an undertaking for an individual who's organized if you want to save the economy then be disciplined and organized you don't necessarily have to be analytical you're not investing you're not picking stocks or mutual funds or investment opportunities you're just being disciplined to save so why does it need all of that so pous mik 1973 I don't remember if I shared this before the bab explained the following the dream Experts of Egypt did indeed conceive of yosef's interpretation that seven years of hunger would follow seven years of plenty but they dismissed this interpretation from their mind because it didn't account for one important detail of the dream you could read Pas mik a million times and you'll not notied this and the rebbit points it out how did they understand the dream they said par thin cows fat cows oh there's going to be fat years and they're going to be followed by years of famine what does that not take into account that happened in parro's dream in parro's first Dream he saw the seven ugly and Lan cows came after the seven handsome cows there was a moment during which both sets of cows coexisted simultaneously and only afterward did the lean cows swallow the fat cows but they coexist they overlapped they happened simultaneously and it was this detail of the dream that caused the the wise men to reject that interpretation the fat and thin cows couldn't be fat years and thin years in the economy because you can't have prosperity and downturn happening at the same time and if in the dream they coexist if the dream they overlap that can't be what the dream means because then it wouldn't explain how Chron logically they could coexist how could they coexist either you have fat cows alone or you have lean cows alone you can't have them both together and that's where y's Brilliance said the Reb is dazzling when Yosef tells par how to prepare for the coming famine he wasn't offering him unwelcome advice the advice was part of the dream's interpretation yose understood that the coexistence of the two sets of cows was the solution during the years of plenty Egypt have to live with the years of famine as if they're already here during the years of plenty live with the years of famine as if they're already here don't just save for the future because maybe and what if and who knows and it's the right way to be and it's the right way to live you got to save for your retirement you have to never live in debt you have to put away savings you have to try to have a surplus you have to budget for difficult years you have to budget for the rainy day or for the broken roof or if you're unemployed God forbid put away enough m it wasn't just you're putting for the future yoseph understood that the coexistence of the cow simultaneously was an indicator that the only way this works is if during the years of plenty you're already living to a degree like it's the years of famine as you're having your best year yet say to yourself how would I craft my life and my lifestyle and my budget If This Were My Worst year how do you live how do you live the years of famine even during the years of plenty that's the only explanation of how the two sets of cows could have exist coexisted and that's what ysf is saying ysf is not adding an addendum on his own of an interpretation Yosef solved the puzzle the puzzle that made the others fail he solves the puzzle by offering the solution not as a separate solution but as part of the entire interpretation to be able to prepare for the years of famine even during the years of even the years of plenty and that's what explains his but has another interpretation says the following this is now y's interpretation the food will be a reserve for the land against the seven years of famine which befall the land of Egypt so the land will not perish in the famine you know this connects with the shabas shu we gave last year a couple years ago about your future self I've spoken about it again I spoke No I gave it a couple years ago and then I spoke about it this past year um in our in our four-part Shuba series you could find it online to live the present with an eye on our future self and I shared the research then the research that judged people the attitude and relationship we have with our future self is not a sibling or a child is not a cousin the attitude we have towards our future self is a complete stranger and because of that we don't get enough sleep now now we don't eat right now we don't act right now and we make the mistake because we indulge the present at the expense of the future and if a person were to live as a who no l true wisdom is to see what will be born tomorrow from that which I conceive today why does it say Roes had no l see what will be born no l see what will be born because to live with righteousness to attain true wisdom is to live today seeing knowing what will be born tomorrow from what I conceive today what I conceive today imagine how much more regulated and disciplined we'd be and how we speak to one another and the choices that we make and the Judgment that we issue and how much we sleep and what we eat and if we exercise and if we're sedentary or we move around everything would be different if we lived for our future self if we could fast forward if we could fast forward fast forward no matter what age you are please God you have a future self if you could fast forward and your future self would talk to you and say do you know the cane or the Walker or the knee replacement or hip replacement or surgery because you sat still and never moved do you know what the lab report is because of the way that you ate do you know the memory loss that you're suffering because you didn't get enough sleep if our future self could talk to our present self and tell us and beg us and we would listen we would change our present to ensure a better future a lot more to say on this so much in fact that I spent an hour and a half on it shaba a couple of years a couple of years ago but that's what ysf is teaching parro and that's what the babba was understanding that's part of yosef's interpretation not a secondary solution the interpretation itself was parro the only way this works is if entire Egypt in the present is living for our future selves there's going to be a future after seven years there's going to be a future where the economy is going to turn we're going to have a terrible depression there won't be any food listen to our future selves in the present not saving now for later but saving now as if it is already later that's the Brilliance what Yosef understood where the others failed because that's the only explanation for why the two sets of cows overlapped applies this to something else altogether I'm not reading to you from R proper I'm reading to you from this beautiful saer a collection insights on the par based on the teachings of the Holy so y gives advice to to save we need to have a storehouse we need to have Surplus we need to have savings because there'll be a time we need to tap into it this is fantastic Financial advice our society is not living it just as an aside part of your responsibility as parents and grandparents our responsibility is to teach it to the next Generations that you don't max out your credit cards and you don't go into debt you don't indulge just because you want it to live responsibly is to save you got to get life insurance and disability insurance you have to have a certain amount of savings to be prepared in case you ever went a certain amount of months unemployed there certain basic things that nobody teaches anymore not parents not the teacher not the rebbi not the M kushan when you go to a don't forget to pay membership and join when you eat at The KES you go to the shalash and your kids use the Youth Department and you ask the rabbi a million questions don't forget to join membership it's basic there should be a curriculum of man up this is what it means to be mature you're old enough to get married this is what you need to do life insurance disability you got to balance a budget you got to create a savings you got to think about your retirement this basic 101 I don't know that I'm very blessed I say this not only because they're sitting here in the front row these things were taught and ingrained explicitly and implicitly to me I try my best to live up to them I don't know if I'm doing as well teaching it to the next Generation but we're we're fighting the tide in trying to do it the world is now against us in that way because all of marketing and everything is you know just do it and obey your thirst and buy anything you want and go into debt and max out your credit cards and keep up with everybody else and it's a problem but against the par this is our y wholeway he got out of prison the wholeway we got in and out of Egypt and set out on the path of our people it's because yose had this Insight we need to listen to it and learn from it but says what's true financially and true economically and true with our money is also true spiritually listening to this beautiful teaching of rabman this is such a rabman in excuse me we know on top of our when chosen a chosing a there's so many no before whom you stand we chose what has to animate and inform and Inspire Our Lives is joy joyfulness happiness positive energy even understood there are things things that are going to bring us down what happens when we encounter doubt and uncertainty what happens when we experience suffering and pain and hardship what happens when we're going through overwhelming and difficult times said are you listening carefully that y's economic advice when it comes to money is also true when it comes emotionally when you're happy when you feel everything's coming together when life makes sense when there's Clarity and confidence and purpose when there's a skip in your step and a smile on your face Bank it Bank some of it Bank some of it bottle it take those feelings take that energy take that attitude take that perspective and Bank it and bottle it so that when you need to you can tap into it just like a blind person who doesn't know where they're going they're groping in the dark relies on someone who can see to get where they need to go sometimes there is no other person the only one they can rely on is their stick the stick doesn't see anything we can also count on ourselves our stick that can guide us the blind person when that moment can't see relies on the stick that also can't see but he trusts it to get where he needs to go the the me in a dark period can rely on the me from the light period that knows where to go and how to get out we can tap into what we bottled what we banked emotionally it's not only true financially there is the ability to bank Faith you can bottle faith and Bank faith when things are going well when you're positive when you're happy when you feel good bank it so that when you go through a dark period you remember you know I was once on top of the world and it felt good there was a skip in my step and I'm gonna get back there and I want to get back there and I know that that me is inside of me so the me right now I'm exhausted physically emotionally spiritually I'm tired facing so many issues how many people in this room how many people listening wherever they are are facing impossible challenges suffering struggle waiting to be married waiting for a child wondering how they're going to pay the bills overcoming an illness there are real challenges out there but even as we go through those periods of Darkness we know inside us is the light there is the joy there is the positivity we've been there we know what we bottle it because if we don't if when we experience the happiness and the joy it's fleeting and we move on and we forget it and we don't believe that we have it inside us we don't believe we could ever become that again we don't believe that it's up to us to bring it back so says RAB the teaching of Yad to parro and to the and to the economists of MIT is also true for us spiritually when you have the wealth in the fat years of sim battle it batttle it batttle it you know the people who experience that later hardship the future self that needs the knee replacement hip replacement the future self that's struggling with can't eat anything with sugar can't go here can't do that or needs to sleep with it and is miserable fbis and and negative and often wants to say woe is me and why me as has been pointed out you never see the person who woke up nobody came in here this morning and say I ran to the parasher and all my joints and all my limbs they were working wonderfully and I was able to digest the slushy machine in the lobby which is essentially a cup full of sugar and it didn't put me into a a uh hyperglycemic fit and nobody says you know all my joints and limbs are working and I can enjoy a slushy why me why me why am I able to have all these bless nobody ever said that in history nobody ever experiences blessings and positivity in good times and says why me why me so when we hit the wall when we have the struggle we're in the period of Darkness don't say why me just like you didn't say why me when all those years and decades things went so well nobody ever had a blessing and said why nobody ever walked their child down the aisle and said why me somebody else should be able to make a wedding why me had a child and the bris said why me bless somebody else with children why me say me I deserve it it's for me it's for me so when you get the blessings bottle them Bank them says rabman and the years of emotional or spiritual famine tap into them and remember where we come from in the times of light in the fat years hold on to collect Bank bottle so the difficult years when we'll have to come back we'll have to turn them around okay per me alaf continue Yosef becomes Viceroy he implements his plan he gets married that's a whole separate subject by the way who he married who did he married asnas who is she the daughter of potifa who was potifa potifa was that boss great did great for his boss who was the boss's wife the one who relentlessly pursued and propositioned him and he had to flee and falsely accused him becomes hisiger his mother-in-law what does that pesak seder look like what does that Kaneka party look like what is that it happens to be again not for now but I'll cabala the cabala say that the wife of potifar understood that yosef's children his future his descendants would come from Yosef energy with energy from her family she misunderstood and thought it had to come from her but really it was her daughter who was destined for him so our rabbis try to attribute a positive approach to her by suggesting she relentlessly pursued him because she felt it was necessary to create these descendants that had to come from the blending of those two energies she misunderstood both because she was married at the time he said no and rejected her and because it was the daughter not her but it's fascinating they have two sons man the Torah tells us the names the atmology of the names itself is also very instructive and very fascinating the famine devastates Egypt and now we're up to change scene right the curtain comes down on what's been going on in Egypt and the curtain comes up and we're back in K Yakov and his sons it's amazing it's amazing the Torah the drama Hashem is the greatest theater producer director composer author incredible incredible right we've been in Egypt curtain comes down and now the curtain comes up we're back up in canob is with his son yob sees that there's a famine in Egypt he tells his sons why do you make yourselves conspicuous what does that mean conspicuous why are you making yourselves conspicuous how how is he making himself conspicuous what does that even mean conspicuous why do you show yourselves why you trying to look like you got plenty you don't have plenty we're starving we're all starving there's a famine there's a depression the bank account's empty and the cupboard is empty the refrigerator's empty and if you make yourself conspicuous that you're trying to look like you're prosperous people are going to be jealous and envious of you and you're going to get us in trouble you're going to get us in trouble so don't travel with food in your hands because you're going to make other people jealous don't be conspicuous don't be conspicuous says the you see from here if you're in a place where you're doing well you're doing okay you've managed something but there are people around you who are suffering don't be conspicuous don't stand out don't be ostentatious blend in fit in don't make others feel bad says you see from this rash that a very noble character trait is even when you're doing well and you want to show off and you want to talk about I predicted I knew I shorted the market I'm doing fantastically I was able to therefore get the upgrade of the car and build on the addition of the home and be conspicuous if everyone else surround you is in a depression and suffering don't stand out you will elicit the ey of our enemies you'll create envy and anhara on yourself don't stand out but then bam tags on he says but now the person is trying not to look conspicuous in years of famine he's not standing out so therefore when the rabbi comes over and says we're running our campaign we're building our campus we're we're have our pillar Society it's Global time he says you know there's a downturn the markets business is not what it used to be because after all told them don't be conspicuous rash yov told his sons don't stand out he doesn't want to stand out to be the top Giver he doesn't want to stand out to be an outlier that he's able to support don't go so far relax says when it comes to staka be an outlier when it comes to staka say you know what I'm very blessed so many others are struggling and suffering I've done well and not only going to give for myself I'm going to make up for them when it comes to staka when it comes to staka be the outlier when should you not be the outlier when you don't want to hurt other people's feelings other people's feelings I have a good friend who is very successful and he was once going for a walk with another a mutual friend of ours on a chabas on a boardwalk obviously not in boka and they came across someone they hadn't seen in a long time and the person said you know how are you doing how's everything I heard you're building a business what's going on so the friend I've known since childood said yeah you know things are okay but you know the economy is down everybody's hurting things are okay they went on so the friend who was walking with him said to him you know you're killing it you're killing it why did you tell him like you're suffering you're struggling so the first friend said do you think that that's what he wanted to hear he obviously asked that because it's a hard time it's a hard time for the economy it's a hard time people are going through a hard time he didn't ask it because he wants to hear that I'm killing it he feels better not if I say I'm doing wonderfully I just had an exit I just sold my company I'm doing fantastically he feels better when I say it's a hard time for everyone I'm must have a hard time we're going to figure it out we're going to figure it out and that's what yob is teaching his sons why you standing out why are you conspicuous you're only going to create problems that way sorry I skipped back to salich Jewish people come down yeah and now the sons of Israel yob sent his sons down they came to purchase among those who came for the famine that was in the land what do you mean among those who came so says they came why does it say it should have said they went not they came so says the mission did not consist of buying food their objective was to bring about the great reconciliation between the alienated brother and themselves Providence looked upon the arrival of the 10 Brothers in Egypt as the prologue to Jewish history the First Act of historical realization the departure for Egypt was to transform 12 Brothers into a great Union they came it should have said they went why does it say they came because say the r the pretense for this the pretext for this was money a famine but the real reason is Hashem is moving the chest pieces Hashem is curating everything from above Hashem is pulling the strings Hashem is organizing everything as we go through our motions in life we do the best we can we take our initiative we do what seems wise in any moment but the whole time we need to know Hashem is orchestrating he's moving he's organizing things are going to turn out to unfold the way that he wants they come in such a manner the P says they blend in among those who are coming what does that mean they blend in among those who are coming says Rashi Yakov had instructed the sons when you get to Egypt spread out blend in don't look like one group of of Brothers a Band of Brothers because then you'll be conspicuous then you're G to stand out sometimes particularly in gas blend in blend in so each one go in a different entrance don't all go on the same line don't travel as a group these brothers were all handsome strapping goodlooking smart they walked in a room they turned heads if all of you walk in together you're gonna turn heads said yob spread out don't welcome thear be among those who are coming in says he offers three reasons was running out of time number one this was time of famine it's mid in the time of mid when Hashem is approaching and judging the world through din through strict Justice you don't want to stand out you just want to blend in you want to be together with everyone else when the go the Mir he refused to get Alia rash he's the rash why wouldn't he get Alia said I don't want covered I don't want to stand out on a y I don't need the spotlight on me daa specifically on a Yad I just want to blend in give the Aliyah to someone else so number one reason blend in it's time of din a time of Justice blend in don't stand out number two these tribes were educated by the forefathers to live with you don't have to turn heads when you walk in a room you don't have to scream for attention by what you wear or how you act or how many you come in just blend in just blend in just fall in and that's a expression ofus one of the ways to beat sanua SAS is not just skirt length and sleeve length and necklines snas is are you conspicuous or do you blend in do you want everyone to look at you are you screaming for attention or are you happy just to fit in that also is a form of and number three he says Bob understood that in time of famine in the time of giving out staka what's the hierarchy and order the people of Egypt the citizens and residents of Egypt they come first so if you come in as this Mission from Israel we're on a mission to Egypt to go tap into the resources they'll say get lost turn around you're not from here you're not locals in a time of famine you take care of locals so therefore blend in for these three reasons yob tells his sons just blend in he was the vicey over the land the provider to all the people and all the brothers come and they bow down they defer they surrender to him because they are relying on they are relying on him who what does it mean to be the m the m broken M it's a funny word but do they came Lor like to break bread Lor is broken is because the economy was broken and he is the one who's on charge he is the Shalit the the to beolit Shon is a ruler he is the ruler and he is the majir the M he's in charge of the Brokenness breaking bread broken economy what is this word broken mean over over here so the quotes thees the who says the following based on a how did yose what did yose do to Merit to deserve attaining and being elevated to this position how did he deserve to be number two how did he deserve to be in charge of the economy M tells us in that moment of incredible Temptation the Relentless pursuit of the wife of potifar the propositioning he overcame he overcame the Temptation the seduction he broke his says hasem has unbelievable he wants to shower us with blessing what happens the flow of this blessing is coming down from above it hits a wall it hits a wall there's blockage there's a blockage so there's blessing that's flowing the wire doesn't go through into our bank account something's blocking the wire how do you break What's blocking the wire so the wire of braa can be transferred to us down here says the zesh when we break our we break through whatever is holding back to just like ysf broke his Yahara in that moment he was overcome and overwhelmed by by Temptation by seduction by desire he was about to indulge and give in he came that day lassos Malto but he didn't stopped himself persevered heroically superhuman he overcame Supernatural he broke he broke that natural tendency that natural Temptation he was show he broke it when he broke it he broke the barrier that was holding back the bra so the bra could flow how did he become the shalal how and why because who when you break thear don't keep watching that don't say that don't hold back giving that staka don't spend on that that you shouldn't don't be when we're Mash when we break that Yar that Temptation we become sh we become a ruler over ourselves and we allow the the that was meant to flow our way all all along per test you know what actually let's skip to the end let's skip a little I wanted to work in Kana in case you didn't get the Momo KHAK is this week per I want to sneak in one kanaka thought chapter 42 verse 14 page 248 we're going all the way to the end sorry that's the wrong p M I'm sorry I'm sorry me 234 when Yosef confronts his brothers right he doesn't identify himself to them they don't recognize him which is a question I'm not asking questions anymore I want to get in trouble but if I would I'd ask that question you got a lot of brothers none of them recognized them I understand the beard no beard matured it's been a little time nobody recognized him nobody it's a lot of brothers here a lot lot of similarities a lot of you know the way a person talks nobody recognized them or something more going on but anyway they didn't recogniz they say we're brothers and one is not with us and says he turns to him he says spies traitors I know you and I know why you're here and don't tell me it's to get food you're Morin you have various plans your traitors your spies I've caught you I've caught you your foreigners he challenges them says the IM and then he sets up this whole scenario we're not going to get to this Source but we would have seen everything that's unfolding in these paraos not only is it not bizarre it is perfectly calculated what happens ysep is setting the brothers up for the chance for the opportunity for chuaa complete and utter repentance they had sold him into slavery they had abandoned him nobody Rose to his defense how could he orchestrate things so there would be a brother to test them would they abandon him again would they leave him alone again would they fail again to rise to his defense all of this is being orchestrated in order to achieve and accomplish that goal now he held back Shimon why did he hold Shimon back the first time because Benyamin wasn't yet there he needed to create a pretext for them to have to go back get Pam and bring him down who does he hold back Shimon why does he he hold back Shimon what did Shimon do already shimon's the one who threw him in the pit he was the right one to hold back and throw in a pit called a prison why else did he hold back Shimon Rashi tells us who had proven himself to have Fearless courage to attack Shimon and Ley says I got to separate shim and Ley if I have shim and Ley and they go together they might conspire to actually just fight me so I got to break up shim Le and who am I going to throw in the pit the one who threw me in the pit Shimon you're staying with me he sends them back to G binyamin why bamin the test would always only be complete what is the closest he can come to what happened to him to test them there's only one other brother that shares that mother and that is Benyamin everyone else have has other mothers the only other brother that comes from the same father and mother is Benyamin so he has to get bamin down he has to isolate bamin and then I'll test the brothers to see will they rise to the occasion his dreams the beginning of the par tells us his dreams are already coming true because what is the first thing they do when they come down to Egypt and they see him they bow down to him that's dream number one coming true yoseph sees wow it's happening it's happening not out of arrogance not out of ego what is hashem's master plan for all of us these dreams these prophecies they're happening they're coming true if you recall one of the dreams the sun and the moon was his father father I got to get my father down here how am I going to get my father down here how am I going to make the rest of these dreams come true how am I going to test the brothers to see whether they will abandon the closest thing to me the only brother from the same mother will they step up and stand up in his defense all that's next week suspense but I want to end with this he says with this you'll be tested will you bring your youngest brother says the says the vision said he says your mirag he doesn't mean you're spies the root of the word mirum regel leg is the root of the word spies mirag means hairel what's hairgel habit habit pattern you're just creatures of habit you're going back and forth because you're just creatures of habit going back and forth this is your habit I need to know and I need to see can you break out of your habit will you break out of your habit How Will I Know this is your test whether you'll bring do you bring the children will you mix it up will you mix it up this is an illusion says to our relationship with hasem says it's nice that you go to the anding it's nice that you go through all the Motions but you're just going through motions you're just a creature of habit do you mix it up do you keep it fresh do you keep it new do you keep it new and that my friends is what khaka is all is all about when do we light the khaka candles until the earliest time to light maybe the preferable time to light is as of as of sunset when is the last time you could light kanaka candles you have until the the the feet are no longer walking around the marketplace which in South Florida and bokeh is about 7:30 p.m. we've gotten very far in many ways our nightlife no we have a 10:00 Marv at PRS so we're still we're still hopping and happening 8:00 9:00 10 o' marves at PRS you could still get a slushy at 10 o' you can still have your hypoglycemic fit at 10 o'clock ATM so but so if you fly in late if you come from a business trip if you have nobody to see when is the last time you can light the khaka candles as long as there's activity as long as people are out and about as long as the language use was when feet are still going about the says the Dom we're trying to break out of the Habit the pattern until you break reg habit candles we light those candles we look at those candles they illuminate our lives and they break us out of our habit stop being a creature of habit stop just going through motions but break out a new energy a new enthusiasm a new Vigor a new rigor be excited for Torah and again you also see the solution what Kan is supposed to do is KH stop going to the mall stop practicing retail therapy stop thinking your happiness will be in something that you buy and the debt you're going to go into with it the candles what happens when you light the candles you look around and you see look at all this BR look at what I have I don't have to go to town center mall to find happiness I don't have to go to the plastic surgeon to find happiness I don't have to order from the Amazon to be delivered the same day to find happiness the happiness is right under my nose sometimes you just have to light the candle to see the happiness that's under your nose so we light the manura we light Thea candles until we don't have to run to the shook we don't have to go to the market or the mall we don't have to run elsewhere to think that our happiness is there our happiness is right under our nose if we'd only light the candles wishing everyone a should be a lit kanaka see the blessing in our lives should see the hostages come home the soldiers be with their families and the sweeping victory over our enemies please stay to finish all of